#but are we really gonna pretend thats whats radicalizing men?

[annieisyourfavourite]

so sorry but that post about "the reason boys and men are being radicalized is bc girls are mean to them" is driving me up the fucking wall. maybe i really am just on a different internet than the rest of you but. this sentiment of "women are being bitches who don't care about men and that's why there's Problems now" is like. such an alpha male podcast classic take. like it's literally "not all men". it doesn't magically become better bc u say stuff with liberal terminology. jesus christ

[lesbian-ed]

shsh hi! so uh im 14 in a few months and im currently out fully at school and a little at home as a lesbian but recently ive been putting together some pieces from my childhood and some current thoughts that make me think im a transman. im dysphoric about my breasts and genetalia, as well as my long hair and wide hips. id much prefer to be a male, yet i know thats not possible and how futile transition is. yet i still want to transition.. im sorry if this isnt the place for this but all (1/2)🐍

transgender blogs are extremely liberal.. thank you, and i love this blog so much (2/2) 🐍

Hi there! I’m sorry this ask got backed up, I’m tagging it as your lil snake in hopes you’ll be able to find it. So…

Okay, first of all, I’m glad you came to us. I used to identify as transgender (non binary) and I still struggle with dysphoria… But then again, so do most of our mods. It is a common feeling among women to feel like our bodies are getting in our way, like they’re a burden. Of course it is, considering how society sexualizes us, objectifies us, and throws out the women who don’t fit their stupid beauty standards as if we were worthless. 

Our bodies get us unwanted attention, either sexual - lingering looks, cat calls, etc. or openly negative, like mean comments, constant advice on how to make ourselves look “better” etc.

Beyond this, being a woman is not easy. We are raised to be submissive, it is expected of us, as if we were born to be marginalized, oppressed, used. As children we’re given baby dolls and kitchen sets, so we’ll learn to be slaves of the home, house maids with no pay, servants to the husbands we know from very early ages we will be obliged to get (”she’s so pretty, I bet all the boys will want her”, “all the boys are gonna line up at your door”).

And then being a lesbian… Dealing with the combination of misogyny and homophobia, what we call lesbophobia, an overlap of the worst of both word… Well it is all a bit much.

I understand. I know. I’ve been there, walked in your shoes. I know the confusion, the feeling of disconnect to womanhood, because you’re just not what women seem to be supposed to be…

But here’s the thing. Being female is what makes you a woman. You don’t have to do anything to earn that, womanhood has been a part of you since you were in your mom’s uterus. You’re female and therefore a woman, and everything you do, every breath you take… That’s a woman’s breath. Doesn’t matter if you abide to femininity or not, doesn’t matter if you shave your head, and only buy from the men’s session at stores… Plenty of women do that already, and it doesn’t change anything about their womanhood. If anything, it makes them stronger, for refusing to play the rules of femininity, rules which have been used against us our whole lives, and our mothers’ whole lives, and their mothers before them, and their mothers before them. 

You know what? There is not nothing manly in you. You have two X chromosomes, one given to you by your mother, and another which was carried through from your paternal grandmother. Only women make you up, only women are in your genes. Please do not feel the need to abdicate something which doesn’t only belong to you, but is you. Being a woman should never be stolen from you, just because you don’t do certain things, or act certain ways. Don’t allow it to be a costume, something to be opted out of. 

Even if you could act exactly like a man, talk like a man, be like a man, look like a man, love like a man, hate like a man.. Even then, your body will always be a woman’s body, and all your actions will be womanly actions, because they are yours and you are woman. 

Even when society tells you otherwise, there is so much value in you. You are worthy of being yourself, no need to pretend to be a man for the sake of conforming. Identifying as trans made me more dysphoric. It made me hate my uterus, this magical organ inside me, which can hold and produce life. It made me hate my whole being, the very cells which make me up, for being cells which betrayed me, halfway cells, cells which I didn’t belong to. 

And then I woke up, and I realized, this body is not mine, this body is me. I will not let anyone talk me out of it, will not allow anyone to pretend I am anything less than what I was always meant to be. 

Reclaim yourself. Take control. Stare this fear in the face, and know that there is value in you, and in nothing else. You’re everything you need to be, and you’re everything you’ll ever need to survive. Even if you hate it for now. This is the hand you’ve been dealt, and you’re gonna have to learn how to play it. 

My advice is to learn about radical feminism, learn about other women’s detransition stories, learn about other women’s lives. Women who fought to earn the mere right to exist as themselves. Women who just lived. Women who weren’t afraid. 

Get inspired, because you are one of us. You said it yourself, you know it is pointless, then fight it. Don’t give in. It’s gonna be really fucking hard, because the easy way out is right there… But you deserve so much better, sister, let me tell you. 

I hope you’ll find yourself free. I hope you know there is value in sticking to yourself, that there is a reason to fight for you. I hope you’ll feel comfortable being called a sister. Take care, please.

/Mod A