#negative ego

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[crystalsenergy]

Echoes of Separateness:

Ego, bullying, and the illogical path of the wounded ego #2

(I demand that the person be here, but in reality, I didn't even want that…)

Part 1: posted yesterday, previous post ✨

In this post, we introduced some examples of this problem that is so present in our lives:

In the case of school,

we see those groups of people who don't like person X. Person X doesn't want to participate in events that are held, for example, outside of school, and that many in the class attend. This person doesn't go because they know it won't be good for them, that there will be insincerity, and they won't feel good. This person prefers to be sincere with themselves and their peers, showing that they prefer to be themselves.

The peers, who already reinforced criticisms, gossip, and other malicious behaviors towards this person X, suddenly get offended and/or demand that this person attend. They complain that they didn't go.

Why, if in the end, there wasn't even a real desire to have the person there?

In the case of religion,

being bothered because the person you don't have a friendship with, don't have a relationship with, and, in fact, do quite the opposite, doesn't attend meetings because it didn't make sense for them to go to one or another, let's imagine due to a topic that was going to be discussed and they didn't want to participate.

You don't like the person… according to what you yourself show them. So why demand their presence?

In the case of workplaces,

situations that strengthen through exclusion, gossip, and badmouthing.

Let's suppose a group notice that a certain colleague has the habit of preferring to be more truthful, keeping to themselves, knowing that their ideas don't resonate with the group's ideas, including the ways these groups use to feel "good" (gossiping, excluding, etc.).

The people in this situation, noticing this colleague's independence and feeling bothered by it, reinforce their exclusion daily, gossiping and/or creating unpleasant situations.

One day, there is a gathering, and the colleague doesn't go, choosing instead to use their time on something that actually makes them feel good, knowing that it wouldn't be genuine, that there would be a lot of insincerity, and wanting to nurture different things in their life.

And then the colleagues get offended and believe in their minds that it makes sense to demand the presence of a person… even a person they exclude so much.

In the case of "friendships",

excluding people who are different from you because others do it, and you, unfortunately, depend on your group to feel belonging; or you do it and attract others to the same path…

and someone in the group starts to become more independent, wanting to move away from dependence, gets criticized for not attending all the meetings, outings. And the one who was "your buddy" yesterday becomes your main target for gossip and intrigue, just because the person is no longer present to nurture your ego.

My dears, it is time to learn the real concept and value of Freedom. Those who truly like us don't hold us back… if we really like someone, we don't hold them back.

And one of the ways to identify who likes us or not is: to observe what their first reaction is when we distance ourselves from them. Do they ask you why? Do they change their behavior towards you, acting sometimes with resentment, sometimes with insincerity? How do they act from a distance, if they haven't yet come to talk to you?

Unfortunately, those who are still on this path personalize everything. And they believe it will always be about them. It doesn't cross their minds that you might need to rediscover yourself, recognize yourself, self-discover, or be going through a turbulent period. Or that there really is a conflict, friction between you, and that this should be discussed.

These are people who, unfortunately, are extremely connected to their wounded ego. And they act and react most of the time based on this, on unconsciousness and the ego that at the moment is negative.

In the case of family,

people who exclude other relatives, blood-related or not, over ego issues, even very senseless things (which consciousness knows, but the person doesn't want to admit, after all, energies don't lie and not everything needs to be said for us to notice who people are):

being bothered by being near my truer, even more humble (not in terms of money, but personality) relatives, and then reinforcing the idea of exclusion to make them feel bad,

because I am still very insecure and live in the energy of appearances, of reinforcing something good about myself through my possessions and material goods… because it seems that without them, I feel empty.

Because I haven't yet realized that my meaning goes beyond anything ephemeral, that contains "glamour" in appearance and aesthetics, but often can be without content and meaning.

The person who is aware of the exclusion in relation to them, of the unpleasant things, doesn't attend all family gatherings, wisely acting in such a manner, but the relative who forces exclusion, separation, gossip, criticism, control, comes demanding this person's presence, often using as a foundation for "anger" precisely the fact that the person didn't go.

But what logic and sense does that have, if you don't even like the person's presence?

It is a cycle of nurturing bad things… that people seem not to notice!

It is important to wake up to this to put an end to these toxic processes in our lives and in others'. And this message of ending or setting a limit applies to all cases and to all "sides",

both the demanded and the demanding. Freedom and truth are the only keys and real solutions…

All this that I pointed out makes no sense, following a raw and straightforward logic, but it makes sense based on the idea that these people act this way, from beginning to end,

out of FEAR of abandonment.

FEAR of being alone.

FEAR of judgment.

And in a process of badmouthing, not accepting to look at this at the moment with openness, care, they spill this pain that they hide from themselves onto others.

[jasonsthighholsters]

all comic fans know how to do is: develop superiority complexes based on their personal perceptions of a character, eat hot chip, and lie

[uncanny-tranny]

This pissed me off so much when I was younger that now it's flipped on its head to being funny because...

People to me when I was younger having gone, "You can't possibly know you want hormones! Don't you know anything?! You can't just make decisions! You don't know health, you can't diagnose yourself as being dysphoric and needing that!" quickly turned into my medical teams frequently saying, "oh I didn't know that," and even confiding in me that I was their first trans patient they ever saw, much less learned about. How the fuck are you expecting a medical professional to diagnose an issue they haven't even heard of. Trans people really are expected to have a PhD in Being Trans just for the chance to be listened to (without the pay that comes with that education!).

[its-a-gemfact]

Wwaaaaaahh I can't stop being emo about Stan & Fordddd. Bc they're two sides of the same coinnn,, they're both insecure,, but stan is afraid of abandonment, while ford is afraid of connectionnnn

Cus Ford had to meet impossibly high expectations!! But no one expected Stan to amount to anything!!

And so ford became deathly afraid of getting close to people, because his real self didn't live up to his unattainable self-image. That shame made him scared of being truly seen and understood, so he pushed everyone away!!

But Stan already felt unwanted, he relied on external validation to give him worth. His self-image was so poor, his self esteem so low, that he pretended to be someone else. He wanted family more than anything, because he couldn't love himself!!

All they ever wanted was love and acceptance, but to truly be loved, ford had to destroy his own self-identify, where as Stan had to create his!

Stan & Fords story is about ego!!! Ego death and rebirth ggaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh ooouughhghu

[tabl3]

me when the donald and douglas dynamic is paralleled in the show between adam and chase, but it's become the dynamic between bree and chase in my series

[saturncoyote]

I just had a thought but What do you think would happen if Creek got into a position where he had to choose between risking his own safety to save Garde's? and Hibiscus? ( sorta similar to the type of situations Branch tried to entrap him with in Creek week lol ) I know at the end of the day they are just characters in your control 😂😂 so I guess my question is more that if you did write such a situation what would you write Creek to do? would you write him as having finally found something that he's willing to give his own life for? and maybe having undergone a bit of an arc where he learns to be more traditionally heroic? or would you maybe write it in such a way that's a tad closer to his movie character? like maybe in a dire situation Creek does panic again and chooses himself?

and as a result his loved ones end up in danger and Creek has to find some other way to get them out of it while feeling Hella guilty that he still can't help but panic and prioritise himself when it comes to dangerous situations. I guess the real question is how much has he changed from the first movie in your story?

OHOHOhohohoooo ! That is a good question ! And one that i HAVE rotated in my mind before

To me Creek will always be a character who puts his own wellbeing and safety first, but he's also a character who's recently been put through hell for doing just that, he's felt a level of fear and lonelyness that he's never felt in his life and he will do anything to stop that from happening again, plus the fact that his decision to save himself caused him to lose everything he had in the process is bound to mess with how he perceives his own worth

So i wouldn't call him a traditionally heroic type, he'll save Garde and Hibiscus because being alone again scares him more than putting his own life in danger, he will do an act of bravery out of fear

[yooniesim]

yall really will let these mfs get away with anythaaaaang as long as they post some shitty looking cc for ya huh

[hyenabeanz]

Me waking up to new fresh hell in Minnesota hockey

[macchiatosdumptruck]

I don't know if I'm the only one who hates the take that "Daniel is the worst dad." It feels so out of character for him to be neglectful, especially considering how he grew up. He does everything he can to give his kids the life he didn't have. I really feel like the writers included this to portray Daniel as a horrible dad, similar to Johnny.

I'm sorry, but the idea that Johnny is a better dad than Daniel is just ridiculous to me. Daniel never abandoned his kids for 16 years. Yes, I know that Robby and Johnny are happy now and on good terms, but Johnny didn't put in any effort at all. I really wish Robby had stayed with Daniel because the baby plot felt forced just to bring Johnny and Robby closer together.

Yes, Daniel made some mistakes with Robby, but honestly, Daniel was a much better dad and mentor to Robby than Johnny had been over those 16 years. I also dislike the idea that Robby should have forgiven Johnny in Season 1. It was actually Robby who repaired their relationship, and I appreciate his character so much because I can relate to him. For the life of me, I wish he had stayed with Daniel, and I wish their dynamic was explored more.

It literally makes no sense. There is nothing in canon to suggest that. He isn't a perfect father or person by any means, but he is always coming from a place of kindness.

It's wild to me how they seem to try to paint Daniel as malevolent.

That seems to be underpinning everything in this "two sides" take.

And I can't help but feel like it may be all stems from that stupid idea that Daniel "stole" Alli.

In fact everything seems to be trying to redefine Daniel's motivations, to try to paint him as aggressive as it makes their "two sides" take seem more viable. It's easier to convince the average viewer that it's a rivalry.

A rivalry takes two people to be the aggressors, the movie was bullying. Just point blank. The definition of bullying. But they didn't like that. Felt wronged in some way. So they rewrite Daniel to "wrong" Johnny by "stealing" Ali as if she's a possession.

So that makes everything Johnny had or has done make sense. It validates his actions. Which I say every time they didn't need to do so to make him interesting.

People can be flawed, be bad, make shitty decisions, and still move on from that. But that just goes to show they really never did actually understand that what he did was wrong.

Fixing the problem between Johnny and Robby by having Robby give up and just admit he was wrong is absolutely bullshit. Like. Literally blaming a neglected child.

It does make a certain amount of sense because in that situation sometimes you understand that the person who wronged you will never come to terms with it, will never take responsibility, and so letting go of the pain is the only way they can move on.

It still doesn't actually fix any of their problems, or make for compelling writing, or further their relationship at all.

But it solves a problem quickly.

Daniel's complicated relationship with Robby really could've fucking cooked, and for one season it did. How good intentions can sometimes still fail. How they could've bonded over both of them not having fathers. How normal people are affected by their past. How they let it influence them and their relationships.

The bandaid baby is just shitty writing tbh. Trying to make the viewer care about something we're not invested in while pushing aside the threads of plot they had been building for 3 seasons.

Also, as a single mom, and a registered nurse, Carmen seems pretty smart to me. Johnny I could understand him fucking up birth control but not her. And they haven't given her one single thing to do since then.

(women being important characters only in the terms they relate to Johnny is a theme)

At this point Johnny is kind of like a self insert i fear. And that's why his writing went downhill.

He gets the girl. And he gets both sons. Despite not doing anything to repair their relationships. And he gets another baby. And, as they always do, for some reason, they try to make Johnny look better in comparison to Daniel but it doesn't work because Daniel actually tried lol.

But like. It was never a competition to begin with. They just decided it was. They're trying to solve problems they decided to create.

[ardentpoop]

bc of fandom self-proclaimed Eldest Daughters are some of the most annoying ppl in the world to me. even though especially because I technically belong in that category

[ronkeyroo]

Empty ❌ Inside

[slxxx03]

when i say i have a massive ego i actually mean i'm the worlds most insecure but also incredibly fucking vain person so i straightup get anxiety when i leave the house and not look my absolute best

[apollos-boyfriend]

I hate matpat because he admitted to not playing the games he makes theories on. like?? that’s his job and he can’t even do it right??? he lacks reading comprehension skills, like I swear he does

oh you don't have to swear, he does. fully. i'm not into hollow knight personally, but last time a post of mine critiquing his theories blew up, i got a lot of notes saying that his hollow theory (or at least one of them? idk if he's done more) is wildly despised within the community because it's apparently debunked in like. literally the first cutscene or something.

i've said this before, but it's kind of a weird line between "he does not have media comprehension skills" and "he DOES realize these things, he just doesn't give a shit and will say anything to make his theory make sense". for example, something i do know well: fnaf. in his like, "final timeline" or whatever the fuck, he creates an entire narrative about elizabeth and the funtimes being LATE in the timeline, taking place after the crying child's death. however, in that very video, he points out the OVERWHELMING amount of evidence that the crying child witnessed elizabeth's death, from the nightmares having stomachs on their mouths (elizabeth was scooped through baby's stomach) to the fact that the game constantly tells the crying child to "remember what he saw" or something loosely along those lines. he is AWARE of the fact that these things exist within the text, however, he has this fucking superiority complex that it doesn't matter, because HIS theory is CLEARLY right, these very important lore texts must've just been bullshit.

[welcome-to-green-hills]

It’s so jarring in how the difference between X and tumblr act, like on x there’s almost always negativity in the sonic fandom but then I come on here and it’s like a safe space and very enjoyable. Thank you for being apart of that!

Oh, thank you so much! That’s very sweet of you to say, my dear.❤️✨ I try my best to make it a home away from home here. Y’all are my peeps, I want it to be a safe space here.

[laf-outloud]

Some things are just too funny and pathetic not to post. So... Misha thinks he has a relatively loud megaphone? Dude... your megaphone reaches less than 5,000 people.

What an egomaniac to think he's this all-important mouth piece for the democratic party.