#new job new therapist new priorities & new hobbies

[asiancatboy]

i think i genuinely am the most consistently happy that i've ever been bc i just stopped trying to make sense of everything and started being more silly on purpose

[lunarsilver]

What do your spirit guides want to tell you?

For this reading, I used a deck with only Major Arcana, to get more general but "big", powerful messages. This is what your spirit guides want to tell and advise you really bad.

Arts are from volume covers of Jibaku Shounen Hanako-kun.

REMEMBER

I’m not a doctor, a psychiatrist, a therapist nor a psychologist. Divination will never replace meetings with them.

It’s a general reading, so not everything will resonate.

If you can’t choose between two piles, probably both of them have some messages for you. You can also not identify with any of them, and that’s okay, too.

Readings can help you make a decision, but they shouldn’t be the main reason for making it.

1 ~ 2 3 ~ 4

PILE 1

Temperance - The High Priestess - The Sun R - Back of the Deck: The Emperor R

Maybe because the first two cards in my deck present women, plus especially because of the High Priestess, but what comes to my mind immediately is “femininity”. This is an encouragement to lean more into what is traditionally feminine. The more I look into the cards, the clearer this message is - there’s Temperance, the card of balance, there’s the feminine High Priestess, and there’s the masculine Emperor in reverse. Temperance asks you to balance your life more. Work-life balance, logic-emotions balance, as well as how you act around people. Your spirit guides suggest trying to work together and be a team player, both Temperance and the High Priestess tell you this. The High Priestess is also an invitation to trust your intuition more, to tap more into your spirituality. Maybe your spirit guides would like to talk more to you, and they wish you would let them. With the Sun in reverse, they suggest you should have some fun, do what brings you joy, and listen to your inner child. The Emperor in reverse suggests you could have a not fully healthy relationship with your traditionally masculine traits (I want to make this clear - I always write “traditionally” for a reason, think about it as your relationship with what society expects of you, with gender stereotypes). Your spirit guides want you to reflect on how you look at your relationships with other people. Treat them as your equals, they’re neither better nor worse than you. It won’t resonate with everyone, of course, but I keep having this image of someone working an office job who is kind of bitter and so focused on one aspect of their life that they forget the little joys of life and don’t treat their coworkers/subordinates nicely. So, to sum it up, reevaluate your priorities, find some time to be alone with your own thoughts, with your hobbies, and try to treat other people equally. And give your spirit guides a call.

PILE 2

Temperance R - The Hierophant R - The Hanged Man R - Back of the Deck: The Fool 

It’s interesting how, just like in Pile 1, the first card is Temperance, but this time in reverse. Similarly, the message here is to reevaluate what you give attention to and balance your life, but it’s even more urgent. It’s not wise to spend too much on something or to focus on only one aspect of your life, ignoring other ones. Your spirit guides tell you to put some time into self-healing and taking care of yourself. Maybe some home spa would be good, nurturing both your body and mind. Next, the Hierophant in reverse is all about making your own path, challenging the status  quo, and not caring as much about the approval of others. Your spirit guides encourage you to find your own voice and speak your mind. Do what is right for you. The reversed Hanged Man tells you it’s time to stop living your life on autopilot and actually start doing something. Think about what you would like to do, make a plan and do it. The Fool at the back just highlights how much your spirit guides want you to embark on a new journey. Don’t be scared of new beginnings. This whole reading emphasizes how important it is to make some changes in your life, and while doing so, keep in mind what will make you happy. You, not someone else. You are the master of your own fate, nobody else can live your life for you. Your spirit guides are with you, so stop merely existing and start to live. It may be scary at first, but you’ve got it!

PILE 3

The Star R - The Magician - The Hermit - Back of the Deck: The Wheel of Fortune

Right off the bat, there’s a lot of gold and some brown, white and blue color-wise, which makes me feel you should take a closer look at your finances and your earthly matters, but also don’t forget about the more spiritual things. Another interesting thing is how the Magician and the Hermit have a similar pose, both with their arms raised, as if creating something out of thin air or launching an attack. Now, getting to the cards themselves, you had a harder time, huh? The Star in reverse tells me that you could start to doubt whether there is something good for you in this life, whether some higher forces are there for you - and here your spirit guides are, screaming that yes, they are here for you, they always are. So nourish yourself, remember what’s important for you and what you want to do, and do it. The Magician says that, once you get in the right mindset, you have everything needed to manifest your desires. Stop self-loathing, stop procrastinating, it’s time to do the THING. Your passion project, your art, your book, your dance. With the Hermit, your spirit guides encourage you to look inward and take some time for yourself. As I wrote at the beginning, both the Magician and the Hermit in this deck have similar poses, they both create something, and they lay here next to each other. At the same time, there’s this interesting contrast, as one is more dark and blue and kind of nocturnal, while the other is gold and bright. I think these parallels are here to tell you how important it is to both think and act, as only then will you  create what you want. Only thinking about your goal won’t take you anywhere, only acting without thinking can lead to a catastrophe. With the Wheel of Fortune, your spirit guides once again tell you that you’re not alone and everything is temporary, nothing lasts forever. You may feel hopeless right now, but “this too shall pass”.

PILE 4

The Moon - The Chariot R - Strength - Back of the Deck: The Hermit

This pile is all about being with you yourself. Your spirit guides encourage you to have some alone time and not act recklessly. The Moon is about your fears - your spirit guides encourage you to deal with them and stop running away. However, it’s more about healing your inner child and doing some shadow work than about dealing with them in a more physical way. Write a journal, think about therapy. There are some issues here that you need to work through. Tap more into your intuition and be patient, as you may not have the full picture right now. Next, the Chariot and Strength are both about, well, strength - but the Chariot is more about the outer strength and will, while Strength is more about the inner one. And here we have the reversed Chariot. Both of these cards together emphasize how you should work on your self-discipline and commitment. You have this kind of quiet strength for influencing and persuading without raising your voice. This kind of confidence and strength is not as visible as the loud one, but it isn’t a reason to underestimate you. The Hermit at the back yet again tells you to look into yourself and spend some time with your thoughts. Your spirit guides think you can do a lot of things once you start dealing with your fears and insecurities and realize you can be powerful in more ways than one. Your inner strength is your power.

[onlyninq]

❆₊ ⊹ winter arc ! 🦌

081124-280225 / 水滴石穿，不是力量大，而是功夫深。

main priorities: daily(!) studying; passing the midterms; health and sports. + passing the retake.

౨ৎ ⋆ general goals:

daily logs (even if anything went wrong!) / with goals and results;

weekly logs / with plans for the week;

sticking to a daily routine.

uni, study & job:

studying hard every day /ypt, +4h. no empty days;

attending all classes /after 1311：

pass hsk4 /in march;

find a job?

health, beauty & sport:

daily skin, body and hair care routine;

lose 3-4 kg / by having an adequate diet. control overeating + focus on vegetables + fruits;

daily yoga /10-30 min;

start going to the gym / after 1311;

vitamins(!).

mental health:

weekly sessions with a therapist;

write in a diary /ideally daily, but a couple of times a week is good;

every sunday - getting outside of the house (walk/hanging out with friends or alone) / after 1311;

try new hobbies!

morning routine:

early wake-up /4 a.m. weekdays, 6 a.m. weekends; make the bed; glass of water; face, neck and shoulder massage; shower, skin, body and hair care; morning yoga; breakfast(!)

evening routine:

face, neck, shoulder massage; shower, skin + body care; evening yoga; manicure + pedicure; tea + reading; going to bed /9pm in ideal

okk let's go! i finally intend to put an end to my laziness and poor discipline so i'm very curious to see how it all turns out ♡

[wickedsrest-rp]

Name: Booker Finlee Species: Human (Non-powered) Occupation: WRPD Detective Age: 55 Years Old Played By: Elliott Face Claim: Hugh Jackman

"Don't drink the tap water. There's got to be some kind of chemical leak around here."

TW: Parental death

Booker Finlee had a pretty normal childhood, as far as these things go. He grew up in the South Bronx of New York, attending public school and busying himself with a handful of various hobbies, his favorite of which was scavenger hunts. He’d beg his family to set them up once every few months, and his folks were always happy to oblige. It eventually became something of a tradition, and the best ones were always on his birthday. Booker’s mother was an elementary school teacher at the same school he attended, and his father was a radiologist at the nearby hospital. While teaching and medical careers had never interested him, his parents did manage to instill a deep thirst for knowledge in their son and give him an appreciation for the scientific method.

His appetite for solving puzzles had not diminished since childhood, and he became enamored with the concept of detectives and solving crimes like the guys in the movies; helping victims by bringing them the closure they deserved and protecting innocents from the ever-vague ‘bad guys’. When it came time for college, Booker attended NYU and earned his B.S. in Criminal Justice and Psychology. While at NYU, he met his future wife, Gloria. She was an Arts major, and as they say, opposites did in fact attract. Where Booker was quiet and contemplative, Gloria tended to be loud and spontaneous. He loved her more than he’d ever loved another human being, he thought. She kept him above ground, and he kept her from floating off into the clouds. They were perfect for each other, and got married while still attending school. They had their first child, Amos, when Booker was twenty-five, with another quickly following the next year who they named Avery.

Booker’s first job out of the police academy was as a CSI for the NYPD. This job meant long shifts, and he would often work twelve hour days, on weekends and even on holidays. As you might expect, this created a strained home life. After a few years of this, he jumped on the career track to becoming a police officer, seeing detective at the end of that four year tunnel and striving for it with deeply ingrained enthusiasm. He was going to do great work.

In 2004, five years after becoming a detective for the NYPD, his good friend and partner died on the job. What was supposed to be a relatively safe occupation suddenly was not, and Booker never fully recovered from the loss, instead withdrawing. He kept saying he was fine when he wasn’t, and he threw himself even more into his work to cope, often staying overnight at the office. In the same year, his parents both passed in an accident and the detective became a shell of his former self. His wife filed for divorce two years later, and moved with the kids to Maine after being granted majority custody. The last thing she ever asked of him was to please see a therapist. He did.

Booker never dated again after his wife left, settling down into a life of self-inflicted solitude. Work became his priority again, as well as maintaining a good relationship with his kids. They visited every other holiday and during the summers until they went off to college, and during those years, Booker made time to go visit them as often as possible. Both children ended up putting down roots in Portland, which acted as the catalyst for Booker’s decision to move closer. He eventually settled on Wicked’s Rest, after hearing his kids talk about the surprising number of missing persons cases and discovering that it had an open position for a police detective. They had visited the town in the past but couldn’t seem to recall anything especially strange, just that people would go missing there a lot. Intrigued, Booker decided it was time to uproot his life in the city and move to the coastal town up north. What could make so many folks disappear? Couldn’t be anything so bad as the violence he experienced in the city, he figured, but it was a question he wanted to answer. Besides, he’d be much closer to his family this way, and in his older age, he found himself less concerned with working himself to death and more concerned with having weekly dinners with his kids.

Character Facts:

Personality: Inquisitive, persistent, obstinate, guarded, lawful, observant, empathetic, altruistic, nescient

Booker is a true professional when it comes to his job, but outside of work he is a deeply unserious man. This is evident in both his dry sense of humor and his peculiar fashion choices. He likes loud shirts, but also greatly values comfort over everything else. This might explain his sock with sandals fixation, despite the protests of his children. 

He is generally soft spoken despite his gruff appearance suggesting otherwise, and his habit of silent observation and contemplation often makes it seem like he's grumpy when he's actually just deep in thought. 

He's a very ‘by the book’ (haha) kind of man. He always follows the rules, even to his own detriment. He is not naturally a violent person, preferring to talk his way out of situations, but he will use force to protect himself and innocent people if it comes to it. 

Despite being fairly private about his own life, he takes great interest in hearing about others and genuinely loves listening to people talk about their passions.

He has never encountered anything supernatural in his life, and has never believed anything that couldn’t be proven true—beyond a shadow of a doubt—by science.

His pet cat, Fresno, is a twenty-five pound blue Maine Coon with a spitfire personality. He is also leash trained, and Booker can be often spotted taking him on walks around town or on hikes. 

Booker’s son, Amos, has taken him to many paint bars, but the old detective has never been good with a brush. About ten years ago they started trying other crafts together, and Booker discovered a hidden talent for needle felting.

[caffeinatedowlbear]

Unlikely Occupations for Handsome Jack

I played this on the soon-no-longer-twitter, and figured I like these too much to lose them when that site inevitably becomes an ex-parrot. This post will collect all the previous AUs I've made, and you can request new ones in the comments.

The rules are simple: name a job/occupation that would be very unlikely for Handsome Jack, and I'll try to come up with an IC(ish), (mostly) not crack explanation of how he ended up that way. All ideas generated from this exercise are free for the taking, as long as: 1) the prompt giver doesn't mind; 2) you let me know what you make of it.

Note: while any minimum wage job fits the 'unlikely' criteria, ideally I'm looking for suggestions of jobs/occupations that someone (but normally, not Jack) would conceivably WANT to do, and not just to survive. It's sad but true that people rarely end up in minimum wage jobs for interesting reasons. So please go easy on burger flipping, shelf restocking, call centers and the like.

Prompts filled so far: Janitor, DJ, Florist, Marine Biologist, Preschool Teacher, Pediatric Nurse (new!).

Outstanding prompts: cab driver; mortician; therapist/social worker (got ideas for this one); supermarket cashier (got half a plan)

Filled prompts below, starting with a fan favorite.

Janitor

Now, I know that ‘it’s just a front’ may sound like a cop-out because it can apply to any ‘Jack in a minimum-wage job’ scenario. So I tried to make it more interesting.

Setting: can be modern-day, can be sci-fi, but needs to be an AU in which Jack isn’t instantly recognizable by all and sundry. He is a rich and successful asshole, though. But there’s a certain shiny object he really, REALLY wants to get his hands on. Could be physical thing, could be information. Either way, something that money (of which he has plenty) can’t buy, because it’s held by another, even richer asshole.

Multiple attempts to infiltrate the guy’s home, where the shiny is kept, have failed. The mark is famously a recluse, his security systems are deadly, and all his staff are life-long friends and acquaintances. There’s only one tiny security hole: cleaning and maintenance. Now, most of it is automated, but once every few months, there’s a need for human labor. So every few months, a trusted and vetted housekeeping services agency dispatches some of its most trusted and vetted workers. And isn’t it lucky that Jack has a contact at said agency?

It goes off without a hitch at first. Agency Contact makes sure Jack’s fake identity passes all the background checks, and adds him to the next crew dispatched to Rich Asshole’s house. But then, Agency Contact is busted for an unrelated piece of shady business. Their latest acts in the company come under scrutiny. Jack’s employment status holds, but not his assignment. He is supposed to have at least six months of spotless (...sorry :p) record with the agency before he can get assigned to high-priority jobs like this.

So now Jack has two options. Say "fuck this shit, I'm out" and look for a different solution that might not even exist... or hold out for the sure-fire way in, even if it means spending six months pushing around a mop while toeing the company line. What’s it gonna be, Jack??

DJ

Going off the beaten track for this one, because I didn't want to do the obvious option of 'rich guy's hobby/vanity side gig'.

My take is, we're back on Tantalus and in Jack's (John's?) youth. It's a place full of poverty and violence, but also a colorful night life. Of course, many night clubs are fronts for drug and arms (and worse) trade. Getting in with the clubs is a solid strategy for a young guy with his head on his shoulders.

Jack tries to do different jobs that take him all over, to see the backstage stuff as much as possible. (He even has a brief stint as an unlikely bouncer: no-one expected the scrawny 20yo to throw some real good punches.)

His first DJ experience happens when he's a stage hand / gofer at a club, and the actual DJ goes off to screw someone, telling Jack to take over for half an hour. The music is cued up, just look like you're having fun, he's told. This is the first taste he gets of the kind of power he didn't think he wanted. Because the power that comes with money and access and control is one thing (and make no mistake, he wants that). But the power to stand in front of a room full of people and command their mood? To be cheered? To get them to chant your name, even? That hits something really, really deep inside young Jack. He knows that day that however he gets to the top, he won't just be the man behind the curtain. He will be the one whose name the crowd is chanting.

From there on, Jack's goal is clear. Not only is he going to get power and money and his slice of all the shady business, but he's also going to be a goddamn ✨celebrity✨ while at it. For bonus points, add a scar earned in a gang war ten years later and make Handsome Jack his crime name *and* stage name.

Florist

Setting: semi-historical or steampunk flavored Victorian. There is a war on, but it's pretty far away or a relatively cold one. So no immediate danger on the home front, but spycraft is in high demand. Jack is an era-appropriate Bond type who gets saddled with an assignment to...

"Make bouquets? Is this a joke?"

No, it's not. The flower shop Jack would be operating out of is a hub receiving intel from multiple covert informants. It will be Jack's job to pick out what's important, and pass it to the right people, encoded via flower bouquets. Sending messages via different flowers are already a thing in this society, as they were in our world's Victorian era, but obviously, the spy organization obviously has its own code book, so no harm done if a bouquet falls into the wrong hands.

"Except I'd have to bloody make it again, so, actually, plenty of harm done."

In order to maintain the cover, the flower shop also has to do legitimate business, so Jack gets to make plenty of "civilian" bouquets as well, and be all polite and gentlemanly with the customers.

There's only one silver lining to this dismal assignment. The assistant assigned to help Jack with sorting and aggregating the intel is pretty darn cute.

Marine Biologist

(Short write-up, but this is one of my personal faves!)

Canon-adjacent BL settings, but instead of Pandora, Jack is drawn to Aquator in his vault-hunting pursuits, searching for a vault rumored to be at the bottom of the ocean. Helios is a city-sized submarine!

For bonus points, add a Rhack plot featuring mercreature!Rhys, who has knowledge of the vault, but is reluctant to reveal its location, and whose trust Jack is desperately trying to win.

In a Preschool

Modern-day, Passable Dad AU. It's career day at Angel's school. Jack didn't want to come, what with being a currently unemployed head of a recently-failed startup. But he can't say no to Angel, so... sigh, here we go.

Jack is the last one to talk, his hope being that maybe they’ll run out of time and he won’t have to. Alas, his slot comes up. A few minutes in, the teacher gets an urgent phone call and steps out (don’t come after me about child safety protocols in this AU, okay :p).

Then the period is technically over, and the teacher isn’t back (guess the phone call was urgent enough to make them run out without telling people; they’re so fired). Other parents have left at some point during the period, because they have jobs / better things to do. Jack tries to send Angel to go find an adult, but she declares they’re not allowed to leave the classroom on their own (because she’s an ass). But, she continues, they can’t be left on their own, either (like I said, an ass).

So, Jack is stuck with a bunch of preschoolers for an hour. Once he runs out of failed startup stories, he just starts rubber-ducking new business ideas off of them. It’s surprisingly effective: kids are really good at poking holes in what seem like reasonable plans to adults.

And this is how, once a teacher finally comes to see what’s going on, Mr. Lawrence is offered a job as a substitute teacher at his daughter’s preschool. He will get fired once he deals with a bully by holding the offender up by the ankle until a believable apology is delivered.

Pediatric Nurse

(the prompt giver was very specific that it should be nurse, not doctor)

Setting: Tantalus, Jack is a single dad and dirt-poor. Angel is hospitalized with something that requires long-term inpatient care, and Jack literally doesn't have the money to pay for her treatment and rent, so he loses the apartment and starts low-key living at the hospital.

He's getting away with it pretty well. Angel shares a room with a few more kids, whose parents catch on pretty quickly, but don't mind that an extra parent is hanging around, because the hospital is permanently understaffed, and the kids like having company. (He gets more than an occasional meal from other kids' parents, too.)

When Jack's not doing gig work on his laptop, he's reading up everything about Angel's condition as well as all-purpose medical care so he can take care of her when she's finally allowed to leave the hospital. He's a fast learner, and soon ends up helping out the permanently overworked nurses with basic stuff like changing dressings, giving an extra hand with whatever, and even fixing up some medical equipment when something outdated inevitably breaks. It's not long before the kids in Angel's room (and the adjacent rooms) start calling him Nurse Jack.

The only one who's not thrilled about Jack's permanent presence on the ward is a young (and very attractive) doctor who's being a real stick in the mud about 'non-medical personnel outside of visiting hours'. The fact that, thanks to Jack's liberal use of nicknames, the kids start calling him Dr. Cupcake doesn't win Jack much love, either. Things between them getting more tense by the day, and Jack is this close to getting banned from the hospital outside of strict visiting hours.

That is, until one day, some Tantalus bandits barge in, demand that the whole floor is cleared so that their boss can get medical attention, and even take some medical personnel (including Dr. Cupcake) hostage to make their point. Little did they know that one of their hostages is: a) not a licensed medical professional, but b) real handy with a gun.

[catboyelimgarak]

I have a bunch of Garashir fics tabbed in my phone, but I know once I read them they’ll motivate me to get up and finally write for my own too, but I know I haven’t any time because I have online work training for a job I’m probably gonna be quitting soon, a new job to apply and get used to, and and driving review things to do before my driving lessons for this coming month. Not a lot of time and my therapist has really told me to focus on my priorities (work, driving, and maybe a hobby or two) so I don’t burn out.

But yeah. I can’t wait to having some time to read these fics!!!!!!!

[inquixotic]

EVELYN MENDOZA (woman, she/her, auli'i cravalho) is TWENTY TWO and a GUEST RELATIONS MANAGER from AUCKLAND, NEW ZEALAND. they are known as THE VIVACIOUS because they are ENTHUSIASTIC, but if things kick off, they can be a bit RELUCTANT. they’re BISEXUAL and describe their type as SOMEONE LOYAL, WHO BRINGS OUT THE BEST IN HER, AND GETS ALONG WITH HER FRIENDS, AND LIKES ANIMALS, AND—. from their time in the villa, they’re hoping to find LOVE. (paint stained overalls, scattering wildflower seeds during the first rain, building sandcastles in the middle of july, the smell of sunscreen and peaches)

evelyn was born in hawaii, though raised primarily in new zealand once she and her parents moved there when she was four, her accent is a kinda amalgamation of nz/hawaiian because of it 

her parents divorced when she was fifteen and she’s been in therapy since, very healthy split all things considered 

she lived with her dad through the end of university, when she got her first Big Girl Job as a guest relations manager at a local hotel in auckland 

she’s an artist, but she has no desire for that to be anything other than a hobby; for her, doing something like that for work doesn’t work, it bleeds the joy out of it when she has to do it for someone else 

she’s extremely upbeat and cheerful, almost to a fault — anger isn’t an emotion she feels exactly, more like she intellectualizes it and compartmentalizes it to process w her therapist at a later date  

she takes nonconfrontational to an extreme; she’d rather avoid someone than get into an argument with them, she tends to cry at the drop of a hat and she doesn’t want it to feel like she’s guilting them when she just has a lot of big emotions 

that said she’s had many a conversation about her own toxic tendencies and she is will almost certainly be breaking out therapy speak if she has to deal with a confrontation (inflammatory language is a Big term for her)

she’s genuinely on the show looking for a romantic connection — she’s not sure it’ll be love but she has no interest in the fame or money portion, except so far as the money would make it really easy to go on a vacation with her partner where she can paint new landscapes and scenes 

i don’t think there’s a strategic bone in her body — her priority is finding who she meshes best with and seeing if there’s the possibility of romance there

she’s a fan of the show and she has a lot of opinions on how ? possessive ??? people have been over partners they’ve had for a few days 

that doesn’t mean she’ll be sharing those opinions but she’s not exactly worried about stepping on toes if she feels she has a good connection with someone not technically single; knowing a person for a week hardly constitutes real relationship in her eyes  

i would classify her solidly on the lawful good side, as much as i have mixed feelings on that scale — it’s very important to note she has a Very Strong Moral Code that she lives by and judges people by

she’s not judgmental exactly, but her opinions once formed don’t change very much — she’s a forgive but don’t forget girl 

SHE ! LOVES ! ANIMALS ! no one say anything mean about any animal or she’ll probably cry 

character touchstones: lilo pelekai (lilo & stitch), alice kingsleigh (alice in wonderland), primrose everdeen (the hunger games), jane bennett (pride & prejudice), lucy pevensie (the chronicles of narnia), ducky (land before time), + more 

[tanuchoksisblog]

Embracing the Superhero Within: How Individual Therapy Saves the Day for Housewives?

Being a housewife is often seen as a role filled with joy and fulfilment, but the reality is that it can also be emotionally challenging. The demands of managing a household, juggling family responsibilities, and coping with societal expectations can sometimes take a toll on one's mental health. However, amidst the chaos, there shines a beacon of hope: individual therapy. This form of counselling for depression and personal growth has become a superpower for housewives, empowering them to navigate life's challenges and rediscover their inner strength.

Housewives have a secret ally in individual therapy because it gives them a secure setting in which to discuss their problems, feelings, and challenges. Housewives frequently find themselves prioritising the needs of others over their own, which results in a disregard for their own mental health. They can go on a journey of self-discovery with the assistance of a knowledgeable therapist, admitting their needs and figuring out how to give their mental health priority.

Housewives who experience depression may feel alone and burdened since it is a quiet invader that may creep into their life. By giving a safe space to talk about and explore their feelings of melancholy, annoyance, and worry, individual counseling offers a lifeline. They get coping methods and tactics from a therapist to help them sort through the maze of emotions, defeat depressed ideas, and rediscover their sense of purpose.

Housewives frequently bear a heavy emotional burden, including unmet expectations, suppressed desires, and unresolved issues. As a cathartic release, individual therapy enables patients to let go of their emotional burdens without worrying about criticism or repercussions. Housewives may rediscover their hobbies, create personal objectives, and develop a revitalised feeling of self-worth via introspective talks and customised therapy procedures.

Housewives frequently face unreasonable expectations from society, which unintentionally diminishes their worth and potential. Housewives have a platform in individual therapy to confront these preconceptions and develop their own identities and goals. They may strengthen their self-esteem, develop resilience, and regain their own authority by working with a therapist.

Due to the nature of their job, housewives may occasionally experience isolation and loneliness. Building deep ties and support networks can be sped up by individual treatment. Therapists can advise attending community events or groups where housewives can meet people going through comparable struggles. They reinforce the concept that they are not alone in their challenges and help them feel a feeling of connection and vital emotional support.

Individual therapy has become a great tool for housewives, giving their daily experiences new meaning. Housewives may reach their full potential, find comfort in their challenges, and develop a happier, more rewarding lifestyle by receiving therapy for depression and personal growth. In order to redefine the role of housewives and reclaim their own happiness, let's recognise the superheroes among us who have embraced the power of treatment.

[obscuraspace]

Saying no, reclaiming time

One of the weak justifications I gave K when we first started discussing my past as a writer was that I simply did not have time. From my texts: "I probably still have the skill, but it's just not been a priority at this time. I have seasons. This season is skeeball, indoor cycling, and maybe crocheting. It was a lot easier to write when I didn't have to be employed, ahaha." His response: "Those all sound so cool and like more fun than writing, tbh."

Almost four months later, months full of his loving encouragement and well-natured bullying, I'm close to 10,000 words into my first book. But I was right: the structure and pace of my life has to change in order to get to 80,000. To create the book, I have to also create time. Slowly, laboriously teaching myself to crochet can wait.

"Saying no has more creative power than ideas, insights, and talent combined. Saying no guards time," writes Kevin Ashton in HTFAH. One of the things that challenges me the most is where to cut. Do I see my friends less? Do I put aside skeeball, a hobby that scratches my insatiable itch for competition? How about cycling, which is reshaping my body in a way that stokes my confidence and provides me with much needed health benefits? Do I spend less time supporting my spouse, M, or do I spend less time growing my relationship with my partner, K? Nonmonogamy has taught me well that time is the most finite resource in this life. There is no increasing time, only reclaiming it.

Ever since I reinvented myself six years ago after my move to a new city, I've developed a terminal case of FOMO. Therapists have encouraged me to slow down, friends are shocked when I show them my calendar nightly appointments with no days off. When I first arrived here, it was chains of dates; now, it's split time between two partners, my cherished hobbies, and close friends. The time I use to recoup is during my hours working from home, which has begun to take a toll on my productivity and my boss's esteem. The latter of which will eventually drive me away, it's only a matter of time and my deteriorating resolve.

So where do I cut? So far, I've begun in what was not initially an obvious place: excising alcohol. When I previously have thought about the problematic drinking I developed during COVID lockdown, I never thought about it in terms of time wasted, but the evidence was all in front of me. Hangovers have kept me from working hard, professionally and domestically. In the first year of lockdown, despite having nowhere to go, I read an unusually low number of books... because I couldn't read while buzzed. I logged hours and hours playing mindless games and watching dumb TV. In moderation, good, but drinking was helping me sink into malaise and keeping me incapacitated to climb out.

This month, since a time beyond memory, I have spent almost as many nights sober as I have drinking even one drink. The nights I do drink are more moderate. Magically, sobering up has created time. My mind does not need to rest in the day because it sleeps better at night. I don't wake up still needing to recover. I find my accomplishments, rather than my distractions, relaxing. And when I do distract, it penetrates deeper to peacefulness, like letting your muscles rest after a hard workout.

But alcohol was the toxic panacea I was using to "cure" all my other ailments. K diagnosed the biggest one, and now that I know the root of my unhappiness it only grows faster with my attention on it. It's the structure that holds my life together, it's the scariest thing to destabilize, and it's constricting my time, energy, and soul itself.

I gotta quit my damn job.

[system-of-a-feather]

I'm not mad at the surgeon himself cause he was nice and sweet and shit and I'm pretty sure hes working off of the textbook / policy / whatever but decided I'd send a message for "clarification on my after visit summary"

I had some questions regarding the AVS. I was hoping the information and contacts for weight loss would be of a higher level than the traditional stuff. I already don't smoke or drink alcohol. I already don't drink sugary drinks and consume sugary deserts. I already run a mile at least 2/5 week days and often do 3-5 every weekend. I have an active job. I eat small portions and cook at home a lot as it is. The Wellness Coach I don't think is going to be able to tell me anything I'm not doing as they aren't able to tell me what to eat or exercise. I already talked to a nutritionist in the past who told me that loosing weight - as long as I am healthy - shouldn't be a priority as I am physically active and eating well. My therapist agree that I run a risk of eating disorders and am doing a good job managing it. Could I get a higher specialist for advice cause I am doing everything you've recommended for weight loss already?

And to my Transgender Health Coordinator / Primary Care Physician

Hi, I got a consult for top surgery and was denied because my BMI was too high. My AVS gave me 'advice', however all of it I am already doing. I already don't smoke/drink alcohol, don't drink sugary drinks and consume sugary foods. I run a mile at least 2/5 week days and often do 3-5 every weekend. I have an active job. I eat small portions + cook at home a lot as it is. The Wellness Coach likely isn't going to be able to tell me anything new as they aren't able to tell me what to eat or exercise. I've talked to a nutritionist in the past who told me that loosing weight as I am physically active + eating well. My therapist agree that I run a risk of eating disorders + am doing a good managing it I'm a bit at a loss as to how I am expected to progress without some ground breaking medical advice to magically loose weight that runs in my family beyond what I am currently doing. Can I get a specialist who can tell me what I'm doing wrong? Cause I do need top surgery w/out developing an ED

Cause I swear to god, I'll start thinking about this like an adult eventually, but all I'm hearing is "develop and eating disorder and then we will let you get the surgery" and the ONLY thing my brain is hearing is malicious compliance that is so fucking stupid cause it would only hurt us and not really the system at all to become fucking anorexic or worsening our food related OCD.

But you know, if you medical healthy professionals really really do think that my mom's entire family being "overweight" despite having literal veterans and fitness focused individuals AND that despite us having a very food and health conscious diet and life style, is unhealthy and bad - well I GUESS you ARE the professionals so don't be fucking surprised when our vitals start fucking dropping when we stop fucking eating and only run cause you know, you are the professionals and I want to know if your advice really is "engage in obsessive compulsive food related relations" because you like to suck the dick of a broken, unbased, and STUPID "fat index" measure that means literally fucking nothing AND encourages the loss of functional muscle tissue?

Oh okay, you'd rather me be slim and thin and "healthy" than being able to lift anything right?

The fact I can run 5 miles straight and carry my 6' 2" fiance bridal style is clearly not a good thing and I clearly am "obese" and unhealthy. Ignore my perfect vitals. Ignore my perfect blood screening. Ignore everything I'm short and "heavy" and clearly the advice I need is to "eat healthier" and "live an active life style"

Hm

Maybe Ill pick up an active hobby like bird watching and hiking and- OH WAIT

I ALREADY DO THAT DUMB FUCK.

MAYBE I SHOULD STOP DRIN- OH WAIT

I

NEVER

DID

Thanks man, I never considered working out regularly, managing my eating, substituting out unhealthy food and snacks for healthy ones, or engaging in active hobbies.

It never occurred to me

Yeah sure Ill make that 5 miles not a weekly thing but a daily thing

Yeah sure Ill never eat protein cause protein makes you gain weight (albeit not fat but who cares, number go down brrrr, lower number good bigger number baaaad)

Dude I hate BMI chapter 40292

Cant get top surgery until my BMI is below 30 and Im like OK I already have a healthy diet and run a mile every other day and have an active work so please tell me what eating disorder I gotta do 😒

Im gonna nuke Arasaka /joking/

But hey look theres a lot of things you can do to better your health, start simple with biking and being active incase running five miles straight every week like you already do is too hard

Try eating healthier when you already fuckin do 😒😒😒😒😒

Strangling strangling strangling strangling

[mandu-17]

TWICE being dominant with their S/O

Requested by: anonymous

Request: Hi! I really like you 'BLACKPINK bekng dominant with their s.o'. Could you do one like that with Twice, please?

A/N: i'm glad you liked it anon!! hopefully this one won't disappoint you either

Nayeon

Where do i even start

It’s Nayeon we’re talking about

She basically lives for teasing and topping you

Would definitely spoil you a lot and later brag on how she’s your sponsor at this point

Usually she decides about your dates or plans

SKINSHIP

And expect a lot of it

Wraps an arm around your shoulders whenever she sees someone interested in you

It’s her way of showing that you belong to her

Nayeon is not even worried that you might think about someone else

But watching other people panic at her piercing gaze is way too funny

Jeongyeon

Jeongyeon doesn't really think or care a lot about being dominant with you

It's just usually how things naturally work out for you two

Overall your relationship is very healthy and full of trust

Takes care of you on so many levels

Your personal chef, therapist and driver

Helps you cleaning your house as well

She's such a sweetheart and you always know you can turn to her in need

Likes to pay for you

Just like Nayeon, she LIVES for making you shy and frustrated

Either by compliments or skinship

Your girlfriend loves the effect she has on you

Often gets jealous, but at the end of the day Jeongyeon knows that you love her as much as she loves you

Momo

Likes to know about what you are up to

Gets jealous a lot

VERY protective

Teases and flirts with you like it's her job

Especially when she's dancing

Makes sure to smirk or wink at you in the right moment

After practice Momo often finds herself all over you

Your reactions are what keeps her going

Loves seeing you all red and helpless

When it comes to bedroom, it's usually her in charge as well

She ALWAYS makes sure you're sore the next day

Basically it's a very passionate soul hidden in a beautiful body

And you can never get enough of her

Sana

THIS FLIRT

Very dangerous

Sometimes you still can't tell whether she's joking or no

Showering you with lots of affection

Even if it's a bit overwhelming at times

She's never shy to show you the uncoditional love she has for you

Making you blush and speechless is her hobby

Compliments you all the time because she knows it helps you be more confident with yourself

Spoils you A LOT

In public, holds you with pride wanting to show you off to everyone

Likes to experiment in bed and always looks for new ideas on how to make your intimate moments more pleasurable

Jihyo

As a leader, Jihyo never had any trouble with being dominant

It starts with simple things such as taking care of you

Feeding you or making sure you’ve already eaten

Surprises you with gifts and is usually the one to pay too

Sometimes she even orders you around but for instance, it’s only when you’re too lazy to go shower on your own

Her priority is your well-being so she always does whatever she can to have you feeling good and healthy

Whenever in public, she keeps a hand on your waist or thigh

Often teases you by suddenly squeezing your leg or tracing it under the table

Definitely likes taking charge in bedroom as well

That’s where she really shows you how much love she has for you

Mina

In your relationship with Mina, there never really was such thing as dominating

Both of you were rather calm, soft-spoken and mature enough to respect other's opinion well

Although, whenever there was a situation where Mina showed some of her dominant side, you felt weak

It usually happened when it was just the two of you

She suddenly pulls you into a hug or kisses you in a way that leaves you breathless

Taking care of you came like a second nature to her

Gives you her clothes

Especially jacket if you're cold

She also likes to try new things and be adventurous in bedroom

Somehow, your girlfriend still managed to keep her gentleness and elegance while doing all these things

Dahyun

Dahyun is a very social person, she likes showing you around and exploring new places with you

Which means she's usually the one in charge of deciding where your next date is going to be

Since she's the one taking you out, she's also the one to pay

No matter how many times you argue about it

She's stubborn and wants to make you happy

Flirts with you quite a lot

Although it's more often in a joking manner just to make you laugh

Wants you to wear her clothes all the time

Also loves cuddling you or having you sit on her lap

Once she's holding you, it makes her feel like she can protect you which never fails to make her feel warm on the inside

This woman would do ANYHTHING to make you smile man

Chaeyoung

Such a tease

And she KNOWS what she's doing to you

Gives you those bilion dollar smiles and looks

Especially if she's performing

That's when she feels most confident

So be prepared for her sudden skinship attacks

Even though she's still subtle so no one can really see, it drives you crazy

Surprises you with hand-made gifts or drawings

Also likes to leave sticky notes at your apartment because giving you a reason to smile is another passion of hers

Definitely likes to take charge in bed

Always open to try new things with you, so all you have to do is just ask

Tzuyu

Tzuyu doesn’t like dominating that much

Once she’s in a mood tho …

It’s a very attractive sight to see

She’s so dangerous since everyone usually sees her as a quiet and calm person

Then she’s all alone with you and some of her traits are more visible

Words aren’t really her thing

Her way of dominating is usually by gestures

Buys you stuff even after you politely, kindly decline

Suddenly pulls you into her lap or onto the bed

Depends which one is closer

Often shuts you up with a kiss

It took Tzuyu some time and courage to be like that with you, but both of you know it was worth the wait

[goji-pilled]

How they would dress and future endeavours. A headcanon.

I would draw them, but I’m trying out a new art style, but I’m working on polishing it.

MOKA!

Dresses very cute. Lots of pinks, whites, greys and pastels in her closet. Wears a necklace given by Homura, and goes her hair in a ponytail using one of her old ribbons. It reminds her of home because when she went to college, she got a dorm. Shoes are simple and cute, with no heels. Chooses comfort over style, and has multiple sweaters. Due to her passion in art, she took up a art degree and has illustrated a picture book and multiple doujins (No coochies or pps). Owns a cat and is dating Homura.

HOMU!

Practicality takes priority in closets. Little to no skirts or colours and wears a lot of monochrome clothes. Has a ring the Madoka gave her. After the loops, she cut her hair and to preserve magic, she stopped healing her eyes, and went back to using her old glasses. Business or Psychology major, and often goes to Mami’s cafe for coffee. Much like most college students, lives off of coffee. Still hates incubators and runs a magical girl forum.

KOKO!

Comfort over style definitely. Doesn’t even try to look stylish at all. Lots of track pants and silly looking socks in drawers. Hair remains largely unchanged, and is most often tied back or free. Not in college and works full time at Mami’s cafe. Usually the one to run errands or clean the house or cafe. Hobby is leaving yelp reviews on restaurants.

SAYA/TAVI!

Practicality and style are equally balanced. Button ups, toques, anime/movie pins, all that jazz (pun intended). Has a shirt with the words “I work at an offish”. Although a seasoned conductor, has a side hustle of a YouTube channel as she is irresponsible with her money and spends it all in one go. Not in any form of education like Kyoko, but at least has a job.

MUMIE!

Stylish and retro! Lots of skirts, heels, button ups, scarfs, and flower prints and she rocks all of it. Her hair is mostly free and smells like freshly brewed tea and jasmine. Runs a cafe with really good sweets and tea. A hole in a wall if you will. Lots of plants, and teas and is basically an influencers dream. No TikTok dancing though, last time someone TikTok danced in her cafe, they knocked over several things, Nagi still sticks to her like glue.

NAGI!

Goes to a culinary high school and usually wears it’s uniform, although she usually tops it with a silly hoodie with a pop culture reference or cute animal on it. Hair is usually braided out of the way, as she is in a culinary track, and has a tiny mouse barrette. Still very gremlin and wants snacks 24/7. The resident weird kid and proud.

YUMA!

Goes to your usual high school that happens to be near Nagisa’s school. Hair is tied back with Kyoko’s old ribbon and often wears fluffy things like scarves. Studying hard to become a therapist. Cat whisperer and avid protester of animal rights and will kick you in the nuts if your dog has a scratch. She likes sandwiches.

uh huh, uh uh *takes notes*

[awed-frog]

Do you have any tips on how to stop binge eating? No purge yet but i’m close

Hey, sorry you’re going through that. I don’t know if I can help, but here are a few tips.

First of all - if this is something that happens frequently, you might have Binge Eating Disorder (if you purge, we’re going straight into bulimia territory), and that’s serious, so don’t leave it alone. Find a therapist if you can, or at least an online community (and NOT something HAES-based, if they say bingeing is normal behaviour or that you have to stop ‘restricting’ to fix this it, run).

For right now: I’d say, the most important thing is DON’T PURGE. Throwing up frequently will do a lot of damage to your stomach, and taking laxatives will mess with your entire digestive system, which that can be hard to recover from. I know you’re afraid you’ll gain weight if you don’t purge, but you do not want to spend the rest of your life avoiding most foods because you have an extra delicate stomach or become addicted to laxatives because you can’t poop without them. So even if you mess up and have a binge, do NOT purge.

Tips for not bingeing:

Don’t keep foods that trigger you in your home. If you feel like something specific, buy it and eat it outside - not in your car, but outside. In a restaurant if you can, and on a nice park bench if you can’t. That way, you’ll be less tempted to keep eating indefinitely, and instead turn that urge into a normal meal or snack. Don’t buy ingredients for several meals you’re craving (if you’re craving pizza and pasta, only buy a pizza or pasta sauce, not both) and don’t buy multiple packages of whatever even if it’s cheaper (one packet of crisps, one pizza and so on; and, if possible, snack-sized packets of biscuits and peanuts; if you’re craving cake, go to a nice bakery and get yourself a big slice instead of buying a cheap cake from a supermarket).

Be aware of situations that triggers you and plan around them. If you aren’t sure about connections, start keeping a very honest food / mood / events diary so you can spot patterns. Triggers can by situational (a fight with a loved one, your mom being annoying, having to buy new clothes and so on) or physical (PMS, insulin out of whack so even one piece of chocolate will lead to overeating more stuff). Once you know what triggers you, avoid what you can and try to plan ahead for what you can’t.

(For instance, if a weekly review at your job triggers you, arrange to see or call a friend afterwards or go to the movies.)

To make PMS better, there are things you can try: the best ones are exercise (especially outside) and satisfying meals (eat healthy but add fats even if you’re craving sugars).

Distract yourself and get away from passive &screen-related activities. Try putting on some music and dancing, or cleaning the house. Reorganize your closet. Start a hobby you have to do with your hands - knitting, crafts, clay. Go for a walk if you can. Listen to audiobooks. Take a nice shower. Call someone (it can be a support buddy you can talk to about cravings, but also someone who doesn’t know: it’s nice just to talk).

Tips for after bingeing:

Do not feel bad about it. This is a mental health issue. Bingeing doesn’t mean you’re weak or worthless, it means you have a disease and you’re trying to get better. You wouldn’t say someone who’s got the flu is weak-willed, and this is exactly the same.

Clean your kitchen and throw away everything that’s left. I know - it’s not ideal to waste food, but chances are, if you have any leftovers that can trigger you, you’ll start bingeing again tomorrow morning. So put everything in a bag and physically walk out of your house and throw it away.

Make yourself a nice cup of tea - if possible, something that will help with digestion.

Cheer yourself up: this was a stumble, and doesn’t negate your achievements and how far you’ve come in your life.

Go to bed early.

Do not fall into the trap of the ‘I might as well’ mentality. This is called black and white thinking and is common in many kinds of mental health issues: the idea is that if you ‘ruined’ your meal or your day or your schedule, ‘you might as well’ give up for the day or the week. This is your mental health issue speaking, and it’s bullshit. I don’t particularly like Jillian Michaels, but she was right when she said ‘Think of it this way: If you got a flat tire, what would you do? Change the tire? Or get out of the car and slash the other three tires? No! Get back on the road. Don't dwell on it; don't beat yourself up. That gets you nowhere.’

You had one bad meal, or one bad day. It doesn’t feel great, but it’s not the end of the world. Have a good night’s sleep and start fresh tomorrow.

General tips:

Binge eating disorder often starts when you use food as a coping mechanism, so work on that. Many of us are messed up because parents generally associate food rewards to good behaviour and good food to joyful occasions, but that connection needs to be broken down. If you had a good day, don’t reward yourself with food (go to a spa, buy yourself some fun earrings or a nice book) and if you had a bad day, absolutely do NOT console yourself with food (call a friend, go to the movies, go to a fun place like an aquarium, buy yourself something nice that’s not food-related).

Unless you’re underweight (check your BMI and fat percentage), pregnant or breastfeeding, do compensate for a binge - in a healthy, sustainable way. Do not have a water fast day, but maybe cut down on portions, sauces or sweets for a couple of days? 

I know people say there’s no bad foods and ‘everything in moderation’, but imo that’s not true. We’re surrounded by fake foods that mess with our hormones and bodies, and cutting them out completely can be a great idea. For instance: junk food sucks. I know it’s made so be enjoyable so we enjoy it, but it is what it is. Sugar is also very bad, and should be eaten very rarely, if at all (my favourite book on the subject is The World Corrupted, but there are many out there).

If you’re craving a particular food, make it yourself or get a ‘good’ version of it. Enjoying a restaurant meal with someone or cooking a nice dish or glorious cupcakes for your friends, spouse or kids is much better and more satisfying than hoarding low-quality food from some 7/11 (it might not feel that way in the beginning, but that will get better).

Try to make your health the priority: eat good food (lots of seasonal veggies, grains and beans, healthy fats, quality source proteins), stick to water, tea and some coffee, move around regularly (we should all do some sport that makes our heartbeat raise, but if you’re not used to that a gentle walk around the block is perfectly fine: the idea is to make it a habit), check your vitamin levels (a lack of something will cause bad moods!), manage your stress (easier said than done, but stress does have a very harmful effect on your entire body, so we all have to try what we can).

If you don’t feel in control of your eating, and if your eating habits are affecting your quality of life or preventing you from having a normal life (rapid weight gain or loss, spending money you don’t have, lying to loved ones, recurrent fights over food, obsessive thoughts, withdrawing from social life etc), then SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY. Eating disorders are a disease, and it’s very rare that they get better on their own. 

Be patient. You didn’t get an eating disorder overnight, and recovery will also take time. That is fine and normal.

Again, stay the hell away from fat activists and HAES groups.

I hope this helped. Please remember you’re not alone. Eating disorders are extremely common, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Just look after yourself, and treat this as you would any purely physical health issue. Recovery is possible, managing the disease is possible. Just hang in there and best of luck.

[moons-and-stars-and-shit]

Hi! I sent a matchup request like 3 days ago so I'll send it again in case your computer didn't save it!

I'd like to request a 🍰 please.

I'm female and I use she/her pronouns. I'm mostly attracted to men but I'm fine with anyone. My personality type is INTJ-T and my sign is Leo.

As for appearance I'm 5'0 and pretty curvy in terms of chest and thighs. My hair is very curly and it's bleached right now. My skin tone is like tan and my eyes are dark brown.

I'm ambiverted but more of an introvert. I'm pretty responsible and mature and I'm often the mom friend or therapist friend in my friendships. But I'm also not afraid to call people out and can be a little blunt. I also have a hard time opening up to people and it usually takes quite awhile before I'm comfortable doing that because I tend to bottle things up. I also tend to get ignored a lot so if I was in a relationship having someone willing to listen would be important to me.

I enjoy drawing and writing and I sing sometimes but more as a hobby than anything serious. My favorite books are The Little Prince and Heartless.

I really like your blog! ❤️

🍰 for @ajistired077

Romantic Matchup

Daichi Sawamura

How yall met

Suga has introduced you to two!

You and Suga had always been super close friends since you both were very much so the mom friends

So one-day Suga wanted to introduce you to the team

You had walked in and Daichi's jaw almost dropped

Did a goddess just walk into the gym????

Omg you were beautiful

Apparently, he wasn't the only one who thought so…

You had Tanaka and Noya hanging off of you within seconds

Embarrassed he contained the two 2nd years and apologized to you

You had thanked him for helping you with a warm smile

Omg this man could not get any redder

And our boy Suga noticed

Now he had a new mission

Cupid Suga was gonna make you fall in love

It started off simple

He would invite you and Daichi to hang out with him

You would all hang out and have a blast

And when you and Daichi started to get comfortable with each other

He slowly started removing himself from this little equation

He would always have to take a rain check whenever you guys were supposed to hang out

Oh but don't worry about him!

In fact, why don't you two still go and hang out

Eventually, you and Daichi caught on to what Suga was doing

But neither of you could deny that you had fallen for the other

And oh boy yall had fallen HARD

Suga chalked it up as a win when you and Daichi walked into the gym hand in hand

What they love about you

He loves how mature you are

Daichi has always had trouble connecting with other teens

And it's because he's so mature!

And all of his past relationships usually failed because his partner refused to take the relationship seriously

But you were different

You were much more mature than the other kids at school

Like shit even Daichi had to remind you to be a kid for once

But still

He's really glad he's found someone who on his level when it comes to that

He loves how blunt you can be

You very rarely sugar coat things

And often just call it out as it is

He loves this because bluntness to him equals the truth

So to him, you just always speaks the truth

And honesty is something very important to Daichi

So he's very grateful for the bluntness

Favorite things to do together

He likes to just sit and read with you

He really just likes spending time with you

Nd he really likes to red good book

So put two and two together

BAM you got daichis favorite thing in the whole world

If you let him hell want to cuddle while you both read something

He loves to have DEEP conversations

As stated before you both are very mature

Which leads to very mature conversations

But daichi lives for these moments

Because he gets to see a whole new perspective on something that he never would've thought about before

Random Hc

You said you wanted someone who could be patient when it comes to you opening up?

Well then daichis your guy!

He understands how it's not always easy to open up to someone

So he always takes it with a grain of salt

He knows you would never hide anything from him

So why should he worry

Oh and you said you wanted someone who would listen to you?

Daichis got ya covered!

When you start opening up to him more

This man is all ears

He never wants you to feel like he's ignoring you

So he always makes sure to stay engaged during all of your conversations

He keeps all of the drawings you give him

He likes to show off your writing to anyone who asks about you

He keeps a Polaroid pic of you in his wallet

Astrology

Leo + Capricorn

If they meet in the right moment, Leo and Capricorn might get along very well.

The main problem in their relationship is the set of priorities they might not share, and the passion or determination that both of them have.

It is not an easy job, reconciling Saturn with the Sun, but it brings great benefits when it is done.

The structure Leo could get and the creativity they might build on together could lift them to exactly what they desired, however their relationship might end.

They differ as much as the Earth and the Fire, but when they share a common goal, they are unstoppable.

Overall Aesthetic

Old souls

Songs-

Fly me to the moon

Loves gonna get you killed

I just wanna be the one you love

Can't help falling in love

[nyxetoile]

I don’t mean to be a stalker but after reading your Loki/Syn series, I just couldn’t help but come over to your tumblr and hopefully see your old posts whilst writing the fanfic. Lemme first of all say thank you for writing the series!! There were moments from your writings that reminded me of the Loki that we now see in the Disney plus show. I’m still in the process of reading, but I couldn’t help but find you on tumblr!

After many scrolls through your account, I learned that you’re a mother and I admire that a lot. I grew up thinking that being passionate in a hobby or a fandom stops when you’re married because the people around my life —as well as what the media tries to tell me — say that having a hobby can take up so much of your time. You can say I’m in the process of becoming an adult so here I am, actually freaking out that I’ll eventuallly have to loosen my interest in the things I consider as my escape from reality. This whole time, I even thought a fandom has this unspoken “age limit” because I am noticing that I’m becoming older than the people I know. Having you in this platform makes me realize that there’s literally no point in trying to lose interest in the things I love.

Also, I swear I’m almost done. I just gotta say this but I think it’s really cool how surprisingly mature your child is, given her age. Apart from that, she seems really cool too. I don’t know what food you’re giving her or what knowledge or wisdom you’re bestowing upon her, but I think you’re doing a superb job as the cool parents for her. What is the secret to a good relationship with your child?

Ok, lot to address here.

First off, thank you so much for reading! I'm really glad you're enjoying the Loki/Syn stories, they are some of my favorites. I'm loving the new Loki show, and am very gratified that some of the character decisions I made about him in my fics have been confirmed by the Loki writers. There is a Loki-show based Syn story coming soon.

Second, of course hobbies don't stop when/if you become a wife and mother! There is likely going to be some reorganizing of priorities and time balance, but you absolutely should not give up your passions just because you add more. When my kids were young I wrote lots of fanfic and read a lot. I didn't go to as many movies in the theater as I would have liked. Hell, my MCU fan fics started with Thor 2, when my eldest was 5 and my youngest was an infant. I had other fandoms/wrote fics before that, but the MCU happened after motherhood. The kids are now older so movie going is a lot easier (hubby and I are seeing Black Widow tomorrow).

And finally, I'm not sure how much credit I can take for my awesomely cool daughter. Clover is as she has always been. She was smart and precocious as a toddler and it has only gotten worse from there. My parenting advice boils down to "treat them like people." I don't mean treat children like adults or like your friends, but remember that they are people with interests and feelings separate from yours. Support their interests. Suggest things they might like and don't take it personally if they don't. Answer their questions honestly and age appropriately. Listen when they talk. Respect their opinions and explain why you're doing things. Clover has been active on the internet several years. My husband and I put down rules to protect her privacy and safety and explained why and the consequences of not listening. I have always encouraged her to explore and moderate her own content. (When I switched her Netflix from "kid" to "adult" I told her "If something makes you uncomfortable, turn it off. Sex in movies is not like sex in real life. If you have nightmares that's a you problem." And that seems to have been sufficient.) She has watched horror movies I wouldn't touch. I KNOW she reads stuff on AO3, but she swears none of it's mine. I buy her whatever books she wants (and like, every fucking tarot card deck Barnes and Noble sells) and warn her if I think there will be content she doesn't like. ("Sure you can read Clan of the Cave Bear. The main character gets raped a lot, though." Child slowly puts book back on shelf.) She knows no subject it taboo or too weird for me to discuss. When she said she wanted to try therapy I got her a therapist, no questions asked.

Kids are people. A parent's job is to raise them into a functioning adult. The best way to learn something is practice. So let them practice making decisions and thinking up arguments and asking questions so when they're on their own that's all easy for them. We're also not letting her move out until she can build a piece of IKEA furniture, cook 3 meals on her own, and check her oil.

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Van life!newsies headcanons

Hello, i have recently been obsessing and/or pining over living in a van/bus. So i will project my pining to my favorite pretty paper boys like what everyone does in the newsies fandom! Very healthy and smart idk lol so here’s my take on this au for each of my ships!

*i know some ppl might not agree with all these ships but these are just my personal favorites pls don’t come after me for something i like :)*

@jaelynn-is-slightly-confused thanks for deciding which headcanons i should write first :)

A pretty long list so you might have to sit down for this one 

Javid

They converted an old american school bus

I actually have a headcanon that modern!jack comes from a rich family (maybe not the family his parents were born into but his parents worked pretty hard to be successful y’know) so that’s how they were able to buy an old school bus

So they were able to fit in a shower (not one of those foldable kinds) and a built in toilet. A pretty decent kitchen. A stove, oven, microwave, and all the other utilities necessary. Was able to fit both a washing machine and a dryer. Has a proper closet.

To fit davey’s needs, they put in a tiny book shelf. But it’s too tiny to fit in all of davey’s book (he’s got a shelf full) and was forced to give some of them away he cried a little. Jack did the same for his art supplies he cried a lot.

Jack is an illustrator and Davey is a writer. (Davey the hopeless romantic Jacobs mostly writes romance wow what a shocker) If Jack can find the time to paint on a canvas he will. It usually ends up getting sold which he doesn’t mind. 

Jack painted every inch of the bus exterior wow we’re all so shocked no we aren’t I lied :) "Jack why...” “We need to be festive when we travel, Dave!” *face palms*

They have one cat which is still nameless in my head so ://

Newsbians

They live in a school bus 

Kathrine’s a Pulitzer so you know how they can freely afford it (now that i think abt it i think old school busses sell for really cheap prices but idk) 

The shower and closet are a must have for Kathrine. She takes over most of the closet space and takes the longest in the shower. Sarah is a foodie so she built herself a whole kitchen and Kathrine is not allowed to touch anything without her permission. Even fitting in a huge fridge. They also fit in a proper working desk and a couch. Also made some sort of balcony on top of their bus so they can stargaze on top of there 

Kathrine is a reporter and Sarah is a physician in the telemedicine industry (she meets patients through video calls and such, not face to face) 

Morning coffee is a tradition for them at this point. They cannot drive the bus without having one cup of coffee 

They have two cats still nameless too ://

Ikeshot (lmao moving to my rarepairs so quickly. i mean i originally reserved the van life headcanon for them but i got too obsessed and now i’m writing this list hehe) 

They settled with a sprinter van 

it started just as an idea for their honeymoon to do a road trip around the us, but it ended up being longer than a hundred days of honeymoon and it turns into being their first proper room 

Their shower is built in and it can only fit one person. The bed takes up the whole back space. Their closet is kinda small but they don’t mind bcs Ike mostly lives in Hotshot’s clothes anyways. The kitchen is limited but they have a pullout barbeque at the back of their van, under their bed. Hotshot is a master at barbequing. 

Ike is a translator and interpreter. He also uses his hobby in crocheting to build a small business he makes cardigans :) (credit to @violetwolfraven for that little idea) Hotshot is an accountant. Very boring ik but i have a headcanon he’s good with numbers so that’s cool (well idk i feel like he’s good with math and economics) 

Bringing the playstation has always been a priority, so they built in a tv. They like to chill in the bed and play together. Mario kart is a ruthless game  

Occasional weird midnight dancing sessions is a tradition 

they have a cat named Sparks and a dog named Lewis. It’s a dalmatian which made Hotshot tempted to name him Spot :) 

*cut to a vicious argument between Spot and Hotshot which was also egged on by Ike and Race* 

Jomike (ok look i love my rarepairs alright pls let me ship in peace) 

They got a sprinter van 

Their kitchen took up most the space bcs mike and jojo are practically professional chefs. When asked to throw down in the kitchen, they will thRO W   D O W N

They even use a teal palette specifically for their kitchen. They have a one person shower but no built in toilet. a fair amount of plants as decoration. in the back of their van, they have a built in pull out dining table and two benches (built under their bed so they’d have to stop and open the back door to have a proper dinner) 

Jojo is a reporter and mike is a computer programmer. Their job requires a proper desk to work on so they just installed a foldable table in between their seats up front. 

their clothes are just stored in cabinets since they share anyways. it leaves a good amount of wall space to play a projector for netflix *cue the soft cuddling in bed* 

breakfast in bed is the most on brand thing for them to do 

they have a cat named Dixeleta. She’s an outdoor cat so they have fun doing outdoor activities together. Hiking, kayaking, etc. 

Sprace 

They live in an old sprinter van Spot got from an old family member

They have the type of bed that can turn into a living room (seats and table etc). They use a foldable shower bcs they want the space. Their kitchen can be extended out with a latch by their sliding door but that’s only when they need to use a stove and oven. Since they’re the type of people that just throws on the closest clothes they can grab they just use cabinets to store their clothes. 

ok i’ve mentioned it before about sprace but i’ll mention it again. They have three cats named Racecat, Spot Clawlon, and Romeow :D all named by race if you’re wondering. 

So Race is a social media manager and Spot is a physician in the telemedicine industry. 

They’re very lazy to constantly look for a coin laundry service. They make a schedule to do the laundry once a week but sometimes they just forget. 

Their first drive of the day will always include karaoke. They can’t tell whether their cats love or hate their singing voice most likely the latter but they’re in denial.

They cuddle each other in bed with their cats. While watching tv, to sleep, or just chilling together. 

Redfinch 

They got a mini bus

They have a built in shower, bathroom, and closet (not sure why since they don’t really care about their clothes all that much) They have a proper kitchen, fit a washing machine and dryer, plus a little seating area with a small table 

They have two big doberman named Zara and Zoey and a cat named Marbles. Pretty outdoor pets so they frequently take them out for hikes and such 

They have a ‘balcony’ on top of their mini bus to chill together. As in all five of them :)

Finch is a music producer and Albert is a photographer and videographer. Albert mostly works with tourist as their personal photographer, but he has land gigs with big companies/people. Finch works with a label that has given him to opportunity to work at home but sometime still need to stop by a studio to meet with artists or other producers. 

Finch only needs space to store his laptop, notebooks, and guitar (but he ends up hanging it on the wall anyways). Albert takes up a whole cabinet for all of his equipment. 

Not Finch waking up at an ungodly hour when a spark of inspiration comes to him, which ends up waking everyone in the bus. *cut to Albert furiously dragging him back to bed*

They installed a tv near their bed for playstation sessions or cuddling throughout a movie

Their driving karaoke is usually accompanied by their dogs which only tortures Marbles. She hides under the blanket to save her ears. smart cat hehe

Snipesmalls (Never wrote anything for them but I do love these girls :)) 

They converted a mini bus 

Sniper takes up most of the closet space, but it doesn’t matter because they share clothes anyways. A built in toilet and shower. Their kitchen has a navy blue theme to it. It was Smalls’ idea. They have a washing machine and dryer and also a proper dining table.

Sniper is a nurse in the telehealth industry (basically just like telemedicine but deals with more than just clinical services) and Smalls is a medical transcriptionist. 

They have an Australian Shepherd named Blue. It’s because of her blue eyes it’s so beautiful :O Blue likes to stick his head out while driving. 

They have a built in tv for their playstation and movies but sometimes they bring out the projector to watch while chilling outside. 

They have done the most traveling. Hopping from the US to Europe and Asia. 

They may like to share clothes but Sniper really likes to be fashionable wherever she goes. “Ok so since we’re planning to go hiking tomorrow, which hat should I use?” “Sniper, we’re hiking up a mountain, not a vogue fashion runway” “And so what if I pretend we are? Use your imagination babe! Now which one?” *sighing*

It is a nightmare to convince Sniper to give away some of their clothes She cries every time her clothes are being given away but gets happy when they go shopping for new ones and it’s the same cycle every time this happens  

They also like to go to music festivals and have picnics together 

Blush 

They live in a mini bus

They rarely buy clothes or give them away plus they share clothes so the closet is pretty small but hella messy because they’re lazy at folding their clothes away. A simple built in shower and also a foldable toilet. The kitchen is pretty equipped because Mush is a master chef. They have a little seating area with a table. Alternating as a working desk and dining table

Mush is a dietitian and Blink is a therapist, both in the telemedicine industry. 

Neither is allowed to drive if they haven’t gotten their morning coffee 

Mush is mostly then one doing the karaoke while Blink drives 

they like to have picnics together

goes to random concerts. it doesn’t need to be a really big artist. they’d simply be happy if they get tickets to any sort of concert. They prefer to see local underground artists to discover more music and such but they sometimes save up to watch big artists too. 

they’ve only been around the us and canada but are planning on going to other countries too 

Belmerttons 

they live in an old school bus 

So buttons is a huge fashionista so there is a proper closet and drawers that are mostly used by himself. A built in bathroom and the door has a mirror per buttons request. they also fit a washing machien and dryer in the bus per buttons request too. Their bed is full of decorative pillows and a few stuffed animals per elmer’s request. Their kitchen is small but does the trick. also has a little seating area with a table 

Buttons is a fashion stylist but also a designer. Elmer is a math tutor for all ages

they love going to different kind of events and festivals. one of the reasons why they wanted to live on the road in the first place 

to get buttons to give away his old clothes, elmer has to assure him it’s for a good cause bcs buttons loves all his clothes. Buttons still get a little sad and pouty when those days come but picks himself up again when elmer offers a disney movie night on the projector with some snacks

oh yes, they bring lots of snacks on the road 

They have a cat. still nameless soz 

the cat is very fluffy and sheds a lot. which is kind of a problem especially on buttons clothes 

“you’re lucky you have a cute face” -buttons while he’s cleaning the fur off his clothes 

Spromeo 

they live in a mini bus but kinda looks like a hippie van (idk how to describe it but it’s a mini bus with a hippie kind of style to it yknow) 

they have two separate areas in the bus. one up front where the driver and passenger seat is. also coupled with a tiny sofa and a table. that’s where they do their work and dine. very comfy and cozy. 

it’s seperated by a thin wooden wall. through the doorway is where the rest of their living quarters are. a bed, small kitchen but fully equipped, a shower, and foldable toilet. instead of a closet, they use a dresser since they don’t really have many clothes anyways 

so specs is a history teacher and tutor for all ages. (he’s a history nerd hehe). Romeo is a photographer and cinematographer. mostly a tourist photographer (kinda like albert yknow) 

specs likes reading history books, but he mostly does his reading on his tablet and laptop to save space. the same for romeo and comics btw 

their bed is full of pillows 

they have a cat named snowy. a lazy indoor cat. but she loves to cuddle with them in bed

they’ve also done some traveling to other countries. mostly neighboring countries but are dreaming of going to places in europe and asia. 

they enjoy doing lots of board games when they’re not driving 

romeo has a ukulele which he constantly uses to serenade to specs. sometimes to snowy but mostly specs 

woah that was long akjghflkjasfbj; h. will i write a oneshot with this headcanon? maybe but who knows. just needed to put it out there that i’m pining on living on the road with the loml and some cats and go on an adventure together. anyways hope whoever reads this enjoy and sorry for writing a long headcanon list hehe