#or I can go on about it as a reward to myself if I get half done
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stop acting like you need to struggle.
We are taught since young that we need esforce to be rewarded. Do all of the homework, and get a little gold star sticker on your forehead. You need to workout and do restrictive diets to lose weight. The more you work like a damn dog, you will have more money (that’s it, if you’re lucky).
This mindset is actually so hard to let go, specially if you grew up on the lower class. Taking a day to pamper myself and have a rest made myself feeling like I would puke by so much guilt. Easy money felt like a sin. Eating a burger would made me gain the triple of the weight I struggled to lose. With a mindset like that, how could I manifest a peaceful, prosper life, a healthy, toned body, healthy relationships and wealth?
Let go now of the believe that success is a consequence of struggle. Let go know of that pitch you feel in your belly every time you think about having something easy. You deserve a easy life, but to have it, you need to believe it. Success is not someday you need to wrestle in your life, success is something you invite.
I did not believed I could have easy money, that I could even get money before graduating, and now I have a small business that is granting me more money then what I expected it to. I did not believe I could lose weight effortlessly and I lost 8kg eating whatever I wanted. I though I was simply cursed with acne to the rest of my life and I cured it without expensive skincare. I thought I had to fold myself over and be a people pleaser to have friendships and now I have a healthy group of friends who adore my presence simply by being myself, even tho I am adamant of setting boundaries and talking for myself.
Having it easy is not a crime, and it’s not harder either. The less you put pressure in your life, the more things work out. (This can also be applied to shifting, of course)
#loa#loa tumblr#loassumption#loa blog#loa success#neville goddard#law of manifestation#law of assumption#law of attraction#loablr
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Okay I know I'm the most biased person about dadmare, but you can't honestly tell me that if Cross started to mention the way xgaster treated him and his brother as children - the way an adult bullied and belittled and abused them - that it wouldn't make Nightmare see red
#UTDR#UTMV#Dadmare#Like the call is coming from inside the house again!!#Nightmare trying to be detached and collected to prove he doesn't have a familial attachment to his henchmen#And then he hears that Cross was treated badly by adults as a child and he's instantly like ''I'll kill him myself''#I just#Okay#Wick very nicely talked to me about Cross and dadmare yesterday and I'm still whipping it around like a dog with a new toy#LIKE I just think it could be a little healing for both of them#For Cross to get someone in an authoritative role who praises and appreciates him and refuses to treat him like that#And for Nightmare it must be at least a little rewarding to see someone who went through hell as a child and do everything you can to make#-them comfortable and tell them it wasn't their fault#Like I'm sure he still has stuff from his incident to process and maybe sharing it with Cross could do that#Obviously it's not 1 to 1 on what they went through but it might be similar enough to be cathartic#I don't know I just want to see them get along#I want Cross to have a father figure that would tear the multiverse in half to save him#I want Nightmare to learn to love and show it#I want 16 days off work in a row so I can lie in bed and go insane about this
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I fucking love when characters see themselves in someone else
Current thoughts rn is an oc who’s half human and half a species I made up that’s not well known in the federation and only recently joined it awhile ago
And they wanna be a good representation of their non-human species, but stuff keeps happening that makes them feel like they fail at it
And in many ways, they’re different from Spock, cause Spock looks like a Vulcan and wants people to look at him and see a Vulcan who succeeds at being a Vulcan, whereas this oc looks like a human, but wants people to see them as [species I made up]
But they still have some similarities, and they’re crying cause all this drama happened around them, like their fiancé calling off their engagement during the ceremony, and how they feel like their fiancé wouldn’t have done that to them if they weren’t half human, etc
And Spock is just to the side, distinctly aware that he’s had the same thoughts
#would love to talk about the made up wedding drama#if anyone’s interested 👀#maybe I shouldn’t till after I finish my essay#or I can go on about it as a reward to myself if I get half done#I have written. 200 words. out of 1700.#and it’s due in 5 hours#star trek#s’chn t’gai spock#Spock#star trek oc
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at the end of my fucking rope with "conversations" about k12 chronic absenteeism.
#sorry. work rant#next time you read a headline about it think to yourself. why is it schools' job to get kids to come to school.#why do schools have to bend over backward to cater to kids#kids not wanting to go to school is an extremely common occurrence#the difference now is that the responsibility is being shifted off kids and parents and onto schools#i get that schools can do better i really do#i think there is a shared responsibility#but there is a profound belief across society that school is not important and does not matter#and that needs to be addressed too#i'd say 99% of the examples i hear of systemic school problems are actually just examples of individual bad actors#again. schools have issued that need to be addressed! the public school system has profound inequities!#but when the only problems you point out are 'a kid was mean to my kid' or 'a teacher wasn't as nice as they could be'#you're not interested in changing the system#you're interested in changing your kid's experience#and guess what. demonizing school staff sure isn't going to fix anything#at this point I don't see myself ever going back to teaching#you know who will go into teaching? people who don't give a shit.#and that's not going to help anything either.#you can't attract people who care when people who care are punished and chased out#imagine if instead of constantly bringing up the worst possible examples and insisting they are representative of everyone#the good examples were celebrated and rewarded#same thing happens with the medical profession btw#and again. lots of legitimate examples of harm#(i'm fat ffs i know this)#and also I think it's dangerous to have people delegitimizing medicine to the point that crystals are seen as just as valid as a doctor#sorry. separate rant.#but still. delegitimizing professions that require knowledge skill and training is how we get thousands of unqualified people#homeschooling their kids and treating them with herbs they got from their local Etsy witch
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There's something about say doing a whole bunch of laundry or hand washing all your dishes after cooking a large meal when you're twenty that brings me this strange childlike joy and sense of accomplishment when I do it
It's like sure, I did this stuff prior to adulthood, but that was out of obedience to my mother. Now I am an adult living on my own and now I am doing these things because I have to for me and only me and have to willingly choose to do them
And it's like wow I did it I'm so grown up!
#its like yay i did it! then i can here my mother saying good now go do the four other things you need to do#because she is the type of person who is can't stop won't stop so like she doesn't often understand that for me doing even like one big#thing in the day its like it's the only thing on my mind because i have to like prepare myself to do it#i also am baffled when i see people in college who its their first time doing chores and shit#like it was expected for me to do this stuff as a kid and if my mom said to do something you do it right away#which makes my mom sound intense but like she wasn't super authoritarian in her parenting and she allowed for kvetching whining and trying#to negotiate given that you still did as told#also my mother's jewish and her job is contract negotiation so she is impossible to win an argument against#also from what i hear about gen alpha like damn they do not respect their parents like what the fuck#like its insane#also people getting money for doing household chores. my mom doesn't believe in rewarding someone for doing what is expected of them#but she periodically of course would give me money for stuff or buy me stuff so it works out#and like i know people complain about gen z's work ethic but my sisters and i have always been praised for ours#since doing your 110% and what you're expected to do and more was something taught to us early on. it's your duty to do so so you do it#nothing is for incentive#my mom has very high standards#idk why i felt like putting all of this in the tags#i guess since i was raised to give my 110% it makes tasks feel daunting and when theres no one to ensure i do them it takes a lot#of self motivation and since it feels so hard i guess its why it feels like when you're a kid and you're doing something for the first time#and you're not sure you can do it but you did and it's like yay!
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I, uh. Got distracted.

EXHIBIT A:




Oh god these were. Well. The first one I got exactly right, actually! The second one gave me ENDLESS fucking trouble and unfortunately, you can see it's damaged (not in these pics -- I was undoing/redoing So Much). BUT. The important thing (and maybe I'll capture it eventually...?) is that they have a fun dangly effect! They're SUPER CUTE TBH. Made out of jump rings, tiny chain links, and that ball weight thing at the end of an adjustable necklace. All of which, were harvested from necklaces I don't wear anymore/have never worn LMFAOO. I lucked out w the tiny blue beads, I spent forever looking for ANYTHING that would work yesterday, but to no avail. Until I finally found my case of mini mini beads I just couldn't find yesterday LMFAOO (these were the only two like them! Which is also a shame that one did get so damaged, but. What are you gonna do lmfao)
EXHIBIT B:


Not a huge fan of the placement, but. It was a shoddy at home job, anyway (don't pierce your ears at home! 😨😰). These little bead rings are also from a necklace I never ended up wearing, and maybe that's fortunate. They're kinda cheap plastic w paint on em. I imagine, with wear/being pressed against skin, the paint probably would have come off (here's hoping it doesn't here! I feel cheated... but I mean. I don't know why I expected anything different LMFAO). Every time I tried to cut a slot, I just snapped them LMFAOO... they glue back together alright, though. Alls well that ends well! Sharena will have a pair like these too, once her dangly earrings are in!
And. Moe still doesn't have ears, yet. But! Sharena is here to help! 😊



I'm hoping to use these little black beads and layer them in such a way that they look like gauges! I'd prefer to sew them on, ideally. Glue would probably be a last resort... I just don't want to run the risk of losing any parts. At least I have multiple of these ones, but. They're also from a broken bracelet I found on the ground. So. Limited supply.
As for Moe's silver hoops/clickers, I don't want to have Sharena model those. I tried initially, but these (I think they're washers? Also stolen from my dad's stuff) are a lot more heavy duty than a jump ring. I actually scuffed up one of Sharena's ears, trying to fit them on. She's okay, but it was definitely too close for comfort! But that's really good information to have. I think I should insert the earrings to the ears separately, before they're attached to the head. So I have a LOT of room for error and potential destruction LMFAOO 😭🧍 I really like the industrial look the washers give, though! It suits Moe REALLY well tbh, ESPP paired w the angel fangs made out of nails!!!
All in all, I'm EXTREMELY happy w Sharena's dangly earrings! They were really challenging, but sooooooooooo cutes........ I'll def have to like. Post a vid or a gif or something, at a later date (when it's all put together!). And I'm really happy this is the route I chose, for everyone's earrings! LIKE. I had half a thought of using various stitching, which could have been neat too. But. The miniature jewelry............ made out of various beads and chains and objects. Makes me SOOOOO HAPPY. It's just SO fun visually!!!!!! 🥺🥺🥺 I don't know how well matched it'll look when I have to get to shit like armor and buckles, but. Eh. Fuck around and find out. For now, they're CUTE 😤😤😤😤😤
#diy plush#yes i do feel bad about making little accessories while they're still in larval stage.#but is that going to stop me? NO!!!!!!#in a perfect world sharena would have the teardrop shaped jewelry i draw her with. but unfortunately#i have nothing like that in my collection of Things. and i'm really stubborn about going out LMFAOOOO#and for something like this i'd NEED to see it in person. you know. to get a better feel for it#but these little blue beads work just fine! they're REALLY cute on her too#i'm having an INCREDIBLE amount of fun w these though. like i like making jewerly for myself!#BUT MAKING JEWERLY FOR TINY LITTLE GUYS............... incredible. groundbreaking. why didn't i do this sooner#i espppp just really like repurposing various objects. jewerly that no longer suits me.#whatever trinkets i can get my hands on. it's soooo fun#feels REALLY rewarding too!!!#fe alfonse#sharena#my frwends ...
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Apparently I can meet my goal of roughly 400,000 words in 6 months if I just somehow write at least 2,200 words a day ghbjh... Almost 2,500 today... huzzah...
#Definitely not going to be able to stick with it just due to like... being realistic about my energy levels and etc. ESPECIALLY as we#enter the Evil Summer and it becomes hot all the time. But... one can attempt.. at least...#I'm also a very slow writer since I tend to re-read and edit while I write. and only move onto the next section once what I'm writing#seems okay. Which is easy for visual novel type stuff. since ''sections'' of a conversation are more clearly marked (like if you#have a menu option with 5 different dialogue choices. finish the character's response for choice 1 before moving onto 2. etc.)#Especially since when I'm done with a whole quest I always follow it up by playing through it and picking every option and making sure it#actually all works okay and etc. So I am already going to see it all a second time. Then I can go back and reorder a few words or remove#certain sentences that don't sound natural when I read them out loud (I always read it all outloud to myself since it is... just peple#talking.. it should sound like natural dialogue in their voice. etc). But my ''first draft'' is kind of not as first drafty since I pause t#edit a lot as I go along. So it also takes longer probably than it would take other people who I think treat a first draft as more#of a loose guideline or something. AANYWAY...#80F in my bedroom right now again... huzzah... I did end up finishing and recording that sims build video before the heat wave (or is#it really a heat wave if it's just summer..?? lol) came in.. but now... augh.. the editing... plus the costume photos and all else... Much#to do as always.. Often such a long todo list.. a giant scroll hung upon the walls of the evil hermit wizard tower..#Anyhow.. I hope I can finish getting ready for bed early in time to reward myself with a game of tripeaks solitaire whilst I snack on#cheddar cheese and some of those preserved artichokes in a jar. hrgm... I actually have nasturtiums (ultimate best flower) on the#deck again this year but I had to move them all into a corner today because the leaves were getting burnt by the sun lol.. Also am now more#cautiously weaving through social media to ignore all dragon age news. NOT bc of spoilers (I actually love spoilers/literally never play#any game until there's full guides on it I can read to plan my entire playthrough based on knowing exactly what I want to happen lol + mods#and etc.) but just because I'm so busy with my ownprojects I simply do not have the brainspace to dedicate... Yes I love to think#about elves and fictional universe lore. but no.. I pretend I do not see it. Does not exist to me actually. ghgj.. OHH also took som#cool pictures of flowers in the garden section of a store and I wanted to do like.. character designs based on the colors of the flowers o#something. but that might just be another unnecessary project to add to the pile.. I want to commit to the daunting task of dyeing my#hair again some time.. hrm.. this is all of the updates I can think of. As if a bunch of random tags make up for never posting anything for#weeks on end lol.. alas.. too warm to think properly I suppose.. .. I neeeeeed a long lost relative to leave me some million dollar#estate in their will so I can have the resources to move to a colder climate or something ..augh#.. but for now.. I shall toil away in my little wizard tower trying to write 2000 something words a day whilst sweating and such ghbj
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lowkey humble bragging on here bc its not acceptable irl but you GUYS. im such a fucking girlboss i cant even lie
#I TRY NOT TO TALK TOO MUCH DETAIL ABOUT MY PERSONAL LIFE#but theres a like. 50% chance that im about to start my first internship WHILE being a store manager at a shop WHILE doing 16 units#and girl i am 18 years old#and i also tutor lmfao#IM LOWKEY LIKE LIKE THE BEST EVER. NOT EVEN GONNA BE HUMBLE. I WORK SO FREAKING HARD AND I GET REWARDED#everyone in high school asked 'oh why dont you take APs youre so smart?!??!' so i could build a fat resume and beat you for jobs#I WAS PLAYING THE LONG GAME SUCKERS. IM GOING TO TAKE YOUR JOBS <3333#<- still pissed abt mean ppl high school. im 18 guys what can i say it is quite recent for me still#tobin talks#YA JUST GONNA HYPE MYSELF UP. I DESERVE IT
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my issue with cleaning is that it takes me FOREVER to get up the motivation to do it. like there's nothing that takes as much effort to get past my executive dysfunction except maybe. cooking. (because i hate them both.) but when i actually get started and force myself through it for longer than like 15m? holy shit i can clean forever. i will clean forever. i have done my gross apartment that hasn't been cleaned in like four months in one (1) day multiple times because of this.
#saying this bc i was determined to start the new year with a newly clean apartment so i've spent the last 3 hours cleaning lol#we aren't going to talk about what my sink situation looked like. it was dire.#this is also why i cant live with another person tbh. my standards for myself are SO low and i really hate cleaning#so i will deal with an uncomfortably gross situation for MUCH longer than i should#bc it just seriously Doesnt Register or it's just below my threshold for Too Gross. which is pretty high lol#it's amazing what i can get done once i get past the executive dysfunction threshold tbh. my powers of hyperfixation are unreal#i'm taking a break to eat and sit down for a bit bc i didnt really have breakfast and i was getting shaky#then i plan to clean for probably another 3hrs. and reward myself with a nice hot shower and a movie lol#the amount of times i've just deep cleaned my YUCKY! apartment in like one day needs to be studied tbh#liveblogging life
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Having a Saturday like "most people I've dated have only really liked me for my body and/or a fake personality I've presented, so when they know the true me it's not enough to keep them around. Anyways let's have some ramen for my 2 pm breakfast."
#speculation nation#negative/#mayhaps. i am not feeling too great this morning.#this came from me thinkin about my recent ex again and how she said she never actually loved me#(im sick of thinking about it. but i think im gonna be thinking about that for a long long time.)#but i thought about how excited she'd get about my looks n body and i just thought to myself like#'maybe she didnt love me but at least That couldnt have been faked.'#n then i just paused like '...Geeze.' at how depressing a thought it was lmfao#like sorry my personality is ass and my hot bod's the only good thing about me (relationship-wise)#xoxoxo cant help bein a hot mess i guess !#... i dont know if she even realizes the blow she dealt to me by saying that.#i Told her i had trust issues and felt unlovable. i Told her this.#and yet she tells me that she never actually loved me and every time she said it was a 'mistake'. a MISTAKE.#she didnt need to say that. she literally didnt need to say that. even if it was true there are just some things that dont need said.#in the end. she's not the first person who's dealt this kind of blow to me. and she might not be the last.#i'll keep going. i'll keep trying. i know im not actually unlovable. there's gotta be Someone who likes me for more than just my body#who is also a good fit for me. they Gotta exist out there. somewhere.#and for now. i continue on with full confidence in my attractiveness but Zero confidence in my personality.#might try a nice n slow romance next. make them actually work for it b4 they get to sleep with me.#make it a reward or smth. or rather. make sure theyre not here for Just that lol.#sure would be nice if i had someone interested in me for more than just my body. we'll see if i can find that lol.
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I really don't know if I can keep doing this job. All the crap I was most afraid of when I was getting my degree that would make me hate doing the job didn't bother me much for the first year or so but now I feel like I'm dying every time I have to come in here and chase people down for important shit that's missing or incorrect that needs to be fixed before I can pay something and I genuinely don't know what to do about it. I feel like I don't really have any other options than to continue working the job I have but I also want to die for the first time in like a decade
#just keep telling myself dont even worry if its done well or done right#does it even really matter does anyone else care#do it slow do it weak do it lost and dead inside and dont worry about it#no one's life depends on it even though people make it feel like that#i just have to do enough to get to the next day#and hope it's enough that i dont get fired#ive got bills to pay and i really dont want to go job hunting when i know i'd probably end up with something that doesnt pay as much#and it probably wouldnt be any more rewarding or any less difficult than what i already do#but i can rationalize and logic at myself all day the bottom line is i hate this and i dont wanna do it and i need a break so bad
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#i would actually love to just like. stop posting about how terrible i feel all the time#or like how insurmountable sadness is or how overwhelmingly alone i feel in x y or a#but it’s just like!! i’m trying and i don’t have a baseline of resilience anymore like that well dried up forever ago#like i’m just pacing my stupid cage waiting to get better or die trying and it’s so slow as to#be just as agonizing as suffering#i don’t know what to do with myself today or tomorrow or this week or literally ever#like time to just languish and cry until i feel bad enough to do something productive and reap zero reward from acccomishing anything#or whatever once i have it together enough i’m just gonna go out and walk for as long as i can and i’ll just try to sleep after that#excellent way to live my life! i’m so proud of the way i waste my time here on earth!
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my latest fic-writing revelation: luke and aemond are both middle child mama’s boys. not sure what that reveals, but it sure does say something.
#portrait of a prince bloopers#< so my fic rambling nonsense doesn’t have to go in my main hotd tag#god i need to find someone with exactly the same aemond brainworms as me#so i can just ramble about this fic#it’s so fun!!!!#this fic is also making me fall in love with luke tbh#freeing myself from fanon luke was the best decision#anyway they both have middle child syndrome so bad#helaena being the only daughter means she escapes it but AEMOND#major middle child syndrome#and he would do anything for his mama#writing luke and rhaenyra makes me so sad#though in general getting to tackle rhaenyra daemon and alicent#when they aren’t the main focus of my fic#is really interesting and rewarding
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i have been restricting myself and when you do that no matter how “good” i think i can be i end up binging in some way. woah. did you guys know you can put quotes around a word by selecting it and typing the quotation mark. maybe it’s the iphone update
#posts#binging not just as eating either but also as going on my phone for hours instead of reading or drawing or listening to music.#although i did listen to music#< not being hard on myself or guilty about this either ive been working long asf hours + this is normal and fine given that#i will get a reward for working my long hours i will get paid and my name on a published research paper#and i have things to look forward to. having friends over for cooking and watching a movie and having wine on wednesday#which will be fun. i will craft this week so that i can enjoy myself
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Frankly I do not want to think about how long it's been since I did the dishes
... too long, undoubtedly
#speculation nation#im not going to worry about washing all of them#i just need to get at least the dishwasher filled. so i can have Some clean dishes#and i will reward myself with grilled cheese. mmm
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feeling…. overstimulated and triggered tonight and i’m not gonna let it get to me! soo goodnight tumblr :)
#it’s a lot easier when the bad thoughts come on later and i can just go to bed#or manage poorly at first and then go to bed lmao#but if they happen earlier then i have to sit with them and it’s terrible#and that’s usually when i break :/#but we’re at like what 4? 5? 6? days#tmr will be the 6th day#so just gotta get through next week basically and i’ll get my reward!!!#just gotta keep reminding myself of the outcome and not the easy gratifying mistake i make#which doesn’t give me anything (except maybe closure and info)#but i always feel mad at myself after because there goes my progress#so i need to tell myself it will be worth it and one day this will all be behind me and so much easier#and then i’ll have complete full control over the situation :)#a lot of time until i get there but again its about building the momentum now!#i need to be mentally and mindfully strong which is so hard to do in the moment even when you recognize you’re gonna slip up :/#personal
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