#parasocial relationships are so unhealthy

[soaps-mohawk]

Gotta love it when the voice actor, actor, creator, or even just the person themselves turns out to be an asshole 🙃

Also the amount of people that turn out to be problematic(using his word instead of listing all of the things) is absolutely absorbed, like is it really physically impossible to be a good person once you get popular??

It's the power trip. Goes right to their heads. That and they were probably shitty people to begin with, it's just that now it's noticeable because they're in the spotlight.

That's why I don't glorify the actors. The characters? Sure. Love them to death because they're not real. The actors? Yeah they're nice to look at but I'm not going to get deeply invested in them or their lives because they're real people, for one. And two, you don't know them. You don't know what they do when the cameras are off. With everything coming out about famous people lately, honestly it's safer to just expect the worst, even of your favorites. If something bad came out about the famous people I like, sure I'd be sad, but I wouldn't be shocked.

Just some words of wisdom.

[slytherinshua]

The taeil situation should be a harsh reminder to everyone that we DO NOT KNOW OUR IDOLS.

I don’t want to see anyone defending him. I don’t want to see anyone downplaying the seriousness of this just because he’s a well loved idol. This is a very serious situation and he does not deserve any stupid kpop stans running to kiss the ground that he walks on even as he commits grevious sexual crimes.

You don’t know him. I don’t know him. We support and fall in love with whatever side of an idol that they put on screen. No matter how much content you watch from an idol, it can never be equivalent to knowing them. It’s very easy to fake things or only show the pleasant side of yourself to fans. It has happened countless times. Can we please accept this fact?

Yes, this news is shocking. It’s always a hard pill to swallow finding out that an idol you supported turned out to be a vile criminal. But can we please stop believing that our idols are perfect angels who can do no wrong? They are human. And many of them are men. There needs to be a wall separating delusion from reality.

[royalarchivist]

Lore shared a (very cute) video of Tofu! 🥺💕

[simplydnp]

what's your opinion on fanfics about dnp? (more in a way of do you think that it's crossing boundaries and/or being parasocial)

i'm of the same mind of dnp in that phanfic is fucking incredible. it's an important and valid way to express yourself, as well as a building block of our community. i don't think it's crossing boundaries, as it's fiction. i don't see it as parasocial either--you're writing for you and others like you. most people don't want dnp reading their fics, it's not for them in a sense, it's for us.

i think dnp are extremely aware of fanfic and its value and place in community. they've always encouraged it, appreciated the support, and given us space about it. they're not ones to make videos about it and mock fans for it (which happened to some of our lovely fic writers here writing for other yt fandoms, and i'm so sorry about it). dnp are fandom culture people. they've written fic themselves! and published it in their book!

the word parasocial has been twisted lately to imply any fan support is unnatural and should be shamed, which is complete fucking bullshit. making art is always important and valued. and it is necessary for your existence as a human, but also for the thing you're a fan of to thrive.

the parasocial side comes in once you start believing you know this person. and that you're their real friend. when in reality, they do not know you specifically, and you are not their friend, you are an audience member.

so a parasocial relationship only occurs when people start crossing boundaries (digging for not publicly available information, contacting people in their personal life, showing up to their house, etc). which, is absolutely nowhere close to real fan behaviour.

tl;dr: phanfic is great, i love you fic writers, parasociality is a problem but not one that we have

[wraithlafitte]

Con O’Neill everyone 🙌🥵😍👹

[bedforddanes75]

some of u guys are taking 'drugs bad :((' too far i cannot lie

[fearforthestorm]

I'm never going to forgive the internet for how it bastardized the meaning of "parasocial"

[saltedcoffeee]

relapsed (thought abt xander watching david's shitty fucking tiktok lives after his family's death to cheer himself up and sending him fanmail that david opens and answers and it makes him cry so hard because he's so kind and patient with all the grieving sad questions xander asks him)

[majachee]

If i saw someone wearing mlp cloths irl at like-the grocery store, id be so jelous of how cool they are

I agree w/ you 100% anon but UNFORTUNATELY I am not wearing mlp twilight sparkle merch

If life were fair I'd have a tshirt that matches my socks....

I love poorly made ironic shirts.... sm....

[psybrepunk]

I always know I got DRUNK drunk the night before when I open Google and the last thing I was on is Alastair Reynolds' personal blog.

[someofitwastrue]

parasocial relationships with real people are not cool guys. right…? 😕i thought we all knew this……………… right?

[mobiblackout]

Whenever I see a post here, that's about how mid or boring the Elite+Adam Cole are, or about how they just don't 'get' why elite and people around them are popular, I check their blogs for one sec, and 99% of the time, they're a Punk fan. It's hilarious.

[loathed-to-be-her-hound]

I love garmau in a tragic way

[royalarchivist]

Mike: Are you awake, Buba? Did papa wake you up?

Mike: He was dreaming, poor thing. Ah, I've completely lost my positioning for stream.* It's over, Bubba. Who told you to be so cute like that?

A little cutie made a guest appearance on Mike's stream! 🐕‍🦺💚

[onlyfangz]

fandom's meant to be fun. if it's not, hit da bricks, dude.

[beardedjoel]

idk if i have any noah kahan moots on here but OUR BOY IS PLAYING SNL HOLY SHIT