#nonaesthetics

[jamiieeez]

Flags for general relationship stances, alterous relationships, queerplatonic relationships and observing

relationship favorable | relationship indifferent | relationship repulsed

relationship averse | relationship ambivalent | relationship oscillating

Relationship stances are for stances regarding all types of relationships.

alterous relationship favorable | alterous relationship indifferent | alterous relationship repulsed

alterous relationship averse | alterous relationship ambivalent | alterous relationship oscillating

qpr favorable | qpr indifferent | qpr repulsed

qpr averse | qpr ambivalent | qpr oscillating

observing favorable | observing indifferent | observing repulsed

observing averse | observing ambivalent | observing oscillating

Basically a relationship stance regarding observing/looking at people or however one would define a sort of "aesthetic relationship".

[noahizslay]

i wish a very happy and anattractional 2025 to all my dear aspec folks :)

[neopronouns]

image id: nine square images. each one has two flags in the background, with the amatopunk flag on the right side. in order, the flag on the left side of each image is aplatonic, heartless aro, afamilial, nonaesthetic, loveless aro, asensual, aqueerplatonic, aemotional, and atertiary.

each image has all-caps white text with a thin black outline over it. in order, they read: 'aplatonics belong in amatopunk', 'heartless aros belong in amatopunk', 'afamilials belong in amatopunk', 'nonaesthetics belong in amatopunk', 'loveless aros belong in amatopunk', 'asensuals belong in amatopunk', 'aqueerplatonics belong in amatopunk', 'aemotionals belong in amatopunk', and 'atertiaries belong in amatopunk'. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

some amatopunk + aspec identities affirmation edits for anon to remind folks that your amatopunk posts should include more than just aros and aces!

dni link

[aspec-ocs]

How this works:

You can tag me in a post about your or someone else’s aspec original character(s) and I’ll reblog it, or you can send asks about your aspec OCs and I’ll post them and maybe respond. 

Rules:

The character must be aspec. 

The character must be an OC. 

All images must be described for accessibility. 

No explicit sexual or romantic material- personal boundary, sorry. Mentions of sex and romance and discussions of a character’s relationship to them are fine but no smutty or deeply romantic paragraphs and no super romantic art or art explicitly depicting sex, please. 

I will tag identities and types of relationship & attraction by default, and if asked I will tag other things as well. 

This blog is open to characters of *all* aspec identities. No sort of aphobia or bigotry will be tolerated.

[lovelessrage]

"Validity" should not have to be given. "Validity" should not have to be declared by the majority. "Validity" is a made-up qualifier and positions whoever is outside that label as having needed to give approval for someone to exist and take part. I am not "valid", because I was already here. We were already here, approved or unapproved.

Every microlabel, allospec identities of all kinds, the loveless, the aspec-allos, everyone who has ever been the subject of debate or been accused of making us all look bad; the stereotype, the asshole, the mold-breaker, the discourse topic, and the invisible. Validity is sold to us to put down some as pending approval and lift others as the gatekeepers, to pit us against each other to pick each other apart.

Don't seek approval. Just be.

[auggator]

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week to Aspec Lesbians!

Aromantic Lesbians Asexual Lesbians AroAce Lesbians AroAllo Lesbians AlloAce Lesbians

Aplatonic Lesbians Aqueerplatonic Lesbians Afamilial Lesbians Asensual Lesbians Analterous Lesbians Nonaesthetic Lesbians

Aspec Lesbians who never want to enter a romantic relationship Aspec Lesbians who never want to have sex Aspec Lesbians in relationships of any kind

Aspec Lesbians are fucking rad

[sapphuric-acid]

Wait folks

What exactly is the difference between aesthetic and sexual attraction?

Like yeah most of the time people are sexually attracted to people they find aesthetically attractive

And people can be aesthetically attracted to someone without being sexually attracted to them

But like. Most of the time sexual attraction is directly equated to looking hot. What if you're sexually attracted to someone you don't find aesthetically attractive?

[dhddmods]

Analterous & aqueerplatonic questions (Edit: answered in comments.)

Hello! This is a genuine question, and not meant to be offensive in any way. Most of our system are on the a-spectrum in some way, and we are a bit confused on two terms.

We understand most anattractional terms (ansthetic/nonaesthetic, aplatonic, afamilial, asensual, etc), and easily see how they are classified as queer, however we are very lost on analterous and aqueerplatonic, and where their placement is on the queer-conformant spectrum.

Most people do not experience alterous and queerplatonic attraction. Those two forms of attraction are already, on their own, classified as queer and uncommon. So wouldnt the terms analterous & aqueerplatonic be conformant terms, since thats how most people are expected to be in the first place?

Greyalterous and greyqueerplatonic, we understand as being queer, because it still describes a person experiencing queer attraction, and experiencing attraction and relationships in a way that amatonormativity does not approve of.

Ansthetic, aplatonic, afamilial, and asensual we understand being queer, because it describes a person lacking attraction that amatonormativity reinforces.

But analterous & aqueerplatonic are conforming to amatonormativity, aren't they?

(Edit: We have received the answer.)

[aspec-is-amazing]

hey shoutout to the nonaesthetic aces. who have to put up with alloaesthetic aces saying they still "have eyes" and can obviously tell when someone is pretty. you dont need to find people pretty to be ace! go live your best nonaesthetic life.

[crown-jay]

A (perhaps-not-so) Friendly Reminder!

Aspec does not mean: "Ace-spec and Aro-spec and that's it". And y'all need to stop saying it is. I know some of it may be unintentional, and that you might be uneducated, but here's the thing:

You can be Aspec with literally any and all forms of attraction.

That's right. If there is a form of attraction, there are people out there who don't experience it, or experience it differently from people who experience it in the "normal", Allo way. And those people are aspec. They might not identify as aspec. They might not even know what that is, but they are inherently aspec. Which means; by saying that aspec identities are just ones that fall under ace-spec and aro-spec, you are excluding a lot of people.

Let's take me for example:

Yes, I am aroace, but I am also:

Aplatonic

Asensual

Nonaesthetic

Analterous

Probably other aspec identities

I am aspec, but that's not just because of my aroace identity.

If you mean ace-spec, just say that. If you mean aro-spec, just say that. If you mean aroace-spec just say that. It is that easy. If you don't mean aspec, don't say aspec.

Edit (5/5/23): It has been brought to my attention that I forgot about Agender folks. My apologies, I had sort of tunnel visioned on attraction types. But yes, Agender people are also Aspec!

[the-paper-shredder]

Now that I reflect on it, sometimes my experience being aroace feels alienating because of my other aroace friends being able to experience aesthetic attraction the “normal” way.

I regularly feel platonic and/or familial feelings, but rarely aesthetic attraction. All my jokes about the characters my friends find hot being not personally attractive to me fall flat because we're all aroace... but my ability to experience aesthetic attraction fluctuates. Most of the time I simply cannot feel attracted aesthetically to others. Feeling like not even my aroace friends understand my experience has been here for a while, I think, I just haven't gotten to properly write it down.

I've been up in my emotions today anyway.

[aspec-man-thing]

I love being aspec💜💚🧡💛

[aspecpridecalendar]

Happy Pride to all ansthetic aspecs!

Ansthetic (aka a-aesthetic, nonaesthetic, or anaesthetic) - An identity that does not experience aesthetic attraction.

[eleilinnrallin]

An-aesthetic problems: when I'm complimenting people it's super easy to slip into language that... doesn't actually express what I want to say?

I experience basically no aesthetic attraction and don't always even experience much aesthetic appreciation (makes art interesting xD). But occasionally I want to compliment someone or something based off of other things -- maybe I like the impression a visual gives my brain, maybe I like the feel of someone's outfit, maybe I just want to help a friend feel good because I appreciate them and that makes my brain happy to see them.

And it's really easy to say things I don't mean. Like "Oh, that's pretty!" or "you look cute" or similar.

Because I don't have a frame of reference to what those things mean. I can't tell if someone is pretty or cute or similar. But that's the language I'm used to hearing, so that's the language I'm used to using.

I'm working on saying what I really mean with comments (that's a nice color! I like that character 👀. Your makeup matches color-wise very well!) so that I'm being honest. But it's hard a lot of the time, especially when I'm filling the social expectation to compliment someone rather than authentically representing my (usually nonexistant) thoughts on appearance things.

Anyways. :/ Weird problems ig, but my weird problems.

[lycanium]

I feel like Will Graham drawing a clock why did I make a fucking triangle

[lovelessrage]

Many have complained about it before, but I will never not be pissed off by seing content labelled as "for aspecs" that is EXPLICTLY only for aroacespec. Will never not be the most frustrating reminder other aspecs do not exist to people. Aspec =/= just acespec and arospec. If you want to make content for aspecs, include non-rose identities.

[Not to mention even within this there is very little room for the variety in ace and aro communities, even when they're supposed to be included in it. Tons of content caters to only one subset/one idea of what each means and discludes aros and aces outside of that bubble.]