#love can be platonic or romantic and each is valuable so i don't want to see any fighting about it in the notes ok

[barrioghost]

Sydney Adamu & Carmy Berzatto | True Blue, boygenius

pt.1 | pt. 2

[oshinsimblr]

hey friends! i was unable to post all of my early access content bc i'm sick. but i was able to post this video, which in my honest opinion are the major features in this 'romance' pack.

IS IT WORTH $40?

DEPENDS ON HOW BADLY YOU NEED THESE FEATURES TBH.

this review is brought to you by the ea creator network. all of my opinions are my own. i must disclose this per FTC guidelines #ad.

*i do not cover everything in the pack, only the things that stood out for me lol. i'm sorry i'm not used to doing full reviews up here

the attraction system is helpful and expands dating (which is great, but we've had mods that could do this for some time: pick your poison). the romantic satisfaction is the star here. i love being able to create one sided relationships and actually take care of our romantic relationships with sims. this is a valuable feature for me!

cupid's corner is a nice "hey i don't need this mod" anymore type of feature. prior to this i was using lumpinou's meet & mingle which allowed me to meet with sims (platonic and romantic). i dislike that you can not write custom bio's for your sims. i love the way the app functions, i love saving sims and adding them to our rel. panel - and getting to know them through the phone first. i wish we could've defined our sims favorite music/foods/color etc.

i'll admit it, i'm a sucker for dynamics. family dynamics from the sims 4 growing together are so good (minus the fact that everyone wants to be f*cking jokesters after one joke lol). but i love them! they really do impact my sims relationships. the different romance dynamics are interesting. for example: a strained romance dynamic makes it VERY hard for your sims to communicate. it's like your sims will randomly hug each other, but then 5 secs later they're upset. they want to love each other so badly but they can't lol.

now onto random things that excited me. you can go to cupid's couples counseling. i did not know we'd actually be able to answer questions. these sims had a strained romance dynamic and it was so bad - the therapist suggested we come back. but when i tried to schedule it again, they were booked and i had to wait to schedule another appt. which is great, because in the meantime your sims are going downhill fast and you have to keep the peace until then (if you choose).

there are new pop ups and invites. there's even one for a reality dating show lol. you can turn these off in game settings. (if you're wondering, mr. landgrabb never showed up at the motel he wanted to meet at. he stood my sim up. don't judge me, i thought there was simoleons involved).

new crafted dates are cool. you can choose whatever you want to do on them. there's new social interactions based on the activities you choose. you can also invite other sims to these (double dates woohoo!) you can also create crafted hangouts. i like these, i got this cute picture as a reward after a succesful crafted hangout. if you're familiar with mws weddings, it's the same idea. except this works well and isn't as glitchy lol..

another random feature i never needed, but now i find it useful. you can create your own relationship label that will appear in the rel. panel

it's unfair how gorgeous this world is... because there's nothing to do. this is all set dressing.

you can declare your love here.. at the wall of love.

you can buy flowers or edible sweet treats at this shop in the background.

you can get local food here. there are 3 new dishes and spicy hot chocolate. now, i'm not mexican (the world is inspired by mexico) BUT 3 new foods isn't cutting it for me. technically only 2, because one is a vegan option. no pozole, enchiladas, guacamole, tamales?? i'm a foodie, so i take full offense to that.

you can woohoo or sleep at the motel.

you can travel.

go fishing or enjoy a swim.

sit here and chat.

view this for a moodlet.

travel again.

check in a penthouse.

there's a nightclub, gym and lounge. but you get the idea.. there's nothing culturally unique about this world which makes me sad. no festivals? i'd love seeing a mariachi band play at the lounge. something. otherwise, keep the world and add more features right? i would've loved table proposals (sims 2 anyone?). or frisky couch makeouts. so many missed opportunities here.

there's more i could say but i feel like this post should be a little helpful in deciding wether this is a pack you need right now, or wait for a sale! i personally love having a complete colection, so i've always wanted every expansion. though i recieve the pack for free, i owe you my honesty and i want to start doing blog/written content because it's easier to process my thoughts through the excitment. i will enjoy this pack, i do like it, and only time will tell as i integrate it with my current gameplay. i hope this was helpful!

* if you remember, use my code OSHINSIMS at checkout if you decide to purchase this pack. that way, at least i get a % of your purchase and EA doesn't get all your coins 😉

thank you! just keeping simming, always stay wavy, peace x

[batmanfruitloops]

Idk if this question I have was already explained but I’m curious is the relationship between Jo and Ed meant to be like a queer platonic type relationship thing? Or is it just simply meant to be found family and or just a friendship.

Apologies if this was already explained or if this is crossing a boundary and uncomfortable, I am just curious as a fellow aro who has a queer platonic relationship if that’s what Jo and Ed’s relationship was meant to be

It has been asked before, but that was a while ago so don't worry. You are not crossing a boundary either, you can ask us anything that's pg-13 basically. Found family is the best way to describe their relationship as they have essentially adopted each other as siblings. Both have been incredibly lonely for all/most of their lives and so have bonded to each other very strongly. I have had a handful of friendships where they become more like family so platonic relationships are very important to me. I know most people ship Scarecrow and Riddler as romantic partners and it's a funny and cute pairing sometimes. It just doesn't fit our version. They wouldn't consider themselves a QPR, nor do Sarsee or I consider them such.

Their relationship is heavily based on my own relationships and my values about relationships. I don't really like the sentiment of "more than friends," to me, it feels like it makes platonic relationships seem like a lesser relationship. I think all forms of love are equal, a romantic relationship in my eyes is just as valuable as a platonic relationship it's just a different way to love someone.

Just a couple of cards, these two.

They can't tell people how they met, and Ed can't lie. So Jo gets to make up whatever story he wants.

-Fluffy

[madlori]

I've been watching the 911 ship wars (let's face it; that's what this is we're both old enough to recognize that) via your posts and some other mutuals, and I just wanna say that on top of Buddie not being canon, fans insisting that it has to be takes away from a really meaningful and important platonic relationship between the two. This aggravates me for a couple of reasons, the primary one being that platonic love is just as important as romantic and it doesn't matter that they're not boyfriends because they don't have to be to be so important in each other's lives.

(The second reason is that we see so few relationships between a queer guy and a straight one that aren't played up like that and bi dudes deserve to have bros to and don't even get me going about the inherent ick in assuming a queer man is into his best friend because he's queer)

I HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR MONTHS. You're absolutely correct and this has been pointed out by a lot of people.

Even when I was still squarely on the Buddie train, I ALSO thought that the depiction of a platonic but loving, emotionally honest friendship between two men who shared feelings and supported each other's mental health was really valuable and not all that common. Ryan has also talked a lot about how important he thinks it is to continue to show this when one of the men in question is queer. They've also talked about NOT wanting to do that "queer man in love with his best friend" thing which I am 100% behind.

The fact that so many people can look at Buck and Eddie's bond and say things like "there's no non-romantic explanation for this!" makes is all the more important that there BE a non-romantic explanation. Nothing Buck and Eddie have been to each other falls outside the bonds of the close friendship they canonically have, it's just that people read romance into a friendship like that because there aren't a ton of examples of it.

[secretsoftheuniverse1987]

I need people to talk more about Dean and Garth's relationship in Supernatural. (Maybe they're already talking about it, but I want them to talk about it with me.) I think I've been thinking about this more in my current rewatch because my brother-in-law loves Garth so much (as he should), but honestly, I'm always thinking about it at least a little bit.

Y'all, that man named his twins after the two people Dean Winchester loves most in the world. I know it was played off as a joke that it was Sam and Cas instead of Sam and Dean, but it is actually so serious to me. The respect that Garth holds for Dean and that Dean comes to hold for Garth is something that I think is rare and valuable for both of them.

I know Garth gets away with a lot because he's just a Silly Little Guy and people don't always take him seriously, but the way that he and Dean interact is actually such a good example of a healthy platonic relationship between two men. I think Dean could have seriously benefitted by spending more time with Garth.

Their relationship is also such a good control to which we can juxtapose Dean's obviously-more-than-just-friends relationships with men on the show.

For an example, Dean and Garth hug in literally every episode they have together. Twice in 8.06 Southern Comfort and 15.10 The Heroes' Journey. And they're not all just casual greetings or farewells. Garth hugs Dean because he's a hugger but also because he knows Dean needs physical comfort and isn't getting it elsewhere (the hug at the end of Southern Comfort being a good example of this). Their hugging also demonstrates a level of increased comfort with each other (mostly on Dean's end) as their relationship develops, with the first one in 7.08 being awkward and not especially well received by Dean, and Dean eventually being the one to initiate in 9.12. But it's not romanticised or sexualised because they're so clearly not romantic or sexual.

Cas, despite being in almost 150 episodes and being around for three more seasons than Garth, and being Dean's "best friend", hugs Dean seven times throughout the whole show, which is literally THE SAME NUMBER OF HUGS. We see the same number of Dean and Garth hugs as we see Dean and Cas hugs. The difference is that when the two of them (Dean and Cas) hug, they tend to cling. They hold each other. They are physical with each other constantly in other ways, but don't bring each other to touch so fully except when they can excuse it with grief over one of them imminently dying, the relief of one of them narrowly escaping death, or some similar stakes. It means something more when they hug.

Even looking at Dean and Benny, we can see that their hugs follow a pattern more similar to Dean and Cas than Dean and Garth. They hug twice in Benny's seven episodes: once when they make it out of Purgatory and once before Dean kills Benny, sending him back to Purgatory. Both of these instances fall under near-death/escaping death scenarios. And Dean spends a lot of time intentionally distancing himself from Benny (largely because of Sam), but when they are together, they display a certain degree of physical closeness (not to the degree of Dean and Cas but, really, who does) that Dean and Garth don't have.

There's more to be said about how the absence of this intimacy in Dean's homoerotic relationships is a tool of his denial and obviously hugging is only one metric by which we can compare these relationships, but that's all for now I guess.

[trapped-in-the-valley]

My open letter to the Moomin fandom

cw: swearing. Not a lot of it, but it's there.

I don't know if I'll ever actually post this, but I need to get this written down because I just can't with this fandom anymore and I need to get my emotions out somehow.

Before I actually get into it, I want to make one thing clear. This is not a personal attack against anyone. You are allowed to have your own opinions, to ship who you like, to do whatever you want to, really (try to stay on the legal side tho), just like I have the right to the very same things.

You can disagree with me, you can even tell me just how much you disagree with me, as long as you stay kind and respectful about it. That's just how people work. We're not gonna agree on everything, and that's fine. Great even. Otherwise the world would be a very boring place.

Mostly, I love this fandom. The people are very open and welcoming and the vibes are absolutely top notch. There are a lot of very skilled and passionate people here who fill this fandom with joy and life and creativity.

But ever since I first joined this fandom, there has been a certain attitude on here concerning Snufmin, the most popular ship in this fandom (for understandable reasons), that has irked me every time I came accross it in any form.

"Well, obviously they're more than just friends, you have to be blind not to see that."

I hate that fucking phrase so much.

Now, before I start going into my biggest problem with this wide-spread attitude, I'm gonna look at that expression for a second. "more than just friends."

Usually I try not to get snagged on phrases like this, because it's really just a common expression (even I use it occasionally. probably.) and people probably don't mean it that way, but in this specific case it's actually relevant to the larger problem, so bear with me for a bit.

"More than just friends" explicitly implies a sort of ranking or hierachy. That romantic love is inherently more valuable than platonic love. It devalues platonic relationships despite the fact that they're actually equal to romantic relationships.

This is a very important point here. Equality. I am not trying to put either of them above the other. In my opinion, neither of them is more important than the other. They're just two of the many ways you can express your love for someone. Both of them can be equally deep and important.

Okay, it's time to finally take a look at the actualy contents of this phrase. The part of the attitude that has been chipping away at me for the past few years until the dam finally burst.

It's not a secret that, while they're incredibly close, Snufkin and Moomin are not canonically a romantic couple. Now, would Tove have made Moomintroll and Snufkin explicitly a couple if she had lived in a time where that would have been possible? Maybe. We'll never know, since we can't exactly ask her anymore.

But regardless of Tove's intentions, what we ended up with is this beautifully ambigous relationship, that could be anything, really.

The relationship is beautiful. It's close and trusting and endless and admiration and adoration and written in the fabric of the fucking universe. But it's not defined.

It's very fitting for a relationship that serves as an allegory for longing to be that way.

Longing isn't defined, it's complicated and deep, and everyone feels it differently and it can be felt regardless of what kind of relationship you have with the person or the place or the thing you're longing for, which is why the ambiguity of their feelings for each other and the deep love and complex emotions they feel is a perfect representations of a very complicated emotion.

Now, to make one thing clear: I'm not bashing anyone for shipping these two. Again, the relationship is ambigous, and a romantic reading of the source text is just as valid as a platonic one or everything in between.

There's a lot to like, and they make for a very compelling ship.

My problem is with the people who act like Snufmin is the foregone conclusion. The only valid interpretation.

The people who don't tag their fanfics as Snufmin because "It's basically cannon."

The people who post stuff about how you have to be stupid not to see that they're obviously a couple. How the people who prefer a platonic reading are willfully ignorant or blind to the elephant in the room.

Maybe it's the aromantic in me, the person who was told growing up again and again that that you had to find romantic love to be complete, that was made to feel like something was wrong with me because I didn't.

The kid who was told "they must be more than friends."

Who was made to feel like platonic love, the only kind of love I felt, was inherently less valuable, less cherishable than the romantic kind.

So yeah, maybe it's the aromantic in me, but I haven't been a huge shipper ever since when I was around 18. I'm not anti-shipping, but when I'm in a fandom most ships just end up on a scale from vaguely positive to vaguely negative for me, with most of them ending up in the neutral zone.

I'm not gonna seek out any content of the ship specifically, but a good piece of fanart is a good piece of fanart and a fanfic with an interesting storyline intrigues me, regardless of whether or not it has a ship in it.

Snufmin was on the upper end of this scale for me when I first joined the fandom. Not even neutral, but vaguely positive. They're really cute together, to the point where I'd actually seek out content specifically for it being Snufmin (There's some really cute animatics out there. 10/10. would recommend) and even came up with an entire AU based around the ship.

But as the years went on, and the comments and untagged fanfics and this fucking attitude in the entire fandom went on and on and on, it all started piling up. Chipping away at me. Discomfort started to settle in, and I felt more and more uncomfortable, less welcomed in a fandom that used to be a source of comfort for me.

I started to hate this fucking ship. Genuine hatred, which is a rare thing for me. I guess I blamed it for the loss of something dear to me.

It got to the point where I left this fandom almost entirely, only staying tethered to it through the fact that I still enjoyed and consumed the source material.

I've been getting better about it recently, slowly finding my way back through the things I originally found joy in while trying to avoid everything else best as I can, but that's my personaly journey and I'm not going to bore you with the details. Just know that the hatred is gone, with only occasional annoyance left.

The attitude that caused it though, isn't. It's still there, just as it was back then.

Again, I'm not telling you to stop shipping Snufmin. I get it. It's a great ship and I'm glad you find joy in it.

But the next time you post about it, try not to devalue the just as valid platonic love these two can feel for each other.

I'd appreciate it, and while it's probably not the most popular opinion, I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one.

Thank you if you read this basically-a-breakdown until here. It genuinely means a lot to me.

All your best,

Trapped-in-the-valley

PS: Tag you fucking fanfics. Please.

[bred-is-a-dumb-name]

Okay. So. Hot take? Ig? But. I keep seeing people on here talking abt how kazuki and rei can't be seen as a QPR, that they act too explixitly romantic and are definitely dating married and fucking. They wear each others clothes, slept in the same bed, and are raising a child together. Etc etc.

And, look, I'll be the first to say, I do adore those two as a couple-i think they're adorable and personally do wanna believe they'll get together at the end, but like. It's not guaranteed thats how the shows gonna end. And also-there's no reason they can't be a QPR?

Like, yall do realize QPRs can be just as close and loving as a romantic relationship, right? It isn't just "bro" stuff, it's different than if you were just friends, you would even call the person your partner, just platonic partner not romantic partner?

QPRs can and do get married, adopt children, and yes even in some cases have sex. Like there's very little difference between a QPR and a romantic relationship. And as an ace/aro person I think the concept that platonic relationships are less loving or less valuable is just a very amatonormative/heteronormative idea.

Again, I love them as a romantic couple, but if someone views them as platonic that doesn't make the relationship they have any less caring or loving, just a different kind of caring and loving. And this romantic elitism is rlly annoying ngl. Like bro it's a headcanon. Let people see them how they want. Its not queer erasure if the characters aren't even canonically together. Also they'd still be queer. That's what the Q in QPR stands for. Also bc it's usually for aromantic headcanons. Which is still very queer.

Idk, I just needed to say this bc I keep seeing ppl get mad at QPR headcanons bc they don't know QPRs are different than friendships. And I just wanted to say my piece. K thnx that's it lmao--

[ineffable-doll]

Shipping is so much more FUN when you're aspec.

I'm not super fandom savvy, having only ever been active in one of them in any meaningful way, but I am familiar with the online culture surrounding shipping fictional characters together. Something I've personally witnessed is that the thinking around platonic v.s. romantic is extremely binary; a relationship can be one or the other, and a platonic relationship is the failing outcome if you, as an audience member, preferred the latter. This reflects much broader societal thinking, so it makes sense that most people approach shipping this way.

However, when you're aspec (anywhere on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrums), this idea doesn't necessarily apply. Suddenly, platonic and romantic are not opposing ideas, they're just two potential options on a very, very wide sliding scale / multi-dimensional graph wherein the significance of a relationship is completely disconnected from its label.

A huge part of shipping culture (again, just from what I've witnessed) is that Explicit Confessions and/or an onscreen mouth kiss are necessary to make a ship canon, and that not happening means Your Ship Isn't Canon And Therefore Isn't Important or Valuable (and gets used as a way of invalidating other people's ships). However, for a lot of aspec folks (and others, of course), romance is not automatically more valuable than friendship, and an end goal for a particular character dynamic becomes a lot less about fulfilling A, B, and C to verify the couple as "real" in the eyes of the mainstream or even the fandom as a whole, and instead is more about wanting to see characters happily in one another's presence. Specifics vary wildly case to case, so I'm gonna leave that fairly broad.

Ultimately, I have found myself shipping characters in the usual way less and less as I've learned more about my own aspec identity and experience. I care less if characters kiss; I care less if characters declare three little words...though I also am very familiar with the history of queer erasure and definitely root for explicitly romantic queer rep. And all this doesn't mean I don't have couples I support - I very much do. But whether their relationship is specifically romantic matters very little to me, with rare exceptions. (In fact, I often find myself "shipping" characters platonically - seeing a couple that would make great best friends being forced along standard, heterosexual romantic beats.) Mostly, I want the characters I ship to be around each other, to support each other, and to love each other in whatever capacity is fulfilling to their arcs and to the narrative.

Or, to put this all in a more digestible meme format:

Allos: If the couple doesn't kiss then the ship isn't canon

Me: but have you considered that the real kiss was the friends we made along the way?

[imitationgame77]

What is Aromanticism???

Here on Tumblr, I see many posts mentioning aroace, aromantic, queer-platonic, etc., and I have been trying to understand, but still find it difficult.

If a person describes self as aromantic (= have no experience of romantic feelings towards others), this is fine. It is subjective definition, so must be respected.

But I don't know what it means when a relationship between two individuals is just described as aromantic, I don't know how to interpret that, unless there are more descriptions.

It is almost like dividing all the fruits into apple and non-apple. We can accept that it is NOT an apple, but then what is it?

Obviously, if we are talking about two individuals who can agree on their interpersonal relationship, that is fine. But when there is not necessarily agreement between the two participating individuals, how do the outsiders know?

Even more so, if these are fictional characters.

An American psychologist Robert Sternberg developed the famous "Triangular Theory of Love" in 1980s, where he characterised love between individuals with 3 factors: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. When these are combined you get 7 types of love. (Liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, and non-love).

Generally, passion is interpreted as related to physical/sexual attraction.

So, if you see two individuals who seem to like each other a lot, but remove Passion from the picture, you are left with either "Liking" or "Companionate Love".

Companionate love is great for long-term relationship where the excitement is gone, but trust, caring feeling and understanding are still there. But I feel uncertain about calling ALL the GREAT relationships minus the Passion part as just "companionate". Something feels missing.

Why can we not call that excitement when you get to know someone and you just click? Instant chemistry, and you know that this person is going to be a great friend to you. Sometimes you can get infatuated with your new friend.

Friend or best friend are also good terms, but they don't encapusulate the specialness - some people have lots of best friends. (Or so they say.) Sometimes, there is a sense of exclusivity - resulting in jealousy when a third party comes along.

I wish there is a term to describe a relationship where two individuals care for each other greatly, can understand and accept each other with all the differences and irritating bits about each other, so special and valuable that do not want to lose each other, and gain greatest pleasure in each other's company above everything else.

I think it is possible to have this without sexual or physical attraction, can even have other friends or sexual relationships elsewhere. But this is THE most significant relationship that transcends everything else.

When people see some of these traits, we tend to think of them romantic. Even when we do not expect them to have relationships like lovers do. Because we see chemistry, bond, trust and everything that we desire. Maybe, the same brain areas that process very romantic things respond in a similar way.

I see this in Holmes and Watson (original), Sherlock and John (BBC Sherlock), House and Wilson (House, MD), Myron Bolitar and Win (Harlan Coben's Myron Bolitar series), and recently, Murderbot and ART. (That used to include Aziraphale and Crowley while their passion bit was subtext)

I don't imagine them in sexual or other physically intimate relationships, but the special bond between each of these pairs feels romantic. Because they are so special.

I need a simple word. Not a word meaning "not-something"...

[kxttsstuff]

Showing 💗Love💗 and that you ✨Care✨ in Borrower manners.

(These will be listed in very ambiguous contexts, platonic or romantic (unless stated otherwise) for my own convention)

🫀;; Borrowers tend to be a little clumsy when expressing affection, this is because they rarely would interact with strangers and even more so with humans. If a borrower didn't tell you verbally how much they enjoy your presence, it might not be because they like you less but rather because they aren't used to it, and resort to their cultural practices which send the message just as well if not better;

���;; In a culture where taking things is not only good but encouraged, one could only imagine that sharing means caring. Sharing your resources which are so valued, is a form of saying “I understand what you're going through and I want to make your life easier” in a subtle way. In most human cultures, sharing things is more about common sense and courtesy taught since childhood, while borrowers consider it a display of empathetic affection since they don't feel socially pressured to share with someone nor expect people to share their things with them just because.

💌;; Talking about sharing, we must speak about gifting culture as a universal borrower “I love you”. Gifting is an act of love, and even though they appreciate all kinds of gifts, they seem to prefer gifting and receiving things that can give the other a practical advantage. We can sum the most common gifts in two categories; food or warmth. Some borrowers might also find joy in receiving things that they sometimes have to leave behind, like shiny objects.

💌;; Hand-crafted, practical gifts are extremely good for bonding since they hold a sentimental value as well as a survivalist one. For example, it is very common to give blankets, scarves or warm meals. Borrowers appreciate someone taking their valuable time to make something for someone else, so they could find little to no value in the expensive, superficial gifts humans give to each other.

💌;; Although this is highly personal, since borrowers seek warmth, a lot of them deeply enjoy hugs, as well as snuggling or sleeping in groups to share the warmth. Physical contact is a show of affection on its own, but there's also subtle ways to display it, like touching foreheads.

💌;; One thing humans might just not get at the first time, is how borrowers are incredibly mindful of space, their perceptive nature makes them able to sense when to get out of the place, and that includes sentimental situations. Although of course there are exceptions, a common answer to a human yelling at them is to simply walk away. This might look rude but it is actually a way for them to not overwhelm you. So of course when a human unconsciously mimics this behavior, it is often well received.

💌;; Validation. Borrowers long for people to understand them, and that not only includes when they're crying or having a bad day, but also when people cheer their passions and dreams outside of survivalism topics. For example, a borrower artificer that likes making cool things wants to hear people be delighted with their small tricks, rather than to be told they're a waste of time.

💌;; Knowledge! Of course, learning and teaching being a huge part of their culture, a lot of them might be delighted to hear their human friend ramble about how the unknown world works for them, and for them to teach about the borrower's ways in exchange. This could be a show of them genuinely caring, since a lot of the knowledge humans could give to borrowers wouldn't prove to be useful in their day-to-day context.

[augenblicklich-lila]

cod incorrect quotes #9

This one has a few more quotes since I haven't posted in a couple days. I've been enjoying this whole thing tremendously. Thank you for all the likes and reblogs! Love y'all ♡

the usual jazz, mainly Y/N/Reader stuff, platonic and romantic. Plus a sprinkle of Soapghost ♡♡♡

first speaking appearance for Graves! who'd have thunk? about time. In my defense, I had to do a lot of scrolling to get to him, okay?

- Lila

・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.✭・♛ ♛ （ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)つ━━✫・*。 ⊂　　 ノ 　　　・゜+. しーーＪ　　　°。+ *´¨)

・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.✭・♛

Soap, tending to Y/N's wounds: How would you rate your pain? Y/N: Zero stars. Would NOT recommend. Ghost: In light of what you did for me, you can hug me for four to five seconds. Y/N: FORTY-FIVE SECONDS?!? Ghost: No! Four to five seconds! Soap: Too late!!!

Y/N: If you were to vacuum up jello through a metal tube, well I think that’d be a neat noise. Ghost: I beg to differ. Y/N: Then Beg. (imagining the silence that would follow this brings me great joy)

Gaz: Are you an ‘arr’ pirate, or a ‘yo ho ho’ pirate? Y/N: I’m a ‘I’m not paying $600 for photoshop’ pirate.

Ghost: Soap and I have the kind of easy chemistry where we finish each other's- Soap: Sentences. Ghost: Don't interrupt me.

Graves: I was arrested for being too cool. Y/N: The charges were dropped due to a lack of supporting evidence. (a wild Graves appears!)

Y/N: I learned some very valuable lessons from this. Gaz: I’m guessing they are all horrible distortions on the lessons you actually should’ve taken away. Y/N: Death isn’t real, and I’m basically God.

Y/N: I've already sent good vibes your way… they’re coming. There’s nothing you can do to stop them. Soap: This is the most threatening way I’ve ever been cheered up.

Y/N: Walking into a room Sorry I’m late… I was… doing things. Sounds of running footsteps progressively getting louder Graves: Out of breath THEY PUSHED ME DOWN THE FUCKIN’ STAIRS.

Y/N: I prevented a murder today. Ghost, raising an eyebrow: Really? How’d you do that? Y/N: self-control.

Ghost & Soap: Please, we're begging you to go to a doctor. Y/N: I'm sorry is this OUR stab wound? Stay out of it.

Y/N: You're the love of my life and my best friend, I would do anything for you. Gaz: I want you to eat three meals a day and have a decent sleep schedule. Y/N: Absolutely not.

Y/N: I made tea. Ghost: I don’t want tea. (bold-faced lie) Y/N: I did not make tea for you. This is my tea. Ghost: Then why are you telling me? Y/N: It is a conversation starter. Ghost: That’s a lousy conversation starter. Y/N: Oh, is it? We are conversing. Checkmate.

Soap: I turned out perfectly fine! Price: Soap, this morning you thought a ghost made your toast. Soap: I DIDN’T PUT THE BREAD IN! YOU DIDN’T PUT THE BREAD IN!!! Y/N, leaning over to whisper to Gaz: should we tell him it was actually Ghost? Gaz: nah Rudy: So he thinks a ghost made it, when it was actually our Ghost? Y/N: beautifully ironic, isn't it?

König: I’m going to take you out Y/N: great, it’s a date! König: I meant that as a threat. Y/N: See you at five! (god, I need to be taken out as well.)

・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.✭・♛ 　 ∧＿∧ （｡･ω･｡)つ━☆・*。 ⊂　　 ノ 　　　・゜+. しーＪ　　　°。+ *´¨) “Hie thee home, little wanderer.”

・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.・゜✭・.・✫・゜・。..・。.✭・♛

[belong2human-kind]

I just LOVE how all these times, being a Sabine and Ezra shipper, I would imagine this fluff stuff of Sabine wearing his clothes daily because... have you ever borrowed a male clothing before??? Like any??? THEY ARE SO COMFORTABLE

And ofc, to give it some sniffs too because THE SCENT OF THE PERSON YOU stole it BORROWED FROM IS THERE, and you will genuinely feel so close to them. And this isn't strictly related to lovers, no, it can be anyone who you have a strong bond and relationship. I've had my best friends (male, female, nb, all my closest ones) clothes and when I'd miss them too much, I'd give their clothes hugs and sniffs, but I won't lie that this surely happens waaaay more and more frequently with my boyfriend.

And yes, I made THOUSANDS of unfinished fics (promise I'll post them here or on Ao3 someday) where Sabine will walk around with his shirts, pants, jackets and everything she can while he is still around to tease her bc of it and ESPECIALLY since he went missing, where she is just using to feel more close to him now that he is gone and guess what???

Tell me this isn't one of his long sleeve shirts! It's TOTALLY HIS! I mean, why wouldn't it be??? She is living in HIS OLD HOME, his refuge and shelter during all the worst times of his life, his safe place to meditate and be alone with his self, with the memory of their parents who used to fight against the empire using the communication tower, the area he keeps his helmet collection, sleeps in, keep valuable things from his past, a place so meaningful to him and SHE IS LIVING THERE LIKE HE LEFT IT FOR HERE TO DECLARE HER OWN, GUYS SHE MADE IT HER OWN HOME!

She lives in his home, has his saber, painting a huge wall in memory of him so she could STROKE GENTLY HIS CHEEKS (yeah don't say that during the epilog was the first time she ever done that, I won't buy it) and also spent 10 years taking care of everything he loved and gave his life to protect, his planet and people, like SHE WAS ONE OF THEM! Like they almost meant to her as much as it meant for him. Also, should I keep going and say that her pass time is to turn on the holocron to re-watch his message with the white loth-cat she just adopted??? The one creature that was the most connected to this man????

She for sure is wearing his clothes. She seems to be wanting to be a part of him, just like when she painted a Loth-Cat, the white Loth-Cat on the core of her phoenix symbol. It's like what @jessicas-pi said about the mandalorian's marriage vows, like she want her and him to be one, together or apart, one.

And I am so happy because I've been imagining this happening in my headcanons since the end of the series, listening to the song Hoodie, and now this song and this gift, man, they give me life. I need to see them reunite as much as I need food to survive.

And if they won't turn out as a romantic couple like a lot of people want, I'll be sad but conformed with platonic because in my head they will always be canon, they will always be the best f*cking duo and partners I ever seem. Their connection is stronger than a kiss in screen, and although I'd live and love to see that, they don't need it. They never needed to be so linked with each other, to be so in sync. They do love each other in a way that maybe we can't even label or describe, and that's for sure.

They may never be romantic, but they surely are one, together or apart, they are one! 💙🧡💜🤍

[sillycoffeewizard]

Hi everyone, and today I thought I'd share with you my new headcanons about John Titor !!

I remind you that I make no claim to the canonicity of my opinion, and it's all just a creation of my imagination <3

It would be challenging for her to connect with someone who doesn't understand her speech and/or is distant from programming. Therefore, she often spends time alone with her computer. However, if you manage to make a good impression on her initially, she'll translate some of her phrases for you using her computer. If you decide to learn hexadecimal code, she would highly appreciate it. She'll feel more comfortable with you if you both understand each other.

Considering she calls herself a time traveler, it can be assumed she would enjoy telling you about the different time periods she has visited. Whether you believe it or not, just listen to her. Don't mock her, refrain from sarcastic comments, and jokes at her expense; it could hurt her. Let her know you're listening.

Perhaps, she has a strong interest in time travel. She enjoys learning various theories and articles, possibly creating her own theories on making time travel possible. She would likely share her knowledge and thoughts on this topic with you frequently. And your conversations with her will revolve around that topic.

The same can be said about her interest in computers, programming, and various technical equipment.

She likes cookies with chocolate chips inside. Also, she enjoys dipping the cookie in milk until it becomes soft, then eating it.

Aesthetically, she likes when food is presented in small boxes. Although not a fan of sweets, she finds it cute if a pastry is in a small box tied with a ribbon.

She might like tea with milk, although initially, she may be puzzled by the fact that someone actually mixes these things.

She drinks coffee with milk and no other way. Coffee without milk is too bitter for her. She often drinks too much coffee to ward off sleepiness.

She can consume alcohol, but very little and very rarely, only when offered by some colleagues, and she agrees out of politeness and to some extent curiosity. She dislikes the taste of alcohol, but liqueur seems pleasant if prepared correctly. She hates the feeling of intoxication.

If you want to invite her somewhere, invite her to a cafe in the first half of the day. I think she would order coffee with milk and an omelet, but she might be surprised that they don't serve just milk or the omelet is served differently here.

She's not picky about food, yet she cooks for herself because she knows her own tastes and preferences. If you want to cook for her, tell her about it, and don't mess up during cooking. She won't be mad if you make a mistake; she'll just start redoing everything her way.

You need to be very close to her for her to cook something for both of you, but she'll do it in her usual way if you don't tell her your food preferences.

Honestly, I can't imagine her in romantic relationships with anyone. I think she can only love platonically, and it will take a lot of time. She'll gradually get to know you and trust you, which may pose some challenges for her. In this regard, she is very cautious.

If you intentionally mistreat her, no matter the offense, she will leave immediately. She won't talk to you, and you won't see her again (I forbid yall to hurt her)

She has no interest in intimate closeness at all. She has no desire for it. She has never thought about it, and she sees no point in it. For her, it's something strange, grounded, and possibly even dirty, a pointless waste of time. She considers intelligence and extensive knowledge the only primary and very valuable things. Focus on genius.

She's not very tactile. She doesn't need it.

Don't touch her hair under any circumstances; she hates it. She'll get angry and distance herself from you.

Don't touch any parts of her body, ESPECIALLY without her permission. Although she is likely to not allow you to do so if you ask.

She believes hands are only for work. But perhaps, if she trusts you completely, she may let you hold hands with her. But not for long.

Her hugs are very, very rare. They are short, almost imperceptible, but that doesn't mean they are insincere. If she allows it, you can hug her while she's busy, like coding on her computer.

She's not good at humor, so she's unlikely to understand your jokes. Perhaps, she knows a couple of very ancient jokes that everyone finds unfunny. Charisma is not her strong suit.

She likes music from the '70s and '80s. She listens to various songs while driving her Corvette through the city at night.

Such trips are her favorite activity. As soon as night falls, she gets behind the wheel of her Corvette and just drives random routes. She returns shortly before morning. Because of this, she almost always sleeps very little.

That's it for now! Hope you like what I've come up with. Love yourself and John Titor <3

1 picture is the original

2 picture is my silly little sketch!!

[sometipsygnostalgic]

16 for the violence ask game 🔪

Thank you Jagm, I can always count on you to choose violence.

16 - you can't understand why so many people like this thing (characterization, trope, headcanon, etc)

This is a hard one to answer because I absolutely understand why people like most things, at least in the things I enjoy. I consider myself to be very good at analysing what makes media and even fanfic feel good.

The main problem is that my answer deeply ties to every other question on this bloody post!!!!

But with She-ra, this largely ties into romance.

With Entrapdak I don't like the Suave Hordak trope. To me he's not suave at all, I don't like it when he calls Entrapta "Starlight" which is a popular thing people came up with. I prefer a straight up abundance of autism with my Entrapdak. Hordak calls Entrapta "Entrapta." and Entrapta calls him "Hordak!!!!" and nicknames are for losers.

With Catradora I don't like that people remove Catra's fangs. This is probably my answer to every damn question on that post. Why do people mischaracterize Catra as a pathetic little blorbo who is a victim of everything and is mildly tsundere. This is what Hordak should be-- okay ignore that, I have my own issues with Hordak's blorbification especially in canon-compliant fanfic. But in fanfic AU scenarios, people love working with S5 Catra in her final form, they don't bother touching on dysfunctional earlier show Catra, nevermind her S4 self. If I write a Catra-focused AU I think I'm going to focus on that broken version of her.

What is the obsession with characters having kids? Okay I know that we are all gay and gay people having kids is a fantasy but, fucking hell, raising kids is HARD. I don't think "this relationship is so much richer because they had children who look like a cursed crossover of both characters". You can agree with me on that one, right Jagm?

Oh and finally I don't like that everyone has decided the romance is UNAMBIGUOUSLY set in stone. I blame Nate somewhat for this because he basically word-of-god canonized all the unconfirmed romances. But specifically I think of Entrapdak. It's a good reading but it doesn't need to be romantic to still be one of the most amazing dynamics in the show. Same for Scorfuma, a lot of doors have been opened for them and I'm sure they're falling in love, but it doesn't mean they'll settle down immediately and have flower babies. Queerplatonic relationships are good and valuable too, as is intense platonic love. These characters still prioritise each other.

With Adventure Time, it's the way everyone wants Finn to have a GF at the end. Who gives a fuck!!!! The entire point was Finn learning about his own strengths and weaknesses without fixating on the next girl. He is now able to stand on his own two feet and he isn't going to wallow in misery because he isn't smooching someone. After all, Jake is his soulmate, nobody else.

[lemonluvgirl]

What's the reasons you ship Everlark? Please tell me all things you like from Katniss and Peeta ❤

Thank you.

@everlarkshipper

Ok first, I like their relationship because Katniss is written as a real girl with real problems. I like that Peeta is also written as a nontypical romantic lead. Katniss' relationships with the men in her life are complicated, and of course there's the whole symbolic thing with peace (Peeta) and vengeance/retribution (Gale) that Collins tried to convey, but honestly the only person who seems to understand that Kantiss is struggling too much with everything to even consider a relationship during all the shit she's going through, is Peeta Mellark.

I mean, just gets her you know. They've been through hell and yeah he thought they had fallen in love, but he realizes that they were both trying to survive. And he tells her she saved them and she doesn't owe him her feelings or her heart in book 2.

(Ok, yes, the dude does have a small pity party after the train tracks scene at the end of book 1. But I don't even think that Katniss is the main reason for that. I think she's the catalyst. Losing his leg, and surviving a gladatorial contest to the death where he had to fight other kids his age, and genetically engineered monsters, and losing his sense of identity and security, was most likely the MAIN reason he pulled back from everyone and everything during those 6 months before the Victory Tour.)

But he came to terms with everything and became the friend Kantiss needed.

Tell me what person out there is willing to say, yeah you know what, after everything we've been through it sucks that you don't feel the same as me, but I'm willing to work with you to save the lives of our families and we can still be friends. I'm not gonna hold it against you because we're both in this shitty situation and I'm gonna make the most of it, for both our sakes.

Peeta is just so aware of the stakes, and the effect that holding onto pain and anger has on a person. Even when Katniss hurts his feelings, he still doesn't let it break him. That is something I admire.

And Katniss, for as much as she denies it and lies to herself she's just totally gone for Peeta. From Book 1.

She knows he's her kryptonite. His kindness, his overall nature just gets to her, gets under her skin and her defenses and she is literally willing to KILL with a capitol MURDER anyone who tries to hurt Peeta or take him away from her.

There's this one line in a fanfic, one of my favorite Peeta POVs, where Peeta talks about the moment he realizes Katniss has feelings for him after they kiss on the beach in Catching Fire.

So, this is what it means to be loved by Katniss Everdeen. It is to be protected and covered with every inch of her life.

I think that sums it up for me about why they work together. Because Kantiss is the consummate protector/provider for those she loves and she says things in her actions that she could almost never say with words. And Peeta understands this in a way others don't. He SEES her. He leans to speak Katnisseese.

And he appreciates her. In a way Gale really doesn't because Gale needs the validation of her words, and needs Katniss choosing him over everything because to Gale that's what love is. All or nothing.

But for Peeta love is like the rest of the world, its like people, imperfect and complicated, it comes in all shades and all colors. Its precious and valuable even if its platonic. Even if its not exactly what he wants, he still sees the goodness and value of being in a relationship with Katniss, without romantic feelings, because HE loves her, unconditionally. Its doesn't matter if she returns his feelings because he doesn't need her to love him back romantically for their love to be validated. Its just is. Its its thing that doesn't need labels, or ultimatums, or a dramatic confession to be real. They care so deeply for each other, in so many ways, that its more than just a plain love story.

It transcends that. It's what two people who would lay down everything for the other looks like. Its deeper than what your normal two 16 year olds experience. Their love is refined in the fire, to bring in some biblical imagery. Their hearts are purified by the crucible of the Games and the countless tests and trials they endure, and they come out the other side, broke but pure. Burned but reduced to their core elements.

For Peeta that's empathy and compassion. For Katniss that's safeguarding and preserving. From there they rebuild themselves and each other and grow their love up from the literal ashes of their lives.

Because after everything they survived the seed of their love for each other thrives in peace and blooms when all the pressure is removed from their lives.

And that's why I love them, your honor.

[thenightdayblogger]

3, 7, and 10 for the couple of your choosing if you’re taking these!!

thank you for the ask ken! couple ask game here (x) im using my original characters, cordelia and marius also this got so. so massively long sorry i feel like i was possessed x

3. By contrast, what was the moment that first made their ~heart~ Soft for the other person? Not necessarily a conscious realization of “I love this person,” but a moment that had them like “Oh...I adore them...”

Marius and Cordelia's early relationship took work (after a period in which they just didn't like each other), they both had to make the conscious effort at first to engage positively with the other, in a way that didn't come natural to them. I think that the first things that could be considered romantic affection rather then platonic were;

Cordelia: There's a scene I have in mind where Marius makes the assumption that Cordelia would marry for advantage, and when asked why, methodically lays out his reasoning (she's practical, she wants access to aristocratic titles and wealth, nobles often don't marry for love so she'd be able to leverage her skill to marry higher then she might have otherwise). and hes right LMAO. I think that Cordelia is both embarrassed of and fiercely defensive of her calculation, which is a little too much to get into here, but having someone not pass a value judgment, while simultaneously acknowledging her skill as an alchemist is enough for her to start looking at him in a different light.

Marius: I think their back-and-forth, argument/banter about alchemy was really what set off the whole thing, water on stone deal. that her mask slips off and she's passionate and determined and bitingly witty. either that or the first time she said something perfectly polite with a :) that just makes the entire thing extremely cutting. loved that. probably praised it on the carriage ride home.

7. Do they (or would they) pursue the other character’s affection, and if so, how? Do they tell the other character how they feel? Try to earn their admiration? Woo them with romantic gestures? Flirt with them, skillfully or otherwise?

Cordelia: related to the question below, but yeah there are a lot of conflicting factors for Cordelia. Publicly, people who know her very well are the only ones who could tell there's anything going on (not applicable to marius who has not been in enough social situations for anyone to accurately quantify if he's acting weird or not), and talking about alchemy's probably the one place she might slip. The massive class disparity is part of it, and while their relationship is one of equals/partners, she is technically his apprentice. I don't know if she flirts, per se, but she's definitely the main driver of romantic interactions. she can only handle so much pining this woman is goal-oriented.

Marius: marius figures out cordelia is in love with him when she says 'im in love with you' and kisses him. when he realized he was in love with her i think he lay face-down on the floor for eight hours, and every time he interacted with her over the next two weeks he had to take a breather after. so. no.

10. What scares them about entering a relationship?

Cordelia: relationships in general, having feigned some part of herself that makes them care about her. this relationship in particular—all her work being dismissed/insinuations cast that she slept her way to the top. Also, it going badly and losing the one other alchemist she's ever felt like treated her as an equal and someone with interesting and valuable insight.

Marius: that if she knew everything about him she'd never speak to him again

thank you again for the ask ken <3