#ok the person who said it is trans but it’s still wrong???

[prehistoric-rat]

in finland our biggest pride event canceled their partnership with our biggest political party because the party hadn't voted in agreement about our new trans law (to allow self-ID and remove requirement of being sterile (yeah really)) (the party had ruled it a “matter of conscience” and abt 1/3 voted against), and now our news are full of the members of that party being pissed abt it and our likely next prime minister commenting how this is “sad and offends many people”, and ppl are flocking to lament and mock how pride is so intolerable and how u have to have 100% correct opinions in order to participate and i'm

[euniexenoblade]

I debated if I wanted to mock this post/screenshot for a couple hours and i decided I was just gonna go in line by line and dissect it

"being poly is a choice you make. not an identity you cannot change."

I disagree. I struggled with this through most of my teens and early twenties. The desire to be with multiple people was strong and the concept that I couldn't be with all of them was very confusing and hurtful not just to me, but the people I was with. Had I been taught what polyamory is younger and had known that monogamy is not actually the only way you're allowed to be, i'd have probably been able to stop struggling with this much sooner. Do I think this was as big of a mental struggle as being gay or trans? Nah. But it was certainly an issue that ate away at me.

As much as polyamory was a choice, so was me being trans was a choice. I would say both are inherent to who I am. Just because something isn't inherent to your identity, doesn't mean it isn't inherent to mine.

The second paragraph is a gross misinterpretation of what was said. I said abused poly people in relationships they cannot escape will likely cheat when they do find love. The same is true for monogamous people who cannot escape relationships. This happens all the fucking time. To women. To gay people. To trans people. To poly people. This is so utterly common it's an overused trope in story telling.

"OBVIOUSLY abusive situations aside"

The post was about abusive situations. You're already throwing away the core concept to the post.

"why are you staying with someone you are completely incompatible with"

This shows how this person has no value for relationships. Just because you realize you're poly doesn't mean your feelings for an individual disappears. You want to see if this relationship can still work, whether monogamous or polyamorous. Not to mention so many people would find themselves homeless or penniless by just leaving. There's no actual understanding of love and relationships and the heart here.

"you don't need to pursue any kind of relationship ever"

And gay people don't have to be in gay relationships. Trans people don't have to transition. Doesn't change the longing to experience what you want to experience.

"where exclusivity is agreed upon"

I know poly people who entered relationships under the premise the other person was poly, just for that person to decide "actually I'm monogamous, and I'll kill myself if you leave me." You have no understanding or empathy.

"wanting to be poly does not excuse cheating what is wrong with you people"

Look I agree cheating sucks and violates trust, but acting like it's the worst thing in the history of ever is just childish. I get it hurts but at the end of the day, you do not own another person's body and sometimes shit happens. I just do not care what other people do with their own bodies and you cannot make me believe I'm supposed to care. If my husband goes and fucks someone without my permission (which he commonly does) then that's rad. I hope he has fun. If my wife goes and fucks someone I don't know (which she regularly does) then fuck yeah I hope they both had fun. Y'all are too fucking uptight.

Also the tags

The "monogamous people are losers and shouldn't get a say in anything" was something I said in reply to a heckler on my 'monogamous people often abuse poly partners' post. To take it solely as 100% serious opinion is foolish and childish.

"I cheated cuz waaa"

I've never cheated on any partner. The post isn't even saying it's ok cheat, it's saying that poly people get branded as cheaters whether they do or don't. But I'll say it here just because it's so controversial that it pisses losers off: it's ok for polyamorous people to cheat on monogamous partners. Get out before they abuse you.

[mr-ribbit]

this isn't meant to soften or reduce the objective transmisogyny + additional hate action going into this, but since the people running these harassment campaigns are acting like they're literal baby children who need their hands held to understand anything, maybe this needs to be said:

what you're doing and how you treat trans women on this website is fucking MEAN. if you want to sit there and honestly convince yourself that you're *not* a transmisogynist or a transphobe or a misogynist or any other type of bigot - like if you genuinely believe that and are confused why people are calling you these things - then maybe we need to start from little primary colored building blocks and tell you that you're being fucking mean and rude and actively harmful to real people who read the things you say. im not sure why we need to start off with "trans women have feelings" - just kidding I know exactly why we need to - but maybe you don't.

no matter who you're talking to, do you honestly think accusing someone you do not know of being a pedophile, en masse, behind their back /and/ in a public forum, is a reasonable way to treat someone for making a tumblr post about video games or political opinions? even if you strongly disagree with the post, you think someone deserves to be treated like that by people they don't know? take a second please and sincerely imagine how that would feel. wouldn't it be scary? wouldn't you wonder who the people were who thought this about you - if they're people you know - if they're just a few people that will continue saying mean things to you forever or if there are thousands of people who choose to dedicate their time and energy specifically to making you feel bad? if you accidentally write a post in the wrong tone or unknowingly interact with a shitty person, that there are uncountable people that will keep track of that just to hurt you later? that's fucking horrifying

and to zone in on what's specifically happening here: do you think randomly accusing people of being pedophiles or sexual abusers has no effect on them? like a lot of you tend to excuse yourself in these discussions by saying "I didn't actually see the context of what they were saying" or "I didn't see that they apologized already" or "I didn't actually understand the post was a joke" or whatever other kneejerk response to make sure *you* aren't seen as a bad person. do you realize that makes you look even meaner? you didn't bother to actually follow up on a thought you had about someone before sending them hateful messages or making public accusations about them? those actions are harmful whether or not you like the victim at the end of the day.

believe it or not some people you send this shit to are survivors of abuse themselves, or have their own historical personal reasons to be weighing in on a touchy subject. when you baselessly decide it's ok to call someone an abuser of any type, that person is probably *also* disgusted by whatever horrible shit you're accusing them of. as someone that hates these things as much as you do in order to attack someone for them: what do you think it's like to have complete strangers think that about you? how many eggshells would you walk on if random people thought so little of you that they were ok doing this?

it's mean. it's heinous, cruel bullying, and if you genuinely think you are not doing it from a place of transmisogyny or hatefuk bias over the victims' identity, then you need to understand that that's not an excuse. "i didn't even know she was trans" ok, it was still mean to call her a pedophile with 200 of your closest friends in public. "im trans so it can't be transphobia" ok it was still mean to assume someone was endorsing abuse when they were talking about being accused of abuse. "i didn't see the post where she said it was a joke" ok it was still mean to actively harass someone without bothering to look into the full context.

at the end of the day, yes, obviously I still think you're all transmisogynist assholes who are clearly willing to gang up on a woman who has nothing to do with your problems simply because she dared to speak on them. i think you're bigoted and unwilling to examine that if it means giving up your vitriol against someone who doesn't like your favorite video game or whatever excuse of the week. but like even if you were just doing it for love of the hate game, it's fucking weird heinous shit and i hope you're happy having that be a central part of your life

to be clear: im not transfemme and if I'm overstepping or talking over anyone please let me know. im not speaking for anyone's actual experiences except my own, which is the experience of being angry at how much literal bullying and harassment I see excused on this so-called progressive queer blogging website

[herbirdglitter]

I'm watching Midsomer Murders for the first time and the vibe of the queer representation is so confusing that it's amusing.

like I am four episodes in to this show, and this season aired in 1998, and there have been canonical queer characters in ever episode so far. Every one. in 1998. But they also fall into some interesting stereotypes. spoilers btw

we have one very creepy weird slimy dude, who has a weird relationship with his mother, he's gay.

Then we have a trans icon, or a gay person who liked doing drag, they just see women's clothing and jump to conclusions and then constantly call them by the wrong pronouns which, I mean it's the 90s. they're the victim, because we can't have nice things

then we have a nice couple, one of whom I took one look at and said "he's going to be gay because they've put him in a floral waistcoat" and I was right, because that's the type of show it is, and then his concerning partner, who was most likely bisexual, but they act like he just hasn't gotten over women yet or something, and of course he cheats

and then there's a lesbian couple. and to no one's surprise, they are the murderers. or both played a part in it anyway. but, there love is treated like it's very real, which is nice.

but the bit that's absolutely sending me is the different attitudes of Barnaby and Troy. The decision to make Barnaby, the older more experienced one perfectly ok with it all? spectacular. And the way he keeps sending Troy to talk to the queer people specifically because he knows it makes him uncomfortable??? unparalleled. Except when it really matters and he goes and talks to the one lesbian about the well being of her partner.

I am in love with this man. This show is so fun and now I have 24 seasons to watch. and it's still airing. Now I have something to fill the hole law and order left in my heart.

[smiley-positivity-potato]

i have something to say, for all young transmascs or newly transitioning transmascs: just know the "womanhood" you had to endure will be used against you EMOTIONALLY as a trans masc. And not in the way many have spoken about. when you speak up on the abuse, trauma or experiences you went through growing up, people will make excuses of having thought you were just an "emotional teen girl", despite you trying to explain it to them- as an adult trans man. you try to tell them you just wanted help and presently want people to recognize their wrongs. like how they taught you as a child.

but instead they'll make excuses on how they each don't know how to take accountability, for the past or present. they'll say how you seemed like "your mother" at that age, so they thought it was a phase. so now they don't even want to hear or learn how they hurt you. they don't even want to know how to get help or therapy to communicate with you better. AND THEY DONT EVEN WANNA HEAR THEIR OTHER OPTIONS EITHER. they feel like you should just "let it go" when you bring up how it has effected you as a trans man growing up NOW , they dismiss you or blame your behavior on YOU INSTEAD. the reactions of a child, are labelled as an inconvenience, that you should take accountability for when you held no power. they did. so now that they don't, they don't even want to TRY to understand you-

all in all: they will use your past unchosen childhood to label you as an emotional "woman" who is hanging onto the past. when that is not it. it is NOW the accountability of the PRESENT. you want PRESENT ACCOUNTABILITY AND APOLOGIES. YOU WANT ACTUAL ACKNOWLEDGEMENT AND GENUINE EMOTIONAL REFLECTION. and every person in this world deserves that. do not fall for this lack of effort and communication- do not endure it to feel loved as a transmasc. the fact that you are younger AND have tried your best to understand EVERYONE around you all your life is enough. the fact that they won't even try to do it on their own FOR FIVE GENUINE MINUTES, says enough.

saying they don't know how to NOT say awful things to you- is a lack of effort alone. if they can watch you try to get help to understand them for YEARS, they should AT LEAST TRY to find a professional or group or ANYONE to learn how to mend the relationship they damaged or broke with YOU, if they are able. they should NOT use your past or present emotions AGAINST YOU- indirectly defining you as just an "emotional, hormonal, traumatized woman". but they will try. do not let THEM gaslight you or trick you into thinking they can't at least put SOME effort into respecting you as a MAN with FEELINGS FROM THE TRAUMA THEY MAY HAVE DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY CAUSED. they can AND they should put effort into rebuilding what they destroyed. because let me tell you something i've learned:

"If you stepped into a puddle and forgot to wipe your feet before you entered a loved one's house; then the tracks you left are still your's. No matter where you go in the house they will always be yours- and it's up to you to not keep leaving them."

whether they meant to or not, they still left filth on your floors- and we all know who's tracks they are. we all saw it, but the question is: will they return and do it again, with cheeky pride and their head held up high, or will they clean up the floor apologetically, and reflect on every time they left tracks accidentally, or purposely, in your house. will they think about how YOU felt; how they put you into a position of having to speak up for yourself to keep your "house" clean and respected? will they acknowledge all the other times they wouldn't listen or will they dismiss them? as said by ALL my medical professionals, the LGBTQIA community AND my chosen family, you have a RIGHT to cut these people permanently out of your life, and out of your emotional "home".

and if the next time you see them is at their funeral, that's ok. because you have a right as a TRANS MASC HUMAN BEING to put your safety, sanity, well being, respect and emotions FIRST. you have a right to PROTECT yourself from that negativity and pain. do NOT sacrifice yourself to PROVE ANYTHING to ANYONE. do not overexert yourself trying to get them to understand you when all it does is cause you to breakdowns- AND it hurts.

you KNOW who you are. and that is ENOUGH. KNOW IT WILL ALWAYS BE ENOUGH. for you are a transmasc who has EMOTIONS, A PAST AND PRESENT, PAIN AND TRAUMA. You are a VALUED, LOVABLE PERSON AND YOU DESERVE TO FEEL RESPECTED AND SEEN IN THIS WORLD REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANY "LOVED" ONE SAYS- and if your "family/loved" ones have too much pride to acknowledge that- LEAVE.

[eccentricphilosoph]

How can anyone see this and say it’s ok to let people get transition surgery without thorough assessment, mental health care, and therapy over at least a year?

We are told over and over people who don’t transition will kill themselves. yet, what about the people who can’t reverse their surgeries who sincerely thought they were trans when they weren’t who now want to kill themselves? Im now beginning to see one reason why self-ID and self-diagnosis is dangerous. This is why this is an understandably debatable situation.

Unless we make the trans space a cosmetic space instead of a mental health/medical space, there has to be better safekeeping.

Otherwise, if you want no safekeeping then you have to admit it as a cosmetic procedure and not a medical one and take it out of the medical space.

There are many trans people concerned with the lack of safekeeping into transition because then it'll mean less available healthcare necessities for people who actually need the care. Imo, if you don't think gatekeeping is necessary, then I get the feeling you clearly don't need it yourself! Hypocrite.

The system used to be different so this kind of situation wouldn’t happen, but now there’s little to no gatekeeping and severely mentally unstable people who need help are being harmed unnecessarily.

****NO I'm not saying "get rid of trans healthcare" I'm saying, make it safer and help people get through their other mental blocks instead of affirming them only. It's clearly not working for the 1000s of people now regretting or suing because they feel like these men do. ****

I've known 3 DETRANSITIONERS personally who did so not because they have internal transphobia, not because of lack of support, not because of bigotry, but because they're not trans. Guess what? They're not statistics because they didn't tell any surveys or their clinic that they're detransitioning. There are many like them that never go back nor report it. I'm sure there will be many more who will come to the realization their lives permanently changed for the worse (this isn't just a mere "knee surgery" this is literal castration of straight men at worse). Knowing 3 detransitioners in 5 years is a lot... That's at the rate of one per 1.5 years. There are about 20+ people I knew personally at one point or another who transitioned. That's 15% of all the people I knew who detransitioned and I'd be willing to venture at least one more will detransition, leaving us at ~20% of people I've known detransitioning. If detransition is only less than 1%, then what are the odds I'd know 3 people who did since, at most, I should only personally know 1 detransitioner. It's wrong to turn a blind eye and write this post off as "transphobic". Perhaps it's you who are the bigoted one to not listening to reasonable rhetoric. Noting that some people are suffering due to the lack of gatekeeping doesn't somehow negate some people having the opposite thing happen to them.

Citing that there are "statistics" does no good unless you can find me a new study that shows me, for at least a decade, with a substantial amount of people because this is a relatively new phenomenon to make this healthcare known in the mainstream consciousness. Also, as I said, my 3 friends aren't in surveys or the system as "detrans". If anything, they're probably still written down as a transitioner happy with their transition... because how do you know someone isn't happy unless they tell you? Instead of looking at common sense of what I'm saying, I get berated and belittled. You do nothing to help the cause of trans people when you do this. Do you really want people to slip through the cracks as collateral? Do you really, in the name of "inclusivity" want to limit the resources for those who really NEED it? How extremely heartless can you be?

Again, "no safekeeping= cosmetic procedure". "Safekeeping=medical" space. You can't have "no safekeeping=medical space" as there are mentally ill people getting improper treatment, suffering, and then taking away the resources for those who actually medically need it.

[rodolfoparras]

OK imma be honest and little personal, before I knew a little bit more about the LGBT, I just didn't care I just knew they existed, now that im older and apart of it nothing changed ngl...just maybe a little rude with it. I'm like "Oh you're gay? Cool want a cookie?" Or "Oh, you think being gay is the devils or whoever you claim doing? Want a medal?". I don't mind having people like having something for them but a month? Sounds like robbery 2 me like, What about soldiers like I mean the good soldiers who actually fight for their people? I'm sorry, but if I could, I would make certain... things like these two have at least a week, but like I said, I don't mind it... I just find it... wrong in a way...like think about it...when something big happens in your life (if yall do it like me) we just celebrate it in like that first week, like what I mean is for the first few days it's all "WOOHOO THIS HAPPEND TOO YOU" then the rest of the week it's just "congrats". Like I remember a few years back, I'm not sure if it's still the same now. But soldiers die every day and stuff, and all they get is a day, and everyone like "poor soliders rest in peace" and then go on about their lives after a few bours or something . But the moment a Trans person got killed, suddenly everyone dropped everything and talked about it for weeks....trying not to sound harsh, but come on....

Sugar I think you have a lot of inner work to do

Pride month cannot be boiled down to a celebratory party of sexualities and genders

While yes a major part of pride month is to celebrate lgbtq people it’s also about remembering the journey as to how we got here, plenty of people literally laid their lives down so there could be a celebration in the first place sugar I don’t know if you know this but trans people would literally use bricks and drop it onto their genitals or their chest to get rid of those parts, a lot of trans people died of cancer and other terminal illnesses because it was considered shameful to treat an openly trans person no matter what severe condition they had it’s also to raise awareness of how lgbtq people of color made a lot of things possible for us, did you know that before colonization native people had woman man and then a third gender that didn’t fall in either category white, Christian cis people wiped that out because it was considered abnormal and now today we have a whole chunk of people who are seen as abnormal because that whole gender identity has been wiped out pride month is to also raise awareness to everyone who can’t live their lives like they want to. It’s like international women’s day just because women in Europe have it good doesn’t mean that it’s fine and dandy all around the world

The reason as to why people don’t care much for soldiers is that the only ones discussed are American ones- soldiers belonging to armys who have more or less started the war in different places. Never have I seen people discuss the 10.000 soldiers that died in the srebrenica genocide - soldiers- boys 18 year old boys 10.000 of them- that had to forcefully enlist in the army because their country was going through a genocide

And the reason as to why trans people get so much coverage once they get killed is the same reason as to why women get so much coverage when they get horrifically murdered by a man they’re oppressed, soldiers are not oppressed soldier more often than not are the oppressors.

With that being said I do hope you take time to actually do research on your history because the reason as to why you can be like “woo I’m gay ok let’s move on with my day” is because of thousands upon thousands upon thousands lgbtq ppl that made sacrifices for you those sacrifices didn’t happen that long ago

[viquipo]

No bc I'm so mad rn I usually post my rants on ig stories but I need the tumblrites to tell me if I'm crazy or what. Jwcc/ct spoilers WHATEVER

First of all I want to preface this by saying that this is just my opinion on the matter, I'm not saying your headcanons are "wrong" or whatever tf, it's a kids cartoon where they unironically use terms like "fam". You can play with the characters however you'd like.

That being said, this is why TO ME it does not makes sense for Ben to be anything other than gay. Again, if you think he's bi or straight or anything else that's cool. I'm also leaning towards the opinion that he does actually have a girlfriend. I don't think the shows gonna pull a 180 on it because, realistically, 2 queer characters is already a lot for a DreamWorks kids show. As much as I'd like it not to be.

But, since the beginning, Ben has been very clearly coded as exclusively into men to me. Before finally going into it, I remind everyone on here that I'm a lesbian. I have felt an affinity with his character specifically for the experience of only liking the same gender. I might be totally projecting.

Ok, so.

1. The arc Ben goes through during the show is yes, one of self discovery, but also one of self acceptance. He changes a lot from the start of s1, but he also comes to terms with stuff himself or other people didn't like about him. He doesn't throw the dork pouch away or tells Kenji to keep it, the first thing he does when he takes it back from Kenji is put on hand sanitizer. He is covered in dirt, he's not afraid of filth anymore, but he still does that action because it's part of who he is as a person. He also becomes very unashamed at the things he does. He went from being embarrassed of his carob bars to eating grubs in front of people who he knows think it's gross. He knows himself as he is and he accepts it. To me (and to lots of other people) this works very well as a gay metaphor, and pairs up pretty nicely with the whole "jungle boy? Jungle MAN" arc being a trans metaphor. But how does this make Ben uniquely into men?

Well, it doesn't. But I think this next one does.

2. Enter Yasmina. She's pretty, she's smart, athletic, funny, all that good stuff. I'm not saying that means every wlm character should automatically be into her, but it certainly helps. Now forgive me if I don't remember specific episodes/seasons, but we all remember that episode where Ben convinces himself that Yaz is in love with him for some reason. When he "rejects" her, he says : "I'm just now starting to find myself". That's cool, cause I'm pretty sure Ben's " finding himself " personality wise was over and done a couple of seasons ago. To me, that is a really good hint at him dealing with his gayness.

3. He's also the first person Yasmina talks to about her feelings for Sammy. Now, in this particular context, the options for Yaz to talk to were Darius, Brooklynn, or Ben. It would initially seem to make more sense for her to confide in Brooklynn, since the two of them are far closer than her and Ben, and it also wouldn't be the first time she brings up Sammy as a romantic interest for Yaz (see: everyone tweaking abt that one line back in like s2). So why does Yasmina, a very private and reserved person, choose Ben to talk to about her same sex crush? She has probably gathered from the previous conversation that Ben relates to her struggle in a unique way in which Brooklynn just can't. Ben seems very receptive of what Yaz is saying ("feelings, am I right?") and it seems like he REALLY gets where she's coming from.

4. This is one I don't see talked about a lot, and maybe it's just cause I'm too out of the loop with the fandom, but I want to examine it as well. It's when Ben decides to not actually stay on the island. Everyone (except Sammy) already knew he wasn't going to stay in the end, but still didn't force him out. I think this is especially clear in a line Darius says when they reunite on the boat that goes something like "you needed to figure it out on your own" *smile hand on shoulder combo*. No explanation needed I think

I am diagnosed with autism did you guys know what

[purpledemonlilyposting]

1. How else was she going to prove that the server was public

The alt-right playbook says nothing about that and I never claimed it did, you failed to comprehend what I said in my ask to starry, sorry

2. You're doing the boxes thing in this point, youre refusing to think that you could possibly have any similar traits to lily because she's such a horrible person

It isn't a death sentence to have traits similar to lily y'know

I respect starry but I think both you and her are unnecessarily combative and ineffective with your side blogs

no one's claiming you're as bad as lily, a pedophile or a rapist except for fringe idiots

"Anon spam" yeah 2 asks is spam? Ok

And still no counter argument other than "I'm not obligated to answer everyone's asks" I never said you were

I had no reason to turn on anon in my previous ask

No, I had no reason to be on anon when sending an ask to starry

3. The alt right thinks all gay and trans people are all pedophiles, excuse me for being skeptical when the term is being thrown lightly

Sorry I don't think someone deserves to be punished forever for an attraction they can't control (disclaimer to say of course they shouldn't act on it with real children)

What makes me think she isn't a lying predator? The fact that she doesn't seem to have hurt anyone in like 5 years (not exactly sure of the time line), she admits to saying gross things on her blog to drive certain types of people away

If anyone's uncomfortable with what taxxon says they can just block her and be on their way, she isn't forcing it on anyone to engage with kink talk

According to her account a minor entered a call when she was masturbating once and she immediately stopped and kicked out the kid, real horrible

Should she have been masturbating in the call at all? Of course not and she admits she regrets that and claims she was groomed into it (a claim that adds up)

Who's says she's expecting everyone to just move on? And what else do you expect her to do? Turn herself into prison? She's seemingly regretful and has changed

Why should I believe you, a bully, more than a mentally ill traumatized dog therian? What do you know about treating pocd? What do you know what therapists would say about her case? I don't have a degree in psychology specializing in ocpd and I'm willing to bet you don't have one either

On a side note, cranking it to children harms children, engaging with a ddlg kink does not harm children

It's gross sure but it doesn't harm anyone

I'm not dying on this hill, present me with a good argument, prove me wrong, and I'll change my mind

Crimsonender has already made me distrustful on how good of a person taxxon is (though it's more "she's kind of a jerk" rather than "oh she's definitely a predator")

Anyways this will probably be the last time I communicate with you as I don't believe anything productive will come from it, get better soon or whatever

Hey asshole do you not know how to reblog?

Here's the previous post for anyone who wants to follow along.

Starry didn't need to prove the server was public what?

"The alt-right playbook says nothing about that and I never claimed it did, you failed to comprehend what I said in my ask to starry, sorry"

So uh what the fuck were you on about then?

Linking to Innuendo Studios' "The Alt-Right Playbook" video and saying that's me?

Cause if you recall that's what started this conversation.

Do you send things in separate asks hoping I'll forget what you said previously?

2. "You're doing the boxes thing in this point, youre refusing to think that you could possibly have any similar traits to lily because she's such a horrible person"

So?

"I respect starry but I think both you and her are unnecessarily combative and ineffective with your side blogs"

Lol why do you respect Starry? The supposed mystery person who only made a blog because they're salty I exist in the same fandom as them?

And oh wow I'm "combative" when I get asks like this. You said this was you right? I'm matching your energy, bro.

3. "The alt right thinks all gay and trans people are all pedophiles, excuse me for being skeptical when the term is being thrown lightly"

I'm a lesbian.

"Sorry I don't think someone deserves to be punished forever for an attraction they can't control (disclaimer to say of course they shouldn't act on it with real children)"

Pedophilia is not a sexual orientation. It's an acquired paraphilia.

We kicked NAMBLA out once and we can do it again.

"What makes me think she isn't a lying predator? The fact that she doesn't seem to have hurt anyone in like 5 years"

"As far as I know she hasn't been a creeper for 5 whole years!"

Are you serious right now?

"According to her account a minor entered a call when she was masturbating once and she immediately stopped and kicked out the kid, real horrible"

HOMIE WHY IS ANYONE MASTURBATING IN A DISCORD VC ACCESSIBLE TO MINORS? You could only be sweeping this hard if you're into some fucked up shit too.

"Why should I believe you, a bully, more than a mentally ill traumatized dog therian?"

Okay are you a Poe? You have to be a Poe right. Cause you just answered your own question.

[genderkoolaid]

i wish i could send screenshots but i blocked everyone involved to get rhe stupid post off my dash but i saw a post that was like "hey its ok for trans women to just look like men" and then in the comments was some transandrophobe being like "yeah trans men get such a pass to look however they want even if they cant be bothered to bind ppl treat them like men all the time but trans women will get killed if we arent dressed to the nines" and someone was like hey this is wrong? and then even when OP finally stepped into say it was wrong for the one commenter to put down trans men she STILL SAID that the trans guy defending himself in the comments was in the wrong for "making it about trans men" when he was literally just trying to defend us. it made me so mad. "cant be bothered to bind" has been like a ping pong ball stuck in my head all night because of that post. cant be fucking bothered to bind like im just being too lazy abt it and not like fat or disabled or too poor to afford a quality binder lmao cant be bothered. good fucking grief.

Yeah jfc

Again like I have no doubt a lot of times this comes from real frustration and hurt but like good God. these people really have so much ingrained hatred for trans men they refuse to recognize. like not only is "can't be bothered to bind" so fucking insensitive. but also the idea that trans men who look like cis women are treated like cis men????

like not saying said person is aligned with baeddel beliefs but i was checking out @baeddel-txt a day ago and it just reminds me of how folks who follow that ideology truly concocted this fantasy world where cis society kisses the ground trans men walk on and trans men are "male classed" by virtue of identifying as men. like so extremely dissociated from the lived experiences of non passing trans men. people will jump through every hoop in the circus to avoid saying that trans men just might experience misogyny on occasion

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

Contradictory label culture is merely existing in a way that isn't conventional enough to have been considered by coiners.

Multigender people especially are affected (like me I'm multigender.) How can you be nonbinary and a girl? I'm multigender, they are my genders. How can you be midbinary, binary, and abinary? I'm multigender, which label I use depends on if I'm talking about myself collectively or just one of my genders. How can you be cisgender and isogender? Because my aporinity is not cis but is distinctly transn't. But I still relate to cisness because of my being a girl. How can you be enbian and a woman? I'M MULTIGENDER!

It's sad that multigender people basically can't win with sexuality labels, like seriously, I think it needs more rep in media because of it! And someone who ..I don't think was exactly multigender? I think genderqueer? They said something SO simple (no offense) it was being sapphic and Achillean, but it was on tiktok so you know even simple "contradictory" labels are weird to them (there were good comments, btw) but still, someone genuinely thought "sapphic = lesbian, Achillean = gay" I'm sorry WHAT

That's the whole reason for the term sapphic and Achillean!! It's so that multisexual people feel included in wlw or MLM without people saying "lesbian relationship" while one of them is literally bisexual or pan or omni etc!! HOW did they think sapphic was lesbian??

Of course, (TikTok wouldn't like this) but people can be gay and a lesbian (Gaybian) BUT even if you couldn't, you can be wlw and MLM!! It's SO simple and I can't people TikTok was rotting people's brains this much.

And again, it's like multigender people can't live with a sexuality!! I'm gonna go over a few.

3: "erm abrosexual!!" No?? Did they say it was fluid, my guy?? No?? Not every multigender person is genderfluid and not every genderfluid person's sexuality is fluid!!

2: "Gynesexual!!" Yeah you would want someone to just use a term that's basically woman romantic, right? No offense to people who are Gynesexual, but there is absolutely no rep for it anyway, and guess what? Lots of people feel connected to the lesbian label. (Believe it or not, someone pulled out Gynesexual and abrosexual when debating me on my sexuality. Not this next one tho)

1 (absolutely number one goes toooooooo): "that's just STRAIGHT!!" Boom we have a winner!!! 🏆 Of being the dumbest exclusivist! Maybe this should go on r/one joke or r/one comeback!!! Am I right?? Here's several reasons why they wouldn't be straight.

First off, actually tell me how you think a woman loving woman is straight. "Well it cancels out cause you're a man too!!" No it doesn't. That's just multigender transphobia, or @transmultiphobia-discussion (hehe had to tag them, sorryyyy) trans multiphobia! But actually thinking that it's crazy a woman would call herself a lesbian cause she likes women is CRAZY (reminder! Multigender CAN be straight, I'm just pointing out the logic)

And again, it's like double the gayness if they also like men! It's wlw and MLM! That's SO gay! So how the hell is it wrong if they're gay?? And it's like hell ok earth if a monosexual multigender even breathes, like GOD.

I just wonder what they'd say if a multigender person said they're straight so uh... If you want to rant about someone who hates multigender lesbians/gays that also hated straight multigender people... Tell me!

[velvetvexations]

It is so unbelievable how many fucking anti transmasc losers there are!! It's unbelievable, it really is just like ace discourse. Every fucking blog, I have to search 'transmasc' and 'TME' just like I had to search 'ace' and 'asexual' back in the day People will JUMP at the chance to do this shit over again huh

You should read up on the Cultural Revolution because it just keeps happening.

Ok not to double send but...

Blogs like yours do WONDERS for my mental health. Knowing there are actually people in my corner while I realise I'm a trans man is phenomenal

I'm glad to help! <3

my passing status is nebulous. sometimes i pass, but mostly i dont. im a trans guy with a thing for crossdressing so sometimes i have actual, legitimate euphoria vibes over just... sitting in my car and looking feminine. like "you all think im a girl but SECRETLY IM A BOY!!!" and it feels really good because like. yeah. i can look like a girl but nothing will change that i am a boy 😊😊 trans guy crossdresser again, my passing status is also really weird because i am intersex. my mustache confuses people, and that's great

That's similar to how I feel. People think I'm misgendering myself when I call myself male but it's more like I'm asserting dominance over gendered expectations lol. I'm male and I'm still a woman anyway.

thank you for your blog. a musician i really respected went super anti-transmasc recently and its really hurt, and the stuff here makes me feel like. less insane for having an issue with it

I'm really, really sorry anon. I love you a lot. <3

love that this person is calling people who believe that trans men can be oppressed "chuds", a word that is mostly used to talk about right-wing conservative men

transandro reactionaries dontcha know

"internet tough guys" still exist in 2024?????????????

Someone said something like "no one wants to fight you" and I was thinking "no actually I'm dead serious I would actually."

anyone who tries to debunk transandrophobia by throwing in "you people" has automatically lost the argument imo. but also I need to rant. as That Guy in your inbox who hangs out in bear and leather bars it makes me genuinely want to chew through the floor when people are like "oh well queer people don't demonize masculinity" GO OUTSIDE. YES THEY DO. there is a REASON fat hairy balding men tend to have our own damn spaces, because no one else will take us. FUCK.

if people want to insist that everyone around them has always recognized their soul-gender and no one is ever treated like anything but what they identify as maybe they should stop talking about what genders that aren't theirs experience

I'm a bisexual trans man who does not pass and never will pass and I have spent over 30 years of my life being told my experiences aren't real mostly by other queer people and I am so, so, so, so, SO jaded by it. I'm done. If you tell me "your lived experiences are not a real thing" then you're the villain. I can't stand it. I genuinely cannot take it anymore. I have absolutely nowhere to go and I feel so unbelievably hopeless.

Try to hang in there anon. It's okay to disengage and avoid discourse. I know it's not always possible, but there's nothing wrong with unplugging from this shit as much as you can. You have to focus on your happiness.

I love you. <3

[bullshit-tqia]

The other day I made a few posts about the post-hoc fallacy.

For example, it is odd to say an intersex person was oppressed for being intersex prior to anyone knowing they were intersex. How can they be perceived differently for being intersex if nobody saw them as intersex? Is being intersex some magical force that forces people to think of intersex people differently? Can we smell intersex? How do we “pick up on” someone being intersex? Why can we “just tell” if there are no clues? Why would they subconsciously know but not consciously know? If interphobia presented itself as people being horrified of intersex people and wanting to run away…why would they subconsciously be terrified? Wouldn’t it make the most sense if that subconscious feeling became conscious so someone could avoid danger?

Well…obviously what I said is true. Because being intersex isn’t a deterministic force that guides who how you’re treated even outside of people knowing you are intersex. So obviously, interphobia comes from what is done in the past, the “correction” of genitalia done on infants without the consent of the child. But that ultimately led me down into a rabbit hole of other thoughts.

Both infants and teenagers are children, they’re at different stages. Why can a trans toddler consent to social transitioning but an intersex infant can’t consent to a “corrective” surgery? Both are to “fix” something, right? For the trans toddler it’s to fix gender dysphoria. So���if it’s wrong for a toddler to consent socially…how come it is ok for that toddler to be put on puberty blockers when they’re a child, at 5 years old? It’s to fix dysphoria…right? Or at least give the child some time to think it over to see if they actually have dysphoria or not…

…Despite that puberty blockers are only given to children who are diagnosed as gender dysphoric…

They are already diagnosed, it’s determined that they need “fixing.” That’s why for all the “trans kids” who are put on puberty blockers, they are put on hormones and given surgery later. Their identity has already been determined. They are already on the path. The decision has already been made for them. The same way the infant is “fixed” for being intersex, the child is “fixed” for being gender dysphoric.

So that got me to thinking…in the same way that corrective surgery is wrong for intersex infants, then surely puberty blockers is wrong for gender dysphoric children, right? It should be up to the intersex adult or the dysphoric adults to decide whether to get surgery.

But why should there be a notion in getting it fixed in the first place?

Why is the automatic solution to give cross-sex hormones and surgery? Why was hormones the first option given to gender dysphoric individuals in 1930? Why was “corrective” surgery the first option when being faced with the existence of intersex children? Was it to prevent insecurity? Societal mistreatment?

Then from here the puzzle pieces clicked together.

It’s the exact same logic.

You must be “fixed” because accepting being “wrong” is bad.

You must be “fixed” because it is better for all of us to see you as the same from the outside while you still struggle on the inside.

No matter what, your chromosomes will not flip from XX to XY no matter what surgery you have. Your brain will not forget this. You cannot forget the memories of your past. And this constant reminder that you have so and so chromosomes will always give you dysphoria. Your own memories will give you dysphoria.

Why do they act like you’ll just forget you were born with XX/XY chromosomes?

Why do they act like you’ll just forget your secret?

There is no point in trying to run from the reality of your sex. Your past can’t be changed.

You cannot get rid of it. It will always be there. You can only look at the faux organs that have been created. You can only accept being trans.

But why can’t you accept your birth sex?

Why do any of it when you can just learn to accept your sex?

Why was anyone acting as if transition is the absolute only way to do anything??? Wouldn’t the suicide rate be 100% if that was the case???

They advertised and sold transgenderism to me, and I spent thousands of dollars on it.

When I realized this, I spent the whole day and the next, crying. I still knew my chromosomes and I still knew my past.

I never once considered gender dysphoria could be fixed any other way. I never once considered that all of it was a post-hoc fallacy.

How can I say that me hating wearing a dress was gender dysphoria before I even knew that someone can change their gender, or even before there was a substantial difference between boys and girls? I wasn’t raised by parents who strictly adhered to gender roles.

Why did I automatically assume that my discomfort with puberty and growing breasts was gender dysphoria? Is it literally impossible for it to have been me just being a child who was overwhelmed and uncomfortable with the fact that my body was changing?

I kept asking why again and again, asking questions on whether my transition was just me also trying to escape my disabilities too.

I can say it was because of gender dysphoria but there is no way to definitively prove it, so there’s no point in believing such things in full confidence. Maybe it was gender dysphoria, or maybe it was me being insecure.

I hated being trans, I hated it because I felt so lonely. Whenever I went outside I felt publicly humiliated and alone. I was just waiting for me to “blossom” into something greater. But even during the process of “blossoming” I still knew the reality of my chromosomes and my past. I was just trying to ignore it. But you can’t.

I stopped taking testosterone. It’s day 4 of my detransition. I’ve realized all of it is bullshit.

Transitioning felt like it was the only way to happiness because I wasn’t aware of any alternatives. But there are alternative paths.

So in reality, being transgender is quite literally a choice.

But why choose to make your life harder for yourself on purpose? Only for a wish? What’s the point?

I couldn’t defend my original arguments for transitioning. So I’ve dumped it entirely. I was born a girl and I am now a woman.

It is strange because I haven’t identified as a woman since I was 13. Almost a decade ago. It’s almost like a birthday. One second ago you were 20, now you’re 21, and you don’t feel a difference. It’s just that now you can go buy alcohol.

Now I can love more people and have an easier life.

[rott1ngbra1n]

First off! I wanna go ahead and drop some fun art stuff I’ve been doing as I’ve been watching Dragons Rising season 2, which I’ve been loving!

I did a version of Arin before but it wasn’t my favorite so a redo! More AlleyCat stuff and obligatory Cole, because I love him.

I do have more Ninjago Art I want to do (Still need to finish that Cole and Morro friend piece-) and I have some other fandom art I also want to do, but I’ll explain more under the cut as well as why I’ve been gone or a bit less active everywhere. This is optional you do not have to read under the cut!

TW// Transphobia

For those unaware I am a trans man, I go by a different name: both online and IRL (online for privacy’s sake), I also work as a barista due to being a college student and needing to save money for moving away from my own transphobic parents. That’s a whole other story. But at work there was a coworker of mine who was consistently transphobic towards me whenever we worked together. It had been going on since June of last year (The irony of it starting during pride month made me and my friends laugh) but it escalated after I returned from New York, so much so I had to go to management.

Myself. Management had been informed by my best friend (who also works with me) about it and was told it was “gossip”. Ok. Sure- So I informed management of the new incidents and was told I had options, the first being to have a meeting with me, the transphobe, and my manager to discuss the issues. I said no so my manager went to the DM to find another solution. To give even more context, the transphobe couldn’t even be transphobic to my face most times it was always told behind my back to my best friend.

That’s how I knew my manager talked to the transphobe one on one, cause the transphobe right after the meeting went to said best friend. Telling her “not to tell me as she didn’t want to start drama” Cool, I feel so cool. I was very mad, went back to my manager with it, had that meeting with myself, the transphobe, and manager. Where my emotions were downplayed and the transphobe said she had “never interacted with a trans person before and didn’t know what she said was wrong.” OK.

SURE.

After that we assumed it was over, my manager made an incident report, but it didn’t stop the transphobe still kept talking behind my back to others. Despite me talking respectfully of her. More context all the talking behind my back happened at work while on the clock. After a while I just went about my day, then Ethics and Compliance called. They spoke to everyone involved, including me and I relayed more about my testimony. They said they would be investigating and I assumed it would take a while, then finally. I was informed that the transphobe was in fact fired.

This whole situation, along with other personal stuff going on with me, caused so much stress. To the point I tended to fallback into habits I had thought I fixed, mainly regarding my physical health. Even at points hating myself for just existing and having been born wrong.

I’m thankfully doing so much better now and have recently gotten diagnosed with Autism, something I knew I had but didn’t fully understand for a while. I’ve been getting better existing in a world knowing the people that are my blood hate me, knowing that eventually, I will never be able to be loved by my parents or sister. I have friends and coworkers who support me and I want to support other people in this community.

With that said I’m back to making more art! I’m building a portfolio for animation and to intern next year, I also will be trying to post more animations to here when I finish them! I also will still be active in the Ninjago fandom, I’ve loved this show since it came out in 2011 y’all can pry it from my cold dead hands-

But I do want to make more original work, I want to do more Star Wars work, QSMP art and animations, and more Musical Theater art whether it be Broadway or Indie productions. I hope people enjoy what I make, especially some of my original characters as I’ve gotten to work on Cybernetic more thanks to my animation class. You’ll see more of it as we go!

Thank you if you’ve read this and thank you for supporting me!

[roadhogsbigbelly]

ok i didn't really want to do this because i deleted the original posts when it had only 70 notes because i was under the assumption noone would see it but t/xttletale ended up reblogging it anyway and now i have people telling me to kill myself in my inbox so i guess i might as well give details

honestly did not know she was trans until people accused me of pedojacking her, for some reason it never registered because i guess i only see her blog when her posts pop up on my feed but you know my bad i guess

2)yes it's true the term "loliporn" never shows up but someone does say "don't say you're pro-kink and nasty gay sex if you're not supportive of ageplay, cnc, or incest shipping" and than she said "yes, and" which like. seems slightly like an endorsement? but i assume that loliporn was just kind of included with the package, because i do have evidence that toonimal would not be against that

3) i never directly called her a pedophile just that it's really fucking bizzare to have that hot take about "wholesome games" when you agreed with a take that said not liking incest porn or ageplay is "anti-kink or whatever

now did initially censor the names in the post because of reasons i'll explain later but i did realize with no context it looks like both posts were from the same person so i did end up mentioning in the tags that there were two different people before later deleting it all together. but i honestly don't feel THAT bad attributing it to her because she did both reblog the post and than also add on to it, which kind of negates the possibility she didn't fully read the post? still i did censor it again for reasons i'll explain later.

4) i kind of went out of my way to not attribute anything to her. when i talked about her weird stardew valley take i still censored them, because after being told to kill myself for having a lukewarm hot take on sex work last year i usually always censor posts when criticizng/making fun of them. i'm honestly surprised she managed to find it because i deleted it when it only had like 60 notes, and the only reason i found out she found it is because one of her followers sent be an ask telling me to kill myself. and out of curiousity i checked her blog.

i deleted this post before i post this just so her follower doesn't get harassed or whatever. but you know. not fun.

and 5) while i insist i didn't directly accuse her of being a pedophile i DID in fact accuse the person she was agreeing with of being a pedohpile. cause they are.

i'm not going to post the entire callout post cause it's honestly really fucking gross but tldr they run a "contact positive paraphilia forum" which is a basicly code for "actually fucking pedophiles" which kind of recontextualizes they entire post right? that's also why i went out of my way to censor txttletale's name and than later specify there were two different people before deleting it. because i assumed she didn't know the person she was agreeing with was an actual pedophile, but accidently agreeing with a pedophile is uh. not good. i think, someone actually informed her that toonimals was a pedophilia and she said this.

now i'm not saying you have to do a background check on every person you reblog from but if that post talks about "how pro-sex freak people need to be more supportive of people who are into incest" than actually yeah you do sort of have an obligation to make sure they aren't an actual fucking pedophile. the entire basis of that post is "people should stop being mean to actual sex freaks" and you not only reblog it but add onto that yeah that's a fucking issue because 99 percent of time the people who make those posts ARE actual fucking pedophiles, so yeah you probably should be a bit wary. because like.

this is my issue, i don't think you're a pedophile because you don't think there's anything wrong with fiction/sex acts that depict immoral things, my issue is that that logic is used and agreed upon by actual pedophiles. pedophiles are agreeing with you! that's not great! there's my issue with your logic!

[transid-peace]

We still don't and likely never will understand how 🐜s can comprehend and respect transition when it comes to gender, and maybe in regards to species, but not with regards to anything else.

(Using "we" here in the multiplicity kind of way, and "you" in the general kind of way.)

For example, being trace. We know that one's sex organs don't dictate their gender. If someone transitions and/or doesn't identify with their AGAB, we respect that about them. Well, one's skin is also an organ. What makes the skin a more important organ than the genitals? If we can respect a person with gender dysphoria, why are other kinds of dysphoria any different?

Maybe it isn't about organs. Maybe it's about culture. OK. So, we know that it's transphobic and plainly wrong to say that a trans woman will never be a real woman because she will have never experienced life as a cis woman. That's bullshit because no two women are going to have exactly the same experiences, and there isn't one definitive experience that encompasses all of what womanhood is. A person who has lived life as a cis woman can still transition into another gender and potentially look back on those experiences to retroactively denounce their womanhood. And we would respect that person, we would agree. We would say, "Yes, despite the fact that you at one time considered yourself a woman, you are now something else and have since realized that you had never been a woman at all. The culture you were raised in and the person you once were do not dictate your gender as you are now."

Why is that the case for gender, but not race? What makes gender malleable and race immutable?

"Well, a trans woman/trace individual has never experienced misogyny/racism, so that's what makes them not a real woman/person of that race." Even if that were true, which it isn't, why are you defining what makes someone a "real" woman/person of that race by the oppression they face? Doesn't that suggest the idea that these identities, cis or trans, can't exist without oppression? Isn't that fucked up?

"Well, gender is a social construct, but race isn't." How? Again, why is that the case for gender, but not race? What makes gender malleable and race immutable?

Another example is being transabled. If an able-bodied and/or neurotypical person is in a traumatic accident and sustains an injury that disables them, we don't fake claim them. They were abled, and then they weren't, but we still support them. Somebody who's transabled might be so dysphoric about being physically or mentally abled that they would consider putting themselves in dangerous situations in the hope of becoming disabled. Would we fake claim them in that scenario? When we call it BIID instead of transabled, why is it suddenly more respected? Wouldn't allowing disability affirming surgeries be preferable to the possibility of transabled individuals putting themselves in harm's way?

"Using the prefixes 'trans' and 'cis' is transphobic, though." How? In what way? If I said "this ice transitioned into water" or "we transitioned from one topic to another," would that also be transphobic? They're just prefixes.

"But why would anybody want to be disabled?" I don't know! Why does anyone want to be a different gender? Why is your favorite color your favorite? Why do you like some foods more than others? Sometimes, there isn't an explanation or a reason, other than "it just feels right."

"Well, what about transbigotry? How is that different from regular bigotry?" That's something I have less knowledge about, but there are some reasons I can think of for individuals being transharmful. Maybe they have headmates who've done harmful things in their sources. Maybe they have intrusive thoughts, and they feel more in control of themselves if they have a label for those thoughts. To be fair, we ourselves are often uncomfortable when it comes to transbigotry, but as long as the person is only subjecting consenting parties to their transharmful or transbigoted acts, is it really so bad?

"What about transage? Isn't that just an excuse to be a predator?" No. We identify as transage because we have headmates who are ageless. We have headmates who are older than the body's chronological age and headmates who are younger than the body's chronological age. We have headmates who, in their sources, have existed since the beginning of time itself, and we have headmates who are technically only a few years old because they're robots. In most cases, one's chronological age takes precedence over their transage, and that's completely fine by us. We don't believe that someone who is chronologically ten years old should be operating heavy machinery unsupervised. We don't believe that someone who is chronologically eighty years old should be attending prom with a high-schooler as their prom date. And no, we absolutely do not condone relationships that are romantic or sexual in nature between chronological adults and chronological minors, regardless of how either identifies. This is kind of the "locker rooms" argument again. Why is your immediate assumption that someone who wants to transition is doing so for secretly nefarious reasons? What would anyone stand to gain? Do you also think trans women are secretly trying to dominate women's sports with their "unfair advantages" or something?

Could there potentially be individuals out there using transID labels in predatory ways? Sure, I suppose, but I really doubt it's actually working for them. Regardless of that, predators will use anything and everything as a tool against their victims, and they unfortunately exist in every corner of every pocket of every community. All we can do is try our best to protect ourselves and each other when we recognize them.

"Why not just use some other term instead?" Why should we when the terms we're using currently work perfectly well? Why should we change how we identify to make ourselves less abrasive for you?