#pronoun nonconformity

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, I think it's cool to see cis people adopt and use "nonconforming" pronouns. I saw a cis man state their pronouns were they/them, and I think that's awesome that they're forthcoming with that! I think a lot of cis people think pronoun nonconformity excludes them, but they're completely wrong! Pronoun nonconformity is literally for anybody. If you are a they/them cis man, that's fucking awesome! There will be people who will respect you, and it isn't a world-ending request to be addressed correctly

[lgbtqtext]

[lgbtq-userboxes]

Requested by letthe-skyfall

[cepheusgalaxy]

Shut up!

I am a MAN and I use SHE/HER and there is nothing you can do about it

These are super masculine pronouns okay

[aropride]

i think it's awesome when cis people use any pronouns. when a cis guy is like "idc if people call me she or they or whatever" and genuinely means it that's fucking awesome. i love you

[barbthebuilder]

Using right pronouns and gender terms for yourself is a form of self-care the same way using gender terms and pronouns for yourself that bring you suffering is a form of self-harm.

[lifeanditsquirks]

I remember my mum was friends with a "gender counselor". And that said gender counselor talked me out of being nonbinary and into being a trans man. I assumed that since they were a professional they had to be right. So I started wearing my binder more often. Almost every day in fact. Sometimes for more than 8 hours because I felt so dysphoric (don't do this. I ended up with chronic costochondritis). I dressed masc. I got an endocrinologist so I could start T. I tried changing my voice through vocal training videos. I got a top surgery referral. I was doing everything I thought was right.

I was miserable.

It took years to undo the brainwashing she put me through. Making me something I was not. Making me second-guess everything about my identity. It was horrific. She would constantly use he/him pronouns for me. She would constantly refer to me as a man. And she would correct others if they used they/them pronouns for me.

After she was arrested I spent some time really thinking. Why was I so dysphoric all the time? I stared unraveling the rope she used to tie me up. And I found that she was wrong about me. I wasn't a trans man at all. I was nonbinary! The identity I started with. I started using they them pronouns again. I let people know that I wanted to be referred to with gender-neutral terms.

I feel so much more confident in myself.

So I guess the moral of the story is don't let anyone tell you who you are. You know yourself best. Your identity is your journey. Don't let others move you in directions you feel uncomfortable with. You'll be alright. You've got this.

[deathtokillian]

“They want me to use these pronouns, but they aren’t even trying to pass”

I don’t care, respect them.

“He/him lesbians wtf?”

That’s fine, If that makes him comfortable. I don’t care.

“Neo pronouns are dumb”

I don’t care, it doesn’t affect you.

“But they are taking resources away from actual trans people”

No they are not, that is a dumbass statement.

“They are making the trans community look bad/this is why they hate us”

Also a dumb statement, stop punching down at your own community to please transphobes who are going to hate you no matter what.

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

shout out to mfs with no pronouns at all

we rly said: don't refer to me. matter of fact, don't perceive me at all

[chaos-in-one]

No one:

Me: Makes my character really feminine and then sets the pronouns to he/him

[jay-wasreblogging]

Pronoun pins by Rising Violet Press

[notjustateaboy]

yes sir, this gender right here. I need this.

[xxcalicofemmexx]

thinking about the he/shes, and the she/hes, and the he/hers, and the she/hims 💖💘💗💞💝💟💓💘💕💝💖💗💓💘💟💞

[violet-phoenix-nebula]

This is easily the most interesting take I've ever seen discussing why the older generations seem to struggle so much with the discussions and changes with gender identity, and I think it's absolutely worth reading.

Obviously it doesn't cover 100% of intolerant people, but I think it explains a decent chunk tbh.

[barbthebuilder]

What do y'all want to see more of in genderfluid media?

Like, let's say there will be a new character in your favorite show who just happens to be genderfluid. How do you want them to represent themselves? In what ways you want them to show their genderfluidity?

This is question mainly to genderfluid folks but if you're not genderfluid you can speak up too! Just make sure to state that you're not genderfluid first.

[clown-around-and-find-out]

i will never forget about the time i went to the mall with two of my friends and during lunch one of them came out to my mom as nonbinary. so when we stood up to leave after we finished eating my mom said "alright, let's get our shop on, they/thems!"