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Hidden in Plain Sight: Protecting Our Young Ummah from Unintentional Pornography Exposure

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim.

As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, dear brothers and sisters,

In our series on navigating the digital world as Muslim parents, we often focus on obvious dangers. But today, I want to shed light on a more subtle, yet equally concerning issue: the unintentional exposure of young children to pornography. Many of us feel assured that our young children are shielded from the corrupting forces of pornography — after all, they’re too young to even know about such things, right? But the reality is far more complex and alarming. Our children today are being exposed to sexual content in ways we might never imagine. It’s not always the explicit full videos we dread, but subtle, disguised, and insidious forms of pornography and grooming creeping quietly into their digital experiences.

I want to share some stories that have deeply impacted me, stories that highlight how easily our children can stumble upon inappropriate content, even when we’re doing our best to protect them.

I want to share a personal story that still sends shivers down my spine. My 5-year-old daughter innocently handed me her device, asking for help with a game. To my horror, I discovered a cartoon-style animation featuring a boy and girl in an intimate embrace, with the boy asking “Choose where we need to kiss so that your father doesn’t find out.” I was appalled, and immediately initiated an open conversation with my daughter about the game. She explained that it started off innocently, and I was shocked to learn that she had unknowingly stumbled upon soft pornographic content.

Then there is the case of a 16-year-old boy who confided that he had been exposed to pornography on websites like Twitter and Reddit as early as the age of 10. Years later, he was still struggling to overcome the lasting impact on his psyche and faith.

And perhaps most devastating of all, a mother called me, her voice trembling with anguish, to share that her 8-year-old daughter had been chatting with adults in a game called “Kiss Kiss,” where she was taught about sex and how to perform it. Astaghfirullah!

These are not isolated incidents, my dear brothers and sisters. The easy availability of sexually explicit content, even in the form of “harmless” YouTube shorts or social media posts, is slowly eroding the purity of our children’s hearts and minds.

One Muslim household, devoted to Islamic values and raising their children in a nurturing environment, was shocked by their 12-year-old son’s sudden outbursts of anger and crying over minor issues. The mother, a teacher at a Western Islamic school, had an open conversation with her son. He revealed a disturbing truth — a friend had shown him pornographic videos and even made moaning sounds during class for fun. When the mother reported this, the school intervened, and it was discovered that the friend’s father, an Uber driver frequently away at night, was accessing pornographic content at home. The children were exposed without the parents’ knowledge.

The Vast Negative Effects of Pornography on Young Muslim Minds.

The harms of early exposure to pornography are profound and multifaceted:

– Spiritual Damage: It distances children from their natural fitrah and weakens their iman, making them vulnerable to shame and guilt.

– Psychological Impact: Anxiety, depression, addiction, and distorted views about relationships and sexuality.

– Behavioral Issues: Increased aggression, anger, secrecy, and withdrawal from family and Islamic activities.

– Academic Decline: Difficulty concentrating, lack of motivation, and poor performance.

– Social Consequences: Isolation, impaired social skills, and risky behavior.

Practical Strategies to Protect Our Children

1. Ban Device Use at Night: Devices should NOT be allowed in children’s bedrooms at night to prevent unsupervised access.

2. Enable Parental Controls: Use robust parental control apps to filter inappropriate content and restrict app/game downloads without your permission.

3. Limit Screen Time: Set clear daily limits on device use and enforce tech-free times, especially before bedtime.

4. Avoid Closed-Door Privacy: Do not allow children to close doors for extended periods when using devices. Supervision is key.

5. Watch for Behavioral Changes: Sudden mood swings, secretiveness, irritability, or withdrawal may signal a problem.

6. Open Communication: Foster a trusting, judgment-free environment where children feel safe sharing concerns and experiences.

7. Educate Children Age-Appropriately: Teach modesty, boundaries, and respect through Islamic teachings, tailored to their understanding.

8. Engage in Family Activities: Strengthen bonds with quality time, outdoor play, reading Quran, and Islamic stories.

9. Be Vigilant About Online Trends: Stay informed about new apps, games, or platforms your children may encounter.

10. Seek Professional Help: Don’t hesitate to consult counselors or therapists trained in Islamic psychology if you notice troubling signs.

A Personal Dua for Protection and Guidance:

O Allah, Most Merciful, protect our children’s hearts and minds from the corruption of this world. Shield them from the whispers of Shaytan and the harmful influences of the digital age. Strengthen their iman, grant them purity, and guide us as parents to be vigilant, wise, and loving caretakers. Help us to nurture their fitrah and keep their souls safe. Ameen.

Dear parents, the battle to protect our children’s digital spaces is an ongoing one, but with unwavering faith, diligence, and the guidance of our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him), we can ensure that their hearts remain pure and their souls are nourished by the light of Islam. May Allah bless us all with the ability to fulfill this sacred trust.

Sayyida Al Salaam

Muslimah Australian Counselor l Therapist

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Welcoming Grief...

Assalamu Alaikum My Dear Readers,

You should know that this is not the blog I ever imagined I would start. This is not the club I ever wanted to join. But this is my life now. I am sad and broken, but I accept that this is what Allah (swt) has wanted for me and my family.

My life as a Muslim, a wife, and a mom has changed forever. I find comfort in listening to other people's stories. Writing and wanting to learn more about my religion has been helping me cope so far. Because for me, in the midst of something deeply painful, reading someone else’s story brings an odd comfort in the sense that I know I'm not alone in my pain.

However, while trying to find comfort in stories and multiple Instagram feeds, I found myself only stumbling across non-Muslim grief journeys; which most resulted in questioning God.

"Why me?"

But if I’m being honest, it hasn't been easy. I do find myself sitting here bombarded by the thought that maybe the reason why Allah took her away from me is because I am not a good Muslim. Subhan'Allah.

I often wonder if maybe I had prayed and read Quran more, turned to my lord when things were good AND bad, thanked Him fully, and just believed more than I do now... maybe the outcome could have been different? But I know that's not the truth. I can't say I'm a great Muslim. I know I'm not perfect, I'm only human. Islam is perfect, but we are not. Deep down in my heart, I know the reason she left this earth isn't because of me.

"Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilaihi Raji’oon"

From Allah we came and to Him is our return.

These words sting even harder when you've lost your child. And I'm slowly learning that Islam is a religion of hope. Growing up as Muslims, we are raised and taught that this Dunya is not the end. That there is indeed a reunion in the Hereafter. We're also told that Allah (swt) tells us that tests and trials are a part of life.

Everyone will be tested to a certain extent at times so that Allah (swt) can see which person has true faith in Him. And He presents us with these different situations to see how we react to them.

So with this new grief that I welcome into my life... I know I can't go back in time. I know I can't change things. I know that there isn't anything I could have done more or less. I'm human. I'm weak and I do slip back into those deep negative thoughts at times... but because of my rooted foundation in the belief in Allah, I know that this is my Qadr (fate). I will try my best to continue to trust in Allah and His decree.

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that which it can bear.” (Qur’an 2:286).