#live in spite of and not because of fear
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wAIT, why are people calling people with ocd npd and bpd dangerous and scary??? that is not okay???? I am not diagnosed with these things so I am not able to properly speak into this but how would you like it if I called you āscaryā or ādangerousā because you are on the spectrum and you couldnāt help but throw things in response to not being able to properly communicate or regulate their emotions, or my younger brother has issues regulating his emotions due to suffering substance abuse in the womb heļæ½ļæ½ļæ½s not fcking dangerous because he has a problem and youāre uncomfortable or donāt know how to handle it properly.
A little reminder that the "scary" neurodivergents belong in the community too. The ones with intrusive thoughts. The ones who seem self-centered.
The people with ocd, bpd, npd. Stuff like that. They belong here too.
#Iām done with this#neurodivergent#neurodiversity#like oh my gosh I can rant about this and how so fcking frustrated this makes me feel#Yes I know there can be danger risks with some disorders#bUT COME ON PEOPLE#REALLY#CALLING IT SCARY#GROW THE FCK UP#JUST SAY YOURE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH IT AND ADMIT THAT YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE INTERACTIONS WITH THESE PEOPLE#ITS OK TO ADMIT DEFEAT#IT IS NOT OKAY TO BE AN ASSHOLE AND EXCLUDE OR#OSTRACIZE PEOPLE#donāt treat people like the plague just because they make you āuncomfyā#yes I understand both sides#TO AN EXTENT#take care of your mental health and all#BUT DONT BE THIS IMMATURE ABOUT IT#(talking to all the people out there who call certain disorders scary or dangerous when they donāt have it#Hope that everyone with these disorders is doing well and finding positive and healthy ways to live life in spite of this disorder#live in spite of and not because of fear#I am not afraid of Retinitis Pigmentosa#I live on spite#Sorry this may have gotten a bit rant-y#Iām just very incredibly passionate about disorders and neurodivergency#because one I am neurodivergent#like at the baby level with ADD and anxiety#but as mentioned before I do have Retinities Pigmentosa#which is an eye disease#but still
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And if I said lucanis's and spites major conflict comes from lucanis shutting down and refusing to experience life out of fear. That lucanis not fulfilling their deal is out of refusing to live and not revenge. That spite desperately wants lucanis to live. What then
#OUGHHH I have THOUGHTS abt them....#im gonna finish the game obviously before i say anything more but#to me#one of the most important lines is spite telling rook lucanis was not fufilling their deal#because they had agreed to get out#get revenge#and LIVE#abd 2/3 of those have been completed by the time this conversation happens#lucanis is still refusing to live!!!#out of fear of spite and what he has become!!#and spite is SPITEFUL over the fact that he has an oppertunity to live life again and love and explore ans fewl#feel#and he is refusing to do so!!#lucanis when i fuckng get you#dragon age veilguard#dragon age#lucanis dellamorte
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one thing I have learned about being poor is that you cannot for a moment stop thinking about it
#theres no peace#every little thing reminds me we are poor#seeing friends having electricity wifi heat food gas. it all costs money. and bills and fees and charges happen all the damn time#im constantly worried that i am measing up somehow or im not keeping track of my finances properly#the person handling our disability assistance application keeps coming back with question after question about my job#and i have so much doubt and fear that ive made some mistake in my answers that will disqualify us from support#and theres this sick backwards stupid thing where applying for and being on disability support is discouraging me from trying to make money#because the more i make the less likely we'll get support but i need to make money to live#its just fucked. and once we're on support i have to make monthly reports of my income so ill feel like im explaining myself all the fuckin#time#cus the system isnt built in a way that makes sense for self employed ppl who have business expenses to account for#sorry for the ranting i cant sleep#truly truly i think poverty is making me a worse persin#more anxious more resentful more jealous more miserable more spiteful#i have so little and there is so little i can do to help it#i want things in a more desparate and even childish way than i used to eant things#spend a lot more time fantasizing about magically having expendable income#not to mention the constant exponential guilt that comes from asking for help or recieving help. its guilt i need to unlearn but i feel it
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Hi funger fandom do y'all still remember me-
#me and my friends are making a fan termina cast. they're the people from the first out of the 3 festivals that happened in prehevil#this is my spiteful war nurse. she has the shepherding soul type and lives in a constant power trip#of saving people that she despises to live with the fact that they're only alive this instant because she allowed it#so nice of you Cathy ā¤ļæ½ļæ½ļæ½#fear and hunger#fear and hunger termina#f&h2#funger#fear and hunger oc#termina oc#Catherine Winfried#hyena scribbles#Termina 1st round
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Anxceit fucking head cannons?
hmm im trying to think of stuff i havent said before
i think ive brought up that they both bite, and its a race to inject the other with venom first to see who gets the privilege of topping tonight...
less sexual and more emotional in terms of sex - i think their sex gets messy. sex is a point where neither of them can not be vulnerable, so their emotions come flooding out alongside their orgasms. janus grits out "you left" in the same breath that virgil gasps "i had to"
both of them seem unhappy, but the sex is amazing, and afterwards they choose not to talk about it, and instead focus on their fingers sliding together and the closeness they only have behind closed doors
both of them can hold themselves together typically regardless of how intense sex gets with the others, but together i feel like there's just too much history. if janus is too slow with virgil, kissing his neck and resting his cheek against virgils back, they both end up teary eyed. and if virgil is too rough with janus, taking out his bitterness in each rough thrust, the same thing happens. and they both rush to take care of the other, feeling some semblance of closeness and intimacy that comes with wiping the sweat from each others faces and rubbing ointment into scratches. but theyre not ready to properly talk about it. not yet
#ask#does this count as an anxceit fucking hc#their sloppy exes your honor#except they broke up because neither of them were ready#janus was too dishonest out of fear of vulnerability#and virgil was too angry and spiteful because of his distrust of the world#and now that theyve both healed they just look at the other and wonder what itd be like to try again#but they dont feel like they can#they each feel like they ruined it#so theyre fwb and both try desperately to pretend that those nights together arent the best in their lives
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Iām trans, and thatās so fucking awesome.
āOughhh but I feel awful and I face constant discriminationā not to minimize that, but maybe thatās not where the story ends, maybe my life doesnāt have to be about the shitty parts, maybe my life doesnāt just have to be the hurdles Iām jumping over and the people that Iām stuck dealing with.
Maybe I can love that i am a part of something bigger, that I am a part of a group of people that would rather etch their true name on their tombstone than be someone theyāre not. That I am someone who has deeply explored themselves as a person and is constantly changing and growing and loving myself in new ways and with a sincerity and exploration that no one else can in the same way. Iām constantly reinventing myself and enjoying the person, not only that Iām turning into but that I am right now, albeit with the challenges that come with it. And fuck anyone else.
Iāve been spending too long focusing on my anxieties and trying to ābecomeā a girl or āpassā as a woman. Too long saying that Iām not enough as a girl until I pass or treating transness as this āconditionā Iāve been straddled with that makes me worse off compared to a cis woman, but Iām me, and Iāll live and breathe and love life to my own tune, and I will die to that tune, and i donāt care who the fuck doesnāt jam to it because itās not their life. I have been given this opportunity to love myself and claw a home into this body of mine by force if I have to, and thatās something I can always take pride in.
Iām trans, and thatās so so so fucking awesome
#trans#transgender#transgenderism#lgbtq#lgbtq+#lgbt#and no this is not to minimize trans struggles or to say that those anxieties and fears and discrimination arenāt hard#or that they donāt sometimes make me miserable#but that not just in spite of it but regardless of it I want to continue to love myself and who i am and who i will turn into is awesome#and that I have more than enough permission to just be me#my voice and my body donāt dictate my happiness#and I can choose to love these things about myself no matter how someone else feels about them#or no matter how much they will make passing harder#I donāt give a shit#because Iām me and Iām trans and transgenderism will always live on no matter how much it attempts to be squashed and thatās so awesome
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Soon im rly gonna do it
#šøļø#sui mention#< in the tags tho cuz it feels nicer to talk abt this in tags than in the post itself cuz to me posts are like talking normally but tags are#like whispering? talking you can tune out if you want but whispering is rather more voluntary to say it doesnt matter however#every single year passes and i wish i didnt live in each and every one of them i feel disconnected dissatisfied empty disappointed every day#it can be a small part of a day or a bigger but its still there clenching onto me like and never letting go im tired of it theres always a#wall between me and otyer ppl im unsure if i put it there or was it put there by other ppl but its there and even if anyone tries to reach#into it do i understand how even if close are we really far away it makes me understand just how much of an abnormality i am and how much i#cant ever be like them no matter how much i try and climb and crawl until i bleed its exhausting its maddening#almost everything i do is shaped by spite i wear one bracelet for years out of spite i dont smoke out of spite i dont shave my hands not#only because im normal abt body hair but also out of spite the more i know ppl the spiteful i get only way for me to truly like someone is#to keep them at a lenght outside that wall if they get in then theres only two choices for them to dislike me or even hate my entire being#or me to shove them back out without ever letting them get in#coworkers say im a nice kind person but im not its all just a facade to make my life easier and to suit myself im hateful but i dont believe#its entirely my fault after all they will to my face make fun of. laugh at. and hate everything of me they would see in other ppl that dont#hide it deep within like i do and then it rly hits me how different abnormal foul disgusting and unnatural i am#im hit with his every talk that goes on too long every word that keeps going every touch every expression every comment made on my behalf#its exhausting to live this way i fear im near my limit i havent reached it but who knows when i will#i sometimes dream of doing it and leaving behind a note wishing nothing but painful suffering to everyone i ever knew irl but i dont want to#do that to my best friends and my dog but who knows how long its left before the thread breaks#thats all like comment and subscribe if you personally would do me a favor by taking me out back and shooting me
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Hey so if youāre American and you were eligible to vote in the 2024 election, and you voted for either Trump or a third party, quietly unfollow me right now. I want you gone, please. Thank you.
#nector post!#nector update!#I am immeasurably mad rn#might draw even more because rage and spite#I have lived on rage elite and fear for 8 years#whatās 4 more yknow
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Sidenote I was never her biggest fan but whenever I see someone talk abt dahlia hawthorne as if she's some evil seductress who breaks hearts for fun I feel the intense urge to hit them with hammers. Fucker can you read????
#waves my hand at The Fawles Business!!!!! hello???????????#pretty much every mention of fawles i see is (rightfully) condemning him#but often ppl dont connect that to dahlia as like. a character. theyre just like ew a creep good thing hes not relevant#happy and well 14yo girls dont frame their adult tutor who theyre 'in a relationship with' and send them to death row#and they certainly dont jump into a river KNOWN for tearing bodies to pieces in hopes of running away from home!!!#all the murders she attempts are motivated by a fear of her past being revealed!#valerie was going to tell fawles about her betrayal which would have set him out looking for revenge against her#fawles died to a suicide pact he initiated with her (again when she was FOURTEEN) rest in shit fucknuts#she poisoned diego because he was asking too many questions#and she accidentally killed doug while aiming for phoenix because he kept showing people evidence that indicted her#is she spiteful? YES! but not in a maneater way!#she HATES mia (and the rest of the feys by extension) for FINALLY CATCHING HER!#and THAT is what drives her participation in the hazakura plot!#like im not an apologist or whatevs. shes treats iris horrifically and she is very cruel when shes cornered#but the idea that shes some sort of praying mantis type is wildly inaccurate#the presence of romance only starts when shes groomed by a grown fucking man who makes a suicide pact with her#(and like u could say she was manipulating him or covering her bases and wouldnt have done it herself but THAT IS STILL CONCERNING!!)#and she lives a normal fucking life UNTIL valerie intervenes and makes her scared that that life is going to collapse!#anyway all this to say dahlia hawthorne get behind me
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Thinking abt Jessica Cruz and the ability to overcome great fear again
#everybody including canon: omg hal is the greatest lantern kyle is the best etc. etc.#HOWEVER OKAY. my vision.....#with like 15 to 20 years of our time i could expand on stuff and give her THE character arc okay#like im just saying yellow lantern jess arc could ACTUALLY be so good bc i would do it as a way to bring her back to the corps stronger and#better and more assured#in herself because like its not about NOT being afraid is about OVERCOMING it and bravery isnt the absence of fear but action in spite of it#et cetera et cetera#like okay i was kidding when i said i think shed be more powerful than kyle or hal#because theyre both totally overpowered in their own way ofc with hal's willpower abilities at like insane levels and kyle's command of the#emotional spectrum being what it is et cetera#BUT. jess has such an interesting relationship with the ring and BEING a green lantern and its like i want to go deeper with that. like down#to the center of the earth deeper. because i feel like shes a character that would have such a great connection to being a lantern and would#especially be the one to embody the 'overcome great fear' phrase at its core#also like THE RELATIONSHIP SHE HAS TO BEING A LANTERN-#all the lanterns have interesting relationships to the corps or what it means to be a gl but for me jess's is just SOOOOOO compelling and#rich and just. being a lantern saved her life. becoming a lantern GAVE her her life BACK. on multiple levels!!!#like quite literally bc of the fact that volthoom died in her body before she got the ring but like before she became a gl she wasnāt living#a life at least not socially. even when she was power ring i still doubt HIGHLY that she even really left the watchtower when not on mission#because like. they glossed over it but the power ring doesnt come off. she was always like that and even with her control over it always a#little primed to blow and i think that's something jess was aware of even if the rest of the jl wasn't as much#bc she like was always reminded of how precarious her power over the power ring could be like it said HORRIBLE things to her all the time!!!#like on power it would be just calling her names like verbal abuse#so even while she had control over the ring it was a tenuous sort of precarious state and she was very aware of that!!!#and i feel like thats what it often comes down to for jess: control. i think its a key part of her character that she desires that sort of#control over herself and her fear due to feeling a lack of it for so long. and THATS why i think that yellow lantern jess has SO much#potential bc it has a huge chance to explore her relationship with the concept of control and harken back to her origin and early days as a#hero.#gosh i went on a tangent here but yeah. LOTS of feelings abt jess#basically a whole meta in the tags tbh#jessica cruz
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the spectre of laios touden tells me both that i should Eat That Thing and also that even if everyone hates me i can still kill god so
#does it ease my fear of the only two friends i have hating me? no#but#im gonna live out of spite. because fuck you#<-mithrun said that last tag#I CAN CONNECT ANYTHING TO MY HYPERFIXATION
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Where does fear reside in your body?
somewhere else;; what is known is what is safe. your fear is never inside you, always somewhere else. your home is the best place in the world; all other places are scary. the people you already know are better than anyone else. so you go on, playing with broken toys, wearing dead people's clothes. you can be torn down to shreds, abused, tortured and miserable. but at least you know where it comes from, which gives you a sense of comfort and even control. the unknown hides dangers you don't understand, so it scares you. but alongside the dangers, you miss the wonder, adventures and opportunities that you could've otherwise had. my guess is that you've dealt with grief and loss.
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#not me having a 3am cry about emmanuel carving out a safe space each time he gets a new flat around the world#and it's just universally understood as this sacred place where anyone may come who needs help or even just wants to see him#but everyone who comes needs to respect others that may already be there.#enemies meet in that aura of peace and have tea together. o r at the very least exist in that space together in spite of their differences#and it's all done thru emmanuel's.. aura alone. there's no good omens embassy laws or anything. there's just emmanuel.#because once you meet him. once you get to know him. you want to be as good as the way he sees you.#that's how he makes people better. that overwhelming kindness that doesn't Change them but that seeks the best version of them#he's not afraid. not really. fear is not a physical thing to him. (anxiety is.)#hnnnng perhaps because emmanuel as a sentiment is the opposite of fear. he is acceptance. he is love. he is community.#of course the fear lives outside of emmanuel. where emmanuel is not. out of his reach. out of his control.#yet he tries to expand his sphere at all times. like with the little acts of kindness to change the world for the better. ahvjdmvskd#rant OVER. im just !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#'the people you already know are better than anyone else' is supposed to be an expression of being scared to meet the new ones#BUT HE DOES MAKE THE PEOPLE HE KNOWS BETTER. avdajskdvsakjdvnaskdvn#okay okay okay really over now omg#ā» šŗšøššøš
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I keep crying really easily
#just now started crying reading a post on reddit from someone who was talking about the possibility#of reincarnation and i thought about how awful it would be if i killed myself only to get reincarnated and never be able to know my gf#honestly being apart from her is the only reason i fear there being no after life at all#before i met her i thought nothing sounded nice#now i cant stand the thought of not being with her. i guess i didnt care if it was nothing because i always had nothing#but now shes everything#i feel so bad for still being suicidal when i know i have her#i could never leave her here alone... i know that#and yet i still feel like this#im so lucky... so why cant i be grateful#i think i am grateful and its just not enough. everywhere i look it seems no one has enough#it hurts so much. i hate the world for being like this#i hate the people in this world that make it so#i dont know if it would be better to live out of spite and try to help or to give up and leave this world hoping it works out anyways#i dont know how much i can ever do here. especially the way i am now#im too sick to help anybody. im so tired of being like this
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Nothing like rewatching your favorite play and realizing you have supportable reasons for relating a little too much to the tragic main character ohmygod
#something about being afraid to let anyone love you: especially those who are willing and desirious to do so#personal#cyrano de bergerac#(1950 version)#wish i could talk to the former friend that introduced me to this play; we always disagreed on whether Cyrano did right or not.#to be fair through. i really don't think I could- you know what. no. i would. i could tell the story revealing the truth. fuck that.#it's about being rejected SO much that you embrace it in many ways because it's familiar. and even instigate it so it was your choice.#but fearing the pain of being rejected by the ONE person whose opinion of you you ACTUALLY care about so much#that you choose to live in the familiar pain and refuse to risk that rather than believe the evidence before you and let them love you#And yes i know he didn't want to reveal Christian after his death as a way of 'honoring' him but he hides behind that as an excuse#he knew Christian wanted him to tell her. good god may i not be so stubborn#as my grandmother would say 'don't cut off your nose just to spite your face' and boy what a phrase for this play#anyway
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Slight Flutter dust redesign!
Bonus forbidden Flutter dust eyes
#keese draws#oc posting#oc art#oc#ocs#girlie who is sooo normal (lying)#for context on her eyes when ari was beheaded and the council tried to extract its power it didnāt quite work out as it pretty much#immediately tried to find a new vessel as soon as they crossed into their home world#it didnāt immediately because ari wasnāt technically fully dead so it was ready to go back to them if they lived#but since it was fully cut off it just moved to its next random child around the right age#which happened to be flutter dust in this case#this sort of power is not at all the sort of thing the folk of this world are built to handle so flutter dust had a pretty rough time#she generally just had a hard time controlling it and she was stuck with the ever present fear of being labeled a threat and disposed of#now somewhat luckily for her with magic becoming more common she wasnāt immediately clocked as the person who inherited this power#but she was still under threat by local government and after her mom mysteriously died her paranoia got to her and she ran away from home#she would have been around 10 at the time so she was very much. not equipt to handle all the shit she was going through#pretty early on she ran into a teen who had also ran away from home for magic related reasons and the two ended up sticking together#they both fed into each others paranoia a Lot and while they genuinely cared abt each other the teen was. not the best person#he was incredibly controlling and spiteful and saw flutter as the only support he had left and treated her as such despite her being a Child#he himself was like 15 but still not at all an excuse#flutter dust and daisy actually met when they were like 11-12 so like abt 3 years before their main stories start#the two rly got along and would go pick plants and look for bugs and such#but after the teen found out he freaked the fuck out over it thinking daisy would report them both (he was 11 reminder)#and he threatened daisy in front of flutter dust and forced flutter to promise to not see him again#abt 2 years after that the guy started to get way more impulsive and that meshed poorly with his general spitefullness and protectiveness#flutter dust at this point was getting rly scared of him especially with how much more powerful his magic was getting#and in a desperate attempt to keep her only friend tried to confront him which lead to a huge argument that got violent#she tried to use her magic to take one of his magic focuses away from him but accidentally badly injured him the the process#this caused her to freak the fuck out and run away and swear to herself to never use her magic again#that didnāt rly work out though as her magic wasnāt built to be contained and this elad to sharp finding her ad taking her in
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Gotta go back to using my old person pill container because Iāve just done the thing where Iām like ādid I already take my medsā and canāt recall so itās possible I am not taking them at all tonight.
#i live in fear of serotonin syndrome tbh#also poor move deciding to wait on picking up the antibiotic my doctor prescribed today#i mean i was doing as instructed I like to be a mindful antibiotic user#pick them up if symptoms return but otherwise it might clear on its own#and then my symptoms return at 11:30pm to spite me#good thing i took that too-long nap this afternoon#and that tomorrow is friday because the struggle has been so real this week#absolute miracle i got laundry done the other day tbh
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