#nondysphoric positivity

[pwurrz]

growing up is realizing that those people depicted in the 'trender' drawings that truscum made are super fucking cool.

like holy shit, you're stargender? you like your chest and wear dresses as a man? you like dyeing your hair with super colorful patterns? you use bun/vampself???? you love and celebrate being transgender? you're nondysphoric? so fucking rad

[sirenium]

this is a titty appreciation zone and that includes man tits and surgically augmented tits btw

[patricia-taxxon]

think the transmedicalism comparison is less like "ooh yeah you're . like gender is fake" or whatever, and more uh. like imagine a post that was like "you're not oppressed just b/c people who are more trans than you are mean to you online, especially when you're not even claiming to have any dysphoria" or "watching nondysphoric trans ppl talk about being valid is digital selfharm". like you dont have to go after specific ppl for ppls response to still be like: oh hm, not sure I like that. bit different than just being vaguely negative abt them yknow? anyway

You know what, yeah, on some level it is triggering to me when I expose myself to the online communities of groups I'm supposedly a part of and the discussion is primarily taken up by people for whom their greatest oppression is a denial of validity and understanding in online spaces, but that's a me problem. Usually what I say to myself is that I must not be an additional voice on top of neurotypical/cis society denying that validity, but with pluralblr it feels different. The gender/religion side of that community is such an overwhelming majority and it caused me so much grief and confusion in my early stages of realization through its insistence that it represents the thing that I am experiencing. And of course, it's not just "talking about being valid," its claims that non-disordered systems are the REAL victims of ableism, dogmatic de-centering of adverse effects and smothering positivity. It's like if medical transition was so taboo that people could reasonably go a year participating in trans communities without ever hearing about it. yknow? anyway

[transmascposi]

A lot of this positivity just feels like a progressive way to detrans trans men if I'm honest

"It's okay to wear makeup and to wear women's clothes and to wear panties and to be girly and to not transition and to have big female boobs and to embrace your natural girly vagina and also normalize not transitioning and also having dysphoria is actually just internalized transphobia and you should just accept your natural body!!!"

Like, just say you want me to be a woman at this point

No.

First of all, you're putting words in my mouth and you're greatly exaggerating. I never said anything about "big female boobs", i never said "girly vagina", i never said you should accept your "natural" body. I never posted about nondysphoric trans people, as far as I can remember.

I'm a gay nonbinary trans man and I'm not traditionally masculine. I write a lot of posts about embracing traditionally feminine things because I'm that way and I know how difficult that is while being trans. I want people to know that it's okay to not follow gender roles when you're trans. Being super masculine is just not the reality for many transmascs. For example, I'd love to have a dick. But phalloplasty with results that i'd be satisfied with is not only not available to me, I'm concerned about getting my reproductive organs removed in case there is a shortage of T and I end up not having access to sex hormones, which can be dangerous for your health. The world is nuanced.

If you want to be completely masculine, that's fine. Masculinity is okay. Masculinity is beautiful. So write your own post or politely request a post from me. But don't expect that from other transmascs. Don't make your dysphoria our problem. This is what we're trying to change – the notion that vulvas and boobs are inherently female and feminine, because they aren't. We're doing this partly to ease our dysphoria.

Transphobes hate trans people no matter if we "look our gender" or not. There will always be someone hating if we're open about being trans. So stop taking it out on your people and start loving other trans people. We're stronger together with all of our differences.

[drdemonprince]

(nondysphoric trans anon again) really appreciate the recs, especially the anthologies! i'll definitely check them out. just to clarify, i completely agree that dysphoria is a social dynamic and not just a symptom, and that dismantling the structures and social norms that cause/worsen dysphoria is necessary. i've also met many trans folks who have at one time been unaware of their dysphoria in the ways you described, and i'm sorry that you also had to go through that. personally, i've used "nondysphoric" to mean that i actively like and find happiness in my body/physical appearance, regardless of my mental state or external expectations. i was also aware that i felt this way (and that it's considered atypical) when i saw myself as a cis girl. i'd like to meet other people (trans or otherwise) who've had experiences similar to mine someday, if possible, but for now i'd just like to learn from people who are navigating dysphoria that's considered atypical, regardless of the language they use to describe it. i'd be open to using a framework other than considering myself nondysphoric, but i'm not sure what that would look like yet. i also know that i probably wouldn't have had many of these positive experiences without the specific privileges and social contexts i grew up with, and i'm trying to understand that better as well. thanks again for responding!

Hey, thanks for clarifying! I can see why you'd use nondysphoric for that. Hopefully your description of your experience will tip other people reading this off to some potential readings or resources that might be useful to you. Though it sounds like you've already got a pretty damn good handle on yourself and your positionality really!

[pastel-trendercore]

[enbypanposi]

Hmm...I’ve been seeing a lot of discourse around lately for a lot of different things so I made this one...I know it’s been done before but it seems that the real LGBT solidarity is the discourse about your identity you found along the way, haha. I’m sure there’s more that could be added here so feel free to put more on/in.

Please remember that no matter what you see or what people say, there’s no wrong way to be LGBT. Your identity is not “wrong” or “bad” or “problematic”. If you’ve faced this sort of harmful rhetoric, been attacked by people who wish to exclude you, have had friends fall into this sort of talk, or have otherwise been exposed to huge amounts of discourse and negativity about who you are, know you’re not alone, there’s others with you (including me), and we—I—love and support you for who you are.

[pwurrz]

anyways being trans and gnc fucks and is cool as shit!! so is not being dysphoric!! nondysphoric trans people are sexy as fuck, i would know!!

and don’t even get me started on gnc nondysphoric trans people, holy shitballs!!!!

[official-transsexual]

Roses are red,

New love is tender,

You don't need dysphoria to be transgender

[guiltyidealist]

Nondysphorics, trans lesbians, aligned enbies, cishet aspecs, queer PoCs, GNC trans people, intersex people, dogs: *exist*

Me:

[hesbianmiku]

Non-dysphorics, I love you guys!

[yumeceo]

trendervember day 3: trendersoft !!

did andre again because he’s a trendersoft baby !! 

info under the cut !!

name: andre

age: 17

gender: agender

sexuality: demiromantic polysexual

pronouns: ze/hir ( aux they/them or he/him )

neurodivergency: autistic

ze’s AMAB, nondysphoric, and loves blue, BOTDF and bees !! ze’s usually a rlly soft and kind person but can be a little bit of a “c/r/a/ck/he/a/d” sometimes. hir special interests right now are, once again, BOTDF and steven universe, hir favorite character from the show is lapis !! give hir all ur lobv

[yourfaveisatucute]

I know I’m never active but I’m here to drop the most powerful headcanon this world has ever seen:

Mettaton is the hugest GNC tucute to ever live and he wants every trans person, dysphoric or not, to feel confident dressing and acting however the hell they want 

-Lee

[suicune-nonbinary]

More Zepeto things ~

(He/they/she)

TERFs and tru/meds, dni, and, since you're likely to ignore this, know that I won't respond.

This is meant mostly as a validation/positivity post, so please keep discourse donate out of the notes.

[snalien-jim]

Rant time I guess? Hehe

Really often I feel like completely non dysphoric and just euphoric all the time I dont even remember what it felt like to feel uncomfortable with my AGAB. And the thing is I'm not really that bothered by my AGAB I dont think ik ever gonna want top surgery or bottom at all because I dont have top or bottom dysphoria. I haven't gotten on T yet but I'd really like to soon , probably within a year. I want a deap voice and a beard and hairy body.

But anyway I think about it quite often that if most or almost all of my dysphoria is gone? Or if I even had it in the first place? Like I know im trans of course . Theres no way else I could be. But like I'm also genderfluid so sometimes my gender lines up to girl again and its wierd as fuck but meh . Like gender has always been super confusing to me hehe.

I've being finding alot of ways to celebrate the body I have now and it makes me happy and euphoric!! I draw pre transition trans bodies because that's what mine looks like!!

Anyway rant over

[intersexfairy]

i think more people need to turn their queer discourse posts into inclusive & depthful positivity posts. it's not healthy that the harmful things queer people say about their peers are so difficult to escape, even when people are going against it. arguing constantly (to no avail) isn't helping.

mspec lesbians and lesboys deserve to hear their peers are proud of them, and happy to stand with them. aces and aros deserve to hear how amazing and vital their presence in this community is. non-dysphoric trans people deserve to hear their transness could only add more beauty to our community. all queers deserve words (and actions) of kindness and support. pride and solidarity.

not just arguments and that they're valid.