#pay attention; be engaged with the world and your community as best you can; and just stop... stop giving this shit oxygen

[medicinemane]

There's honestly... just so many people, just so so so so so many people in this world where I'm like... aren't you people tired of this fucking... you know, I was going to call them clowns but that's really disrespectful to clowns, these people could never get their face on an egg...

Anyway, aren't you tired of this childish jackass? Don't you just want to ignore them and never have to hear about them again? If we just ignored them they legitimately would go away... don't you want that?

And this applies to... just ungodly amounts of people, from jake paul to even elon musk (just... don't touch his shit, he'll run out of money eventually with how bad he is with it), to just... name an annoying famous person and you'll name someone I've literally forgotten right now that I could never have to hear about again if people would just ignore them (unless they committed crimes, investigators are welcome to pay attention while gathering a case)

Yet the answer's always "no, we're paying so much attention to them!" and I'm just like... why? Why would you watch jake paul box? I heard about that and was like "he's still doing that shit?", and yet I guess it made a lot of money yet again and it's just like... ignore him

These people could go away, and yet

[lifeonmarz-blog]

“IT GIRL” natal alignments

an attractive young woman who is perceived to have both sex appeal and a personality that is especially engaging.

Moon/Venus The emotional world is expressed in a pleasing way. You understand what a person needs without them having to communicate it with you. Very expressive with love nature your ok with expressing it to the world.

Mercury/Venus *Major Indicator* This is the most common aspect with popular attractive women. People relate to you through the way you communicate. They love to hear you talk even if it’s about basic things. Watching your social media just to see what your up too. This placement gives you a sexy rememberable voice.

Sun 10th Your personality is easier to read your view points may be more agreeable to the mass so it’s easier to create relationships. You enjoy being likable and agreeable. You know how to present yourself in a way that will get the best desired results. It may also be very easy for you to get jobs people may feel like they know you even if they don’t.

Sun/Asc loves being the center of attention and people enjoy giving you the attention. This aspect makes a person come across as very interesting with a busy life. People enjoy being around you because of your childlike bubblyness that just expresses whatever you want when you want. Others feel more confident being around you because of the confidence you exude.

Sun/pluto polarizing, magnetic and alluring is how I would describe this. Others have a curiosity about you. You may keep a lot of your thoughts and personal life to yourself and people pay attention to your life closing because they want to learn things about you. Everyone listens when you speak because you probably stay to yourself and don’t contribute in group conversations as much as others. The real appeal here comes from people not being able to have access to you.

Sun/neptune giving hope to the hopeless. You see the bright side to anything and make for a great person to share with. You listen and give the best advice you can. Your mind is very creative and others love when you share your visions with them. You can provide many creative solutions to problems.

Asc in libra you enjoy a simple life living the lap of luxury you prefer to keep a light hearted nature. You’re like a spa in human form.

Asc in Sagittarius you make the plans for your friend group because you know how to create the fun. Others love your spontaneity and ability to make friends with anyone. You have the gift of gab and it’s very charming.

Asc in Aquarius you’re really funny in a random who thinks of that kind of way. You don’t mind bluntly telling the truth and you shock others by doing that. People view you as someone that doesn’t mind sharing the information you know. You’re willing to try anything once and it’s inspiring.

Asc in Pisces you can adapt to any environment. You know how to connect with many types of people so you attract a lot of opportunities to you. The way you express your emotions has an addictive quality about it. Attracting people with your rawness in emotion or expressing emotions in a creative way. You know what to say to soften anger in others.

Moon in cancer your caring nature is easily felt. People feel at home around you. You know how to make others feel welcomed. You don’t put much pressure on others on how to behave and that allows them to drop their guard with you and just be.

Moon in Virgo reliability is a virtue you have. Reliability builds the foundation to long lasting relationships because trust is so important. You hold support to a high regard and that allows you to build sturdy relationships and that’s make people want to offer you the same support in return.

Moon in Capricorn being blunt and bout your business is what wins people over. Its refreshing to hear someone speak their mind so freely. You accomplish goals you never speak on and people are amazed when they see what you've been creating behind closed doors. This placement also gives clean girl aesthetic. Also you probably love black clothing.

Moon in Pisces Dreamy ofc, with a quirky sense of humor. You don't mind laughing at yourself so its easy for people to let their guard down around you. You look approachable and usually are. There is so many ideas in your head and people love to hear them. Your very self motivated and it rubs off on the people around you. Because you don't have ulterior motives and its easy to see in you, its very easy for you to make friends quickly.

Venus in 9th Redefining what love looks like, you may be unconventional in expressing the way you love but it cant be denied that you do love. People admire the way you can blend in with many different groups. When you travel people can wonder how you got to have certain experiences in a country you just got to.

Venus 10th You meet traditional beauty standards. Being conventionally attractive brings in attention from a mass amount of people. People love the way you dress and copy your outfits. This is the girl that is saved in a lot of Pinterest boards.

Venus in 11th Popularity comes to you easily. People see you and want to be your friend. Venus hear gives you the gift of gab. Your voice is disincentive and draws people in. You come across friendly and bubbly full of energy and fun.

Venus in 12th Mystery is how you captivate. People unconsciously try to get your love and attention. Your personal life is private and people feel like you live a interesting secret life, rather that's true or not its assumed and they want to get close to you because they see not a lot of people can. They want to know what happens in your world.

How many did you have?

[headspace-hotel]

i'm...thinking about writing a book?

I mean. I feel really silly at the thought because i'm not like a scientist or anything, i'm barely at the beginning of my knowledge journey, but...being a writer was what I always wanted to do. It's what I've been doing ever since I could remember. And I'm constantly, constantly just so full of things that I want to tell the whole world. I will have a realization or idea and think, oh my god. Everyone needs to know this. But I can't tell everyone. I'm not good at talking.

I'm good at writing. But I will sit down to write a post on my silly little blog and get so overwhelmed by the SCALE of everything I want to say.

I think I've already started to write a book. I think the space for these ideas to fill is already the size of a book and it will never have any smaller of a size, and no one else will come along to write the book, and no one else CAN write the book, and IT HAS TO BE WRITTEN.

I want to write about the ways of the plants, of course. I want to teach how to transplant and how to gather seeds and the properties of keystone species...but more importantly, I want to write about how to learn the ways of the plants. I want to promote the habit of insatiable curiosity and intense observation. I want to show everyone that everything everywhere is infinitely interesting and mysterious, and if you pay attention to the plants, they will teach you.

I want to write about Symbiosis. I want to write about how we are connected to every other thing, how we have our own ecological niche as Caretakers, and our own special adaptations of curiosity and love. I want to write about how the ecosystem needs us to participate in it, not to cut ourselves off from it, and how our powerful influence on ecosystems can be for good or for bad. We are not a disease. We are a Keystone Species.

I want to discourage this Euro-centric idea that sees humans as separate, and recommend more reading from indigenous points of view that understands ecosystems better and sees humans as participants in nature, engaging in a reciprocal symbiotic relationship. I want to speak against all this talk about removing humans from half of the Earth or reducing the human population, and show other people that despair and fear make you paralyzed and powerless, but hope is powerful.

The most important and powerful thing you can do for your ecosystem is to love it. It is necessary to have hope for the future—to learn to imagine a future of restoration and renewal, and to build community with other people working toward that future.

If we don't imagine a future for our ecosystems, imagine them boldly and audaciously in ways that feel crazy and impossible, those futures will not happen. But just the act of saying, "This WILL happen. We WILL be okay." gives you the strength and energy to fight and it gives you the creativity to come up with solutions you never could have thought of before.

And I feel I have to explain, how did I end up listening to plants? And how did the teachings become so important that I had to write about them? There's this black, swallowing abyss underpinning all of who I am, some intimation of a reality so terrible the human spirit breaks beneath it. I had a mental health crisis back in 2021 where I was pulled deep into that abyss, and when I started rescuing little plants and caring for them, I was basically re-learning how to be human.

I feel like I was seeking answers to "How am I supposed to live in this world?" in the natural world because the human world of poetry and books and articles and think-pieces had utterly failed me in that regard. I had taken multiple poetry classes where I had read all the best contemporary poems, and all the poets just wrote flat, plodding, blunt descriptions of their trauma and despair. Nothing is wrong with these topics, but the worst part was how these authors didn't even take themselves seriously; they had to be detached and ironic about their own pain, like a snarky dystopian novel hero who jokes casually about the horrific reality they live in so the reader knows that this reality is normal and unremarkable to them—and even more importantly, that the hero is ironic and cool instead of responding in a vulnerable, human way.

And speaking of dystopian novels...there were a lot of those! It was like all the visions of the future I had read were dystopian. Even I had been writing a dystopian novel. But I realized that I wasn't wise enough to tell that story yet. I didn't know why at first. But then, as I was reading everything people were writing about climate change, I began to realize.

I saw a lot of patterns between the way people wrote about climate change and the tendencies of self-harm and self-defeat that gnawed inside me. Suicide was something that I had never struggled against, but I understood that suicide was only the most striking manifestation of a self-annihilating way. Sometimes you feel like by hurting yourself, you are being transgressive, exercising autonomy against an absolute, crushing reality. It doesn't have to be physical hurt; it can just be deciding no one will like you and denying yourself love, or thinking "Well, there's no use hoping for anything good to happen."

This is how people talk about climate change. They fantasize about extreme, horrific scenarios and talk as if the Earth is already dead and destroyed, and they talk about humans hatefully and as if they were a disease, and then congratulate themselves for seeing how bad it REALLY is instead of being in denial. It is easy for people to get attached to this and even get mad when someone suggests there might be hope, simply because self-harm can be very psychologically reinforcing.

It is common to call these responses "climate grief." But as I came into this very simple and quiet yet profound encounter with Nature, she had an answer to this philosophy that was perfectly gentle and placid and yet caustic enough to strip paint:

"HOW CAN YOU WISH FOR THE STRENGTH TO GRIEVE THE EARTH, WHEN YOU WERE NEVER STRONG ENOUGH TO LOVE IT?"

I realized, with a breaking heart, that I had always hated and resented my back yard and my home town, because it was an ugly place that seemed to me "Already destroyed," and my soul ached for woods and wilderness.

It had taken me 20 years to fully admit my love of nature, because I felt like there was no point in acting upon it—everything would get destroyed anyway.

I had not been brave enough to love the woods across the road, the creeks and the hills, because they were so fragile in a world that didn't respect them, they could be destroyed by some housing development at any time. So I just accepted that it was already a lost cause.

But it was time to be brave enough—not to accept despair, but to choose hope.

To grow up, first we had to become strong and get rid of silly beliefs like hope and fairness and love. But now, we have to become even stronger and start believing in those things again.

[thejournallo]

Explain the basic: Shadow Work

As always, I will love to hear your thoughts! and if you have any questions, I will be more than happy to answer them! If you liked it, leave a comment or reblog (that is always appreciated!). if you are intrested in more method check the masterlist!

Desclaimer: Everything I will talk about is information that I got from books and sites online and even videos on YouTube. In my years of practice, I learned as much as I could out of curiosity and what works best for me. I suggest you do the same by learning as much as you can on your own (I will be here making posts teaching this kind of stuff) from multiple sources.

Shadow work in witchcraft refers to the practice of exploring and integrating the darker, often unconscious parts of oneself. This concept, which has roots in Jungian psychology, involves confronting and working through repressed emotions, fears, and desires that can influence behavior and spiritual well-being. For witches and those practicing modern paganism, shadow work is a means of personal growth, healing, and achieving a more balanced self.

What is Shadow Work?

Concept and Origins

The term "shadow" was popularized by Carl Jung, who described it as the unconscious part of the personality that contains repressed weaknesses, desires, and instincts. In witchcraft, shadow work involves delving into these hidden aspects to gain a deeper understanding of oneself and to heal from past traumas. (Do not take it as a substitution for a professional therapist.)

the Purpose is:

Self-Awareness: Gaining insight into one's unconscious motivations and behaviors.

Healing: Addressing and healing from past wounds and traumas.

Integration: Bringing the shadow into the conscious mind to achieve a more balanced and whole self.

How to Do Shadow Work in Witchcraft

Preparation

Safe Space: Create a physical and emotional space where you feel safe and comfortable. This can include an altar, candles, crystals, and other personal items.

Set Intentions: Clearly state your intentions for undertaking shadow work. This could be written in a journal or spoken aloud as part of a ritual.

Techniques

Journaling: Regularly write about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Focus on patterns, triggers, and recurring themes in your life.

Meditation: Practice meditation to quiet the mind and become more aware of your inner world. Guided meditations specifically for shadow work can be helpful.

Dream Analysis: Pay attention to your dreams and record them. Dreams can provide insight into the unconscious mind.

Tarot and Oracle Cards: Use tarot or oracle cards to explore your shadow. Specific spreads can help reveal hidden aspects of yourself.

Rituals: Perform rituals that focus on introspection and healing. These might involve candle work, invoking deities or spirits associated with transformation, and symbolic acts like burning written fears or burying objects representing old wounds.(Do not even think of doing this without the right preparation first!)

Mirror Work: Spend time looking at yourself in the mirror, speaking affirmations, and acknowledging both positive and negative aspects of yourself.

Integration and Healing

Acceptance: Acknowledge and accept all parts of yourself without judgment.

Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion and forgiveness for past mistakes and behaviors.

Therapy: Consider professional therapy if needed, especially when dealing with deep traumas or difficult emotions.

Continual Practice

Shadow work is an ongoing process rather than a one-time task. Regularly revisit and update your practices to continue growing and healing.

Tips for Effective Shadow Work

Patience and Persistence: Shadow work can be challenging and emotional. Be patient with yourself and persistent in your efforts.

Support System: Have a support system in place, whether friends, family, or a community of like-minded individuals.

Self-Care: Engage in regular self-care activities to balance the intensity of shadow work.

Balance: Ensure you balance shadow work with other spiritual practices that uplift and energize you.

Shadow work in witchcraft is a profound journey of self-discovery and healing, leading to greater self-awareness and spiritual depth. By embracing both the light and shadow within, practitioners can achieve a more harmonious and integrated self.

[pearlprincess02]

you and your siblings: 3rd house ruler in 1st house

you and your siblings' bond: frequent disagreements, shared sense of humor, competitive spirit, early morning wake-up calls, loud conversations, borrowing clothes without asking, inside jokes, shared secrets, teaming up against parents, road trips filled with bickering, protecting each other from bullies, sharing music playlists, fighting over the remote, tag-teaming chores, collaborative creative projects, sharing embarrassing stories, teaching each other new things, lending money (& forgetting to pay back), giving unsolicited advice, planning surprise parties, constant comparisons, sibling rivalry, jealousy & resentment, blaming each other, fighting over who gets the front seat, disrespectful comments, trying to outdo each other, withholding information, gossiping about each other, ignoring each other, disregarding boundaries, stealing each other’s things, interrupting each other, blaming each other for failures, criticizing each other, trying to control each other, withholding affection, making fun of each other, competing for parental attention, trying to be the boss

3rd house in signs

aries 3rd house ruler in 1st house (mars in 1st house)

with your aries 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, you and your siblings are a dynamic and energetic force, always ready to embark on new adventures together. you’re known for your fiery personalities, where sibling rivalry fuels a competitive edge that pushes each of you to be your best. communication between you is direct and often bold, with no room for sugarcoating. you're the trailblazers in your family, always the first to try something new or break away from tradition. despite the inevitable clashes that come with such strong-willed individuals, your loyalty to one another is unwavering, and you always have each other's backs.

siblings trope: the rivals, the dynamic duo, the frenemies, the protective sibling, the black sheep

taurus 3rd house ruler in 1st house (venus in 1st house)

with your taurus 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is grounded and steadfast, marked by a strong sense of reliability and loyalty. you share a deep connection that reflects in how you present yourselves to the world—solid, dependable, and often in harmony with one another. communication between you and your siblings is clear and direct, with a focus on practical matters and shared values. there’s a natural ease in how you relate to each other, often finding comfort in routine and familiarity. your bond is characterized by a steady support system, where each of you knows you can rely on the other in times of need.

siblings trope: the reliable sibling, the sensual sibling, the stubborn sibling, the practical sibling, the materialistic sibling,

gemini 3rd house ruler in 1st house (mercury in 1st house)

with your gemini 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is lively, communicative, and full of curiosity. you all share a quick wit and a love for exchanging ideas, often engaging in animated conversations that cover a wide range of topics. the connection between you is immediate and dynamic, and you influence each other’s perspectives and personalities. your sibling bond is characterized by a constant flow of information and a mutual appreciation for learning and exploration. together, you create a vibrant and intellectually stimulating environment where you all thrive.

siblings trope: the chatty sibling, the trickster sibling, the gossip girl sibling, the best friend sibling, the competitive sibling,

cancer 3rd house ruler in 1st house (moon in 1st house)

with your cancer 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is deeply nurturing and emotionally connected. you share a protective bond, often looking out for one another with a sense of familial duty and care. communication between you is intuitive, with an emphasis on understanding and empathy. your connection feels like an extension of your own identity, with family values and traditions playing a significant role in shaping who you are. there’s a comforting familiarity in your interactions, making your sibling bond a source of emotional support and security.

siblings trope: the nurturing sibling, the moody sibling, the clingy sibling, the protective sibling, the sensitive sibling,

leo 3rd house ruler in 1st house (sun in 1st house)

with your leo 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is vibrant and full of warmth. you share a strong sense of pride in each other, often acting as each other’s biggest supporters and cheerleaders. communication between you is lively, with a flair for the dramatic, making every conversation feel engaging and memorable. you each bring out the best in one another, often inspiring confidence and creativity. your sibling bond is marked by loyalty and a mutual desire to shine, with each of you taking center stage in the other’s life, celebrating achievements and encouraging bold self-expression.

siblings trope: the star sibling, the dramatic sibling, the bossy sibling, the loyal sibling, the attention-seeking sibling,

virgo 3rd house ruler in 1st house (mercury in 1st house)

with your virgo 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is grounded in practicality and a shared sense of responsibility. you approach communication with a focus on detail, often engaging in thoughtful and analytical discussions. there’s a natural tendency to help and support one another, whether it’s through advice, organizing tasks, or solving problems together. your bond is characterized by a strong work ethic and a mutual respect for each other’s strengths. you find comfort in routines and enjoy collaborating on projects that require precision and dedication, creating a reliable and supportive sibling dynamic.

siblings trope: the critical sibling, the practical sibling, the perfectionist sibling, the helpful sibling, the worried sibling,

libra 3rd house ruler in 1st house (venus in 1st house)

with your libra 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is marked by harmony, balance, and a strong sense of fairness. communication between you is often diplomatic, with a natural inclination to avoid conflict and keep the peace. you enjoy sharing ideas and collaborating on creative projects, with an emphasis on beauty and aesthetics. your sibling bond is characterized by mutual respect and a deep understanding of each other’s needs and perspectives. together, you strive to maintain a sense of equilibrium, supporting each other in finding balance and making thoughtful decisions in life.

siblings trope: the diplomatic sibling, the people-pleaser sibling, the indecisive sibling, the charismatic sibling, the fair-weather friend sibling,

scorpio 3rd house ruler in 1st house (pluto/mars in 1st house)

with your scorpio 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is intense and deeply rooted in trust and loyalty. communication between you is profound, often touching on subjects others might shy away from, and there's a strong intuitive connection that allows you to understand each other on a deep level. you share a powerful bond that can sometimes be mysterious or secretive, with a mutual desire to protect and support each other. there may be an element of competition, but it only serves to strengthen your connection. together, you face challenges with resilience, always emerging stronger and more united.

siblings trope: the mysterious sibling, the intense sibling, the jealous sibling, the loyal sibling, the secretive sibling,

sagittarius 3rd house ruler in 1st house (jupiter in 1st house)

with your sagittarius 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is full of adventure, enthusiasm, and a shared love for learning. communication is lively and expansive, often revolving around big ideas, philosophies, and dreams of exploration. you and your siblings inspire each other to broaden your horizons, whether through travel, education, or new experiences. there's a strong sense of independence and a desire for freedom in your bond, yet you remain close-knit through your mutual respect for each other's journeys. together, you approach life with optimism and a thirst for knowledge, always ready to embark on the next great adventure.

siblings trope: the free-spirited sibling, the optimistic sibling, the blunt sibling, the adventurous sibling, the philosophical sibling,

capricorn 3rd house ruler in 1st house (saturn in 1st house)

with your capricorn 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is grounded, practical, and built on a strong foundation of mutual respect. communication between you is serious and purposeful, often focusing on goals, responsibilities, and long-term plans. you and your siblings may share a sense of ambition, pushing each other to achieve and excel in your respective paths. there's a strong sense of duty and support within your bond, as you look out for each other's well-being and success. together, you face challenges with resilience and a shared determination to build a stable and prosperous future.

siblings trope: the responsible sibling, the ambitious sibling, the disciplined sibling, the traditional sibling, the serious sibling,

aquarius 3rd house ruler in 1st house (uranus/saturn in 1st house)

with your aquarius 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is unique, innovative, and characterized by a shared love for unconventional ideas. communication between you is open, intellectual, and often filled with discussions about the future, technology, and social issues. you and your siblings encourage each other to think outside the box and embrace individuality. there's a strong sense of camaraderie and mutual understanding, even when your perspectives differ. together, you explore new concepts and push boundaries, always supporting each other's quest for knowledge and personal freedom.

siblings trope: the eccentric sibling, the independent sibling, the rebellious sibling, the intellectual sibling, the detached sibling,

pisces 3rd house ruler in 1st house (neptune/jupiter in 1st house)

with your pisces 3rd house ruler in your natal 1st house, your relationship with your siblings is deeply intuitive, compassionate, and imaginative. communication flows naturally, often involving emotional sharing and creative expression. you and your siblings have a strong empathetic connection, understanding each other’s feelings without needing many words. there's a shared love for exploring dreams, art, and spirituality, which enhances your bond. you support each other’s emotional needs and offer a safe space for each other’s vulnerabilities. together, you navigate life’s ups and downs with a sense of unity and a mutual appreciation for each other’s unique perspectives.

siblings trope: the dreamer sibling, the sensitive sibling, the escapist sibling, the intuitive sibling, the secretive sibling,

[sunflowervoltwentyeight]

Happy 28th! Here is my January 2024 fic rec, organized by word count, from longest to shortest. You can view my other fic recs here. Enjoy!

It's Fine To Fake It 'Til You Make It ('Til It's True) by sunflouwerhabit / @sunflouwerhabit (150k)

Harry Styles @HarryStyles_KE hi again! so, i wanted to apologize one more time for the whole “helogogjs good gksdjid” thing, and also say that i didn’t just accidentally open your DM’s when i wasn’t paying attention earlier. i sort of had a question about a tweet you posted yesterday? like. the whole “rent a boyfriend” thing? is that something you were serious about? and if so, how does one come to hire you to be their boyfriend? i’m, um, asking for a friend

*****

Harry dreads an impending visit to his hometown, where he’ll be forced to reunite with a newly engaged ex-boyfriend, a childhood best friend turned near stranger, and a family who never understood just how desperately he needed to leave.

In the midst of it all, a ludicrous Twitter proposition brings him to Louis.

(Almost) Exes-to-Lovers (Series) by nonsensedarling / @absoloutenonsense (93k)

Been Waitin' (After Weekend After Weekend After) (3k) Louis and Harry meet at a laundromat. Part 1 of (Almost) Exes-to-Lovers When the Trouble Comes (89k) The Queens Trafficking case is the biggest one of Louis’ FBI career so far; eleven reported missing girls all disappeared under a similar set of circumstances. Louis has done everything he can to try and solve this case over the last nine months… while also absolutely ruining his marriage. Harry has been co-host of Banter at Breakfast for five years, and finally has the opportunity to create his own radio show with the network. Unfortunately, it comes at a time where Harry’s thoughts are consumed with his impending divorce from his (caring, loving, infuriatingly thoughtful) husband of eight years. Harry and Louis have both been willing to lose themselves in their work… but are they willing to lose each other? * Or a story of (almost) exes-to-lovers. Part 2 of (Almost) Exes-to-Lovers

And Down the Long and Silent Street by whimsicule (86k)

The year is 1881 and if you’re alone in this world you might as well be dead, because starving dogs have no mercy.

Or: Wherein Louis and Harry are on the opposite ends of the social ladder, but their paths still cross on the filthy streets Louis calls his home. The odds are staked against them from the beginning, and even more when Louis' past finally catches up with him.

Baby Steal My Heart Away by Snowy38 (61k)

Louis headed into the hall, seeing the Moses basket right away.

"Wah-wah-wahhh!"

Was that...

Fuck.

It was. It was a baby! A loudly crying, clearly unhappy-actually properly distressed baby. It was already red in the face and--

Why was there a baby?

He looked up and around, palm flattening to his forehead to push his scruffy hair away from his clammy skin, checking he wasn't being punked.

Light Me Up, Put Me on Top by CuckooTrooke / @larrydoinglaundry (24k)

Harry takes Louis back to Northern Europe to experience his first Nordic Christmas in their beloved cabin, surrounded by nothing but peace and snow. So much snow.

Short "spin-off" to 'Love is a word, you gave it a name' universe. Takes place after the second part of the main story, but before the final epilogue.

Part 3 of love is a word, you gave it a name

No One Like You by myownspark (19k)

Dear Niall,

I was glad to have the chance to talk with you again at the AHA conference. Your idea that the Musee D’Orsay Tomlinson painting is in fact not a self-portrait is an intriguing one, and I may have discovered something that will have a bearing on that theory.

Some background: as you may remember, I’ve been researching for a book I’m writing about Harry Styles. I’ve been in communication with Styles’ last living descendant, who is in possession of a trunk that her family believed to have belonged to Styles himself. It held some personal items she presumes to be his, including two unmounted paintings and a small collection of letters.

Upon spending the last few days in Provins studying these items, I believe there to be a connection between Tomlinson and Styles, and I would very much like your opinion.

Are you up for a trip to France?

Sincerely, Liam Payne

Where Liam and Niall are art historians discovering the truth about two nineteenth century painters on opposite sides of an artistic divide.

[datcravat]

What is

Ghost Trick: Phantom Detective is a cult classic puzzle video game published by Capcom in 2010 for the Nintendo DS. On June 30th 2023 the game was re-released in HD for the Nintendo Switch, ps4, Xbox, and PC. An iOS port is also available. The game has never been more accessible and I couldn't be happier about it. Now almost anyone has the chance to experience what in my opinion is the best story ever told in gaming. It's a murder mystery where you play as the victim to find out who killed you and why, using your limited ability to interact with the physical world as a ghost to communicate with people and save lives along the way. The lore, gameplay, characters and story are all intrinsically linked in the most stunning case of ludo-narrative cohesion I've ever witnessed. The game also rewards the player very much for paying attention to little things - interesting ways a character may act, strange lines of dialogue, the ways things are animated - it all pays service to the story, and thinking about why things are the way they are can help you discover the mystery in real time. This; alongside the larger than life characters, stunning visual design (a unique mix of anime, cartoon and film noir), satisfying puzzles and deeply atmospheric soundtrack make for a delightful, engaging and rewarding experience

[silent-sanctum]

Can I ask for a story in which Jotaro wants to confess but he just doesn’t know how to since the reader is just a kind and gentle soul and he’s the total opposite, and the crusaders, especially Kakyoin and Polnareff, give him advice on how to confess to the reader? 💕

ask and you shall receive anon :>

Only You - Jotaro x Reader

word count: 3.2k

The night had fallen, blanketing the world in a veil of starlit darkness. Besting 2 enemy Stand users, the Crusaders took solace in a remote island on the Red Sea just before traversing to Egypt.

And sitting around the warmth of a crackling bonfire, the group rested that night, each having their own way of spending the provided spare time- Joseph speaking with a Speedwagon Foundation personnel regarding a method of transportation, Avdol shuffling through the dusty books from a nearby cabin, Kakyoin and Polnareff engaging in a hearty conversation-

And Jotaro listening to you sharing more lighthearted bits of your past to him with a flow akin to a fountain smoothly letting out fresh water to cool his tired and dried-out mind. Though admittedly, he found it harder and harder for him to pay attention.

Was he to blame when all he took in from you was your soft soothing voice calming his ears, the contrasting gleam in your expressive eyes, the genuine smile formed by your pink lips?

All those pieces of you had impacted him in some way or another even at the start when you met at that rooftop. Back then, he found you confusing yet intriguing. Midway in the trip, Jotaro found himself caught in the light of comforting kindness and understanding seeping through your outgoing bravado, one that touched his heart no one could.

And he ended up completely enthralled, compelled to make you happy and safe in ways he could the moment he witnessed you breaking down into complete vulnerability and you opened up to him about your abusive past. You had thanked him wholeheartedly with tearful eyes and it struck him.

For the first time, Jotaro admitted to himself that he wanted to hold you close for a long time, to be with you even after this journey ends and they returned to normalcy.

He… liked you.

But how could he say such thing to someone such as you? You were so different from him; Where you were the warm sunshine in a blossoming spring, he was the chilling wind in a frigid winter. The headstrong angel and the lenient devil. The yin and yang.

The social darling and the reclusive delinquent.

Would she even consider someone like him as hers? It was a hard tell because you got along with everyone so well, but at the same time, you were sensitive to intimate, romantic relationships. This is hard. I can’t see what I can do in this situation.

While all his turmoil boiled within him, someone tapped him on the shoulder, bringing him out of his trance. “I’m gonna speak with Avdol and Mr. Joestar for a moment, alright?”

Blunt as ever, he spoke without looking. “No one’s stopping you.”

You smiled and left to join the older adults as simple as that, leaving him to wallow in his newfound feelings by himself. He watched you skip over to Joseph and Avdol just as the old man finished his call, opening communication while they discussed it elsewhere.

Jotaro sighed a deep exhale, nearly groaning to himself as he hunched over with clasped hands. “This is harder than I thought…”

“Hey Jojo,” he lifted his head by a bit to frown at the ever-intruding Frenchman Polnareff and his fellow batch mate Kakyoin. “You looking a bit worked-out. Everything good?”

“What do you want?” Jotaro asked, short and sharp. He still had to deal with accepting these sappy feelings in him; the least he wanted right now is 2 other people adding to his problems.

He followed the cherry-haired student’s movement as he sat down beside him with a knowing smile. “If I were to guess, I’d think our delinquent friend here is stressing over a certain girl in our group.”

Jotaro clicked his tongue. “You shut--“

Though before the delinquent could curse at him, Polnareff let out a prolonged “ah” of amusement. “Ohoho, is this what I think it is?” He plopped himself on the other side with a giddy demeanor that soured his mood. “Could it be… monsieur Kujo is finally realizing the classic j’ai le béguin towards our mademoiselle?”

“The fuck are you saying?”

“It means you’re finally accepting that you have a crush and much like in your fashion, immediately act on it,” Kakyoin supplemented with a pat on his shoulder, to which the raven-haired shoved off with rapidly warming cheeks.

“It’s not like that--“

“Non non non non~”, Polnareff wagged his finger sideways. “Deny all you want but you can’t fool a man hailing from the City of Love itself. I know and sense what a smitten man looks like from a mile away.”

“Besides, if you refuse to listen to Pol’s words, take it from me,” Kakyoin said. “Ever since our first boat ride, I’ve been keeping tabs on you and Y/N and we really can’t ignore the fact that you consistently… hover around her a lot like a satellite.”

Jotaro looked elsewhere, trying to recall whether he made the conscious decision to do that, but the student continued to his dismay. “And from what I’ve seen when it comes to her, you’re attentive to her needs and complacent to her sudden sparks of joy that would’ve annoyed you if it was someone else.”

“Right!” The Frenchman snapped his fingers. “Don’t forget how his eyes had this certain look of fondness one would give to a lover, and how he smiled more often when she’s around!”

It was one thing to come in terms with what his heart was telling him, it was a whole other thing hearing those words from his friends. As they kept on rambling on and on about all the lovey-dovey details they observed, Jotaro couldn’t stop his cheeks and the tips of his ears from fuming in embarrassment.

Was I really that invested in you Y/N? You made me do all these stuff with you and I somehow didn’t realize?

Visions of you flashed in his mind- a self-made film reel containing numerous moments of your flushed cheeks and radiant smiles directed at him, your confident and determined poise alongside your Stand faced against his enemies, your vulnerable figure pressed against his firm body with his gakuran draped over your shoulders, puffy cheeks, fluttery lashes, kneading hands, pouty lips-

Jotaro buried his face in his hands, thoroughly ashamed of his current state. “Fuck.”

“Called it,” Polnareff said. That smug piece of shit.

“What should I do then?” The delinquent snapped, dropping his hands to face his companions. “How do I make… this go away? I’ve tried everything from ignoring it to rationalizing it, but damnit it’s still here.”

“Have you thought of confessing?” Kakyoin suggested.

Jotaro cocked his head. “Confess?”

“Oh you know, where you approach the person of interest and say how much you--“

“I know what a confession is dumbass,” the raven-haired spat at an unfazed Polnareff who merely shrugged off his insult. “What I meant is how would that help me?”

“Well… you get to express yourself to the love of your life and at the same time release all those pent-up emotions within you instead of bottling it all in,” Polnareff said. “It’s hitting 2 birds with one stone!”

“Knowing you, I’m actually surprised you haven’t confessed earlier,” Kakyoin continued. “You seem like the type to get things done as soon as possible- you know, the directly-saying-I-like-you-and-waiting-for-feedback type.”

They had a point. Jotaro was aware he’s fully capable of saying his mind if he wanted without any filter and he could just say he liked you and your company, but when it came to you, it was more complicated than an average confession.

You’d been through a lot-- living through a toxic childhood, witnessing death, and coping through numerous betrayals- both platonically and romantically. Would that make me selfish if I were to say my feelings for you without considering that perhaps you needed more time? If I were to confess, would that make things awkward between us?

Would you grow distant because you weren’t interested in someone like me-

“Hey Jotaro!” He blinked and faced the Frenchman. “There you are again with the overthinking! Whatever you have in that brain of yours… stop.”

“Think of it like this,” the cherry-haired student crossed his arms. “Just say how you feel and wait; if she’s into you, then great. If not then… you shrug it off and remain friends.”

The delinquent scoffed, unconvinced. “Easy for you to say.” Sure, he hasn’t been in a relationship before and is shit at it to begin with, but at the very least he had some awareness of the side effects resulting from a friend-zoned confession.

“When you think about it, our reserved buddy here needs some tips on how to get-the-girl.” Jotaro side-eyed the adult beside him with clear judgement, to which said adult eyed him in return. “What? It’s better than saying ‘I like you’ as your usual overly crude self.”

“I don’t--“

“Alright listen up.” Polnareff slung his arm over the student’s shoulders with determination plastered on his face. “The way to ensure guarantee in winning a girl’s heart is to find a secluded area that’s scenic to set the vibe.”

“And then…” Jotaro cocked his brow, admittedly waiting for the continuation. “You whip out the flowers, speak your heart out and say- ‘Je n’arréte pas de penser a toi ma chérie!’ And then the fireworks explode, the crowd bursts into applause, and the musicians start playing in the back--“

The whole sentiment of the overly romantic French got cut short with a solid whack behind the head by the most anti-romantic in the group that was Jotaro himself. “Shut the fuck up with that. You’re not helping.” Polnareff pouted, rubbing the smacked area with puppy eyes.

“Since our friend here is too ambitious, perhaps I may pitch in an idea that could work better for you.” The delinquent turned to face his other side, hoping someone with a more gentlemanly attitude could provide actual tips.

“Pol’s right in one thing and that’s heading somewhere private. When you get there, you ease your way into the confession by starting things off with casual dialogue-- you open up a topic, maybe about the surroundings or a hobby, she returns it by talking about said topic, and vice versa.”

“And then-“ Kakyoin pointed a finger up to emphasize a point. “Weave that conversation leading up to the confession once you get into her good spirits. Finally, all you have to do is just say something in the lines of ‘I wanted to tell you something. It's a little hard for me to say, but I think you should know that I have feelings for you.’”

“After all, nothing’s more genuine than a simple statement of truthfully expressing your love without being too direct and sudden.”

The cherry-haired student probably thought he contributed something given how smooth and proud his tone was while addressing his “tip”, but Jotaro simply held the other student’s bicep and said--

“Kakyoin… look me in the eye. Do I look like I’m able to do whatever the hell you just mentioned?”

And his friend took one good look at him—an overly tall and awkward 17-year-old, with a face that screamed ‘I’ll beat you up’ on default, who barely knew how to sustain more than one sentence without involving battle tactics or corny one-liners.

With that assessment in mind, the cherry-haired man read his mind and let out one “ah” and left it as is. The Frenchman let out one short laugh. “Yeah Kakyoin. Clearly my idea was--“

“Same goes for you too dipshit.”

Said Frenchman let his mouth close shut.

“Jotaro! I have something to tell you!” All three men looked up to spot you skipping past stray shrubbery and trees until you paused before the delinquent. “Avdol introduced me somewhere that’s amazing. You have to come with!”

You peeped at the other two sitting beside him and flashed a shy smile. “Excuse us,” You reached to grab Jotaro’s wrist, prompting the latter to stand without question. “But I have to borrow Jotaro for a moment if you don’t mind,” you said, addressing both the raven-haired and his friends.

“No problems with that Y/N! Take your time with him!” Polnareff exclaimed, making hand gestures to shoo the both of you away.

You beamed and turned to your grumpy friend with an excited smile, tugging lightly at his wrist. “You’ll like it. Trust me.”

Jotaro’s cheeks might have warmed yet again as he turned his head elsewhere to cover it up. At least the private place is secured. “Let’s just go.”

Like an obedient overgrown wolf pup, the delinquent allowed your hold to remain around his wrist as you half-dragged him through the numerous tall grass and plant-life, careful to not trip on any protruding root or large stones, until you led him out a line of trees and onto a clearing.

And honestly, he was amazed even if he didn’t look like it.

It wasn’t anything out of the ordinary. A lone, lit lamp hanging on its post stood within the spacious area, providing the tiny hill in the middle of the island’s forest cozy amber lighting underneath the night sky filled with countless tiny stars.

You let go of him and walked over to sit at the middle, patting the ground beside you as you looked at him with expecting eyes. Jotaro huffed and complied, making himself comfortable on the dirt.

“When I said you’d like it, I was actually just making that up in front of the guys to look more confident, but I’m not sure if you actually like it. If anything, I might have just dragged you here for nothing.”

“I like it,” he said in an instant, not giving you a moment of doubt. He glanced at you and offered a small, reassuring smile. “Don’t worry.”

Your cheeks turned pink and sighed a breath of relief. “Here I thought I was being a bit much again.” Both of you sat in comfortable silence, your heads turned up to gaze at the sky, watching the stars twinkle amidst the darkness.

“Avdol said this area’s one of the spots near his cabin where he could meditate or read a book in when he was younger. It was nice of him to suggest a place like this out of the blue.” You reached your hand up, motioning as if it was wading water. “It reminds me of something…”

Jotaro watched you engross yourself in your sightseeing with quiet fondness, letting Star Platinum out to hover before you with wide eyes as he bowed his head.

You gasped for a second and in the next, you giggled in delight letting your fingers comb through the Stand’s flowy hair. “Jotaro, I have the night sky in my palms!”

He didn’t say anything in return, his mouth fixed as an uncharacterized smile of adoration directed at your joy. His cheeks stayed warm and his heart raced in his chest, and it struck him then. Confess. Let your feelings out.

With one wave of goodbye, Star disappeared into his user, leaving both of you alone with the gentle breeze and sounds of crickets faintly chirping in the evening.

“So,” you said with your head leaning on your shoulder to look at him. “Do you have anything to share in a beautiful night like this?”

“Uhm… I…” Shit. Fuck. How should I do this? Kakyoin and Polnareff did approach him about the topic, but none of them provided him a proper flow on how to execute this process. Should he just go for it? Or should he stall for more time?

For the first time in a while, Jotaro fumbled over his words with squinted eyes-- a habit he does whenever he gets flustered. “I… want to… I mean…”

His attempt of making a proper sentence stopped when a hand rested atop his on the grass between them. The delinquent stared at your hand, shifting to the soft smile on your face. “Do you want me to go first?”

He nodded once, gaze never leaving yours despite his embarrassment.

“I don’t know how to put it in a way that won’t cripple me with cheesy cringe and possible regret, but I might as well rip the Band aid off and get it over with.” You took in a deep breath and he felt your hand tighten around his.

Jotaro waited patiently for your words to continue, even as you broke eye contact and stared at your lap. “Ever since we started being friends, I… may or may not be feeling something when it comes to you…”

His breath faltered and his eyes widened at the revelation, a tiny huff of disbelief leaving his throat. You… had feelings for him?

You didn’t seem to catch his change in expression when you laughed nervously, shaking your head in a complete flustered mess. “I-I mean, that’s just my personal feelings or maybe I’m just feeling sentimental, o-or maybe I was too caught up in the vibe of the place I started blurting random shit—”

His lips curled into a knowing smile, his mind and heart syncing into doing what he wanted to do for the longest time. This makes it easier for me then to… “Listen! I completely understand if you’re uncomfortable with this. That’s just so I can let go some brewing emotions in me! You can just treat my blabbering platonically if that makes it better—”

You couldn’t say more as Jotaro took the initiative to lean forward and plant a soft yet firm kiss on your lips.

His way of confessing.

He drew back, slow and careful, gauging your reaction with hooded eyes to see how you responded. You froze on the spot, stunned and fuming pink all over. The delinquent cleared his throat and tipped his hat over his face to hide his own heated cheeks. “You really can’t shut up at all, can you?”

He figured that both parties had expressed what needed to be said, and he made a move to get up and walk away to recoil from his growing embarrassment. However, he let out a surprised sound as a hand yanked on his collar chain, pulling him to sit back on the grass.

At the same time, you threw yourself to him and gave him a firm kiss of your own, wrapping your arms around his neck and causing his hat to fall off his head. With the sudden weight, he held himself up with one arm behind him and used the other to wrap around your waist, holding you close to him as he reciprocated your gesture.

You pulled back an inch to let out a breathless giggle, pressing your forehead with his. “Mm I really can’t. Why don’t you shut me up more often then?”

Jotaro chuckled for once with a small playful smile. “You brat.”

“You ass.” You teased before leaning forward to slot your plush lips with his, gently pushing his head towards you the same time he sat more upright to allow his other arm to secure your body closer to him.

Just then, his heart swelled with unexpected joy underneath the glow of the stars, and all those emotions in him that had been vague and stagnant turned clear and into motion.

He liked you and you liked him back.

As simple as that.

[drbased]

DrBased's Top Ten Tips And Principles To Improve Your Thinking

In light of my recent exposure to the 'rational thinking' community, I figured it would be a good idea to share some of my principles that I apply to all the analyis/writing that I do. Let's gooooo

Assume that everything can be explained. And I mean everything. Think about it: literally every word we have, every concept, every phrase, every metaphor - all of it was invented by someone. Even the 'pros and cons' list. Language is built to explain the world, so use that to your advantage.

If you can't explain using the literal language, then try using metaphor. I have so, so many metaphors now to describe and explain my feelings; they have been instrumental in my ability to use language.

Humour yourself. Inside your head is truly a 'no stupid questions' zone - If you have a weird thought, make an odd little connection between things, notice something inconsequential: try humouring that thought, and take it to its logical conclusion. You'll be surprised what you find.

Don't be afraid to make up terms. I came up with the term 'symbolic state' because I wanted to describe a phenomenon that I had experienced in my mind that had no one-to-one descriptive word.

Don't worry about being misunderstood - the more you engage with point one, the more you'll find that being misunderstood is borderline impossible (except see point 10). Every time someone goes 'huh?' that's an *puke* opportunity to learn something and build on your understanding and ability to explain.

Being able to explain is being able to comprehend. Famously, one of the best ways to learn something is to teach. As per point 5, the more you explain something, the more you learn about gaps in your understanding, and from that you build a better explanation for yourself.

Everything is connected. That's the nature of being - we are necessarily connected by cause and effect. As per point 1 and 3, don't be afraid to humour the idea of a connection between certain phenomena.

Don't be afraid to generalise. Discussions of oppression wouldn't be possible without it. As much as everyone wants to believe they're a lone wolf, unaffected by their surroundings, sociological and psychological studies have shown time and time again that people are almost entirely influenced by their life circumstances and surroundings. Demographic edges might be blurry, but demographics are real.

Listen to your emotional responses to what you say. The more you practice this, the quicker you'll get at it. When you say something, pay attention to any feelings of discomfort you have - these might indicate some cognitive dissonance or inconsistency within you. That's telling you something about yourself! You're not a terrible person; this is an *puke* opportunity to tighten your understanding so you're never caught off guard. When you fully know yourself and your point of view, you can explain and argue fluently.

Understand that subjectivity is the nature of being human. You will never be fully objective, but that doesn't mean you can't learn to analyse and explain things as objectively as possible. Unfortunately, there's no guarantee that other people will fully understand you. Human beings shield ourselves in little psychological bubbles; you can explain a concept as clear as day to someone but if they're not invested in understanding it, then they simply won't (just think about how Dworkin's phenomenal work is boiled down to 'all sex is rape'). Eventually you'll learn to tell the difference between a failure in your communication and the other party's wilful misunderstanding of you.

Bonus 11th point: Practice. Dip your toes in. As per point 3, humour yourself - this is what we in the biz call 'fake it till you make it'. Except you're not really faking it because the process of building trust requires that stepping stone; acting like you trust yourself requires that you trust yourself, even a teeny bit. Every time you humour your own weird thoughts, you're communicating to your own ever-listening brain that you're allowed subjectivity. 'Humour yourself' is the principle I started with that got me to where I am now; it's literally life-changing.

[roblogging]

hii im asking your thoughts on something because i agree w a lot of what you say - i see a lot about the inherent misogyny in the fandom but not as much as the transphobia side of it. could you talk about it a bit?

below the cut for anyone who wants to skip 🫶🏻 (this is really long i'm sorry)

HI OKAY:

first of all, i dislike the use of the word inherent in these discussions - i don't think it applies. a fandom (made up of individual people) cannot be inherently anything in my opinion. and that includes misogynistic. if it were built ON misogyny/transphobia and everything and everyone followed those ideals then yes, we'd use the word. but it wasn't built on those and the presence of such things does not make them inherent. it's an individual basis.

it's a very typical view - one that i've discussed a lot before - that simply engaging with this fandom is transphobic. i (a trans man) have been called transphobic for engaging with jkrs world in non-profitable ways. so, if part of the argument is that it's inherently transphobic to be in the fandom when jkr produced the world, i refute that entirely. her views on many things may bleed into the original works and are the forefront of her "public image" but fandom does its best to alleviate the harm that causes. it's not separating art from artist, it's acknowledging that she's awful and creating a space where people from these harmed communities can still engage with something they love.

that being said,,,, yes. lots of transphobia in the fandom. BUT i think it's worthwhile to note that as a trans person with a platform, of course i see more of it. and though that might make me a better person to talk about it, it does mean i'm obviously subjected to it and see it more. i truly don't know how prevalent it is naturally, it just so happens that i see a lot of it.

not that i'm excusing it. because some of the things that have happened to me are fucking vile. but i think it the vast majority of it comes down to the eroding of fandom etiquette (and the rise of fandom on social media).

i posted a video about peter being friends with the marauders for example, and people disliked it. i got a lot of comments about my appearance because people disagreed with me, and i ended up being posted onto reddit truscum. which, if you aren't aware, essentially means they posted screenshots of me in makeup and debated how trans i am (see also: cis "feminine" sirius discourse). i had a notion page of fic recs that i made and put up because i thought it would be a fun and cute thing to do and i thought people would enjoy it. some disagreed with jegulus being on there and my irls had countless dms demanding to know what my deadname is. i've had to block it from my comment sections. if there are disagreements in my comment sections, slurs are thrown easily. i've been posted onto transmed pages because i posted a video talking about my experience on testosterone and i pointed out some of the negative things, which had led to me "not being actually trans because trans people wouldn't complain" (sorry that i don't particularly like shaving my tits ig. diy top surgery isn't particularly my goal). if i post about a ship people don't like, slurs are thrown.

or, my fav, i got multiple dms telling me that they feel as though trans people are "taking over the fandom" when i hit 10k. like??? god fucking forbid people who enjoyed these books as kids now feel comfortable engaging with them again??? god forbid we've made trans people feel welcome. and no, they aren't taking over. you're just paying too much attention to their identity. i truly don't think about the numbers on my account at all because traction means fucking nothing to me when i just want to yap and meet friends (like obviously, ofc so fucking grateful but it's not my goal or priority) but i fear i didn't get 10k for being trans, i got 10k because i'm generally a nice person who people like.

if i do *anything* that people disagree with, i'm subjected to transphobia.

because fandom etiquette is gone, because i'm confident in my identity, because i don't adhere to traditional masculine gender norms that cis men get praised for subverting, but i must just be a confused woman if i wear makeup, right?

i've definitely had my fair share of just,,, transphobia. like just people who dislike *me*, but 99% of the time it's just that people dislike my ships/hcs and instead of being a normal person and scrolling or engaging in something they enjoy, they know an easy way to get back at me. to get back at me for,,, having fun i guess.

and i could go on for ages about certain discourses, but i've said it all before on my tiktok (see again: sirius in makeup).

i think,,, there's a lot of transphobia in the fandom, from my experience. i think a lot of it stems from the fact that these spaces have become more prevalent on social media which is generally an awful place and horrible to trans people, and people can leave a comment and scroll without connecting the fact that it's an actual person.

but on the flip side, there's less transphobia than there is acceptance. i can post a yap and receive transphobic comments for the things that i've said, and i will delete those comments and watch as other people say that my voice sounds so different. or i can open up comments and see "you look so masc here", or i can reply to dms from people starting their own gender identity and be happy about the fact they thought of me to come to.

again, fandom has become more prevalent on social media. social media relies on traction, hate gets more traction than positivity, boom. we see the hate more.

i'm not gonna sit here and say it doesn't hurt. i'm not gonna sit here and say that there definitely isn't a transphobia problem in this fandom. because there is. but i'm also not gonna say that it's inherent, when every single person that i've connected with on a meaningful level, alongside a good 80% of the interactions i've had generally, has been nothing but overwhelmingly accepting.

the transphobia is there, but i won't be there to listen to it or entertain it. those clearly aren't the people i want in my bubble.

[rebornologist]

Gosh, do you know how much your works are valued??? I hope you do since for some, especially me, these works have been the only thing fueling my ten year long love for khr~ Anyways is it OK to request for college and romantic headcanons of Giotto?

♡♡ hiii dear! Thank you so much for your kind words. If you don't mind, I've just compiled all of my Giotto HC reqs instead of making multiple posts, since there is a (variable) amount of overlap between them.

♡ Giotto in College & in Love ✧

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Giotto was not particularly outspoken in class settings, but he was a fine student and fairly active and keen to engage with the local community. He went in undeclared and eventually settled into political science because it was simply what interested him, in addition to a lot of philosophy and some studio art electives. He’s a good writer, and can whip up a crazy effective grant proposal. He enjoys creating things with his hands, such as pottery, forging simple metal jewelry (namely rings), and painting. As he got caught up with work more, he got less and less time for those creative hobbies.

He participated in a lot of direct action groups on campus and ran for some position in the legislative branch of the associated student government. He had a group of close friends that included G and Cozart, and the group would be found floating around, sitting on grass in the quad or in the student community building’s meeting rooms, discussing various things that may or may not be related to student gov.

Giotto is a pretty hopeless romantic, in the way that.. he has a tendency to see the world through rose-tinted glasses, firmly believing in the good of humanity. While he romanticizes the grind, his partner would likely be the one that reminds him to take a step back and rest. He’s surrounded by people with big hopes and dreams, as he should, but it can be a little too inspiring. He’ll lose a lot of sleep because he spends time thinking about the good and the bad and the ugly and the beautiful.

His partner is always there to listen to him ramble about his hopes and dreams, but they’re also there to ground him, remind him to pay attention to them, to get ready for bed, snuggle up, meditate, literally anything to take his mind off of what his next move is. Sometimes, the next move should just be.. nothing, for now.

They remind him that they want to go into the ceramics studio next week, and he pauses. His breath is held still in his chest as the constantly turning gears slow almost to a stop, and he takes a moment to process before he exhales audibly, with a soft smile “...it’s been a while, huh?”

Initially, he was very formal in the way that he pursued his s/o-to-be. They started as colleagues or friends, and something about them just.. caught his eye. For being such a well-spoken man, he cannot put to words what exactly made him feel so strongly about them, but he feels it very viscerally. He opens doors for them, bringing them tea and coffee, gifting them a little painting or a handmade mug, before finally mustering the courage to ask them out to dinner with a whole ass bouquet of flowers.

I don’t see him as anything but a friends-to-lovers type of man. Even on a first date, the dialogue and banter flow as usual, and there is a natural chemistry on top of their preexisting friendship. He tries his best to pace himself in terms of what is considered a “natural” progression of the relationship, but it’s almost as if he knows that he’s all-in with his partner from the get-go. His loyalty and devotion is unmatched.

One time, as a joke, his partner referred to him as their husband. He malfunctioned right then and there. If he had a tail, it would have been wagging. He laughs it off in front of his friends, as if that was a regular occurrence. Afterwards, on the way home, he hits them with the “Do you really think of me like that?” silence… 30 seconds later, he speaks up again as he is driving, “Hypothetically, when do you think is a good time to get married?” It’s adorable. It does become a regular occurrence after that.

I have written a bit on this before, so ngl.. idk what other bases.. to cover

He’s confident, but he doesn’t have a huge ego. The times where he feels most egotistical, actually, is when his partner is so painfully attracted to him. He’ll catch them gawking at his hands as he adjusts his watch and jewelry, and a playful smile dances across his features, golden eyes twinkling with mirth.

“Like what you see, dear?” He fans his fingers out, displaying the rings on his finger, before flipping his palm upward and gesturing salaciously for his love to come closer.

Is really sweet and enjoys teasing and worshiping every inch of his lover, just so that he can take note of every reaction. He’ll notice every little gasp, every flinch, twitch, whimper, etc. He loves a vocal partner.

Sex is something that he enjoys taking his time with, so if there’s something that you want to leverage to pull him away from his work, that might be it. He tries really hard to stick to his scheduled activities, but he doesn’t mind getting distracted by his s/o for longer than planned. At some point, he starts to account for that when he plans for the day or the week.

It’s really funny when he hits them up with the, “hey babe… my sweet.. angel, darling… I know that we have our date tomorrow afternoon, but.. I have a meeting that evening..” his s/o knows exactly what’s coming, “are you available to.. start earlier so that we can have more time together?” UM YES.

Is not particularly kinky himself, but super open minded to trying out anything that his partner may be into. He loves to please, so he’ll definitely at least be open to hearing about any fantasies they would want to fulfill. Some things are off the table, he’s not a huge fan of play that revolves around non-consent because he’s kind of.. a softie through and through, but he dabbles in praise, gentle degradation, being a pleasure dom, etc.

He’s a little more interested in group play than you’d expect, because he’s fairly romantically monogamous, but if a partner asked to bring other people into a sexual scenario, he’d be like, “oh.. oh, yeah.. are you thinking of [redacted]?” IDUNNO Y/N ARE YOU?!?!

✧ a/n: rb with who u think redacted is

[askklisba]

Hello friends! So glad you found me! XD, it makes me so happy!😸

（I used a translator throughout this article🙏）

Regarding how to call me, you can call me whatever you want!

Gender pronouns: Anything is fine, just follow your ideas!

Understand and respect each other, although there is no truly accurate understanding and respect in this world... Just do your best, don't be too strict on yourself!

In short, I am an amateur painting enthusiast, not a professional in art, and my painting skills are not very good, but I like to try various media to paint!

I usually create my OC and some fan works of my favorite works or games! !

I'm not very good at expressing myself, and I often use swear words and colloquialisms, incomprehensible jokes, and topics like tobacco and alcohol. I'm sorry. If you feel uncomfortable, you can block me!

I have some mental problems, this will sometimes cause my words to be illogical, and my poor English may cause misunderstandings... But I will try my best to adjust the sentences translated by the translator and the expressions of my native language（简体中文/繁體中文）!

I am a person who talks a lot of nonsense! But it is easy to make typos when excited...

! OK, please pay attention!

I never self-harm, like cutting myself with a knife! I also don’t feel like I need preferential treatment just because I have a mental problem and I’m receiving formal treatment.

! ! I have never had a drug addiction or a history of taking drugs, I only smoke legal cigarettes and drink legal liquor! !I am an adult, and I strongly discourage letting others smoke and drink excessively (especially children who are underage, don’t do this!)

Anyway, normal communication is ok! ❤️

Don't worry, I have a good temper! But it's best not to mess with me, really.

There may be some here (note that it may appear, not necessarily, but please pay attention to those who feel uncomfortable, please)

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NSFW (there may be, generally I will not post it or draw it. Come out)/For the character’s gender change/Cute girl painting style/frightening and unsettling(such as monsters, uncanny valley effect, spiritual curiosity, many dense holes, etc.)

There’s bound to be: lots of plasma! /Character is seriously injured/Character is animalized (not Furry!)/Character is anthropomorphized/My thoughts and daily complaints/About the portrayal of tobacco and alcohol in works and realistic speech/Bad sentences translated by the translator

Although I have a strong acceptance of sexual fetishes, I do have my limits......😑

Please note that these make me feel uncomfortable

Molestation/rape of young children

Bring crimes from the virtual world to reality and implement them. (Really heartless)

Plagiarism and controversial works

! ! ! quarrel! ! ! I don't like to quarrel!

Badly behaved cliques (please remind me if there are any!)

ky (this abbreviation originates from Japanese)

Dislike very much:

1. Some people who send me photos of self-harm. I respect you guys but I have ptsd about it and I've met some terrible people and they've affected me to this day... I don't like flashbacks. Please also don’t follow me or harass me, thank you.🙏🙏🙏

2. Constantly asking me to do something or paint something/coercing or even threatening me to do something I don’t want to do!

3. You can dislike me and my works, you can block me, or you can point out my shortcomings or mistakes and tell me, but please don't be sarcastic or make personal attacks on me! This makes no sense at all!

4. Political related (I am looking for works I like in the virtual world rather than engaging in keyboard battles. I know what is happening in this world, which is difficult to evaluate. I hope you can understand, and hope everything is fine...😔🙏)

5. Racists (Get out of my sight immediately! At least you are not welcome here!)

6. I cannot take care of everyone's personal feelings, nor can I meet everyone's requirements and expectations. I am just an ordinary human being.

7. Maliciously attack and ridicule those who are suffering pain and suffering

! If you feel uncomfortable after reading this nonsense, please block me immediately, thank you!

Alright! In short, whatever I look like in your eyes, that's what I look like. I cannot become what others like for various reasons... You can like or hate me (including my works). It's all ok, I don't mind blocking me when you really hate me! It doesn’t matter, it’s human nature!

Anyway, it's nice to meet you!🌹🥺🌹❤️‍🔥

Other words may be added slowly in the future!

[kingsonne-zedecks]

Setting Idea

Magic is nothing like science, or science fiction, but those can be helpful terms to explain where it comes from. I don't know that multiverse, or omniverse theories have any truth to them, but if you imagine that all of this, everything we see or observe through science is one reality, and that there may or may not be others out there, then magic is like the space between.

The outside.

That's better. I like that one more. Forget everything I said about other universes that's not relevant. Magic is what exists outside of reality. Its not compatible with reality. That's why you don't see people launching fireballs down main street.

People that can do magic? People like me? People like you? We're the ones who've fallen through the cracks in reality. We're a little bit Outside.

Most of us stay there. Straddling the line. Living in both worlds. You can't do too much, but with what you can, reality smooths the edges over for those on the inside. They don't see the magic —can't see the magic. We can't do anything so big it can't be explained away within the bounds of reality, and reality takes care of the explaining for us.

Of course that isn't enough for some folks. Some people want the big stuff. They go deeper. Further out. That's where they find the power to really break the rules of reality. Or they would if reality had any interest in being broken.

You see, once you take that step further outside? Reality can't fudge the lines anymore. It's not able to hide what you're doing within the realms of possibility. So sure, you can gather power and fling fireballs down the street, but they aren't going to burn anyone, or anything. Reality can't handle that, so it just doesn't. You know what reality can handle? A strange person screaming magic spells in the middle of the street while everyone looks at them like they are crazy.

I can see from the glint in your eye that its still caught your imagination, and I can't say I really blame you, you're not the only one that's for sure. Who wouldn't want to live out their dreams of fantasy? But it's dangerous. Okay? Remember what I said. Pay attention. You've got to be on top of this shit if you're going to go deeper.

Magic like that doesn't belong on the inside, right? You go that deep, you're not on the inside anymore. You're too far out for reality to protect. That fireball might do jack squat against a real building but it will sure has heck scorch you. And there are plenty of other people who want to play in that sandbox with you and they are not always the nicest.

You go that route, you best find someone to teach you fast, and be right smart about it. City dwellers are your best bet. You surround yourself by anchors to reality and you get a bit of that protection back. Reality has a bit of trouble blurring the lines if you get incinerated when surrounded by hundreds of civilians, and that means some of their safety becomes yours.

Out in the middle of nowhere? Reality doesn't have to try so hard.

And don't get me started on the magical communities. You get that many outsiders in one location and they start to drag that place Outside with them. They loosen the grip of reality on that place and the rules stop getting enforced so strongly. It's dangerous, you hear me? Yeah they aren't getting obliterated ever second Friday, but I'd sleep with one eye open and magic at my fingertips if everyone around could do what those folk can.

And that isn't even the worst. There are people who jump the line; they don't hardly straddle at all anymore. The real powerhouses of the magical world. They make the trade, sacrificing all ability to engage with the real world in exchange for greater magic. A person like that? They could walk down the street streaming lightening from their fingertips and screaming at God and not a soul would know.

What's beyond that? Rumors only from me. People with only the barest of ties to reality. If they exist then I would never see them. Like a ghost. Unable to exist in reality itself, their power creates a reflection of their surroundings to exist in, like a funhouse mirror. They could level a city in an instant, but only the dreamscape version of it would be destroyed, reality itself would never know.

If any further is possible I can only imagine. Maybe once you got that far outside, that immersed in magic, you'd be no different than a God. The ultimate force of a world or your own creation. Maybe that multiverse idea isn't so far fetched after all. Maybe all this is just the creation of someone who stepped to far out of their own reality to ever return.

[landgraabbed]

it's been a while since i last shared the game that currently has my attention, and currently that is outward: definitive edition (dev: nine dot studios). this got long, so i'll put it under the cut. the short of it is that i am in love with this game that is catered to freaks like me in every way!

the game was first released in 2019, and the definitive edition including all dlcs came out in 2022, and i'd say this game was on my radar since 2020-2022, but i never really played it until now. i've been enjoying my time with this game, and what a game it is! it makes me feel like most of my favorites do: scrabbling for victories, being forced to get by the skin of my neck, and having to always play past my mistakes. in many ways it reminds me of favorites such as dragon's dogma, morrowind my heavily modded skyrim, and souls games to an extent, but with survival elements added on to it.

to set the stage, this game puts you in the boots of a gender neutral Just A Guy™ who is saddled with debt incurred by their grandmother and is on the verge of losing their lighthouse home. in aurai, actions that damage the community may incur what is called a blood price, meaning a bloodline may have to pay the price of said actions even decades or centuries removed from the action. the first chapter of your adventure sees you attempting to repay a parcel of the blood price on your bloodline by whatever means possible within 5 days, after your hard work was lost in the same shipwreck that nearly took your life. and off you go to do that. you can approach this goal by whatever means you can come up with and you can also fail to do so, and the game will continue. where i am currently, i managed to barely make the deadline and have been exploring the world. there are currently four factions i can approach in order to advance the plot, but i am taking my time to meet all of them before i make a decision. they each are tackling different issues in aurai at the moment, such as the holy mission's quest to fight against the scourge.

the moment to moment gameplay is very engaging to me. it really is a game that anyone who knows me knows that of course it will appeal to me. navigation reminds me of morrowind with npcs giving you directions and a complete lack of quest markers (or even an indication of where you are in the map! you need to orient yourself using landmarks and road signs). combat is brutal and best avoided at most times. you need to manage your inventory and loadout for the climate and your needs, as well as what you expect to encounter in your journeys, where the weight of your inventory is very important. your stats will become burnt (i.e., you will have a temporarily reduced maximum stamina until rest) the more you use them, greatly emphasizing how you're just a rando. there is magic in this world, but you don't start out with mana needed to cast spells and must perform a difficult pilgrimage to the center of the mountain that dominates the landscape of the first area. and even then, you must sacrifice your precious hp and stamina to build a mana pool. the tradeoff: magic has been absolutely fun and op in my experience. the game rewards preparation and knowing when the fuck to leg it most of all. and if you meet your untimely demise, you're not sent to the last checkpoint. instead, the game rolls one of the appropriate defeat scenarios appropriate to your current situation which can be a boon or a curse (and honestly must have been the inspiration to the alternative death system part of this skyrim mod). the game constantly autosaves, so savescumming isn't a possibility. most of all, you wander in a lovely environment to the sound of bangers.

pictures were only edited to add some small grain and are at the native resolution of the steam deck since it's where i've been playing! i do want to look at it on my laptop too. it also features online and splitscreen co-op, but i haven't tried that out. i do hear it's a great way to approach the game. another thing i really enjoyed learning about is the studio's investment in promoting a crunch-free, ethical philosophy to game development, and extending that over their publishing efforts in order to foster the development of more indie niche games developped ethically.

[conjuredsun]

Our Responsibility in Spirit Work

Deciding to walk with and work with spirits is a responsibility to yourself, and to the spirits who decide to step forward. You are welcoming a teacher, mentor, friend, and a deeply intimate relationship into your life. You are willingly asking for someone to come into your life with the goal of aiding and helping you on your path. 

Your responsibility is to interact with them, to learn self-mastery in order to effectively communicate with them. This is a reciprocal relationship. The spirit chooses you as much as you decide to work with them. There’s a level of commitment there that must be honored, which is something that not a lot of newer people realize when they begin their spirit work journeys. 

When you reach out to find a guide or companion, you are also reaching into the whole realm of spirits and all forms that they may take: the good, the bad, and the ugly. This becomes a life-long journey, sure you can close yourself off and give it all up, but you have already invested in this. You’ve invested time, money, and research into this world. 

If you open yourself up to spirits, you should also be able to open your mind to the vast amount of different ideas and approaches that are out there. This path is not for anyone that is unwilling to challenge themselves and is comfortable with staying within their own bubble. A lot of times if a spirit that you work with does not challenge you and does not help you to grow or carry out tasks, chances are they are a projection of your own mind. It happens. It’s not a failure on your part to work with a servitor you had accidentally created. They also have their own place in the craft. If you do decide to begin working with spirits, discernment, and a good banishing ritual will be your best friends. 

Before you begin this journey take time to really think it through. Think about the time and energy that needs to be put into this practice, from spending time with your spirit allies to learning how to engage with your psychic and astral senses in order to really communicate with them. Think about how much time you can dedicate to each spirit and really pay attention to how much time you actually commit to them. Over time it gets easier but there will always be some amount of bumps in the road such as life getting in the way or hitting a fallow period. In these instances, communication is key. It’s important to reach out and let them know what is going on and renegotiate any contracts that you have currently going. Will they accept a different offering? Will they accept delayed offerings? 

While yes, they understand and can ease up on the contracts sometimes, feeding is still an important part of the symbiotic relationship of the witch and their familiar. It’s an integral part of the contract and must be honored. This is why it’s so important to make sure that you don’t overextend yourself when reaching out and establishing these connections. We all deal with physical illnesses, our mental health might take a hit. But our spirits must still be honored and they can often be instrumental in helping us to understand what exactly we need to do in order to bounce back. 

Make sure to really take time when “interviewing” your familiar. Set out your expectations and clear goals. Really try to get to know them. Ask them questions about themselves. Ask what they expect from you. Utilize divination methods to help facilitate communication. Tarot or Oracle cards can be helpful to get to know them and can give them a mode of communication that can be really clear. You can also get a better read on them and their energy. For figuring out what offerings they like, pendulums can be instrumental in being able to help figure out exactly what the spirit wants in terms of offerings through the use of yes/no questions. You can also ask the spirit for specific signs of what they want.

It’s all about being able to communicate with them and making the terms and conditions as clear as possible. This is easier if you have a more developed clairaudience or clairsentience, but anyone- with a little work and effort- is able to communicate with spirits. If you find something isn’t working, bring it up to them. Everything is negotiable. Start with the standard offerings and sacrifices that can be applied to most, if not every spirit. This includes water, cakes, coins, oils, incense, and sometimes even a little bit of blood. I know that’s a scary sentiment, but traditionally witches would offer their blood to spirits. It’s seen throughout the witch trials. These are seen as safe bet offerings. The spirits you contact will probably have more specific things they like. For example, if you’re working with a human spirit, they may have had vices in their life such as smoking or drinking so for them, a pack of their favorite cigarettes or drink of choice would make an excellent offering.

When I was first exploring Spirit Work, I messed up. I was young and naive as to how everything worked and had a fantastical approach that just wasn’t accurate. I neglected my end of the contract with the spirit I was working with and for a while, my life fell apart. I was constantly broke and the situation that I had tasked my familiar with fell through. It was completely my fault. I had missed specified offerings and the Spirit I was working with took offense. We hadn’t really formed a relationship at the time and there was no communication that I was in a depressive episode without the energy to make the offerings. It seemed like a monumental task at the time and I didn’t push myself to make the offering anyway. No one wants to pay the tax man but we all have to. I tried to avoid it and it blew up in my face. I fumbled that relationship for a while. There’s no shame in hiding it. I know a lot of posts make it seem that everything is okay all the time, that just isn’t the reality. Life gets gritty and we all make occasional mistakes on our Paths.

However, I was able to understand that the spirit wasn’t happy. I didn’t make my offerings, and they were doing the work for me without payment. Understandably, they were unhappy. And they found a way to take their payment. Finally, I was able to muster up enough energy and willpower to conjure them and explain what exactly happened and make appeasement offerings. We opened a dialogue and were able to communicate what exactly happened. They became more of a mentor from there on for me in the ways of navigating working with spirits. They kind of took pity on me for not really knowing what I was doing and jumping into the deep end of things. Someone else I know went through something similar, the situation didn’t really work out like that. They ended up having to cut ties with that spirit and banish them. There was a lot of work that had to be done to put their life back into order. They had to essentially build their practice from the ground up again and relearn everything.

There’s a lot to consider before throwing yourself into spirit work and you should take all the time that you need to figure it all out before beginning this journey. And while you’re figuring this out, research as much as you can. Look through accounts of traditional witches and even modern practitioners. Ask questions to witches who are willing to teach. Really understand what it means to open your home to familiars and spirits. Learn ways to defend yourself and your space if need be. 

While yes, you can communicate with them to let them know what is going on, it shouldn’t become commonplace in your practice. You can’t be late on your credit card payments every month and expect nothing to happen. It’s the same with spirit work. This makes it sound transactional, and that’s because it is. Traditionally speaking, familiars are our assistants and mentors in the craft. We learn from them and ask them to perform tasks for us. In return, they expect payment. As you develop your relationship with your familiar and other spirits, the nature of the relationship will naturally change. It will still be transactional, but it will also come with more leeway when there are disruptions to your life.

Opening yourself up to the Spirit World, and welcoming them into your home comes with a lot of responsibilities. Going into this type of work understanding the nuances of what it means to have and work with a familiar can ease some of the fumbling that can happen in the beginning. It means you are better prepared to navigate a relationship with Spirits. It means a more successful journey with Them.

[anahaeim]

don't be magnetic, be AUTHENTIC

have you ever met or found someone that seems to draw people in, even when they do nothing? or maybe you have met someone that radiates sparkly aura, that caught you in awe and you just think.. "wow this person is really charming"

Won't it be nice if we could be like one of those magnetic and charming peeps? YEP, that's definitely possible!!

think of someone with magnetic personality, you'd find them charismatic and charming. they're interesting, exciting, and engaging. someone that draws people in and make them comfortable.

ok, how do we create magnetic energy?

★ Energy

Energy/aura is EVERYTHING. what you need to know tho, aura is the projection of our inner state, it's the extension of what's going on inside. sure, you might use those "manipulation tricks" on tiktok, but be aware because that's what you will get as well. if you act in toxic way (to get people to like you, play with their head etc), you will just attract another toxic or low vibe people.

So, if aura is the projection of our inner state, and we wanna be magnetic, of course we gotta take care of ourselves. take care of your mental health, forgive people, know yourself, take care of your body, eat well, and do thing that you LOVE, that makes you EXCITED to wake up in the morning. enjoy where you are, be in peace with yourself. this will projects in the world, and people can feel it ^^

★ Magnetic

We don't wanna know attract ALL attention, we want to attract the RIGHT attention.

"liked by anyone, loved by no one". In fact, the goal to be magnetic is not by getting everyone to like you, but be comfortable in yourself. if we think about it, a real magnet actually polarizing. only the matching pair, right? if it tries to attract everything, it won't be as strong as the magnet that attracts the matching pairs. and how do we do this? yep, being AUTHENTIC.

guess what, people can sense when someone have unauthentic energy, and of course it might make them feel uneasy. Ironically, the MORE you try to be magnetic, usually the LESS magnetic you become. it's giving "i wanna be liked by everyone" energy.

Think of creating the BEST energy to yourself. be confident in what we are, and living from the place of AUTHENTICITY and LOVE.

★ Presence

Let people feel good in YOUR presence

This time, be GENUINE. charismatic people could make you feel like you're the only person in the room, that's how charming they are. so, talk to people with genuine interest and care. take the effort to be truly engaged in what they’re saying, rather than thinking about what to say next, or interrupting. some things you could pay attention to :

Be Attentive and Caring. fully listen and genuinely care about others. remember details, call their name and understand what they're saying. listen closely to what they're saying. also, you know to not get distracted with other things when you talk to someone right.

Eye Contact. maintain eye contact, it shows that we're interested and care.

Body Gesture. take up space, make yourself physically bigger, use expressive hand movements, hold yourself tall.

Facial Expression. oh don't we love a beautiful smile on someone's face. it just brighten up the mood, right? you could nod at all the right moments to show that you're engaged. what about on stressful situation? let's chill out and maintain calm expression to show that you're positive and in control! ^^

Be Interesting. Tell something as story, we could use some metaphors, and anecdotes. Be creative with the words we use. Express ourselves freely, it makes us look more human, memorable, and interesting!

Animated Tone of Voice

Communicate Confidence, Be POSITIVE! charismatic people are inspiring, and confident. so, communicate with passion and energy. be passionate with life too, you just have one life anyways, so enjoy it!

Be Curious.

Be Kind. treat people with such tenderness of heart, lend help to ones in need, hold/mention people name with respect, no trash-talking of course, we all know it's not cool to make fun of others.

Intention. make sure to set a clear intentions before you have a conversation, it helps you to stay grounded on the value you hold, and respect yourself as well as you respect others ^^

Be Thoughtful. try to be more active in a relationship, with your family, friends, and loved ones. reach out, give them a call, hit them up on socials to check up on them, invite them. what's the worst could happen anyways. trust me, they will appreciate it!

Familiarity builds Comfort. if you know the topic being discussed, share some personal experiences as well. you can also try to relate emotionally, identify the motivation on why they do what they do, what got them into it, and how it makes them feel.

It's not complicated, and definitely achievable. The takeaway is : create the best inner state, take care of yourself, and truly confident and be at peace with yourself. having a magnetic personality isn't just about being charming and charismatic. It's mostly about being authentic and genuine. magnetic personalities are comfortable in their own skin, and they don't try to be someone that they're not. they are confident and unafraid to be themselves, which is why people are drawn to them. Goodluck!! (^▽^)//