#love spoon

[justrebooting]

DYDD HAPUS SANTES DWYNWEN!

Happy saint Dwynwens day everyone drew a welsh love spoon for my partner. I hope you all have an amazing day and wish you luck with love!

If you don’t know what Saint Dwynwens day is it’s like the welsh version of Valentine’s Day!

[celticwerewolf99]

[Image Description: Digital art in of a wooden Welsh love spoon featuring two original characters, Draig and Myrddin, in profile facing one another with their hands interlocked and closed eyes. They are placed on top of a celtic knot ring. Draig is on the left and Myrddin on the right.

Draig is a white teenage boy with short to mid-length, tousled hair and thick eye brows. He has pointed ears, horns on his head and a long tail with spikes and a sharp, triangular tip, wrapped around him and Myrddin covering the bottom of the circle. He wears an open varsity jacket with rolled up sleeves and a shirt underneath. Myrddin is a Black teenage boy with a medium, coily Afro and thin eye brows. He wears a long, flowing, open short sleeved jacket with a long sleeved shirt underneath.

Above the characters at the top of the love spoon is a large heart. The neck of the spoon below the characters is made up of a late cal tic knot which transitions into the bowl of the spoon. End Description]

Dydd Santes Dwynwen Hapus!/ Happy St.Dwynwen’s Day! ❤️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

A Welsh love spoon featuring my oc’s, Draig the dragon boy and Myrddin the mage.

I started this about two years ago but didn’t get around to finishing it until recently 😅

[thepeacefulgarden]

[gatoburr0]

I HATE how this turned out WITH A PASSION.

[lizleeships]

Perils of dating a dude with wings (AKA One day I made a really schmoopy drawing and simply couldn't leave it unruined.)

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[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[saturnvs]

soft n sleepy

[gedoran]

There are lots of spoon carving resources out there! There's at least one love spoon kit available too, which has a spoon blank and tools. While I've carved many spoons I've never carved a lovespoon, I should fix that.

do you have any advice for carving a love spoon or have any recommendations for where to get one? my partner gave me one for christmas after he went home to wales and his father helped him carve it, and i want to gift one back in return but i'm not entirely sure on the customs surrounding it (like would it be bad to gift him one back?)

I've never carved one myself, though I know people who have. If you have woodworking tools, give it a go! Fun project.

Customs-wise, it's absolutely fine to give one back! We give them for all sorts of reasons these days, including weddings, new baby, new house, etc. Also, when you select/make yours, remember that the various symbols on them mean something, which you might want to choose accordingly. Balls in a cage is generally agreed to mean the number of children you have/want, for example. If you get one as a housewarming gift for someone, keys and keyholes are a good shout. If it's a new job celebration, wheels and horseshoes might be better. That link only includes some common symbols, too - there are hundreds you can choose from, plus modern ones sometimes like to just go all out and put pretty things on like realistic carved daffodils or what have you.

If you want to buy one instead of make, get it from a Welsh crafter and you're golden. The Welsh Lovespoon Centre in Llangollen have a nice collection, as do the Lovespoon Gallery in Swansea. As will others, those are just the two I have bought from before.

Anyway, have fun choosing!

[spoonmoment119]

minecraft babies

[garzagatos]

Who needs a bed when you have spoons?

[dollarstorefern]

*cough* if you hate amber volakis i hate you *cough* (just kidding!) (i’m not.)

[turtledotjpeg]

wip wednesdayyyyy because i liked this concept but cba to finish it nicely 😅

there's this one panel of shimano setting the table with maybe six or seven identical meals plus woble's baby food and bottle... pretty sure no one else is in 1014 besides oito, woble, shimano, and the guards at that point, so I think that means they all eat meals together? 🥺

[stanpinesfan0410]

hello. wings of fart inanimate insanity dump. I shall bring more soon. goodbye 🤑

[thepeacefulgarden]

[shakespearian-love]

Spooning with you ❦

[15-lizards]

Modern AU Bramie worst couple on gods green earth. She’s a college sophomore on a sports scholarship just trying to get through her classes. He works at Tywin Roy’s multi media empire bc nepotism and he sucks so hard at his job he couldn’t tell you his title. They met while she was on her daily 5 am jog outside of campus and found him hungover on a park bench after a two week bender with coke in his pocket and 30 missed calls and 55 suggestive texts from Cersei. She thinks he’s a bum but gives him her water bottle out of pity. They meet again a week later at some business soirée Tywin is throwing that Briennes dad got invited too and they meet eyes and immediately feel some kind of godawful connection they are Locked In now. He beelines over to her bc he subconsciously thinks she’s Mother Teresa but then verbally starts making fun of her for having a social climber daddy. She asks how his monthly detox at rehab was. They’re snippy with each other all night. A few days later she’s getting coffee with Sansa after class and she looks over to see who Briennes texting and goes why are you arguing with a thirty two year old man over his college sports highlight reels. Aaaaaand scene.