#ok to rb if you want to

[mag200]

various dirty mirrors from yesterday

[skeleton-bat]

The defeaning silence of the grumps and co on the genocide in Palestine really rubs me the wrong way.

You guys have had various different charities and have talked about stuff before and yet (from my own limited perspective which they could have talked about it in episodes I didn't watch) I haven't seen any for this.

Like I'm not gonna throw accusations it's just dissapointing to not hear about it and their stance and I cant help but wonder if it's because Dan's dad and a majority of his family are Isreal themselves.

I know very well not every Isreal is pro Isreal but I also don't know anything about Dan's family and their stances either.

I just want basic human goodness but even that may be too high of a bar for them.

Oh well it was nice while it lasted I guess.

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

[jatlokgwo]

why do i have to be strong and brave why cant people just be nice

[citrus-moonlight]

As I often do, I've seen a few posts going around lately lamenting the lack of interaction with fanfiction/fanart here on Tumblr as well as AO3, but after reading a particular comment last night I just need to say this:

If someone tells you that the lack of response to sharing their writing is making them feel so upset that they're thinking of quitting writing altogether, don't tell them that's not a good mindset to have and they should just have fun with it and write for themselves. (have you just tried not being sad? you'll feel so much better!)

Even if you're a writer who felt that way once upon a time but then you changed your mindset so that you don't rely on others' feedback for validation and now you're so much happier, that's not helpful. Because that's obviously not what the person who is feeling sad and defeated is able to do right now, and for most writers/creators that's never going to be possible.

And it shouldn't have to be.

Especially here. Especially fanfiction.

Fanfiction is something that's created because someone loves something and wants to share it with others who love the same thing. And this is specifically a fandom space, somewhere that is supposed to be a community where discussion and dialogue can and is encouraged to happen between the people who write and the people who read. So when there's radio silence when you share something in this kind of space, do you really not see how that would be discouraging?

Because of course I write for myself - I would never get anything down on the page if I didn't - but I share because ultimately I want someone else out there to read what I wrote, and with any luck, to get some joy out of it. But if no one tells me they did, how am I supposed to know? As far as I know I've just been yelling into the void. As far as I know, all that work wasn't worth it.

A metaphor I've seen as an example is that it would be like having someone invite you over and cooking an entire delicious, heartfelt meal, you eat it all without saying anything, and then just leave. Do you not see how that would be upsetting?

We put so much of ourselves into what we write, bits of our hearts and souls and the things that we love and are exploring and are interested in or confused about. It's such a vulnerable thing to share something you've created, so when you tell someone that they shouldn't care if someone else reads what they wrote or tells them that they liked it, you're dismissing a very real and valid experience for so many creators out there.

Because regardless of how slow or fast a writer is, or how big or small their fandom is, it's still hard and takes time and energy and dedication and love - all of it in between our day to day lives from the mundanities to the heartbreaks - to even get something to the point where we're comfortable sharing.

Now, I know that not everyone thinks that writers are silly or selfish or entitled when they ask for feedback. Before I started writing again after many, many years, the main reason I didn't really comment on fics very often wasn't because I didn't think that the authors deserved feedback, it was more that I didn't really think that it would matter. That my comments would just be noted - if read at all - and brushed aside and then they would continue on about their day.

I could not have possible been more wrong. You might think you're just one person and it's just one comment but it's amazing how it can turn a day (or week, or month) around. How it can encourage someone to finish a story, or make a connection they'd been struggling with, or even just manage to add 500 words to a WIP. It is truly incredible to hear that someone loved something I wrote, and if you've ever commented on or reblogged one of my fics, please know that it truly means the world to me.

I've gone through a rough time with all of this lately myself, but I'm doing a bit better now (for the moment), so I just wanted to say this, in part to remind myself when it inevitably gets hard again:

If you're reading this, whether you're a friend or you've never seen me on your dash and never will again: I'm sorry it hurts right now. I'm sorry you feel discouraged and lonely, that it doesn't feel like it's worth it anymore, that you're struggling to find a reason to continue.

But I desperately hope that you keep writing. I hope you keep sharing. You're worth it. I know it's hard, and if you don't want to and you're just tired of the cycle of giving so much of yourself and getting so little in return, I understand that, too. It's ok to be in your feelings about it, it's ok to feel drained by it, and even though knowing you're not alone in your experience doesn't change anything and it still sucks, it's normal and valid and there's nothing wrong with you feeling the way that you do.

But I hope that you are able to find the joy in it again, because you deserve it. ❤️

[ikjun]

what i want to say is that music is a thing of joy for most people. to love an artist or their work, to root for them, is mostly because the music makes us feel happy and supported and seen. sometimes it just makes passing the time easier. feeling saddened or hurt now is valid and real. a connection like this feels and is personal. you’re a human being with a heart. we all are. take care of yourself and look after yourself in any way you can. processing something like this can take minutes to hours to days. look after your heart and your well-being. take it slow if you need to. be gentle with yourself and be gentle to those you know, if they may need it too. let that gentleness and care echo.

[renshengs]

so i really like this show and decided that i should make a powerpoint to get people to watch it. and now 5 hours later here we are. this is my pitch. please watch 莲花楼

[xxplastic-cubexx]

i cant stress how much joy i get from doodling magneto as A Dramatic Comic Book Villain i cannot even lie to you chat

[eskildit]

pyrrha dve is a sleaze. that’s why she’s hot btw

[kennylotl]

tumblr user try to tag literal porn challenge (they will tell you to kill yourself if you ask them to as politely as possible)

tumblr user try not to tell someone to kill themself challenge (they will make a harassment campaign until it drives you to give them what they want)

tumblr user try not to make massive fucking generalizations based on traits people can't change challenge (their favorite things to say are "people with [color] eyes are so creepy wtf get colored contacts" and "[gender] people are so annoying to be around i wish they didn't exist" and then pretend not to be incredibly bigoted)

[ketavinsky]

i hope i'm not too late to offer up my miku! i've been so happy to see all the muslim mikus floating around, so here's a miku dear to my own heart: hui chinese miku!

[skeleton-bat]

It's amazing how you're able to learn new things just randomly

Learned about ehlers-danlos syndrome from watching someone critique a book

Also learned I may have that >> gonna talk to my doc about it cause uh I shouldn't be getting bruises from walking a short distance or from working out for 15-30 mins

[carfuckerlynch]

it’s called a head of garlic cause if u use it right. well

[nuka-rockit]

[shkspr]

fat people! this is your sign to dress sluttier. you dont have to dress modestly just bc youre fat. fat looks so fucking good in shorts and crop tops you guys

[serial-unaliver]

no one is truly equip to be a therapist I think. you're fascinated by the "dark" parts of psychology but you fail to view those people as human when they sit in your office and share the amount of pain they feel.