#presents as masculine like 99% of the time

[54625]

me when I'm in a mischaracterising qPac competition and my opponent is a large portion of the QSMP fanbase

[euniexenoblade]

I'm transmasc and I don't think I completely understand the discussion around TMA/TME.

I'm pretty sure I mostly agree with you. Like, "transandrophobia" is not a helpful or accurate description of the transmasc experience, and I can see how it could be used to belittle what transfems go through.

Transfems definitely get more attention from hate groups. Transmasc erasure sucks, but it can definitely be a blessing when the bigots are picking their targets.

I keep seeing posts comparing trans men to incels and MRAs. I haven't seen many transmascs who would warrant that comparison.

That's not to say it's necessarily an unfair comparison. On the contrary, it probably means that there's a lot of transmisogyny going around that I'm not seeing. And if I'm not seeing it, that probably means I'm inadvertently participating in it.

IDK why I felt the need to send this to you. I guess I was hoping you'd tell me how to do better, which totally isn't your job. Feel free to ignore me and/or tell me to fuck off.

I'll send you $20 for tolerating my bullshit. Have a nice day.

Ok I wanna answer this before I get too high (I'm honestly feeling it already). Thank you for the $20, when I realized I forgot to pack a lunch today that money helped me eat still so legit thank you.

So first off, "trans women get more attention from hate groups, transmasc erasure sucks but can be a blessing." (I can't copy and paste on this screen, so I'm paraphrasing) yes but I wouldn't call erasure a blessing, no matter who it's for. They're two sides of a very fucked coin, on the one side transfems get lots of attention and vitriol, and the erasure of transmascs makes it harder for some transmascs to understand they can be trans. But on top of that, the form of transfems we see are never real representation, 99% of the time it's a transmisogynistic ideal of trans women, it's the weirdo white boy spreading lipstick all over their face just before they smash the mirror in a fit of "dysphoria" kind of shit. Though transfems have extreme visibility, our actual selves are not visible, we are ultra violet rapist horn dogs or we're the super ignorant, super emotional crybaby.

And, a side tangent, cuz you sorta did a thing the transandrodorks do that is frustrating. It's not a measurement of what's "worse." That's not how oppression works, that's not what we are saying, we are talking about the forms of oppression.

Men are not oppressed for being men. They can be oppressed for a variety of things, racism, ableism, interphobia (is this the right term I forget), homophobia, etc etc. Masculinity is rewarded, masculinity is the desire, patriarchy exists so men get to be above women. Things like "misandry" do not exist, they are inventions of violently misogynistic men, your MRAs, your incels, your conservatives (this includes liberals btw).

The person who coined "transandrophobia" used to talk about wanting to correctively rape lesbians. I'm not gonna go at someone's kinks, but the blog was not presented as a kink blog, I literally went there myself and read the posts when this first popped off and they come off as true lesbophobia in the context of their blog and coupled with the misandry posting, this person literally looks like MRAs and incels. The defense the community uses is "it's a kink are you kink shaming?? It was on a private locked blog!" Which, the latter, no it wasn't, I literally went there and looked, and the former. Idk I think if you're saying you want correctively rape lesbians while also talking about misandry and counting "transandrophobia," you look misogynistic and homophobic.

The main writers people follow for transandrophobia related content are straight up liars, who make shit up, and one specific non horse entity consistently cites himself as his own "source" and when he doesn't, he cites terf blogs that are connected to kiwifarms and sites of the sort. They will take bits talked about in feminism and present it as a thing they discovered and present it as transandrophobia. Ie. "Men can't show any femininity and can't cry and that's misandry" despite things like this are discussed at length in feminist texts, men can't do these things cuz that makes them more "woman" in the societal lens. Yeah it's fucked, but it's misogyny, not misandry.

I am, consistently, misgendered by the transandrodorks, and so is every other trans woman that disagrees with them. And it's definitely intentional.

Then there are token trans women who don't know much of anything about feminism or transphobia and will straight up harass you for saying women are oppressed. They often weaponize transmisogyny against other transfems, they misgender, suicide bait, or in velvetvexations case, will stalk your blog for two days even though you ignore her and when she's sees you're on a date with your wife, she goes to your wife's blog and starts messaging her instead. Legit, this woman is one of the worst people on this website, the only reason she's not seen as communismkills 2 is cuz men like her.

On top of this, terfs consistently support "transandrophobia" as a concept and constantly say that transandrophobia is compatible with terf ideology. The transandrodork community is ripe with terfs and crypto terfs. Like that one who said he hoped a friend and I get raped, cuz saying "men arent oppressed" warrants wishing rape on people. Or the trans guy that outright said "trans women are male" and tripled down harder saying "trans women don't experience misogyny and oppress transmascs cuz they're really men," claims that were so wild that even velvetvexations couldn't agree with them lol.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: not every person that believes in transandrophobia is a bigot or a bad person. A lot are just young transmascs who are under read about oppression and history, and this terf/transphobe community swoops in and pretends to be representing them and sucks them in. For every disparaging transmisogynist piece, there's two more that are talking about the problems of transmascs. So when you tell these guys "that's a hate group" they don't remember the post calling trans women men, they remember stuff about T being super illegal. So they think we are attacking them for having a problem, not the actual bigotry on display.

Honestly, if these people would just stop misgendering trans women, they might have more trans women who'd be nice to em. But that's the consistent trend.

Transandrophobia is a violent, transmisogynistic ideology that is propped up by terf ideology. That's why they are compared to MRAs and incels.

[paperlunamoth]

The fully sane to fully insane TRA progression:

"I'm a man, but I don't feel comfortable actively conforming to traditionally masculine gender roles."

Nothing wrong with that! Gender is bullshit anyways.

"I'm a man, but I feel more comfortable actively conforming to traditionally feminine gender roles."

Cool. You do you.

"I'm a man, but I have a mental disorder that makes me deeply uncomfortable with being male. In addition to presenting and acting in a traditionally feminine manner, I would like to be recognized socially as a woman and addressed as 'she/her' in order to more easily manage the distress that results from my condition."

Okay. That's fine I guess.

"I'm a woman who was incorrectly identified as male at birth. I am not meaningfully distinct from biological women and therefore am entitled to exist in single sex, female only spaces, and to speak on behalf of women as a group. Women as a class should change the language they use to discuss their bodies and their oppression in order to make me more comfortable even though many of such discussions necessarily do not involve me. Women are to blame if I am the victim of male violence, especially women who are concerned about the issue of male violence. If I don't have access to a lifetime supply of medically unnecessary hormones and receive multiple invasive cosmetic surgeries in order to make my body appear more female, I will become suicidal, but also I am not mentally ill. Calling my condition, which causes me daily psychological distress, a mental illness is hate speech."

Um...

"What even is a woman, anyways? I know I'm a woman, because I identify as a woman, and that's what it means to be female. Gender isn't real and doesn't exist. But also transgender identities are real and valid and trans women are discriminated against because their gender is female. Sex is an arbitrary nonbinary social construct just like gender, also sex has nothing to do with gender. But also I would like my penis to become a vagina in order to alleviate my gender dysphoria. Sex based oppression isn't real, only gender based oppression is, and it is a totally random coincidence that the concept of gender happens to benefit the penis people at the expense of the vagina people 99% of the time. The existence of intersex birth defects demonstrates that humans are not a gonochoric species. No one is born male or female. A clitoris is just a very tiny penis, and a penis is just the outie version of a vagina, and sex organs don't determine whether someone is male or female. I still really want a vagina specifically though because I am female and females have vaginas. Homosexuality has nothing to do with sex and being exclusively same sex attracted is morally wrong. I think minors should be allowed to take cross sex hormones and receive cosmetic surgery but also no one is saying that shut up stop lying. I don't have a mental illness, that would be bad and gross, I'm perfectly normal and dysphoria is perfectly healthy, and you must literally want me to die if you think otherwise, how dare you be so hateful towards mentally ill people. Not giving in to my every demand and actively catering to my desires is literally partipating in genocide. Choke on my cock and die you misogynist!"

...

[middenway]

The colour of Turning Red – Part 1

Turning Red is among my favourite Pixar films. This weekend I finally got to see it on the big screen and I just want to talk about something I really love about it—the way it uses colour to communicate its story. The key colours to watch are red, pink, and teal. Red is the colour of the panda, the unrestrained self. Pink is a muted version of this, a lightly curated version of the self, and teal is the restrained version of the self. This is how Meilin is introduced, all in pink; she's comfortable with who she is, but there's still a level of curation.

Did I say all in pink? Not quite. There is conspicuously a teal hairclip restraining her hair. And that's very important, because the hair is very important in this film too... but we'll get to that later.

Very early on, the film starts to establish teal as a kind of "responsible" colour, with Mei bragging about being practically an adult as she boards the bus, which is predominantly teal, and then she sits down to do her homework.

Note how in that second image how the bus's seats are pink, but all of them are up or hidden in shadow except for Mei's. She a hotspot in the centre. Also note that her homework book is teal.

At the opening title, Mei's by herself and unrestrained, so obviously the lighting is pink.

When Mei arrives at school, the overall palette is teal, but with pops of colour. This is a place where she has to curate her identity a bit, but there's still room to be a freer version of herself.

And here are her colourful friends, Miriam (green), budding goth Priya (yellow), and Abby (purple).

You'll note that Miriam is green, very close to teal, but distinct from it. There's a good reason for that and it speaks to her relationship with Mei. She's Mei's best friend, but she curates herself for her. After all, she thinks Mei's a little brainwashed, but she wouldn't say that to her face.

And then there's Tyler, coded purple, which is not traditionally a masculine colour, a hint about the self that he's hiding from everyone, and why he's jealous of someone like Mei who can be a fuller version of herself. Note that the basketball court, the space most associated with him at the school, is also heavily defined by teal.

OK, on to the flute scene!

This is the scene where I fell totally in love with Turning Red. The energy here is fantastic. Note how saturated Mei's pinks are here. They are so close to red.

Here's Mei leaving school...

...notice how pink begins to dominate the palette more. She's freer here, more herself when she's alone with her friends. Now's a good time to point out the gentle pastel lighting in Turning Red. It's a comforting look, and the contrast gets ramped up in moments of heightened emotion.

When we get to the Daisy Mart, we see Devon. This character is a budding story element, so the interior is teal, because it's a place where Mei would curate herself more, but we get pops of pink on Devon, a hint at how this character is going to evolve in Mei's eyes. (But mostly this location is coloured teal because of the role it plays later.)

OK, this is off topic, but I love this face.

4*Town fantasies are obviously very pink and very saturated for obvious reasons. Fun fact: Domee Shi calls this scene "Man Mountain" (from the director's commentary).

Another aside, but I love the way Miriam, Priya , and Abby often move as a unit. Each has their own distinct visually identity and quality of movement, but in most scenes they function almost like a single character, expressing slight variations on a central emotion.

How could anyone not love the lighting choices when Mei is presented with the 4*Town's '99 Australian Tour CD?

Now we get to the panda temple, and I love this because it's a combination of red and teal. It's important to understand that teal is not a bad colour in Turning Red. It is a perfectly valid way to express yourself, but it's not right for everyone.

The temple also is a space where Mei is curating herself for her mother and visitors to the temple, but in she can also let other aspects of herself come out, and we see that in the way she has fun with her mum while sweeping. It's a really cute way to express this duality.

Note the mirrored colours in Mei and Ming. Mei is all pink with a hairpin that's teal, while her mother is all teal with a red pendant... That red pendant is a really big part of Ming, but we'll go into that later. (Also, I love the round shapes of Mei against the sharper lines of Ming.)

Now we go to Ming's home, which is a mix of teals and pinks, but it's mostly white. This means that it takes on the colour of the lighting, so that in different scenes this space serves different functions. Jin, Mei's father, is likewise predominantly white, reflecting his mild character and role as a neutral party.

Then we have Mei in her bedroom doing her homework. Note that this is her room and yet it is almost completely teal. There as just a few spots of pink, like the heart, the discman (which is playing 4*Town music). This is an environment where she's the ideal good kid doing her homework.

This is also a good time to note the relationship between the music and the colour, because all the self-expression here comes out in how her movement is defined in relation to the music. But she's wearing headphones. This aspect of herself is internalised.

The animation in this shot was the best animation I saw in 2022. The little jaw movement from Mei before she says "fine" is so great. You can see the competing versions of self as confronts a side to her that's unfamiliar and intense.

Notice the shift in the lighting here. Warm lighting coming up from the page. It makes no sense literally; it's completely subjective lighting.

And I'm bumping up against the image limit, so to be continued in Part 2.

[paledarklight]

I WANT TO INTERRUPT, I KNOW I USUALLY POST BETHYL BUT I WANNA TALK ABOUT SOMETHING IMPORTANT, AS A MEMBER OF THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY, AS A BISEXUAL WOMEN THIS TRULY MAKES MY HEART HAPPY AND Hurt SIMULTANEOUSLY BECAUSE IF THE FUTURE HE WILL MOST LIKELY ENDURE

My heart goes out to Ty Olsonn

He's come out as gay and I can already tell the backlash he will be getting.

He presents as very hyper masculine in a male dominant society, his character Benny is everything every cis straight males ideal version of what a man looks like, he's as wide as a door and built like a great oak tree and he looks like he's a lumber jack.

And now he's in love with a man and seeing someone they thought of as " one of them" is now just a F**** queer, conservative mother's will ban their children from watching dragon tales because the voice of the dragon is voiced by a gay man

Men who identified as Benny who watch supernatural will rant about it on their podcasts

He has the strength to come out and be who he truly is regardless of the backlash I'm sure he knew he'd get

"every time someone steps up and says who they truly are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place." - Raymond Holt, Brooklyn 99

[cazort]

I find it very weird how so many people on Tumblr nowadays are like "age in bio or I block you" and it makes me wonder if these people have any experience living as an adult in the real world. These people never explain the rationale behind their demands.

Like 99% of the places I go it would be considered rude, socially awkward, and sometimes even creepy to ask another person their age, especially an adult. People can be touchy about age for a variety of reasons, most of which come down to some type of discrimination or bias which can go both for being old or being young.

Businesses or other organizations with legal cutoffs for age or other valid reasons to know a person's age will do so discreetly and only when needed. Most of the time the business doesn't even know or record the person's age, they just want to check whether or not it is over some sort of legal limit, like 21 for purchasing alcohol or 18 for a lot of other things, or older or younger cutoffs for a few other things. (Related: I'm fine with people saying their blog is for 18+ and they are 18+, or similarly, if minors say they don't want to interact with people 18+. There are good reasons for people posting about certain topics to want such restrictions and that's not what this post is about!)

Age can also be a sensitive topic for trans and gender-nonconforming people. We trans people often have a more complex relationship to age, especially people who pursue HRT but even those who don't, often experience a "second puberty" where we go through changes including both physical changes and social / mental / lifestyle changes that involve exploring various aspects of life and gender-expression, and we often do this a lot later for the gender we identify as, than our cis counterparts do. Gender also affects how people see us, like I notice that people often think I am younger than I am because of "feminine" presentation choices that I make, and this is less likely when I present more masculinely (such as if I don't shave my face), and I've noticed that people with more strongly pronounced sex characteristics (like facial hair, a deep voice, or a curvy build with big breasts and hips) are often seen as older than they are, especially in their younger years, whereas people with more androgynous builds and features are more likely to be read as younger. I've repeatedly had people tell me I'm lying about my age when I am being 100% honest, so it's like, displaying my age sometimes opens me up to negativity and harassment from people who think I'm lying. So again, all of this can be sensitive for us trans and GNC people, so demanding ages is likely to bring up more sense of weirdness and conflict for trans people, especially since a lot of us have people read our ages very wrong, just based on how we look, and because also people can judge us for "age inappropriate" behaviors as adults, which interacts with how we trans people are often viewed as "creepy". So demanding ages in bios is going to be harder on trans people and thus comes across as somewhat anti-trans and cisnormative, especially when it comes from cis people who show no understanding of trans people's issues. And I've noticed these are most of the people demanding ages in bios.

There are also other reasons not to want to share your age. People under 18, or even younger (or much older) people who are over 18, also might not want to advertise their age because it might attract predatory behavior or other unwanted attention. Younger and elderly people alike are often targetted with scams. And in general, age is yet one more potentially valuable piece of personal data that scammers are interested in collecting so it's not a good idea to just put it out in plain view on the internet for any stranger to be able to see and collect.

Demanding ages in bios is also totally unnecessary and doesn't seem to have any benefits. Tumblr already has built-in measures for marking content and/or blogs as NSFW. Anyone can lie about their age so demanding people put ages in their bio does nothing and may even create a false sense of security surrounding interactions where a person's age is relevant.

Also, so many people will update their bio once and then never change it. Like one person I follow, whose blog is very active, has had the same age listed in their bio for like 7 years, so the figures shown are often wrong just out of sheer negligence. And this is okay, like I'm not gonna run around policing people like "You have to update your blog bio or I'm gonna unfollow you!" what kind of uptight authoritarian bullshit would that be?

And like what are people even expecting to accomplish with this sort of demand? I just don't get it.

Here's how I think about ages in bio:

I don't care whether or not you put it there.

If I don't know you, I'm gonna take whatever number you put there with a grain of salt because I know you could be deliberately lying, or just never updating your bio.

Even if I trust your listed age is accurate, I don't really want to think about it very much. Ageism is a thing and people can have biases both against younger and against older people. I want to see everyone the way they are, not based on my preconceived notions about them. Things like maturity, wisdom, naivety, immaturity, experience or inexperience, will speak for themselves and manifest in different ways, and I want to focus on who you are and what you say and do, not some number that gives me an impression of how you "should" think at your age. If you have the maturity of a middle-schooler, I don't care if you're 55 I'm not gonna give your perspective special treatment. If you have something intelligent to say or some deep insight, and the idea speaks for itself, I'm gonna listen to you no matter how young (or old) you are.

If you demand ages in bios it makes me conclude you are probably not someone who is safe for me to interact with, even if you theoretically would want to interact with me (which you probably don't because I have never put my age in my bio.) As someone who has experienced sometimes severe ageism both for people judging me for being too young, or too old, in certain situations, it tells me you are out-of-touch with IRL social norms and are willing to impose new norms that 99% of people would find rude, and that you're probably the kind of person who would make negative or untruthful snap judgments about me for all sorts of reasons, probably not just age, and therefore that I don't want to interact with.

So yeah. Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.s

[bullet-prooflove]

The MissingPiece! Series Part Two: Cabin In the Woods - Luke Alvez x Reader

Tagging: @celilice1 @kabloswrld @xoxabs88xox @crazy4chickennuggets @anime-weeb-4-life @rosaliedepp @storiesofsvu @desert-fern @99-reasons-to-live @legit9thlunaticwarrior @niya12 @yehhdh @cupids-lover @teti-menchon0604 @telepathay @julieelliewrites

The Missing Piece Series:

Part One: The Missing Piece

Luke was already bolting from the SUV before Tara pulled up in front of the Noah Billingham’s cabin. There were a thousand protocols he should be following but all he could think of was how much time they were losing, how much they had already lost. His SIG was in his hand, fitting his palm like an old friend as he strode towards the cabin with purpose.

Penelope managed to track this place down through the server that Billingham had been livestreaming your entire life to. Your landlord had been stalking you for years, installing cameras throughout your apartment so he could watch every single intimate detail. It sickened Luke to think about what he had seen, that those private moments between the two of you were fodder to fuel Billingham’s fantasy.

It was the move that finally triggered him. The fact he wouldn’t have the access to you anymore, that you were taking that step with someone else. It had ruined the carefully crafted narrative that the other man had constructed inside of his head. That’s why he had abducted you, he had wanted to turn the story he’d told himself into a reality. He wanted the full-on girlfriend experience, even if you were an unwilling participant.

The heavy door to the cabin was thrown open, bathing the rotting wooden porch in warm light. Luke’s gun was up when the silhouette appeared in the doorway, his finger tightening on the trigger.

It took his brain a moment to focus, to process what he was seeing. There was screaming and yelling around him, but he holstered his weapon anyway. He held his palm up as he approached the figure in the white blood stained, silk nightdress. The knife glinted in the light from the cabin, the stench of copper in the air. His dark eyes met yours, his voice low and soothing.

“Baby, I need you to put the knife down.”

Your hand trembled, your eyebrows furrowing into a frown as you stared on him. The knife tumbled from your grasp, clattering as it hit the slats beneath your bare feet. The screaming was still ongoing, the shrill cry of someone in agony. It took Luke a second to work out it was coming from inside the house.

“Are you hurt?” he asked you, maintaining the same tone as he took shaky steps towards you. His eyes were studying you, searching for scratches, cuts, anything that would explain the blood that stained your skin.

“I stabbed him.” You told him, despondently. “He tried…”

You couldn’t force yourself to say the words and Luke’s heart broke.

His strong, loving arms furled around you, drawing you into the shelter of his comforting form. You collapsed against his body, your fists gripping his plaid shirt tightly. You buried your face into his firm chest, inhaling his familiar masculine scent, pine and cedarwood. It washed over your nerves as you breathed it in.

The relief was imminent, touching you again was like having a rush of narcotics pursing through his blood stream. He clasped you tightly as his team darted past you and into the confines of the cabin. His lips brushed the apple of your cheek as he whispered sweet endearments against your skin. You felt so fragile right now, so exhausted, so dilapidated.

"Tell me that this is real." You breathed in that low, frightened voice of yours. "Tell me that this is happening, and I'm not still trapped in there, making this up."

It hurt him to hear the cracking of your tone as you struggled to comprehend the bridge between reality and hope. He wanted to go in there and end Billingham’s life for what he’d done to you but he didn’t because you needed him, you were the most important thing in his life and you needed him to be here and present.

"This is real, beautiful girl." Luke murmured as he cradled you close. "I’m here and this is real."

He closed his eyes as he held you, his fingers combed through your hair, a gesture that  he knew reassured and calmed you. His heart thudded against yours through the fabric of your clothes.

"I love you." You mumbled as you tilted your head so that you could meet his gaze. "I don't think I said it before you left."

"I know." Luke told you, his voice rough with emotion as he saw all the hurt that was fracturing you deep inside. "I always knew."

You had never looked so vulnerable, dressed a white silk nightdress that didn’t belong to you in the cold Washington night.  He stripped off his windbreaker and wrapped it around your shoulders, it dwarfed you, swallowing up your form completely. The scent of him clung to the collar, the lining still warm from his body heat. He wrapped his arm around your shoulders before guiding you back towards the SUV.

“Come on.” He murmured, his lips brushing over the side of your head. “Let’s get you somewhere warm.”

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Like My Work? - Why Not Buy Me A Coffee

[shimmer-wolf-arts]

DANG IT TUMBLR DIDN'T SAVE THIS AS A DRAFT SO NOW I GOTTA START OVER-- ugh

Also, @pansy-picnics always inspires me to write/ramble about the same things LOL

But yeah, we share the headcanon that Hugo is genderfluid.

Cuz honestly, look at them. There's no way they aren't!

Ramble about Hugo headcanon incoming:

So, Hugo uses he, they, and she pronouns. Corona mostly uses he and they, but Varian, Grace, Nuru, and Yong will use she if Hugo tells them!

Hugo suppressed his feminine fluxes a LOT growing up. They presented as a man 99% of the time (except when she tried infiltrating the Ingvarran army at 16), mainly for their own safety. He grew up in an orphanage with only boys, who were already bullying him for being attracted to guys, and Ingvarr was notoriously transphobic overall, thanks to the Queen. So Hugo had to hide that part of herself.

Upon meeting Varian and the gang, and slowly beginning to trust this group of queer peeps (Varian being bi and on the ace spectrum, Grace being bi, Nuru being a lesbian, Yong not knowing what he is yet but being 100% supportive. I'm thinking Yong might be nonbinary in some way idk), Hugo started letting his guard down a bit.

The first thing she asked was if Nuru could help her paint her nails after they did the Trial in the Dark Kingdom. It was small, but it made Hugo feel a bit more feminine.

Upon returning to Ingvarr for the Iron Trial, Hugo asked Grace if she could make hair extensions for them out of her perpetual ice (aka ice that didn't melt). Their hair was already growing out, but if Hugo was to disguise themself in Ingvarr (you could literally be arrested for either trying to escape or for coming back AFTER escaping), they needed to look different.

It was little things like that on their journey that made Hugo feel a touch more comfy with himself.

After the entire incident at the Eternal Library and things calmed down, Hugo started wearing a bit of makeup! Nothing too much, just eyeshadow and a bit of mascara. But once she started dating Varian and Grace, she finally came out to them. Fully.

Hugo didn't always feel like a guy. Sometimes, they felt like they were nonbinary (specifically demigirl), or like they had no gender at all. Varian and Grace didn't care. In fact, they were even happier since Hugo didn't have to hide that part of herself anymore!

Hugo had gotten his hair reshaved and cut when the went back to Corona for the final Trial, but after that, he just let it grow. He kept the shaved part maintained, but the top part grew a LOT. It gave him the flexibility to present it either really feminine or really masculine, or androgynously. And no matter what flux Hugo is in, they always have painted nails. Hands down, always green nails. And hell, they'll even wear makeup even if they're in a masculine flux. They just really like it.

But yeah, when Hugo is in a feminine flux, she goes ALL OUT! And she SLAYS in whatever outfit she wears!!

[kalcifers-blog]

Some HCs for Sammy Brody (Chase's kid) :3!!

(we're living under delusion here where everything is fine and nothing bad happened to anyone)

-currently Sammy is 9!

- Stacy is "Mam", Chase "Dad" and Henrik is "Pa"

-She uses she/her but hasn't thought about it so doesn't mind too much

-Super outdoorsy, she loves animals and the woods! (Stacy, Chase and Henrik have spent god knows how long trying to make sure she's safe while she's constantly running towards very not safe animals)

-She looks fairly similar to both Stacy and Chase, but most notably is that she got Stacy's hair and Chase's freckles

-She is probably what would be considered a "weird kid" with her lack of fear surrounding bugs and generally creepy stuff, while also leaning towards being a bit more stereotypically masculine (she does like ""girly"" things like dolls and sewing and shit- she just currently seems to present more masculine most of the time)

-She thinks of Jackie and Marvin as her uncles. Jackie is probably the throuples best babysitter (Marvin is not but he makes an exception for Sammy specifically because she drew him a nice picture and also told them that his hair is nice)

-practically begged to have her hair dyed "like mam's is" and Stacy had to painfully explain how she couldn't because of school rules- which led to a very genuine conversation about how school doesn't always have the best idea for every kid unfortunately

-they did make the promise that as soon as they left highschool their graduation gift would be to have their hair properly dyed

-Sammy absolutely adores all kinds of art and is always super excited when they find a new thing to do with art (Chase loves showing her concept art for his favourite games and Stacy loves showing her art such as nail design, tattoos fashion etc. Henrik takes her to art museums and galleries that have new art come in fairly regularly, there's one they always go too on the weekends for their kids interactive areas but Henrik always keeps an eye out for something she might like).

- like 99% of kids Sammy BEGGED for a pet. Except she really really wanted a pet tarantula. It took. A lot of convincing. But eventually they got her one (and much to everyone's surprise it's not as terrifying, especially when you have a 9 year old telling all the cool things about it)

- the tarantulas name is Jonathan btw. No one knows why but that's what Sammy insisted on.

- her favourite colour is purple and her favourite dinosaur is the Raptors (specifically the ones from the original Jurassic Park film)

- Chase (the absolute nerd he is) basically started showing her as many films he grew up with as soon as she was capable of seeing shapes basically. (This consists of everything between Jurassic Park, Alien, Indiana Jones, the original Star Wars Films, The Shining, etc) ((Chase Brody is a film nerd and I stand by that))

-Sammy also really likes animation! Her current favourite show is The Owl House and she relates to Luz a lot!!!

-She also loves Halloween! It's her favourite holiday! She isn't sure why her dad's seem upset around that time of year though, but Stacy takes her out trick or treating and she always has the best costumes!!!

That's all for now!! Might make another one of these for Stacy >:33

[gothe]

you once talked about lesbian culture in arabic countries. im curious, what does it look like? i mean, do they have the butch femme thing going on too and is it more visible at schools? have the mullahs caught up on it? i mentioned that because thanks to tv and now facebook, the mullahs have made the people in my country way more retarted and regressive than they were 20+ years ago. theyve scared the stupid normies so much that it has fried their critical thinking parts of their brains. the normies dont stop and think for once that "hey if we didnt believe in any of this made up shit all the mullahs would have 0 money & worth and would be in mental asylums. maybe thats why theyre so hellbent on us believing & fearing the made up nonsense they spout on tv & live conferences?"

i’d like to specify that i meant arabic countries in the gulf and not all of them. from what I’ve heard the gay female scene in my country is 99% butch/femme, i say 99% cause what i heard is that there’s not any fem4fem relationships and i assume the same goes for mascs. it is visible in schools because there were a lot of masculine presenting girls in my high school, though i don’t know if they’re all gay (i was never really involved in the scene) - i think women here might choose to present masculine if they feel their facial features don’t fit a feminine presentation - and one time in middle school one of my classmates who i was friends with said she loved me, i was so sheltered i had no idea it was even romantic at the time but nevertheless i rejected her cause i didn’t feel even platonic love for her. lesbian relationships very much occur in schools, keep in mind most of our schools are sex segregated because of islam so it’s all girls’ schools i’m talking about. i had to look up what a mullah is honestly, so far nothing systemic has happened from what i know in objection to the amount of gay women here, of course some parents are homophobic and will still abuse their gay daughters but like i said nothing systemic

yeah unfortunately religious people are pretty malleable and will believe the craziest shit if it is said to be according to their religion, you have to consider that they’re all worshipping a whole fucking pedophile (mohammad) so i wouldn’t have put any faith in them to begin with lmao. pedophile apologists’ values are malleable, so of course they will believe anything some islamic so-called scholar tells them. i say this because they defend pedophilia in that one circumstance but not ‘modern’ times. their values are pitifully prone to change depending on the circumstance. if somebody is open to believing that pedophilia is okay in ANY circumstance then they’ll believe any ridiculous bullshit

[helixobesity]

Also that time of the month for another gender identity ramble/crisis cause thinking about he/they again and hey it’s tumblr where else am I gonna see other people try and be as open about their feelings?

But when I see myself and my body, I’m reminded about how I’ve always felt so uncomfortable around other guys in general. Like I was never super friendly with a lot of people out of my own anxiety getting in the way, and in middle/high school I ended up with a lot of guy friends. But it really didn’t make me super happy? Of course I enjoyed them around but it never made me feel like… they were actual friends? But my friends now are mostly gender-fluid, women or enby. And it’s definitely more… comforting to me? I get nervous about how masculine I can present at times. And it’s never really on purpose considering I’m very… awkward and weird sometimes in conversation. I got tested for autism once and it didn’t turn out to be the case so who knows why I’m like this. Side tracked myself and idk where I’m really going with this, deranged rambling. I feel like he/they might end up being the case for me but I don’t… really know how to embrace it? I’m stupid and stubborn at times and I forget things, but I never want to make anyone uncomfortable kink encouragement or otherwise. And if you send a dm to talk or an ask I promise I read them!! I just get easily overwhelmed and scared there’s a lot of you here now and 99% of people have been so nice. I just want to really feel happiness more this year after hitting a low point last year. So thanks for dealing with my insane anxiety/depression rant I am just vulnerable and scared too muchhhh

Yeah idk if this made any sense and maybe I’m just extra delusional tonight but sometimes I need to word vomit my emotions out. I am just very confused at all times thabk youuuu

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[actualaster]

Hi new followers, this is a "personal" blog aka there's no theme here for what I do or don't post/reblog

I like to shitpost and gush about my blorbos from a 15 year old JRPG that was widely hated by the ENG fandom for, 99% of the time, absolutely bullshit reasons

Views of mine you may wish to know about so you can reconsider following because for some reason people like to take massive exception to these basic, common sense stances include:

"fiction isn't reality and if people explore dark shit in fiction it doesn't automatically mean they endorse it IRL, no matter how ~romanticized~ they present it"

"trans men, masculine, etc. people do in fact face their own unique intersections of bigotry and deserve to discuss these and have words to discuss these specific intersections"

Being trans and being nonbinary are not mutually exclusive and one can be either or both depending on how they feel about their identity

There is no The True Trans Experience and different trans people will have wildly different lived experiences and these being different from your own does not make them "not really trans". Furthermore if you find them talking about their actual lived experiences upsetting or triggering, or if you find their making writing or art that features trans characters or headcanons based on their experiences triggering, that is okay but that is a YOU problem and you should just block them instead of telling them to stop posting things about or based on THEIR lived experience to make you more comfortable and/or calling them "not real trans people"

[lee-sanghyeok]

you're so right!! and one other thing i hate about this kind of behavior is the excessive stereotyping that happens whenever they're assigning genders/sexualities to people, it's so annoying AND offensive to the actual lgbt community. for example, ppl are always complaining about fragile masculinity and whatnot but the second a man presents himself in a non-stereotypically masculine way (which in kpop 99% of the time it's to appeal to their audience) then he MUST be gay 💀 i'm sure many idols are queer bc statistically speaking it's impossible for ALL of them to be straight, but you can't just force a sexuality on someone based on the way they act or look, especially considering their idol personas don't represent their real selves

Thanks for sharing your opinion on this, Calli! And I agree, tacking a gender or sexuality on an idol (whose persona is manufactured to appease fans) is so annoying. It's like there's this dissonance where fans are very openminded and liberal, but also have very strict views on what masculinity and femininity looks like.

As I've said, it's likely done in good faith and these fans are just excited and want to 'relate' to their favourite idols, but it often feels like they're creating fiction.

Someone much more knowledgeable than me probably has a better way of explaining this phenomenon, but yeah---it's definitely weird.

[bungoustraypups]

idk man i just really think that if u genuinely believe that fic authors are required to care about characters they dont care about and make content for characters or ships they dont care about just to prove theyre not secretly misogynists uh. i dont think you actually care about how theyre actually treating real women. because you seem to be using solely the characters they choose to write self-indulgent free fanworks about as the metric to define that instead of, yknow. anything else they do. or at least youre putting a whole lot of emphasis on it

also theres quite a few lesbians ive met who actually dont write men. some even genderbend, whether thru a cis-swap where theyre now AFAB cis women or thru trans headcanons or whatever, canonically male characters so they dont have to write about men. theyre a minority in most animanga and other mainstream fandoms ive seen but as i am not in every fandom nor am i privy to the inner workings of every fandom idk how like, rare those ppl actually are compared to authors who exclusively or mostly write abt men

also like. not sorry for this one, but as a nonbinary trans man who is not a woman even a little bit and refuses to be seen as one or associate myself with womanhood because i am not a woman, it is specifically irritating to me to be told this, because i tend to write most about the characters i project on to or see myself reflected in, and, unsurprisingly, 99% of those characters are men, or can be read as men or are men at least some of the time, or more masculine in presentation

jasper from SU has always been my favorite gem and i didn't get invested in the series until she showed up, for example, and i heavily project onto her and see my experiences in her, despite her being considered woman-aligned, which i have no problem with and am actually glad about because there's not a whole lot of very masculine/butch women in mainstream media to start with, though i wish the show had been more sympathetic with her considering she's literally an abuse victim but i digress

but i often don't write for female or fem-presenting canon characters, or focus many of my fics on them, because in order for me to really get attached to a pre-existing character not of my own creation in a series, i need to be able to see some aspect of myself in them, or they need to have something that makes me interested in their story and draws me towards them. but seeing myself reflected in a character who is a woman or identifies mostly or often as a woman is dysphoria-inducing for me. that's why most of the female characters i write for are my own OCs, because i created them, which means a little piece of me goes into them, which means i'm able to have that connection i often lack with canon characters. i also tend to make the most content for characters i feel attracted towards, who are always men because i'm gay lmao

like i'm not misogynistic or a misogynist. i don't hate women. it's just that between my writing process and the canon characters my brain gets attached to, when i write fic, i write about the canon characters i care about the most, who most often tend to be men because i'm mostly in fandoms of male character-dominated series where the women are either uninteresting, poorly written, or extremely minor, or all three in the worst case scenario. and since i do this for fun, i'm not gonna waste my time writing something i'm not 100% passionate about just because there's a lack of f/f and women-centric content like

that's a problem! but it's a problem that can be just as easily fixed by the people who are demanding more content themselves if they, yknow, actually made some. which a lot of them don't

[ask-the-totally-real-peppino]

I think people using he/him for fake bean might mean it in the way they'd refer to a dog of unknown gender (i.e. "Look at him go!")

But using they/them myself I understand how annoying this can be lmao.

(That is a fair point! I am guilty of this too, so I definitely see where you are coming from!

It can a little frustrating, but it's not like the end of the world to me, and I'm kinda used to it bc pretty much all my sonas/characters are usually perceived as masculine unless they are very outwardly presenting in a feminine way (and even then it's 50/50 hdshdf)

But 99% of the time it is not malicious intent, so there's no need to worry about it too much

Tho that all being said, as a general reminder, please respect people's pronouns if you know them!)

[reverse-queer-dictionary]

i'm 99% a guy but sometimes Im ok with (or like) being a girl but not necessarily okay with presenting as one physically.

Hello!

First off, gender presentation/expression does not have to equal or correspond with your gender identity/identities! (/lh)

I was able to find a label that sounds similar what you are describing: boyspike (someone who is most commonly a boy/masculine gender but randomly and suddenly “spikes” to a feminine gender for a short period of time before returning to a masculine gender just as suddenly)

Another label that came to mind regarding being “okay with being a girl” was greygirl—someone who is a girl and greygender (someone who has a strong ambivalence towards their gender identity and/or expression; someone who has a gender but it is weak, indeterminable, they don’t feel it most of the time, or they’re not very invested in it)