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Do you want to support fundraising efforts but feel overwhelmed?
As a white auDHD* person engaged in mutual aid efforts, I have some advice. Take what works for you, leave the rest. These strategies have been effective for me, and while not perfect, they can be beneficial. The important part is to *do* something.
See posts at a time that doesn't work for you? Save them somewhere for later and set a dedicated time each day/week/month to work through your list and move funds around.
Overwhelmed because of the sheer volume of asks? Create a system that works for you - give to the next one you see, prioritize the ones that are the closest or furthest from making their goal, etc. The only bad system is one that doesn't get people funds.
Worried that you're sending too little? It all adds up! 100 people sending $5 is $500. Consider finding a match to double your impact! That said, don't sit too comfy with your contributions, especially if you're financially privileged. If $5 is comfortable for you, bump up to $10 and so on.
Worried about sending too much? Set a budget. Stick to it. I will say, from experience, that this is highly unlikely and most of us have more than we think. You may find you can sacrifice some luxuries to help others in need.
Person you want to support is in a different country/currency/use a pay app/website you can't? The easy answer to this is to find someone else to support. But there are ways to work around this. Use your friends and networks to move money around. Paypal from Canada to the US and forward via Venmo. Use Wise to transfer from the UK to Canada and forward via etransfer. Etc etc etc.
Genuinely cannot afford to part with any funds? Share directly with your networks and include a call to action. It can be overwhelming and counteractive to reblog/forward every fundraiser. Instead, create a system with clear and appropriate boundaries.
Concerned about scams? Examine your suspicions of scams - these often arise from biases. Check resources for validity. When in doubt, help someone else. No need to report suspected scammers - just say no and move on.
*IMPORTANT NOTE* always always always send as friends and family. This lessens fees and taxes for the recipient.
Make fund redistribution a core aspect of your life. Incorporate it into your budget. Send funds at regular intervals based on how your income works. Dedicating 5-10% of your income is a really great place to start.
Feel free to add other tips and advice in the tags. Friendly reminders that shame is not an effective motivator and sustainable action is imperative.
*I specify this because a lot of flavours of neurodivergence deal with black and white thinking and/or perfectionism and it impacts our ability to *do* things. These are also tenets of white supremacy and do require us to actively work against them, even when it's uncomfortable/distressing.
massive massive thank you to @bbreaddog for proofing this for me <3
#mutual aid#collective care#community care#reparations#fund redistribution#donations#god i'm absolutely terrified to let this out into the wild but i know that people get stuck and sometimes all we need is a gentle push#or some guidance#it would be great if people just knew things and took action accordingly but the world doesn't work that way#and i wish i'd had this information years ago when i was just figuring things out myself
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halsin's cozy bear hugs
#baldur's gate 3#bg3#halsin#astarion#halstarion#BIG ARMS FOR BIG HUGS#halsin could swaddle astarion like a burrito in his arms#thinking abt how even though astarion is 200 yrs old he doesnt have nearly as much life experience as halsin#or like... was ever given the opportunity to grow as a person... find himself... in the years he was a spawn#it would be cute if halsin could help him navigate some of it... elf to elf guidance
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RIP Ani 💀 [links: obi - ani - dala]
#my boy’s getting cooked worse here than on mustafar#my vote is he’s fine … with some guidance#he’s too eager to please to be bad#we need a third choice#anakin skywalker#obi wan kenobi#padme amidala#polls#silly
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'Dead Poets Society' gang
Headcanon that these four drop poetry and literature quotes on their conversations unprompted.
Jason 'English-major-I-only-visit-the-manor-for-the-library' Todd-Wayne
Damian 'I-master-liberal-arts-unlike-you-plebs-PHD-holder' al Ghul-Wayne
Cassandra 'I-learn-English-thru-Shakespeare-as-god-intended' Cain-Wayne
Duke 'only-title-holder-of-vigilante-poet-and-will-cuss-you-just-as-poetically' Thomas-(future) Wayne
#My background is ass#I promise to practice but omg i am losing motivation coz its too ugly#started putting some on coloring that i started being happy about it#But my background is level toddler i hate it#the patience and discipline to make my lines straight and clean is nonexistent gdi...why did past me choose library gdi#Just writing some Duke in my fics and this image of them all just made me wanna do art...Duke is a poet and writes stories u kno?#Duke is not a wayne yet...and is not dead yet...but with how comics goes then its just a matter of time lol#They're all in school here...Cass and Jason are college watching over their juniors in high school#everyone use cardigans but Jason like his leather so no thanks lol#Duke and Cass in outsiders are cute#jason todd#dc comics#damian wayne#fanart#robin#cassandra cain#duke thomas#inking & background study#Damian is now 14!!!! He's getting old...he's like a baby yesterday omg#I need to stop obsessing over this so i posted a WIP so i can continue writing my fic!!! argh#Im gonna watch youtube tutorials again on drawing bookshelves coz i cannot do this without guidance
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Out of curiosity why do you bow before eating?
"It's a sign of respect."
"When I kill to eat, I know I am taking a life. I do it out of necessity. The creature's life moves to me so that I can survive and prosper. With this gesture, I pay tribute to its sacrifice."
"The bow is also to acknowledge the work of a person who brought the food, to feed me and the others. You're not pressured to do that, but even if the meal isn't to your liking, you would still recognize the effort. Our colony was small, with Hunter as the only adult, so any food brought back was celebrated."
"In my later cycles, the ability to craft explosive spears became incredibly useful for hunting and self-defense. I had a natural advantage, but it was to be exercised with caution."
"Truth is, I can do a lot of damage with my «powers». It's a big, alienating responsibility. And it was an issue in my younger cycles when I couldn't control it well - sometimes people around me would get hurt, but despite that, I was shown kindness and given guidance by my mentor. My adoptive family did not treat me like a freak, and it mattered a lot to me. It still does."
"I feel no need for bloodlust. I am content with my life… for the most part. Whatever grievances I may have, I know it's bad to take it out on others. For the temporary relief it gives, you realize it really is not worth it. To kill for sport, it makes my stomach turn - a sad waste of life. Just because I can, doesn't mean I should. Cruel thoughts are the domain of a scared animal. I don't want to live in suffering because of such fear, and most of all I don't want my family to think less of me. Does that make sense? I wouldn’t want to disappoint them, or lose their trust…"
"When I hunt for food, I often think of what my mentor would say. Those thoughts guide my spears, the memories remind me to be kind in the face of the vast, indifferent world. Most of the creatures out there have it considerably worse than me, trying to survive nature day by day. I've been blessed with a mark, I know things that a typical slugcat would never need in their life. I don't think I can ever go back - knowledge, like my «powers», are both a blessing and a curse. And, dare I say, I think it is better that I have those powers… for I know, at the very least, that I trust myself to use them wisely."
"The bow is a sign of respect, and a gentle reminder of the things that I stand for."
#rain world#rain world oc#rain world au#rw pioneer#rw hunter#slugcat#slugpup#artificer's pups#ask blog#au lore#tagging it as lore cuz this post is kinda important#it was meant to be three times shorter but i got carried away lol#the left half of the second image was meant to show “Marbles as a menace without the guidance of Hunter”#cuz yknow... she wouldn't have known right from wrong#but i think people will read it as lil shit blowing up stuff for fun#which may be true in some way#tbf she was a fairly calm child that needed friends so bad#that whevener she hurt other kids by accident she would bawl her eyes out out of shame#shout-out to opashoo for assistance 👍
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cw: noncon/dubcon, mean price, theft, smidgen of a daddy kink, spanking, vaginal fingering.
neighbor price who beats someone to the communal laundry one afternoon.
he waits ten minutes for the irresponsible do-nothing before giving up. he intends to dump their dry clothes on the floor and grouses as he reaches into the machine. instead, he grabs a handful of lacy unmentionables, freezes a moment, and then decides there's a better way to impart a lesson.
he doesn't typically loiter while his wash goes, there's always something that needs doing on his precious few days off. but it's worthwhile when he hears feet on the stairs a quarter of an hour later, followed by a sharp gasp.
he looks up from his phone, smirking as a pretty thing gawks at the stacks of neatly folded laundry, her panties on top.
her gaze flicks from him to her clothes to him again. sputtering, eyes wide and glassy with panic and embarrassment.
"i recommend an alarm," he drawls when she hurriedly begins to gather her belongings. he doesn't move a muscle, making her step into his space. watches her shiver from his breathing hitting her neck.
"lovely as your things are, i'm not your maid. i'm not your father."
she scuttles to the stairs, hissing some inconsequential jab, but he's the type of man who needs the last word.
"i'll keep these as payment for sorting your clothes. you want them back, come to unit 231."
he holds the pair aloft, pinching it by the gusset.
of course, she makes the mistake of thinking she'll get her panties back unscathed. she swallows her pride and, to her credit, asks nicely. he can't let it go, though; he needs to ensure his warning sinks in. he spanks her arse raw, gagging her on his fingers until she promises never to be so careless again. she sniffles as he lectures her on the dangerous men who live in their building.
after wiping her tears, he hoists her onto his lap and stuffs the stolen underwear into her mouth. he hooks his chin over her shoulder and snakes an arm around her waist before cramming a hand down her shorts to play. he patronizingly orders her to show him she knows how to set an alarm on her phone and clicks his tongue when it's obvious she does.
he sinks a finger to the first knuckle and hums a breathy, "what am i gonna do with you?" as if he doesn't already know the answer. as if this'll go any other way now that he knows she's delinquent and impetuous. there is one thing he has a nose for—a deficit in discipline. he cannot abide it.
#the other thing he has a nose for: your underwear#john price assuming an entire person's character based off one slight you will always be famous to me#john price assuming some cute thing needs his guidance based off one slight you will always be famous to me#unedited ramblings
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i will forever defend these two- NOT to start discourse but they are both so heavily mischaracterized by the fandom its INSANE like omg yes they are flawed but they are also trying their best PLEASE leave them alone 🙏🙏🙏
as usual im yapping in the tags if anyone cares
#rose rambling#this is not directed at anyone#just some observations within the fandom ive noticed#i genuinely sympathize with jayce sm he may be making mistakes but he is trying his best under a stressful position#that he didn't even want to be in in the first place#there isn't a LOOT of people who are anti ekko or anything but he's genuinely so erased from fandom spaces#NOBODY TALKS ABOUT HIM and it makes me sad#or they completely mischaracterize him as this like emotionless stoic badass???#he literally cried during our first intro to him when he hugged vi but! sure!!!#but yea jayce and ekko are both of my favs#jayce is a problematic fav and ekko is an unproblematic fav who has done basically next to nothing wrong#jayce? hes flawed.#he killed a kid#hes classist#hes lowkey a capitalist#but he cares sooo much ab people around him and prioritizes viktor and mel over everyone else#even though everyone around him seems to only want to use him#and ekko? he was forced to grow up without the guidance of someone like silco or vander#he was ALONE when he built his safe haven#and he is so caring and emotional and SWEET and people just disregard so much of both of their characters#i could give character analysis' on both of them for HOURSSS#arcane#arcane theory#arcane ekko#ekko arcane#ekko#arcane jayce#jayce talis#jayce arcane#arcane jayce talis
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DAY 75: onehat
#codacheetah#isat#loop isat#siffrin isat#isat act 6 spoilers#twohat spoilers#isat spoilers#yea im tagging the onehat post twohat spoilers. watch me#..do we know what time of day it is when siffrin goes to the favor tree?#i always imagined the evening for some reason.#um so anyways. hey do you guys ever think about onehat. do you think about it#do you ever think about how siffrin never learning about loop and never getting closure with them#is just as valid of an ending as twohats. you dont have to get twohats. loop getting some catharsis isnt necessary to siffrin's narrative.#they asked to be here. they were here to help siffrin. and they did. and it ended#that's it.#i've always wondered if loop saw siffrin perform the ritual for them#i wonder if it would comfort them or not. if you ask them if they're a ghost they say yes (and no) after all#the tree is their grave.#something something from main character to stage director to sponsor to corpse#and with how arcane the prereqs for twohats are. yes you can get them naturally on a first playthrough but it's definitely not the majority#experience especially playing blind.#to give loop an ending you have to reach back in with both hands and grasp at that connection#i dont rlly know how to articulate it but it makes me feel a kind of way tbh. you only learn the prereqs (w/o guidance) by talking to loop#very frequently and paying attention to the hints they drop to you about the coin. labor of love situation#self love. siffrin reaching back for loop. We Are Getting Out Together Bitch#Is this anything i dont know that it is#idk onehat fascinates me a lot and im not even gonna touch on the onehats playthroughs where u actually do get the prereqs#i think there is a slight tendency among some fans tocharacterize loop as. more vindictive than they are? i guess?#it's easy to stare down loop's big twohats breakdown and see them bare their fangs and look into their anger#but loop's willingness to fade into nothing and leave siffrin alone shouldnt be forgotten i dont think
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Their best relationship development is still to come, but the chapters today's episode covered are a great start!
#I didn’t start shipping them until AFTER like. Chapter 80-something lol.#my doodles#laimar#dungeon meshi#dm laios#dm marcille#i really just needed some fluff#anyway. marcille is very comfortable with physical touch and laios is not. so it takes a lot of guidance from her and a LOT of touches lol#delicious in dungeon#dunmesh
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hmmm. I think I'm getting a bit better at drawing horses.
Here's Titan, she's a phantom horse from my worldbuilding. She kinda ended up having the most backstory ever simply because I was trying to consolidate some old writing that made zero sense with the new stuff I've written.
#i asked my friends who know a bit too much about horses for guidance.#also a bit of a redesign but not really. i just wanted to change some colours up and add more detail#indigo star#worldbuilding#ocs#horse#dnd#fantasy#art#my art#artwork#my artwork#digital art#character design#character art#dreamerx86
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litany of the martyrs (click for better resolution!)
#at some point i wanted to make an illustration for each character but in retrospect maybe each is multiple song-coded..#drew the sketch for a quincy thing after a chat with a mutual reminded me this song existed dfsghjkl and then spent weeks rendering this#quincy cynthius martin#adamandi#i'm finally done with this! the saints especially were joys to paint and the halo a menace.... this has been the most ambitious one so far.#but it also took quite long because i only worked on it <engages with quincy> when mentally okay to deal with the themes. i'm not religious#but i do identify with the irrational(?ish) guilt + family legacy + academic achievement + disregard for self. also more complex thoughts#about love [but depsite quincent being a large part of quincy's character this piece deals with mostly the Rest of it. so another time..]#anyways! in the original sketch- the saints had heads bent towards quincy so the halo spikes pointed at him. but this worked better! halos#of the saints implying/creating one for quincy was a concept from the start though. in the show they don't touch him directly here but#differences in mediums i think- i don't have time in an image to craft a narrative so everything has to be happening. also artistic liberty#misc inspiration for this includes stained glass windows. i might have maybe misinterpreted the saint costume but i think i logic-ed it out#as the cloth part following a nun's habit w the hood. and then halo above. the material is also more transparent originally but i had. um.#too much fun painting fabric folds.. if you look closely you can see the basis of faces though behind the cloth; but only the vague shapes#because smth obscurity + inhumanness// cassian is the only one i gave a mouth though. that stems from melliot's post about the saints and#st cassian as spokesperson (<- did research teehee!) that's also how i found out which costume = which saint. speaking of which.#left to right: 'st lucy take my hand' // 'st lawrence give me strength' (presses quincy forward; but hand on shoulder connotates guidance)#/'st cassian help me smile' (quincy's mouth is btwn a grimace and a smile; tilts up at side. also no direct touch bc added insidiousness.)#//'st jude [...] i hope your causes burn' (jude's hand is in two places to show movement- nearing the flame and then snatching back; burnt)#other notes: at the midst of the flame the core is shaped like a human heart /the saints and their wax are all melting like the candle for#fun visual effect and also this way they are even less tangible <real>. perks of painting as a medium i guess. // also insp from icarus?#wax and burning imagery; looking at the halo and rays as parallel to sun that burns. too close to the sun; melting; hurting; hurtling //#candles at bottom are a nod to the frankly gorgeous set// also the entire composition kind of stems from the lyric <what use is a candle if#both ends aren't burning>; the two sides between the concepts of catholic guilt and academic perfection that spur quincy#the halo above (saints and guilt; litanyofthemartyrs) and the 'halo' below (academic papers; insp from choreo for perfect at school)#the papers were originally supposed to be more glowy. but i like the idea of it now being a reflection of how quincy's priorities shift#also of note is that <candle> in centre = quincy; w burning candle + aforementioned heart in flame -> most human; idea of love + passion#last thoughts: kneeling + hands close tgt = prayer //wax dripping onto the red As make an effect that looks like blood. because i like#hiding that within the adamandi pieces :OO continuity!! // i've run out of tags but yeah! had fun with this one! every so often i go a#little insane in making art and the final result astounds even me. ngl i'm quite proud of this one. pretty colours <3333
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i say this very gently and with love but can we please stop acting like actors improvising their nc/intimate scenes is a good thing. i understand it fuels shipping and all (it honestly shouldn’t, though, if an actor is improvising it means they’re in character and means nothing for the actor themselves!) and that it’s impressive for actors to be able to do that sort of thing especially with intimate scenes and make it look natural but like. it’s sooo so dangerous when directors just completely let actors do whatever they want for intimate scenes with no guidance. especially in the case of the heart killers with the kantbison scenes and the bdsm they are actively playing out. we don’t yet have confirmation regardless of how much guidance they did have but it really just rubs me the wrong way when people celebrate the idea of those scenes being improvised. they should not be. that is how actors get traumatized. we should not encourage actors being left to “go with the flow” in a scene where the characters are having sex. actually, we should be calling out directors for doing that.
#again this is said gently and with love cause i’ve seen this idea from like. a number of people#and it’s concerning how many people think it’s normal/a good thing/a thing to be congratulating them on#and like sure maybe some actors are totally fine doing it all and they’re perfectly okay afterwards!#but the fact is that that’s not always the case. a lot of actors get hurt because of this kind of thing#it is genuinely concerning to me tho that they have yet to mention any sort of intimacy coordination when discussing intimate scenes#like not to be a buzzkill but like. khaotung was tying first down. they needed guidance#the heart killers
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due south is a show about a man faced with many emotionally complex situations that we may all encounter in our everyday lives. here, for example, his ghost dad approves of his gay date (inspires joy, relief) and then tells him he's moving in (annoying) to do ghost taxes (wildly confusing, closes in on horror).
#'i've been thinking about an office. i think i need an office.' 'what the hell would you do with an office?' fdjfkd#of course what he eventually mainly seems to do with his office(/cute little cabin home) is lure fraser into the closet#which is some extremely fertile ground for reading things into all on its own if you wanted#but i do hope he gets his taxes sorted out!! do you think they have separate forms for dead canadians#living with their son in chicago but maybe also in purgatory canada behind a possibly magical closet door?#are you living abroad if your canadian cabin is located in an american closet inside a canadian consulate on another plane of existence?#i bet the canadian tax authority doesn't have clear guidance on this in their FAQ. poor bob fraser#video#*#due south
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arwen's goth phase, aka the most stressful decade of sauron's life
with the full mask & veil without the white makeup
#arwen#lotr#lord of the rings#usually the feanturi goth makeup emulates a specific maia of one of the feanturi#because copying the actual vala's markings denotes a specific type of devotion (like orome's Hunt)#although some very intense feanturi who also happen to be actual devotees do use the vala markings#but because arwen naturally has maia markings (being of the line of luthien) she combined hers with nienna's instead#when sauron hears that the very luthien looking daughter of elrond peredhel (and also granddaughter of galadriel arafinwiel)#has started wearing a combo of melian and niennas markings#and also decided to take up the practice of melian's magic under the guidance of galadriel herself aka melian's actual apprentice#he is absolutely terrified#and keeps a very close eye for the next couple centuries until he decides she probably grew out of it#(he was also very worried during elrohir's hardcore feanorian teenage rebellion but less scared#given the success rate of the feanorians against the ainur vs the success rate of luthien against the ainur)#like. luthien beat up sauron in his own domain; outsang him and took his castle#then went and basically outsang namo's power right in front of him for long enough to convince him to release beren#and then waltzed into angband; outsang melkor's power to his face; stole a silmaril from his forehead and escaped#sauron does Not want to deal with a *second* luthien
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after the wolf!toji series which one of these wips should i work on??
i will write all of these for sure but it’d be nice to know what everyone’s most excited for !!!! reblog are appreciated just so we get a bigger poll size hehe <33
#excited for many of these tbh#so i need some guidance on what to do first#i have most of the royalty au planned out#and satoru’s is pretty close to done i think#but i wanna know what everyone’s thinking !!!!#jujutsu kaisen x reader#jjk x reader
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DORI PLS THE TYPO TOOK ME OUT QUICKLY SAY SMT SWEET ABOUT H AND HOW THEY'D TREAT THEIR OWN CHILDREN OR POOR CHILDREN OR SMT WE MUST SAVE THEIR REPUTATION AHHHHHH
ITS NOT A TYPO ITS SAID LIKE THAT IT CAN JUST ALSO MEAN OTHER THINGS!
H gives to charity! ITS IN THE GAME, ORPHANS ARE MENTIONED
But honestly?
I don't think H is particularly good with children lol. They haven't had to spend time with many, have little to base good parental guidance on. Genuinely, victorians treated children like little adults with less pain tolerance (they believed this!) and also that they wouldn't remember anything so it obviously can't affect them negatively anyway... true story.
Now, I think, or I would hope, H would be better than a sort of parental figure that's like:
🧍♀️🧍♂️
Just standing by the sidelines.
But I don't know. My brain isn't quite at that stage yet.
Im just trying to get y'all to the ball at this point.
I think... H would be patient? And calm. As a parent. And not harsh, nor cruel. They would want them to be educated well, no matter the Child's gender.
I can see them reading to them.
The child pointing to parts of a map, and H explaining what they are looking at, what is there, if they would like to see it.
Teaching them Latin, or French. Having such conversations over tea in a garden with cakes and biscuits.
Horse riding. A pony could be easily bought or bred.
Encouraging their interests, sharing their own.
Obviously their child would have to be knowledgeable about tea, and arithmatic, and history, even if it is not their favourite things.
I think they would be protective.
Wouldn't allow others to speak ill of them.
But would be able to be quite direct in their dismay themselves.
I think, though, they would learn what their child would need. To feel well, and happy, and flourishing.
And they would be a better parent than their father had ever been.
#They would rely on MC to help too tbh...#they might need some guidance in the beginning to not just#🧍♀️🧍♂️#parent style#YALL HAVE TO REMEBER#THE CLASSICAL STYLE WAS LIKE WETNURSES AND NURSEMAIDS FOR THE FIRST YEARS--U MIGHT SEE UR PARENT ONCE IN A WHILE AND LINE UP FOR INSPECTION#AND THEN SHIPPED OFF TO BOARDINGSCHOOL LATER ON#it was ... prob not great for... well... anyone
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