#online life

[ceevee5]

[bestoftweets]

[superjerrbear-81]

Death

I stopped telling people (online) that if I'm not posting/responding, I might be dead. Due to my condition, I always thought I would die early. I've watched my peers die young and thought my time on this planet was limited.

It might still be limited, but I don't tell people I might be dead. In fact, I regret ever saying as such. It's probably only led to online friends believing I'm dead because I no longer frequent the same online spaces as they. The first time I noticed this issue was the first time I stopped posting on the CBR forums.

Months after I stopped posting, one of the users reached out to me. They were worried something had happened. That's when I realized it's not the best idea to warn others I may be dead if I'm not active.

I'm now 42 and still very much alive. Sometimes, I still worry that I'll die and nobody will know except for my family. But, since I have a tendency to drift away from online communities, it would be problematic for me to revive this old habit.

[snowcreast]

If i see one more person on internet enjoying life I'll just jump off a clif.😭

[ocelotrevs]

A few weeks ago I read a comment that pointed out some of the people you're arguing with online could be the same people who were in the bottom sets in your year in school.

Being in a particular class or going to a particular school doesn't mean you can't educate yourself in the future, but it did make realise something about people and how they think.

How well read is the person? Are they the kind of person who just decides the facts from the headlines, or do they read the article?

Do they know HOW to research information, or just how to consume information?

Do they know what a leading question is, and why you should avoid asking them when trying to find information? There is a difference between typing "what is this subject?" and "why is this subject bad?"

Do they know how to compare sources, and understand that there are biases to information no matter how much you trust the source?

[anotheruserwithnoname]

I use 👍 all the time at work and so does everyone else in the office. It means "acknowledged", "10-4" or whatever equivalent. I've never heard of it being taken as sarcastic.

💩, on the other hand...

another thing abt me. i use the 👍 emoji very liberally. im not being sarcastic or passive aggressive im being like cool ok or thanks for the heads up or etc. to me 👍 is an innocent happy polite little emoji

[a-sweeter-solarsystem]

take my hand for a moment

your objective from this point on is to survive

the election results are going to take a few days. The world is going to be very tense. I want you to take all the things you like to do to distract yourself and splurge on them. I want you to go eat your favroite foods and spend time with friends. I want you to do what you gotta do to make sure you can make it through the week.

There are people out there who want you to survive. There are people out there who are just as scared as you are.

We'll get through this. We will find a way

[onekisstotakewithme]

having online friends who are busy is just like. I LOVE YOU. I miss you. YOU GOT THIS. I'm giving you space to work. I LOVE YOU.

[contentment-of-cats]

Video Playlist: Wank in the Fandom: Chapter 5. Narc 101: Setting Boundaries and Protecting Yourself

Please see the dark fandom reading shelf for more information, history, videos, and articles.

No matter what, the narc wants to control the narrative and thus control you. You need to stick with the facts and arm yourself against their assaults, but most of all you need to heal from the trauma of having a narc in your life.

Echoism is really interesting, and I think a lot of people who have been in narcissistic families will get this one. We internalize and minimize so much that we lose our own voice.

Anyone who's had hate anons also has positive love anons that are just enough to keep anons on - but sometimes the anons are from the same person. It's related to trauma bonding. Darren says that many people who present in therapy as being trauma bonded are not weak, they're competent and intelligent. Anyone who has ever 'walked on eggshells' or holding on through the lows in order to get the 'highs' of love, affection, or praise.

And how to break free.

DARVO is Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim with Offender, and it's one of the ways that narcs avoid accountability.

[dionysia01]

Just a reminder, you are responsible. If you are a minor your parents or who ever is supposed to care for you is, not the random stranger online whom for all you know could be a danger to you.

Plus any minor who ever feels uncomfortable over something online, please approach a trusted adult.

this is for those who despair over seeing ships or tropes that make them uncomfortable while they do their little scrolly-scroll on ao3, acting like they aren’t responsible for their own internet experience

(alternatively, the back button also works)

[tomwambsgays]

unadulterated loathing

[kierancampire]

I'm struggling with negativity lately haha

Being someone who has no real life life, and is basically exclusively online by default, this may just be an internet thing, probably is. But it's just negativity. Like anytime something new comes out, people instantly trash it. New song, movie, game, ride, whatever. Doesn't matter what it is, people just dog pile it and act like it's the worst thing invented, then do that for every new thing that comes out.

Then, if you go against the grain, and voice your genuine positive feelings/enjoyment of that thing, people are then negative towards you, insult you, call you a shill, or otherwise act like you're this heinous and villainous person for liking that thing. But then people are just like that in general now. I used to make so many friends online, including in places like YouTube comments and such. But nowadays, if I get a notification it's because someone's attacking me 98% of the time, whenever I check comments on posts/videos, again, just 98% of them are derogatory, attacking the poster, attacking people featured, attacking people in general. It's like that's how people only know how to speak nowadays.

Then with celebrities too, some celebrities just are mass hated for no reason, and if you like them you are equally as awful. If people are involved in a controversy and their friends don't speak out, again, equally awful people as apparently everyone needs to give a statement about everything now. Which to tie to two other things. It used to be proven guilty, but now if anyone makes an accusation against anyone, it's up to the accused to prove innocent, and even then they typically hardly ever come back from false accusations. But then also, if public figures don't speak on world events, they are similarly accused of awful things and have people turn against them, a view I frankly do not get.

And people say "welcome to the internet" but I'm 28, I have been on the internet most of my life. It wasn't like this. The way the majority are now? We called them trolls. People who were needlessly hateful, needlessly negative, just constantly attacking others and trying to put them down. They were a minority, they were trolls. But nowadays? It's hard to find anyone who doesn't behave like that. Like even in communities where you would think people are together because they love that thing, there are times where to hate it is the in thing, and you speak differently you are ostracised by this community who you were meant to share this love with.

I just am so sick of all the negative views, all the negative interactions, all the negative attacks, all the negative slander, all the hate speech. I miss when people were kind, I miss when you could make friends, people spoke positively, you shared fandoms, you freaked out and squealed together. It feels like another life. I miss those days. I just am hitting my limit on this constant negativity everywhere. I think that's why I like the gym, it's so nice, positive, and friendly there. People behave like people.

Which to touch on it more too. I don't get why that is the default view of "welcome to the internet"? Why does it need to be like this now? Why is this the place where no one acts how they do in real life? Why is this the place where you speak so sarcastically, negatively, and aggressively to everyone? Why is this the place you attack and belittle strangers? People who you have no idea what they're going through at the moment? Because you have no idea who they are! Yet it's just normal to speak to strangers like shit? Again, IRL if you did this you'd be called an asshole. Yet online is custom. Yet these same people would never act like this IRL. Why has the internet become this? And why is it just so accepted? I miss the positive spaces where people were kind and we made friends.

[writingfanficsfan]

Oh gods, I hate it.

Urg.

I already need to have the Signal app on my phone for work.

I already see that damn app and it's messages every day.

Now I am also getting added to groups I don't want to be a part in.

Why are you adding me to the work facebook group?! I don't even have Facebook to begin with?

Why can't you leave me alone after work ends?!

[lenbryant]

Easy modernity.

[trans-androgyne]

I read too many stories of "women" throughout history who lived as men and wore men's clothing getting beaten and arrested for it, sensationalized in the press as "man-woman," painted as perverts and monsters, put in literal freakshows, and forcibly institutionalized to sit by quietly while non-transmascs loudly and confidently claim that "female masculinity" has never been targeted as much as "male femininity" has. Read some trans and queer history that isn't only about gay men and trans women before you open your mouths about butches and transmascs, or better yet just listen to us about our history and experiences in the first place.