#negative ego

[ronkeyroo]

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[crystalsenergy]

Echoes of Separateness:

Ego, bullying, and the illogical path of the wounded ego #2

(I demand that the person be here, but in reality, I didn't even want that…)

Part 1: posted yesterday, previous post ✨

In this post, we introduced some examples of this problem that is so present in our lives:

In the case of school,

we see those groups of people who don't like person X. Person X doesn't want to participate in events that are held, for example, outside of school, and that many in the class attend. This person doesn't go because they know it won't be good for them, that there will be insincerity, and they won't feel good. This person prefers to be sincere with themselves and their peers, showing that they prefer to be themselves.

The peers, who already reinforced criticisms, gossip, and other malicious behaviors towards this person X, suddenly get offended and/or demand that this person attend. They complain that they didn't go.

Why, if in the end, there wasn't even a real desire to have the person there?

In the case of religion,

being bothered because the person you don't have a friendship with, don't have a relationship with, and, in fact, do quite the opposite, doesn't attend meetings because it didn't make sense for them to go to one or another, let's imagine due to a topic that was going to be discussed and they didn't want to participate.

You don't like the person… according to what you yourself show them. So why demand their presence?

In the case of workplaces,

situations that strengthen through exclusion, gossip, and badmouthing.

Let's suppose a group notice that a certain colleague has the habit of preferring to be more truthful, keeping to themselves, knowing that their ideas don't resonate with the group's ideas, including the ways these groups use to feel "good" (gossiping, excluding, etc.).

The people in this situation, noticing this colleague's independence and feeling bothered by it, reinforce their exclusion daily, gossiping and/or creating unpleasant situations.

One day, there is a gathering, and the colleague doesn't go, choosing instead to use their time on something that actually makes them feel good, knowing that it wouldn't be genuine, that there would be a lot of insincerity, and wanting to nurture different things in their life.

And then the colleagues get offended and believe in their minds that it makes sense to demand the presence of a person… even a person they exclude so much.

In the case of "friendships",

excluding people who are different from you because others do it, and you, unfortunately, depend on your group to feel belonging; or you do it and attract others to the same path…

and someone in the group starts to become more independent, wanting to move away from dependence, gets criticized for not attending all the meetings, outings. And the one who was "your buddy" yesterday becomes your main target for gossip and intrigue, just because the person is no longer present to nurture your ego.

My dears, it is time to learn the real concept and value of Freedom. Those who truly like us don't hold us back… if we really like someone, we don't hold them back.

And one of the ways to identify who likes us or not is: to observe what their first reaction is when we distance ourselves from them. Do they ask you why? Do they change their behavior towards you, acting sometimes with resentment, sometimes with insincerity? How do they act from a distance, if they haven't yet come to talk to you?

Unfortunately, those who are still on this path personalize everything. And they believe it will always be about them. It doesn't cross their minds that you might need to rediscover yourself, recognize yourself, self-discover, or be going through a turbulent period. Or that there really is a conflict, friction between you, and that this should be discussed.

These are people who, unfortunately, are extremely connected to their wounded ego. And they act and react most of the time based on this, on unconsciousness and the ego that at the moment is negative.

In the case of family,

people who exclude other relatives, blood-related or not, over ego issues, even very senseless things (which consciousness knows, but the person doesn't want to admit, after all, energies don't lie and not everything needs to be said for us to notice who people are):

being bothered by being near my truer, even more humble (not in terms of money, but personality) relatives, and then reinforcing the idea of exclusion to make them feel bad,

because I am still very insecure and live in the energy of appearances, of reinforcing something good about myself through my possessions and material goods… because it seems that without them, I feel empty.

Because I haven't yet realized that my meaning goes beyond anything ephemeral, that contains "glamour" in appearance and aesthetics, but often can be without content and meaning.

The person who is aware of the exclusion in relation to them, of the unpleasant things, doesn't attend all family gatherings, wisely acting in such a manner, but the relative who forces exclusion, separation, gossip, criticism, control, comes demanding this person's presence, often using as a foundation for "anger" precisely the fact that the person didn't go.

But what logic and sense does that have, if you don't even like the person's presence?

It is a cycle of nurturing bad things… that people seem not to notice!

It is important to wake up to this to put an end to these toxic processes in our lives and in others'. And this message of ending or setting a limit applies to all cases and to all "sides",

both the demanded and the demanding. Freedom and truth are the only keys and real solutions…

All this that I pointed out makes no sense, following a raw and straightforward logic, but it makes sense based on the idea that these people act this way, from beginning to end,

out of FEAR of abandonment.

FEAR of being alone.

FEAR of judgment.

And in a process of badmouthing, not accepting to look at this at the moment with openness, care, they spill this pain that they hide from themselves onto others.

[thedyf]

Old Joyner Lucas is TOP TIER.

[muirann]

all comic fans know how to do is: develop superiority complexes based on their personal perceptions of a character, eat hot chip, and lie

[uncanny-tranny]

This pissed me off so much when I was younger that now it's flipped on its head to being funny because...

People to me when I was younger having gone, "You can't possibly know you want hormones! Don't you know anything?! You can't just make decisions! You don't know health, you can't diagnose yourself as being dysphoric and needing that!" quickly turned into my medical teams frequently saying, "oh I didn't know that," and even confiding in me that I was their first trans patient they ever saw, much less learned about. How the fuck are you expecting a medical professional to diagnose an issue they haven't even heard of. Trans people really are expected to have a PhD in Being Trans just for the chance to be listened to (without the pay that comes with that education!).

[its-a-gemfact]

Wwaaaaaahh I can't stop being emo about Stan & Fordddd. Bc they're two sides of the same coinnn,, they're both insecure,, but stan is afraid of abandonment, while ford is afraid of connectionnnn

Cus Ford had to meet impossibly high expectations!! But no one expected Stan to amount to anything!!

And so ford became deathly afraid of getting close to people, because his real self didn't live up to his unattainable self-image. That shame made him scared of being truly seen and understood, so he pushed everyone away!!

But Stan already felt unwanted, he relied on external validation to give him worth. His self-image was so poor, his self esteem so low, that he pretended to be someone else. He wanted family more than anything, because he couldn't love himself!!

All they ever wanted was love and acceptance, but to truly be loved, ford had to destroy his own self-identify, where as Stan had to create his!

Stan & Fords story is about ego!!! Ego death and rebirth ggaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh ooouughhghu

[hyenabeanz]

Me waking up to new fresh hell in Minnesota hockey

[ardentpoop]

bc of fandom self-proclaimed Eldest Daughters are some of the most annoying ppl in the world to me. even though especially because I technically belong in that category

[apollos-boyfriend]

I hate matpat because he admitted to not playing the games he makes theories on. like?? that’s his job and he can’t even do it right??? he lacks reading comprehension skills, like I swear he does

oh you don't have to swear, he does. fully. i'm not into hollow knight personally, but last time a post of mine critiquing his theories blew up, i got a lot of notes saying that his hollow theory (or at least one of them? idk if he's done more) is wildly despised within the community because it's apparently debunked in like. literally the first cutscene or something.

i've said this before, but it's kind of a weird line between "he does not have media comprehension skills" and "he DOES realize these things, he just doesn't give a shit and will say anything to make his theory make sense". for example, something i do know well: fnaf. in his like, "final timeline" or whatever the fuck, he creates an entire narrative about elizabeth and the funtimes being LATE in the timeline, taking place after the crying child's death. however, in that very video, he points out the OVERWHELMING amount of evidence that the crying child witnessed elizabeth's death, from the nightmares having stomachs on their mouths (elizabeth was scooped through baby's stomach) to the fact that the game constantly tells the crying child to "remember what he saw" or something loosely along those lines. he is AWARE of the fact that these things exist within the text, however, he has this fucking superiority complex that it doesn't matter, because HIS theory is CLEARLY right, these very important lore texts must've just been bullshit.

[welcome-to-green-hills]

It’s so jarring in how the difference between X and tumblr act, like on x there’s almost always negativity in the sonic fandom but then I come on here and it’s like a safe space and very enjoyable. Thank you for being apart of that!

Oh, thank you so much! That’s very sweet of you to say, my dear.❤️✨ I try my best to make it a home away from home here. Y’all are my peeps, I want it to be a safe space here.

[ronkeyroo]

Empty ❌ Inside

[laf-outloud]

Some things are just too funny and pathetic not to post. So... Misha thinks he has a relatively loud megaphone? Dude... your megaphone reaches less than 5,000 people.

What an egomaniac to think he's this all-important mouth piece for the democratic party.

[legionofpotatoes]

pretty fucking tragic to see dragon age genart on mine own dashboard, but them's the breaks going forward I guess

[fauvester]

a funnier situation is where calhoun and clay did fuck once in the early 20s and it was so bad that calhoun not only disavowed his prior professional connection with clay and didnt speak to hm socially ever again but actually walked back his entire career as a nationalist

[galakaz]

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME

[millerflintstone]

What's it like to have a brain that doesn't jump to the negative thing? I hadn't heard from the company that contracted with me to do the intro tech writing project so I sent a follow up email. They let me know they'd be in touch and confirmed they did get the document. Then they asked if I could meet with them on Monday to go over it. So, my brain is thinking it's not going to progress from that point. That I did not succeed. I am awful. Why do I bother? Etc.

I know that I am not awful.

It doesn't matter what anyone says as encouragement. It's just where my brain goes. I'm not sure if if have some type of rejection sensitivity. Brains are fun!