#more to be added.

[bnjmin]

important things about ben + relationships that are 99% non-negotiable because he's EXTREMELY stubborn and unfortunately would rather end a relationship than give in

no kids. you can't change his mind. he raised his siblings and doesn't want to do it again is the reason that he'll give but as he gets older he also doesn't want to pass on addictive tendencies. it would kill him I think to see his child struggle with addiction and know that it came from him. plus he'll have lots of nieces and nephews anyway. (if you had a kid with someone else prior to the relationship, he could maybe do that. maybe. MAYBE.)

marriage ... in the traditional sense? no. he will not propose, plan the big ceremony, say vows in front of family, etc. etc. that's something that's way too permanent for him given how poorly he copes with loss. exceptions can be had for marriage in the extremely untraditional sense. maybe.

there have been two people that could get him to leave chicago. and the second one was iffy. I don't think he'd be able to do it, long term. family is so important to him. and if you did get him to move, I think he'd last a year and then pull a ben and tell you one day, out of fucking nowhere, "can't do this, we're going back to chicago." and if you were to say no, he'd be like "cool, we can do long distance," and leave anyway.

[crystaltoa]

And now for something completely different.

This is the ADHD Teapot. I made it in a ceramics class a few years ago. I use it to explain executive dysfunction to people who haven’t come across the term before (and those who think of ADHD mostly as Hyperactive Eight Year Old Boy Syndrome).

So, most people’s brains are like a regular shaped teapot with a single spout. Let’s say that your time, energy, focus etc is the liquid you have in the teapot. Your executive function is the spout, that directs the tea into the specific cup you want to fill-aka the task that you’re meant to be doing. Spills happen occasionally, but generally most of the tea goes in the right cup.

If you have executive dysfunction, (a symptom of ADHD, trauma, autism, schizophrenia etc.) you have multiple spouts going in different directions. You can try pointing one of them at your chosen cup and you will probably get some liquid in there, perhaps you will even fill it right up (finish the task). But meanwhile, tea is also pouring out of several other places and not going where you want it. If you have another container nearby, perhaps some of it will end up in there. But quite a lot of it is going to end up on the floor and accomplish nothing.

And at the end of the day you’ll have filled one or two cups ( or sometimes not even one) compared to the five or six that somebody with the same sized teapot (but only one spout) has filled, and everyone wonders why you’re so bad at getting tea poured, and why you make such a mess in the process.

One day I’d like to spend more time learning pottery and create a really technically good fucked up little adhd teapot. But that’s a long way off since i currently live in the outback and the nearest pottery workshop is some 400km away. But I figure that for now, it might be a useful or interesting metaphor to somebody even in its rough draft form.

This post is the cup I filled instead of cleaning my house btw.

[etakeh]

[youthofpandas]

What’s up with how the dunmeshi fandom just lies about this kind of stuff all the time. It is easily confirmable information that it was a monthly series, something incredibly common in the industry.

A not weekly magazine schedule is literally common !! Especially in the seinen shoujo and josei demographics, sometimes monthly, sometimes biweekly, sometimes every two months, sometimes seasonal! Please stop lying about how Dunmeshi was some special unique creation that defies all standards of manga just to hype it up because it is so clear that every single one of these comparisons is centered around Weekly Shonen Jump (and understand that SJ has many magazines under its brand that are monthly or semimonthly). Not everything is WSJ and it needs to stop being the only point of reference in conversations like this 🤧

[heritageposts]

israel has now officially been announced as one of the countries participating in eurovision 2024

meanwhile russia is still banned, for the third year in a row. the double standard is just sickening

[marisatomay]

You wouldn’t last an hour in the asylum where they raised me

[retquits]

1.6 is coming—see you march 19th!!! 🥹🌱

[everydaylouie]

lil paintings

[mynnthia]

was talking with a friend about how some of dunmeshi fаndom misunderstands kabru's initial feelings towards laios.

to sum up kabru's situation via a self-contained modernized metaphor:

kabru is like a guy who lost his entire family in a highly traumatic car accident. years later he joins a discord server and takes note of laios, another server member who seems interesting, so they start chatting. then laios reveals his special interest and favorite movie of all time is David Cronenberg's Crash (1996), and invites kabru to go watch a demolition derby with him

[junglejim4322]

this is a permanent list of palestinians with vetted fundraisers that have reached out to me to boost them, if you've reached out to me and you're not on here please message me again. this list will be linked in my about page and regularly updated.

Rescue Mahmoud's Family: A Call to Escape Gaza's Devastation @mahmoodeltibi - vetted by el-shab-hussein, family of 15. €10,261 raised of €60,000 goal

Standing with a Family Escaping the Horrors of War in Gaza. Help Tamer get his family of 4 out of Gaza @tameraldeeb - Vetted by ibtisams, 90-ghost, el-shab-hussein, as well as being #191 on the vetted fundraisers google doc. €17,887 raised of €40,000 goal

Help Dina and her children survive through the war. Dina is a widowed mother with a 7 year old, a 5 year old and a newborn trying to reach safety. @dina179 - vetted by ibtisams. $4,146 CAD raised of $20,000 goal

Yousef Hussein is trying to get his nieces out of gaza after the death of their mother and father. boosted by 90-ghost. $8,412 raised of $50,000 goal

shahed @shahednhall is trying to get her family (her sisters are sick with hepatitis C) through rafah crossing in the next weeks opening period. she is number 224 on the vetted list of vetted fundraisers by nabulsi and el-shab-hussein. $17,267 raised of $50,000 goal

Ola's Family Call for your Support Amid Crisis @olagaza. Number #205 on the vetted list of fundraisers $19,195 raised of $50,000 target

[cquackity]

DSMP COORDINATES:

Spawn: 64 64 -101

Cookie Outpost: -91 79 -57

Las Nevadas: -175 93 -17

Portal Hub: 179 74 -242

Community House: 250 69 -247

Eret's Fortress: 243 64 -302

Kinoko Kingdom: 263 71 398

Church Prime: 285 64 -342

Logstedshire: 637 71 -2046

Techno's Cabin: -88 74 -2460

Techno's Vault: -123 72 -2529

Foolish's Summer Home: -700 70 600

[hinamie]

I don't want to regret the way I lived

[joifee]

The newest gameshow!

trivia bot my beloved

[zepandovski]

teeheee hehehe :>

[ningtual]

palestinians who have reached out to me via ask and their vetted campaigns

Wafaa @wafaaresh | 15k/100k reached -> gfm

Bilal @bilalassadabedrou | 5k/80k reached -> gfm

Ashraf @ashraf-family2 | 15k/20k reached -> gfm

Mohammed @m0hammed1 | 7k/15k reached -> gfm

Amira @amira-world | 18k/20k reached -> gfm

Ghazi @ghaziyounes1967 | 2k/50k reached -> gfm

Mahmoud @mahmoudkhalafff | 18k/30k reached -> gfm

Hanaa @hanaa987 | 6k/20k reached -> gfm

Fidaa @fidaa-family2 | 3k/10k reached -> gfm

Mohamed @save-hijazi-family2 | 6k/20k reached -> gfm

please donate if you can and share this post in order to spread their fundraisers!!

[sketchtropolis]

Breathe.

Progress under the cut