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That doesn't mean you can't grow tomorrow. But just know right now, is where it's at and if all you have is what you have got at this moment then that is enough. #mumbosslife #wfhwithkids #mymof4 #overwhelmedmum #mumlife #mumsofinsta #tiredmum #motherhoodunplugged #youareenough #mumoftwins #twinmum (at UK) https://www.instagram.com/p/CqIxuMEs44F/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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A lovely little exercise we can do when we feel overwhelmed. Try it and let me know how you found it. . . . #overwhelmed #overwhelmedmum #mentalhealth #depression #mentalhealthawareness #isolation #emotion #coping #emotional #emotionalwellbeing #copingskills #mindfulness #mindfulnesspractice #support #psychologist #therapist #psychologistsofinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #wellness #selfhelp #selflove #selfhealing #selfhealer #selfheal https://www.instagram.com/p/B-ZOJSDj2vu/?igshid=14rk2gmiekr1

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I was chatting about this little area in my stories earlier this week. How this is probably the most used area of our home. It��s hardly without grains of coffee, tea spills and clutter. But when I take the time to tidy and clean it up it fills me with so much satisfaction. It spurs me to tidy more and more because I know how much joy with not much effort this little area gives. It a bit like a cleanup snowball. You clean, tidy, declutter little bits at a time and before you know it you are done. When there is so much chaos, so much to do, so many jobs, so much overwhelm it can be hard to get started. But pick a small corner, a drawer, a surface at a time and see how big your snowball gets. So today I’m feeling grateful for this little area to remind me you don’t have to do it all at once! #mugaddict #kitchencorners #mykitchen #mumskitchen #mummyblogger #mummentor #overwhelmedmum #mumlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodthroughinstagram #housework #tidyup #hyggehome #cleaningsnowball https://www.instagram.com/p/Cal-udnMa6r/?utm_medium=tumblr

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*****🔥 Burnout 🔥 ***** What do you think burnout looks like? For me it was being frozen, too overwhelmed to even load the washer, it was not having the energy to fight, not having the energy to help my kids grow. Not taking care of mine and my children’s basic needs. We sometimes see memes and posts about mums having messy hair, running around overwhelmed sorting the kids, doing chores, working etc. At what point does the overwhelm turn into burnout though? Overwhelm is where we still have the energy to fight but we just don’t know how. Burn out the energy is gone. Overwhelm is where you know there is a way. Burnout is where you have lost all hope of a way out. I’ve been in the later. I’ve been the one who thought the only way out was to no longer be a mum! Imagine that. You waited 5 years, blood, sweat & endless amounts of tears were shed to get pregnant. Then reality hit, your a mum, the mum load creeps in, you have babies to care for, a home to run, and all the other things that press out time. And so all you can see is maybe you have made a terrible mistake, maybe those kids would be better in a different home. Sometimes I’ve felt selfish for saying this. Because I wanted to get back the life I had pre kids. But then when I hit burnout and finally got over the other side I could see those kids, those moments, the rock bottom had been sent to me, those shitey times had been given to me to learn. And. Learn I Did. I learnt how to love, how to be a good mum, how to stop getting overwhelmed with the overwhelm, how to let go of perfect, how to live better, for me and my family. Don’t let that overwhelm turn to burnout there is a way. There is a solution. #overwhelmedmum #muminoverwhelm #mumssupportingmums #mumlife #mumvillage #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodoverwhelm #parentsofinstagram #parentalburnout https://www.instagram.com/p/CT6btjVMiBv/?utm_medium=tumblr

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In a power hour we can get to the bottom of where the overwhelm hits hardest. Looking at the whole picture from a different perspective is just what you need to take theirs first steps. Life coaching & mentorship gave me so much when I feel stuck with laundry piled high, a million jobs swimming around my head and kids that I lived so much but just needed them to give me a god damn moment before my head exploded. I only wish I had had me to call back when I needed someone to grab my hand and help me though. December is such a hard time for us mums sometimes. So many more things to remember. So if you want to calm that chaos. DM me, let’s get you hooked in for a power hour. Either now (I’ve one spot) or in the new year. December power hours are less than half price right now. As I know how important they can be. £75 down from the January price of £195. So book on now. Let’s clear some headspace & get sh*t done. #powerhour #letsgetsh*tdone #mumlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood #overwhelmed #overwhelmedmum #mumadmin #planningahead #motherhoodjourney #workfromhome https://www.instagram.com/p/Clpy-B2taLp/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Thank you for your lovely birthday messages for J&M yesterday. We had a lovely day not really doing anything just playing with their toys and a late night trip to the park on the way to taking their brother home. Watching these two grow up is amazing. One moment they are those little babies needing you at every moment the next they are telling you “I can do it mummy.” At every point there are moments you would rather forget and some that you want to hold on to as tight as possible. I’m thankful they came along to help me appreciate life and learn to live in the moment once again. #overwhelmedmum #mumlife #motherhood #socialmamahub #twins #twinstwice #mumoftwins #twinmum #familymoments https://www.instagram.com/p/Ch6iCaDMSpk/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Sometimes it’s the simple things, the small steps. Those things you don’t even notice when you are in the midst of stress, chaos and overwhelm. Yesterday I swapped kiddos with a friend (she took one of mine I took one of hers). It meant the kids had someone new to play with and so were entertained most of the afternoon. I took the opportunity to deep clean the shower room & hallway. It amazing how much better just an hour can make. I have a system that I follow to help me get the daily things done and those deep clean bits. But often in the holidays they are left out in favour of adventure. But here’s the thing it’s up to us to get the outcome we desire. So if we want a clean home we have to make a choice. If we want an adventure we have to make a choice. If we want. To top up our teapot we have to make the choice. Very often we don’t make the choice. We forget the outcome we want and go through the day subconsciously. Especially when we are bogged down by a million choices a million chores. Trying to juggle more kids than hands. Next time you get a moment ask what do you want to outcome to be of that moment? Ask yourself do you want the tidy room, do you want one or two chores ticked off or does your body, your mind need rest? Or do you take that opportunity to plan more adventures? The choice is ours. The choice is yours. #overwhelmedmum #simpleliving #simplemoments #simplehomestyle #simplelifehacks #mumof4 #momentsofmine #myhome #wabisabiwayoflife #wswolmama https://www.instagram.com/p/ChZDDXKMtuR/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Two years today I took this photo after 2 days of what was to be my very last period. I didn’t post on here I didn’t even share that I was pregnant until I couldn’t really keep it a secret any longer. I didn’t really know how I felt. We were not actively trying to get pregnant just said we would see what happened. If your new around here I’ll tell you what happened another set of twins. Little did I know the day I took this photo what a journey we were about to embark on. Going from 2 to 4 was a bigger shock than going from 0 - 2. Yes there are things that are easier because I’ve already done them once so know stages won’t last forever. But just being outnumbered by the amount of little people in my life can be overwhelming. If your starting your journey to parenthood or have recently become a parent. I just want to say however overwhelmed you are you got this. You were given that path for a reason. And if your In a particularly difficult stage my mum says to me. “This too shall pass” #mumlife #twins #twinstwice #pregnant #throwback #motherhood #parenthood #thiscrazylife #parentblogger #newparent #overwhelmedmum #mumoftwins #channelmumvillage @channelmum #yana #yougotthis https://www.instagram.com/p/BsfGRHUluli/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=bpfi886zzhr2

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“I really enjoyed taking part in the challenge” “So many lightbulbs went off” It’s great getting feedback from those who take part in challenges, tag me in posts when they do the work we’ve set together, when I know you have left with more confidence to get to your main goal. Join Summer CHAOS Control -The challenge. One day left to sign up. https://ninaaspencer.kartra.com/page/summerCHAOSControl #summerchaiscontrol #sixweeksofsummer #schoolholidays #summeriscomming #feedback #overwhelmedmum #mumlife #motherhoodunplugged #mumlifeuk #mumsofinstagram #multiplemums #bigfamily #bigfamilylife #morekidsthanhands https://www.instagram.com/p/CfnoGwjsouf/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Yesterday. Twin triage was just me, I got in a bit of a mum mode with anyone who watched. It was time for a straight talking telling it as it is. (Go take a listen link in stories) If you are sat there grumbling, sat there in freeze mode, telling the world you can’t do this #mumlife s**t. You need to take a moment and work out why. Why are you there just shouting and not taking any action? Why are you frozen and not reaching for help? I’ve heard the excuses, no time, no money, fear of failing, even a fear of success. Bloody hell I’ve been there too. But then one day, at breaking point , I knew enough was enough. I had to take action. I had to invest in myself, I had to invest money & time to move the needle forward. It’s a balance I’m not gonna lie. A balance to find that happy medium where you can invest time & money and still afford to live. But what is the cost of staying where you are? Now this is where I’m going to say do as I say not as I do. As I invested and got myself into a money pickle. But that wasn’t because I invested it because I didn’t take my head out of the sand first and balance my cash flow out. There comes a time when you have to take that step because no one can do it for you. Sorry for the hard truth today but sometimes you need your mum to tell ya! As always I loved ya lots. 😘 #hardtruth #motherhood #mumsofinstagram #mumlifeuk #motherhoodunplugged #overwhelmedwomen #overwhelmedmum #channelmumvillage https://www.instagram.com/p/CfYO1txsY61/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Every room in the house is a mess. The laundry pile has had an avalanche and you think there may be a small child buried under it, you’ve not eaten a home cooked meal for weeks and you’d forgotten it’s Father’s Day at the weekend.(yup it’s Father’s Day at the weekend) No matter what you do, how we many structures you adopt, challenges you take part in you always fail and can never seem to get caught up. You see tidy homes on insta and full house clean with me videos and wonder if it’s only you that feels like you are falling apart. Motherhood is hard blooming work and we need to give ourselves a break. Stop comparing to others, stop striving for perfect and make some structure in our day that supports how our family works. If this resonates, & you want to have a quick chat about working with me one - one. I’m here for you. I have 3 15 min slots open this week and 3, hour long one to one slots left for June. Get a ahead before the summer holidays. DM NOW TO SCEURE YOUR FREE 15 min slot. #overwhelmedmum #mumlife #mumsofinstagram #mumlifeuk #mumssupportingmums #mumofmultiples #motherhood #mumof4 #mumslife #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #mumofboys #mumofgirls #familyof6 https://www.instagram.com/p/CexjNwpMQui/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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It’s time to go OTT That is one task at a time. The past few days have been catching up on tasks after the half term. In years gone by I would have been so overwhelmed with the amount of things to do each day. Especially after the holidays. While I now have systems in place so the tasks don’t get out of hand there are still some things to do. Now Instead of getting overwhelmed with them I just take them one step at a time. One task at a time. Break them down if you have to. But have a look around which task could you start with right now? One task while the kettle boils, while the kids get dressed, while the porridge pings? Go do it then come back and tell me what did you get done? #ott #onetaskatatime #productivity #homemaking #mumlife #getshitdone #mumlifeuk #mumoftwins #mumof4 #mumsofinstagram #overwhelmedmum #motherhoodunplugged https://www.instagram.com/p/CekvH1DM0IF/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Yesterday was not a good day in chaos central. I didn’t sleep well the day before, the kids were full of jubilee fate sugar and over the half term I’d let my supportive habits slip. So yesterday I shouted, i got angry, I cried, then before bed we cuddled said sorrys and moved on. It also doesn’t help that mr chaos is overseas for the next week - so soli parent duty for a few days. Back to school this morning, a walk a coffee and get some shit done ready for an exciting month ahead! #backtoschool #mumoftwins #twinmum #overwhelmedmum #mumlife #mumof4 #mumssupportingmums #mumsofinstagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CedAoD7sPuc/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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I love an adventure. We’ve not had many over the past few months as priority has been about the barn renovation. I’m not gonna lie, it’s had a knock on effect to the rest of the house. Stuff being moved from room to room to make way for renovations, piles of office & craft stuff in our family room. And the kids getting a bit of cabin fever due to being stuck home while daddy fixes the barn. That’s why I joined the health club, to get us out adventuring again. That’s why I’ve really had to use my strategies to the max, to keep things straight in the house and not get overwhelmed by it. That’s why now we are starting to be able to permanently relocate my office, Chris’s office I’m going to be working through parts of my own program again to get back on top of the things that we’ve moved around. The strategies are always there to use at different times, even for me! Time to add adventures into the schedule once again too. Life is all about balance and it’s ok to tip the scale either way from time to time. #thewabisabiwayoflife #wabisabimum #motherhood #mumlife #mumoftwinstwice #twinmum #twins #multiplemum #mumofgirls #mumofboys #overwhelmedmum #mumsofinstagram #mumbloggeruk #mumsofinstagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CdFba4Ustoo/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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You’ve heard the struggles I’ve had before. But I want to know what you struggle with. What you feel like you are failing with. What parts of being mum make you feel like you want to pack and bag and run away? Let me know in the comments. Send me a DM if you prefer. But I’d love to know, because I’m working on some free work books to help you stop wanting to run away and start stepping into your very best #mumlife #motherhood #twinmum #multiplemum #mumsofinstagram #mumssupportingmums #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodthroughinstagram #mumsinbusiness #mumofgirls #mumofboys #mumoftoddlers #mumoftweens #overwhelmedmum #overwhelmedbylife https://www.instagram.com/p/Cc4keC5sX-k/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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It’s taken me a long time to realise this. To realise that yes life can throw you curveballs. Actions you did or didn’t take in the past may affect your future. But ultimately we paint our own friggin destiny. The end of our journey pretty much look very similar but the paths we go on they are unique. They are ones we have control over right? So while life curveballs are sent to us, how we navigate those is how beautiful or how ugly we paint the path in front of us. So for me, that means this is now a now or never point. I’ve worked on my mindset for a long time. I’ve worked on adding in habits for a while. Now it’s time to work on all round health. What is your path going to look like when you’ve painted it? #mumlife #overcomingadversity #motherhood #wabisabiwayoflife #motivation #paintyourowndestiny #mumoftwins #overwhelmedmum #iamhealthy https://www.instagram.com/p/CcpKcr2Ms_Z/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=