#parasocial relationship behaviour

[loathed-to-be-her-hound]

I love garmau in a tragic way

[tinseltownie]

I literally have like phantom limb pain from how much I already miss Formula 1 like they haven't even fully broken for winter break yet and I'm lowkey going insane how am I meant to survive till March I have a real job and everything I cannot behave this way somebody sedate me

[weewoorot]

truly the 911 fandom as a collective has to do so much better with interactions with the cast/crew/production/any REAL human who works on the show.

I don’t know it’s a certain age group, people who expect all celebrities to be influencers who are overly forthcoming with their personal selves, or just plain ol entitlement but lately I’ve seen (especially on twitter) some truly abhorrent behavior.

idc what you ship or don’t ship, we as the audience or not owed or entitled to a single damn thing. we are not owed certain storylines, we are not owed certain information or behavior from the cast.

the parasocial relationships many young people on social media seem to have developed breed such a dehumanizing and disrespectful discourse within fandom spaces and i’m sick of it.

actors are simply just people doing a job for pretty much the same reasons any of us have a career. what they happen to do for work does not automatically give anyone the right to speculation and/or direct prying into their personal life. (that’s weird)

i could go on and on about this and I welcome discourse about it but essentially i am so disappointed and embarrassed by a portion of this fandom that it pretty much ruins a lot of the fandom content I try to consume.

[shitswiftiessay]

god i would HATE to have fans like this

now there are many VALID reasons to criticise taylor swift, but this is so fucking stupid. imagine having YOUR OWN FANS shaming you for your partying with your friends on your birthday in new york city (where you LIVE) because they think you should be catering to your man at every living moment.

also, asking when she’s going to have a baby with travis when they’ve only known each other for 3-4 months??

ever since she started dating that football player there’s been a SIGNIFICANT portion of her fanbase that wants taylor to get married and have travis’s babies as soon as possible. and they even talk about her retiring or taking a LONG break from music + touring just so she can pop out travis’s babies.

i would honestly want to KMS if i was a celebrity and my fans wanted me to leave my career to be a NFL housewife + baby maker.

[bell-honey-well]

Parasocial Relationship

Of course you'd love to meet the one

Whose face you have memorized,

But what can the little fan do

When the smile doesn't meet their eyes?

The lips, the nose, the hair--

You know it all very well..!

But that person does not know you

And they are so human it's hell.

[felucians]

With the news coming out on Wilbur Soot, a lot of people need to learn - or relearn - the signs of abuse before it gets to physical abuse.

A lot of people also need to remember that they have a parasocial relationship with these influencers and that none of us will ever know the whole story.

[grumpy-potat]

People, Parasocial Relationships, And ChatGPT

I wrote an incredibly long article about how people are developing relationships with Chatbots and how this isn't as out of character as we think human nature can be.

Trigger Warnings: Discussions of Bullying, Deviant from the norm human sexual behavior, Brief Mentions of DV and assault, as well as discussions of death and Grief.

I published it on Medium and I hope you all like it. It looks into the early 2000s, how they framed different forms of parasocial relationships, and how subjects like parasocial relationships with objects are understudied in a time when we all have access to objects that can talk back to us.

I am also editing the audio recording I made of this article to publish in an audio format in the near future.

[lightyakami]

actually u know what im deleting that reblog bc i don't want to be mean sorry hgklfghkfh i assume the response to my post was meant in good faith HOWEVER i will make a separate post about the whole misa/light situation later bc i genuinely think this is a situation that has experienced some fanon drift due to three specific panels being so frequently divorced from context

[youaremysunshine-court]

Me before a stream: streaming is a job. You can absolutely form parasocial relationships with streamers. They don't know you exist. Don't fall into this trap.

My monkey brain during a stream: hngh streamer friend shaped

Me after a stream: JAY WHAT THE FUCK

[jennatuatha]

Yaoi (Japanese: やおい) is a term for fiction that shows homosexual male relationships but is usually created by men and women (called Fudanshi/Fujoshi, from the Japanese 腐女子, literally "rotten girl" and 腐男子, "rotten boy").

While I support anyone who may be on the homosexual spectrum, it kinda give me the ick when someone who is not on that particular path gets fetishized into it by others.

This feels disrespectful. No one who truly cares about that person would fetishize someone that way.

Yuck.

[queerbauten]

People love to complain about parasocial relationships, but next time, before you complain, ask yourself, “Would the thing that’s bothering me be acceptable in other forms of relationships?”

[hussyknee]

rb'ing OP's tags because important.

"the man we idolised turned out to be a bad person, but it's okay, this other man hasn't fucked up yet so we can just idolise him twice as hard!"

Do you people not see the problem

[shitswiftiessay]

*laughs nervously* umm what the fuck?

[silvandar]

OK quick reminder to everyone about polite Internet behaviour;

- do not tag celebrities in NSFW or scam posts.

- do not speak to celebrities as if they are your personal friends.

- do not DM/tag offensive or "call out" discourse to celebrities.

- do not stalk or abuse ANYONE.

[thatsoravenboys]

swifties (and i LOVE miss swift as an artist) stop being absolutely insane challenge like you don't know her you don't know anything about her personal relationships you don't know anything about her life

[14dayswithyou]

Some long-term followers may have noticed this subtle shift already (especially those who are in the 14DWY Discord server or have read this post), but I figured I'd make it official.

I'm no longer associating myself with the yandere VN community.

The TLDR is that the energy here really fuckin SUCKS!! And I don't want to be part of something so hostile and needlessly competitive.

The constant infighting and epicaricacy between communities is deeply upsetting, and it's very disheartening to see aspiring developers cancel their projects because of the unwarranted backlash and harassment they face.

Some entitled folks on here reeeeally need to understand that constantly harassing others for updates, encouraging developers to belittle others to make themselves/their project look better, complaining about a project not meeting the expectations you specifically put in place, attacking other communities because of the parasocial relationship you share with another developer, getting mad that you chose to ignore important PSAs or warnings and faced the repercussions, or even sending in hate messages on anon because you're bored are not things you should be doing — let alone be proud of.

I try to avoid bringing up these topics as it's not the vibe I want to have on this blog (nor do I want to negatively contribute to the Streisand Effect and blow things out of proportion), but I'm genuinely getting tired of being on the receiving end of all this harassment and negativity, seeing it happen to others, and watching other indie developers encourage such vile behaviour. I'm done.

For those wondering what this means for "14 Days With You": for the most part, everything will still continue like usual. I've said this from the very beginning, but 14DWY is just a passion project I pursue whenever I feel like it. It's something I do for fun as a hobby — not because I want to publish a well-known game or turn it into a career. I've been on Tumblr for over thirteen years now, and it's taught me how to grow thick skin, so everything that I'm yapping and yammering about won't stop me from working on 14DWY.

However, this does mean that I won't be as interactive with other developers or their communities anymore; many ill-natured people have ruined this for me.

Because of them, I'm no longer able to voice my opinion on other games without some opinionated rat whispering in my ear about how the developer is "problematic" or that I could get cancelled for simply following them on Twitter. I can't interact with certain games without its parasocial community becoming hostile or gatekeepy towards anyone they don't like. I've seen communities belittle and devalue promising demos because in their eyes, nothing can compare to their favourite game (or their favourite developer). I have been harassed, bullied, and doxxed by other communities and have seen the same thing happen to others as well. I've heard about the developers who weaponise their community's loyalty to attack and drive out their competition. And I've witnessed more than enough developers expressing how badly they want to take a hiatus due to how much unwarranted negativity they receive, but don't want to disappoint their community by doing so.

By saying all of this, you can understand why I dislike being here so much, as well as why I no longer find any enjoyment in interacting with the yandere VN community.

Many people here — fans and developers alike — are so needlessly pushy about their standards and personal opinions being the norm, and if anyone else goes against them, they'll purposefully try to ostracise and bully them out of the community. This place isn't as laid-back or inclusive as it used to be, and I don't want to be associated with a community that acts so hostile and aggressive towards anyone who shares a differing opinion — nor do I want to be part of a space that caters towards developers who'll tear down others in order to have a moment of relevancy.

We're all doing our own thing and making our own games; it shouldn't be a competition. But if you see it as such, then I urge you to take a moment to stop and rethink your actions — or, at the very least, understand how it's affecting you and others around you.

So until there's a reasonable change and people can go back to being less... demanding, hypercritical, and gatekeepy about who interacts with what, I'll be stepping away and continuing to stay in my own bubble, as I have for the past two years now. I've already unfollowed everyone associated with the yandere community many months ago, but I think I'll just unfollow everyone entirely now for my own peace of mind. I will also no longer be interacting with any yandere VN communities (aside from close friends), nor will I be as public with my interests from this moment on. Everything on this blog will be strictly related to 14DWY like usual, and I will continue to block and report any spiteful "anons"/burner accounts sent my way and delete their messages.

Again, this isn't really much of an announcement — it's more so just paragraphs of me bitchin and moanin 🫶 — but I wanted to get this all out there instead of leaving things unsaid and having people come to their own conclusions as to why I've suddenly become less active, less optimistic, and why I've stopped engaging with a majority of the yandere community in the last two years.

So, yeah... ^^; If there's anything I want y'all to take away from this entire post, it's to be kind, open, and understanding towards everyone — developers and communities alike — and to spread support rather than negativity. It's what I want my own community to be known for, so please be mindful of how you treat others online.

And if you find yourself being surrounded by constant toxicity and negativity (be it from friends, mutuals, or even other developers or communities), please don't feel ashamed to step away or cut them off entirely. Put yourself and your mental health first. I also think it'll be good for me to leave all this negative energy behind and continue to kick off 2025 in a better light, so if y'all need to let out any frustrations of your own, feel free to go ham in the replies (obviously, be kind and civil though jghsjg T_T)