#parasocial relationship behaviour

[loathed-to-be-her-hound]

I love garmau in a tragic way

[weewoorot]

truly the 911 fandom as a collective has to do so much better with interactions with the cast/crew/production/any REAL human who works on the show.

I don’t know it’s a certain age group, people who expect all celebrities to be influencers who are overly forthcoming with their personal selves, or just plain ol entitlement but lately I’ve seen (especially on twitter) some truly abhorrent behavior.

idc what you ship or don’t ship, we as the audience or not owed or entitled to a single damn thing. we are not owed certain storylines, we are not owed certain information or behavior from the cast.

the parasocial relationships many young people on social media seem to have developed breed such a dehumanizing and disrespectful discourse within fandom spaces and i’m sick of it.

actors are simply just people doing a job for pretty much the same reasons any of us have a career. what they happen to do for work does not automatically give anyone the right to speculation and/or direct prying into their personal life. (that’s weird)

i could go on and on about this and I welcome discourse about it but essentially i am so disappointed and embarrassed by a portion of this fandom that it pretty much ruins a lot of the fandom content I try to consume.

[shitswiftiessay]

god i would HATE to have fans like this

now there are many VALID reasons to criticise taylor swift, but this is so fucking stupid. imagine having YOUR OWN FANS shaming you for your partying with your friends on your birthday in new york city (where you LIVE) because they think you should be catering to your man at every living moment.

also, asking when she’s going to have a baby with travis when they’ve only known each other for 3-4 months??

ever since she started dating that football player there’s been a SIGNIFICANT portion of her fanbase that wants taylor to get married and have travis’s babies as soon as possible. and they even talk about her retiring or taking a LONG break from music + touring just so she can pop out travis’s babies.

i would honestly want to KMS if i was a celebrity and my fans wanted me to leave my career to be a NFL housewife + baby maker.

[bell-honey-well]

Parasocial Relationship

Of course you'd love to meet the one

Whose face you have memorized,

But what can the little fan do

When the smile doesn't meet their eyes?

The lips, the nose, the hair--

You know it all very well..!

But that person does not know you

And they are so human it's hell.

[felucians]

With the news coming out on Wilbur Soot, a lot of people need to learn - or relearn - the signs of abuse before it gets to physical abuse.

A lot of people also need to remember that they have a parasocial relationship with these influencers and that none of us will ever know the whole story.

[grumpy-potat]

People, Parasocial Relationships, And ChatGPT

I wrote an incredibly long article about how people are developing relationships with Chatbots and how this isn't as out of character as we think human nature can be.

Trigger Warnings: Discussions of Bullying, Deviant from the norm human sexual behavior, Brief Mentions of DV and assault, as well as discussions of death and Grief.

I published it on Medium and I hope you all like it. It looks into the early 2000s, how they framed different forms of parasocial relationships, and how subjects like parasocial relationships with objects are understudied in a time when we all have access to objects that can talk back to us.

I am also editing the audio recording I made of this article to publish in an audio format in the near future.

[snallavanta]

minghao telling fans to just print the photocards themselves and he’ll take more selfies for them 😭😭😭 he is so real and i love that for him

[ellrond]

📣 📣 HAPPY TEN YEAR ANNIVERSARY TO ME BEING INSANE ABOUT ELROND LORD OF RIVENDELL 📣 📣

[youaremysunshine-court]

Me before a stream: streaming is a job. You can absolutely form parasocial relationships with streamers. They don't know you exist. Don't fall into this trap.

My monkey brain during a stream: hngh streamer friend shaped

Me after a stream: JAY WHAT THE FUCK

[joo-han]

Ive noticed that too…. Tbh im not sure exactly why it is bc i havent been a mbb long enough to know exactly when they started to oversuxualize and porject onto him so intensely but if i had to guess it would be since 2019-ish when he started to go from round-faced babie to chiseled hot guy. Overall i think ck is a pretty popular member (not sure if i can say The Most popular but he’s definitely up there) and i think its partially because he speaks English fluently and since they’ve started to promote and expand to a wider western audience this new wave of fans just picked him up bc he was more convenient to stan. Plus we can’t deny that he IS pretty charming and he does enable a lot of this delulu/projections with the way he interacts with fans (whether i agree with it or not is not really the point here but i think we know where i stand). Also over the time ive been into kpop ive observed that the more quiet and mysterious members are usually the more popular ones, and i was pretty surprised by that bc thats almost never the case for me kskdkdk

I really like to hear a ck stan’s pov on this. Also this is obv not the case with all of them but most of the ‘solo stans’ ive seen on this fandom have been ck stans. U know like fans who only care abt their own bias and maybe their wrecker.

Oh I wholeheartedly agree with you that he is indeed a pretty charming man.... he knows how to use his guiles to beguile... but even then, I've noticed that in the past, what two years maybe three since Love Killa (and Wonho's departure) actually, that there's a rise of a new kind of - like you said - solo Kyun stans. And like, the way they go about just talking about him kind of unsettles me a bit. Maybe I'm old, maybe it's because I come from a rock/metal background... who knows... But just like my sister noted (she too is a Monbebe and a Kyunbebe), these new stans don't even care about his music - they're mostly there for his looks .

I don't know, I guess I've seen one too many videos on the tiktok hypersexualising him... and it really has me wondering when it became a thing. But also, it's not just him, it's all the members but he just gets the brunt of it.

And yes, I too, would love to hear what Kyun-stans have to say about this/their perspective.

[queerbauten]

People love to complain about parasocial relationships, but next time, before you complain, ask yourself, “Would the thing that’s bothering me be acceptable in other forms of relationships?”

[shitswiftiessay]

*laughs nervously* umm what the fuck?

[hussyknee]

rb'ing OP's tags because important.

"the man we idolised turned out to be a bad person, but it's okay, this other man hasn't fucked up yet so we can just idolise him twice as hard!"

Do you people not see the problem

[silvandar]

OK quick reminder to everyone about polite Internet behaviour;

- do not tag celebrities in NSFW or scam posts.

- do not speak to celebrities as if they are your personal friends.

- do not DM/tag offensive or "call out" discourse to celebrities.

- do not stalk or abuse ANYONE.

[thatsoravenboys]

swifties (and i LOVE miss swift as an artist) stop being absolutely insane challenge like you don't know her you don't know anything about her personal relationships you don't know anything about her life

[whatudowhennooneseesyou]

Am I alone in thinking that Chris is very sexually frustrated? Like idk man, I don't think this is behaviour of a dude that's getting it a lot, this is giving lonely guy desperate for connection 😭😭

No you're not alone, as much as I hope he's got a partner for real-

I feel inclined to say gf but Chris hasn't confessed he's into women but idk he just gives me hetero energy okay?

Do I think they're all into women? Yes

Do I think they're all straight? No

He's giving me the vibes of a man who's frustrated for real with his bubble messages and his fancalls, no one delves into the parasocial relationship like he does w/o getting something in return.

Felix is the same- have you seen his Bubble messages? they're like wedding vows for real, he'll write paragraph length sentences about how much he loves and is grateful for Stays.

He is a Scorpio Venus so NDA's and the streets aren't going to satisfy him for long and he's very protective of his image so I doubt he'd risk it anyway.

The minute ppl stan him with other girl groups or tell him about a dating rumour he'll immediately shut it down by saying 'what? they're like a sister to me'

So i do think it's just his hand and his intrusive thoughts and fantasies (whatever they are- I still don't know what he would think about to get himself off) that are keeping him company and the sheets warm.

Idk for how long because it seems like he's been bitchless for a very long time.

I think probably the closest he's going to get to a lay w/o it affecting his career is if he cozies up to one of the makeup artists or assistants that's always around him.

I personally feel that's why his solo stages are always so sensual- it's because he's gotta put his horny thoughts and energy SOMEWHERE and that's the best option for him.

I'll tag my other babygirls and see what they say.

@torialefay @gnabnahcsworld @scuzmunkie @chansfavouritetoy @lyramundana @berryberrytan