#like god forbid women have autonomy

[nychthemeron-rants]

Are we not also going to address "unemployed minors"

[dovedrangeas]

i have so many posts in my drafts about weird terf shit ive seen, but i don’t want to post them and risk summoning a ton of them to my blog to rant about how im always going to be female and trans women are misogynist men and gender neutral language is misogynistic and all men are dangerous by nature while all women are victims by nature and…………

[apollosgiftofprophecy]

Greek mythology has evolved over the course of hundreds of years, and with all those… retellings now, it’s gotten me thinking about just how many people have been spreading false details of myths through word of mouth to the point of becoming the most common interpretation, when if you were to look back in history, a great number of them were only recently made up, barely a a few centuries prior. Example of this is King Midas and his turning his daughter into a gold statue. I remember this part having been included all throughout my childhood, only to find out it was never part of the original myth but a recent addition in a book from 1852. (suddenly, the daughter being aptly named “Marigold” makes a lot more sense.) My ask is: which commonly told misconception of this type regarding any Greek myth is most infuriating to you and why?

oh my god misinformation can be INFURIATING smh

Let's start off with the Apollo misinformation.

"He raped Persephone/is a serial rapist!"

First of all, no he did not. LO, toss yourself into an eternal blaze and incinerate.

and secondly- he's not a serial rapist. There's only two accounts of rape, specifically Dryope and Creusa, but that depends on interpretation and the source so if you want to discard it, you can. No one can tell you you can't.

"UwU Apollo's love life is terrible!"

do i even need to say anything?

"Athena hates women!"

hell to the fuck no. the evidence people use for this is the Medusa Myth: Ovid's Version, and CONVIENTLY IGNORE THE ONES WHERE SHE HELPS WOMEN ESCAPE BEING RAPED!! AND THAT OVID IS THE ONLY ONE WHO DOES THIS!!

Even with the ones where she punishes the victim, the older versions do not have that! She made Nicymene her eternal owl companion, for heaven's sake!

"Hermes/Dionysus/Hephaestus is the only unproblematic god! UwU"

uh... *waves Leuconoe/Choine/Philonis around* no matter which version you go with, Hermes/Mercury does rape her...

...and in the Dionysica Dionysus rapes like two women...

...and Hephaestus tried to rape Athena... (oh wow, would you look at that...it's like Athena would have *gasp* sympathy for assault survivors...)

...See the double standards? :/ Ignores Roman/late Greek literature when it's convenient, and then exaggerates it to suit their own needs.

"Demeter is a terrible mom!"

GET OUT OF MY HOUSE NO ONE DISRESPECTS THE QUEEN

"Hades only kidnapped Persephone because Zeus told him too!"

Hades is his own man and wasn't being held at gunpoint to abduct her. He did so on his own merits. From a literal perspective, what was stopping him from just. you know. talking to her. kidnapping was not necessary.

(yes, yes, i know about the symbolic perspective, hence my use of 'literal'.)

"But Hades and Persephone are the only ones who don't cheat!!"

uh, nope. Hi Adonis, Minthe, how're you doing?

"But Adonis was more of a son to Persephone!!"

uh, NO. Even the ancients saw them as a couple!!

"Artemis is a girlboss who hates her brother!"

*kicks open door* OUT!

"Orion's the only man Artemis ever loved!"

how dare you disrespect my boy in this way Apollo was the first man she ever loved and no one will be able to replace him how dare you-

-and how dare you disrespect Hippolytus in this way he did not die in the name of all aroace people to be disrespected like this smh

"Zeus's only quality is how he fucks around!"

look, I've joked about this before but I know that's not all there is too him and that it has a symbolic representation.

Sure would be nice if people focused on that more :)

also anything that villainizes Aphrodite or Hera. god forbid women do anything.

"Clytemnestra is a girlboss who did no wrong!"

OH MY GOD THE DOUBLE STANDARDS.

funny how people fawn over Cassandra one moment and then COMPLETELY FORGET HER EXISTENCE to becry the woman who murdered her!

AND ALSO GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO HATE APOLLO FOR CURSING HER WHEN THEIR STORY IS LITERAL ABOUT A WOMAN'S AUTONOMY BEING RESPECTED!!

AND GUESS WHAT!! APOLLO AVENGES HER DEATH!!

anything that is "UwU Achilles!" omg i am sick of it.

that bitch had everything coming. he deserved everything he got. Tenes, Troilus, and Hemithea did NOT deserve what he did to them! APOLLO AND PARIS HAD EVERY RIGHT TO TAKE HIM DOWN!

i'm probably forgetting some but here's the one that popped into my head :)

[creatingblackcharacters2]

How to spot a Stereotype: An Example

Okay, so I talked about this in my Lesson 6 Stereotypes series, but I feel like people haven't quite... Understood what I meant. So I'm doing a mini lesson/application. First, I'd really appreciate it if you take the time to read the links in my posts, because that will provide you the historical and social context necessary. If you lack it, you will never be fully able to understand this. Remember, all I do here is provide the beginning steps. You have to be willing to do the rest!

One thing I constantly emphasize is that it's not the description of a character that (always) reveals an existing stereotype, but the writing! And again, until you grasp why anti-Black stereotypes are what they are, you will continue to be frustrated with how to avoid incorporating them, both in your writing and in your mindset. I'm going to use one stereotype as an example.

The Mammy Stereotype

"[Black woman character] is very fond, doting, and protective. She's like the team mom of the group."

On the surface, people who are worried about this stereotype will worry, because Black readers have long rolled their eyes and said we're tired of seeing this as one of the Only Options for Black women characters. And we are. Here's the disconnect: the attributes are not what we're tired of, but how they were utilized in the writing- often by non-Black writers!

Mammy: put simply, the caricature of the Mammy is the Black nursemaid that would take care of the Master's white children and the Mistress, prioritizing them above the well-being of herself, her own children, and her own community. She is fat and homely (so as not to attract the Master from the Mistress), unthreatening, sweet and subservient.

In other words, the only value she held was to serve white people's needs (and quench their guilt).

While the image of the Mammy herself is a strong imagery that has faded from its specific origin, I would say the modern day fan archetypes that ring of the Mammy stereotype are the Black woman character that "holds the Braincell", the "begrudgingly fond mother of the group", the canon love interest now relegated to the "mommy/mean lesbian" whose feelings are erased altogether, her new role to help the two white characters get together without acknowledgment of her own potential. She has no real story of her own, or as mentioned, has her own story stolen because "it doesn't look good with her in it" (which is its own bag of worms).

Now, people often give these characters motherly (or what society deems motherly) traits: caring, sweet, protective, loving, self sacrificial. Because they want to defensively show that "they're a great person! Nothing bad! I still think they're good! I'm not racist!"

But upon learning of the stereotype, there appears this insecurity- "oh, my Black woman character has these traits, is she playing into this stereotype?" When you get to this question, what you really need to be asking yourself is:

What makes the Mammy a Mammy?

They are a tool, a utility to white people with more power.

They lack autonomy. How they feel is irrelevant, if it does not serve the white person.

Nonthreatening so as to feel "harmless" to white people who bask in her "selfless" care.

They are not allowed to show frustration or upset at their lot or at life; it is seen as a negative attribute because if they are not caring, they have no use (and may now even be considered a threat).

They will also disagree with anyone else, even to the detriment of themselves, to the benefit of the white person. This is considered "selfless", rather than sacrifice (consider that "real" Mammies were originally slaves. They probably hated every single day with the people they "cared" for, but God forbid they speak on it. To white people, they were supposedly so happy and grateful! Smile and nod!)

Notice, out of the things I listed, "strong", "protective", "intelligent", and "caring" (on its own) weren't there! Because those aren't bad attributes for a Black character to have! Why would we ever suggest that?? Why would I be mad that a Black woman was any of those wonderful things to her peers? That's not the issue. The issue is that they are often used in service of usually white characters and their stories. They're a tool of the writer to coddle their white characters, versus a character that has their own inner workings and existence.

Knowing what you know now; things that would make your strong, protective, and caring Black woman character fit the Mammy stereotype can include:

If she is pushed to the side with no autonomy or inner life of her own, as the narrative centers the white characters and their needs.

If she is never shown to have any reason for acting outside of to the benefit of the white characters around her. That's the only time her presence counts.

If her disagreeing with, getting upset with, or refusing (or really, just not being "motherly") the white characters is deemed trashy by the narrative (whereas anyone else receives nuance or reason for their behavior).

If the white characters in the story treat her poorly, and it is treated as a good thing that she "stays calm" without any sort of reflection on her feelings.

You can come up with any sort of setting, plot scenario, and description of your Black woman character. But at the end of the day, what's going to make it the stereotype is how the narrative treats her, which you will only find out by writing it, and then reviewing your own work!

You're going to have to approach any stereotype this way. It's part of the *intent* thing I keep pushing 😅 if you don't intend to write a stereotype, you're going to have to actively understand what it is, which will help you actively avoid it.

[cinnamonest]

Hiii I absolutely adore your work!! You're legit my favorite fic writer, every word you put down is gospel amen 🙏 If youre still doing requests, maybe what about albedo x tall reader? I love how you write him so much, im 6ft tall myself and am fiending for yan stuff for tall girls since tall women are always written to be strong and dominant which kills me inside since im the total opposite...

Luckily he's not really insecure about it or anything, not like one of those people who gets all neurotic and has a complex. It's just. You know. He wouldn't mind getting a bit taller, is all. But if he ever starts getting too hung up over it, the feeling then loops back to feeling embarrassed over being insecure over something like that, so he tries to just ignore any feelings on it entirely.

He does handle your greater stature than himself better than some other, more insecure short boys, though. So long as you don’t bring the matter up, he won’t either. He genuinely doesn’t care about having others poke fun at him, which some of the knights he works with certainly do, given that it’s not everyday you see a guy with a girlfriend so much taller than himself, but he has very little regard for the opinions of those he doesn’t care much about and is thus largely unaffected.

He does, however, care what you think. He’s the sort of person who buries any insecurities he may have and ensures he never brings them up or makes them known, but he does worry just a bit that you wish he was taller, that it compromises the respect you have for him, or worse, that you’ll get wandering eyes… he feels sick to his stomach if he sees you talking to some tall guy, even more so than the sickness he already feels seeing you talk to anyone.

And even if you tease him about the matter, he handles that very well, albeit with a twitching to his smile that you may notice if you look carefully. He wants to give off the impression that it doesn’t bother him, even if it kinda does, just a little.

This also ends up accelerating his obsessive tendencies, the insecurity gets to him and he acts more impulsively and more recklessly than he would normally, and you’ll find that the situation between you escalates much faster to the point of captivity.

Regardless, you have no need to worry. The man does not have a submissive bone in his body… unnaturally so, even.

Like you know how, as a general rule, most men tend to lean towards dominant tendencies and aren’t really submissive per se, but are still gonna salivate and get into it if you “take charge”?

He’s not even like that. The notion of you having any sort of control or autonomy in the matter sort of… bothers him. He’s too obsessively fixated on control, and uses sex as a catharsis by which having control and seeing that control actively exerted on you brings him satisfaction and comfort and assurance, so any bit of said control being taken away gets under his skin fast.

Enthusiasm would be a pleasant surprise, sure, he likes you participating, but any time you attempt to actively control the steps and movement, or gods forbid try to push him to do or move in the way you want, he gets a little… twitchy. He’s not one to vocalize his thoughts too much, but you notice pretty much immediately, you can tell it irks him that you’re moving too much on your own, based on the firm grabs to your sides and wrists and efforts to quietly contort your body the way he wants you to, and a heavy huff of frustration when you fail to comply or try to go back to the position you were in before. It feels wrong, you should be bending and moving to the way his hands and words guide you, and failure to abide by it only strengthens the intensity of the impulse to force you under it by any means necessary.

Should you be a particularly bratty type, you can use this to your advantage by intentionally continuously breaking out of his hold or pushing back against the way he tries to push you into certain positions and outright disobeying… but that’s one of those “playing with fire” type of behaviors, and it stops being so amusing when he’s got you on your knees, held up by a fistful of hair, looming over you with an ominous, icy stare… and you may find yourself regretting your defiance, and up may be the only direction you get to look at him from now on.

[gatheringbones]

[“To be unequivocally clear, male survivors of domestic and sexual violence exist, and they are all too often dismissed by our patriarchal culture. I can’t emphasize this enough: Men are more likely to experience sexual abuse than be falsely accused of it. At the same time, the idea that mutual abuse occurs stems from a dangerously juvenile analysis of power dynamics that frames men’s “right” to hit women as the truest form of gender equality.

Earlier in this book, I include pieces of my conversations with domestic violence experts Amanda Kippert and Ruth Glenn about abuse. Kippert also told me that while interest in the term “mutual abuse” skyrocketed over the course of the trial, the impulse to find any reason to write off women who say they were harmed, itself, isn’t new. Women who don’t meet our sexist, racist, classist, ableist, and heteronormative expectations of a “perfect victim” have always been dismissed or attacked. “There’s this idea that a victim needs to be this sort of meek, quiet, complacent victim, so when someone fights back, uses a self-defense tactic, or God forbid, has an emotional reaction, we say, ‘Well, she can’t possibly be telling the truth,’” Kippert said.

Lies about mutual abuse ruin lives and, in Petito’s case, can kill. The Depp-Heard trial amplified this lie like never before and set victims’ rights and survivor justice movements back generations. It was never merely celebrity gossip, fodder for a slow news day for TMZ—it was the culmination of a years-long political war on victims’ rights, a war waged on all fronts: in electoral politics, in dinner-table family arguments about MeToo, and certainly, in the culture we consume.”]

kylie cheung, from survivor injustice: state-sanctioned abuse, domestic violence, and the fight for bodily autonomy, 2023

[yukianika]

Okay. If you have a problem with Michael Stirling becoming Michaela then you SERIOUSLY have to take a step back and reflect a bit.

You're probably just confused about the whole change and is taking it badly. But please think a bit before shitting on this queer couple.

First, I get it you wanted the heart throbbing, jaw dropping, and panty-twisting Michael stirling on the big screen but guess what? WOMEN ARE JUST AS CAPABLE OF MAKING YOU FEEL THIS WAY! I MEAN DID YOU EVEN BOTHER LOOKING AT MICHAELA???OMYGOD???

And for those using the infertility plot as a defense, at some point we have got to stop using women's bodies as excuses to further plots. This show at its core, normalizes women's bodily autonomy, sexual exploration, and constantly challenges gender dynamics. Yes it's not perfect and neither is it the epitome of progressivity and feminism.

But how are you guys the same people who defended Nicola when her body got slammed in an article? The same people who would pine over Bi Benedict? God forbid we draw the line at Francesca...

So I beg of you, for every queer Bridgerton fan's sanity like myself, please shut the fuck up. If you want straight regency romance, just go and watch Pride and Prejudice on BBC again. Or hell literally EVERY OTHER SEASON OF BRIDGERTON.

[pseudowho]

HAITTTTCHHHH….

I need to talk to you about something!!

First things first HIII

So, today was my brother’s high school’s annual event (which he was hosting, so proud of him) it’s his last event and he will graduate in 4 months. I skipped an interview because he’s more important tbh, and I got my hair professionally done and got dressed up was so happy in general.

The event went great too, butttt

Just when the day started (this was before the event) I got out of the salon and got an uber, and istg it was the creepiest and the most uncomfortable moment of my life.

The cab driver from the moment I got in, kept asking intrusive questions like, how old are you, and kept staring at me through the rear view mirror (which I ignored as much as I could).

And the worst part is I know the damn reason why this happened. See, I am tiny yet voluptuous. So according to the social “standards” of my country, I should wear something that doesn’t hug my figure. All my life I’ve worn baggy clothes, mostly shirts because tshirts always accentuate my curves.

Not forced to wear them, but I subconsciously dressed like that, because I don’t wanna get all the unwanted attention. It saddens me because I’ve never gotten the chance to dress how I actually want to (I love the blouse and pants combination or pantsuits, would kill to wear a turtleneck🥲)

And today when I said “fuck it” and wore something that has been holed up in my closet for ages, this happened. (This is what I wore 👇)

It’s like I’m not allowed to have a personal style. And if I’m getting any attention, it always boils down to statements like- “you should’ve dressed modestly, because why would you wear something like “that” if you’re not asking for attention”

While I naturally veer towards comfy clothes, and sneakers, I do have days when I wanna explore my style and dress up. But god forbid I do that, because l’ll distract the male population in my vicinity.

Sorry for the rant…I’m just too sensitive today🥺

Love as always.

And I hope your upcoming weekend is relaxing and wonderful❤️

Heeeey!

So first of all:

It is not your fault that you are being hypersexualised simply because you are curvy. It is not your fault that you are victim-blamed and told you have brought it upon yourself. You have the fundamental human right to walk out of the house butt-naked if you choose, and still have absolute autonomy over your body and utter respect directed towards it.

I could deconstruct further, but that's the honest truth.

I, too, am voluptuous, and I do dress to show my shape, after being taught my whole childhood that I was simply fat and should cover up. I, too, get looks. It's so far beneath me, I'm an expert in sneering at dirty little men. I highly recommend developing it as a skill.

I advise being fighty, on your part, as it's the only language some of them seem to understand. Talk back. Make their penises feel small. They don't fucking own you.

Hope, at least, you're in a country where it's relatively safe to do that.

Fuck them. I'm sick of women being blamed. Whenever there is an ill emotion in a man, his finger will invariably find a woman to point at.

I'm sure you looked dazzling. Fuck that Uber driver. I'll slash his tires for you.

love,

-- Haitch xxx

[papirouge]

This poll is sooo interesting because it truly reveals pro life radfem hypocrisy about their "my body my choice" stance.

Look how a chunk of them are seething at the idea of women CHOOSING to abort a female fetuse.

"it's the laws of their country that pressure her" someone tells her that laws also do "pressure" women into abortion by refusing to afford basic medical care, no maternity leave or wellfare to pregnant women or young women. That's what we prolifers have been saying for YEARS.

Also let's stop pretending that women preference for boys could only be the result of legal pressure (I as a prolifer acknowledge that not every woman who aborts does so because of economic, peer or legal pressure). Many radfem live in some weird contradictory paradigm where they state how unbearable existing as a woman is, and then turn around and act like women couldn't remotely CHOOSE to not birth female without some legal pressure. Misogyny is not a phenomenon consequential of laws. Most of us live in countries were both men and women have equality under the law...but we all see this doesn't translate in practice/every day life.

Pro choicers constantly state how shitty life is and how pointless birthing new human beings out there is selfish etc. But they can't wrap their head about mothers who'd be motivated by this same nihilist mindset to decide to not birth female (bc they would sUfFeR the most in this misogynist world) and chose male instead?

See how nonsensical and blindsided those people are?

Sorry but you can't be pro choice and then put a line on sex preference abortion based on arbitrary moral standards (because "female genocide"/misogyny is "bad"). Be freaking consistent : either you frame your entire stance based on morality either you don't. You can't say "yeah I would still be in favor of abortion if it killed a human being🤪" and then be "oh but why kill female though?? That's female genocide 🥺"

Genocide *is* the withdrawal of the moral aversion against murder (behind filmsy "rational" reasons & ideology), and relies on the dehumanization of those who are being killed. Which is the crux of many abortionists, refusing to acknowledge the humanity of the unborn. It is absolutely hysterical to see those women weep at the sight of "female genocide" (killing female fetuse), but not.... killing fetuses altogether. Gender blind abortion kills at least as many female as male fetuse, but according to those pro abortion hypocrite radfem it is morally sound because they don't do so willingly against those female fetuses...?? Do know see how crazy that sounds??? "Yeah I'm against killing only female fetuses - let's at least split the bidding and kill a lil bit of males to not be too discriminatory and misogynistic #feminism 😘"

Btw @ abortinists mad at the results of this poll : if you acknowledge those fetuses are female your entire circus to flip flop around the humanity of the unborn whenever you argue with pro lifers go through the window. We already knew you were in bad faith, but I like having the confirmation in plain sight.

If you think killing your offspring because of BodilY auToNomy then let women kill their female offspring too without judging the morality of their act. The only ideology consistent pro choicers on this poll are those who voted "yes, I'm pro choice". Every other once has shown they didn't really believe in bodily autonomy or "choice".

ps/ that @/killallxys is an idiotic radfem who made an infamous post venting against non White women, saying we were bullying white women speaking up about their sex harassment by non white men, and that it wasn't racist to point it out (but GOD FORBID non white women speak up about their harassment by racist white women... we'll immediately get called internalized misogynist and other dumb shit). I've been saying since forever radfemistan was mostly composed of white women who will never acknowledge racism as an equivalent oppression as racism and use misogyny as a windshield against forms of oppression they may themselves perpetuate.

Wasn't she also among the idiots in radfemistan who dogpilled on Imane Khelif being a man and rehashed the misinformed statement that only XX people could be women? (because yeah intersex do not exist, and someone with female sexual organs and XY chromosome cannot be considered women for those chromosome essentialist witches)

Glad to see she's still doubling down on her stupidity and bad takes

[johannestevans]

there's a complicated dynamic of like. thinking about institutional misogyny and societal hatred of women that disenfranchises them

but how the cultural devotion to the nuclear family and the institution of hetero marriage enfranchises certain kinds of spousal abuses

and obviously there's shit like, hitting your spouse, raping your spouse, and i think the basics of like... shouting and screaming, financial abuses, etc

these all being the more typical abuses of women by men

listening to a maintenance phase episode by a straight woman about how she stalked and manipulated her husband, gaslit him, full on carried on a conspiracy w his family members, coworkers, DOCTOR etc

to "help him lose weight"

and obviously this is fatphobia and institutionalised anti-fat bias, but like

im just thinking about how this abuse is enfranchised BECAUSE she's the woman - she controls the kitchen, the cooking, picks where they go out to eat, all these being her domain, and he's the man

its frustrating bc its just like. the labour divide is so real. in M/F dynamics women do so much of the domestic labour like ALL of it, including cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, etc

but there's stigma like? against men doing those things

and part of it is internalised misogyny, part of it is policing especially by other men for fears that active men in their domestic sphere will weaken the status quo and make other women "expect" their men to do domestic labour, god forbid (!)

but ugh smth about. this kind of interpersonal abuse and the way it's slotted into the cracks of expectation in established societal roles, and how abusers exploit existing power dynamics - and also how people FORGIVE abuse bx of their assumption of those dynamics

like there was that insane guy a while ago that refused to eat vegetables, so his girlfriend secretly blended them to forcefeed them to him without him knowing

and like. yes its fucked up thst she cooked all the meals and he didnt, obvs thats an unfair division of labour

but it really freaked me out that everyone was like. "oh well if she's cooking the meals, it's her right to lie to and gaslight her boyfriend about everything they eat, bc its For His Health" and i just. the way ppl talked about it terrified me, bc its a question of autonomy

if you have to lie or keep secret from someone you're feeding what is in the food, or otherwise they won't eat it, like... so you know they won't eat it? your control over what they eat is more important than their informed consent?

idk. i think maybe i have just traumas in this specific area that make me super sensitive to it, but also, its so fucked up that so much of this is accepted bc like

manipulation and lies within a marriage are held up in society as the BASIC expectation

[rivetgoth]

I casually referred to double incision top surgery as plastic surgery on a Reddit thread while answering somebody’s questions and immediately had someone trying to explain to me the difference between “surgeries rich people want” and “surgeries trans people need,” and their mind was blown when I explained to them that “plastic surgery” is literally just the term for any reconstructive surgery, the word “plastic” coming from the Greek “plastike” meaning to sculpt, model, or reshape. “Even if it’s because of cancer?” they asked. Yes. Almost all trans affirming surgery is plastic surgery. Tons of post-cancer operations are plastic surgery. So are the entirely elective cosmetic surgeries that “rich people want.” I don’t actually have anything against the person I was speaking to, they were totally open to a conversation about the topic, but I seriously cannot stress enough how much the trans community needs to do better destigmatizing the idea of plastic surgery.

The person on Reddit asked me how we are supposed to explain the difference if elective cosmetic surgery and gender affirming care are under the same category. That’s just it, you cannot. You can’t reasonably make a clear distinction between a trans man fighting to have nipple grafts while his insurance insists that nipples are purely a superficial cosmetic addition, a cancer patient fighting for their insurance to cover post-cancer rhinoplasty, and a cis woman wanting to undergo body sculpting for purely cosmetic purposes. These are not actually distinguishable and trying to create some clear moral divide where desiring to medically alter one’s body as a consenting adult for aesthetic purposes is sometimes good and sometimes bad, sometimes revolutionary and a way to stick it to the man and destroy the gender binary and sometimes a tool of patriarchal brainwashing that should be banned to protect people from the potential consequences of their own desires, is simply not possible. Unless you view a trans woman undergoing breast augmentation as separate from a cis woman, and if so... why? Can you actually put into words how these are two separate processes where one is innately good and one is innately bad without making it abundantly clear that you have not fully considered the role that bodily autonomy plays in transsexuality?

There isn’t a trans utopia where we can make some perfectly clear and easy distinction between medically necessary cosmetic procedures and wholly elective cosmetic procedures, and that sounds less like a utopia and more like a dystopia to me, personally, because I have no interest whatsoever in moralizing, let alone, god fucking forbid, actually creating legal limitations on what individuals choose to do with their own bodies. I literally saw people recently saying that doctors who perform cosmetic surgeries on women, that the women in question consented to, should be arrested. Do you not realize that is the actual writing in anti-trans bills? That doctors should be arrested for operating on or approving hormone therapy for trans people? FWIW, TERFs already realized that trans affirming care cannot be separated from elective cosmetic procedures, and made their stance on this matter very clear. You cannot have the same opinion as TERFs regarding one’s bodily autonomy and right to consensually medically modify their physical self and then turn around and say “but trans people are just different because the surgery makes them happy :)” lol.

[menlove]

idk man t//erfs are just so wild to me bc they will sit there and claim to support "women" and "lesbians" (in quotes bc many of the ppl that meet their definition of these do not in fact identify as both or either) and then when an afab person like..... uses their bodily autonomy to get gender affirming surgery. or changes their name. or socially transitions. or uses pronouns that aren't she/her. suddenly we should kill ourselves and we're delusional and these things need to be outlawed and we need to be exterminated

like yes their views on trans women are horrible and bad but they also don't tolerate us at all. and yet to them we are literally just gender nonconforming women. which you would think would be smth they would support in the name of feminism but their hatred and vitriol towards anyone trans trumps that. they don't want "women" to have full autonomy and rights to live how they want... because god forbid if we did, some of us might choose to change our bodies or Use Pronouns and that's just way too far!

like idk. asking them to see trans ppl as their preferred gender is asking way too much that won't happen but it is funny that even when they view us as women all their preciously held beliefs about feminism go out the window. I think that if ur feminism doesn't allow for "women" to dress how they want, change their bodies how they want, or use whatever terms they want to describe their experiences, you really are not a feminist at all. what you want is for men and women to fulfill strict societal roles you have made up in your head. what you want is for everyone to view womanhood as necessary suffering and a burden like you do. what you want is for no one to explore themselves outside of your narrow, western, white view of the world.

you don't care about the people you deem as women. you only care about people that think exactly like you do. and that? is not feminism.

[dezz111]

It’s Murder Before Birth, Everything After is Statistic

“All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid, nymph, then a virgin, nurse, then a servant. Just an appendage, live to attend him so that he never lifts a finger. Twenty-four-seven baby machine, so he can live out his picket fence dreams. It's not an act of love if you make her. You make me do too much labour…

(Paloma)

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     On March 23rd, Paris Paloma released a song that had taken the women of TikTok by storm. It was everything we as women wanted to say to the patriarchy. We, the women (or anyone in possession of a uterus) have the oh-so-wonderful “duty” of bearing the next generation.  Whether by choice or by force. With the overturning of Roe V Wade last year, our rights seem to be doing a moonwalk into medieval times. The Supreme Court claimed to be Pro-Life and was backed by thousands of self-righteous people who most definitely don't want to adopt your baby like the hypotheticals profess. All they really cared to do was “protect their houses, protect their friends, protect their wallets. But women is where it ends…(Romeo).” Because they're not the ones losing nine months of their autonomy with a minimum sentence of 18 years if they decide to keep little Timmy out of some guilt-ridden form of responsibility. The decision to actually ban abortions was left up to each individual state, because God forbid they take full responsibility for their actions. Which has been anything but fine and dandy, especially if you live in Texas. Or the South in general, really. But lo and behold, a white man did what white men do best and swung his proverbial dick named Audacity. And of course, he's from Texas.

(Sorry Sandy, no defending Texas now.)

   Enter Judge Matthew J. Kacsmaryk, the cherry-picked pick-me of the Texan government. Cocksmark issued a preliminary ruling invalidating the Food and Drug Administration’s 23-year-old approval of the abortion pill mifepristone. Mifepristone is a drug best known for being the safest option for abortions, something lawmakers have an issue with unless the hot secretary needs one. It also has been studied alongside cancers, the drug has proven effective in blocking progesterone, a hormone that helps some cancers grow (Koide). But that’s just cancer, something that kills living children and their parents. No, what Cocksmark is worried about happens before the brain has even developed. Or hasn’t developed. Or is even viable? It really just comes down to if the egg was ever fertilized. It doesn't matter if it's an ectopic pregnancy, your womb goes septic or your baby is born without a skull. Not even the permanent loss of function for your fallopian tube (which you kinda need to make a baby) isn’t enough (Zernike).

Now this drug has been around for as long as I’ve been alive and if it ain't broke, why change it? Because. That's simply it. Because. There’s no rhyme or reason to it. They change it because they can. For men who are quickly finding their privilege coming into question and their egos in check, there's a level of control they feel they must impose as their testosterone levels drop and the blue pill waits for them in the back. There’s an archaic part of their brain that never made it out of the sixties that desires to see the world below their feet and pesky things like reproductive rights make it hard to keep Barbara at home pregnant with the kids. There’s a status quo they wish to maintain built upon a weaponized belief system. 

But that’s just speculation.

What’s not speculation is that while they say we can’t “kill our innocent kids”, someone else definitely will. Because I’m writing this on April 16, 2023, and just yesterday there were 9 mass shootings in the United States of America. On April 10th, there was a mass shooting in Louisville, Kentucky that killed five people and left four injured. Out of all the mass shootings I could have chosen, this one, in particular, is special. Because this shooting marked the 146th mass shooting in 100 days. Now, I’m really bad at math. But I'm pretty sure that means that there were more mass shootings than days in the year. Six days later and we are at 163 mass shootings. That means in less than a week, we’ve had 17 mass shootings (Gun Violence Archive). 

Since this whole gun control thing seems to be a joke, let's tally up the score:  

Mass Shootings: 163

Mass Murders: 15

Children (Ages 0-11)

Killed: 75

Injured: 172

Teens (ages 12-17) 

Killed: 434

Injured: 1,503

Defensive Uses: 306

Suicide: 6,996

Total Injuries: 9,506

Total Deaths: 12,246

   There has been a grand total of 12,246 deaths due to gun violence this year. And what do we win?! A Gucci belt to go with our third-world title! (Cue thunderous applause.) Because we have to be winning at something if there’s no change.

Gasp!

I finally get it. With this younger generation not wanting to bring children into a world that gives them nothing but trauma, the government will just force them to do it. Because who will buy more guns for us to shoot each other with if no one replaces the kids we kill? It's the Circle of Life! Hakuna Matta, your life is worth less than a wartime law unless you're still in the womb.

Or you're a dog. Then, you can have an abortion.

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[causticaprine]

as a professional several fetishes haver and also professional at being anxious about how people perceive me in public or at all, it helped me a lot to acknowledge the ones i do have, and go "well would i exploit someone for this, or god forbid take a picture of them in public/screenshot their video? no! of course not!" that's a whole different thing called just not respecting people's autonomy or consent. it's not a consent violation to look at someone's body and think to yourself

"dang they're pretty for a reason i shouldn't say out loud because it's not generally accepted as a compliment. i would only say this if i knew the person, and knew that they matched my freak about this attribute or were open to an odd and specific compliment." most people would not be particularly anxious about being perceived like this if someone found them attractive in ways that are normative.

but it is a consent violation to see this thing and go "i am going to take a photograph of this stranger or sexually harass them 🥰" just as it would be to do that if you thought a person was attractive for more normative reasons.

the fetish is a complete non-issue*, people just understandably don't want their consent violated and it's easy to blame "the sexual deviants" instead of social power dynamics and a lack of basic ethical principles and respect that can be present in any person for a number of reasons, typically intersectional and beyond our control.

*trying to reconcile this with the fact that some demographics, like trans people, trans women in particular, gay people, poc, and children are also fetishized as an axis of their oppression, and i think it comes down to those attributes being something that makes them easier to oppress. Like, when enacted against someone, it's still the issue, rather than a fetish, that the perpetrator doesn't respect someone and wants power over them, it's just also that these demographics are chosen due to having less actionable rights to exercise against their assailant.

Don't much care for the whole "I will no longer do this Normal Thing if I suspect someone watching me might have a fetish for it." like, y'all this is why people are censoring their damn feet in otherwise-innocuous photos.

Hate to break it to you but everything is a fetish. Drinking water? Fetish. Eating? Fetish. Sneezing? Fetish. Clearing your throat? Fetish. Burping, farting, pissing, shitting, walking, sitting, standing, having your mouth visible when you talk, making certain mouth sounds, your accent (yes yours), your skin color (yes yours), makeup, lack-of-makeup, smelling bad, smelling good, smelling neutral, hair, lips, noses, eyes, ears, chins, shoulders, necks, armpits, elbows, fingers, chests, stomachs, backs, hips, thighs, knees, knee pits, ankles, toes, soles - all fetishes. Like it or not someone somewhere will Perceive You and they will Like What They See.

And they will be silent and normal about it because guess what? Fetishes are normal and most people know how to conduct themselves around others tactfully. We only ever find out about specific fetishes as they relate to us in particular when someone is choosing to be decidedly Not Normal about it, so we assume everyone who has those fetishes is a tactless weirdo. Rookie mistake. I guarantee some of your friends have fetishes for innocuous non-sexual things too, and it doesn't make them some kind of pervert creep.

So please for fucks sake live your damn life. Don't contort your entire existence around the fear of the possibility that you might maybe possibly inadvertently turn someone on a little sometimes. This too is a fetish.

[atlastmyself]

nothing drives me more crazy than people who claim alicent's jealousy/anger towards rhaenyra is just because "oh she's sad/regretful and wants someone to suffer with her". don't even get me STAAAARTED in what way is her anger and resentment selfish? or maybe it is, and that's the point

actually the WHOLE POINT point of the show is the stories between these two women, and the way misogyny has affected them in different ways. r/haenyra's rightful rule has been undermined, shamed, and belittled at every turn because she is a woman. alicent's entire life has been formed by decisions made by the men in her life

the difference is that r/haenyra has some form of independence due to her status that alicent never had. additionally, she had a father who supported her rather than a father who wanted to use her as a pawn to rule. not to say r/haenyra didn't suffer and wasn't a victim -- like i said, she absolutely was -- but from alicent's perspective, she's always gotten "what she wanted" while alicent's whole life has been dictated by others. she got to marry who she wanted while alicent didn't, she had the support her father while alicent had to watch her children be blatantly ignored by viserys at every turn, and on it goes.

in her eyes, r/haenyra has gotten everything she ever wanted while she had to live her life in service of duty, and give up her own autonomy and independence in order to help the men in her life come up around her. due to the space between them she's obviously not going to find out otherwise. in turn she's pushed herself lower and lower. she's queen but she's not. she has control but she doesn't.

and yet, throughout all of this, her love and adoration for r/haenyra has never once faded. we already know she loved r/haenyra more than anything as a kid/teenager, but if we continue with the theory (which has been pretty much confirmed lol) that she was in love with her, then it's a thousand times worse. all she's ever wanted was a life with her best friend, and all she got was the opposite. and then she has to watch r/haenyra have a great relationship with her father, her children, her husband, from her perspective and she's gotten the opposite. a father who uses her, children who don't trust her, and a husband she never wanted.

it's resentment, it's love, it's all of it. that is why i am not interested in hearing the opinions of ANYONE on the knife scene unless they can give me this whole speech beforehand too lmao. SHE DOESN'T EVEN TRULY RESENT HER, she resents HERSELF, she resents her OWN LIFE. it made her bitter, angry. and don't even get me started on how if she had turned out to be not angry and bitter then the fandom would've loved her more because god forbid a woman be imperfect/angry/mean. i'm so sad.

[papirouge]

https://www.tumblr.com/researchgate/751723182896054272/funny-how-you-talk-shit-about-al-jazeera-but-then

Example of terfs supporting Israel with the argument of “well Gaza banned abortion” HUH. Also the tags are disgusting “people complain when Jewish people do this but not when Muslims do this” Trump literally banned Muslim immigration, do terfs think Muslims are privileged?

What a weird and ironic connection with terfs and conservatives

Thank you anon but I lowkey resent you bc the ask in the link legit made me lose braincells 💀

"birth control is illegal in Gaza, as is homosexuality"

Saying that "birth control is illegal" is retarded if you don't define what kind of birth control you're talking about. Choosing celibacy or refraining from sex to not get pregnant ARE forms of birth control. Are Palestinian women legally forced to marry/have sex, @/old school butch?? ...oh my bad, you're probably one of those racist uneducated idiots who think of Arab women and immediately thinks they are all forcibly married at 9 y.o.

Also from what leap does she assume not accessing to birth control = female not "owning" their body? This pattern of thinking is a general consensus among radfem and I never understood it. Those women cannot conceptualize women *not* needing fertility control medication to "own" their body.

I assume she's actually talking about medicalized form of birth control, which then reveals in their mind contraception pills/device = birth control = full body autonomy. They admit entirely relying on some medication to own their body. That's VERY ironic because it shows they're not that different from trans identified people (they hate so much) who rely on hormones to be their true self ™️. Apparently women need hormone control medicine to "own" their body 🙃

And same goes with the "homosexuality is illegal" thing. Homosexuality being "legal" doesn't mean gays being safe and vice versa. Palestinians been fighting for DECADES against colonization, deportation and oppression and this sheltered (white?) woman be really like "but what about gay people??? 🥺" ....She's dumber than a door knob.

"bred in captivity to supply martyr for the revolution" this whole sentence reeks fake concern with a sprinkle of whitefem saviorism. Let's make something clear : women like that butch don't care about those women. She's literally projecting some disgusting breeding fantasy scenario from the words of one (1) moid to brush Palestinian women like broodmares deprived from any sense of self to push her dehumanizing agenda against Palestinians.

It would never occur to that white butch that those non white women may actually wanted those big families. Noooo, they are just poor victims of that evil Islamist patriarchy forcing them to pop up the next generation of martyrs!! Also note the typical whitefem eugenicist urge to freak out at the thought of women having 6 children...that would inevitably end up becoming terrorists.... that's why birth control is sooo important to stop them from existing. But yeaaaaah those radfem are totally NOT edging on white supremacy and that's just some stupid TRA conspiracy LMAO

That's why I know OP is White : the whitefem saviorism (homonationalist version) is POPPING out there. Nothing like paternalistic white women distressed at seeing women oversea having lots of children... GOD FORBID non White women have children and reproduce... WITH (SAVAGE NON WHITE) MEN??!!

"this suffering was known and accepted by their leaders" which "leaders"? The Hamas ? That hasn't been voted for for like 10-15 years ? Can't wait ppl start advocate to collectively punish USAmerican voting in war criminals Bush & Obama a few years ago.

What "suffering" is she even talking about?? Who's the actual cause of it, BUTCH?? I ain't no Hamas supporter but the Hamas 1/is not a feminist movement 2/whole point of existence is to defend and free their land. Whining about them not doing enough for women(??) is silly. Someone tell that dummy there won't be Palestinian women to defend if there's no more Palestine..

TL;DR : That butch is the average white woman hiding behind feminist to dismiss entire system of oppression (such as Zionism) that override genders. regardless they're gay, radfem, butch, etc. White feminists are NOT to be trusted when it comes to defend WOC. They will inevitably side with White supremacy and are the dumbest people ever when it comes to geopolitics and womanhood worldwide beside their sheltered western bubble. They should keep seething against TRA to pretend being subversive, and let actual women with a brain talk.

bonus the most stupid tags I seen in a while :

"no one say shit when middle east women suffer" *ME WHEN I LIE*

MIDDLE EAST WOMEN ARE LITERALLY TOKENIZED 24/7 BY WHITE PEOPLE AND FEMINISTS LIKE YOU WITH THE ONLY PURPOSE OF DEMONIZING ARABS AND ISLAM.

"when it's Israeli women their suffering is either denied of justied"

PLEASE TELL FOR WHOM THE #METOOUNLESSYOUREAJEW HASHTAG WAS MADE FOR?? QUICKLY. WHICH ONE BETWEEN PALESTINIAN OR ISRAELI WOMEN HAVE THEIR SEXUAL ABUSE LITERALLY INVISIBILIZED AND DON'T HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF HAVING A HASHTAG DEDICATED TO IT??

*when Arab do this it doesn't matter"

STOP LYING. THE MISTREATMENT OF WOMEN IN THE MIDDLE EAST HAS TO BE THE MOST COVERED ASPECT OF MISOGYNY WORLDWIDE. OTHERWISE HOW WOULD YOU IMMEDIATELY PULL OUT THE "HONOR KILLING" "STONING" ETC. GOTCHA WHENEVER WE TALK ABOUT MAYYYBE NOT GENOCIDING ARABS??? SHUT UUUUUUUUM

Those women made me lose 35% of my braincells BYE AND GOODNIGHT