#poppsych

[transmechanicus]

How to remove the words seratonin, dopamine, and oxytocin from the minds of people who take psych advice from unlicensed tiktokers. Bonus points if it takes the tattoos they got of the molecules bc they’re scientifically illiterate and think a chemical structure adds legitimacy to their pseudoscience.

[oddmerit]

is it a hot take to say that it's a little "moral ocd" (whatever that means) in itself to accuse this website of being the "moral ocd website". like oh no people are potentially having The Bad, Incorrect thoughts? and you feel obligated to call out that what they're doing is Incorrect? and you're constantly surveiling your mind to make sure you're not doing the Incorrect thing of having "black-and-white" thinking? idk man sounds a little disordered thinking to me. what do you mean you're trying to "help people get away from their moral OCD" by doing this, you're just doing the same thing as them but plastering your own personal morals over it

[ph-cutie]

online poppsych quiz makers manufactoring the most vaguely worded questions imaginable

[kittycantdoit]

Seeing what tiktok poppsych has done to cishet relationships got me thanking the gods every day that I'm queer

[kaiasky]

person was telling me about her puppet-based psychology youtube podcast and i didn't catch the name. but how many puppet based psychology podcasts can there be on YouTube right?? and the answer is like 1) a suprising amount 2) they all look nightmarish 3) dear god the state of poppsych is DIRE

[dodgeryy]

I saw a tiktok that was like "bpd is tje opposite od narcissism" poppsych bs and I.

The amount of borderlines who agree? Babe were in the same cluster and you think it's DIFFERENT?!?!?!

[renposter]

Also another staunch hatred of mine is people who think that generational divides like millennials and gen z are real. I'm hypocritical about it because i use the term millennials but it's all a weird poppsych obsession of recent culture. really it's no different from the medieval people who believed in balancing the humors. idrgaf about cultural divides between age groups because those don't even exist either. it was all a gradual shift between ages anyways like... If u refer to anything as gen z millennial gen x or whatever around me it activates me kill switch. Also me pirate switch. Arrr

[vain-creature]

ik the ask game was a week old at this point lmao but anyway

🗯️ favorite npd meme?

Oooh! That's a fun one! As a theme, I really like the black demon narc eyes, I just find the idea so funny. Why, yes, I become a demon when I am mad, thank you.

I looked through my gallery for a npd meme I saved and these two are too relatable:

I also really likee when people edit the wellness/poppsych graphs, infographics and similiar into their npd version sksks

[hannas-things]

okay so

origin of username: hannas-things was just something i bullshitted on the spot, but haventhefrog, which is my username in a bunch of other places is bc i used to use the name haven and liked frogs. shrimple as that

idk what otp is other than a bank sryyy

favorite color: this is haaard. maybe coral? (the color of my blog) but i also love purples and a lot of other colors. cant answer honestly

song stuck in head: literally depends on the day, its moonglow by graveyard club today

hobbies: computers, linux, and whatever the current hyperfixation is (rn visual novels)

wish for work: id love to be a game designer or voice actor. id suck at both.

good at: getting invested

bad at: getting un-invested

hate: prudism

collect: plushies at this point. i have so many

forget: any kind of rote memorisation. i love literature but hate memorising poems

love language: i dont believe in poppsych :)

fav movie/show: for movie it has to be everything everywhere all at once. for show i liked criminal minds (garcia 💯💯) even if it is dumb sometimes. yes this is ironic considering my last answer.

fav food: chili con carne. i adore spicy

fav animal: its gotta be cat. kibty

(moths also fuck hard. also frogs. als

as a child: very unwell

fav subject: well japanese of course. i also really like hungarian actually. im a linguistics nerd if you havent noticed

unfav subject: my geo teacher sucks i would like it otherwise. also math but i am fine with calculations its just i suck at memorisation.

char trait: im keeping the group together and look very sane until it turns out im really not

meet from the past: no clue honestly.

tagging @genericcatgamer @voyeur-needs-to-be-seen @mindsmist

i need to know your neuroses

Get 2 know me game thingy

Tagged by: @tulinokkaelain

What’s the origin of your username?: the musical promises, promises. Specif the song half as big as life. Yes, the jerry orbach version

OTP(s) + ship name: atm its like… jonadio, jotajosu, jotaro/jouta

Favorite color: black or maybe pink

Song stuck in your head: demolition lovers + drowning lessons

Weirdest habit/trait: cannot physically sleep without a blanket on me

Hobbies: art, reading

If you work, what's your profession?: n/a

If you could have any job you wish, what would it be?: i'd like to be an artist i think

Something you're good at: bitching and complaining and talking Too much

Something you hate: dont even get me started. So much

Something you collect: wooden statues (animals mostly) + stephen king books

Something you forget: everything unless i remember. Mostly to do things (dishes, laundry)

What's your love language?: touch probably idk

Favorite movie/show: at the moment jojo part 4 diamond is unbreakable. Also murder she wrote + law and harry mcgraw. Death note. X-files. The apartment (1960). Suspiria.

Favorite food: tiramisu <3 if i gotta choose savory then maybe chicken parmesan

Favorite animal: cat or bunny

What were you like as a child?: annoying as fuck

Favorite subject at school: art or english

Least favorite subject: PE

What's your best character trait?: slaps roof of brain so much obscure shit can fit in here

If you could travel back in time, who would you like to meet: ANGELA LANSBURY I MISS YOU jerry orbach too

Tagging: @granma-sweetie @whenastrofell @britishchick09 @one-blaze-of--glory @lynbeck

[djmordecai]

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[sirenrecords]

#thecake #deccarecords 1967 MONO #girlgroup #poppsych #psychpop #poprock (at Siren Records) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8CxyXGJOMf/?igshid=iusvr1l20eny

[beatsandbohos]

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[olderthannetfic]

Really fond of your blog. I love that the conversations are like... nuanced, chill, mature. Maybe it's just because I'm a newbie but it seems really hard to find this sort of thing.

You speak with a lot of clarity on human sexuality; or at least kink stuff. I know you have several years of experience in fandom spaces and I'm wondering if the clarity that you have is a result of this, or if you have some kind of background in psychology. Or maybe you just read a lot of books on this stuff?

No hard feelings if this question is too nosy. I'm just curious.

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It is weirdly hard. I think a lot of the people who used to talk like this are old and tired now and feel like "public" in fandom is actually public in a way they may not have 10 years ago.

If you go listen to ancient episodes of /Report, they're more squee and less blather about human sexuality, but they give me an oldschool fandom vibe I fancy I also have. Ditto people's long-ass Livejournal posts from that same era. More of us used to sound like this in places that were more findable.

In terms of human sexuality stuff specifically, I was a little perv growing up in the Bay Area at the height of Cleis Press's 90s output. I wanted to be a sexologist when I was 14. I grew up reading Susie Bright. (Hilariously, years later, I once got Susie Bright in the LibraryThing secret santa exchange.) My actual schooling was biochem, then linguistics, then film. I just read a lot.

I think if you grew up around here in the 90s, there's a certain amount of poppsych, self help, human sexuality stuff that's just in the water too. I wouldn't say it makes everyone actually smart about psych stuff, but there's a greater degree of talking about things and knowing buzzwords than some places.

I'm only 41, but I came out at 14. I think that's another difference. I'm back in my family home right now, and the old lesbians next door are still there. Now, my across the street neighbors are these two gay guys I scream about film noir with. One of them is getting into geikomi and I'm reccing him all my favorite old nonfiction books on gay Japanese dudes and BL vs. geikomi and the history of sexuality in Japan and such.

Years of being out with a supportive family and years of knowing queer intellectuals offline, including a lot who are way older than me has had a big effect. Years of knowing intellectuals in general has as well. As a kid, we spent a lot of evenings at my stepdad's friends' restaurant where all their friends would drift in and out, Cheers-like, and conversations were about things like this one woman's painting cycle she was working on that was about castrated Greek statues.

I think plenty of people build a life like that as adults, but they don't always get there until they've had time to escape their families and hometowns. A lot of queer discourse in fandom in 2022 is coming from high school and college students who haven't been out in the world and who don't know older queer people or even many offline queer people aside from a small circle of school friends.

I do think I have some clarity, but a lot of the difference between me and people I see screaming about shit is that I like myself.

I don't need to join a mob for protection or comfort. I'm not afraid of my own impulses. I'm not afraid to look intellectual in public. And I like procrastinating by answering asks on tumblr and am not scared to leave anon on.

None of that is rare in isolation, but a large proportion of older queer people, intellectuals, etc. are worn out from all the sealioning and screaming Youths who invariably have more free time and more self righteousness in any era. (I was a very annoying 14-year-old, trust me.) A lot of younger people who aren't joining screaming dogpiles don't have the chutzpah to stand up in public and potentially make fools of themselves. And even people who do post the sorts of things I do usually have less free time than I do. My offline friends are introverts who work long hours. And if you don't post a lot, you aren't findable. I always posted a fair amount, but it wasn't enough to be really findable before. It's only the last few years when tumblr is much quieter and I've posted very regularly that I've started to be found by people far outside of my existing sphere.

We're no longer a tiny circle of a few hundred to few thousand Livejournal slash fen who like the same 5 buddy cop series and sci-fi with The Beefy One and The Science One. We don't even have a profile page where you can see who we follow, like on LJ/DW. We're thousands and millions of random geeks who lack an easy way to connect.

I'm about to go to Escapade Con at the end of April. It's an oldschool con that is all this kind of conversation, and the attendees have still spent the last few years going "Where is everybody?" Finding shit is genuinely hard.

Last year, when we were all online, we attracted a ton of old LJ fans who've been wondering where everybody is for ages. Hopefully, they come back for the online wing of the con this year too.

[kittoforos]

remember that phase in Mental Health Awareness when all the self-anointed poppsych public liaisons were like ‘haha you can’t drive a person crazy! that’s crazy! either you’re born with the insanity gene or you’re normal and can only be depressianxious :) therapy is for everyone! :) unless you’re genetically insane in which case you must be removed from society posthaste’ now everybody wants to be Trauma Informed (tm) but keep the removal from society part. what will they think of next

[mightyatomboy]

Go Ask Alice...

[pathologising]

and like yea there's degrees to disorders but like to get diagnosed with something officially the whole thing is that it impairs your ability to function somewhat so I wish these online poppsych people would stop listing benign things and rhen following it up with "you have xyz!"

I think some people forget the "impairs daily functioning" part of disorders...