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Listen. It may be hard to hear this. But that laundry ain’t going anywhere. I mean unless your household takes up a full time naturist pact. Even then you will still have towels & bedding to wash. If we don’t develop ways to get our laundry done we are always going feel overwhelmed by it, terrified by it even. The same goes with all those things we tend to feel a struggle against. Meals Picking up toys Hoovering Cleaning the shower Getting the kids bathed Getting everyone’s hygiene needs done (nails, teeth, hair etc) What is on your most hated motherhood chore list? Right but what can we do? We can embrace it. The chaos, the chores, all of it. We can create habits to get stuff done, we can reduce our stuff so it is easier to deal with, we can delegate tasks out, we can take a moment and embrace the chaos. Come on over to Chaotic Mums Get s**t done group Over on Facebook (link in profile) let’s continue the journey to embracing those imperfect chaotic moments of motherhood together. Chores and all. #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood #motherhoodchores #chaos #motherhoodoverwhelm https://www.instagram.com/p/CnWHwb9sWXh/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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24 hours in a day, 168 in a week, 8760 in a year, 692,040 in a lifetime( on average) Time is one thing we can’t get back, can’t earn more of, can’t buy. Yet it runs away sometimes at rate of knotts. How many hours of that 692,040 have you already wasted? Used up worrying about the overflowing washing pile, the dust on the mantlepiece, the toys strewn over the living room? How many have you lost frozen by the overwhelm of the motherhood load? How many more are you going to waste doing the same thing over and over? Could you spend a few more hours working on your strategies? @so that you can spend more time on adventures? Can you afford not to spend some of those precious hours working on strategies that will last a lifetime. So that you can spend those precious hours you have left enjoying life, nipping to the beach if you feel, truly being present with the kids, developing your relationships deeper, falling in love with your home again? 24 hours in a day, 168 in a week, 8760 in a year, 692,040 in a lifetime( on average) #24hoursinaday #168hoursinaweek #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood #motherhoodoverwhelm #overwhelmedbylife #mumlife #mumssupportingmums #mumsofinstagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CnEJALQMstb/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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*****🔥 Burnout 🔥 ***** What do you think burnout looks like? For me it was being frozen, too overwhelmed to even load the washer, it was not having the energy to fight, not having the energy to help my kids grow. Not taking care of mine and my children’s basic needs. We sometimes see memes and posts about mums having messy hair, running around overwhelmed sorting the kids, doing chores, working etc. At what point does the overwhelm turn into burnout though? Overwhelm is where we still have the energy to fight but we just don’t know how. Burn out the energy is gone. Overwhelm is where you know there is a way. Burnout is where you have lost all hope of a way out. I’ve been in the later. I’ve been the one who thought the only way out was to no longer be a mum! Imagine that. You waited 5 years, blood, sweat & endless amounts of tears were shed to get pregnant. Then reality hit, your a mum, the mum load creeps in, you have babies to care for, a home to run, and all the other things that press out time. And so all you can see is maybe you have made a terrible mistake, maybe those kids would be better in a different home. Sometimes I’ve felt selfish for saying this. Because I wanted to get back the life I had pre kids. But then when I hit burnout and finally got over the other side I could see those kids, those moments, the rock bottom had been sent to me, those shitey times had been given to me to learn. And. Learn I Did. I learnt how to love, how to be a good mum, how to stop getting overwhelmed with the overwhelm, how to let go of perfect, how to live better, for me and my family. Don’t let that overwhelm turn to burnout there is a way. There is a solution. #overwhelmedmum #muminoverwhelm #mumssupportingmums #mumlife #mumvillage #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodoverwhelm #parentsofinstagram #parentalburnout https://www.instagram.com/p/CT6btjVMiBv/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Be Right Back. Tonight was supposed to be the start of my back to school chaos control challenge. Unfortunately in light of the queens passing and the fact that myself and a couple of my kiddos are feeling under the weather I’m having to postpone until after next weekend. So we will be starting on the 21st September for 3 nights. So the good news is there is still time to jump on if you are struggling with the motherhood load! #mumlife #motherhood #morekidsthanhands #motherhoodunplugged #mumlifeuk #mumoftwins #motherhoodoverwhelm #motherhoodsimplified (at United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CiZOQTEsAI8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Oh ehm Gee What a few days. The thing is about being stuck in the overwhelming chaos of motherhood is you miss so many opportunities. So many opportunities to grow, to connect, to love, to develop. To truly flipping live. What happens is you let life just happen, you get dragged into the under current of it instead of being gracefully travelling in the flow. Bee inspired,being part of the IATQB being a friend, client, fangirl of the bloody epic @thequeenbeedani and @creativsas and so many other infuckingcredible powerful, epic humans has changed my life. But only because I was able to clear my head, only because I got out of the overwhelm. I have had my eyes opened, I’ve learnt things I didn’t even think I knew I need to learn, I’ve laughed, cried, felt proud, loved, hugged, cried some more and felt truly at home. Bee inspired is more than just that though. It’s a family! #family #beefamily #wabisabiwayoflife #beeinspired #motherhoodoverwhelm #motherhoodunplugged #mumlife #mumvillage #mumbloggeruk #connection https://www.instagram.com/p/Cb2prOPMUkU/?utm_medium=tumblr

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So many times I’d sit in the background. I’d sit anxiously watching my twins incase they fell, incase they ran off. I’d be thinking about the things that need to get done when I get home, what’s for dinner, what I need to buy, how much money I need to pay out, whether I’ve enough money to pay the bills, if I’ve enough time to wash my hair, walk the dog, water the plants. If they will sleep that night. Then something happened, I had a breakdown. I was overwhelmed, in search of the perfect life, always trying to think a million steps in front. I had a breakdown and lost who I was. Then as I got better we had a surprise second set of twins and then I had a life threatening pregnancy complication. It puts your priorities in order. Now I don’t recommend you having a breakdown, I don’t recommend you facing a life threatening complication I do recommend getting out of that overwhelm. What I do recommend is to start living! To get out of that overwhelm, to stop striving for perfect. Life is too short to be controlled by the chaos. #wabisabiwayoflife #motherhood #mumlife #mumoftwins #mumsofinstagram #twins #twinsofinstagram #mumoftwinstwice #twinstwice #overwhelm #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodoverwhelm #mumvillage #ittakesavillage #mumsnet #channelmumvillage https://www.instagram.com/p/CbrSMIRMBPB/?utm_medium=tumblr

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I hope you e enjoyed getting to know me a little bit better over the past few days. If you are new here, new to my feed there is a “this is me” highlight in my profile. I’m enjoying stepping into my superpower and leaning into who I am. So for anyone just stumbling across me. I’m Nina A Spencer - The Chaotic Mum. Mum to two sets of twins. & step mum to a 22year old. I support, mentor and calm the chaos in motherhood. Working with Multiple mums, mainly (#twinstwice) however all mums welcome as I know that motherhood can be a challenge with any amount of kiddos. The work I do I’m passionate about as I can see the difference it makes when you can see life with clear focus, I want you to feel embraced, heard & understood & less overwhelmed with motherhood & life. This then allows you to live in the moment and embrace the Wabi-Sabi way of life. #twinmum #mumoftwins #multiplemum #multiples #mumofmultiples #mumofboys #mumofgirls #mumvillage #mumlife #motherhoodoverwhelm https://www.instagram.com/p/CbRyqWNsCeA/?utm_medium=tumblr

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24 hours in a day, 168 in a week, 8760 in a year, 692,040 in a lifetime( on average) Time is one thing we can’t get back, can’t earn more of, can’t buy. Yet it runs away sometimes at rate of knotts. How many hours of that 692,040 have you already wasted? Used up worrying about the overflowing washing pile, the dust on the mantlepiece, the toys strewn over the living room? How many have you lost frozen by the overwhelm of the motherhood load? How many more are you going to waste doing the same thing over and over? Could you spend 16 Hours with me over 8 weeks? Plus a little bit more for home work in order to not waste anymore time? Can you afford not to spend some of those precious hours working on strategies that will last a lifetime. So that you can spend those precious hours you have left enjoying life, nipping to the beach if you feel, truly being present with the kids, developing your relationships deeper, falling in love with your home again? 24 hours in a day, 168 in a week, 8760 in a year, 692,040 in a lifetime( on average) Ninaaspencer.com/intentionallyimperfectdays #24hoursinaday #168hoursinaweek #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood #motherhoodoverwhelm #overwhelmedbylife #mumlife #mumssupportingmums #mumsofinstagram https://www.instagram.com/ninaaspencer/p/CYogJVCLhol/?utm_medium=tumblr