#parental substitute

[bisexualmultifandommess]

Big fan of the trope where there’s a big enough age gap between the oldest and the youngest sibling that the youngest sees their oldest sibling as a second parent. It’s a bonus if there’s a whole storyline where they’re all being raised by one parent due to a dead or absent partner so the oldest steps up to help a lot. I love when it shows a lot of angst but it’s brilliant when it’s used in comedy.

Please recommend any shows, movies, games or books with this trope if you can please!

[3hks]

Substitutes For "Dead Parents"

Okay you guys! I mentioned this in a past post, but when it comes to family, some of ya'll are just... not creative. And don't get me wrong, having deceased parents is deep, dark, and hard, but at this point, a lot of readers simply overlook that because it's just that common. Not to mention, a lot of you guys aren't doing nearly enough with that information! So, for this post, I'll give some new examples relating to "family struggles!"

>> Neglect: Neglectful parents often don't give their child enough attention, time, or care. They don't always hate their kid; quite the opposite, really, they can still love their offspring and are simply unaware that they are being neglectful. This happens for a multitude of reasons: all their attention is focused on a different child, they're busy, or they're just uninterested in their kid's activities.

>> Abuse: Abuse is rather straightforward; it can be physical, mental, or even both. Even if it's only physical abuse, it can heavily damage the child's mental health and make them question their self-worth.

>> Fighting: I think that a lot of us have endured our parents fighting, and I'm fully confident that none of us enjoyed it. It's incredibly difficult for a kid to listen to their parents fight without knowing how to stop it, being stuck in the middle, and even worse, being the center of the argument. As it escalates, the child may even feel neglected, because their parents are only focused on each other.

>> Absence: Like neglect, these parents don't devote nearly enough attention and time to their child. However, this is because they are hardly present in the household to begin with. Normally, it's their career that keeps them away, leaving their kid to raise themselves.

>> Controlling: Oftentimes, controlling parents are found in, believe it or not, more successful households. Kids who have parents that own a successful business or are powerful in general are sometimes raised to follow those footsteps regardless if they want to or not. If they don't want to, as a result, they are kept on a tight leash. Controlling parents can also be found in stricter households.

>> Toxicity: Toxicity, a form of emotional abuse, can come in many forms, gaslighting, demeaning words, constant criticism, comparison, etc. Frequently, the child is unaware that their parents are being toxic until a third party points it out to them. This is because they've only known their parents acting in toxic manners; thus, it becomes their norm. However, it's also entirely possible for the parent to be oblivious to the fact that they're being toxic.

>> Distant: Being distant doesn't always have to be because of some crazy reason; they might've been a very happy and close family once, but as time passes on, they just simply start drifting in their separate ways. It's not the same as neglect or an absence; the child is usually able to adjust to it easier, and it might've even been their choice to be distanced from their parents.

>> Child Responsibility: This is a scenario where the kid acts more like a parental figure--they have to take care of both themselves and their family. In some situations, they also have to work in order to supply their family with enough money to be able to pay for life necessities. This normally happens when a/the parent(s) are out of commission and struggle to provide for their family. If the household is poor, the child might be working alongside their parents in an attempt to make their lives easier.

Did I miss anything? Let me know what you guys think about these substitutes!

Happy writing~

3hks :D

[teethburger]

you know what I would really like to see from a season 2 of a new wish?

an episode/multiple episode arc where peri tries out human life with his parents and he’s super anxious and trying to do everything exactly right, while cosmo and wanda are way more lenient

(im imagining a scene where cosmo is dancing in the supermarket and peri is like “NO DAD YOURE GONNA GET US FOUND OUT” (to outsiders it just looks like a teenager getting embarrassed by his dad))

and eventually he learns that it’s okay to be weird and awkward and silly sometimes and making mistakes is actually more human than painstakingly following social rules all the time

[keefechambers]

Vox Machina + parents

Bonus:

[fantastic-nonsense]

may or may not have inadvisedly started yet another Six of Crows WIP 👀....

"Kaz, why is my mother forging paintings for you?" He shrugged nonchalantly. "I suddenly found myself in possession of a few paintings that would cause some stir if it were to come out that I had them. I merely relayed my dilemma to her over cards a few months back. She offered. I accepted. Who am I to pass up an offer from such an excellent artist?" “You’re not blackmailing her, are you?” he asked suspiciously. “If I wanted to blackmail a Van Eck I’d be blackmailing you, not Mrs. Hendricks. Much better material to work with.” He couldn’t decide whether he should be offended that Kaz still considered him an easy mark or relieved he didn’t have to try to ban him from the house for the foreseeable future. It wouldn’t have worked anyway, Wylan thought gloomily. Kaz had broken into the mansion while his father had been actively trying to murder him, and he hardly walked through the front door now. He’d just pick a random window lock and show up at breakfast anyway.  Still. Better than the alternative. He’d rather Kaz Brekker sit at his breakfast table than plot the demise of a second head of the Van Eck household (which would certainly be his fate if he did anything to keep Kaz from seeing Inej when she docked next week).

[maxdurden]

the raw power of gorgug and kristen synchronized second hand embarrassment is unspeakable

[aroaceleovaldez]

doodle page from a couple months ago of Nico having way too many immortal friends

also yes i did just use Nyx’s Hades design. it’s a good design.

[ye-olde-rd]

Jk

they just tolerate him

[nightwingsaregoths]

Webs x Stonemover can be middle-aged man yaoi. wof fandom, open your minds... Stonemover kept messages for the Talons of Peace and Kestrel knew about him, so why not Webs? Plus they even live at the same mountain and they have three fanfictions on ao3 already. They even have fanarts. I entreat the Wings of Fire fandom to keep Webs x Stonemover in mind when in the mood for middle-aged mlm relationships.

[mypimpademia]

I understand wanting to boycott things for the benefit of the general public but a lot of yall don’t understand that that’s not actually how it works 99% of the time

[smute]

it only took two trips to like... four (?) different stores and then two more online orders but now i finally have everything i need for pad thai. ill (try to) make it either tonight or tomorrow

[grungekitty-77]

Censorship isn't protecting children. It's at best a lazy and lackluster solution.

Children need supervision.

They need an adult checking in with the kid to make sure everything is ok and they are being safe. They need someone that knows them and cares about their wellbeing that can make individual judgment calls on what the kid can handle. There needs to be designated children's spaces that are watched to make sure no abuse happens (and no, the entire world/internet can't be that space.)

If a child is turned loose on the internet, they can get hurt. Same as a child turned loose in a shopping mall might find the sex shop and see something they shouldn't. You don't demand the sex shop keep their doors locked or the mall remove the store.

You supervise your child! There is no substitution for it. Kids need parents, not book burnings!

The idea that censorship is to protect kids is at best the laziest solution possible to the problem, and at worst an emotional hot button designed to trick you into allowing authoritarianism.

The reason that child is viewing age inappropriate material is because their parents are giving them unfiltered access to it and refusing to do any wellness checks or have any discussions about being safe and responsible with the privilege. Scrubbing the internet clean is not going to fix the problem, but it will give certain authority figures untold power.

[chickenfriedawesome]

Divorced parents Monoma?

funny enough, no. their family reputation was nearly ruined and they definitely hate each other now, but it would have looked worse for them to split so they just grin and bear it

[thisisadonaldduckblognow]

i am going to stand on my Raph Is The Sun soapbox forever ftr. not that anyone has said not to.

i don’t mean that in an “everything and everyone revolves around raph all the time, bc he’s the most important one of them all” way. bc i’ll reiterate forever that there is no one member of this family who is the Most Important or most special, there is no member of this family who would be the most or least devastating to lose. like. if the hamatos lose anyone they’re never fully recovering.

i do mean what i say in the general sense of raph being a source of warmth and support, and in the sense that he does a lot of holding everyone together.

but more than anything when i say raph is the sun and his family is his solar system i mean like

raph isn’t the sun bc he’s the most important one that everyone revolves around, he’s the sun bc without a planetary system, a sun isn’t a sun. and i think so much of raph’s sense of personal identity and purpose is wrapped up in the roles he serves for his family so like. it just all checks out

[britneyshakespeare]

you know someday i'm gonna feel so good when i have my student loans paid off

that ain't gonna be soon, trust me, but i think about it

[shallowrambles]

So I've been thinking. It's funny how enjoying meta is somewhat embedded with trust.

Like, if you're "friends" and have followed a person for a long time, you have more a sense of their values, and it's easier to read their difficult meta because you trust more that they're being charitable/nuanced.

If you don't know them, it's harder to trust that they're not funneling difficult topics into rationalization of liking/supporting gross shit.