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Hello

I found the label Aegogender but I don't know if there's another label that fits me better

I don't feel I have a gender but I also feel there's my agab like it's there but I can see it 'cause I'm disconnected from my gender, but I think I'm not cis by default 'cause if I wake up being a male I would care, I like being female but I think it's 'cause I'm AFAB

Hello!

I found some labels other than aegogender that could potentially fit:

Cisgenderless - Someone who defaults to their AGAB due to a lack of a gendered feeling

Intrafeminine - Someone who is AFAB and is not cis but has a similar experience to that of cis women (specifically the third example: Being AFAB and feeling that their gender identity is heavily influenced by femaleness or femininity) Cassgender - Someome who may or may not experience a gender identity, but feels that it is unimportant

Cassgirl - Someone who identifies as female or female aligned, but considers their gender identity unimportant

Greygender - Someone who is not entirely without a gender, but is it not entirely “with” a gender either; someone who has a strong ambivalence toward their gender identity; someone who has a gender but it is weak, undefinable, not felt most of the time, and/or one isn’t invested in it

Genderfaint - Someone who has a gender but it’s very hard to feel; numb and almost like an empty space but it is there, either undefined and confusing or just too dull to feel it properly, it could feel completely blank, or genderless but you know you have a gender but can't feel it

Demigirl - Someone who identifies partially, but not wholly as a girl/woman

Distaregender - Someone who feels like their gender is distant, far away, hidden, buried, or generally disconnected from oneself in a way that one can't properly feel or appreciate it

Emicis - Someone who feels heavily related to their AGAB, which makes them comfortable with going by cisgender even though they're not cisgender

Cisvenient - Someone who is only cis because it’s convenient

Demicisgender - Someone who identifies partially as their AGAB

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Is there a term for someone who is unlabeled but only for their sexuality and not their gender identity?

Hello!

I couldn’t find a label like you’re describing, but the term “unlabeled” can be used by itself for an unlabeled sexuality alongside a labeled gender identity

An alternative to unlabeled sexuality is pomosexual (someone who denies or doesn’t fit any labels for sexuality)

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Hi there!!!

I was wondering: is there a term like bear or can i just use bear? I call myself one but i dunno if thats okay.

I'm Nonbinary, bi lesbiflux, aroace and i am fat. But I'm not currently super hairy ( hoping kinda that maybe getting on t will help? ) but also i kinda am borderline? Just no beard hair or heavy belly/back hair.

Am i a bear or is there a term for wanting to be one or a term for being a little in between Hairy and Non? iirc Seal is non hairy? Thanks !!!

Hello!

If you feel like you fit the label bear, then that’s fine!

I found two alternate labels that could potentially fit: ursule/urse (a beary nonbinary individual) and exotic cat (someone who wants to gain more body weight and hair like a bear; alternatively, a chubby person who feels like they don't meet the requirements of a bear yet, and therefore do not want to call themselves one)

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Is there a term for someone who only wants to be in a sorta “friends with benefits” relationship? Like, someone who likes being friends with someone, and will also be sexually active with them, but doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with that person?

Hello!

If you are wanting a label for someone who only experiences sexual attraction, not romantic attraction, there is aroallo (someone who is aromantic and allosexual)

If you’re looking for an alternate term for friends with benefits, there is casual relationship and foveo

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okay so this is my friend but he isn’t on tumblr so I’m asking on his behalf

he (male) is sexually attracted to men and for most of his life has only been, therefore identified as gay

when he met his now girlfriend he did start having sexual thoughts abt her but figured he could still be gay since he didn’t think he actually wanted to do it in reality, it was just a fantasy

After like a year of being best friends they kissed “as a joke” and eventually he realized he wanted to date her. he isn’t really sure if it’s romantic or not (quiroromantic?) but he doesn’t care what label applies, he just wants to be with her

so he’s said basically he likes guys and like. a girl. he usually says pan. what labels would apply?

Hello!

I found some labels that could potentially fit in regards to the gender exception:

Perracearomantic - Someone who experiences a rare “gender blindness” to one specific person that is not typically included in their romantic orientation, but the individual does not consider this a change to their romantic orientation

Homoflexible - Someone who is primarily attracted to the same gender but experiences very rare attraction to different genders

Paroromantic - Someone who is arospec towards certain gender(s) and alloro to other gender(s) (for example greyromantic and/or quoiromantic towards women, and alloromantic towards men)

If wanted additional labels from the other parts of your ask (the unsure if it’s romantic or not, not labelling part, etc.) let me know!

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a term related to being bigender but leaning more to one gender than the other? (ex. being bigender between male and female but feeling more like a woman than a man)

Hello!

There were two terms I found that could potentially fit:

Bigenderratio - A static gender where one has two genders that are mixed or intertwined and one gender outweighs the other

Bigendersize - A static gender where one has two distinct, separate genders and one gender outweighs the other

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is there a term for someone who is male/male aligned (for context, I’m genderfaun) and is attracted to women/fem aligned people, but feels that their attraction is queer (aka not feeling straight whatsoever)?

Hello!

I found a few terms that relate to being male/male-aligned and experiencing queer attraction to women:

Saphboy - Someone who is a boy and feels as if they and their gender are sapphic

Azalean - Someone who is QLW or experiences queer attraction to women

Gai - Someone who is gay/non-straight in a uniquely non-binary way

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Do you know any genders where you identify as a gender but like not completely? Like in a contradictory sense? Like being a guy, but calling yourself a woman and using she/her as well as being connected to womanhood but still considering yourself male and not considering yourself a girl or female? Also do you know if there's any genders that's tied to your nonconformity/gender expression? Like if your expression IS your gender or part of it?

Hello!

For the first part of your ask, I found a few labels that could potentially fit:

Finboy - Someone who is both fingender (feminine-in-nature gender) and a boy/man

Contrafe - A gender that is not derived from womanhood or femininity in any way but still feels feminine or female in some way

Rosboy - A feminine boy/man

For the second part of your ask, the only term I could find was GNCgender (someone whose gender non-conformance is heavily tied to their gender). I think gncgender is all-inclusive and peculigender is specifically due to neurodivergence, but I may be reading the coining post wrong.

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elloo ^_^ i dunno if this is somethin you do , but ive seen a term recently called " raccoon " with it being a queer label ( akin to bear or otter i believe ) but i can't find a definition anywhere- do you happen to know the definition ?

Hello!

I think I found the term you are referring to here? I have copied and pasted the original post below for ease of access:

"RACCOON: a presentation term for queer masculine presenting individuals who have permanent dark circles, and appear scruffy, disheveled and messy, this might be due to a disorder/mental health issues but this is not a requirement"

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hello, is there a label that describes not being asexual but being sex repulsed?

Hello!

I wasn’t able to find a label that specifically described a non-ace individual who’s sec repulsed, but here are a few labels I found that can apply to both ace and non-ace individuals:

ARCsexual - Someone who feels averse, repulsed, or conflicted towards their sexual attraction or towards sexual interaction

Anticarnal - Someone who is sex-repulsed

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sorry for the spam of asks (we promise this will be the last ask from us for the time) but is there a term where someone switches between being sex favourable and sex averse/repulsed? like sometimes you like the idea of having sex and other times you feel disgusted or upset at the thought of being sexually active

Hello!

The two main terms I know of are sex-oscillating (someone whose feelings towards sex change or fluctuate over time) and ARCflux (an individual who is sex-oscillating)

There is also sex-ambivalent (someone who has mixed or complicated feelings about sex) and eriscarnal (someone who is sex-ambivalent)

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ok so I'm technically trans but I don't like being called trans and I'd prefer to not use the trans label. Is there a specific term for that?

Hello!

The main two terms I know of for non-cis individuals who don't identify with the term "trans" are cisn't (anyone who is not cisgender) and isogender (someone who is not cisgender, but does not identify as trans either)

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any genders that relate to a boy/man who enjoys traditionally feminine things but doesn’t want to be referred to as a girl/woman/feminine? may sound kinda contradictory, sorry <:)

Hello!

If you are referring to being a man that enjoys stereotypically feminine things but does not have a feminine gender, then that sounds like it would fall under gender non-conforming (someone whose gender expression does not conform with their gender identity).

If you were looking for feminine genders that relates to being a boy or a different interpretation I didn't think of, feel free to send in another ask clarifying!

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Heyyo! I'm not here to ask for an identity, but I do want to thank you for making the queer dictionary website. For the longest time I was confused about my gender, and none of the labels I knew about seemed to fit, but scrolling through your website helped me find a label that made perfect sense! I don't think that I would've ever come across the term demiflux on my own :D

Hello!

I'm happy to hear it helped! :D

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hi there! is there a term for someone who is trigender but one of their gender identities is weaker than the rest? like, if someone was trigender between being a man, woman, and nonbinary, but they’re 40% man, 50% enby, and 10% woman?

Hello!

The label that came to mind would be oxigender (someone who is trigender and primarily one gender, partially another gender, and slightly another gender)

A specific oxigender label that could fit is zoxygender (someone who’s mostly nonbinary, partially a man, and a little bit of a woman)

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Hi, I've been trying to find labels and flags for Alterous attractions like grey alterous, alterousfluid, etc. Do you think you could try to find them and the flags? If you find a website/page that lists them all you can link that.

Thank you

Hello!

I was able to find some

Here and Here

I don’t really find flags, I find labels for people /lh

For analterous-spec labels, you can use the prefix/suffix from any other arospec/acespec/etc. labels. A decent list of those can be found here and here

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Is there an identity where it feels like every time you finally label it, it changes? (Sexuality or gender.)

Hello!

I was unable to find something that exactly fit what you described, but I found a few terms that could potentially fit:

Labelflux - Someone whose gender/sexuality label fluctuates, but their actual sexuality/gender does not change

Amplusic - One’s attraction is not strict to one orientation

Messexual - Someone who can’t find a label that describes their attraction, so they jump from label to label

Miragesexual/miragegender - A sexuality/gender that is unclear and impossible to make out/understand and fades away when one tries to examine it more closely