#no sex. only SAD )

[redysetdare]

I wholeheartedly believe that the last thing that should be said in response to aspecs hating their identity is "don't worry! Aspecs can still do X, Y, and Z" and I'm so fucking serious about this.

The least helpful thing you can do to someone who have not accepted their aspec identity yet is give them ways to compensate for it. If an aspec person is upset over not being able to enter a romantic relationship, the last thing that should be done is to tell them they can still enter one or instead enter a QPR - not because that's not true but because that is quite literally going to stunt their ability to accept their aspec identity. Telling them they can instead enter a QPR when they're upset over the lack of romantic relationships is at MOST a bandaid for the main issue. Instead of them coming to accept their identity and accept who they are you have instead handed them an amatonormative alternative on a silver platter that allows them to pretend they still fit into amatonormativity without every deconstructing it. This is how we get QPRs getting shoved into an amatonormative framework - these people NEVER got over the "I'm sad that I'm aspec" phase because they were handed alternatives instead of given actual support in deconstructing their internalized aphobia, self hatred, and amatonormative biases.

[borgialucrezia]

JUAN: *yapping about wanting her to choose a wife for him and give her blessing* LUCREZIA: *plotting hundreds of scenarios on how to kill him*

[annabelle--cane]

say it with me everybody: personal health is completely immaterial to morality, including mental health. leading a mentally unhealthy lifestyle (or what you perceive as a mentally unhealthy lifestyle) does not a bad person make. no one has to socialize, exercise, have healthy coping mechanisms, or lead (what you perceive as) a fulfilling life with fulfilling hobbies in the same way that no one has to go to the doctor to get a broken bone reset. both of those types of management of personal health are likely to be beneficial to the individual, but they are in no way moral requirements or debts owed to society. they do not actually say anything about a person's principles, personality, or actions towards others. additionally, people know themselves and their own situations better than you do. maybe a person judges that the physical and financial toll of going to the doctor outweigh the benefit of getting their bone reset, maybe a person just does not have the capacity to develop healthy coping mechanisms at this point in their life, and yes, maybe a person feels like they are totally fulfilled by "media based" hobbies alone and would feel no difference in their life if they picked up a loom. just like. let people be sick without accusing them of being representative of the lazy, degenerated state of modern society.

[xxplastic-cubexx]

sequel to this ramble cause the way james talks bout the reduced cherik scenes throughout the xmen films in this video is making me want to kill people. 'we'll always have paris darling' what if we all blew up.

[ancient-romes]

Finding the panel where Miles acknowledges that Tucker was taken advantage of by Crunchbite and Burnie refuting it by saying Tucker "can't be taken advantage of" and then seeing how Tucker was treated in restoration like......i am connecting the dots and i do not like it

[joseigamer]

Patalliro! is fascinating to me because of stuff like this. It's unapologetically gay - even within its anime which aired during primetime hours in 1982 - in a way that many later BL manga would never be, like the ones from the early 2000s which would never dare to call their characters actual homosexuals. Patalliro has actually aged quite well in this regard, there's something comforting about how campy it is.

[almightyramtha]

It's so fucking funny to me that Gale comes off like the Horny Wizard™️ but the moment you act like a goblin at all with any of the sextracurricular opportunities he's like "I don't like this :("

His reality seems more: "Horny for sex? I'm horny for love! Horny for companionship! Horny to cook for you a sumptuous meal, sit beside the hearth, and share with you my deepest feelings of admiration and passion! Horny for the comingling of two souls intertwined like lace upon the planes beyond mortal understanding! Yes, sometimes I'm also I'm horny for sex! But that is merely one single facet of my depth of character!"

[hooved]

i just think they've fucked

[doumekiss]

To any readers out there that might be wondering if an author would like to know of your disgust and disappointment that they made a character you headcanon as a top a bottom in a sex scene I can answer for sure that they do not 🙂

[hypervoxel]

Oh, so, like, the entire first season's establishment of the characters and their interactions don't actually matter in Helluva Boss. Okay, cool.

Like, I get that characterization develops over time and the writers come up with new ideas and places they want to take the story, but. So much of the Stolas/Blitzø stuff recently isn't character development: it's retconning.

[bidisasterforzutara]

Rereading the shades of magic series has reaffirmed my belief that I actually love sex scenes when they’re earned

[lachiennearoo]

I genuinely do not get the concept of hate sex.

Like, at all

I see this shit a lot in the SpideyPool fandom, saw it too a bit with Klance as well, ZoSan, KageHina, and obviously the concept is also discussed a lot with Poolverine (even if I am kinda grossed out by that ship I keep seeing it against my will so I have to acknowledge it I suppose)

But like...

Idk maybe it's just me but, if I am angry at someone, I don't give a shit how hot or sexy they are, last thing I wanna do is fuck em. I probably just wanna yell at them, punch them (if I'm angry enough and they are genuinely threatening me), maybe cry a bit, hide in my room all alone until I calm down or something idk

Like??? Having sex??? While you're angry at them??? Literally who the fuck is it benefitting???? How do you even GET horny if you're angry??? Like..... WHAT????

[seilon]

please don’t by k.will did more for the gays back in 2012 than any boy group can possibly do with fan service and crop tops in 2024

[voxmilia]

I made the mistake of latching onto Brennan playing a mean girl with the garthy o'brien accent and now i'm paying the price

[terriblegam2r]

B-but..... what about Rick's pet name for Michonne?......

What does he call her?........

[vaguely-concerned]

just going about my day idly contemplating how some of the ways hawke can interact with a romanced anders are not at all unlike how they interact with leandra (and a bit of carver too, especially with a purple hawke), and then thought about my hawke in the timeline where he romances anders and was hit straight in the face with 'was he ever actually in love, or was he just desperately trying to renegotiate with his mother's ghost in any way he could' and now i need to lie down. this is the power of dragon age 2