#more queer romance
Explore tagged Tumblr posts
Text
I’ve been looking for other media that will resonate like ofmd does for me
I was thinking about what other media has hit me in such personal specific ways as ofmd. So maybe I can crack the code and find even more???
Predictably I’m not having a lot of luck but I DID come up with 1 example: Severance on apple tv.
If you haven’t watched both shows, it may seem like an odd pairing, because OFMD is (mostly) a comedy (wth dramatic bits) and Severance is (mostly) a drama/thriller (with comedic bits). But what can I say my brain sparked to them both in a similar way! And I think there are reasons.
~ the mildest spoilers for seasons 1 of severance and ofmd ~
Both shows have:
10/10 ensemble comedy gold. Original, weird, character-based, funny joke-ass jokes and flawless comedic performances and amazing riffing. (OK so OFMD is a comedy and has much more of this? But even though Severance is NOT a comedy, its comic relief pops up in every ep and is extremely well done.)
a similar … editorial lushness? That thing of, every frame has something juicy to notice, fun little details, little nuances in facial expressions, inside jokes, meaningful uses of color or light or whatever. Also maybe: that thing where every scene is tightly edited to be ~just the good parts~ so by the end of the ep you’re like, that was v satisfying but also I need to apply another coat of it to my consciousness immediately because I’m sure I missed something.
awakenings. ok this is going to be a nebulous half-baked description but. There is this similar theme of characters unmasking / awakening / discovering and trusting themselves / going for things that society doesn’t expect for them. This thing of realizing the truth is within. IMO this is such a healing and important trope and I want to see so much more of it. You could argue this is more blatant in the pirate show? but I think it’s an important part of severance too.
By the way! Those first two bullets just make these things “good,” and plenty of things are good. I think it’s the third one that really makes the difference.
A few more thoughts:
If you are a pirates fan but haven’t seen Severance:
You would like these goofballs riffing in their cubicles for sure.
If you love Black Pete, you will love Dylan.
A character writes a self-help book you will like a lot.
There’s a tooth-achingly sweet gentle delicate romance tucked away within this fairly dark show and it is SO GOOD.
Severance is a lot darker than ofmd but idk, there’s enough sunshine streaming in. it’s joyful too.
If you are a severance fan but haven’t seen Our Flag Means Death:
Underdogs. Underdogs who are pirates. Because lawful society does not welcome them. And they find their chosen family and. Sorry I need to cry I’ll brb.
If you love Ricken (and even if you don’t) (but who doesn’t?????), you will also love Stede.
If you love The You You Are, you will love talking it through as a crew.
If you love the plant room, you will love this one little well cared for plant?
If you love queer romance watch this show.
In summary my brain liked these things a similar amount thank you for coming to my seminar.
#more examples pls i need more things#more weirdos loving weirdos#more neurodiverse self acceptance#more first romance#more queer romance#more triumphantly linking arms with your besties and wreaking havoc#seeking out books tv anything#i mean i guess i need to watch good omens 2 that seems obvious?#severance#ofmd#our flag means death#questing for media#look i fell harder for the pirates#but i also fell HARD for MDR & O&D ok
12 notes
·
View notes
Text
breaking the sign in two by how hard im tapping it
#im putting the word queerbait in a very tall box on a very tall shelf and none of you get it back until you actually learn the definition#sjonnies edits#queerbait#queer media#queer#queer issues#there are real queerbaits! a lot of them! but i am SO sick and tired of everything that's not explicitly stated be called queerbait#or when the focus in an action movie is not the full romance#would the hero and the girl have kissed in a straight action movie? sure. but even now more often than not that doesn't happen or the focus#is different entirely#the world doesn't change overnight. but you know what helps changing it? watching the media that's implying it! NORMALISING THAT MEDIA!#showing the studios that it isn't popularity suicide. encouraging actors to diversify and give them the respect they need without turning#every conversation an actor playing a queer character into what their sexuality is!#venom#deadpool and wolverine#loki#911#<- which. btw. fucking INSANE thing to say#also queer characters CANNOT be used for queerbait#QUEER CHARACTERS CANNOT BE USED FOR QUEERBAIT#they can be buried! but they CANNOT be used for queerbait because they. are. queer.
827 notes
·
View notes
Text
I think queer stories would be better if people stopped assuming that queer representation hinges on if two characters are romantically involved at all. Like the moment you accept characters as being queer without needing romance to prove said queerness then i think we'd find ourselves with a lot more unique, nuanced, and interesting queer stories. but by limiting queerness to only romance you are stifling queer stories.
#text#queer#lgbtq+#lgbt#lgbt+#lgbtqia#lgbtqia+#you can't get mad at the idea of cookie cutter queer stories while also saying that it's 'queerbaiting' if two characters dont kiss.#this isn't just in reference to aspec identities or gender identities either#I think a character can still be valid gay representation without ever kissing someone to prove it#a bi person doesn't need to kiss both boys and girls to be valid bi rep#there are more ways to express and share queer identity that dont require a love plot to be tacked on to validate the queerness#don't relegate the queer experience to only love stories. they can be so much more than that.#romance mention
1K notes
·
View notes
Text
Out today
IT'S... UK RELEASE DAY!
About 5 years since first starting the research and pitch, my "I didn't expect mainstream publishers to accept this, let alone compete over it" trans historical romance is out in the UK.
It's not an easy time for authors - or to be making trans books that are also suitable for teen readers - and I massively appreciate every person who's boosted posts, supported, replied or told their library to get one, you're the best.
More info, pics, and links to get the US version / international here
#isnfil#book release#regency#queer comics#trans romance#I DON'T THINK TAGS WORK but that's just more info for you. the reader
268 notes
·
View notes
Text
GMMTV 2025 - Hot Tops and One Bottom
GMMTV offered up ONE straight show, and even though I'm salty that I didn't get Midnight Museum 2 and despite the current state of the world, I have never been happier to be alive at this exact moment that I'm living in. GMMTV really cemented that it is Disney BL, and said FUCK THEM HETEROS!
As usual, I'm listing what shows I'm most excited to see from GMMTV's annual unveiling, but in order to be fair to the other shows, I will not consider one of the shows in the rankings because I am a Jaidee fan first, and a human second:
Dare You to Death
My boys are giving me ~Murder, Manipulate, Make-Out, and MAYHEM~ so I'm already seated, sat, and sitted. I've always thought Joong should play a character who was insincere and a bit crazy, and Dunk should lean into his haughtiness (emphasis on HOT), so even though all these other shows look great, they aren't JoongDunk trying to solve a murder while trying to not murder each other, and it would be unfair of me to hold that against everyone else. I was going to take whatever I was getting from them, but THIS?! Sorry, to everyone else, but y'all never stood a chance.
#1a - Memoir of Rati
Moment of honesty - Inn and Great are fine as fuck. They are already attractive to begin with, so to put them in a historical drama, of course, I'm going to eat it up. This is a serious piece about political and social tensions which I have no doubts they will carry into getting some awards for it. I was getting worried that these two weren't going to have another show together next year, but not only did GMMTV give them one of the meatier plots, the series also has Aou and Boom in it with an amazing story as well, so this was easily my top choice.
Or at least it was my top choice until . . .
#1b - Ticket to Heaven
Religious trauma aligned with Catholicism is my special brand of queer angst, so this series already has me all the way fucked up. Fourth is such a phenomenal actor and Gemini always acts his ass off, so I know they will have me in a fetal position every single episode clutching my rosary and praying for God's mercy since I'm already in my feelings about this. The heathens in the room better read up on some biblical references because if you thought I was doing too much over a cross necklace in Let Free the Curse of Taekwondo and the praying in The Warp Effect, I Saw You in My Dreams, and Marahuyo Project, block me now because that was only the tip of the religious iceberg.
#2 - Cat for Cash
Although I'm a vegetarian, I'm a Disney villain who strongly dislikes animals, yet even I was happy to see First getting advice from cats on how to make coffee and how to win over Khao. This is the FirstKhao romance we have been waiting for! It looks soft and sincere, and even though the plot involves hearing cats, First as the worst debt collector and Khao as a grieving sad boy are their most realistic characters they have ever played. The series also looks like it's going to make me cry, so thank goodness Satang showed up to make sure I would be emotional about every show GMMTV gives me next year.
#3 - That Summer
On the topic of Satang, I'm shocked that I clicked with this trailer. I was ready to write this off as a Hallmark series due to its plot about a prince with amnesia falling in love with a commoner until the trailer revealed that he doesn't have amnesia, and the commoner knows he is a prince. The trailer situated the problem will come from their class differences plus Mond is kissing a homie (in secret), and since I just asked for more series with sad wet boys on the beach, this show goes at the top for GMMTV delivering me something I didn't know I wanted but a show I definitely needed.
#4 - A Dog and a Plane
Tay and New got me by the throat in 2019 and 2024 with Dark Blue Kiss and Peaceful Property, and even when I wanted to be mad at Cherry Magic, I couldn't because these men always sell the hell out of a ship even when they shouldn't. I'm a Jaidee fan first, and a human second, but I'll throw on some polar bear and whale jammies any day to join the Polcas because Tay and New have not disappointed me once in their joint shows or individual shows. So here I am, super duper excited to see New play a GAY flight attendant (a stereotype I love to see) whose man is trying to screw Pun only for Tay to take the hush money yet still catch feelings AND FLIGHTS! Marc's there too, so it's time I was served openly gay men who are trying to join the mile-high club since it's been over a decade since I got Pedro Almodóvar's I'm So Excited.
#5 - My Romance Scammer
I support marriage equality, but I do not believe in the institution of marriage, so I'm thrilled that GMMTV decided to throw me some gay divorce the same year gay marriage was legalized! Next, I'm getting the odd ball couple of Ohm and Fluke with Fluke being a dummy who falls for the first man who is nice to him, only for Marc to think he has a great relationship with Junior, BUT IT'S ALL A SCAM! I will probably end up defending this show with my life because this is the romcom romcoN I deserve!
Side Quest - Tarot Card Series
The theme for this year's announcement was "Riding the Wave" but it should have been "Wheel of Fortune" because there were a lot of shows about destiny and changing the future, so I'm going to rank those in a quick sub-category:
1) My Magic Prophecy
This is the dynamic I want to see from Jimmy and Sea. Jimmy IS a doctor, so getting a clean-cut smarmy version of him will pair so well with muscular Sea being a jerk. I was going to make a quirky comment about how they can now see the future as a reference to Last Twilight, but I'm still salty about that show, so I'll just be happy for them and THIS show.
2) Head 2 Head
I'm excited for the Only Boo kids because I think they should've gotten the My Love Mix-Up remake since I think they do well with being complete opposites that make perfect sense being together. This is also how I found out that Surf from I Saw You in My Dream is now with GMMTV.
So although it was awkward to realize GMMTV had acquired another BL boy under my chismosa nose (am I slipping?), it's nice to see the company staying on brand as Disney BL in its attempt to capture all the Pokemon Avengers BL Boys.
3) Wu
Since I've been watching High School Frenemy through my dash, I know plenty of people will be ecstatic to see Nani and Sky play soulmates, again (because High School Fremeny is gay af!), but I'm showing up because I got the red bracelets of destiny tying the boys together!
The trailers this year were surprisingly lax on the colors, so I'm taking what I can get how I get it. Bring me the RED STRING OF FATE!
4) MU-TE-LUV
This is Club Sapan Fine with a different name so it's going to be campy and messy. But do I think GMMTV will handle fems well? No. Am I pressed about it? Also, no. Because I actually watch AND enjoy Club Sapan Fine, so if GMMTV wants to try its hand at wild wacky camp in an anthology-style series, I'm down to clown, at least for the queer episodes that is.
5) Melody of Secrets
This was originally going to be number three on my Tops List, but as the trailer continued, I got more confused. Then, Force's face blurred and it looked like he got snatched by a demon, so I got scared. Like real scared. I don't eff with los espookys, so I'll be watching this show with the lights on and my Care Bear squad to protect me.
Honorable Mentions
I watch ALL GMMTV queer shows (and even the ones that only I think are queer), so I'll still enjoy something about these shows, but they were just lacking that special razzle dazzle:
Burnout Syndrome
Director Nuchy. Gun in black lipstick. Gun being a sex worker. Off being an asshole. Thor. Poly(?). This should have been my Holy Grail, but I can't believe the show will give me a proper love conflict when OffGun are a branded pair. Also, Nuchy gave me ToddBlack, who I will NEVER be over, so even though I know she can and will give me *THE* toxic couple to root for above all other toxicitos, unless these two are about to drown each other in that bathtub and play Olympic-levels of mind games with each other, I'm reserving my excitement until it airs.
Me and Thee
A soap-opera loving mafioso. Pond in suits with slicked-back hair. Phuwin being beautiful. Santa looking delicious. Est back in his Naughty Babe assistant mode. Perth. COLORS! Just like Burnout Syndrome, on paper it looks like something I would devour, but a third of that trailer was Pond and Phuwin in a bathtub, and in my Michelle Visage voice, "stop relying on that body" even if that's the biggest reason I'll be showing up to watch.
Whale Store
Milk licked cat food off of Love's finger, and I fear this might be too lesbian for me. I don't kink shame, and I'm always down to eat a girl out go down, but cat food? Really, sis? On top of that, this felt like a JittiRain series with Love's character clearly hiding something that is going to hurt Milk's character, then the side couple was crying and making everything awkward. I support the lesbians. I support queer rights AND wrongs. I'll be repeating this even as I'm watching it.
Boys in Love
GMMTV was smart putting all the new kids in a show with Papang x Podd as the little older romance crumbs to keep us satisfied for the time being, but that's also why I'm being petty. If this is the stepping stone for Papang and Podd to be leads for GMMTV 2026, then I'll take what I can get, but I feel like Oliver Twist asking for more porridge, when I should already be getting a damn buffet!
Love You Teacher
This show almost had me in the first half. Sam's character was giving me everything. The premise was solid. Perth was an already gay man in a long-term relationship with his boyfriend. Things were going well even with the accident. Then, the show brought on the real plot --- seven-year-olds. Jesús Cristo. It was a lovely time up until then, and now, just like the cat food, I'm realizing new things about myself and my boundaries on a random Tuesday morning, and I don't like it.
Girl Rules
This is the female version of Only Friends saran wrapped in women's empowerment. No me gusta pero lo voy a ver because I support queer wrongs even when they are oh-so-very wrong.
The Love of Siam: The Musical
What. The. Fuck. But also, sign me up!
Dishonorable Mention - Only Friends 2: Dream On
I've reached new heights in my pettiness because this show is in Petty Prison before it even airs. My blog is a living record of how badly I wanted Minx Mix and Flirty Fluke in the first season of Only Friends. It was the only thing I could think about; then, I ended up hating the first season, so I counted my blessings that Minx Mix only showed up for two whole seconds and Flirty Fluke was nowhere in sight. And now this has happened. This is a lesson in "be careful what you wish for" because I have never been more upset that I finally got what I wanted. Unless the show gives Boston his cake and lets him eat it to, I'm not watching it. Not Minx Mix, Flirty Fluke, or Ohm's body could convince me to do this a second time.
#gmmtv 2025#I support the girls‚ the gays‚ and the goths#and strangely‚ I'm kinda get all of those#I support queer rights AND wrongs#dare you to death#Memoir of Rati#ticket to heaven#cat for cash#that summer the series#a dog and a plane#my romance scammer#and so much more
156 notes
·
View notes
Text
Sherlock Holmes adaptions that include his aversion to romance are already queer actually
#sherlock holmes#acd holmes#if i see one more ‘make it actually queer by adding romance’#esp with ‘stop being cowards’#I start stabbing
959 notes
·
View notes
Text
i think part of the reason that aromantic awareness is lagging so far behind that of asexuality is that romance is viewed as straight-up ubiquitous, whereas sexuality is thought of as a choice people make. (e.g. purity culture & making the choice Not to have sex; dating as a given while hooking up is notable)
hence, asexuality may be misconstrued as synonymous with celibacy, but aromanticism isn't (can't be) construed as anything because nobody can conceptualize its existence at all. a fish doesnt even know it's wet...
#aromantic#aro#even when you say something like ''i don't ever want to date''#or ''romance isnt my thing'' or ''i've never really been interested in people that way''#people think of you as a straight single person. or gay if you 'look queer'#bc aromanticism is a 'lack' of something theres no way to positively prove it#in peoples' heads#also annoying when trying to do aro-coded characters in your stories thatll actually get read as aro#o.#aroallo#non sam aro#<- not directly related but i think this post is more relevant to them than to the aroaces
191 notes
·
View notes
Text
Holly & Macy and Everyone Else
Chapter 4: Page 50
Start at the Beginning | About the comic | Tip-jar
🌘 Support the comic & read the next page now on Patreon! 🌘
The lyrics to this page's song were co-written by my partner Devon! Couldn't have done it better without you. <3
#webcomic update#indie comics#original webcomic#queer characters#lesbian characters#love story#romance webcomic#queer romance#wlw comic#original characters#original character artist#happy valentines day > w <#I didn't rlly plan for this update to come out on valentines it just Happened like that because god and the moon really love gay people!#also this is the second to last page I'll post before the hiatus so DON'T WORRY I would never leave you on a cliffhanger of this caliber!!#(for longer than a week that is!) There will be one more update next Wednesday
234 notes
·
View notes
Text
there's something well-meaning but also kind of insidious about the idea that you have to be Careful and Gentle with how you hurt female characters, lest you accidentally recreate misogynist violence in your work. particularly when this gets paired with "female characters shouldn't cry or break down too often because that's stereotypical feminine weakness" (this particular advice DOES seem to be going out of fashion these days, though. Thank God).
i'm thinking about how people have pointed out that women in popular fiction & fanwork are often comforting their tortured boyfriends about their sad abusive pasts, without receiving any of that same emotional support in turn -- effectively just becoming tools for said sad boyfriend's character growth. and how much rarer it is for that gender dynamic to be flipped, with the boy comforting the girl. and also how this trope is even More prevalent when it's a woman of color + her white boyfriend.
some of it is Men Ignoring Writing Women nonsense, some of it is fanwork of media that's built on Men Ignoring Writing Women nonsense, some of it is an unconscious recreation of a gender dynamic that often exists in real life relationships, etc.
but i Also think there's something to the fandom side with, like. people having hesitations around fictional women that they don't around men. like i HAVE to take some of these things in good faith, and the good faith reading is: writing about men recovering from abuse is a safe, easy exploration of hard topics. meanwhile writing about women the same way feels Strange and Wrong and Uncomfortable because of the Femaleness of it all.
i truly don't know what can be done to combat this beyond writing more suffering women myself.... because it's not all that helpful to yell "EVERYONE IS A MISOGYNIST" (especially because tbh more often i find it's, like. woman writers who just. Don't Want To Think About That Shit) & i also can't Force people to want to write about women suffering horribly.
so i suppose i will end this on a joke instead:
Pleaseeeee Start Beating The Everloving Shit Out Of Female Characters. For Meeee.... 🥺🤲👉👈🙏🙏🙏
#all i'm saying is it's REALLY EASY to write fic about luz being comforted by her tortured white boy if u care about her interiority at all.#luz is of course where i first gravitate these days but if u want a more unpleasant woman who suffers horribly in her canon#then may i offer cdth hennessy. wife forever#MAKE YOUR WOMEN SAD AND BEAT TO SHIT PLEASEEEE#the heterosexual romance book game is so fucking strong with this. truly makes the absence in queer fandom more apparent to me....#anyway. much 2 consider.
131 notes
·
View notes
Text
See, I think Charles’ annoyance and frustration with the Cat King really was just pure protectiveness and not any kind of jealousy - it’s understandable, because Edwin is not telling him what happened even though something clearly did, which is not typical for them. Edwin doesn’t usually hide things like this! Of course he’s worried!
Charles’ reaction to Monty, on the other hand, is difficult to explain in a way that isn’t jealousy. You could say he’s being protective again, but Charles shows no sign of distrust in Monty, and had no idea of who Monty was or that he might betray them - he was actually very chill with him, except in a select few specific scenes. You could say he just doesn’t like him because he got brushed off during their first meeting, but not only does that not seem like Charles at all, it also doesn’t make sense, since, again, in most instances, Charles is genuinely friendly and is happy when Monty compliments him and seems to have come around to liking him (it completely flies over his head that this is a petty jab at Edwin on Monty’s part but oh well hahaha). You could say it changes up their status quo a bit and that bothers Charles. I do think this bothers him a bit, but I think, unlike Edwin, Charles’ fear and frustration here is directed more at situations (the Cat King whisking him away for several hours, as an example) than others. He’s sociable and likes being able to talk to new people. There’s absolutely no way he’d begrudge Edwin doing the same - and he doesn’t… with Niko. Edwin and Niko hit it off and become very close and that never bothers Charles at all. He’s incredibly endeared to her, just like the rest, and for the most part, he’s chill with Monty too, and smiles pretty knowingly when Edwin confesses to him having awakened some feelings. The only exceptions, where he shows definite annoyance, are when Monty first shows up and gets really in Edwin’s personal space to show him the astrology chart he made, and when Edwin is so sucked into the book Monty gave him that he doesn’t hear that Charles is talking to him, to which he annoyedly says that they seem to have been “spending a lot of time together”.
You could say he’s unused to having anyone get in Edwin’s personal space like that, but, again, Niko. She’s very tactile with him and he doesn’t seem to mind all that much; they spend time together watching things. If it was just someone getting close with Edwin in general, not only would that be weirdly possessive for the character, but it would also mean he would show discomfort with anyone getting close, I think. Does Charles see Monty as more of a potential threat than Niko, seeing as he knows her and her personality and doesn’t know Monty? Well, maybe, but again, Charles shows no sign of distrusting Monty at all.
Monty is a boy. Okay. So something about seeing Edwin so close to a boy that is not him, getting lost in thought over something this boy gave him, really rubs Charles the wrong way. Charles appears to catch on just as quickly as anyone else that there is something (or it looks like something) between Edwin and Monty. He is not surprised when Edwin comes out to him in episode 6, and in fact, seems to have just been waiting for him to verbalize it. He smiles and is not bothered at all by Edwin showing (what he thinks is) a romantic interest in Monty - he just doesn’t like it when Monty clearly shows a romantic interest in Edwin. Um. Well. Well.
Charles is jealous. I really don’t know what else to say.
Look, when I first watched this show, I actually didn’t want them to end up together romantically - I love the idea of one having fallen in love with another who does not reciprocate and the two of them still loving each other just as much. That Edwin’s confession made them closer instead of making things awkward is such a beautiful outcome to this build up and I absolutely love it. However. On my two rewatches, I caught a lot more little details, and I think it would be very strange if the show did not follow up on this. That, plus the deliberate quality of these “jealousy” moments where the camera focuses on him, Charles’ Orpheus coding throughout the show, the fact that Edwin’s arc was far more about realizing his feelings for Charles specifically than just coming to terms with his sexuality, and that even the actors admit that Charles’ response to the confession kind of left things open, it really seems to me like the path leads to a romantic endgame for them, or at the very least, that this possibility will be explored in more depth.
**This is just my reading of it. Please do not use this post as a gotcha for anyone who loves them as a platonic duo or people who really love Crystal and Charles together (because let’s face it, they’re super cute too). I’m just doing my rambles. As per usual.
#listen this got really long and I’m sorry but I wanted to be sure I covered all my bases because#I flat out hate the old argument of ‘it (romance) is the only possible explanation!’ with regards to strong bonds#because it so often invalidates strong platonic expressions of love#but… *gestures above*#they’re going to need to address this at some point I think#I really hope though that if the relationship becomes more romantic#that this does not happen in season 2 but in season 3 or something#make it a good build and emphasize the importance of their existing platonic bond#I want their bond to continue to change and grow closer via their friendship first before evolving into romantic tension :)#(also I have faith in these writers but I’ll always be worried about what happens to Crystal with all this. pls don’t cast her aside…)#the smart thing would be to have Crystal have more of the main plot action and Charles more of the feelings arc#for season 2. that’s what I’m hoping#not just any romance or jealousy for Charles but also feelings around his family and dad and his wants and fears and all that#storyrambles#this got away from me again haha#should I use my analysis tag? does this count??? …I’m using it. ->#call me ace detective the way I am ace. and also a detective.#dead boy detectives#I also love the idea of a canon gay couple in an overall queer narrative because that’s beautiful#please I want it to happen#charles rowland#edwin payne#payneland#dbda meta#dbda spoilers
120 notes
·
View notes
Text
Doodles from This is how you lose the time war (read it for class and it was very good)
#my art#fanart#strawberridraws#this is how you lose the time war#lesbian#queer#doodles#for my assignment I may create more art/a comic of them… we will see how motivated I am#not entirely settled on these designs cause I need to go back and collect all their physical descriptors#but yeah they invented romance actually#shout out to bigolas dickolas. when I saw this book on the course list I thought of u
159 notes
·
View notes
Text
So what I've gathered from the lore is
#deadlock#deadlock valve#lash deadlock#shiv deadlock#holiday deadlock#jacob lash#I think Holiday x Lash is fun but in a distinctly more queer and freakish way than the straight people who like it#i cannot stress that enough#also imo#Idk if Lash does romance but that might be projecting#I might also be projecting a thing for people who could kick my ass onto him whos to say
64 notes
·
View notes
Text
I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."
it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.
I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.
#text#personal#aro#aromantic#aroace#aspec#qpr#queerplatonic relationships#queer platonic relationships#tbh i was around when qprs were still getting footing. ppl werent sure how to properly label them#so to avoid allos saying it's just friends the common response was 'its more than friends but less than romance'#as if they were trying to justify it's existence as if we had to have a equivalent to romance to be justified in our identities and as ppl#because being aro made you not be a person. because how can you be a person if you dont love or have a partner#because being aro was sad because being aro meant ou were alone and you shouldn't want to be alone!!#and these ideas made it so that amatonormativity was just reinforced in aro spaces#and it isn't until recent years when amatonormativity started getting used top put a name to the problem#that i really saw ppl start standing up for aros who didnt partner because why are we expected to partner anyways?#shouldnt ppl be whole as they are?#and this is only my experience im not saying this happens everywhere#but this is why i think we need to have a conversation about QPRs and how they are used in aro spaces#because im not the only one who struggled through this#my experience may not be universal but my experience has happened to others#and thats worth talking about#srry im having a lot of thoughts recently
1K notes
·
View notes
Text
WAIT ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!? AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT POSTED ABOUT KREMY LECROUX x MORNING FROST ON HERE 😭
Mannnn what the flarp… thank god im a multi shipper but must I suffer? I think about the Witchlight Sminks a lot. Gricko x Torbek is everything to me, also Gricko x Gideon would slay so hard bro, being so real. I have a lot Gricko ships twirling in my head, also like Gricko x Kremy— I CAN MAKE OT WORK, IT SLAYS TO ME, I ADORE GRICKO, he should be able to kiss everyone. Also I know that Gricko x Frost is hella popular cuz I KNOW THAT SHIT EATS SOOOOO HARDDDD. But anyways got distracted, I forgor that Kremy is only one that Frost didn’t have the devil’s tango with. I think that’s funny okay— please hear me out!!!
*me frantically connecting red yard on the pins on my wall*
I am lacking when it comes to the literacy department but… THE ONE TRUE PAIRING: Witchlight Polycule, it’s everything to me. Like like like, it can hit every part of shipping brain and AHHHH
#clay rambles#loa#legends of avantris#once upon a witchlight#ouaw#shipping talk#like romance and such or like sex or like YAYYY THEY ARE FRIENDS THAT KISS SOMETIMES#but also to me… queer platonic#kremy lecroux#gricko grimgrin#morning frost#gideon coal#torbek#ouaw Torbek#Torbek ouaw#I lay awake at night and god hates me— I run in a circle and start screaming like a freak#I think Gricko should have more ships cuz he’s so… he can bro I’m just saying— he’s so charming— I would
79 notes
·
View notes
Text
me: i care less about dragon age now, it's been almost decade, i am tired.
*a few crumbs of dragon age news*
THE BEACONS ARE LIT! GONDOR THEDAS CALLS FOR AID DISCOURSE!
#dragon age#it comes and goes#i love people's fan art/fic#and the crunchy lore deep dives some of you do are aces#trying to not get too excited#it's cool to see everyone get reactivated a bit tho#dragon age 4#da:tv#da:v#dragon age the veilguard#sometimes i still do dragon age fan art too and it's neat that people still care#so i know you're all out there like unicorns in the sea somewhere#i am def not looking forward to the shipping wars tho#fingers crossed for romanceable dwarves and more queer romance options for masc characters tho#also hoping for nonbinary options for player character like bg3 did it so cmon now
130 notes
·
View notes
Text
Sick of music that’s always about sex and romance? Me too, man!
Thankfully, there’s TONS of music out there that isn’t. Here are some artists with songs I LOVE LOVE LOVE that aren’t about either of those things to diversify your musical subject matter!
(Every artist is also either BIPOC, queer, or both!)
*Links lead to Spotify, but their music is available on all the other usual platforms, too!
Janani K. Jha 📚🏺
Vibe: like devouring an entire fantasy series in a weekend then blinking awake and realizing the rest of the world still exists somehow and you’re no longer sure what to do with your life
Library Card
Machine Learning
Two Roads
Vienna Teng 🌄🎹
Vibe: like life is a series of ups and downs and you’re softly clinging to hope because there really is so much beautiful about the world that makes it worth living
Never Look Away
Homecoming (Walter’s Song)
The Tower
AURORA ✨���🌙
Vibe: like frolicking barefoot in an early autumn wood with nymphs and fairies and harmonizing with the moon
Blood in the Wine
Runaway
Some Type of Skin
Amythyst Kiah 🪕🌇
Vibe: like whispered confessions that became declarations and using a banjo to try and discover who you are
Firewater
Chained to the Rhythm
Play God and Destroy the World
Mon Rovîa 🫂🌿
Vibe: like being told you’re not alone, and everything will be okay, just lay your head here and rest
City on a Hill
crooked the road.
To Watch the World Spin Without You
MALINDA 🏞💞
Vibe: like sitting by a river, following your dreams even though life is so so hard, and learning to love yourself
Love Letter
It's All True
Everything I Need
Enny Owl 🦉⛰️
Vibe: like hearing a forested mountainside sing you a lullaby as you lay in a bed of moss
Lifeboat
House on a Garden
Mother Earth
Please give these artists a try, they’re all incredible and deserve so much love! Share your favorite songs that aren’t about sex or romance in the tags and comments!
#music#song recs#music recs#spotify#asexual#aromantic#queer#bipoc#i have no inherent problem with songs about romance or sex#and I do listen to music about those things#but I have a deep deep appreciation for music that isn’t#music that challenges my ideas of what songs can be about#and that help me explore inner parts of myself#or make me feel less alone and more connected and more hopeful#all through the power of music#god I love music so much!!!!!
51 notes
·
View notes