#menstruation mention //

[myautisticpov]

"People shouldn't post about how the contraceptive pill can be prescribed for non-contraceptive reasons because it's sex negative" feels like a take that can only come from people who don't realise just how young some people end up being prescribed the pill

Like, fine, you, person in your twenties, might be comfortable being like "this is the pill I take to fuck without getting pregnant", but I don't think it's sex negative for a thirteen-year-old who has been prescribed it for debilitating period pain to not want to have to hide their medication from their classmates on an overnight school trip because their classmates think that the only reason anyone would take it is that they're sexually active

[steampoweredwerehog]

“…Besides, I can’t eat chocolate anyway.”

[vimbry-moved]

you know, I was thinking. when the discussion of "would you rather have a period or lay an egg" comes up, a lot of people choose lay the egg. I would, cause you would, right? that's way preferable to an extended experience of cramps and blood. however, I think we're all making the same mistake of thinking about this as relative to the size of a chicken or maybe a crocodile. a human would probably have more of a kiwi situation going on. so now you have to think about your answer very carefully.

[claypigeonpottery]

I'd love to hear you expand on your thoughts about gender and deer antlers and also introduce the aspect of caribou antlers to the conversation. Both males and females have antlers but the males drop them in the winter because of the weight while the females keep theirs until the new set pushes the old set out.

I have a lot of thoughts and none of them really go anywhere but I’m happy to expand

it’s funny, I was thinking about caribou while I was making this brown clay deer-person. I didn’t want the antler to read as caribou, it was more just turning thoughts around in my head

I imagine if we had antlers, culturally it would be considered masculine (likely even for those—like caribou—where everyone can grow antlers and shed them at different times).

it made me think about gender being seasonal, with the growing and shedding of antlers.

it made me think about how tender and sensitive antlers are when they first grow in, covered in velvet. is it like menstruation, a gender-specific thing that’s painful or uncomfortable for awhile?

it made me think about losing an antler accidentally, or removing them. or only removing one. or just cutting off a few tines. what would it signify? how would it feel?

do queer deer (lol) notice each other because of how their antlers look, recognize each other as queer?

would a doe feel relieved when it’s time to shed her antlers? would she dread growing new ones? would a buck, any buck, feel dysphoric, feel a loss, when he sheds his?

I don’t know, I’ve just been having the gender recently. so obviously I had to pass that feeling on to my little sculptural creatures

[galacticgarlic]

As a former Mr Beast fan, I need more people to be talking about the Beast Games. This man and his production just look more vile with each accusation. Assuming all of this is true, no one like this should have a platform. Even if none of it is true, he and the show's crew need to actually speak on it.

And some of these behaviors are not new. Jimmy has always harbored an audience full of misogyny and transphobia and 'saturdays are for the boys' attitudes, so it would not surprise me if his show did not have measures in place for menstrual hygiene/safety, and that contestants involved would be supposedly tackling and hoarding resources from women.

Jimmy is not the sole person at fault for this, but he is the spokesperson and the face of this and it's so fucking gross.

https://www.fastcompany.com/91167605/mrbeasts-massive-beast-game-reality-show-under-fire-heres-why

[leezlelatch]

being very self-indulgent and sending this as a distraction while i think about how sweet copia would be with a partner that is in misery over cramps…the most gentle and doting lover.

Copia x reader, period cramps, comfort, fluff. I'd like to preface this by saying I do not get cramps. I am very blessed, although it does make up for it in other horrible period things, but I hope I can do this somewhat justice. <3

This would be the perfect time for the blanket wrapped tightly around your body to swallow you whole. It's pulled taut over your bent form in the bed. Your knees are drawn up to hold the heating pad against your abdomen, and every wave of pain which passes through you from the great period god in the sky is quickly driving you to madness.

You relax slightly when it passes, and the catch of the door captures your attention. You peek out from the cocoon and a smile quickly forms when you see Copia. He's surprisingly not in his paints although you know it's early in the day, and there's a plastic bag in his hand which rustles as he approaches you.

"Topolino," he coos, sitting on the edge of the bed. His fingers hook beneath the blanket to draw it down, and his lips capture your own the moment they are revealed to him. "Still hurting?"

"I'm dying," you nod, your voice solemn. Copia cuts you a look, although a smile still plays at his lips. "Are you not working today?" You continue.

"Later on. This morning, I am going to spend time with il mio amore. While you are hurting." His fingertips brush wisps of hair from your forehead, his smile growing as your expression brightens. "Ah, see? You are feeling better already. Your Papa is healing, I know this."

His words make you laugh and you half-heartedly swat at him, the vibration of his chuckle warm against your fingertips as they rest on his belly. "What did you bring?" You ask, glancing at the plastic bag.

"Sì, your goodies!" He says, staring down into the bag for several seconds before meticulously pulling out each one and lining them along your blanket. Hersheys, Kit Kats, and 3 Musketeers, three types of iced tea, two pepperoni rolls, and a big bottle of ibuprofen.

You blink in surprise at your Copia's offerings, and then press your forehead to his hand which rests on the bed. "I am so in love with you," you say, your voice thick with emotion.

"As I am in love with you, baby," Copia says, leaning down to cradle your head beneath his, his free hand curled through your hair. "I don't want you in pain, eh?" He lightly guides your head back so he can climb over you and settle at your back, his arms pulling you into the comfort of his embrace. "Let's watch a movie. Eat your snacks. Get snuggly." He squeezes you a little and you laugh. "See? Better already."

You turn your head for a kiss, and you linger there for a moment, lips pressed to his, until your uterus reminds you that it is furious. You groan softly and reach for the ibuprofen as Copia attempts to rub and add pressure to your lower stomach. "Two ibuprofen," he says, nose nudging at your cheek. "None of that 'more will make it work faster', sì?"

You grumble but comply, and Copia laughs softly as he presses several light kisses to your neck. You unwrap a candy and take a bite and then pass it back to Copia, his yummy noise filling you with a warmth even sweeter than what your heating pad provides. Having a period sucks, and having cramps is even worse, but having a partner who loves and cares for you in all of these things - is even better.

Kofi

[ouaw-facts-i-just-made-up]

Gideon has anemia from not eating properly on the train (an more importantly as a trans man and his period (and becauseI have this too and I want someone to suffer with me)). During his period he bleeds heavily and that leads to him loosing too much iron and thus he over heats but is actually really cold (for him at least) to the touch.

Kremy discovers this while traveling and Gid almost collapses because he doesn't realize what's happening. Kremy almost doesn't either until he realizes that they skipped a hearty breakfast that day and assumed he was just weak from a lack of food, so Kremy made a meal plan prioritizing nutrition, adjusting it along as they need eventually getting something that has tons of iron. Not that either of them notice.

They only learn that the lightheadedness and weird cold-to-touch-but-feels-hot thing was because of Gid's Iron-deficiency once Gideon trusts the rest of the group with knowing he's trans. Frost puts two and two together (this is because I headcanon that the school frost went to had a very comprehensive health course (frost also asks why he didn't realize this sooner because this sort of anemia caused by your period brings incredibly painful cramps. Gideon just says it wasn't any pain he wasn't used to)

This is a true fact.

Me transferring all my period pain to the Krew but then reading this ask and feeling a little bad about it so i give it all to Kremy instead.

I imagine that his fire genasi blood (aka burn through food twice as fast blood) doesn't help in that regard either. Also the pain would be harder to get rid of I'd think cause when you have dysmenorrhea usually you get heating pads but, well, he is made of fire. He can't get much hotter than that.

Kremy definitely learned a lot though about finding foods that seemed to lessen the pain or at least the other symptoms. After getting to talk with gricko and frost he learned about different plants that he could include to help soothe the pain better. And you know, maybe he picks up some chocolates too. Dark chocolate specifically, he heard that it's good for you and also a common craving. Even if he doesn't really understand that, being unable to eat it without feeling sick.

(Also friendly reminder to people who get periods, your pain shouldn't be debilitating! You shouldn't have a major increase in depression or wooziness or anything like that! Defo bring it up with your doctor!!)

[wtf-a-psychoanalysis]

TW!! Menstruation, Periods, pain

Usagi helps his boyfriend get thru the pain

He knows where to get the best pain medication in the hidden city

[maxbegone]

[maria] supplies her with the diva cup. and because half of our planet is women, these shows never talk about menstruation, which is a huge thing you're going to have to deal with in the apocalypse. this is the second time we've come around on it. joel has no interest in helping out on that front, but here maria has been thinking about it already.

— craig mazin, the last of us podcast episode 6

[doctorwyvern]

more transgender nonsense

[subbyp]

tired: zagreus is ftm because the god of life should have a womb

wired: zagreus is ftm because the god of rebirth should be trans

inspired: zagreus is ftm because the god of blood should have a period

[clownexpert]

Dignified Astarion fanart.

[more-better-words]

Karveth learns a lesson about human reproduction (not like that).

Monica felt the first twinges while she was still at work. It was a naggingly familiar sensation, but she was moving and busy and didn’t pay it much mind. But by the time her shift was over and she was on the tram home, she was sweating, a hard, gripping, nauseating pain radiating from below her navel. Every so often, it would morph into a sharp prodding stab centered above her hip bones, first the left and then the right. Oh no, she thought as she entered the lift, heading up to their apartment. Oh crap.

She grimaced as she fumbled with the apartment door, feeling a suspicious wetness between her legs, and not the fun kind. How could this have happened? She hadn’t had a period in over…

Five years.

“Crap,” she said aloud. Did she even have any supplies anymore? She leaned against the wall, eyes squeezed shut, another cramp gut-punching her as she tried to think.

A memory stirred: Packing up her old apartment, discovering a disused cup in the back of the bathroom cabinet. Had she kept it?

She couldn’t move fast – she felt like she was walking through quicksand – but she made it to the bathroom. And there, haphazardly tossed behind some rarely used hair products, she found it. She let out a sigh of relief and, with out-of-practice fingers, got it placed.

“Okay, crisis averted,” she said. But that didn’t do much for the fact she felt like she'd been run down by a cargo loader. She took a couple of pain pills (which felt woefully inadequate) and sat on the edge of the bed, breathing very deliberately through her nose. Eventually, she eased herself onto her side, rolling into the center of the bed. She grabbed Karveth’s pillow and hugged it hard, breathing in his scent. That helped a little.

She wasn’t sure how long she lay there before she heard the door open, and Karveth’s voice. “Monica?”

“I'm in here,” she called, and she must have sounded truly awful, because he appeared in the doorway, eyes wide and antennae alarmed.

“Are you alright?” he asked worriedly. “Is it a migraine? Did you have a breakthrough?”

He was so sweet, she thought, looking up at his handsome face and smiling wanly. “No, it's not a migraine.”

That did nothing to ease him. “Then what’s wrong?”

“Um… how much do you know about human reproduction?”

He tilted his head, his worry overwritten by blank confusion. Finally he said, “Obviously not enough.”

She managed a dry little chuckle, and gave him what she felt was a pretty decent middle school health class rundown of ovulation and the menstrual cycle. He listened intently, and didn’t interrupt, though he did blink very hard a few times, especially at the part about shed uterine lining.

“Let me guess,” she said when she was done, “that's not how it works for Andorians?”

“No,” he said firmly. He gave her a curious look. “And this happens to every human capable of conception?” he asked. She nodded. “Then why has it not happened to you until now?”

“I had a birth control implant,” she said, trying to sit up. Karveth put a hand on her shoulder to nudge her gently back down. “The hormones paused ovulation, so I didn’t have periods. They don't last forever – only about five years – and I guess I forgot about mine because, well… I can't get pregnant with you.”

“It was obviously serving a useful purpose to prevent this sort of discomfort every month. And this will last for days?”

“Nearly a week,” she confirmed. He looked horrified, and she said, “I won't be in this much pain the whole time. For me at least, the cramps are really just a first day thing. Some people aren’t so lucky.”

He looked at her, pale and grimacing and clutching his pillow. “This is good luck?” He stroked her hair. “What can I do, sh'tal? What do you need?”

“I've already taken some pain meds, but heat helps with the cramps. I've got a heating pad somewhere… maybe in the other bedroom? And I’m, uh… I’m kind of craving something sweet.”

He nodded. “Give me a moment.”

He stood and left; she heard rummaging from the other room, and a few moments later, he returned with the heating pad and the heavy quilt she usually kept on the couch. He lay the heating pad over her belly, turned it on, and covered her with the blanket. “Now,” he said. “About your craving?”

She let her tastebuds do the talking. “Honestly, hot chocolate sounds amazing.”

“I doubt you are desiring what our beverage synthesizer can provide. I will be back.”

Before she could protest, he was gone, the apartment door closing behind him. Ten minutes later, he reappeared, carrying a takeaway cup from the coffee shop down the street. The scent of hot chocolate filled the bedroom. “Oh, sweetie…” She sat up, accepting the drink from him. He resumed his seat beside her as she sipped.

“Does that help?” he asked.

“It does,” she told him, reaching for his hand and squeezing it. “You're so good to me.”

“You deserve all I can do and more.”

When she had finished her hot chocolate, she said, “If I can make another request…”

“Of course.”

“Can I have some cuddles?”

He smiled slightly. “As many as you require.” He slipped under the blanket with her, sliding his arms around her and holding her close to his chest. Snuggling his pillow had served in a pinch, but this was far better. Between the warm cocoa, the heating pad, and her Karveth, she was beginning to feel less dreadful.

“All this pampering is nice,” she said, “but I still think I’m going to be getting my implant renewed. Even if I don’t need it for birth control.” She shot him an uneasy sidelong look. “Does it, um… does it bother you that you can’t get me pregnant?”

“That has never been the purpose of our mating,” he pointed out.

“What if we wanted it to be, some day?”

He met her gaze. “Then it still would not bother me, because if that was what we wanted, I think we would find a way to achieve that desire, one way or another.” He kissed her temple. “But this seems like a topic better discussed when you are not in pain and ill at ease.” She smiled ruefully.

“That's fair.” She closed her eyes. “Thank you, thay'va.”

“Whatever is within my power to ease your pain and give you comfort, I will do. Always.”

She burrowed deeper into his arms. “Mmmmm, so good to me.” The cramps were finally beginning to back off; she could feel herself relaxing, sleep starting to tug at her. She wouldn’t mind resuming her period-free life in the least, but it was nice to have this reminder that whenever she needed him, her r'eysleten would be there for her.

A girl could really get used to this.

[awakefor48hours]

Quote that must be spoken every time a character is definitely pregnant: I'm late.... I'm never late.

[azures-grace]

Ok

Elf headcanon time (abreviated)

Altmer:

Babies (on average) are larger than human babies

Menstrual cycle lasts around 5-6 months. The fertility window isn’t very long.

Pregnancies last about a year. 11-12 months. 

Menses lasts for 2 weeks, cramps are uncommon.

Children physically mature around 3 years after human children, but mentally around the same. (adults by 20s)

Bosmer:

Babies are SMALL (like, marsupial baby small) 

Bosmer pouch? Maybe??

Menstrual cycle of 2 weeks. 

Pregnancies last around 4 months, children are born after the lungs work, and then go into the pouch

Babies get REAL big REAL fast. Out of the pouch in 7 months or so.

Menses is like. 2 days.

Dunmer:

Babies about the size of human babies, but pointier

Menstrual cycle is ~2 months

Pregnancies are around 9-10 months

Menses is between 5 days to 1.5 weeks.

Children mature at the same rate as human children

I liked Ryoko Kui’s thingy where elves don’t have cartilage in their ears as kids. So that too. Because I think it’s lovely.

[phoenixyfriend]

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