#only child vent

[honeypleasejustkillme]

who else mourning the person they could've been if they were treated kindly as a child

[mochamoony]

do you think any of the only child marauders hated being an only child

[wonderouswillows]

The curse of being the youngest daughter is dying with nothing to your name. You are born # of years behind the others, destined to be compared to different people at different stages of their life, all ahead of you— given an advanced start. Your parents say you learned how to walk early to keep up.

You’re raised going to academic award ceremonies for your siblings, but when it’s finally your turn, it’s not as special. Someone else already did it, and your parents don’t grin as broadly as you remember observing for your siblings. What once was exciting for them is an expectation for you.

Bonding time is filled with, “I really can’t tell you if you’ll be as good as them, yet. You’re at different stages of life,” and “You need to do more sports, fill out more scholarships, be more likable” than your siblings. It feels like you’ve been in high school since the day your siblings entered freshman year. They show off your report card (the closest thing to validation you’ll taste), telling your friends that the rivalry you’ve had with your siblings is the reason for your inflated GPA.

Your self worth is tied to a goal that neither starts nor ends, because even if you are “better” than your siblings, it’s too late. Nobody remembers how your siblings were at your age, they only remember the thrill of uncharted territory, newness.

Don’t cry about how you will never see the fruit of your labor, you simply don’t have the time. They’re already ahead, and you have no choice but to compete.

[jewreallythinkthat]

The thing that really gets me about the "protests" where people throw red paint over a university or whatever is that the only person who suffers is the minimum wage care taker/janitor who has to scrub it off. It highlights the complete carelessness of the extremist elements in the free Palestine movement that they don't give a shit about someone living on the edge of poverty, working a shitty zero hours contract cleaning up other people's mess just to make ends meet.

It's vandalism and literally the only person who suffers is someone with no link to "the problem".

Even the things where they steal a bust, or slash a portrait. These will obviously have insurance so the uni isn't out of pocket, some portrait fixer is gonna be thrilled with an extra payday, and it does nothing except get the police involved because actual criminal actions have been taken. It's worthless posturing by people without enough knowledge to have the guts to actually debate someone in public and instead rely on chants and performative destruction to play out their violence fantasies.

It's pathetic.

[nostalgiclittlespace]

Regression Grief

Does anyone else while regressing occasionally just sit back and think ‘what happened to me?’ Where did that time go? Why am I suddenly an adult with real responsibilities, when it seems like just yesterday I was running around my backyard and learning to read? What happened to the days when my biggest worry was whether I would play stuffed animals or action figures? I’m closer to being 21 than I am to being 10, and how can that be right? Why did that have to go away? I’m not ready for it to go away

I want it to come back, for real. Just for a day. I want to be a real kid with my siblings again.

I’m sorry for this insane rambling; I’m pretty regressed rn and I struggling with growing up.

[imqueerandadeer]

if someone says to me one more time "oh you're so lucky that your an only child" I will kill someone, mhm yeah so lucky that no one else is around to take my side when my parents scream at me, so lucky that no one is there to validate that my parents are kinda terrible sometimes and that I have every right to resent them, so lucky

[tabooballoonpolice]

The things no one tells you about being an only child-

You're so soul-crushingly lonely all the time. You feel like you're missing out on some fundamental part of being human, yet everyone tells you you're lucky. When your parents fight you're either dragged into it or completely isolated- there's no one to relate to. You're told your "mature" but it's just because you spend all your time around adults. You love your friends like family but you know they'll always love their siblings more than they love you. You have so much pressure on you all the time- you're expected to be the golden child. Yet you're also treated like a baby. The attention is on you 24/7 but you're still lonely. You're convinced your parents are always right and your points are invalid because there's no one to take your side. If your parents want more kids but can't have them, you feel like you're not enough. Your parents are your only family, your everything, but they need time without you. You're the third wheel in their relationship. You're paralyzed by the fear that someday they'll die and your entire family will be gone. You feel unable to make close relationships with people your age.

You feel all of this and more, but sure, you're lucky because you don't share a room.

[sunsetovertheocean]

Someone should invent parents that don’t fight 24/7 because I’m sick of having to constantly live on a minefield

[birdemic]

spending the years ppl seem to normally make friends dealing with untreated avpd and now its hard to make friends due to 'where do you even meet people' and feeling alienated from most people my actual age due to. the issues. so its like impossible to make friends now and im going to die alone im so sick of being so isolated

[k1ku0l3vr]

being an only child is so weird bc like ur nvr truly urself around ur parents. like with a sibling, u could probably relax and be more lively with them bc ur at an equal playing field, but when u don’t have that equality, u can’t truly build relationships based on banter, which i think is one of the biggest part of a healthy relationship. the parent/child relationship feels less familial and more..professional in a way.

[bearyyayay]

@mdemn HAVE WE TALKED ABOUT HOW SAM MIGHT BE LIKE AN ONLY CHILD AND HOW HIS FAMILY PUTS PRESSURE ON HIM AND DESPERATELY TRIED HIS BEST TO MAKE THEM PROUD KNOWING THAT THEY COUNTS ON HIM AND HIM ONLY BUT ITS NEVER ENOUGH SO THIS GOES THE SAME FOR WHEN HES OLDER HE THINKS THAT HE NEEDS TO DO MUCH MORE AND THAT HE CAN DO MUCH MORE JUST TO MAKE SALIERI PROUD

[mylove-thresher]

I am going to shoot myself in the head

[venustrvck]

me & bachira, our souls reaching across the vast expanse of the world, resonating in a heartbeat of a moment; "this, right here. we are the same. a parallel."

[out-of-users]

(Disclaimer- NOT A VENT)

Ngl gonna admit it. Only children aren’t spoiled brats, and I’m tired of the stereotype we get placed under. Sure, we had our advantages, but I find it strange how you can talk all you want about how we “had no social skills” when we couldn’t talk to kids our age outside of school and trips to places, and even then you weren’t guaranteed a built in friend. We were taught to talk to adults, because they were who we came home to, and how you talk to kids vs adults is different. We’re called “spoiled” and how “we can’t take no for an answer” as if we’ve never heard it in our lives. We are fully capable of not being selfish and can most definitely take no for an answer, along with many other harsh stereotypes we get. It’s just weird.

[spunkykirby]

ugh look i love childe too but please for the love of god stop clogging the neuvili tag-

[dukeofthomas]

I'm ngl I forgot I'm not an only child and was extremely confused on why I had such specific opinions on Jason's and Dick's brotherly relationship. Like I am a younger sibling ofc I'll have opinions on the brothers. Stop forgetting my older sibling exists challenge [level impossible]