#other people’s opinions

[trans-cuchulainn]

i do think there is a degree to which certain kinds of Instagram activists have convinced themselves that traumatising themselves in solidarity is a useful form of activism. "I'm having nightmares and crying so much I want to be sick because of all these videos of dying children but I can't look away while people are getting hurt" I mean don't you think you'd be able to help more if you weren't having nightmares and crying all the time?? don't you think this is a one-way trip to burnout? don't you think maybe increasing the amount of trauma going around is counterproductive? I dunno bro there's something to be said for bearing witness but there comes a point where you gotta look hard at yourself and go "am I helping, or am I just making myself suffer so I don't feel guilty for not suffering while somebody else is experiencing bad shit"

[princesskuragina]

My last post was being snarky but here's my genuine pronoun etiquette opinion in case you actually want to know: it's pretty much never a good idea to directly ask someone their pronouns in front of a group of people, especially if you're in a position of authority, i.e. a teacher. The stakes of this question are very high for some people and you are putting them on the spot to decide what they want to share and what is safe to share. If you have decided you want to ask for pronouns at all, you can introduce yourself with your own to remind people that they can share theirs if they want to. And for the love of god whatever you do please do not just single out the most gender non-conforming or "trans looking" (to you) person and ask only them and no one else

[murasaki-cha]

How I feel like when I see new pjo fans calling percabeth by the name annacy

[relationaltherapist]

The best weight you’ll ever lose is the weight of other people’s opinions of you.

Heal before having children, so your children don’t have to heal from having you as a parent… or just start becoming emotionally regulated and emotionally intelligent and learn to listen to your feelings and meet your needs ASAP, because you just don’t know what you don’t know!

[ale-arro]

been going a little bit insane about this sentence from Ace by Angela Chen for the past week

[stuckinapril]

don't stress about that opportunity that fell through or that friend you lost or that thing you really want to happen but isn't. as long as you keep your chin up and try try try again, better things will replace your losses. i'm looking at my life rn and actually marveling at how every single thing i stressed about, whether it be an opportunity or a person, got supplanted w another thing that is so much better. it really is true that loss makes space for better things. these days i don't get sad when something doesn't work out. i get excited that i'm now open to so many other possibilities out there, so long as i actively seek them. you never lack. you just transition.

[gulopets]

When a dog bites with 'no warning.'

[ghostslimu]

you will never be a bad person for not reblogging a post on tumblr, please remember that

[thechekhov]

👌Content™

[arsenicflame]

Bonus round! Do you use a queue tag?

[throwthepumpkin]

I love Martin Blackwood so much I love how complex of a character he is I love how he's somehow both a manipulative bastard and a genuinely kind person simultaneously I love him and Jon's relationship and how complex that is I love how he's (arguably) one of the most realistic characters in tma I love him

[damian-janus-pendragon]

Ok I need to know tumblr’s opinion on this cuz it’s driving me crazy

Feel free to say why/why not in the tags!

[tradetobest]

spin the wheel to get one of the hockey players i could name off of the top of my head

would you fuck marry kill this player

[bookshelfdreams]

Hey, you! Unfortunately, you're doing Too Many fibre crafts. It has been decided that you must choose only one to continue doing. Each of these categories should be interpreted as broadly as possible (for example, sewing definitely includes quilting).

You can pick up other additional crafts not listed here, but out of these 6, 5 have to go.