#men piss me the fuck off

[inkskinned]

the thing about some men is that they want you to remember, at all times, that you are underneath them. that with one word or look or "joke", you will stay beneath them. that even "exceptions" to the rule are not true exceptions - the commonly cited statistic that one in eight men believe they could win against serena williams.

women's gymnastics is often not seen as real gymnastics. whatever the fuck non-euclidian horrors rhythmic gymnasts are capable of, it's often tamped down as being not a sport. some of the most dominant athletes in the world are women. nobody watches women's soccer. despite years of dancing and being built like a fucking brick, men always assume they're faster and stronger than i am. you wouldn't like what happens when they are incorrect. once while drunk at a guy's house i won a held-plank challenge by a solid minute. the party was over after that - he became exceedingly violent.

what i mean is that you can be perfect, and they still think you're ... lacking, somehow. i hope you understand i'm trying to express a neutral statement when i say: taylor swift was the possibly the most patriarchy-palatable, straight-down-the-line woman we could churn out. she is white, conventionally attractive, usually pretty mild in personality. say what you will about her (and you should, she's a billionaire, she can handle it), but a few things seem to be true about her: 1. she can write a damn catchy song, and 2. the eras tour truly was a massive commercial success and was also genuinely an impressive feat of human athleticism and performance.

i don't know if she deserves the title of "woman of the year," i'm not debating that in this post. what i am saying is that she was named Woman of The Year, and then an untalented man got onstage at the golden globes and made fun of her for attending her boyfriend's football games. what i am saying is that this woman altered local economies - and her dating life is still being made into a "harmless" punchline. the camera panned, greedy, over to her downing a full glass of champagne. congratulations taylor! you are woman of the year! but you are a woman. even her.

fuck, man. write better material.

a guy gets onstage at a college graduation and despite the fact like half the crowd is made up of women, he spends a significant proportion of it warning these people - who spent possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars on their education - that they were lied to. that the "real" meaning of femininity is motherhood. that they shouldn't rest on the laurels of that education-they-paid-for but instead throw it away to kneel at a man's heel. imagine that. sweating in your godawful polyester gown (that you also had to pay for!), fresh out of 4 years of pushing yourself ever-harder: and some guy you've never met - who knows nothing about you - he reminds you this "win" is a pyrrhic one at best. you really shouldn't consider yourself that extraordinary. you're still a woman, even after years of study.

god forbid you are not a pretty woman, but if you are pretty, you must be dumb. god forbid you are not ablebodied or white or cis or straight or good at swallowing. you must be beneath a man, or else they are not a man. the equation for masculinity seems to just be: that which is not a woman or womanly (god forbid). anything "feminine" is thereby anathema. to engage in "feminine" things such as therapy, getting a hug from a friend, or crying - it is giving up ones manhood. therefore women need to be put in their place to ensure that masculinity is protected.

this is something i have struggled to explain to terfs - they are not doing the work of feminism, but rather the patriarchy. by asserting that women and men must be (on some secret level) oppositional and in conflict, they also assume that being a woman is akin to being another species. but bigotry does not stem from observational truths or clarity - that is what makes it bigotry. there was nothing in my childhood that made me fundamentally different from my brother. we are treated differently nonetheless. to assert there is some biological drive that enforces my gender role is to assert that women have a gendered role. men do not see women as equal to them not because of biological reality - but instead because the core tenant of the patriarchy is that women aren't full, realized people.

we are told from a very young age to excuse misbehavior as a single man's choice - not all men. it is not all men, just that one guy. all women are gold-digging bitches who belong in the kitchen - but if a man is mean, bigoted, or violent to you, it's just that particular guy, and that means nothing about men-as-a-whole. it is only one guy who got mad when you gently rejected him. it is only one guy who warns her this trophy is heavy, are you sure you can hold it? it is only one guy who smashes her face into the cake. it is only one guy talking into a mic about hating our bodily autonomy.

i have just found that they often wait until the moment we actually seem to be upstaging them. you sit in a meeting where you're presenting your own findings and he says get me a coffee? or you run to the end of the marathon and are about to finish first and he pushes your kids out in front of you. you win the chess game and they make some comment akin to well, you're ugly away. we can be the billionaire and get the dream life and finally fucking do it and yet! still! they have this strange, visceral urge to say well actually, if you think you're so great -

it's not one just one guy. it's one in eight.

[tigersorange]

“this female character is badly written” [loud incorrect buzzer] you would love this exact same character if she were a man

[daddykinkkinard]

i'm gonna go ahead and say it: buck and tommy's relationship extremely resonates with me as a queer man. i am very lucky to find myself in a relationship where i am extremely happy, and i'll be honest in saying that we parallel bucktommy a lot—hence the representation felt. it does not matter to me what you say, especially if you aren't a queer man. and even MORE especially if you are not a queer man watching the show specifically only because buck became bisexual, and then immediately criticize his relationship with a man. i feel genuinely sorry for the people out there that feel like this mature, healthy, loving, organic (!!! they're literally still getting to know each other and it's so beautiful to see how their relationship is blossoming) relationship is boring. because if the only way you are interested and feel represented by a relationship is if there is consistent drama, and unrequited love then i'm sorry for whatever relationship you find yourself in.

it says more about your capability—or rather, inability—to hone love and connection, than it says about the ship.

[lemonavocado]

"oh i love frankenstein! my favorite quote from the novel is i have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine-" grabs you by the throat and chokes you violently

[thepointofme]

i think its so funny how they tried to push the "charles and moira as a couple" in xmfc when all their deleted scenes were charles flirting with her and moira not giving a single fuuuuuck lmao she was so not having it!!! like the hints of her as a character with traces of an actual personality were all in those scenes and they've cut it out to make sure they could bring her back as the love interest in apocalypse *booing*

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

[marysblo0d]

Every time I think about this I wanna buy a gun

[annieisyourfavourite]

so sorry but that post about "the reason boys and men are being radicalized is bc girls are mean to them" is driving me up the fucking wall. maybe i really am just on a different internet than the rest of you but. this sentiment of "women are being bitches who don't care about men and that's why there's Problems now" is like. such an alpha male podcast classic take. like it's literally "not all men". it doesn't magically become better bc u say stuff with liberal terminology. jesus christ

[welivefast-dieyoung]

Andrew Garfield might need to just, stop talking about how he feels about women altogether. Like me, personally, I might need really him to stop. Wtf does he mean 'it was like seeing this ball of life, this kind of life force, this vital i don’t know, primal energy on screen'. Like??? Idk what's worse that he said it, or that its a PERFECT description of how it feels to watch Flo on screen. I've actually genuinely had enough.

[princessefemmelesbian]

Transandrophobia truthers are so damn racist and white oh my fucking god y'all actually piss me the fuck off every time you tokenize Black and brown men for your stupid as fuck "mra but make it trans-inclusive" ideology created by a creepy guy with a corrective rape fetish(something I'll never let up on for as long as I live, btw). If I ever see another one of y'all say "Black and brown men face discrimination because they're seen as overly masculine and that's why masculinity in men is oppressed in this society" I will literally kill myself. Stop using Black and brown men as brownie points for your bullshit arguments about misandry being real when you don't have the slightest idea how racialized oppression works. White boys are so annoying and dumb istfg.

@punkeropercyjackson @punknicodiangelo @pinkpinkstarlet

[mikichko]

i still cannot believe that someone was in the general cod tags complaining about the fact that in 141xreader fics the boys were being “gay” with each other 😐

[neo-zone]

Shunuki didn't go through all of that just so you, homophobic dudebros on other socmed platforms, could say they are just friends while saying other childhood friends duo is instantly a canon ship for your kind just because they are consisting of man and woman

[salemontrial]

Why the FUCK didn't Sasha apologize to Quinni.

[astrangergivingthestrangewelcome]

Me: so anyway yeah the doctor's appointment went fine

My mom: gee I wonder what they thought about your Hairy Unshaved Legs

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Me: yeah I had a great day hanging out with my friends

My mom: oh I wonder were you wearing shorts? Shorts that showed how you don't shave your legs?

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Me: I met x new person today they seem nice!

Mom: hmm. Do THEY shave their legs

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Me: yeah I just read today on the couch it was so nice and chill

My mom: oh? Reading about other women who don't shave?

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Me: yup just doing some cooking currently

Mom: right, right from the cookbook "Recipes for Women with Hairy Legs"?

[ladyodium]

This needs to be said because it’s really getting on my nerves when people will look and Armand and Louis relantionship, and be like “OMG! It’s like a reflection of Armand and Marius!”

Excuse me? The only reason you are saying this is because Armand calls Louis Matrie and Louis calls Armand Arun. Keep in mind when Armand was with Marius he was Armando. I haven’t seen a single piece of that entire relationship where Louis is like Marius, instead I see where Armand is gaslighting Louis and isolating him from the outside world.

That fight in San Francisco where Armand says “you make the mess, and I clean it up.” And he continues to gaslight Louis into believing that Louis is in the wrong. He continues to say that Lestat and Claudia didn’t love him, not like him. He gaslights and then lets Louis suffer when he was burned. He tortured Daniel while also torturing Louis.

Not ever has there been a moment where Armand was not in control of that relationship. He basically becomes this toxic caregiver and continues to Gaslight Louis because he knows how to mess with his mind. We see this, this is the conclusion of the whole last episode of season 2, so I’m confused as to how Louis and Armand’s relationship reflects Marius and Armand?

The fact y’all will blame Louis and downplay his abuse is also so anti black and racist to me because y’all will excuse Lestat for dropping this man out the sky and almost killing him, and Armand who basically locked Louis away and continued to mess with his mind.

Like, don’t be fucking goofy!

[sqrkyclean]

sometimes im like what if people respect my art less because i also make porn and then i remember damien hirst's shitty medusa sculpture. and i get over it.