#recovery high schools

[ed-recoverry]

TO ALL MINORS

No adult over the age of 18 has pure intentions of wanting to be in a sexual and or romantic relationship with you.

Becoming an adult involves developing a mental maturity that minors literally aren’t physically capable of.

That’s why adults are interested in dating adults; because the mentality is so different.

I am only 21 and, disgust aside, I couldn’t imagine what I would even have in common with a minor that would make me desire an intimate relationship.

It doesn’t matter if you are “mature for your age.” You are physically incapable of having the mind of an adult. Adults are aware of that.

Any adult saying they are attracted to your maturity are liars. They are dangerous. You are in danger.

Any adult willingly seeking someone underage is a dangerous person. There is usually a very bad reason they aren’t dating people their own age.

I know it may feel nice to receive that validation, to have that adoration, but it is not coming from a pure place. It is coming from somewhere dark and scary.

This is not to say that it’s wrong to have an older person as a role model or someone to confide in. It’s when that the relationship becomes an emotional, physical, and or sexual affair that it then crosses a line.

The adults in your life who have good intentions should be guiding you, building you up and preparing you for life. They prepare you to leave them. To grow. They don’t form a relationship to keep you.

I know they may make you feel good. They may make you feel attractive, wanted, special. But it’s not coming from a genuine place.

Stay with people your own age. Develop relationships with adults who want to see you become independent. Who encourage relationships with others. Who doesn’t want something in return!

I encourage you to even ask adults in your life what they would think about dating a minor. There’s a reason the majority of adults will recoil in disgust.

No adult is in a romantic and or sexual relationship with a minor with pure intentions. It is always malicious, selfish, and depraved.

I know it may feel like they are the exception, but they aren’t.

Get out while you can.

[curiositysavesthecat]

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[epickiya722]

I love how the guys working at UA actually DO have a degree. Like yeah i teach 10 ways to non fatally catch some guys but also math homework

Also if being a hero doesn't work out then you have some other options at least

Midnight teaches Art History. Present Mic teaches English. Cementos teaches Modern Literature and Ectoplasm is a Math teacher. They definitely have degrees!

And I'm sure Power Loader probably has a degree in Engineering due to being a Support Course teacher. Recovery Girl probably has a medical degree and Hound Dog is a guidance counselor.

Then there's Nezu who... he's Nezu!!!

[growandrecover]

struggling to get through school?

Hi! I feel like it's been forever since I posted something, but I'm back! Lately, I've been struggling with my ed and school, and both are affecting the other. If you're dealing with the same thing, or something similar, you're not alone. Here are some things that may help :) Also- the first one is kind of related to restrictive eds. If you're experiencing a lack of energy not having to do with your food intake, I suggest that you either see a doctor or mental health professional.

Make sure you're eating enough protein. If you're not eating enough food as it is, you may feel like you can't focus as well, or you simply don't have the energy to study, do your work, or go to school, which is understandable. But please listen to me when I say protein is extremely important. According to Harvard, to calculate how much protein you need in a day, multiply your weight (in pounds) by 0.36. Here is the link to the article, which has a calculator you can use .

If you're worried about your grades, talk to your teachers/professors. Not all professors are the same, but if you're honest with them and spell out what's been going on (as much as you're comfortable with, of course), they may be able to help you, give you an extension, or some advice on their class.

Find study techniques that work for you. Not everyone has the same learning style, and not all methods of studying will work for you. I advise that you first find out what your learning style is if you don't already know. Then, you can research what may work for you as that kind of learner. However, if you have something else going on, that may not be enough. For example, I have adhd and have a hard time getting started with my work and staying motivated. Something like getting a planner, which may work for someone else, just doesn't cut it for me. Instead, I like to use asmr pomodoros and rewards for myself when I finish a certain amount of work, like doing something I've been wanting to do or watching a movie.

If you have trouble asking for help, like I do, I know it can be scary to send an email to your teacher, ask a friend, or even raise your hand in class to ask a question. But trust me, my grades started improving as soon as I did this. I know some of you may be thinking that your teacher will judge you, or your classmates will, but teaching is their job. They want students to ask questions, that's what they're there for. Your classmates could actually be wondering the same thing, they just might be too nervous to ask.

Try your best not to procrastinate. I know, I know. But hear me out. Procrastinating causes last minute stress and most likely isn't your best work. I'm not trying to call you out, because I do this too. But as I've gotten older, and been through years of school, I've learned that I hate the looming feeling of having an assignment due the next day and not having started on it yet. Your grades will be affected by not procrastinating, as you'll have had more time to study, do your work, and go over anything you need.

If you need someone to talk to, or have any questions, please don't be scared to send me a message or an ask, I'm here to help <3

(If I think of anything else, I'll make a part 2)

[upsanddowns98]

Is it a wonder I broke? Let's hear one more joke.

-Taylor Swift (Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me?)

[teabookgremlin]

randomly remembered that this month marks 5 years since i started recovery from anorexia! absolutely wild to think how far i’ve come from there and very proud of myself for it bc that shit was not and still sometimes isn’t easy. but yeah recovery is possible and awesome and 100% worth it

[werewolf-kat]

Going to keep an eye on things while on a newly prescribed medicine for my heart, but occasionally I've been feeling like crying from joy/relief. I didn't know it was possible to live with little to zero chest pain and other issues on a daily basis.

I started feeling its improvements on day 2, and then all day yesterday has been like a literal weight off my chest. Slept a bit for the night, woke up around 4am and I'm just... Breathing so comfortably. I feel relaxed. That feeling of pressure in my chest is hardly there anymore.

This cardiologist said I'd notice changes after just a day or two if it helps. And it's happening!!

Guess it's very much confirming I've had pericarditis for who-knows-how-long. Could've been overlooked since having my cardiac ablation in 2019. Been so freaking rough living with this stuff. All my symptoms were assumed to be part of my WPW Syndrome ('cause the ablation didn't get all of the accessory pathways.) This sort of inflammation can be caused by heart procedures though. -sigh- Why didn't anyone watch out for that or suspect it earlier?

I'll be having a new echo done in a month or two (forgot which appointment date it is among other tests coming up). Crossing my fingers I don't have the pericardia effusion there anymore too if the pericarditis is getting tackled by this new med! 🤞

[samuraisharkie]

not going to be online all that often anywhere (or if I am it will be sporadic) for a bit due for mental health/physical health reasons but dw im getting some help and I have people supporting me, just need to focus on recovering for a bit. doesn’t mean I’ll be unreachable or that I’ll never be online while I’m recovering just that I’m officially declaring that this is something I need to do for myself in order to actually make progress getting better

[sp4rklemuffin]

I'm in biology but like- I don't wanna do work- also I still feel sick from last night so blehhh (my gf is at school tho so yay)

[sizzleitupwithmaria]

oh charlie spring…..

[popcornoncemore]

Just a reminder that safety culture isn't just about the big incidents.

I speak often to the issue of safety culture in my school district, but sometimes I think people think I only address it in the context of school shootings or natural disasters.

Safety culture has everything to do with day to day events and incidents that don't affect a large portion of the student body.

Personally, I feel that I could have been helped by a stronger safety culture. In the ninth grade, I reported to school administration that a friend of mine was attempting suicide a few blocks away. There was general panic and, while no one hesitated to act, I often question if the staff actually knew what protocol was.

One indicator that there wasn't a strong sense of coordination was the fact that I was allowed to come along to search for my friend. At fifteen with a distrust of mental health professionals, I accepted the offer to look for my friend off school campus. Today, I know that that shouldn't have happened, I should not have been taken by an adult to find my friend's body.

In retrospect, I do not blame the adults who were supposed to keep me safe. While looking for my friend proved to be wildly traumatic and is one of the main causes behind me sustaining PTSD from that incident, it wasn't a decision made with ill intent.

Part of me wonders that if my school had a stronger culture of safety, including education, defined procedures, and openness about dangers and protocols, would I have been given the opportunity to walk into one of the most difficult moments of my life?

It is painfully obvious that safety isn't being handled correctly in the face of big incidents. When there are threats students don't know about for days and changes to the locking of doors only after someone brings a firearm to campus, it raises questions of how we are failing as a community. But it is also about these small situations, where people are challenged to make decisions for children, to report incidents, to intervene in a situation, and all the little choices that must be made in the name of safety.

A stronger safety culture and a commitment to improvement would help in many invisible ways. People deserve to be in a community that knows how to help them, and it is important to push for better.

[ed-recoverry]

I came across two tiktoks where girls, one was 13 and under and the other 15 or under, could ask questions and girls 14 or older/16 or older could answer. I noticed a lot of repeated questions, so I wanted to make my own answers to any younger tumblrinas

Some of the questions reference periods and boobies, so wanted to add that ofc it’s not just girls that have those, but just in the context of the tiktok :)

Is middle school / high school bad?

Everyone has a different experience. Some easier, some harder, some mixed. One this guaranteed though is that it will end.

Should I change myself for a boy/girl/friend?

Never! Be yourself and the right friend/partner will find you.

Why do I feel alone?

I promise you aren’t, even though it feels so. I know there’s not much I can say to convince you, but please consider that I guarantee, without a doubt, you won’t always feel this alone.

How do I make myself pretty?

Stay healthy, get enough nutrition, move around, and the beauty will follow. I know you don’t believe me, but your body is going to change so much between now and adulthood. Giving yourself the proper care is how to make sure you blossom into a beautiful person. Beauty isn’t skin, or weight, deep. I know that especially is hard to believe and I know I can’t convince you, but I hope you believe me when I say one day you will agree.

Why do I feel like everyone hates me?

I promise not everyone does. It’s possible some of the people surrounding you aren’t best for your self esteem and you should consider who lifts you up and who brings you down.

Why does everyone leave me?

It’s not the people who leave that you have to focus on, but the people who stay. Work on surrounding yourself with those sticking with you. Those leaving weren’t meant to be there. Also consider if you play a role in driving people away. If you can maybe help, or maybe if it just isn’t meant to be.

I feel like no one loves me.

You are loved.

I’m scared to get my first period.

There’s nothing to be scared of. Dreading the annoyance, maybe. But it’s a normal bodily function billions of people have/had.

I miss him/her/them / I can’t get over him/her/them.

It’s beyond normal to be upset over a breakup. Spend time grieving and crying it out, but don’t let it break you. You will find someone else. Life is so long. Not to mention there’s so much more to life than relationships.

Is it okay to starve myself / cut myself / burn myself?

No. Please seek help ASAP.

I feel like I’m not enough.

You are.

Will I ever be happy again?

Yes. I can’t promise soon, but I can promise it will.

Advice for period cramps?

Painkillers on standby. I prefer Midol, but any generic aspirin or whatever will work. Heating pads on your stomach or back. Baths and warm drinks. Look up yoga poses and foods to help and avoid.

Is it okay to be single?

As previously stated, life is painfully long. Plus there is so much more to life than relationships. Yes, it’s okay to be single. But don’t let that make you feel like less than or that you’re missing out. Life is long. You have time.

Is it okay to have hip dips?

That’s literally a symptom of having a bone structure. Especially if you’re AFAB, those are your hips. It doesn’t mean anything good or bad.

Is it okay to be confused about your sexuality / gender?

Yes! There’s no rush! Explore what you like. There’s no limit on self discovery.

Does it get better?

Eventually. I can’t promise soon, but I can promise eventually.

I just feel like things keep getting worse mentally.

Personally, I got worse before I got better. It’s normal, and sometimes necessary. Hang in there. I promise one day it will be okay.

Is it possible for heterosexual girls and heterosexual guys to be friends?

Absolutely.

Will I ever find love?

Yes, if that’s what you want. But, once again, please no that’s not the only thing that matters.

My emotions feel overwhelming / uncontrollable?

This is a situation that could be normal or abnormal, and it’s a bit hard to tell (sorry). Teenage hormones suck, bouncing back and forth, sometimes not waiting for your head to catch up with your heart. But if it’s to the point where you can’t take it or it’s consistently interfering with your productivity, that may be a point where you want to seek help.

Do things get better after middle / high school?

Usually, yes. A lot of what used to be so important, people couldn’t care less about. More deep seated issues may need more intense addressing, but all of those tiny things you constantly picked at yourself for likely will disappear.

Is middle / high school fun?

Yes, but you have to figure out what is fun for you. For me, partying wasn’t fun, small hangouts with my friends were fun.

What if he/she/they don’t like me back?

Then it wasn’t meant to be. Take time to be upset about it, but don’t let it define you.

Is it okay to hold in / ignore your emotions?

Depends. It is appropriate for a short period of time in which emotions may get in the way of a task. But it shouldn’t be something you always do.

Why do I feel unloved even when I know I am loved?

Cause you’re insecure and don’t see how much value you have in this world. Strive for the day in which you realize this.

Why do I feel alone when friends are all around me?

^^^

Would short / long hair look good on me?

Who cares? It’s hair. It will grow back.

Why don’t I have boobs?

Your body doesn’t really stop moving around until you’re 20-ish. You have time. That said, boobies don’t equal worth. That all said, you are worth way more than boobies.

Sex?

Only when you are 110% sure and ready. Please educate yourself as much as possible about it, preferably with a trusted adult. If one of you has a penis and the other a vagina, ALWAYS USE CONDOMS. No means no. The absence of a yes means no. “I’m not sure” means no. “I’m not in the mood” or “I don’t feel like it” means no. “I’m not comfortable with ___,” means don’t do that. Pee after sex if you were penetrated. Check in with your partner. Clean any sex toys. USE A CONDOM! CONSENT IS MANDATORY!

I want to kill myself.

Please reach out for help ASAP.

I am hurting myself / I want to hurt myself.

Please reach out for help ASAP.

I am starving myself / purging to lose weight.

Please reach out for help ASAP.

I am being hit / touched inappropriately at home.

Please reach out for help ASAP.

I want to hurt people, often or always unprompted.

Please reach out for help ASAP.

[houseswife]

girl at this party reached into her pocket mid-convo and casually popped 2 vicodin. Immediately Creamed

[hushedhippie]

Appreciation post for my love. He has been such a strong support in my recovery, constantly making me food, making sure I finish my meal and he never makes me feel stupid or small for needing that help. I am so so blessed to be in love with my best friend.

[ohprettyboi]

how do i recover from whatever the f u c k this semester was

[thestarlightforge]

As I approach the end of graduate school/college, which feels like the end of the world—since, like many of my peers, college is the only thing I’ve done with my life since moving away from home—I want to thank the universe, Suzanne Collins, and the entire TBOSAS film team.

“Mental health should be managed holistically” yes, yes. But almost never had I needed a hyper-fixation (or good friends) this badly. Blessings on all their households 😂