#not tagging it ace bc thats the asexual tag lmao

[saeiken]

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[coridallasmultipass]

If it's okay for me to add something related because I first saw this on Tumblr: In the mid-2010s, I heard about there being a gay Filipino deity romance (from one culture in the Philippines - there are many different cultures and beliefs) here on Tumblr. It wasn't until years later when researching Philippine deities for fun while trying to broadly connect with my culture that I found a deep dive where someone found that the Bulan and Sidapa love story originated from the same fictional blog source, and had been circulating from new sources and fan art claiming it was historical for years before the author tried to find a non-modern historical source for the rumour, creating a kind of Berenstain/Berenstein effect on the people he asked, claiming they'd heard about the love story from a forgotten source much earlier than the 2010s, but unable to give a specific name, or the source cited claimed they didn't actually know about the romance.

While I think in this instance, a shift in narrative is obviously okay when you consider it is still a living Filipino culture, and people from that clearly find identity with this modern take (which should be asked of people from the cultures directly affected by misinfo), it should also be important not to rewrite it as 'historical fact' particularly when it has a fictional modern source that someone can directly point to as the origin when they question and search down the telephone line (like the game).

(I use the word 'fictional' only in reference to the originating blog, because the blog was unable or unwilling to provide any sources that mentioned that relationship to the deep dive author. I'm not implying said gods can't be/aren't gay. I'm not from that specific Philippine culture, and I don't have enough background knowledge to make any claims of my own. There's also no like, singular religious text/'bible' that pre-Hispanic Philippine beliefs followed as a rule/that can be consulted about this - it's not like a translation debate. There's just no textual source pre-dating the blog making the claim of the romance, and historians/oral historians aren't making the claim either.)

I get variations on this comment on my post about history misinformation all the time: "why does it matter?" Why does it matter that people believe falsehoods about history? Why does it matter if people spread history misinformation? Why does it matter if people on tumblr believe that those bronze dodecahedra were used for knitting, or that Persephone had a daughter named Mespyrian? It's not the kind of misinformation that actually hurts people, like anti-vaxx propaganda or climate change denial. It doesn't hurt anyone to believe something false about the past.

Which, one, thanks for letting me know on my post that you think my job doesn't matter and what I do is pointless, if it doesn't really matter if we know the truth or make up lies about history because lies don't hurt anyone. But two, there are lots of reasons that it matters.

It encourages us to distrust historians when they talk about other aspects of history. You might think it's harmless to believe that Pharaoh Hatshepsut was trans. It's less harmless when you're espousing that the Holocaust wasn't really about Jews because the Nazis "came for trans people first." You might think it's harmless to believe that the French royalty of Versailles pooped and urinated on the floor of the palace all the time, because they were asshole rich people anyway, who cares, we hate the rich here; it's rather less harmless when you decide that the USSR was the communist ideal and Good, Actually, and that reports of its genocidal oppression are actually lies.

It encourages anti-intellectualism in other areas of scholarship. Deciding based on your own gut that the experts don't know what they're talking about and are either too stupid to realize the truth, or maliciously hiding the truth, is how you get to anti-vaxxers and climate change denial. It is also how you come to discount housing-first solutions for homelessness or the idea that long-term sustained weight loss is both biologically unlikely and health-wise unnecessary for the majority of fat people - because they conflict with what you feel should be true. Believing what you want to be true about history, because you want to believe it, and discounting fact-based corrections because you don't want them to be true, can then bleed over into how you approach other sociological and scientific topics.

How we think about history informs how we think about the present. A lot of people want certain things to be true - this famous person from history was gay or trans, this sexist story was actually feminist in its origin - because we want proof that gay people, trans people, and women deserve to be respected, and this gives evidence to prove we once were and deserve to be. But let me tell you a different story: on Thanksgiving of 2016, I was at a family friend's house and listening to their drunk conservative relative rant, and he told me, confidently, that the Roman Empire fell because they instituted universal healthcare, which was proof that Obama was destroying America. Of course that's nonsense. But projecting what we think is true about the world back onto history, and then using that as recursive proof that that is how the world is... is shoddy scholarship, and gets used for topics you don't agree with just as much as the ones you do. We should not be encouraging this, because our politics should be informed by the truth and material reality, not how we wish the past proved us right.

It frequently reinforces "Good vs. Bad" dichotomies that are at best unhelpful and at worst victim-blaming. A very common thread of historical misinformation on tumblr is about the innocence or benevolence of oppressed groups, slandered by oppressors who were far worse. This very frequently has truth to it - but makes the lies hard to separate out. It often simplifies the narrative, and implies that the reason that colonialism and oppression were bad was because the victims were Good and didn't deserve it... not because colonialism and oppression are bad. You see this sometimes with radical feminist mother goddess Neolithic feminist utopia stuff, but you also see it a lot regarding Native American and African history. I have seen people earnestly argue that Aztecs did not practice human sacrifice, that that was a lie made up by the Spanish to slander them. That is not true. Human sacrifice was part of Aztec, Maya, and many Central American war/religious practices. They are significantly more complex than often presented, and came from a captive-based system of warfare that significantly reduced the number of people who got killed in war compared to European styles of war that primarily killed people on the battlefield rather than taking them captive for sacrifice... but the human sacrifice was real and did happen. This can often come off with the implications of a 'noble savage' or an 'innocent victim' that implies that the bad things the Spanish conquistadors did were bad because the victims were innocent or good. This is a very easy trap to fall into; if the victims were good, they didn't deserve it. Right? This logic is dangerous when you are presented with a person or group who did something bad... you're caught in a bind. Did they deserve their injustice or oppression because they did something bad? This kind of logic drives a lot of transphobia, homophobia, racism, and defenses of Kyle Rittenhouse today. The answer to a colonialist logic of "The Aztecs deserved to be conquered because they did human sacrifice and that's bad" is not "The Aztecs didn't do human sacrifice actually, that's just Spanish propaganda" (which is a lie) it should be "We Americans do human sacrifice all the god damn time with our forever wars in the Middle East, we just don't call it that. We use bullets and bombs rather than obsidian knives but we kill way, way more people in the name of our country. What does that make us? Maybe genocide is not okay regardless of if you think the people are weird and scary." It becomes hard to square your ethics of the Innocent Victim and Lying Perpetrator when you see real, complicated, individual-level and group-level interactions, where no group is made up of members who are all completely pure and good, and they don't deserve to be oppressed anyway.

It makes you an unwitting tool of the oppressor. The favorite, favorite allegation transphobes level at trans people, and conservatives at queer people, is that we're lying to push the Gay Agenda. We're liars or deluded fools. If you say something about queer or trans history that's easy to debunk as false, you have permanently hurt your credibility - and the cause of queer history. It makes you easy to write off as a liar or a deluded fool who needs misinformation to make your case. If you say Louisa May Alcott was trans, that's easy to counter with "there is literally no evidence of that, and lots of evidence that she was fine being a woman," and instantly tanks your credibility going forward, so when you then say James Barry was trans and push back against a novel or biopic that treats James Barry as a woman, you get "you don't know what you're talking about, didn't you say Louisa May Alcott was trans too?" TERFs love to call trans people liars - do not hand them ammunition, not even a single bullet. Make sure you can back up what you say with facts and evidence. This is true of homophobes, of racists, of sexists. Be confident of your facts, and have facts to give to the hopeful and questioning learners who you are relating this story to, or the bigots who you are telling off, because misinformation can only hurt you and your cause.

It makes the queer, female, POC, or other marginalized listeners hurt, sad, and betrayed when something they thought was a reflection of their own experiences turns out not to be real. This is a good response to a performance art piece purporting to tell a real story of gay WWI soldiers, until the author revealed it as fiction. Why would you want to set yourself up for disappointment like that? Why would you want to risk inflicting that disappointment and betrayal on anyone else?

It makes it harder to learn the actual truth.

Historical misinformation has consequences, and those consequences are best avoided - by checking your facts, citing your sources, and taking the time and effort to make sure you are actually telling the truth.

[aroaceconfessions]

// sex mention (idk if thats smth to tag im not very sure but im gonna mention it here as a heads up!)

biromantic ace here! random question but do any other aceallos worry about their words being taken in a sexual way?

i feel really heavy romantic attraction and i'll obviously express it a lot when and wherever i'm comfortable (e.g online where i scream abt how much i love a certain character/person lmao) but i'm always scared that people are going to think i mean it in like, a sexual way.

like i have the BIGGEST celebrity crushes on taylor swift and conan gray but obviously i'm ace (sex-repulsed!) and im scared people are going to think i mean it in a strange way, especially when its images where they're showing a lot of skin. same goes for any fictional characters or irl crushes.

like, i don't think they're sexy, i just think they look really hecking pretty and it has nothing to do with whether or not they have a shirt on or not or if they say/do anything 'seductively'.

i'm a simple person. i see someone very pretty, i lose my mind :)

(haha sorry for the very stupid little rant i wanna find more asexuals who experience strong or even just experience romantic attraction bc a lot of people just assume that bc i'm ace i'm also aro, or if i freak out abt ppl so much i must be completely allo when i'm simply bi/ace)

Submitted February 5, 2023

[ayyyez]

I'm so glad that you're back! I genuinely missed your headcanons (especially Neji ones since I simp for him as much as You). What about naruto boys reacting to reader being lithosexual +/or sex-repulsed? I can imagine Jiraya being flabbergasted lmaoo

a/n: aww thank you I really appreciate that! I'm glad to be back. Haha yes gotta love our mans Neji he's just the sweetest, awkward (beautiful) bean. Now I actually hadn't known about lithosexuality before this so it was really interesting to look into (especially as someone who also identifies on the ace spectrum - demi) so I hope I did this justice! I did do both. But yeah someone like Jiraya would probably be flabbergasted first hearing about it but then again once he's older he's probably the one who has heard it all lmao

I picked a couple random characters I was feeling I hope thats okay!

I'm going to chuck a definition on here for those who may also want to know more information but also keep in mind like with everything it's different for everyone who idenitifies and deeper than this mere definition:

Lithosexual is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum. Someone who is lithosexual may experience sexual attraction but does not want it reciprocated. The lithosexual person may be uncomfortable at the thought of someone being sexually attracted to them, or they may lose their sexual feelings if they learn it's reciprocated. As such, lithosexuals do not feel compelled to seek out a sexual relationship. Like with any sexual orientation, lithosexuals can have any romantic orientation.

Tags: discussing sexuality, lithosexuality, demisexuality, sex repulsion, pansexuality

Characters: Neji Hyuga, Madara Uchiha, Shisui Uchiha

Neji Hyuga

Neji honestly doesn't know much about different sexualities and identities when he is younger thanks to the conservative environment he grew up in. He doesn't even know what he identifies as until later when his world view gets opened up tbh.

That is exactly what happens the day you sit down and explain to him your sexuality. It's very blunt and to the point. It ends with something along the lines of 'So yeah, that's me.'

Yeah that's you. As if you didn't just blow his entire world view. 'Oh.' He says as if he doesn't want to ask But how did you figure all that out by yourself?

If he did ask that you could have bonked him on the head and told him of course you didn't. You figure it out through other people. By reading, talking, etc. But he didn't he just sits there stunned looking out at the trees while you try not to laugh at his lopsidded expression.

But its through this stunned encounter and many more conversations that Neji learns he is demisexual. Huh so there was a word for what he was after all? He feels? Satisfied? No. He feels a little more certain. Of himself and the world. A lightness in his step.

If you told him you are sex repulsed Neji is the type to be the most understanding and respectful. (You also have to tell him exactly what it means though because he's a little confused at first but he's got the spirit) Finds out your boundaries the second it comes up. Never strays from them.

Madara Uchiha

A who what when where how? Confusion. However, he's an attentive listener when it comes to all things serious. Especially if you're someone important to him. Doesn't mean he's not all smirky and making jokes to ease to tension. They're not in poor taste but he's so awkward lmao.

He makes talking about it fun nonetheless. But he also feels bad for all the times he flirted with you because he flirts with everyone (he's a natural flirt) and now he feels like he needs to apologise bc he's that guy. You can take it or tell him to stop trying to be a gentlemen it's not for him lmao.

I can see the conversation just casually going into the lighthearted territory after this. The two of you just talking about sexualities in general. Madara casually being like oh pan? Yep that one. Mine. Okay congratualitions sir. Label yourself to your hearts content.

Real talk though this bastards a little smug just by the fact that you trusted him enough to tell him. He feels important. Special.

Tell him that you're sex repulsed and he's also confused. Like he can put the words together and he THINKS he knows what it means but you really should make sure because his mind can just take off sometimes. So yeah he's sitting there like the pikachu meme politely while you explain it to him. And once your done it clicks and MADARA IS BACK he's cool and understanding.

He's definitely on the opposite end of the spectrum with that sort of thing which is fun because he gets to learn! He didn't know it was a thing until now. He's very big on respect so he'll respect you for telling him honestly. Won't cross any boundaries. Make jokes about him though being a gremlin he deserves it lmao.

Shisui Uchiha

I feel like he's going to be the kind of guy who knows a little about this sort of thing? Like you think he's going to be surprised with that carefree front he puts up but he always just knows everything about everything. Damn anbu man.

'Oh yeah that's kind of like when you don't want someone reciprocating sexual attraction right?' He just drops on you in reply. and all you have to say back is 'Yeah kind of.' To which you go on to explain exactly how it is for you.

And he listens. LIKE ACTIVELY LISTENS. Eyes watching. Head nodding. Absorbing everything like its a damn assignment. Such a sweet guy. The best friend like ugh. The best. Asks questions too when he doesn't understand.

'Does that mean you don't ever want to date either?' and then 'Oh wait is that to invasive? Sorry I got to curious don't feel like you have to answer.' Like super curious but also considerate. He's just super interested in finding out more about but also learning about you since you're in his life.

Since the discussion was so deep and serious he'll end it with. 'Well that was great lets go grab some dango.' As if it were just any other day. It's the pure acceptance and sweetness for me.

As for sex repulsion he'd probably also know what it is but want you to clarify what it is for you (if it was something you were wanting to discuss since you brought it up) He wouldn't say to much other than 'Aw thanks for telling me.' But would ask questions again if they were prompted.

And of course if it was a seperate conversation yaknow this man is taking you for food again. He was taught that deep conversations should end with good food.

[that-stingray-moved]

I feel like a big disconnect between ace&aro ppl and exclusionists is that they dont understand, truely, what ace&aro ppl want. Most aro and ace ppl who ive encountered simply dont want to be discounted due to their sexual or romantic orientation. They dont want to have to explain themselves for why they feel more comfortable in a queer space than in a nonqueer space. They dont want to have to justify their existance to other people just so they can be left in peace

[quilfish-swan]

I was hoping you wouldn't mind being tagged! And plz id love to hear abt the Nami and Luffy bonding thats my shit 👀👀

omg yes of course!!🥺🥺 love them. bestie vibes🥺🥺

im just gonna put everything under the cut lmao. (op marineford spoilers below)

okay so. this is a nami pov oneshot where luffy comes back from amazon lily after the two years and wants some advice about the whole boa hancock situation?? (like i can't imagine that he wouldn't at least think about how the most beautiful woman in the world fell in love with him and he didn't feel anything about it. (luffy is aroace in this.)) so he goes to nami and kinda awkwardly brings it up. they talk and nami tells him he might be aroace and luffy gets excited about that. and of course bc the nickname for asexual is "ace" they get on the subject of ace the brother (it's corny i know I ALREADY KNOW). so yeah😭 i probably won't ever post it. (especially without an aroace person to like. proofread it, since i'm not aroace) but i liked writing it and i like a lot of the moments in it

anyway i'll shut up heres the end

* * *

Nami watches him bring his hand to his chest once again, a false smile still masking what she knows must be a storm underneath. She waits for him to say something, and when he doesn’t, she speaks.

"Luffy," she says, "you know I'm here for you, right?" 

He nods, his hair now slightly obscuring his eyes. Nami studies him closely, searching for some kind of clue as to how he's really feeling.

"Nami." He still isn't looking at her, but as if guessing her thoughts, he says, "I'm okay."

"I know." She doesn't believe it, but nevertheless she repeats, "I know." After a beat, she asks, "Luffy, can I give you a hug?"

He meets her eyes briefly before looking down again and shrugging. "Sure."

She puts her arms around him, and at first he just sort of leans against her. But after a few seconds he shifts to fully return the embrace, wrapping his arms around her waist and burying his face into her shoulder.

After another moment, Nami feels him grip her shirt, and for some reason it makes tears spring to her eyes.

"It's been so long, but it still hurts so much." 

The words pierce Nami's heart.

"Luffy…"

She puts a hand on the back of his head to keep him close.

"Luffy, I am so sorry." She holds him to her, rocking him slightly. "I'm sorry we weren't there. I'm sorry I couldn't be there for you." 

Luffy maintains his grip. "It's okay. There was nothing anyone could do."

They stay that way for a minute or so, Nami stroking his hair.

She knows little about Ace apart from what she remembers from their meeting in Alabasta, and of course what she'd learned from the newspapers since his death. She recalls a freckled face and eyes that squinted just like Luffy's when he smiled. (She'd been surprised to learn in the paper that the two were not, in fact, related by blood.) She also remembers Ace falling asleep while eating which had greatly alarmed everyone until Luffy informed them all of his narcolepsy. 

(She tries not to think about the photograph from the paper, of Ace's broken body and Luffy's lifeless eyes staring towards the sky. It shook her to her core when she saw it two years ago, and she has not been able to purge it from her mind since.)

She holds Luffy a bit tighter.

Her captain attracts companions like light attracts the lost. Those who know him love him—and while Nami and the others had all only known him for fewer than six months before they parted, she knows that he would give his life for any of them, and that they would do the same for him. She can only imagine Luffy's devotion to someone who had loved him and whom he had loved for years. 

Suddenly Luffy chuckles, bringing Nami from her thoughts.

"What is it?" Nami asks, pulling away from the hug.

"What if Ace was ace, too? Ace Ace. That’d be funny," he says and giggles. "But he definitely liked boys." 

"Oh, really?" Nami smiles, comforted by Luffy's familiar lightheartedness. "Now that you mention it, I thought he was flirting with Sanji when we met him in Alabasta." 

Luffy laughs. "Too bad Sanji only likes girls." 

Well, Nami has her suspicions about that, but she only rolls her eyes and says, "Tell me about it. Speaking of Sanji," she says. "Are you hungry? Let's go pester him for some lunch." 

"Good idea!" Luffy grins. And before she can say another word, he has flown out the door. Nami shakes her head and smiles. Just as she moves to follow him, he pops his head back in the doorway. 

"Nami," he says. "Thank you." 

Her smile grows, at the same time as something warm and overflowing swells in her chest. 

"I'm so glad you're back, Luffy."

[autisticmob]

Rules: Answer the 20 Questions in a new post and tag the 20 blogs that you would like to get to know better!

Tagged by @pundeserving, a fucking Weeb

Nickname: uhhhh i mean kc is TECHNICALLY a nickname but its literally what everyone calls me like... WAY moreso than anyone calls me kendall, u know?

Pronouns: who Knows tbh ive been using they but im thinkin he is pretty alright too lately

Star Sign: aries/taurus cusp

Height: 5'6″ ishhh?

Time right now: 3 in the Got Damn morning

Last thing I googled: no-bake cookie dough!!!!!

Favorite solo artists: hmmmm... OH amanda palmer for sure.

Song stuck in my head: fuckin... my life would suck without you by kelly clarkson lmao its so OLD idek why its stuck in my head!

Last movie I watched: i think shrek 2 lmao

Last TV Show I watched: brooklyn 99 or steven universe im not sure

When did you create your blog: like freshman year of high school?? idk it had to be, bc it was AFTER i started reading homestuck, but BEFORE i got caught up. so... late 2011? JESUS its been over 5 years... ew...

What kind of stuff do you post: bullshit

Do you have any other blogs: i mean i have a bunch of old abandoned rp accounts from a million years ago lmao. got my old dave askblog, my art blog, my stim blog, and... some other assorted urls that im not actually using for anything in particular. 

Do you get asks regularly: not regularly no

Why did you choose your URL: BECAUSE IM ASEXUAL AND I LOVE ARADIA MEGIDO and also shes ace like? youll pry this projectiony headcanon from my Cold Dead Hands

Following: 404

Posts: ah jeez lemme look.... holy shit 91,425...... Jeez....

Hogwarts house: hmmmm ive always said ravenclaw but as time has gone on i like... lean more towards hufflepuff bc ive gotten a) dumber and b) gayer

Pokemon team: instinct bc im a meme

Favorite colors: i mean various shades of red, but also, not to be too Edgy, black is just? rly nice? its a nice color it goes with everything, its neutral, its like, pretty soothing? idk yall

Average hours of sleep: idk im on summer break now so like. 9-10?

Lucky number(s): shit uhhhh 420 blaze it

Favorite manga characters: moB!!! MY SON MOB from mp100 hooly shit hes... my boy.... i dont actually read much manga tho like ill watch the anime adaptations but i dont generally have the attention span to actually READ things anymore. mp100 i definitely keep up with tho bc i love my boy......

How many blankets do you sleep with: like 3. tbh i only ever have one of them on me but i like to switch out every couple nights

Dream job: tattoo artist tbh

Dream trip: uhh world tour of Dope amusement parks. gimme... the rollercoasters

Who I tag: jeez ok do i even know 20 ppls urls on here? shit idk i might just go through and tag my first 20 mutuals well see

@whentvsfly @mauvile @imhereformysciencefriends @pizzapartyplusprofanity @littlestkohai @universalblips @margoslxix @draconicmentalist @stokerbramwell @tinybuckthorn @aradiadefensesquad @thegreathomestuckreread @asexual-mermaid @local-gay @acekarkat @turing-tested @skysharks @marvel-marble @27teacups @round-bird

i think thats 20 but tbh? if you follow me and u wanna do it? jus go for it and say i tagged u

[christmasace]

i got nominated for this by @slothicity, @jekkiefan, @edwardthebadass, @the-sinner-of-tumbl-r-at-night, and @circusfreckle. Am I really that popular?? Geeze, I had no idea. Anywho...

name/nickname: Gloria / Ace ♠️️ / G

gender: chick... thats really about it.

star sign: saggitarrius

height: 5'3 1/2″ anD IM SALTY ABOUT IT

sexual orientation: panromantic asexual, yee

hogwarts house: hufflepuff

favorite color: red

favorite animal: uhhhhh it’s either dragons or cats

average hours of sleep: 7-8

cat or dog person: cat person (technically im both but i have a dog allergy so)

favorite fictional character: well at the moment it’s henry jekyll and edward hyde but like if you scroll through me blog you’ll find more

number of blankets i sleep with: 2

favorite singer/band: P!ATD, David Bowie, Imagine Dragons, Coldplay, and so many more that i dont feel like listing at the present

dream trip: europe or new england

dream job: broadway actress!!

when this blog was created: 2012 lmao we dont talk about it

current number of followers: 664?? holy shit

when did your blog reach its peak: lmao what peak. we started from the bottom and just got lower.

what made you decide to make this tumblr: i think its bc i kept seeing a bunch of people on DA (the first site i polluted with my 12 y/o Cringe TM) move from DA to here and i just kinda. went along with it. i joined in the middle of the Oncest and the Mishapocalypse and yea it was p strenuous.

im not tagging poeple bc im really lazy rn and i should be doing my spanish homework (lmao) but if you wanna do this feel free!!

[asexualhunterhollingsworth]

Hey, so I'm genuinely curious. When you date a non asexual person. What is the general response to you saying your ace?

usually there isn’t even a reaction???? like i’ve only dated two guys since being open about being ace like last ex from 3 years ago at first was like fake understanding about that being all like sex doesnt matter in a relationship but likeeee thats not how he really felt (: and a month later after only spending time alone like 3 or 4 times when he broke up w/ me complained i did “nothing for him” sexually

i told a crush that i almost dated after my last ex about me being ace, and we didnt date and he dated someone else so like i felt like saying something about it before getting into a relationship had something to do w/ it

uhhhh for my now ex after being w/ him for like a year hes never said anything negative about it, but maybe bc ive found myself to be relating to demisexual more since meeting him (even tho i prefer just saying asexual) so thats why he doesnt complain i guess

but yeah those tags i put under that one post like all these nonace dudes i talk to over the years suck at holding a conversation while all the ace dudes i talk to even tho they live far away and im not romantically attracted to them at the moment i can easily talk to a lot lmao