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[patricia-taxxon]

i remember watching one of your vids, i rlly like the design of ur sona so i drew her as a warm-up. have a nice day!

thanks! goodnight everybody

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my inbox is all nice messages now. you just need to spend an hour or so going nuclear on the blocks. browse your replies since the harassment started and dont just block everyone who comes at you in bad faith, browse their blog for a bit and block anyone discoursing about you in their reblogs. repeat. if you have OCD, you will form a compulsion for checking the blogs of people harassing you, i don't know what to do about that one so you're on your own. being transfem online is bad for your soul. bye for now.

this is going to get worse. it's a self fulfilling prophesy, like these guys are receiving a lot of pushback now because they went after a transfem with privilege and this is going to embolden them further to attack transfems who can't fight back while i simply grow more scared and mean and unlikeable until i'm just another angry feminist. i need to set my heart on what i have left.

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this is going to get worse. it's a self fulfilling prophesy, like these guys are receiving a lot of pushback now because they went after a transfem with privilege and this is going to embolden them further to attack transfems who can't fight back while i simply grow more scared and mean and unlikeable until i'm just another angry feminist. i need to set my heart on what i have left.

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i'm gonna get vulnerable on main for a second, this discourse cycle lost me a friend of many years. it was a point of tension between us for a while, and he was lowkey one of the people i was thinking of when i answered that bait ask, but i wouldn't admit that to myself at the time. it was heartbreaking, some of the happiest memories of my life turned bitter, ones you might have seen me post about on here. now i'm on the other end, ive held my ground through heartbreak, i feel destabilized and vulnerable, all i can do is focus on exactly who i managed to stay friends with by holding my ground, which relationships were strengthened versus which ones weakened, and judge my choice based on this.

in spite of everything, it is still so easy for me to believe things that i am told about myself. i remember the first time i got a callout thread, i just uncritically confessed to everything without thinking. having a good friend tell me my actions were shameful, deranged, "i could go on," it shook my conviction and I lost most of the energy i had to defend myself. i am tired. i am almost 25 years old and i have spent my entire 20s advocating for myself. i still have no social life. i need to rethink everything.

i want to stop finding out who my real friends are

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Finally, i’ve had this photo of a dog for awhile and I’ve been needing to do this for over a year.

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How To Shut Up A Woman In Three Steps: The Transmisogynist's Guide

I - Her Tone

This is, by far, the easiest tool to wield effectively against a trans woman. If she is short in her responses, then you can accuse her of harassment and unwarranted anger; if she outright blocks you then you can simply claim that she only cares about her small-minded internet echo chamber; and if she engages with you at any length then you can quite easily nitpick her language and tone until she is thoroughly discredited.

Even better, she will most certainly become annoyed with you - in this scenario, all you have to do is argue that she is aggressive, hysterical, and quite likely a danger to society, and you will be believed by a great many people. This is, of course, because the trans woman's natural position is as a fundamental danger to society. Therefore, it takes very little convincing for an onlooker to come to that selfsame conclusion with some prompting. They may not even be aware that they are falling victim to their own inherent transmisogynistic bias, which is why this approach is quite beautiful in its simplicity! For those who don't immediately believe you, you can easily dismiss them as brainwashed idiots, syncophants, or both.

To drive your point home, call her a terf, a radfem, or a baeddel. If she has ever, in anger, spoken poorly of cis queers, or even better of transmascs, then this will become trivial to argue. Tell her that she is the problem, that she is contributing to community infighting, and that she should really be trying harder to work on this whole "trans unity" thing. Blame all oppression on her. For bonus points, when you tell her that she is dividing the community, you can also throw in the idea that should be making out with you instead of arguing. (This is, of course, because women primarily belong as sex objects to men, and if she would stop having so many opinions then perhaps she would understand this better.)

II - Her Privilege

This is an expanded version of the former tactic, because it requires a certain level of delicacy in the wording you use. However, people react quite strongly to the language of privilege, irrespective of whether that language reflects a material reality, and therefore this is a fantastic way to make a woman stop whining.

I would advise you to check if the woman is white; if she is, then you can easily accuse her of weaponizing her whiteness. (N.B. If she has not stated her race publicly, or if you can't be bothered to check, then this accusation will still work - if she is actually a woman of color, you may very easily claim that you were making a statement about white trans women in general. Further, it is not necessary for you yourself to be a person of color; as long as you position her as uniquely privileged in her whiteness, your own whiteness will remain irrelevant.)

In a similar bent, it is always quite possible for you to dismiss her theory as being "white." Always posit that she is championing a sort of wealthy white woman's privilege, always claim that transfeminism is at its core non-intersectional, and always claim that transfeminist theory in its entirety was created by the white woman - in this way, you may mark her as a privileged white bitch regardless of her race, national origin, or identity. (Under no circumstances should you mention or acknowledge the existence of trans women of color, as this immediately disarms your rhetorical weapon. In fact, if she brings up trans women of color, it is most necessary for you to claim that she is co-opting their experiences.) If you can imply that she is a racist while doing so, then you will be even more successful.

If this fails, then there are other similar cudgels you can implement to great effect: perhaps claims of intersexism, exorsexism, or sex-based discrimination. Call her a "perisex trans woman," a "binary trans woman," an "amab trans person." Say that she is speaking over the real victims; if you must combine multiple (or all!) of these terms at once in order to make her seem like a uniquely privileged party, then do so without hesitation. If she has ever had a bad opinion, or an opinion that you might frame without context as being a bad opinion, then simply publicize that. However, in the absence of such, see rulebook as follows: if she talks only of trans women in general, then you must bring up transmasculine nonbinary people; if she talks of transfeminine nonbinary people, then you must bring up intersex people; if she talks of trans people as a whole then you ought to circle right back around to claiming that she could never understand what trans men have gone through. Never concede that, say, an intersex trans woman exists, because that will inevitably lose you rhetorical ground.

Insinuate that she is herself the oppressor, that she is regressive and small-minded. In fact, if you really wish to run circles around her, then you can easily accuse her of upholding her own oppression by arguing that she is upholding a gender binary, enforcing sex-based division in the community with her language. If she describes herself as a victim of transmisogyny, then tell her that all people can be victims of transmisogyny; if she tells you that this is inaccurate, then simply argue that she is speaking over the real victim (you).

In fact, if you misgender yourself and claim to be oppressed due to your assigned birth sex, then she will have no recourse to fight back - because we all know that she is really a male, and therefore is silencing you poor natal women, who are the true arbiters of female oppression, and the real experts on misogyny. If you intend to utilize this specific tack, then I would personally suggest you use "they/them" to refer to her, because delegitimizing her womanhood is a key component to this argument.

III - Unpersoning

If both of the above techniques have failed (unlikely!) then you may now proceed to that age-old transmisogynistic technique: weaponizing her fetishes. This can be a bit more difficult to bring up naturally, but it is a last resort that can produce some fantastic results. Ask yourself the following: Has she posted about CNC? Has she talked about siscon roleplay? Has she ever engaged in a little/caretaker dynamic? Has she ever made a forcefem joke? In order, your claim against her should be as follows: she loves rape, she loves incestuous abuse, she loves to fuck children, and she personally wants to nonconsensually detransition every transmasc because of her violent perversion. It should be quite simple to get people to turn on her. If she has ever interacted with a user who has posted any of these things, simply consider her tainted by association and dismiss her in the same manner.

This is, as previously discussed, due to her natural position as a degenerate danger to society; simply reinforce that concept wherever possible, until she is driven away from her online circle entirely. Do not outright use the word "autogynephilia," but you can certainly suggest the actual tenets of the idea to wonderful effect.

This can be implemented via statements such as, "oh, so now the incest lover is going to tell me about the oppression i experience;" however, if you would care to be more subtle, then you can set up a slow-burn whisper network to turn her friends and acquaintances against her, or dedicate years to harassing her in her comments section whenever possible.

If she has pushed you far enough that this technique has become necessary, then it is clear that she must be a hostile force in the community who ought to be removed by any means. Therefore, it falls to you to try to get her to cut herself off from everyone who might support her - this will efficiently shut her up. If you can get her to kill herself, then it will silence her permanently (and cause you to win the argument, by extension)!

Just remember: what you are doing is noble and correct, because any woman who claims that a man has power over her is one who is better off dead.

[patricia-taxxon]

I just found out about the situation through other blogs, I don't know you but I am sending hugs and warm soup telepathically. It really sucks how the transandrophobia thing's been piling up like I've sometimes seen it pop up on other transmascs tumblr tags and for a while I just figured it was dumb internet stuff that only a few people were talking about and that it'd die off... But clearly that wasn't the case since you got that not-all-men hateful response. So stupid.

Hope you're doing well. Also checked out your music and I really love it, so stimmy !

seeing people i dont know talk about this who have my back has been so cool, man. like that's why i didnt just ignore it, everyone got to see exactly what was going on.

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oh, okay then :)

lily orchard has entered that pantheon of problematic transfems who, while i myself have my misgivings, someone forming part of their brand identity around criticizing her is the reddest possible flag. every youtuber who made more than one video on lily orchard turned out to be a vocal transmisogynist or were otherwise dangerous, even the seemingly innocent/progressive ones like A. Gramuglia, even the transfem ones. she's a lightning rod.

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alright, sorry, please let me explain my reaction. I criticized the barbie movie for accidentally making ken into a more interesting character with more volition than barbie, and also compared barbie to jesus, and you said "judas is the character with agency in the Jesus story" which felt to me like you were refuting my original criticism, and saying that barbie is a martyr and ken drives the plot. I thought this was a misinterpretation, because in addition to being something of an antagonist, Ken also gets protagonist growth moments that go beyond your average villain redemption plot. i thought you took my observation of "agency" and ignored my additional take that Ken also gets the most dramatically satisfying arc, unlike Judas, who is an antagonist that facilitates Jesus' cosmic act of forgiveness.

(also, the jesus comparison was more about the part where god is incarnated as a man and is a servant to his followers, like how barbie chooses mortality instead of perpetual godhood, not a martyr.)

i think my biggest issue with barbie 2023 is that im not sure why barbie gets to have the jesus christ choosing mortality arc and ken doesn't, like hes the one who has to deal with the existential threat of being rejected by the figure he was manufactured to love, hes the one who changes barbieland on purpose and has an effect on the real world, barbie's development is there but it's not nearly as substantial, like we get the bus stop scene where barbie witnesses the process of human aging and reacts not with disgust but with awe and reverence, and then the movie forgets about that until the ending. ken actually does stuff in that interim which builds towards a similar epiphany.

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lily orchard has entered that pantheon of problematic transfems who, while i myself have my misgivings, someone forming part of their brand identity around criticizing her is the reddest possible flag. every youtuber who made more than one video on lily orchard turned out to be a vocal transmisogynist or were otherwise dangerous, even the seemingly innocent/progressive ones like A. Gramuglia, even the transfem ones. she's a lightning rod.

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i guess if you select specific words to listen to then what im saying sounds really silly

i think my biggest issue with barbie 2023 is that im not sure why barbie gets to have the jesus christ choosing mortality arc and ken doesn't, like hes the one who has to deal with the existential threat of being rejected by the figure he was manufactured to love, hes the one who changes barbieland on purpose and has an effect on the real world, barbie's development is there but it's not nearly as substantial, like we get the bus stop scene where barbie witnesses the process of human aging and reacts not with disgust but with awe and reverence, and then the movie forgets about that until the ending. ken actually does stuff in that interim which builds towards a similar epiphany.

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I'm t4t lesbian and like calling myself a dyke because it feels good and fits me. One of my housemates (also a trans girl but straight) said my use of it makes her uncomfortable because I didn't grow up with the slur being used against me and that it's hypocritical since we both hate it when certain people use faggot. I think these situations are not compatible since that slur is so harmful and dangerous. Am I being a hypocrite here? I respect your takes a lot and want some perspective.

as an occasional recreational faggot-user, dyke seems like its in a very different place? an influential comic has it in the name, even. when lesbians talk about their "dyke haircut" its affectionate, while a lot of queer people still use the f slur identically to their oppressors.

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in this case, ken actually just has way more agency in the plot than barbie does and experiences more of an arc. i feel like if i wanted to communicate what you're saying and have it be in tone with the rest of the film, i would have ken be vapid and superficial and then fakeout like he's about to have a big emotional ending scene, and then barbie (who in this version was the primary mover of the plot and her jesus christ arc had more focus) breaks the fourth wall like "hey! you didn't even do anything!"

i think my biggest issue with barbie 2023 is that im not sure why barbie gets to have the jesus christ choosing mortality arc and ken doesn't, like hes the one who has to deal with the existential threat of being rejected by the figure he was manufactured to love, hes the one who changes barbieland on purpose and has an effect on the real world, barbie's development is there but it's not nearly as substantial, like we get the bus stop scene where barbie witnesses the process of human aging and reacts not with disgust but with awe and reverence, and then the movie forgets about that until the ending. ken actually does stuff in that interim which builds towards a similar epiphany.

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maybe its like how none of the shane dawson callouts talked about him scamming his audience or dropping conspiracy theory videos for kids, like if you do it openly no one ever takes the time to "reveal" it.

the incest callout is gonna be a banger when someone finally drops it

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the incest callout is gonna be a banger when someone finally drops it

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can i ask where the cilantromixture tag originates?