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Another redesign buy this time I ts alicorn twilight! >3<

Twilight Redesign/ My Design for Twilight

I really wanted to draw Twilight because she is one of my favorite ponies from MLP; FiM. But I wanted to give her a new look. I hope you enjoy it too!

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Stanley calls bill chucklefuck. You can't convince me otherwise.

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Parents should not be reading your journals

Parents should not be searching through your trash 

Parents should not be snooping on your private social media messages 

Parents should not be taking your bedroom door off 

Parents should not be invading your privacy 

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and is your shame helpful? is it inspiring goodness and change? or is it keeping you frozen in time unable to move on and be everything you have expanded to be?

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sometimes i feel like people forget autism is a disability. and that’s not a bad thing! i’m all for disability acceptance, im proud of my disabilities. but i feel like we forget autism can hurt.

it hurts that i have to put more time and energy into socializing than others.

it hurts when i need to move so bad, usually cause im overwhelmed by either my surroundings or emotions, that i thrash and hurt myself.

it hurts that i cant be in places that are too loud or too bright, which on bad days can be as simple as a small, quiet noise or dim lights.

it hurts that i struggle to tell when im hungry, thirsty, tired, etc. so i can’t properly take care of myself. it doesn’t help my insomnia and i get very nauseas and get UTIs.

i 100% believe in autism acceptance. i don’t want a cure. but i also want us the acknowledge that it can hurt. it doesn’t mean my entire life will hurt, but some parts will. and i want a community where we can see both sides, see the hurt, and celebrate it anyway.

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ITS APRIL 13 YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS

FETCH ME NEIL

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shower tips my fellow disabled friends

1. compression socks

I use ankle-high compression socks the second i get out to prevent blood pooling, it works great! It helps me stand on my own and avoid painful blood pooling while i dry off.

2. Shower chair

These can come in many forms-- i use a small wooden stool that looks like this and fits in my bathtub:

Some people have small tubs, and these types, though more comfortable, may not be possible. A shower stool like this may just be your solution:

If you have a large enough shower and you need a back to stay upright, you can get one like this:

3. Wall handles

You can of course install handles, screws and all. But Amazon offers these with strong suction cups that can be installed in seconds. I havent used them myself, but they look great!

4. quick showers

You don't always need a fullbody shower to not be considered disgusting; dont be ashamed to only wash your hair, pits, face, and whatever other parts feel gross. You will be clean enough as long as water runs over your and your get the grossest matter off of you. All that is important is you feel clean.

5. mobility aids/seating

Having a cane post shower (even if you dont struggle enough to need a cane outside of showering) can be a lifesaver! Also, utilizing a chair in the bathroom can make a good place to dry off.

If you have any more tips, leave em in the replies!!!

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non binary is a lot of things to a lot of people. non binary for some people is being afab and wearing traditional femme clothing. non binary for some people is being amab and wearing traditional masc clothing. non binary comes in many shapes and forms. non binary for some people is being intersex and dressing in a way that "looks cis/perisex" to some people.

non binary people can dress however they want and still be non binary. presentation is not all that matters in not fitting into the binary

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ILY people who are continually wrong about their self diagnoses

being right about self diagnosis isn't what makes self diagnosis okay. it's a process, and you're learning. it takes time to find answers and just like doctors can be wrong in their suspicions so can you.

figuring out what condition you have is hard and I'm proud of you for taking steps towards finding the right answers. being wrong is okay and is even a valuable part of the process of ruling things out. sometimes it's not a horse, sometimes you're just a zebra, and you can't know you're a zebra without making sure you're not a horse first.

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Something I want able bodied people to understand is that I don't wanna be sick so bad; I want a diagnosis because there is already something wrong with my body but I don't know what the fuck it is.

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if you make a bad decision, it happens. in crisis, out of crisis.. it can happen. recovery is important. please reach out to someone- whether it be friends, family, even something like a crisis line. you can recover. i believe in you. work for a future of forgiveness towards yourself, accountability, and growth. you deserve happiness and you can get there <3

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REBLOG TO PISS OFF TRANSPHOBES

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I have no idea what this means, but my ANA test came back positive, I guess. I don't see the surgeon again until May. So I guess I just get to sit with this on my mind until then. :/

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I didn't even say anything like that. I can not understand your anger fully, as I'm not a Trans man, but I get the pain you must be feeling.

My experience is in no way describing all nonbinary people. It also isn't the experience of transmen.

I did not in any way say that trans men are brainwashed or unnatural freaks. I don't know what triggered that response.

All I did was tell my story. And ended it with saying you shouldn't let people tell you who you are.

I agree that there is a lot of hate for transmen. And I in no way condone that. In fact, I'm very trans positive. As a Trans person myself, I am disgusted at the transphobia and hate that trans people receive. That in of itself is an understatement.

But i am here to ask you politely not to take my experience and use it as a vessel for your anger.

I remember my mum was friends with a "gender counselor". And that said gender counselor talked me out of being nonbinary and into being a trans man. I assumed that since they were a professional they had to be right. So I started wearing my binder more often. Almost every day in fact. Sometimes for more than 8 hours because I felt so dysphoric (don't do this. I ended up with chronic costochondritis). I dressed masc. I got an endocrinologist so I could start T. I tried changing my voice through vocal training videos. I got a top surgery referral. I was doing everything I thought was right.

I was miserable.

It took years to undo the brainwashing she put me through. Making me something I was not. Making me second-guess everything about my identity. It was horrific. She would constantly use he/him pronouns for me. She would constantly refer to me as a man. And she would correct others if they used they/them pronouns for me.

After she was arrested I spent some time really thinking. Why was I so dysphoric all the time? I stared unraveling the rope she used to tie me up. And I found that she was wrong about me. I wasn't a trans man at all. I was nonbinary! The identity I started with. I started using they them pronouns again. I let people know that I wanted to be referred to with gender-neutral terms.

I feel so much more confident in myself.

So I guess the moral of the story is don't let anyone tell you who you are. You know yourself best. Your identity is your journey. Don't let others move you in directions you feel uncomfortable with. You'll be alright. You've got this.

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Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t