#psychologist stress

[noonewilleverknowistealkneecaps]

Look they are anxious golden retriever x mental support black cat coded

P. S. Ignore the amount of different signs, it just that i have different signatures for different art accounts on different platforms, confusing i know, i think ill have to unite them sometime soon.

[sciderman]

I swear I have read your big post regarding Peter Parker's neurodivergence and why it is best to avoid labelling him, but he definitely has a weird brain

Can't find it and feel kinda sad about it cuz I deeply related to it

i know exactly which post you're talking about and i can't find it either! i've raked through my archive, and it's just - nowhere to be seen. i think tumblr eated it (it happens.)

really, tumblr's search functionality is so so useless, i don't know what to tell you. there are plenty of keywords i can search to find it that post, but the search functionality actually just does not work!

undiagnosed audhd-addled peter parker, my darling, my light, my life, my everything.

i think peter parker's such an interesting creature to write, because a lot of people will point to a certain behaviour about him and say "this is an autistic thing, right?" but a lot of those behaviours are actually, in my head, tied to certain traumas in peter's life too.

people say "oh, the food thing, peter's a picky eater because he's autistic" and yes, absolutely. but also it's tied to his trauma with his parents.

peter gets overstimulated, and yes, it's an autism thing, but also he was bitten by a radioactive spider and his senses are dialled to 11.

it's a similar case i've found for myself, too – where a lot of friends i have kind of diagnose me because i have autistic traits, but actually - i'm hesitant to claim the label or pursue diagnosis because, actually, i know where these certain behaviours come from, and they come from certain traumas. there are events i can pinpoint in my life and say "yep. that's where this behaviour comes from."

so - i think there's a lot of overlap between trauma and autistic traits. the brain is very complex! i think the reason for that overlap is maybe as simple as the fact that people with autism and people with trauma are both doing the same thing - developing behaviours to protect themselves or soothe themselves. so - i think it's nice to be able to see a character like peter parker, who may or may not be autistic, but recognise behaviours in him and see yourself in him.

people who go undiagnosed for whatever reason - people who are really good at masking - so good, in fact, that they have no idea they might be on the spectrum - everyone and anyone at all can look at peter parker and recognise themselves. because i think we discredit the thought that every single brain does the same thing! develops certain behaviours in order to survive. every brain has that same software - we've just all been faced with different hardships that we need to overcome, and that's were all the differences come in.

autism is a spectrum, i guess - everyone falls into it to some degree. and i think events in your life probably push you along on it. but i don't know, i didn't study brain science. probably what i'm saying is very stupid and uninformed. of course there's brain chemistry involved. but i know people in my life living with autism and certain events in their life have exacerbated certain behaviours or made coping with it a lot more difficult. so maybe trauma is a catalyst.

[thejakeformerlyknownasprince]

glad to see you posting a bit more again! hope you're feeling well + having a good spooky season. what are you doing for Halloween?

Thank you! Without getting into too many grody details, I have some lovely doctors who've helped me get a drug regimen that has my symptoms way down. So while I still have Your Digestion Is Completely Fucked, Seriously Your Shit-For-Brains Intestines Can't Do Anything Right To The Point Where It Fucked Up Your Brain (the official diagnosis) it's waaaay more under control than it was a few months ago.

And thank you to everyone who messaged me support. When I say that on multiple occasions you all made me cry actual tears while curled up on the floor of the bathroom, I do mean it in a good way.

[emelinstriker]

mmmnnother idea too

[sappho-favourite-pupil]

If you know a kid that is more than 4-5 years old and still can't control their bodily functions, and accidentally pees and/or poops themselves often, i don't give a fuck: you got to get them medically checked, and if nothing is physically wrong with them, you got to take them to talk with a psychologist as soon as possible. It could be a serious indicator of high level of stress, and possibly that the kid has gone through/is stil going through a major traumatic event. Especially if the kid was previously able to control their bodily functions, and now they seem to have "unlearned" this ability. Especially if these episodes take place during the same time/in the same and/or in very similar situations, and seem to indicate a consistent pattern.

[nerdnag]

Actual conversation between me and the coach I get to talk to through work, after I told her that I have impostor syndrome:

Her: how long have you worked in this field?

Me: seven years.

Her: and you still have a job.

Me: yes.

Her: you work in a relatively small company. People would notice if you were bad at your job, and it would NOT take seven years.

Me: ... Yeah but... I mean... I know I am somewhat competent at what I do. But I... I fake so much.

Her: what do you mean you "fake"?

Me: well... Like, in meetings. I have strategies for the social bits. Not like I follow a detailed step-by-step plan or anything, but there are these patterns that I follow. And also I often find myself struggling to reach my knowledge while in a meeting, so I have to either say I'll get back to them or improvise something. And some days, if I'm having a bad day or low energy, my usual strategies don't work as well, or at all. And then I feel like everyone can see through me, and see me flounder or stumble over myself and realize what a fake I am.

Her: ... So you have strategies to cope with things that are difficult for you as a neurodivergent person.

Me: yes...

Her: that, to me, doesn't show that you're an impostor. It shows that you are incredibly brave, strong and intelligent.

Me: ... What

Her: you wake up every single day and choose to face your fears, to challenge yourself and strive to develop as a person. You have come up with strategies to handle these fears, strategies which *work*. Sara, that's not what an impostor does. That's what a *genius* does.

Her: an impostor wouldn't work as hard as you do. Most people do *not* face their fears everyday and come up with strategies to manage them. And impostors definitely don't.

Me: what the actual huh

Me: ... But... But I don't feel like I have a choice. And surely people wouldn't hire a coach if they weren't interested in developing themselves?

Her: I coach a lot of clients, Sara. Believe me when I say that even those who do want to grow and develop themselves very rarely struggle with the sort of difficult issues that you do.

Me: ... Oh.

Her: that being said, I will absolutely get to the bottom of this impostor syndrome and help you manage it. Trust me, I will get you out of that mindset.

Me: ... ok 🥺

[rowenabean]

really just nice when you call someone on the phone and they are competent and understand the problem and no-nonsense about it. what relief.

[joyridingmp3]

have to wake up early tomorrow to drop my sister at the station, then get my ultrasound done, and then go to my job interview after. feels like a good night to listen to the cure

[koreanbibliophilegirl]

So apparently my friend is a fan of Jinu and I started explaining QSMP to her after I found out.

Her comment after hearing about the eggs(+the misadventures of misclick duo):

"Okay, so, everyone is insane. Just, f*cking batsht insane. Do they have a psychologist? Get them a psychologist."

[gods-no-longer-tread-here]

getting mad at people online for writing fanfiction will not make real, living pedophiles stop assaulting real, living children. it will only make people dislike you. this is a very painful thing to learn when you are young and think everyone builds their personality around Gaining The Respect Of Their Peers, and that telling someone they're a bad person will make them be good in the way you expect, but it is something you must learn so you don't become isolated and miserable.

you are always allowed to block people, tags, and posts. you are always allowed to curate your experiences. you should feel in control of your feed on Tumblr. but you cannot accuse people of being evil because of their fanfic. you are not helping anyone when you do that.

[astranite]

--whiney rant and vent--- starts at tumblr but descends into my life.

Fucking tumblr!! *grabs tumblr and aggressively shakes it*

Some new hell update has made it so every time I reblog a post, i go right back to the top of my dash and have to scroll half a mile through the posts Ive already seen to get back to the ones i havent yet seen and want to see!! And even with the scroll bar it takes ages and breaks the loading and makes it nearly genuinely unusable!!!

But Im still going to even though it sucks, because tumblr is my designated scroll and look at characters time and be with mutuals. And yes this is a very small whiny thing to rant about, especially given the state of the damn world, but with the rest of my life imploding in many numbered crisises that even one of would be apparently considered a fairly major thing to have to deal with im now realsising because through massive amounts of avoidance id just gone "this is fine" despite being very reasonably banned from the word fine by 5 different people and then me, and then others going 'wow that really is alot' semihorrified, and I awkwardly laugh because i am used to this and its not that bad and whatever stupid shit i tell myself to keep going.

So yes, whining about tumblr because at this point its a load bearing coping mechanism. And its somewhat a last straw because i am barely hanging on as it is but ill deal with this like everything else because there isnt any other options.

[gemwolfz]

i did find the time to draw hoorayyy. back to class again tomorrow so i should go to bed at a reasonable time

[revrads]

ok but imagine a au where damien john and paul all team up together to fight all manner of unholy monsters powerpuff girls style. …the powerpuff priests…

holy hell yesss!!!

I imagine both Damien and John would be "Ah Yes, a Normal Tuesday Morning of My Miserable Life" and Paul would actually have an aneurysm at the thought of exorcising real demons

[kashilascorner]

I was trying to find info on why the hell I am so astonishingly lazy like genuinely if I don't feel like doing something I literally don't do it and postpone it for eternity but anyways I found this article on procrastination and almost had to stop reading because I was about to cry. During commute lol. I literally check every single box for everything at once wow! Maybe I am unwell after all 🙂

[foxlightnights]

also like quite frankly later i feel betrayed and hurt and embarrassed people didn’t tell me i was delusional and try to help me see that i was. like OK so you just let me carry on acting like that? i feel like they *wanted* me to look bad and now i can’t trust them. i have horrible feelings thinking about the times i was clearly delusional and no one said anything. also since a lot of my delusions have revolved around reality not being real, or manufactured or fake in some way, it leads to me making decisions that i wouldn’t have made if you tried to instill SOME doubt in me.

i’m not saying you can just “snap me out of it” but when someone brings it up i often do start getting the thought “maybe they’re right… maybe what i’m believing isn’t true…” and i’ll be less likely to do something stupid. i think because it makes me think back to the times i was told this, and it later turned out to be correct. even if my mind starts going through mental gymnastics why no this time, it’s true. but you trigger me arguing with myself, which is a powerful tool.

i am not saying this is good advice for everyone, but emphasizing the importance of asking. unfortunately the nature of psychosis is that it can be very unpredictable, and it varies among people, delusions can be very specific to the individual, so relying upon general advice is not always a great idea, especially if you have the opportunity to discuss it beforehand.

[causenessus]

I need you to know that this tag right here made me cry. like a good cry. oh my god.

and the future is always so daunting I know!!! my best advice is just always, always do what you love! life will always throw curve balls but always have something or someone that makes you happy and makes you feel fulfilled <333

AW omg thank you so much <3 I truly truly mean it. seeing the passion you have for teaching that is also so clear to see in notebook paper and yn has literally just opened my mind to so many possibilities <3 thank you so much for your advice!! it's such a good reminder and i really needed that to prevent me from making any irrational decisions 💔