#maybe i was just a people pleaser

[thespacedragons]

The Owl House (Season 2?) Spoilers.

I watched the scene with Amity right after they do the fight match thing, and she and her dad begin to make up, Alador goes for a hug, but Amity grabs his arm into a handshake instead.

The first time I watched through, I instinctual thought that Amity was about to get into trouble because of that. I hadn't given much thought to it at the time, because like I said, it was more instinct than an actual thought.

Whereas the second time I watched through, I realized that Amity is still probably a little upset with her dad, yes they started to make up, but they still had a ways to go. I recall that my mom would hug me whenever she knew that I was angry or upset with her, and those hugs were the most, not threatening, more like, constrictive hugs I can remember. I did Not want to be hugged by the person I was angry or upset with, and be expected to accept that affection, because I would be the jerk for not accepting it as an apology. Amity is setting boundaries and Alador immediately respects this boundary.

This is such a small detail, but it is healthy communication, and I honestly wish I could have done this a bit more with my own mother.

[theskeptileptic]

I know that BAMF Tim is fun and more like the comics, but I think a real-life Tim would have rejection sensitivity and definitely try to make himself unobtrusive as possible.

Dick Grayson turning him down when he asks him to return to Robin would embarrass him. He might still go to Bruce; but any hint of being unwanted (even if he’s an unreliable narrator), would stop him in his tracks.

He would still be smart and kind, but if he ever felt like he wasn’t wanted, he would retreat. Flight or fawn. If fawning doesn’t work, instant flight. Partly because he’s a perfectionist that can’t stand failure (he tries once, and then leaves it alone) and partly because he has a low self-efficacy.

He loves Gotham, is wicked smart; but he’s not going to put himself in a position where people criticize him. I don’t see that rolling off his back because he never learned resilience his parents.

Here’s how it would go:

Tim: I can be Robin.

Bruce: Get the hell out of my house, absolutely not.

Tim: Ok. Sorry about that.

*Leaves*

*avoids Bruce and the rest of the Waynes for the next year or two years*

*Jason comes back and slots into the family easier than if Tim had been there*

*Bruce comes out of grief spiral and remembers “hey, wasn’t there a boy who came by who knows our identities?”*

Bruce: Hi, Tim, let’s talk.

Tim: *runs away to fake uncle because parents died*

If, by chance, they follow, Tim’s fawn response would be so ingrained, they’d have to be super emotionally intelligent to pick up on it.

Eventually, they do. Tim makes a mistake and when Bruce or Dick or Jason talk to him about it (forgoing the compliment sandwich that Tim’s self esteem definitely needs), Tim says, “Yes sir” and then leaves in the middle of the night.

He runs to Canada (I’m always trying to get him to Canada apparently) and tries to live without friends or family who might end up disappointed in him.

How it ends is dependent on how good Bruce is at figuring all this out.

[oblivious-aro]

Do you think Jax knows the npcs are sentient?

I can see it going either way. Maybe he doesn't know, so he doesn't see any reason to not act out every sadistic whim on them. Or maybe he does, and he doesn't care. Considering how he treats the other characters (throwing Pomni of the truck, petting centipedes in Rahatha's room), knowing the npcs have feelings likely wouldn't change his behaviour.

Pomni, on the other hand, has seen the sentience of the npcs first hand. She formed a brief yet powerful emotional with one. She saw him hurt, love, give up, get up, and even die. Pomni's seen an npc be just as human as she is.

And she hasn't seen just how shittily Jax is prone to treating them.

At least, not yet.

[katsy-kitty]

the thing about me is that I'm not a chill person (extr anxious) but I am (generally) a nice person

and so e.g. I just made a CALENDAR REMINDER to remember to respond to a mutual's post because I don't have the time now

[yellowistheraddest]

gonna say this for like the 900th time, but i want to draw in a funkier style - but my pea sized brain is filled to the brim with anxiety and doing something new when i have a strict routine of how to make drawings... lets just say i know how to make myself scared of drawing

[callixton]

i still think about being in tenth grade or whatever and my friend making a joke about how ‘i secretly saw myself as the main character and didn’t believe other people to be real’ like i was so horrified bc it was so entirely untrue. i do believe people should be the ‘main character’ of their own lives bc i think that you must live your life with some self-priority and romanticism but the idea that i wouldn’t care about how i affected other people because of it is so genuinely upsetting like. i think they may have been projecting w that bc i truly cannot think of another way they could’ve come to that conclusion like we had a little friction at times but i do believe i was a good friend in high school & i’m self aware enough to realize when i haven’t been

[iftitah]

everyone prioritizes their family and that means even extended chacha ke chacha fufa ke tau etc and i can't even prioritize my sagi one i hate myself

[hysteriasgarden]

sometimes I feel guilty for disliking my parents, or moreso how they acted when I was a kid sometimes. because nowadays they're great. they're absolutely fine. so it would be ungrateful to say they're bad parents? they spoiled me as a kid if anything, they kept me safe and all that too.

but at the same time, them being good now doesn't change the fact that I needed them to be good when I was still growing. it helps nothing for them to be good parents now that I'm an adult and already fucked up from them. it changes nothing that they were slightly traumatizing when I was still developing and growing as a child

[f1-stuff]

how do you cope with this carlos-hate between the lines here on tumblr? btw love following you for your good vibes and funny tags

Hello, sweet anon ❤️

Tbh some days are harder than others! I like to think I’ve gotten a lot better at simply not logging on when I expect there to be those sorts of posts - also making sure that the blogs I follow are the only ones I wanna see on my tl. Sometimes, like earlier today, I just channel my energy into making gifs and only come on tumblr to post those and leave lol

Obviously, I still see stuff if I go looking in his tag or something slips thru the cracks, and some days I write out a whole rant and then delete it (it can be v therapeutic just to type your feelings, even if you never post it). Also having someone/people who I can talk to about it can be pretty helpful. Or even revisiting a Carlos thing that makes you smile! I’ll sometimes just go thru his tag on my blog and inevitably something silly he did will make me laugh and I feel (mostly) better 😂❤️

Other than that, I think just recognizing that everyone’s opinions are just that - opinions! Pro sports is one of the areas in life that people can be the most opinionated/vocal/vitriolic about online but it’s bc it inspires such passion in people. Personally, I like to channel my passion for f1 in positive ways - it makes me a happier person and it’s the whole ‘be the change you want to see’ in the fandom philosophy haha

I hope some of this is helpful ❤️ you can always come to me if you’re needing someone to talk to or wanna just toss something in my inbox to take your mind off of things!

[muffinrag]

ugh

[jessiesjaded]

I really am bad for the "but remember how much love their used to be! Isn't that enough?" Like.... /used to/ that's the telling aspect here. Their /used to be/ but there hasn't been for a long time- in fact their has been more negative feeling than anything, so shouldn't you just leave it to the past? Call it a day for good?

[feralbeeast]

High key, I hate having the people pleaser skill drilled into my brain and body.

I want to speak up for myself and make myself be heard but instead I nod and smile.

Tell you exactly what you want to hear so you don't hurt me.

But everytime I do I feel like I'm betraying myself, I'm trying so hard to be respected and understood but it feels like everytime I try to open up or explain myself it gets ignored, pushed aside, or laughed at.

[theha1r]

so ... besties. the draft count is currently at 80. my goal today is to get that number down somewhat, HOWEVER!!! instead of playing the "let me force myself to do every single thing in order of what i owe" game, i will simply just be going through & do what i actually wanna do, where the muse is calling to me. because that makes me so much happier & doesn't kill my want to be here as easily. & i REFUSE to have the want to be here/have muse/etc on this blog specifically when as i've said multiple times, i am the happiest i've been on this blog than i've been on any rp blog in a long time & i simply will not let that be taken away from me!!!

so yeah! that's the goal for today. i also tbh have a few things in here that are from pre-july (when i got active on this blog again), like from the beginning of the year when i started this blog - & i might do/reply to those first bc drafting them & seeing them again after so long had me very !!! (i did delete a few things but the ones i saved i am eye emoji-ing so hard rn)

but anyways, yes. i'm around rn & idk how long it will be until i head to bed but i def plan to be here for a while, hmu in the ims/disco/y'know the drill

[deityofhearts]

this is so funny

[bobmckenzie]

genuinely makes me sad when people hate on penny from stardew valley 😔 BE NICER 🔫 OR ELSE

[emmafallsinlove]

sometimes i think how uncomfortable the drive with logan in 6x08 must have been and i wanna scream

like if it was just jess & rory they could tell some inside jokes to make stuff more comfortable but i just thinking of jess in the back seat, logan’s driving and rory in silent because she had nothing to say that won’t make logan to ask questions that both of them might be not ready to answer yet.