#poppsych

[transmechanicus]

How to remove the words seratonin, dopamine, and oxytocin from the minds of people who take psych advice from unlicensed tiktokers. Bonus points if it takes the tattoos they got of the molecules bc they’re scientifically illiterate and think a chemical structure adds legitimacy to their pseudoscience.

[chemsexholmes]

Every "narcissism" personality disorder self-diagnosis quiz is like

Which Statement Best Matches You?

[ when people compliment me I get embarrassed because I don't like attention :-( ]

[ I know im good and literally the best and everyone tells me this all the time so I don't actually need to hear it because I know but it's nice anyway :-/ ]

And it's impossibility to even exaggerate it to be funny because it's literally just like this

[fatterkittycatter]

Seeing what tiktok poppsych has done to cishet relationships got me thanking the gods every day that I'm queer

[evildilf2]

I get that poppsych “activists” who claim everything is a symptom of ADHD are annoying and kind of evil but I’m begging everyone to remember that ADHD is a legitimate disability and not an excuse for lazy teens to get stimulants or whatever

[kaiasky]

person was telling me about her puppet-based psychology youtube podcast and i didn't catch the name. but how many puppet based psychology podcasts can there be on YouTube right?? and the answer is like 1) a suprising amount 2) they all look nightmarish 3) dear god the state of poppsych is DIRE

[pathologising]

i think u will understand this so im telling u. tw for vague reference to csa.

its like u Know what happened was literally so fucked up and awful but for some reason everyone is just like "ok and?" and its like. what do i even do with all this hurt and anger. everyones like blah blah blah acceptance. like dude how do you accept that your parents did that. its a little more advanced than accepting other shit happened idk. like its not like its something i can hastag forgive and forget. like i understand some ppl can forgive their parents for continuing the cycle but when its something like this. how. and ik acceptance doesnt equal forgiveness but they feel so interlinked idk it almost makes me mad when other survivors talk abt acceptance cause they dont understand what theyre asking people like us to accept happened to us.

I think. And hopefully this is helpful. Whe. Therapists talk about acceptance they mean saying to yourself "this really did happen and there's no point in denying it or repressing it" but I feel like it's been taken by pop psychology and turned into "ok it happened whatever" like?????? That's it???? Like people don't realise acceptance is the first part of a series of steps to breaking down your feelings around what happened not just "it happened and I move on like nothing happened" because that's literally the antithesis of acceptance yet popsych has once again ruined another thing lol. All this to say I understand ur anger and hate that poppsych has watered down acceptance Into forgiveness lite

[vain-creature]

ik the ask game was a week old at this point lmao but anyway

🗯️ favorite npd meme?

Oooh! That's a fun one! As a theme, I really like the black demon narc eyes, I just find the idea so funny. Why, yes, I become a demon when I am mad, thank you.

I looked through my gallery for a npd meme I saved and these two are too relatable:

I also really likee when people edit the wellness/poppsych graphs, infographics and similiar into their npd version sksks

[djmordecai]

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[sirenrecords]

#thecake #deccarecords 1967 MONO #girlgroup #poppsych #psychpop #poprock (at Siren Records) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8CxyXGJOMf/?igshid=iusvr1l20eny

[beatsandbohos]

Now playing the Poppy Family ~ escape w us to a psychedelic wonderland ~ plus that zipper on her #jumpsuit 😻 poppy dress available in the shop too . . #thepoppyfamily #poppsych #psychrock #femalesinger #vinylrecord #vinyl #recordstore #recordcover #redpoppy #70s #maxidress #trippy #escapewithus #takeatrip #vintagelifestyle #bohemian #boho #hippie #beatsandbohos (at Beats and Bohos)

[olderthannetfic]

Really fond of your blog. I love that the conversations are like... nuanced, chill, mature. Maybe it's just because I'm a newbie but it seems really hard to find this sort of thing.

You speak with a lot of clarity on human sexuality; or at least kink stuff. I know you have several years of experience in fandom spaces and I'm wondering if the clarity that you have is a result of this, or if you have some kind of background in psychology. Or maybe you just read a lot of books on this stuff?

No hard feelings if this question is too nosy. I'm just curious.

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It is weirdly hard. I think a lot of the people who used to talk like this are old and tired now and feel like "public" in fandom is actually public in a way they may not have 10 years ago.

If you go listen to ancient episodes of /Report, they're more squee and less blather about human sexuality, but they give me an oldschool fandom vibe I fancy I also have. Ditto people's long-ass Livejournal posts from that same era. More of us used to sound like this in places that were more findable.

In terms of human sexuality stuff specifically, I was a little perv growing up in the Bay Area at the height of Cleis Press's 90s output. I wanted to be a sexologist when I was 14. I grew up reading Susie Bright. (Hilariously, years later, I once got Susie Bright in the LibraryThing secret santa exchange.) My actual schooling was biochem, then linguistics, then film. I just read a lot.

I think if you grew up around here in the 90s, there's a certain amount of poppsych, self help, human sexuality stuff that's just in the water too. I wouldn't say it makes everyone actually smart about psych stuff, but there's a greater degree of talking about things and knowing buzzwords than some places.

I'm only 41, but I came out at 14. I think that's another difference. I'm back in my family home right now, and the old lesbians next door are still there. Now, my across the street neighbors are these two gay guys I scream about film noir with. One of them is getting into geikomi and I'm reccing him all my favorite old nonfiction books on gay Japanese dudes and BL vs. geikomi and the history of sexuality in Japan and such.

Years of being out with a supportive family and years of knowing queer intellectuals offline, including a lot who are way older than me has had a big effect. Years of knowing intellectuals in general has as well. As a kid, we spent a lot of evenings at my stepdad's friends' restaurant where all their friends would drift in and out, Cheers-like, and conversations were about things like this one woman's painting cycle she was working on that was about castrated Greek statues.

I think plenty of people build a life like that as adults, but they don't always get there until they've had time to escape their families and hometowns. A lot of queer discourse in fandom in 2022 is coming from high school and college students who haven't been out in the world and who don't know older queer people or even many offline queer people aside from a small circle of school friends.

I do think I have some clarity, but a lot of the difference between me and people I see screaming about shit is that I like myself.

I don't need to join a mob for protection or comfort. I'm not afraid of my own impulses. I'm not afraid to look intellectual in public. And I like procrastinating by answering asks on tumblr and am not scared to leave anon on.

None of that is rare in isolation, but a large proportion of older queer people, intellectuals, etc. are worn out from all the sealioning and screaming Youths who invariably have more free time and more self righteousness in any era. (I was a very annoying 14-year-old, trust me.) A lot of younger people who aren't joining screaming dogpiles don't have the chutzpah to stand up in public and potentially make fools of themselves. And even people who do post the sorts of things I do usually have less free time than I do. My offline friends are introverts who work long hours. And if you don't post a lot, you aren't findable. I always posted a fair amount, but it wasn't enough to be really findable before. It's only the last few years when tumblr is much quieter and I've posted very regularly that I've started to be found by people far outside of my existing sphere.

We're no longer a tiny circle of a few hundred to few thousand Livejournal slash fen who like the same 5 buddy cop series and sci-fi with The Beefy One and The Science One. We don't even have a profile page where you can see who we follow, like on LJ/DW. We're thousands and millions of random geeks who lack an easy way to connect.

I'm about to go to Escapade Con at the end of April. It's an oldschool con that is all this kind of conversation, and the attendees have still spent the last few years going "Where is everybody?" Finding shit is genuinely hard.

Last year, when we were all online, we attracted a ton of old LJ fans who've been wondering where everybody is for ages. Hopefully, they come back for the online wing of the con this year too.

[haloeffect]

if i’ve said it once i’ve said it a million times but the pervasiveness of poppsych vocabulary has only given more artillery and credibility to abusers to really guilt you

[kittoforos]

remember that phase in Mental Health Awareness when all the self-anointed poppsych public liaisons were like ‘haha you can’t drive a person crazy! that’s crazy! either you’re born with the insanity gene or you’re normal and can only be depressianxious :) therapy is for everyone! :) unless you’re genetically insane in which case you must be removed from society posthaste’ now everybody wants to be Trauma Informed (tm) but keep the removal from society part. what will they think of next

[pathologising]

and like yea there's degrees to disorders but like to get diagnosed with something officially the whole thing is that it impairs your ability to function somewhat so I wish these online poppsych people would stop listing benign things and rhen following it up with "you have xyz!"

I think some people forget the "impairs daily functioning" part of disorders...

[mightyatomboy]

Go Ask Alice...

[poppsychic]

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