#many wives and kids

[mysicklove]

smthing bout “boy” moms who post about how they r soooooo glad they don’t have to deal with girl drama is so internally misogynistic and it never fails to make me mad lol

same energy as when dads get visible upset at gender reveals when they find out the r having a girl. like does everyone just hate women?

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

I've spent years working with very vulnerable women, but I still forget just how easy it is for a man to destroy a woman's life: chip awag at her self-esteem until she doesn't trust herself; convince her to move (so he can get a better job and isolate her, so she can work part-time and be a housewife); inflict an unwanted pregnancy (he can support her, she can leave school/work); burden her with care responsibilities (he's working, but she's not working as much, she can care for the parents and the children, just like her mum, aunts, and older female friends)...

And, when she realises what he's done, what can she do about it? If he destroyed her self-esteem, she thinks she deserved it for being stupid, because that's what society says about women like her; if he convinced her to move, she'd need to organise somewhere to live when she moves back, and rent is expensive, and all her stuff came with her (even harder if she moved countries, has a work gap, and/or her parents live overseas and depend on his income); if she's pregnant, she needs to jump through 'oh, are you sure you want this?' hoops and pay for it (apparently, it costs around AUD$500 for the abortion pills) or maintain it (and know that it'll cost more to have a child, and chain her to him); if she has those care responsibilities, she can't just walk out on those she cares for (she'll be punishing them, and she'll potentially be punished in the courts)...

[rocaydran]

we need a käärijä cinematic universe family tree

[bijoumikhawal]

"historically polygamous societies loved to wage war and slavery to dispose of excess men and emphasize female conversion" okay all those things are true of monogamous societies too. Western Europeans are famously probably the best at war and slavery from the current standpoint and they're monogamous. And from the way you wrote that I can tell you were thinking of the middle east so what the fuck

[spurgie-cousin]

Kody saying that he never loved Christine, Jenelle and Meri, like why? Why would you say that? To make him feel better? I wonder if he and Robyn divorce if he will also say the same thing about her.

I think it's his way of absolving himself of a lot of guilt. If people believe he loved them at any point and they also hear the things the 3 ex-wives are saying about the way they've been treated, there's no way for Kody to look like the good guy. He looks like a shitty person and I don't think he can stand that lol.

I think in his mind, if he says he didn't love them then it makes it more ok that he treated them unequally for over a decade, if that makes sense? Because it's not as bad to withhold time and affection from someone you're not attracted to (Christine), or someone you were just good friends with who pushed their way into your family (Janelle), or someone you "decided" you were going to try to love but never really did (Meri). It makes him sound like a martyr to himself that he ever treated any of them decently at all, because he's incapable of admitting any of the truth of the situation to himself.

[m0rbs]

I wasn’t planning on posting this but the couple people that follow me for my riker/data content really liked my last post so I wanted to give y’all more of them

[whitepharaoh]

Pls dont take me to utah i have wives and kids. Many kids. Many wives. Like. Ten thousand. I cant go to utah. Please.

IM SORRY!!?! You not only have the NERVE to deny MY orders, you also decided to have ten thousand wives and kids (what the fuck?) and YOU consider that MY problem? HATHEN. Your punishment will not only include going to Utah, but you will be FORCED to read the filthy Book of Mormon over and over again, FOREVER!!!!

You (don’t) hail me,

White Pharaoh

[multeasers]

[ b52 ]  how would they describe themselves in as few words as possible? @/Toji 🤭

🐝  *  ―  𝑪𝑶𝑪𝑲𝑻𝑨𝑰𝑳 𝑸𝑼𝑰𝒁. ( send one or multiple of these to learn a little more about my muse(s). )

He's the type of guy you'd have to press to do it, and if you manage to not annoy the ever living hell out of him in the process, he'd likely describe himself as a man too tired for anything, but still does shit anyway . If you do annoy him, though, he'll likely just give one-word answers : Diligent . Stubborn . Prideful . That sorta thing .

If you managed to get the real answer out of him, though, he'd describe himself as too fucked up . He's a man too fucked up who fucked up too much . He's desperate . He's remorseful . But he's also wholly selfish, and knows that what he wants he'll probably never get because of that, and of course much more . Again, he's a man who fucked up a lot .

If you really enforce limiting his words, though, and were still getting a legitimate answer, he'd just describe himself as sorry .

[chicago-geniza]

Shoutout to my mother for taping HOW TO UNLOAD THE DISHWASHER instructions to the front of the dishwasher, it has taken many years but at long last she has gotten the general gist of my brain problems (she was married to my dad and shared a room with my aunt growing up, after all) and is being genuinely helpful in material and meaningful ways. Thenk u momther 4 my ADL assistance

[gedwimora]

this is my roman empire

[inkykeiji]

my boyfriend’s mom will be out all night on a date so i get to play housewife tonight n make the boys dinner :)

[im2tired4usernames]

I hate that I literally just do not trust any of the older folks in my family to do right by anyone

[naramdil]

you know that tiktok trend where it's like "before and after kids" and the before is them happy and the after is the clip of that toxic guy from euphoria walking away?

[timeisacephalopod]

Why do right wingers go on and ON about "father's in the home" when fathers are basically useless in the home? Like every year I see posts that go around about "dad finding out about what I got for Christmas" and it's like if fathers are so uninvolved they don't even know what Christmas gifts their kids are getting I don't think them being gone does much?? Like of course there's good and bad parents of all genders, but traditional gender roles- which the aforementioned right wingers ascribe to- mean men do jack fucking squat in the house OR anything with their kids so what the hell do right wingers think men are doing that's so important in the home if it's none of the childrearing or house work??

All I've got in this framework is a paycheque and these days women work so men wouldn't even be contributing something women DON'T, so I have no idea what these people think men are doing that it's so irreplaceable that being gone is damaging to children when by all means under their ideas of gender and family men are less than useless to their family. Women do all that work (and barring that, DAUGHTERS do more parental work than fathers so them being gone does what, exactly, except maybe rid the family of an overgrown child? Men who actually contribute are the ones families would be damaged without, not traditional men who probably don't even know how to do their own laundry OR cook or have any life skills because women have done everything for them their whole lives so???)

[spurgie-cousin]

Kody has always reminded me of my dad who was physically abusive to my older 4 siblings and his first wife and verbally abusive/"I've grown and changed" narc toward his 2nd family. I wouldn't put it past Kody to have physically abused the OG3 but I also wouldn't doubt that he's either physically or otherwise abusive to Robyn and especially the kids.

You're definitely not the only one who's thought that. Even before his red-pill nonsense, people used to say they thought Kody was possibly physically abusive. I've personally never gotten that vibe, I think Kody is certainly mentally and emotionally abusive, but I also have no experience with DV so I might just not know what to look for. I definitely had a dad like Kody in the sense that he had a short fuse and had little to no ability for self-reflection though lol.

But like I mentioned in that ask where some rando got mad at me, the likelihood of pretty much every type of abuse skyrockets in fundamentalist households, and probably especially in polygamist fundie households with all the extra people and stress. Mykelti has mentioned Meri getting physical with her at one point too which I wouldn't have expected from Meri at all, so if we found out there was some other physical abuse going on bt Kody and any of the wives/kids I guess I wouldn't be surprised.