#poc trans man

[jude-us]

As a brown trans boy it sucked so badly to watch those “gender envy” slides on tik tok and see only white boys with fluffy hair. It was a little thing but it made me feel invisible even in my own community. So these are men that look like me and give me gender envy. If you’re POC disabled/ don’t see your self in common trans discussions feel free to add on.

[r3golith2]

Will never stop being envious of white trans guys who pass by just cutting their hair and binding.

[autisticthings]

Vent:

I hate that beauty standards are centered around white people. sure, I'm somewhat white passing, but all my facial features scream Indigenous American. I'm honestly more upset that I'm pale. I understand that I get white privilege, boy do I, but I honestly feel so ugly not having the beautiful dark skin my grandparents have, or the thick black hair.

I feel like I'm not indigenous and Mexican enough. but I'm also not white enough (especially since I'm not white). somewhere in between, not fitting in.

My tribe was colonized by Spaniards, I'll never know what it was like beforehand. I love being native but I'm just so depressed that we were colonized.

I just feel like I'm a fakey. I want to stay true to my roots, but how do I do that when they're so transphobic and religious in a way that looks down upon me?

[judeliynn]

oh how i love being a faggot

[xenniboii]

Random things that make me feel euphoric as a trans guy:

- Basket ball shorts. IDK MAN ITS JUST LIKE “yea, this feels right”

- Hats, like. Baseball caps. They make me so happy and I also think I kinda look good too ^^

- My glasses. They shape my face so well and distracts from my feminine features

- Growing out my nails and hair. It just makes me feel so much more masculine! (Even though I have a nail biting problem 🥲)

- Online friends. The fact that they know or don’t know my deadname and still call me my preferred name, is just pure joy.

- Energy drinks. I have no explanation for this one idk 🤷🏽

- Watching “boys shows”. Ik it’s super stereotypical but yea.

Do what you will with this information, I just really wanted to share. Maybe share some things that make u feel euphoric too! (Sorry this isn’t my usual post, I’m just in a mood 💀)

[smiley-positivity-potato]

The average person will always have worth, regardless of their gender. And today proved that for me, once again. Today I went to my crochet group and we all talked about things that have happened this week. Finally, once we went around the room telling our days, we got to a man sitting beside me. And his heart was hurting.

He had relatives equating his worth as a man to being only “a provider”. He was being constantly belittled by everyone but his partner for having mental issues, disorders and an unstable job history. They didn’t care how they made him feel because he is a man. And I just got something to say.

You are not less of a man for struggling. Whether it be financially or with home stability or mental/physical issues, you will always be the man you say and believe are. You are one that’s growing, unless you decide not to be one day. AND THAT IS OKAY! It okay for a cisgender or trans man to struggle, to feel hurt inside and to feel scared of their future.

You were born not just a man BUT A HUMAN BEING! And you EXISTING DOES NOT JUST EQUATE TO YOUR GENDER! These traditional values are not for you to uphold! You are still a man, regardless of what anyone says. And you are ENOUGH!!

You are not a loser, a bitch, a disappointment or ANYTHING! You are ALIVE!! And that is so much important than those words others spit at you. YOUR WORTH IS SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT THEY SAY!! It IS!!

I’ve went through this with my first girlfriend who was emotionally abusive. We had went to middle school and high school together, but once I became more disabled after we met again: I wasn’t man enough because I was disabled. It hurt. But it also enraged me. I stood my ground as I told her she was rude AND wrong, but soon I began to wonder what a man is.

They are soft and firm and strong and weak. They are loud and quiet when need be. They are emotional and distant. They are all sides of different coins, just like anyone else. And them trying in this world, whether cis, trans or intersex, IS ENOUGH!

If no one has told you this, I will. You’re doing A GREAT JOB! You are VALID IN FEELING BEAT DOWN, HURT OR SAD OR SCARED! You ARE VALID IN WANTING TO SET BOUNDARIES AND HAVE RESPECT BE GIVEN! YOU DESERVE TO HAVE PEOPLE LOOK AT YOU, AND SEE NOT JUST A MAN, BUT A PERSON WITH CHARACTER AND A LIFE AND GOALS AND WANTS AND DREAMS!

Don’t believe or entertain the idea you’re not man enough. There’s no such thing. That whole concept was made to beat you down. Whether cis or trans or intersex, do not believe this narrative. It is meant to confuse you, hurt you, demean you and to make you think very little of yourself.

Here, right now, I need you to know you matter and you’ll meet people who don’t just sum you up as a failure. You’ll meet people who love you for you. And it will be wonderful. You’ll feel light as air! And that’s what you deserve.

I’m so sorry the world has made you question yourself for your gender. I’m so so sorry people weigh you against other men to try to show you that you’re worthless to them. I’m so so sorry people think you’re not enough.

But please know you are enough and you’re a wonderful man that deserves encouragement, support and genuine care. You are.

[yourdailyqueer]

Faline San

Gender: Transgender man (he/they)

Sexuality: Bisexual

DOB: 30 April 2004

Ethnicity: Chinese

Nationality: Malaysian

Occupation: Youtuber

Note: Has ADHD and Epilepsy

[jude-us]

trans boys of color I love you all so much. You’re not a freak or an aggressive monster or a mistake. I’m so sorry you have to deal with so much bullshit from people in your communities but you’re perfect and whole and you’re gonna be just fine.

[r3golith2]

I'm so excited to transition.

Like one day everyone is gonna call me Andre & I'm gonna have a beard & I'm gonna have top surgery.

[mysharona1987]

[the-transgenda-agenda]

I finally managed to snap a photo of this billboard. For some reason I never had my phone out whenever I passed previously.

[smiley-positivity-potato]

when i was a teen, i went by several nicknames in reference to my mood and how i dressed every day. due to how i spoke and acted different - many of my teachers and even other parents acknowledged it. i later learned this was a sign of me having D.I.D but it wouldn't be til this year that i would get the diagnosis. but due to that life interaction i realized something:

people were then more likely to respect me. by NOT saying my dead name then, when i presented as cis, they acknowledged my boundaries as a teen. but as an adult, people seemed to all of SUDDEN lose the ability to adapt. they'd ask for my help remembering my new name then be ENRAGE for me doing so. in fact, a lot of past loved ones and friends would get UPSET with me for trying to HELP them with remembering my name- like they had kindly suggested, and agreed to, beforehand.

when i transitioned, AND legally changing my name and gender, and everything, things revolving around my identity were labelled difficult and wrong. all of a sudden, it was all a problem. and sadly, a lot people showed their true colors.

it was the first time I ever experienced just how quickly a label could make and break a fragile or strong seeming relationship. It was baffling, dumbfounding, and most of all upsetting. For a lot of these people saw me grow up, and they saw how miserable i was. but since i was also manic and funny, they had mistaken that and my confined misery for joy.

i learned that true friends and loved ones will ask and check on you to see when and if you're hurting. even if you think no one wants to hear you. they'll be overjoyed as you change and they'll want to change with you as well. they'll love you for trying to find happiness and will ask you how to respect you as you find it. and you will do the same.

before i was out as a non-binary transmasc, everyone would barely utter my dead name. but once i came out, i had to demand that they didn't say it ever again.

[yourdailyqueer]

Alexander Avila (AreTheyGay)

Gender: Transgender man

Sexuality: Bisexual

DOB: 6 October 2000

Ethnicity: Mexican, Venezuelan

Nationality: American

Occupation: Youtuber

Note: Is neurodivergent

[jude-us]

In the spirit talking about struggles of POC trans issues that are ignored the in the greater trans community we really need to have a discussion about how dangerous passing as a man can be for some trans men.

I’m mixed but I have darker skin and in an Afro. I’m often read as a light skinned black person especially by law enforcement. When I first came out as possibly trans to my dad one of his first worries was the way I would be treated if I passed.

The idea that passing as a man is nothing but safe for trans mascs isn’t true and is an incredibly white centered view of gender and privilege.

[noahswifi]

I forgot this filter exists now it runs everything I do and I must consult with the filter before any major decisions. Here for the trans d*ke pirate representationnnnnn 🥺🤌🏾

[tboylogi]

Fellow trans, disabled and people of color.... I have to ask...

When you're cis straight white friends aren't checking in on you right now. Does it bother you a little bit? Or is it just me?

Am I wrong for being bothered that my "friends" are going about their lives perfectly fine for the most part. And right now I would give anything to be them. I'm terrified to exist. And it's in the news that it's dangerous for me to exist and... Not one friend can take a moment to say "hey, how are you holding up?". Is it weird that it bothers me....