#on my soapbox

[mathsbian]

Big pro tip:

If your relationship is holding you back from making any change to yourself you even just think could be kind-of-sort-of a good change?

Take the plunge. The relationship isn’t worth it. Your partner should want to see you grow+change (and there’s a reason those are always said together: you will grow in ways you can’t define now; you won’t just become more <thing_you_already_are>, you’ll become things you’re not at all yet), and if they can’t handle that, they’re not right for you.

my big tip is if you think you might be trans but a relationship is keeping you from transitioning it is always worth it to just break up with them/burn the bridge. i officially Realized i was trans in october 2021 but i was so obsessed with my partner at the time, who didnt want me to transition, and also scared of not actually being Trans Enough that i stayed with them until june 2022. the relationship wasnt even good by that last year or so i was just so scared of the unknown. i was so scared. but everything you want is on the other side of fear. my transition has been the most beautiful era of my life. ive become a happier person, someone im happier to be, warmer and kinder. being happy does wonders for your personality, and transition does wonders for your mood. its all hand in hand. it can happen to you. just break up with them. heart

[mathsbian]

I haven’t seen this one yet so

Disabled friends and tumblrites all: do your best to stay alive. The fight will be very hard for some of us, if certain plans go into action and our cost of living goes up while benefits go down, but we have to try.

We’ll crawl up the Capitol steps again if we have to. But we have to stay alive to make it there.

[iamdieterbravo]

Hoffman grasping onto Angelina’s hand while hysterical vs taking Strahm’s hand with a smile… Much to think about

I find his reaction to each of their mangled corpses really interesting and it highlights his development for the worse. When he sees Angelina he’s distraught, incoherent, overcome with a cocktail of grief and rage. Compare this to how he reacts to Strahm’s crushed body: he’s nonplussed, if not overjoyed, upon seeing his adversary’s demise.

It shows his desensitization to violence and his death of humanity. Even when watching Seth’s death, there is conflict on his face. He’s doesn’t like the brutality but can’t bring himself to look away.

Yet both of them result in the same thing, they both push Hoffman to do things he never thought he could. Angelina’s driving him to kill Seth and Strahm’s leading him to comitting justiceless killings, no longer bound by Jigsaw’s rules.

[dear-diary-mood-apathetic]

saw a post that said "c-ai is for cowards, real men read fanfic" or something of that nature and. I just dont think the next generation of fandom will fully understand the pain and agony of trying to find self insert fic that was accurate enough to you.

The original "he would not fucking say that" was (y/n) making the most batshit, unrealistic choices and you just had to roll with it. Thats the person you are now. YOU chose to throw your hair into a messy bun and gaze at your orbs in the mirror before your mom sold you to one direction.

AND DONT GET ME STARTED on how much harder it got to find good self insert fic when you're looking for a queer or trans (y/n). Maybe it's easier now, but I remember the days when filtering tags to "trans MC" took you from 14k results to 6.

[mathsbian]

If the rentals are getting broken into, maybe they should— *a giant hook labeled “Billionaire’s Interests” yanks me off the stage at stand-up night*

It’s funny how there’s people online trying to stir up hysteria about “looters” during a wildfire. That is like, the type of disaster that is most adverse to “looting” like shit is on fire

[notionresources]

I need a cigarette just heard someone saying something about not scripting trauma in 🚬 when will the fearmongering end

[bklynmadman]

Next post: LGBTQ+ lives, trans rights, and the whole trans in sports issue. Stay tuned.

[sparklepocalypse]

Whoops, made myself a lightning rod of hate for a second, there. So, brief soapbox moment while we get something… relatively straight. (ba-dum-tss.)

I have watched two (2) Nicholas Galitzine projects, ever. I have watched one (1) Taylor Zakhar Perez project, ever. Those cumulative three (3) projects form a Venn diagram with Red, White, and Royal Blue at the center. Can’t exactly accuse me of being a solo stan of either of them, to be honest — even though I think they’re both very pretty, and they have both done a good job in the projects I’ve seen that fit within my viewing tastes. I’ll probably never watch their projects that don’t align with my tastes, and that’s okay.

And in all seriousness, it is bullshit that people spew racist nonsense at Taylor. It is bullshit that people use his alleged but never confirmed relationship status as a sort of “gotcha.”

It is also bullshit that people have decided that Nick, with whom he is friends, is the villain in Taylor’s story. And yes, being racist or phobic in any sense is dumb and you should feel bad for slinging that shit around. But two things can be bad.

Basically, I don’t care what weaksauce excuse you’re using for throwing hate at Taylor or Nick, or for throwing ad hominem attacks at their fans’ inboxes. Truly don’t. I’d just like you to not be in my internet bubble while you’re doing it.

And please, don’t conflate razzing on someone’s outfit or their performance or something weird they’ve said in an interview with a personal attack against them. It’s possible to be a fan of someone or something and still not love every microscopic aspect of them. It’s possible to gently (or not) poke fun of the things you love. All you have to do to be a “true fan” of something is to be a fan of that thing, and anyone who tries to tell you that there are conditions to being a fan is selling something.

[everyoneisgayandtrans]

Fellow men, you're right to be angry, BUT, you're angry at the wrong people. Your problems are not the fault of women, feminism, racial minorities, or the LGBT. These groups are people that are exploited and hurt by the same system that you're being hurt by. And that's patriarchy, capitalism, and fascism.

DON'T BLAME IT ON THE GAY MEN, BLAME IT ON "THE MAN"

RAGE AGAINST THE MACHINE! OVERTHROW THE GOVERNMENT! ASSASSINATE ELON MU--

My lawyers have advised me to clarify that the overthrowing the government and assassinating Elon things were a bit, obviously you shouldn't actually go out and do that.

That said I do stand by what I said before that.

Men are being abused and manipulated by the system that claims to be keeping them in power-and it is keeping men in power, but only men who were born fabulously wealthy and well-connected. The average guy like you and me? We're nothing but blunt instruments to politicians and business men who control the world. Those people want to turn you into their willing slave army and turn you against women, minorities, and queer people while promising you purpose and fulfillment. Well you're not going to get purpose and fulfillment through misogyny, racism, or anti-LGBT bigotry, okay? You find purpose and fulfillment through KINDNESS! EMPATHY! COMPASSION! LOVE!

That's the kind of man I want to be. Not a he-man womun-hater. Someone who builds people up, not someone who tears others down.

I'm kind of rambling but I'm hoping someone understands what I'm trying to say. I'm a leftist, but I think a lot of leftist rhetoric intends to hold men accountable - which is good - but ends up either being or coming across as just bashing men and calling us evil - which is bad.

A lot of young men hear this rhetoric and don't hear "we need to hold men accountable for their actions", they hear "kill all men", whether or not that's the intended message, it's a harmful message that radicalizes impressionable men into hateful alt-right circles.

If you treat someone as the bad guy by default, then they're going to internalize that view of themselves, and instead of working to improve themselves, they'll embrace being the villain you tell them they are. If no one believes you can be better, why bother to prove them wrong?

Wow, I wrote a lot. ADHD POWERS ACTIVATE!

Well, TL;DR, uh... Don't hate the player hate the game?

[cxrsed-angel]

fandoms aren't fun anymore and I blame influencer culture no one can be regular people anymore anytime they get a following they turn into micro celebrities very annoying

[blackalisondilaurentis1996]

Idc. Q was Moesha’s best boyfriend. THE CHEMISTRY BETWEEN BRANDY AND FREDO, the fact that he was the most memorable, and the way they dominated season 2. Ghetto toxicity aside, they CARRIED (if you ignore the following seasons.)

[versary]

oh that's what i was going to say. you should ignore people who say that you should ice plunge daily. it's usually someone with a discount code to get 10% off an at-home ice plunge (always ask who benefits) BUT it's really not the cure-all that the influencers make it out to be. yes, sometimes it can be good to maybe feel a bit more recovered but a) there's no research that temperature improves physiological recovery (it's better to just go for a swim bc it seems that the hydrostatic pressure of the water is more beneficial than the temperature), b) it gives you mental clarity the same way that sniffing ammonia gives you mental clarity (i.e. it's more the shock than anything else) and you probably don't need it to learn how to "tolerate discomfort" / be "mentally tough", and c) it's not always good to expose yourself to extreme temperatures like that - not all inflammation is bad: inflammation is part of the healing process of wounds &c., and cold temps can slow down the healing process, which is why they don't recommend icing as part of the recovery protocol for soft tissue injuries anymore (it used to be rest-ice-compression-elevation). it's just people trying to sell you stuff. you don't need an ice bath, you need to sleep more.

[mathsbian]

Finally watching Nimona and it’s so fucking good I wish Netflix hadn’t done the household thing and made it so unreliable for me to have access to my mom’s account cause I’ve been wanting to watch it since it came out

So much amazing genderqueer positivity from her!

[iamdieterbravo]

Too many people misinterpret Hoffman as some soulless emotionless killer for my liking. SORRY but in Saw V his internal conflict and distress is so obvious… after killing seth you’re able to see how distraught he is and man is near tears and shaking in john’s workshop and literally crying after kidnapping paul… then saying he Feels Remorse??? But no yeah ur right he just wants to torture people..

[notionresources]

Accidently shifted to twisted wonderland alsmost shat myself 🔥🔥🔥

[ephemeral-gremlin]

all the best and most interesting archival materials i've worked with have been used, written on, stickered, marked up in some way

you learn a lot more from the patterns of wear and use than you can from something pristine and untouched. also the little scribbled notes have actual *personality* which in my mind is what makes history worth studying - people are people no matter what era they lived through, and the best history is fundamentally about people

A brief moment of rationality from the bird place.