#people say this and then be in ldr relationships themselves

[monoem]

When you get excited about Ben seeing his long distance girlfriend and start to dream about meeting your long distance girlfriend and start even relating to him (he's my son):

Seeing people call their relationship disingenuous:

[thoughtcascades]

I don’t if you’ve been asked this but thoughts in ldr (long distance relationships) and you think is just people who lie to themselves that’s gonna work?

Texts and FaceTimes can't replace a hug or just sitting together in silence. Over time, it feels empty. Then there's trust. Even if you're calm, the distance makes you think. You think too much, wonder what they're doing, and need constant reassurance. People also need physical affection - holding hands, hugs, all that. Without that there's always something missing. I'm not saying it's impossible, but most people force it because they're afraid to let go. Sometimes love isn't enough if the distance drains you both. Relationships should make you feel closer, not like you're always reaching for something you can't have.

[destinyc1020]

Not every (male )*can date a successful woman, do u agree? Tom is one of the rare (men) TBH

I don't think it's always necessarily that men can't or don't want to date successful women, I think it's more so that not all men can handle all of the OTHER things that typically come with that success. I think if a man is in love with you, he will put up with a LOT. But not every successful woman's lifestyle is something that all men can handle. Ykwim?

Same with women. It's not easy dating a very SUCCESSFUL and popular man either. I remember Vanessa Hudgens saying years ago that sometimes she would get jealous of Zac's female fans because they would come up to him and basically act like she didn't even exist. And she would find herself getting very jealous over that. Like, deep down, logically I'm sure she knew that they were just fans and even if they were throwing themselves at him, he only loved her. But I think for some people, it's just hard to deal with all of that adoration, fame, maybe even women dm'ing your boyfriend, etc. It's just hard, you know?

Joe Alwyn is another one. I'm sure he loved Taylor! He wouldn't have been with her for like what...6 years (?) if he didn't. But maybe he wanted to live a more quiet and private life than she wanted? Taylor loves HARD, proud and LOUD lol 😅 She is extra when it comes to her relationships. That's what she likes lol.

Unlike what "Swifties" claim, I actually don't think it was necessarily that he was "intimidated" by her fame and popularity (I don't think he would have dated her in the first place if he were lol 🙄), I just think it was probably that they had two different ways of wanting to live their romantic life in the public eye, and he might not have been used to the type of lifestyle that she leads in the public eye. Maybe it was too much for him? Maybe they both wanted different things? Not every breakup is for nefarious reasons.

Travis atm seems to be a much better match for her, not necessarily because he's a "better man", but more so because her fame and public persona/lifestyle doesn't seem to bother him. He's USED to being in the public eye. Whereas for some other men, they might be more shy/quiet/private, and that sort of super public romantic relationship might be a bit too much...ykwim? 🤷🏾‍♀️

I think Tom and Z work simply because they met and based their relationship foundation on FRIENDSHIP first and foremost. Also, starting a relationship as LDR meant that they probably talked and talked and TALKED a LOT over the phone. In fact, I'm fairly certain that TZ probably have talked with each other more than even couples who have lived in the same town with each other for years lol. It means they got to really really know each other on a much deeper level imo.

[potentialw1tch]

3, 4, 5, 6, 14, 15 and 27 Darcy

3. (A song that reminds me of them)- This truly is a hard question since there are so many of them but the one that immediately comes into my mind is “Arcadia” by Lana Del Rey, due to Darcy’s fragile feelings (in my opinion!). Other ones by LDR are “Text book”, “Tomorrow never came”, “Summer bummer” and “Salvatore” but they’re all somewhat connected to her relationship with Riven (as I usually think of them as one individual lol). Another iconic one is “Hypnotic” by Zella Day. And the last ones are “Frasi e fumo” and “Per un niente” by Nina Zilli.

4. (How many people I ship them with)- I ONLY ship her with 1 character

5. (My favorite ship of them)-I only ship Darcy with Riven, it’s always been like this, I just can’t see her with anyone else. I really loved the way she acted in the few moments she has with Riven, he really seemed to have a big impact on her, making her so… normal? The way they immediately got along and her acting like the teenage girl with feeling she is, meanwhile these were the only moments in which she’s so strongly singled out as an individual that we never see later on, unfortunately… (it’s all so sweet and yet such an irony that he was the one to “hypnotise” her and not the other way back). Or simply- I’ve always loved the way they loved.

6. (My least favorite ship of them )- That must be DarcyxValtor. Or honestly any other ship that’s not her and Riven lol. It’s not like I “hate” this one the most, I’ve just seen it quite a lot and I really don’t like seeing so many people shipping her with him rather than Riven, since Darcy and Valtor were never a thing.

14. (Best storyline they had)- I really love the moments she transforms into someone else (like in issue 115 as Cadyr and as Stella in 1x05 ) to trick the Winx or when she is associated with some mythical creature (like Ariadne in s6).

15. (Worst storyline they had)- that must be her Valtor-obsession phase in s3… The whole plot was great, it was very intriguing to see Valtor tricking them and constantly causing fights between the Trix but I don’t like seeing them as stupid girls following him around and not standing for themselves for the most of the time, letting Valtor to fool them with childish tricks.

27. (If they could meet a character from another show/movie/etc, who would be the most fun for them to meet?)- I haven’t really thought about that so far but I’ll say I see Darcy getting along mostly with Megara (from Hercules), they are so similar and yet so different. Maybe then, with her as a friend, Darcy would become more communicative, sincere and confident/comfortable to express her feelings.

[nahalism]

Not sure if u ever spoke of it (if so, sorry!) but what do you think of long distance relationships, ones you go for weeks, months maybe even longer without seeing oneanotha? I’ve heard wildly different opinions some even say they are not real. + you, would you be able to be in one?

talking about ones that do have an eventual end date not an eternal ldr

hey!

no need to apologise <3. it really depends, i dont think they're inherently good or bad, i think it mostly comes down to timing, the character of the individuals involved, and what those people need/want from a relationship.

i was in a ldr with the same person on two separate occasions. the first time it suited me because i didnt have as strong a desire to be physically around them often, (i was busy), and the distance meant our communication and bond was mostly based on how we connected intellectually and emotionally. that had its perks, cause it definitely taught me how to communicate with my parter and what i like in a partner (not just physically but in terms of the fundamental underlying relationship we share). when i did see them the compatibility was still there so there wasnt this huge awkwardness of 'its not the same in person' and cause we'd travel to eachothers countries or other countries to see eachother, there was an additional level of excitement to not only see and be with eachother but adventure / experience new things together. trust isnt a huge issue for me in my romantic relationships, but i can see how if it is a challenge for someone, it can be a good way to learn how to trust someone on their word and not feel the need to surveil them

howeverrr, the second time round, i was clear from the offset that i no longer wanted to be long distance (i found that having to text and call to be with the person i loved was too intense for where i was at, i wanted something more tangible and immediate) and also at that stage in life, i wanted to learn a person in the flesh. i also had changed from not wanting marriage or feeling a need for permanency in my romantic relationships, to knowing if i did pair with someone i was looking for life partnership and a very specific way of living. what i realised the second time round is that when you can text or call, theres time and space to process emotion or thought. being with someone/living with someone you see them under pressure (how they respond, their daily mannerisms and habits). when i was younger i was more lenient and had 0 expectations of the person i was with other than them coming as they are and being truthful/having integrity. that meant i had a lot more tolerance when people fell short as long as they aimed high. but now i admire and respect a partner that holds themselves accountable and knows how to self regulate their mindset, emotions and physical being. i felt like the person i was speaking to at the time was one person via text, another under the pressures of real life. i also felt like even tho there were pros to texting / calling, it had the potential to foster co-dependancy over genuine communication. (almost like having a crutch that is close to u, but far enough to not actually have to deal with the reality of). i didnt want to be a crutch i wanted reality and thats kinda what deaded that situation.

there are so many other factors that go into ldrs that i may not have touched on or even have experienced, but like i said it comes down to compatibility between what you desire from a relationship & what your partner desires, and whether you can take them at their word on delivering it. if there is an end goal in sight and u can both find ways to communicate, (surprise eachother w gifts or deliveroo meals so the distance doesnt seem so far), then i think ldr can be an amazing way to foster a deeper connection that surpasses the physical. theres no reason two individuals cant move separately toward the same direction, then meet eachother at the end goal. i think it solves a bigger codependency issue that a lot of 'in person' relationships have where two people that were once separate become the same person and cant move breathe speak without eachother. moving separately, yet together, allows u to identify and be yourself whilst being with someone. however whether long distance or short distance, an unhealthy relationship is an unhealthy relationship.

idk i feel like im rambling now but i hope that makes sense. ultimately do what makes you happy, listen to your gut, dont be so ready to give the benefit of the doubt if your doubting. & trust that whatever experience ur having is growing u so even if its a mistake its a good one to make ;)

[bleedingfaiiry]

there's my fps, there's my friends who are only really friends with me, and then there's the people i tolerate by themselves but get in the way of my admiration for my fps. like if the kind of people that get praised or talked about by my fps and i target my splitted vitriol and hatred towards.

like theres this one girl who is mutual friends with me and my fp, but she is a target of my jealousy and rage. she's copying me and yet she has everything i want. her singing voice gets praised by my fp, her hairstyle, her selfies get praised by my fp, she was even peer reviewed by my fp before i did (that made me split at my fp and made me SO FUCKING PISSED. LIKE WDYM YOU NOTICE HER AND NOT ME?). But like, my fp says shes closer to me and likes me more than her, and it makes me happy. Like yes, my fp is MY best friend, not yours, you are nothing in comparison to the bond i have with my best friend.

and then there's a close friend of my male fp/partner. they PISS ME OFF AND MAKE ME SPLIT EVERY TIME MY PARTNER MENTIONS THEM. I love this friend on their own, they are so sweet and nice, but i get delusions of "they're cheating with my partner" everytime this person is mentioned. Literally my last date with my fp, my fp helped them out earlier and my FP WAS FUCKING TIRED AND DRAINED BECAUSE OF THAT!!! FUCK YOU FOR BRINGING HIM ALONG!!! I'm also upset bc me and my fp are ldr and THAT FRIEND IS HIS FUCKING NEIGHBOR. FUCKING AWFUL. LIVE WITH ME INSTEAD, MY LOVE, DO NOT BE AROUND THEM!!!! FORSAKE EVERY ONE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS FOR ME!!!!!

Anyway. These people are technically my friends and I love my friends... when they're not in the vicinity of being with my fps. I keep all these thoughts to myself btw, i dont attack or hate them publicly and only discuss my feelings with my bestie fp (cause shes also bpd and does not mind my vents), but even then, i dont let her know the full extent of it. that's why my FPs aren't allowed to hang out on my blog. like ever. if they knew how fucking delusional i was about them, i think they'd abandon me or scold me, which would suck dick.

and the friends who are only friends with me, they're cool. I like them. They're usually soul family and they're super sweet. But it's so hard to be fully close to them like I'm close to my fps. I've been that way in the past with past flames and its always ended up me being codependent and in actual flames. I've burned so many bridges with people. But the people who stay or at least talk to me every once in a while are nice. But get in the way of my FPs and try to hit on me? you're dead. you'll die. My poly heart is taken for my two fps because i only have two hands.

[silent-calling]

Only context I have is a pair of Tumblr users (emstefani and the above) have some beef with @officialmacgyver and a handful of other people that's been going on for years. They're accusing Mac of being a groomer and a pedophile, and any time you ask for proof of these claims they call you a pervert and say you want to see CP.

I got involved incidentally like a year and change ago, when during one of their numerous screech fests I chimed in just as oblivious to things as you with some mocking statement. For a minute there, they were convinced Mac and I were the same person.

Then like February-ish of this year, Kit (formerly zelsbels) got booty hurt because they misinterpreted the relationship between then and Jess, completely removed themselves from everything relating to her, tried getting her booted from a DnD campaign they were in, and ran to these clowns spilling anything they thought they could use to incriminate the people these knuckleheads were attacking.

One of the pieces of "information" they shared was that I apparently have an onlyfans account that I spend my money on, and I'm a simp for Jess.

The truth of the matter is, I had a patreon subscription to Jessica Nigri from back in like 2016, years before I met my wife, and in and around that same time I had a thing for Jess that ended pretty shortly after it began, because she was completely oblivious to my attractions and I don't do LDRs.

Apparently I'm still a simp though, because I banter and make innuendo with people I've known for years. Because that's how that works.

Merry Christmas to you, too. Yeesh. That's not very aesthetic of you.

[emisonme]

Sorry.........................

Some find Sorry so damn confusing. For me, it's a pretty straight forward song, and it pinpoints the time frame. So, let's see if we can't hash this out, and make it more understandable.

First of all, people are supposed to think this song is either for "Allison" (Ty), or Lucy. The time frame, and everything else we know, just simply doesn't fit with either one of them. Let's see why not.

Sorry was written in 2018. She hadn't yet been with "Allison" for two years, unless it was written towards the end of 2018, and Lauren just rounded up the "two years". Plus, it's pretty safe to say, we can definitely rule that shit show out, because Lauren didn't even remember she was in a "relationship" with his ass. Oops!!!

Let's explore Lucy. Lauren said herself, in her latest being outed saga, that she had only been with Lucy for "about a year" when she was "outed". That happened in November of 2016. That "relationship" was paying dust by the end of January 2017. But, there is a different Laucy timeline, according to Lauren's coming out narrative. So, let's explore that one.

The coming out narrative is, Lauren fell in love with Lucy when she was 15 years old. That they had done some making out, but Lauren just couldn't accept that part of her truth, so she ran from her feelings. Okay, maybe. Let's keep going'

Lauren was 15 from June 27, 2011 to June 27, 2012. She did do that "unicorn and dragon" video in July (I believe) of 2011, so that could have been about her feelings for Lucy. But, she did go out of her way, to tell the fans that Camila was the "dragon". The truth is, and always will be, Lauren started the Camren ship, from top to bottom, and then she couldn't handle it afterwards. But, I digress.

Lucy moved back to the Island in February of 2012. Okay, that still works with the narrative of the song. Let's speculate, that Lauren tried to have a secret relationship with her Bff, and let's say that started towards the end of 2011, or the beginning of 2012. Then Lucy up and moves away, and they try to have a long distance relationship. That could most definitely explain the trust issues, and the "growing up apart, separate ways".

If they tried to have a LDR from 2012, that would have ended in first half of 2014, because that's when they became distant to one another. So, they were together, but Lucy was hearing about Camila and Lauren all the damn time. She was seeing how close they were, and seeing with her own eyes, how Lauren and Camila were constantly looking at each other, like the other hung the moon. Lucy's insecurities kicked in, and she couldn't trust Lauren's feelings for her anymore. That completely fits with the song, right?...Not so much, when you see everything else that was happening back then.

See, in 2012, before the X-Factor, Lauren was heartbroken all over her tumblr, about some guy that had dumped her. After that, before auditioning for the show, she was still all over tumblr saying she needed a damn boyfriend. Let us not forget, there was the whole Keaton thing, during the show.

That'a quite a bit to go against a LDR. But, if Lauren was trying to have an LDR with Lucy, at that time, then quite frankly, Lauren was giving Lucy every reason in the world, NOT to trust her. So, I think we can actually rule Lucy out, completely, for Sorry.

Let's see if there is another possibility. There was, as I said Keaton, but that didn't last long. There was Luis. That didn't last to long either. There was Brad, but that was a quick bust, as well. Who's left? Camila!!!

Now, there are so many different time lines for Camren, it's hard to keep them all straight. People think it's the two years from 2012-2014. Other think it's 2014-2016. Others have it at 2016-2018. Others have it, 2017-2019. It's quite a mess. So, how about we look to the lyrics themselves, to try and see which time line fits best.

We have two years. We have trust issues. We have insecurities.  We have growing apart, going separate ways. We have them "falling apart". We have one not wanting to break-up, but the other not wanting to fake it anymore. We have the on/off aspect. We have a lot to go by.

IN MY OPINION, the song fits best, with the time frame of 2014-2016. I think, back towards the end of 2014, is when Lauren decided to make a go of it with Camila. She was ready to accept her sexuality, put an end to the friends-with-benefits, and tell her parents about her sexuality, and her girlfriend... Then we have Camila leaving the group, at the end of 2016.

When was Camila's insecurities the worst? In 2015, and 2016. Her OCD was fucking with her bad. Lauren was hanging with Lucy, a lot, for her upcoming coming out narrative. Camila thought she could handle it, but those damn intrusive thoughts, and insecurities wouldn't stop fucking with her. She was having a hard time trusting Lauren. She even said, back then, she thought everyone was turning against her. (The damn team around them was helping those trust issues, and insecurities along.)

They were on/off in those two years. They would fight, break-up, and then they'd get back together again. They both needed to grow, internally, and figure their shit out. Even thought Lauren is placing the blame on Camila, in Sorry, the truth is, Lauren's own insecurities was getting the better of her, as well.

It's a toxic cycle, that needed to be broken. Lauren didn't want to have to try and make a LDR work. Lauren was needing to take time away, to work on her own shit. Camila needed to work on her own shit, but she didn't want to break-up, because she was afraid Lauren wouldn't come back...again.

You see, it was easy for them to fight, break-up, and make up when they were in the group, because they were always with each other. They could get their shit together, talk it out, and get back together. Being in the group, and in each other presence all the time, actually made their relationship more toxic. It made them become co-dependent on one another. (A co-dependent dance...I want that song)

Camila going solo, was actually one of the best things that could have happened for them...though it didn't feel like it at the time. They needed some real time apart, to check if their feeling were real, or needed because when they were always together, they couldn't help but feel like they needed to be together. They were that drawn to one another. That's some soulmate, twin flame shit right there.

Camila leaving the group scared the shit out of Lauren. Lauren was one of those people who thrived on feeling needed. But, at the same time, when someone seems to needy, it bugs the shit out of her. Like she can't breathe. If someone needed her, they loved her. If they didn't need her, they could easily leave her, or abandon her. That's one of the reasons she can be so damn controlling. She wants the person she's with to need her, but not so much that it becomes suffocating. Need me, love me, but give me my fucking space when I need it, damn it.

The problem is, Lauren wants that space when she needs it, not when the other person wants to give it to her. Expectations anyone. She expected that person to be there, when she wanted them there. If they didn't show up, there had to be some problem. All the scenarios that would run through her head. Where the fuck are they? Doing their own thing, so they don't suffocate you, damn it. See what I mean, by controlling. She does love control, after all.

Anyway, they were both afraid of, "growing up apart, separate ways", for different reasons. Camila was afraid, if they broke-up, Lauren wouldn't come back. Lauren was afraid, when Camila left, she wouldn't need her anymore, therefore wouldn't love her anymore, and would just leave her. There was only one way to protect herself from being hurt and abandoned. Lie!!!

So, at the end of 2016, Lauren blames Camila for her own insecurities, and break's up with her. It'll hurt. She'll miss her. But, she can't keep going in these circles, when she knows they are falling apart, so she's sorry, but she can't love her anymore. Yep, she controlled that shit, didn't she?

Lauren tried to tell Camila how she was feeling, but Camila wouldn't listen. Camila has her own version of what loving someone is. I can hear the conversation now. Lauren told Camila she needed some space to work on herself, and figure some shit out. When Camila hears the word space, she really hears the word break-up. Camila don't want to break-up. Camila said, what is there to figure out. I love you, we can work it out together. Lauren got frustrated, because Camila wasn't "listening" to her, and said fuck it, That's what Lauren does when she gets frustrated, and told Camila she couldn't do this shit anymore. Camila got frustrated, and said if you need your damn space, then just walk away. Lauren said, fine, I can't love you anymore, and did just that, walked away. Then Camila said, fuck this love, and went on to work on her damn solo career.

It didn't take Lauren long to realize the error of her ways. A few months later, she was telling Camila she still loves her, and asks for forgiveness. Camila was like, don't think so. I felt it once, I can't feel it twice, it's more than I can take, baby, it hurts me to tell you I don't feel the same. Until she seen Lauren, then all those feeling came rushing back, and she knew it was still her, even after all these years.

See how easy it is. It doesn't matter the year the song was written, or released, it's all connected to them. They are writing about the same experience, IN MY OPINION. I can literally make this a damn novel connecting everything, and it will make sense. I don't even have to use much imagination. All I have to do, is use their own words.

What else do we know. They were sharing a hotel room at the end of 2018. Lauren took a photo in Camila's house in September of 2019. Sorry was written in 2018. She wrote it about a past experience. It's in an EP called Prelude. Prelude is an introduction, or the beginning of a bigger story. That bigger story is supposed to come out next year. Camila will be telling us about her Familia next year. Her blood family, and her "CHOSEN FAMILY". Can't wait to hear them both, and parse out the little nuggets they leave us.

As always, I could be completely wrong. But, this is how my damn brain is connecting everything. If you don't believe they are together anymore, that's fine...But don't come at me saying how stupid I am for still believing in something, just because others don't. They are entitled to have their opinion, as I'm entitled to have mine... Have a good day/night!!!!!! !! !!!!

[c0mmencement]

i'm watching How I Met Your Mother and How I Met Your Father (both for the first time) contemporaneously. overall, just based on their respective first seasons, i think that HIMYF has a slight edge over HIMYM; my rationale is under the cut

Male Characters HIMYM: Marshall is the only likable male character in HIMYM. Barney is a straight up s*xual pr*dator and Ted is just...annoying. in the first season alone, Barney has said that the "only reason to wait a month for sex is if the girl is 17yrs and 11mos old" which is??? so gross??? he also filmed a woman without her permission while they were having sex???? and he also made clear his intentions to have sex with women so drunk it wasn't clear they could even consent (on multiple different occasions)????? i understand that these qualities are written to be unlikeable (probably to show character development later), but these traits are also never really condemned by his friends; the most they do is just roll their eyes and change the subject. if not criminal consequences, i believe he should face some social consequences, at the very least. regarding Ted, he is super whiny and annoying. it's as if the writers decided to challenge themselves to write a very similar, but somehow worse, version of Ross from Friends HIMYF: i truly don't have any issues with any of the male characters because they haven't yet done as much to irritate me as Barney has. Charlie is clearly entitled, but he seems eager to work on that. Jesse is just navigating getting back into dating and working on his career. he is generally fine, though it was sleazy of him to come onto Sophie when she was still dating Drew; very Robin/Ted/Victoria of the writers. Sid is engaged and willing to work with his fiancee on their issues in addition to being willing to put himself out there and try new things with her in order to make their LDR work out. he seems like a good guy and i like him Female Characters HIMYM: Lily and Robin are both fine. they have regular people issues and respond to things in a generally typical way. the thing i don't really like about either of them so far is that their development has really centered around their romantic relationships and not much else. it's hard to get a multidimensional character when they are only ever really shown or developed with respect to their love interests HIMYF: Sophie is clearly supposed to be Ted in this version, but she isn't nearly as annoying. i have the same criticism for her as for Jesse though: she shouldn't have reciprocated Jesse's advances while she was still dating Drew. Valentina is a complex character; i like her and i think she is going to have some interesting growth. Ellen hasn't been developed that much, but i did really like the vulnerability she showed when discussing her relationship with her brother. this show seems to be much better at developing women outside of their relationship to men: Sophie's career and relationship with her mother have gotten screen time, Ellen's relationship with her brother was explored already, and Valentina's career has been slightly explored (though, Valentina is most at-risk for becoming a one-dimensional female character, in my opinion)

Overall HIMYM: i'd give it a score of a 5.5/10. maybe i just need to give it some more time to grow on me so that i can be be invested in the characters more (but i will say that i don't think HIMYF wrestles with this issue as much; more on that below). i think another issue is that HIMYM relies too much on nonlinear narrative techniques for their storytelling in an attempt to be unique. it’s totally fine to throw different directing styles into the mix in every once in a while, but it seems to be utilized in the vast majority of HIMYM episodes. i do acknowledge the fact that this show is a cult favorite with very respectable ratings, so i definitely don't want to write it off too hastily. i also don't really have anything else to watch right now, so i'm gonna stick with it a little longer to see if i end up liking it once i'm a few more seasons in HIMYF: it's a little premature to make any conclusive comparisons, but in my opinion, HIMYF is a little bit better than HIMYM. i'd give HIMYF a score of a 6.5/10: its comedy is executed better (in most cases) and it also has stronger, more diverse, and generally more likable characters. it's only eight episodes in, but it's already developed many of its core characters in a decently engaging and meaningful manner. i cared about the characters and their respective challenges right off the bat, and i just truthfully can't say i felt the same immediate connection to the characters on HIMYM. i also feel like, although they're clearly trying to modernize it with slang and technology, they aren't doing it in an overly cringey way (it can still be cringey though lol not gonna lie). overall, i like it and i’m happy it got renewed for a second season!

[crescentfool]

I need an AU where Ryoji and Minato are in a LDR. AKA, AU where Ryoji actually lived overseas and he’s not the appraiser at all; he’s just a normal human being that coincidentally has a lot of similarities to Minato. Basically, “EVERYBODY IS ALIVE” fix-it fanfic. More under the cut because uh, I wrote 1.3k words to explain these two being mutually pining idiots in a long-distance relationship (featuring hamuko)

For the most part, the AU starts off fairly similar to canon (minus Ryoji being the appraiser, and Pharos existing, etc.). Ryoji transfers to Gekkoukan High School, and quickly befriends Minato. The two maintain the Helper’s Club together (I will never let go of these scenes, it is peak Ryomina), and they learn that they get along really well!  The two get some keepsakes on the Kyoto trip, and their bond is going swimmingly… until Ryoji is called back home. Before he leaves, Ryoji and Minato exchange Discord IDs with each other (OR Skype if you want to be accurate to p3 taking place in 2009-2010, lmao. The time doesn’t really matter for this AU. Ryomina is timeless, okay? that aspect of theirs makes me insane). They promise that they’ll keep in touch- and Ryoji goes back home at the start of December.

This is where the AU part starts to kick in. On Ryoji’s (excruciatingly long) flight back home, he’s hit by a truck at the realization that he’s in love with Minato. So technically!! The first part of this AU is basically Ryoji hopelessly pining for Minato and wishing that he had a chance to tell him that he loves him (and that they could’ve had some romantic experiences together). Ryoji practically spends his flight frustrated since long distance communication gets rid of a lot of communication cues, which makes it hard for him to get his feelings across. He’s effectively only left with his ability to type words (okay, more like, paragraphs) across text- and maybe his voice + hand gestures if he has the chance to video call with Minato.

Nevertheless, it doesn’t stop Ryoji from trying. Of course, time zones are an obstacle to the two getting to talk on a regular basis; but it doesn’t stop him!

At first, they just text each other about their daily happenings, making Ryoji very nostalgic toward his memories and times at Gekkoukan. Many of Ryoji’s responses towards Minato’s texts are generally some variation of “I miss being at Gekkoukan with everyone” (aka Ryoji trying to hint that he misses Minato while deliberately trying to filter himself so that Minato doesn’t realize that he loves him).

Recognizing that Ryoji almost seems sad over text- Minato takes it upon himself to ask Ryoji what he’s been doing overseas. And oh man!! Minato was not prepared for how long-winded Ryoji’s explanations of his days would be- but it made Minato happy to see Ryoji back to his enthusiastic self. What Minato was also not prepared for, was being hit by a wave of, “DAMNG, I miss being around Ryoji.”

(I should also mention that if these two send pictures to each other, it’s always of other objects/people, and never themselves. boohoo for the both of them because they miss seeing each other but they don’t have the balls to directly say that they miss the other one ALKFHLSDHSD i just want them to be pining for each other in the stupidest way possible okay!! i’m insane!! yes i know i have a magic hand that makes these two never send selfies of themselves to each other but so what!!! these two are going to suffer in overthinking their relationship and you will enjoy it too)

After a month or so of near daily texting, they move into a stage where they talk to each other over voice chat (because Ryoji said that “typing messages is time consuming especially when I can explain it better out loud,” TOTALLY. Are you sure about that, Ryoji Mochizuki? Are you sure it wasn’t just, “I missed hearing Minato talk even though I have to be the one to draw out whole sentences out of him?”). Sometimes their voice calls are just Ryoji being an enthusiastic and unreliable narrator, while other times, they’re simply listening to a selection of Minato’s favorite songs together (listen you cannot convince me otherwise that if these two LDR they wouldn’t listen to music together to emulate the idea of “being together in the same room.” it’d be illegal if they didn’t tbh /s).

In any case!!! Once these two start voice chatting, their levels of pining go off the charts. Like, man. Imagine not seeing your “best friend” in person for nearly two months; and not hearing their voice for that same amount of time! Dude, I don’t know what to tell you, but they’re going to be run over by a truck at that moment when they realize that they love each other (again, lmao. they’re very dense and keep attributing each other’s signs as their brains playing tricks on them).

And also! Imagine how much these two would do that Freudian slip phenomenon over voice! Minato could be talking about something that he was doing at Gekkoukan and Ryoji would just respond with something like, “That’s great Minty! I wish I could’ve been there to see it with you!” ONLY TO END UP panicking because he didn’t mean to verbally express his mental nickname of Minato aloud. (Poor Ryoji but also not really he did this to himself by asking to voice call with Minato /s). Or for Minato, he ends up muttering something and Ryoji somehow manages to pick up on what he said (and tries to get Minato to elaborate).

On the note of these two voice chatting, I like to think that Hamuko knows what’s up. I mean… there is no way that Hamuko isn’t aware that her brother is hopelessly pining for Ryoji. I mean, the dude is actually talking to someone on his laptop rather than just looping music so??? Of course she would notice LOL. Being the good sister that she is- she teases Minato about it while they’re going to school together, much to his chagrin. Or, if she’s feeling bold, she’ll stop by Minato’s room to drop something off and leave by saying something like, “Hey Ryoji!! Minato won’t stop talking about how much he enjoys talking to you. He really likes your voic-oh he’s telling me to leave now, bye Ryoji!” Either way, I think Hamuko would be a very vocal advocate for Ryoji and Minato to stop beating around the bush about their feelings (while also being a great person for Minato to confide in and ask advice regularly too, even if he wouldn’t want to bring himself to do it out of embarrassment).

Anyways, I know a lot of this is just “hehe mutual pining but they don’t know it’s reciprocated because they’re too caught up in their anxiety making it hard for them to decode the hints and signals.” BUT! I promise you that they will get together and become their most open and authentic selves (probably because Hamuko set them up or something, she recognizes that they’re too dense LOL).

When they do end up together though!! Well… they’re still pining (because grrr distance), but their relationship is a lot more relaxed since they know that their feelings are mutual. I think they’d only really start doing video chats + sending selfies on a regular basis after they get together, but!! I think even across distance and time zones, they would be really good at communicating and making each other feel loved. Ryoji would be the type of boyfriend who sends a lot of gifts over mail; Minato would be the moral support boyfriend who gets Ryoji to open up (so that Ryoji doesn’t have to shoulder everything on his own).

At the end of the day, all that matters is that these two love each other! When their semesters wrap up- they find a way to reunite in person again (so probably July or August?)... and uh, yeah. Let these two have a happy AU!! And maybe get Ryoji to go back to Gekkoukan for Minato’s last school year (if that’s even possible. I don’t even know and I’m too tired to research that).

If you read to the end- thank you for reading! I have many thoughts about these two in a LDR and I think it’d be interesting to see unfold!

[destinyc1020]

Long distance might not have been the main reason but i think it was one of the big reasons... they always put in the effort but now it's even more! Between June and December Tom was literally spending 50% of his time in LA and 50% in London, and since December they've literally only been apart for work reasons. During 1.0 he usually did one week in LA and 3 in London, or something like that.

There's a stigma surrounding breaking up because of LDRs where people say "that means the relationship wasn't worth fighting for". But even if you're fighting hard for your love, it's hard to balance work, family and a ldr when you're so young and trying to do everything and dont have the necessary perspective to make things work. Again the secrecy was probably a huge reason why they were fighting but i always think the distance/work was also a big factor.

Okay 🤷 Fair enough. We really will probably NEVER know what caused the breakup unless they themselves ever decide to speak on it. All we can really go on is Audrey's Tea and just our own personal observations. Everything else is just speculation. Either way, idk about others, but I'm personally bored talking about their breakup. This topic has been done to death lol. They've already gotten back together, and we'll never know ALL of the details, so it just feels like we're constantly going round robin 24/7 on speculations with no resolution lol. Basically, a waste of time imo lol. They're already BACK together and have been for over a year now. Their breakup was almost 3 YEARS ago! Let's just focus on their relationship now shall we? 😅 Much more fun!!! :D

[yuichi-ro]

god why are relations sooo fucking hard to navigate?

had two absolutely fucking toxic and bad exes in the past that make me anxious about dating as a whole and then there is this girl that i genuinely really like and feel super comfortable around.

she confessed to me and i told her i was scared, i confessed to her a while ago and she said she needed to focus on uni stuff, which i absolutely get.

but now i am kinda at the point where i feel sorta desperate? i have no fugging clue why she liked me in the first place and i want her to continue liking me because no person has ever shown me this amount of genuine kindness and she is honestly amazing and outstanding- (i also struggle w some confidence issues on top of that hooray)

but at the same time i also dont wanna start up the conversation again because that also makes me anxious in itself.

also doesn’t help that there is an ocean between us but god i wanna give her the world and everything i can offer but i have no idea if that would even be enough XD

anyway thats why u write self indulgent fanfics everyone! you’re in control of both characters and you decide everything, no second person needed XD

sorry for dumping this i am just sorta screaming in the void atm XD

-🌌

this is gonna sound like a "mom" answer but I swear on my life it comes from a lot of long distance relationship experiences but- Don't go for long distance relationships ever. Yeah sure there's always that chance that one of you will be able to move, it'll be a perfect Disney ending and crap but lets face it that's incredibly rare and unless either of you two have work/schooling that will bring you into closer areas, it's really only a recipe for heart ache. There's nothing wrong with staying friends but I would highly advise against seeking romantic validation from someone far away. But also it's 100% legit to ask this person what they liked about you or what traits made you likable. It's a little of a confidence boost as well as being able to identify your strong suits in social situations. Bc if you guys were at least friends (I'm hoping so if you were so infatuated with her) then having a conversation like that isn't all that weird. I know it's not like a fun answer but take it from someone who had more than enough long distance relationships. They are not worth pursing.

as well as the fact you shouldn't get so hung up on needing a partner. (yeah I know that's easy for someone who's married to say blah blah) but genuinely you should look into finding hobbies and things that put you among people with similar interests. Sure uni is one thing with classmates but finding a club you like, or a predominantly lgbtq+ group to mingle with and kinda network with would be super beneficial. Not only just getting to make friends or find people with similar interests but then you get to building meaningful relationships with people that might actually have similar intent like you (bc lets face it you can't just go up to random people and ask if they're gay even though it'd be soooo much easier) If anything then you come out with friends on the other end and that's always a positive

i know this is such a mom answer and really boring of a way to put it 😂 There's of course always dating sites if you really really really wanna go hard in the needing a partner category. But I've noticed as an old ancient fossil people gravitate towards individuals who are happy to be themselves and be with themselves. Takes a hell of a lot of work to wanna enjoy yourself I won't lie about that. But it's worth it once you enjoy your own company that finding people to surround yourself with comes a little bit easier. Again I'm so sorry this is such a boring parent answer I'm old and went through all that ldr and dating shit already and it is NOT worth it if I'm being honest 😅

[jonny-byerss]

Why Jancy Is Endgame

So, recently, I’ve seen quite a bit of Jancy hate which I literally don’t understand, because how can you look at Jancy and think “Wow, I hate them”...like, it genuinely baffles me that people don’t ship Jancy, like how? They have SO MUCH CHEMISTRY it’s unreal. In all three seasons, it’s evident that there’s something more between them than just ��monster hunting partners”. So, recently, I have been asking multiple people including my irl friends why they think Jancy is endgame and this is what I’ve come up with.

1.) The Duffers Aren’t Dumb

Even though quite a bit of people are disappointed with the way they’ve taken their writing, you have to admit one thing: they aren’t dumb. They’ve been setting Jancy up to be canon since S1, and fans have been rooting for them to get together since S1. It’s not until Steve’s turn-around that people started hating on Jancy.

Jancy is definitely more popular than Stancy for sure. To a majority of fans, even if Jancy isn’t their favorite Stranger Things ship, they still at least ship it. And, with the exception of hardcore Steve stans, most people who like Steve as a character admit that Jonathan and Nancy fit better together than Steve and Nancy ever did. We know the Duffers like to give in to what a majority of fans want, and Jancy seems to be what a majority of fans want.

There’s 3 core ships that the Duffers have been building up since S1. Those are Jopper, Jancy, and Mileven. It’s obvious in S1 that these ships are going to become canon eventually, and they’re also the three core ships of the show that people love. They also tend to focus on these three relationships quite a bit in their writing, with the majority of major relationship moments being with these three ships, especially Mileven. It’s obvious they want us to root for these ships.

The main point I’m trying to make is the Duffers have been setting Jancy up to be canon since S1. They have shown us many moments in all three seasons that show us just how much chemistry Jancy has. From the bed scene in S1, to the hallway scene in S2, they’re obviously trying to show us that Jancy is meant to get together.

Not only that, but Jancy was ACTUALLY supposed to be canon in S1. I don’t know how many people know this, but Steve was supposed to die in S1, and Jancy was supposed to get together. The writers liked Joe Keery so they decided they needed to find a way to keep him on the show. It’s clear to me that the writers themselves are rooting for Jancy, which means that they want us to root for Jancy too.

I’m not here to say how the Duffers should write the next seasons, and I myself don’t know what happens in the future seasons, but I do see the clues that the Duffers have given us since S1 and I also believe that the Duffers know what they’re doing. They know what the majority of fans want and it’s clear to me that they want us to root for Jancy, so obviously they’re gonna keep them together.

2.) THAT Ending Scene In S3

A lot of people that say “Jancy has no chemistry” clearly have not seen their last scene in S3. To me, that scene is a promise. A promise to each other and to us that Jancy is in it for each other.

In this scene, you can see that they are so painfully in love. They don’t want to leave each other. You can tell it breaks both of their hearts that they have to separate for a bit.

I could do a whole analysis of this scene, and I just might do that later, but to me, what they’re saying to each other is “We’ve been through so much together, why can’t we go through a little more?”

Sure, long-distance would be harder in the 80s, but I do believe that their love is strong enough to last. They clearly both love each other very much. And there’s always phone calls and letters and visiting each other on breaks.

When thinking of the LDRs that the Byers move caused, lots of people think of Mileven, but Jancy is actually way more likely to be endgame than Mileven at this point. We don’t know what happens in future seasons or if the Byers eventually move back, but we do know that Jonathan and Nancy are seniors in high school and almost 18. Mike and Eleven are barely starting high school and have more time to be apart than Jancy does. Once Jancy graduates, they can do whatever they want. Sure, one could say that Jonathan might feel an obligation to stay with his family, but we also know that he has an ambition for NYU. We have no idea what Nancy wants. I can honestly see her go to college for journalism or something similar. What’s to stop her from going to NYU or somewhere in NY with Jonathan?

We don’t know what the Duffers have in store for Jancy’s future, but I trust that they can give Jancy the perfect ending they deserve. That scene in S3 has so much underlying meaning to it, like the fact that the song that play in the background during it is called “You’re a Fighter”. I have a whole different thing planned on analyzing that scene, and I’ll post that later, but basically, with that scene, to me, the Duffers are trying to say “They’re in this for each other. They’re so in love that they’re going to make it work”

3) They are the most mature relationship on the show

I’ve seen quite a few people say that the argument they had in S3 is “proof they are incompatible” but that is simply not true. In fact, if anything, it shows how they are exactly the opposite. Here’s why.

So, every couple fights. It’s the ability to work through a fight and come out stronger and more understanding that shows just how committed a couple is to each other. Jonathan and Nancy are a prime example of this.

Jonathan and Nancy come from different backgrounds. This argument of “I’m poor” and “People are being sexist towards me” is a very adult argument. I mean, most teenage couples you see have fights about jealousy-type crap. Jancy’s fight is a fight that adults would have. That’s why I believe they are a very mature couple.

Not only that, but the key thing to remember is that they both admitted that they felt bad for what they said and apologized, reaffirming their commitment to each other. This is a fight that they can grow from as a result. Because they apologized and acknowledged their wrong-doings, they have a better foundation for understanding each other in the future and they can grow as a couple. This can also give them a perspective on life that maybe they didn’t think about before.

Honestly, Jancy has been through a lot crap together so they kind of have to be mature. Plus, Jonathan himself had to grow up faster than most children, which gives him a perspective on life that he most likely passed on to Nancy.

This is why I believe Jancy is the most mature couple. Instead of letting their fight get the best of them, they acknowledged their wrong-doings and became more understanding of each other as a result. It takes real maturity to do something like that.

The reason I compare them to the other couples is because, look at Mileven’s fight in S3. It seems sort of childish compared to Jancy’s. And Lumax has broken up 5 times apparently. And Jopper, gosh, they have a lot of issues to work out. Jancy seems to have effectively worked out their differences and become stronger as a result.

Charlie Heaton (Jonathan) himself said that when he first read the S3 script, he thought that Jancy seemed like a married couple, which I think says a lot about their relationship. They are so mature and comfortable with each other like that. He also said this, which basically sums up what I said, here:

4) They are more than just “shared trauma”

I’ve seen a lot of people criticize Jancy by saying stuff like “Shared trauma isn’t a good foundation for a relationship”, but I’m about to prove why that’s bullcrap, because Jancy is more than their shared trauma.

So, shared trauma seems to be what the writers like to point out about their relationship. In the ending scene in S3, Jonathan tells Nancy “We’ve got shared trauma”. He is referring to what Murray said to them in S2 when he was telling them why they should get together. Just because “shared trauma” is what Murray emphasized, doesn’t mean it’s their only foundation.

I’d quickly like to point out though, that shared trauma is actually a real life relationship trope and there are real-life couples founded on this. But, I’d also like to point out that Jancy’s trauma isn’t just any trauma. They didn’t just fight in Vietnam together or something, like it’s not every day your loved one gets kidnapped by an otherworldly demon.

I think the main emphasis that the show is focusing on when they say “shared trauma” is the scars. I mean, when Jonathan said that line in S3, he was touching Nancy’s scar that he shares with her. They are the only two people with those matching scars. Those scars are something that unites them and reminds them of the past they share.

Their “trauma” isn’t just how they met either. I mean, they obviously knew each other before the events of S1. Their brothers are best friends. I’m not saying they were friends or anything, but they were definitely acquaintances.

Their trauma is how they grew closer. I mean, before their first traumatic experience, they seemed to be getting on each other’s nerves a bit. It’s not until Nancy almost became Demogorgon lunch that they started realizing they could trust each other. After that, they realized they worked well together and they may or may not have fallen in love.

Also, let’s not forget all the flirting they did before their traumatic experience. The darkroom, even the target practice scene.

I think the key thing to remember with their trauma though is that, because they both went through similar experiences, they understand each other in that way. I mean, part of Stancy breaking up was because Steve didn’t realize the trauma she was going through and didn’t understand fully how to help her. Jonathan understood in a way what she was feeling because he went through something similar.

And yeah, shared trauma might not be a good foundation, because obviously there’s other things to consider in a relationship, but if there’s anything S3 showed us it’s that Jancy knows how to communicate and work through their problems, so clearly that’s not an issue for them.

5) The love triangle is done

I’ve seen some online articles that say things like “Now that Jonathan is gone, Nancy will go back with Steve”. I’ve even heard people say “Nancy will go with Robin”. Both of those are bullcrap.

First of all, Stancy’s arc is finished. S2 showed us how incompatible they were by showing how Steve hasn’t been a good support system for Nancy and showing that Nancy no longer loved Steve. Nancy obviously felt something more for Jonathan, who could support her in a better way than Steve could, because Jonathan had similar experiences. After they broke up, they were done. And when Jonathan and Nancy kissed the love triangle was over. It was solved.

I think most of the fans can agree that they are glad the love triangle was solved, that way Nancy’s story can be about more than just boys. It would be stupid for the Duffers to bring it back and it would ruin every ounce of character development that Steve and Nancy have gone through. And I am confident that the Duffers aren’t stupid.

Part of Steve’s S2 arc is getting over Nancy and accepting that she no longer loves him and even finding a friend in Dustin. Part of Nancy’s arc in S2 was realizing she should embrace that girl she was for a week in November 1983. She gets justice for Barb and even embraces her feelings for the school outcast. Nancy and Steve can still be friends, and even Jonathan and Steve, but that’s it. Nothing more. It’s been decided that Nancy doesn’t love Steve, she loves Jonathan. Even if Jonathan is far away, it’s possible to love him from a distance.

And about Robin and Nancy, it’s also highly unlikely. Again, I think most fans are tired of Nancy’s love life and love triangle and are glad it’s over. Adding Robin to the mix would make it even more complicated.

First of all, it’s not canon that Nancy is bisexual. The only canon LGBT character is Robin. It is implied that Will may be as well, but nothing has been confirmed.

I can see Robin and Nancy being good friends, but Robin did call her a priss in S3 and also, it’s like an unspoken rule in best-friendship that you don’t date their exes. Robin and Steve are best friends. This would break that rule.

I do know, based on leaked photos, Nancy and Robin most likely work together (maybe even with Steve) in S4. I believe, however, that the relationship is fully platonic. It would be nice for Nancy to have a friend that’s a girl after her loss of Barb, and Robin is a good person and would be a great friend for Nancy. I also believe, however, that Nancy is 100% dedicated to Jonathan (based on the last scene in S3) and will only be working with Robin (and maybe Steve) because they know something that would be useful.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is: Nancy’s love life arc has ended. It’s been decided that Nancy doesn’t love Steve and he can’t give her what she wants. And I think most Ronance shippers are just trolls, tbh. No one seems really serious about any Nancy and Robin relationship that’s anything more than platonic.

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And I think that about sums up why I believe Jancy is endgame. Jonathan and Nancy clearly love and care for each other very much as shown in all three seasons. Plus, there’s the fact that THEIR ACTORS ARE LITERALLY DATING IN REAL LIFE! (Seriously both Jancy and Natarlie are relationship goals).

I am extremely confident that even if Jancy does break up at some point, it won’t be for long and they’ll somehow find their way back to each other because they are soulmates. That is a guarantee. I have full confidence that the Duffers can give their relationship the perfect ending they deserve. I’d like to hear your guys’ feedback (please try to keep negativity away). Do you believe Jancy is endgame?

And here’s proof that Jancy loves each other:

[babyboy-ollie]

🛩 LDR Punishments ��

Hey babies! I wanna say first off that this is a 1000% SFW post! This post is NOT meant for the NSFW or kink community. When you’re in a long distance relationship and you little breaks the rules, it can be hard to think of ways to discipline them! Here you can find some ideas for LDR punishments!

Writing lines! The lines should be relevent to the rule that they broke. So if they have a rule against swearing and they break it, the lines should be something along the lines of “I will not say swear words”. The amount of lines should depend on how severely they broke the rule (Although it is ultimately up to you to decide). I would recommend no more than 3 pages of lines. Be sure that your little will be able to comfortably do this. If your little has problems with frequent pain then they might not be able to do this without it causing pain! For example; I can only write about a sentence or two before I start getting moderate/severe pain in my hands.

Early bedtime! If your little has a bedtime you could move it up an hour or two (depending on the time). So if bedtime is 11:00 pm, then they would have to go to bed at 10 or even 9 pm instead!

No sweets or candy! If your little has a sweet tooth then taking away candies and sweets can make a super effective punishment. This would be mostly based on a sort of honour system since you can’t actually be there to make sure they listen. If they break the punishment by eating sweets then you can extend the length of the punishment or add on a new one such as writing lines!

No TV or Youtube! Does your little watch a lot of TV or stream a lot of videos? If so, then this may be a really effective punishment! Again, this would mostly be based on an honour system. For littles with attention disorders I would tread lightly, and give a length of no more than one day. Some people need TV or videos to play in the background as white noise, or to help them focus on various tasks.

No toys! This punishment does NOT include comfort objects or stuffed animals. Comfort objects should never ever under any circumstances be taken away as a punishment. If your little really enjoys playing with toys (Dolls, blocks, cars, tea sets, etc.) then you can take them away for a day or so as punishment! (Again, honour system)

Have them write an apology! Have them write an apology letter to you for breaking the rule(s). If possible they can mail it to you afterwards as proof, and if they can’t mail it to you, have them send a picture of it once they finish! 

No Video games! Many littles enjoy playing video games, especially now that everyone is home a lot more than usual. Video games include everything from classic XBox or Play Station, DS or Switch, to games on their phone! Many games have an “Activity status” that lets you know when the person was last playing, so you could check throughout the day to make sure they haven’t been on. If they like to play mobile games then you can ask them to send you a screenshot of their screen time report to see if they’ve been playing the games.

Always always always make sure to clear any punishments with your little first!! Make sure that they are able to have a say in their punishments and express what they are and are not comfortable with. And never ever punish a little for relapsing if they have a mental illness. This means never punishing a little for self-harm, binging, not eating enough, saying negative things about themselves, etc.

[sapphicdalliances]

Dear Chocolatier,

thank you so much for being here!! my sincere apologies for the lateness and messiness of this letter! sorry about my incredibly inconsistent capitalisation! it has been updated on the 8th of january, and may receive more updates this week.

I’m a simple bitch with simple tastes; here is a general summary of my preferences, and fandom-specific notes and prompts can be found further down!

I very much enjoy:

Fics that are short, but imply a longer, deeper verse; since this exchange is for short fics, but some of my prompts seem expansive, I just want to give you carte blanche permission to dip into an AU, splash around in it, and simply not provide additional details.

Comedic tones, slice-of-life, lighthearted fun, any amount of improbable romcom tropes

Am also on board with misunderstandings and drama as long as there is a happy ending!

I’m deeply okay with AUs, and most likely would be down for any modern, romcom, fantasy/fairytale, gender swap, or remix/crossover AUs you feel inspired to explore! My favourite settings include mundane/urban fantasy (witches! werewolves!), anachronism-stew-with-magic western fantasy jumbles, and disney’s Tangled.

Writing tropes I love:

Proposal fic

Wedding fic where the couple getting married is not the main couple

Outsider/third character POV of the main couple

Exes who are still in love/getting back together

Friends-with-benefits-with-feelings/did a bad job keeping it casual

Shipfic where two or more couples are contrasted

Oblique declarations of love/saying i love you without saying i love you

Provision and caretaking (acts of service!)

Aggressive matchmaking/wingmanning by an enthused friend

Hanahaki, or any other improbably dramatic instances of Cannot Spit It Out

Arranged marriage/fake marriage/fake dating

Epistolary fic

Regrettably I also love a/b/o, especially the kind that emphasises on scent safety and contains little to no actual sex

Art tropes I love, if you offered art:

Art where the characters simply look fond.

Fashion remixes – street fashion, cultural/traditional clothes, festival clothes, renfaire-esque clothes, beach photoshoot, get wild with it

Putting animal characteristics on one or both of them

Botanical motifs + celestial motifs

When plants grow directly out of people

The thing where character A is focused on something they’re doing or seeing, and the character B is focused only, wholly, desperately on A. please… the Gaze

Depictions of intimacy where faces are partially or fully hidden, but the body language is gentle

Characters SLEEPING next to each other, or comfortably doing separate activities in each other’s presence

If you wish to get frisky with your fills:

Yes!

Go for it!

I don’t have strong top/bottom preferences (and usually enjoy it when they switch or are otherwise generally equitable) so whatever you’re in the mood for is fine!

Kink tropes I very much enjoy include oral, restraints, praise kink, when proud characters cry during sex because they love their partners so much, and xeno tropes.

I love non-horny sex scenes; comedic, silly, charged, fraught, or simply affectionate exchanges that happen to include sex are my favourite. Feelings are the real kissing disease.

But like, if you wanna get horny about it.

Chase your bliss.

They simply must be in love.

I’m not as into:

Kidfic

First person narration

Soulmate AUs specifically

Kink wise, my only major squicks are incest, teacher/student, and public sex/getting caught, but i’m also not super keen on daddy kink, toilet stuff, or anything with blades or needles.

In general, please avoid:

Character death or serious/permanent injury

Animal abuse or death

Infidelity

Hopeless or downer endings

Fandom specific info:

Haikyuu!!

changed my life, cured my depression, what can be said about it? truly one of the most important series to me of all time. all musings on craft and creativity aside, let’s focus on the TRUE LOVE!!

i’m all caught up with the manga and supplementary materials!

suggested prompts: - sakuatsu, being mean to each other on purpose vs. being soft to each other by accident - kagehina or iwaoi dealing with LDR - kyouhaba are forced to cooperate on an innocuous, preferably wholesome task, such as gardening, or finding the owner of a lost dog, and it goes approximately As One Would Expect - bokukuroo + overheard phone conversation: and you've slept together how many times now? hmm. yeah, that's not technically a bromance (not in a no-homo way, just in a we-are-both-so-stupid-and-like-each-other-so-much-way) - actually that overheard phone conversation would work for any of these ships.

suggested prompts, art-specific: - festival clothes!! - put some wings on some of them. now it's bird romance, which is for birds - (i lied, this isn't art-specific at all, wingfic is always welcome in any of its forms) - just pick up your whole boyfriend and carry him like that. maybe even kiss him.

Or please do remix it with any of my general tropes listed above!

Oofuri

suggested prompts: - Hanai and Tajima really. struggle to get together. for like a bunch of years probably? Tajima copes with it by patiently processing his emotions in a healthy way and enjoying some casual dating. Hanai copes with it, as he does all things, by not coping - The ways Abe and Mihashi learn to take care of each other… Mihashi cooking 4 Abe… T_T

Promare

i simply think the twink and the himbo are in love.

Ace Attorney

favourite klapollo dynamic goes like this:

klavier: *genuinely and sincerely in love with apollo, in a very soft way* apollo: *furious* he's mocking me. why are you like this? klavier: I enjoy your company apollo: FINE, KEEP YOUR SECRETS

also consider: - what if klavier was a big ol golden retriever and apollo was just an angry liddol bunny. like, think about it

Or please do remix it with any of my general tropes listed above!

Wotakoi

I love that this series has three couples in different stages of a relationship: one who’ve been together for years and love each other like well-worn grooves; one who have history but have only just recently begun a relationship and are discovering each other anew; and one who probably will not bring themselves to share a kiss for another 27 calendar years.

Narumi/Hirotaka: Honestly, the main couple of a series usually goes over my head a bit, but the more i thought about these two the more wretchedly fond of them I became. The thing I think of the most is how Narumi taught him how to smile as a child; how she did things that meant nothing to her, so easily does kindness come, but that meant so much to him; and how now that they are grown, he does things for her that take no effort, but shake her foundations. I think theirs is a love that grows quietly; something that cannot change the world, but can change them.

Koyanagi/Kabakura: My thoughts on these two are not complex, but they are deeply positive. I love how huge their personalities are, and how they fit around and against each other; I love the implication that despite their endless bickering, they are not an on-again-off-again kind of relationship, and have instead chosen each other over and over again for ten straight years. I love that despite everything, they are kind to each other, first and foremost; they find ways to apologise and to take care of each other, and treat each other gently in private.

Kou/Naoya: I love every ship in this manga equally but perhaps I love Kou/Naoya more equally than the other two? They are just so kind and so silly, and so sweet to each other in exactly the way both of them didn’t realise they were missing. I think about Naoya being told that Kou is “okay with being alone”, and realising that “okay with it” and “have accepted it” are different, and taking his little baby steps to fix it. I think about Kou giving Naoya every last drop of patience he’s trained himself not to accept, and doing so because it simply makes her happy. My only concern is that they are both bottoms. I don’t have a solution for this.

suggested prompts, fic:

- accidentally dating ft. Kou and Naoya, or, “and you’ve made out how many times now? Hmm. Yeah, that’s not technically a bromance.” - 5 times Hirotaka and Narumi almost, almost kissed, and 1 time they did; the unresolved romantic tension may kill me and it would be worth it - what Hirotaka and Narumi taught each other (apart from the more mundane gaming and life skills, i believe that she taught him how to smile and be loved by others, and he taught her how to be loved by herself!) - smutty domesticity ft. Koyanagi and Kabakura — a lazy Sunday, laundry in the sun, fucking on the couch, everything easy with familiarity - (addendum to above: pegging)

suggested prompts, art: - festival clothes - someone’s getting married - naoya: *hands kou a tangerine* *hands kou a tangerine* *hands kou a tangerine* *hands kou a tangerine* *hands kou a t - red string of fate motifs

Or please do remix it with any of my general tropes listed above!

Gekkan Shoujo Nozaki-Kun

seowaka: they are idiots, and they like each other very much, but they do not know. i love a tall crying boy and his short but much more powerful girlfriend.

chiyo/nozaki + chiyo/nozaki/mikorin: im rooting for her in the face of such overwhelming stupidity. one himbo is difficult enough to seduce but two. chiyo is a hero and a woman of rare courage. i like the pair and the trio equally; again, if you go with trio, it’s important that they all love each other please!

suggested prompts: - 5 times any of these ships went on a date without realising, and the time they realised - urban fantasy AU where Waka is a hapless monster hunter and Seo is an annoying but deeply harmless werewolf who’s been terrorizing his town?? - fairytale AU where Seo believes she must rescue the prince from the tower and deliver him back to the kingdom capital, and the prince, who had not realised he’d been kidnapped, thinks Seo is a usurper from a rival kingdom who must be supervised all the way back to the kingdom capital to be served her justice

suggested prompts, art-specific: - festival clothes… - nozaki carrying chiyo, who’s carrying mikorin - (seo carrying waka) - waka sleeping peacefully in seo’s presence… :’(

Or please do remix it with any of my general tropes listed above!

we made it through all the fandoms.

Thank you for making it to the end of this whole disaster; I hope at least one of the prompts sparked joy! The most important thing to me is that whatever you end up doing, you are able to enjoy the process at least somewhat, and deliver a creation that you like! I can also be found on twitter at @hawberries_ (for art) and @popplioikawa (for general ramblings). If you need some more inspo, I recommend going through my art tags for the selected ships because I put a lot of Opinions into my fanart.

[suganovakawa]

i'm reading thru all the rhi discussions and i also wanted to throw in my 2¢!!

first and foremost, high schoolers are mean. i know i was pretty mean in hs AND i've also been on the receiving end. i didn't really like seeing matsukawa hit iwaizumi but i understand the urge.

second, i think reader should just leave the relationship. this is more my experience but i was in reader's shoes once in high school and i wish i had the strength and support system to leave a very emotionally draining relationship. my idea that "love conquers all," even thru 4+ years of LDR, only made me resent myself for staying in that relationship for so long BECAUSE of the initial strain of LDR my senior yr in hs.

because your smau is so complex, i just wanted to point out that it's ok to leave a relationship like this. losing someone's trust and being emotionally involved with someone else (unknown, in this case) are good enough reasons to leave. iwaizumi can learn from his mistakes AND face his consequences at the same time.

also they're in high school lol. not saying that high school romance is dumb but there's a good chance reader can meet someone entirely different in/after college—someone who knows what a good relationship is supposed to be like ¯\_(ツ) _/¯

idr if it was an anon who mentioned this but i also like the idea of reader & iwaizumi breaking up in order to focus on themselves and maybe finding their way back to each other in the future.

i hope my ramblings made sense!!

yes they do!! thank you for your insight, it makes complete sense and i definitely get where you’re coming from.

i’ve never experienced it but i’ve heard that LDR is a very hard concept for some people—neither iwa nor y/n were prepared to spend any time apart since distance was never a problem they had to think about throughout their entire relationship.

so when iwa starts getting all secretive the moment y/n switches schools, that’s when she realizes just how bad it could get if he leaves japan.

again, thank you sm for this!! <3 this was a very insightful analysis