#paige layle

[sophiecountsclouds]

April TBR!

Hello! After a very mixed reading month in March, going from spending three weeks finishing ‘A Game of Retribution’ to reading 50% of ‘A Game of Gods’ in one day, I’m going into April with a renewed sense of capability in my ability to read! I’ve stopped being stubborn about reading without the support of an audiobook and I’m ready to be more consistent and finish more books this month! This…

[waytray]

i’m 2:10 into this video and this is the first time i’ve hear about PDA, Pathological Demand Avoidance. and this makes sense for autism because it’s like, you have to soak in responsibilities into your membrane (it feels like) in order to truly be okay with it. to feel good about something is to fully connect with it on a deep level

[mintchochipkookie]

finally got the 'but everyone feels this way' audiobook from my library and well. I'm crying.

[tuhbanbuv]

Temple Grandin believes that "high-functioning" autistics are talented, intelligent, and necessary to human survival, while "low-functioning" autistics cannot function or live independently, and thus should be cured in the present and prevented from existing in the future.

Absolutely disgusting. She is NOT an autism advocate, she actively supports torture and eugenics. Also, if anyone thinks ABA is "perfectly fine" or that I'm "being dramatic", here's some videos I found from a quick google search on what ABA really does.

TW: Abuse, Children in distress, Child Abuse.

Why Temple Grandin is NOT my Hero

Hello everyone,

As the title says, I wanted to talk about Temple Grandin. I got to meet her when I was 12. She seemed very standoffish (which isn’t surprising). I did some research on her for some time and I’ve come to realize that she isn’t the best autism advocate. According to this article:

As a believer in functioning labels, Temple Grandin believes in preserving “high functioning” autistic traits while eliminating “low functioning” traits through Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) and cures and even special diets for autism, such as wheat free and dairy free. ABA is a harmful early intervention that causes PTSD in autistic adults and attempts to eliminate autistic behaviors and replace them with neurotypical behaviors, which causes distress and emotional and psychological harm in autistic children and adults who undergo ABA. The Association for Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABAI) even endorsed electric shock therapy at the Judge Rotenberg Center, the only care facility in the United States to use this horrific form of “treatment.” The fact that Temple Grandin divides autistic people into those that should be “preserved” and those that should be “cured” is a very harmful and ableist belief, and this view is damaging to the pro-acceptance and neurodiversity movement.

Article will be below:

Clearly she supports ABA therapy, which is harmful to autistic people. Plus she also mentions how she thinks autism can improve in time. Which…isn’t how it works. You can manage your traits and symptoms, but you can’t necessarily “improve”. Your autism is your autism. It’s not going to change.

While she did do some good work for the world, I cannot bring myself to support her advocacy. If you aren’t advocating for all autistic people, higher needs included, then you aren’t advocating for us at all.

Some autistic people have high support needs. And she doesn’t seem to understand that, and thinks it can magically improve is the gist I’m getting here. That’s not how it works. You don’t “improve” an autistic individual. You “support” them. No matter where they are on the spectrum.

According to another article I found:

Temple Grandin believes that "high-functioning" autistics are talented, intelligent, and necessary to human survival, while "low-functioning" autistics cannot function or live independently, and thus should be cured in the present and prevented from existing in the future. Both I and others have thoroughly deconstructed the false dichotomy of high and low functioning, but suffice it to say that such claims not only reinforce ableist hegemony, but also reinforce a capitalist notion of success and value in that only people who can produce are worthy of inclusion in society; all others are burdens.

That’s all I wanted to share. I will leave the source below if anyone wants to read it. I find this very disappointing because I looked up to her when I was younger.

[the-forest-library]

September 2024 Reads

Never Date a Roommate - Paula Ottoni

Love and Other Conspiracies - Mallory Marlowe

My Salty Mary - Cynthia Hand, Brodi Ashton, & Jodi Meadows

In the Orbit of You - Ashley Schumacher

The Beast's Heart - Leife Shallcross

At First Spite - Olivia Dade

The Wall - Marlen Haushofer

The Book Swap - Tessa Bickers

Someone You Can Build a Nest In - John Wiswell

A Daughter of Fair Verona - Christina Dodd

Given Our History - Kristyn J. Miller

Fall for Him - Andie Burke

I'll Have What He's Having - Adib Khorram

Lips Like Sugar - Jess K. Hardy

The Grandest Game - Jennifer Lynn Barnes

Such Charming Liars - Karen M. McManus

The Champions - Kara Thomas

Jupiter Rising - Gary D. Schmidt

Splinter & Ash - Marieke Nijkamp

Knight Owl - Christopher Denise

Young Hag and the Witches' Quest - Isabel Greenberg

Mismatched - Anne Camlin

The Truths We Hold - Kamala Harris

The Third Gilmore Girl - Kelly Bishop

The Striker and the Clock - Georgia Cloepfil

But Everyone Feels This Way - Paige Layle

Ambition Monster - Jennifer Romolini

Body Work - Melissa Febos

Rage - Lester Fabian Brathwaite

The Joy of Connections - Ruth Westheimer

Everyday Dharma - Sunned Gupta

Over Work - Brigid Schulte

Nothing to Fear - Julie McFadden

100 Ways to Change Your Life - Liz Moody

More, Please - Emma Specter

How to Piss Off Men - Kyle Prue

Shitty Craft Club - Sam Reece

Simply Julia - Julia Turshen

Bold = Highly Recommend

Italics = Worth It

Crossed Out = Nope

Thoughts:  I'll be thinking about The Wall by Marlen Haushofer for quite some time. It's a feminist, dystopian, survivalist tale with some truly harrowing moments.

Goodreads Goal: 334/400

2017 Reads | 2018 Reads | 2019 Reads | 2020 Reads | 2021 Reads | 2022 Reads | 2023 Reads | 2024 Reads

[autistpride]

How many of these famous autists do you recognize? And this isn't even a complete list!

So many amazing wonderful people are autistic. I will never understand why people hate us so much.

Actors/actresses/entertainment:

Chloe Hayden

Talia Grant

Rachel Barcellona

Sir Anthony Hopkins

Dan Akroyd

David Byrne

Darryl Hannah

Courtney Love

Jerry Seinfeld

Roseanne Barr

Jennifer Cook

Chuggaaconroy

Stephanie Davis

Rick Glassman

Paula Hamilton

Dan Harmon

Paige Layle

Matthew Labyorteaux

Wentworth Miller

Desi Napoles

Freddie Odom Jr

Kim Peek

Sue Ann Pien

Henry Rodriguez

Scott Steindorff

Ian Terry

Tara Palmer -Tomkinson

Albert Rutecki

Billy West

Alexis Wineman- Miss America contestant

Athletes:

Jessica- Jane Applegate

Michael Brannigan

David Campion

Brenna Clark

Ulysse Delsaux

Tommy Dis Brisay

Jim Eisenreich

Todd Hodgetts

John Howard

Anthony Ianni

Lisa Llorens

Clay Matzo

Frankie Macdonald

Jason McElwain

Chris Morgan

Max Park

Cody Ware

Amani Williams

Samuel Von Einem

Musicians:

Susan Boyle

Elizabeth Ibby Grace

David Byrne

Johnny Dean

Tony DeBlois

Christopher Dufley

Jody Dipiazza

Pertti Kurikka

James Jagow

Ladyhawke

Kodi Lee

Left at London

Red Lewis Clark

Abz Love

Thristan Mendoza

Heidi Mortenson

Hikari Oe

Matt Savage

Graham Sierota

SpaceGhostPurp

Mark Tinley

Donald Triplett

Aleksander Vinter

Comedians:

Hannah Gatsby

Robert White

Bethany Black

Scientists/inventors/mathematians/Researchers:

Damian Milton

Bram Cohen

Michelle Dawson

Carl Sagan

Writers:

Neil Gaimen

Mel Bags

Kage Baker

Amy Swequenza

M. Remi Yergeau

Sean Barron

Lydia X Z Brown

Matt Burning

Dani Bowman

Nicole Cliffe

Laura Kate Dale

Aoife Dooley

Corrine Duyvus

Marianne Eloise

Jory Flemming

Temple Grandin

John R Hall

Naomi Higashida

Helan Hoang

Liane Holliday Willey

Luke Jackson

Rosie King

Thomas A McKean

Johnathan Mitchell

Jack Monroe

Caiseal Mor

Morenike Giwa- Onaiwu

Jasmine O'Neill

Brant Page Hanson

Dawn Prince-Hughs

Sue Robin

Stephen Shore

Andreas Souvitos

Sarah Stup

Susanna Tamaro

Chuck Tingle

Donna Williams

Leaders:

Julia Bascom

Ari Ne'eman

Sarah Marie Acevedo

Sharon Davenport

Joshua Collins

Conner Cummings

Kevin Healy

Poom Jenson

Amy Knight

Jared O'Mara

David Nelson

Shaun Neumeier

Master Sgt. Shale Norwitz

Jim Sinclair

Judy Singer

Dr. Vernon Smith

Artists:

Miina Akkijjyrkka

Danny Beath

Deborah Berger

Larry John Bissonnette

Patrick Francis

Goby

Jorge Gutierrez

Lina Long

Johnathan Lerman

Julian Martin

Haley Moss

Morgan Harper Nichols

Tim Sharp

Gilles Tehin

Willem Van Genk

Richard Wawro

Poets:

David Eastham

Christopher Knowles

David Miedzianik

Henriette Seth F

[lanieloo1217]

Happy autism acceptance month

Here are some facts about autism:

-boys are 5x more Likely to be diagnosed than girls

-autistic people are more Likely to be accepting of people who are different than them

- despite stereotypes, there is no evidence to prove that autistic people prefer solitary jobs. In fact one study shows that 11% of people with autism prefer jobs within the preforming arts.

-girls are more likely to not be diagnosed until their teens if at all, due to masking

- it is impossible to have a little bit of autism

- the autism spectrum is not a line but more of a circle

- terms like low and high functioning are rarely used, terms like low and high support needs or low and high masking being preferred in the autistic community

-Asperger’s is no longer a diagnosis

- autistic woman and people of color are more Lilly to be misdiagnosed with other disorders like adhd ocd depression and anxiety

-autism doesn’t have a look or a gender

- autism often coincides with other disorders like adhd, ocd, anxiety, depression, dyslexia, and sensory processing disorders.

If you want to Support autistic creators or If you want more information on autism or autism acceptance month check out these people

Tik Tok

@saranne_wrap

@pagelayle

@jenna.frieds

@_this line is mine

@ellaellaw

@soundoftheforest

@shelanmollay

@reberrabon_bon

@kaelynn_vp

Youtube

Yo Samdy Sam

Paige Layle

How to ADHD (not autism but is still a very helpful channel)

Instagram

Pagelayle

Saranne_wrap

Nicoleparishart

Jenna.frieds

Keep in mind that there are tons more but these are just some of my favorites!

[livelaughwhump]

Hey! :³

I'm writing a neurodivergent character, but I'm not neurodivergent myself.

I'm doing some research, and I don't wanna reforce prejudices or be patronizing

How do I know if I am in the right way?

(you don't need to answer if you're not currently able to, btw)

Xoxo

Hmm...that's a difficult question to answer.

If this is an important character, then my advice would be to do a shit ton of research into their disorder. If it's a side character, than probably not a whole lot of research is required, but some is definitely necessary. I don't know if you know any neurodivergent people irl, but if you do, talking to them about it and asking them questions could be useful. If you don't, I recommend looking into some YouTubers that have the disorder you're writing about and talk about it openly. If you're writing about autism (which is what I have) I recommend Paige Layle and Autism from the Inside as channels to start with. Both have very informative videos with different perspectives.

I don't know exactly which disability you're writing about, but I can only speak as an autistic person. If you're character is autistic, the biggest things I would avoid including are functioning labels (i.e. high-functioning vs low-functioning) and the term Asperger's syndrome. Both are very outdated and very problematic terms, as they derive from Nazi Germany. Unfortunately, I can't speak on any other neurological disorders, sorry.

The only other advice I can think to give you is that, it is impossible to truly understand what it's like to be neurodivergent unless you are neurodivergent. So don't be afraid to get a few things wrong. Just do the best you can and apply any corrections or criticism you may receive.

Good luck and I hope this helps!🥰

[idkimnotreal]

things don’t usually trigger me so when paige layle posted a video about lacey fletcher i just assumed i would handle it like everything else.

it might be alexithymia, might just be me being autistic, but i wasn’t prepared for how much it would affect me. no true crime case i’ve ever heard of triggered me like this. in fact, no true crime case ever triggered me. i don’t even want to talk about it.

i unsubscribed from her channel. despite all the warning, that kind of content just seemed way too different from her usual content, and like she wanted clicks or something. i don’t know. i know we autistics might fail to convey our actual emotions through expressions and such (so she failed to appear distressed about it, which would be the actual warning), so maybe i’m being too hard on her. maybe i’ll subscribe again later.

[turnleftaticela]

Had a dream I was dating paige layle

[polygamousfistingchaos]

hello do you know or have links of accurate websites to know if I'm autistic? Because my parents are self-righteous and don't want me to get diagnosis (besides my country don't take mental health too seriously) i always felt that there's something different about me i just don't know : /

I get that, anon. Getting a diagnosis is hard. If you end up thinking you don't have autism, you can send more asks or DM, and we'll help you find out what's up with that brain.

I'd also recommend if you don't see yourself with the symptoms right now, do some self-reflection, go back to the symptoms, and then see. I couldn't see myself being autistic until doing a lot of remembering.

By the way, not all of these will be accurate if you're AFAB. A lot of studies are targeted towards AMABs. AFAB autism generally presents later in life due to masking.

Here's some links of credible websites

CDC

NIMH

ASAN <- love this one

Embrace Autism

Psychology Tools

Some YouTube channels for AFAB autism specifically (may not be 100% credible)

Paige Layle <- Love her so much

Olivia Hops

Have fun on your autism journey! Definitely tell me if you find out anything :)

[dangerously-human]

Hi! Would you have any suggestions on where to read up on autism/other forms of neurodivergency? I've been thinking that I might be autistic for quite some time now. So far I've read a few articles, watched videos (e.g. Paige Layle if you've heard of her), and read about the experiences of autistic people too. (I hope questions like this are okay! I just saw that you're Christian (as am I), so I felt less shy about asking and thought I'd take a shot. X))

Hi, anon! I am SO sorry it's taken me this long to answer your ask. I actually don't have great resources; I read a lot of books on autism and sensory processing disorder, which was what prompted me to ask my counselor about autism and she was like, "Oh, yeah, we been knew, did nobody tell you that?" Which... is definitely a longer story for another time. And I actually am in search of more ADHD stuff myself, since I was diagnosed much younger with that and I'm just starting to learn what it looks like in adulthood compared to how it was described to me when I was in school. I think blogs and such from a variety of autistic people can be super helpful, though there is a fair bit of misinformation out there and personal accounts, while incredibly valuable, are always going to be slanted by the bias on one's own experience, including mine. So I think it's good to mix in some more academic/medical materials, too, and get a balance of perspectives (weirdly, I found parenting resources to be some of the most informative). And of course, asking people in your life whom you trust for their insight can also help, especially if you're trying to formulate specific questions for a professional. I wish you luck, and please do feel free to drop by my inbox or messages again if you think of more questions!

[your-talos-is-problematic]

hi autistic video creators who move their hands when they talk the same way that i do. i love you. you slay. thank you for helping me feel okay with the way i talk. thankies

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[ineedpeacenquiet]

The thing that I'm still learning to accept is that neurotypical people will never fully accept you, or at least they will if it's on their terms.

I find when I meet someone and I end up trusting them enough to tell them I'm autistic, they instantly hit me with the "Oh, that's okay! I accept you!" thing, and then BAM! The next minute, or as soon as I start exhibiting my autistic behaviours (almost as if I actually have autism), they no longer accept me or like me! One minute I'm being put on this pedestal by the neurotypical person, then the next, I'm totally thrown under the bus.

Now, the first thought I have when this happens is: "What did I do wrong?" I automatically think I've offended them or done something that they don't vibe with. The tricky part, for me at least, is understanding where I went wrong or what I did to make them hate me so much. I will always ask out of curiosity so that I can learn from my mistakes, apologise, move on, and then learn from them. I don't get shitty when someone gives me CONSTRUCTIVE criticism. But the thing is, they never tell me what I've done wrong... So, I just assume they hate me and I don't know why. First emotion: Confusion - "Why do they hate me when one minute they were taking me to MacDonald's and telling me their whole life story?". Second emotion: Sadness... I've just lost another friend (at least that's what I considered them.) The third emotion is anger. I don't need to emphasise on that.

Now, what I've seen on TikTok from a lot of autistic creators, such as Paige Layle, and Morgan Foley, just to name a few, is that they also have experienced the same thing - especially when dealing with neurotypical people (or even other neurodivergent people). Now, I'm NOT saying ALL neurotypical people are bad people. That would be complete bullshit. No, what I'm saying is that a lot of neurotypical people don't have that much understanding or education on neurodiversity (especially autism, ADHD, dyspraxia, dyslexia, etc.) And that's not because they're bad people, they're just not like us. But then the same can be said about us - we are not like them, no matter how much we mask. Therefore, when someone without autism (for example), meets an autistic person who is "high-masking", they may notice there's something "off" about the person but be unaware of what it is, so naturally, they reject it (out of fear maybe?).

That being said, that does not excuse the mistreatment of disabled people. That does not justify the "average autistic experience", whereby, one is bullied, rejected, ignored, invalidated and abused just for being autistic.

[stray-mossballs-and-buckets]

First I’d like to say self diagnoses is 100% a valid diagnoses provided there is research done, which you are already asking for! This is an amazing first start by compiling a list of traits. 

Getting a professional diagnoses can be difficult if not impossible for some because of gender inequality (cis men are way more likely to be diagnosed because for a long time it was believed cis women couldn’t have autism), racial biases (people of colour are also less likely to be believed and diagnosed), financial inability to afford it, or being in a location where a diagnosis can be dangerous, be it from lack of medical care in that area towards autistic individuals, or discrimination in work environments. Thankfully, more and more places are working to address and improve all the previous listed reasons. And no matter the reason you can’t or don’t want a professional diagnosis, self diagnosis is completely valid. 

Now, on to some resources. A fantastic YouTube or TikTok channel for learning about all things autism is Paige Layle. She is an autistic woman who makes content on educating and helping autistic individuals, and addressing the problems we may face in society. She has a few videos that are good starting points: 

Another good resource is the RAADS-R autsim test, but it can have some questionable phrasing at times. Overall it’s pretty accurate, but if you’re like me you may have to google some things! 

Some instagrams by autistic creators I find useful: 

autism_sketches 

autism_happy_place 

Some resources to avoid are autism speaks. They are a hategrouo who regularly abuse autistic children. A symbol you have likely seen, the blue puzzle piece, was made by them. It’s meant to symbolize that we’re “missing a piece” which is very demeaning, dismissive, infantilizing and overall ableist. Also avoid any “autism mommies” or ABA therapy. (Basically it’s dog training for autistic kids. It’s really sickening) 

and lastly, check out the #actuallyautistic tag on, well, anywhere! It can be a great place to find relatable experiences and resources!

hey folks who are neurodivergent please help me

SO

I think I have some kind of neurodivergency, but I don’t know if self diagnosing is okay, and I can’t get access to get me professionally diagnosed

here’s why i say i might;

-sound/light sensitivity (with a few texture things)

-hate eye contact

-has shutdowns when overwhelmed (can’t talk properly, hates being touched, etc)

-has a hard time refocusing when told to do something else in the middle of a task

-has fixations I will stick with for months on end

-i will flap my hands and start jumping if happy or excited

-cannot make friends on own (mostly)

-hard to do complex tasks all at once

-hates deadlines/range of time when i need to get things done

-sleep issues

-vivid imagination

-emotionally sensitive

-hard to pick up on social cues

-hates changing routine

-has a brother that IS diagnosed with a form of autism

-relates a lot to an irl friend diagnosed with ADD

the list goes on

in short terms, everything i see on the grand old internet made by autistic/neurodivergent people and literally every autistic symptom applies to me, in one way or another

but yet again i may have some undiagnosed mental illness too idk

But i come to the autistic side of tumblr to ask for advice: Can I self diagnose properly? Are there any resources I can use to help?