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[riddimtwink]

[gothicgirlh-9]

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Always a good reblog 💜💋🌈🕸🕸🕸

[therealmistressmidnight]

Disconnected Desires: The Struggle of Intimacy with ADHD

Intimacy is often painted as this magical, deeply connecting experience, but for someone with ADHD, it can feel anything but simple. One of the hardest things to explain is the constant battle between wanting to be present and the brain’s refusal to cooperate. It’s not that I don’t care or don’t want the connection—it’s that my mind seems determined to pull me away at the worst moments.

The Mental Struggle

Imagine this: you’re in a tender, intimate moment with your partner, and instead of melting into it, your brain starts throwing distractions at you like darts. Did I leave the stove on? Is that laundry still sitting in the washer? What am I even supposed to feel right now? It’s not just frustrating—it’s heartbreaking.

Sometimes, I can’t even pinpoint what pulls me out of the moment. It’s like my brain builds a wall between me and the connection I desperately want to feel. And the more I try to fight it, the stronger the disconnect becomes.

The Emotional Disconnect

The detachment isn’t just mental—it’s emotional, too. There are moments where I feel like I’m floating just outside my body, watching myself go through the motions. It’s not because I don’t love my partner or find them attractive. In fact, I feel the opposite—I want to connect so badly, but it’s like my emotions are on a delay.

Then there’s the shame. It’s so easy to spiral into guilt, wondering if my partner thinks I’m not invested or if they’re somehow to blame. That internal dialogue is a constant companion during these moments, which only makes it harder to pull myself back.

Sensory Overload

On top of everything else, there’s the issue of sensory overload. A light touch that should feel gentle might suddenly make my skin crawl. Background noises that should be easy to ignore become overwhelming. The heat of a hand on my body might feel suffocating instead of comforting.

It’s like my senses are on high alert, ready to pick apart every sensation until I can’t focus on anything but the discomfort. And once that happens, the intimacy is gone.

The Isolation of It All

What makes this struggle even harder is how isolating it feels. Intimacy is supposed to bring people closer, but ADHD often makes me feel like I’m on an island, completely disconnected from my partner.

It’s difficult to explain to someone who doesn’t experience it. How do you tell the person you love that you’re struggling to stay present when they’re being so vulnerable and open with you? How do you admit that, in the middle of such a tender moment, your brain is doing anything but cooperating?

When the Struggles Win

There are times when the struggle is too much, and I just want to give up. It’s exhausting to feel like I’m fighting my own mind every time I try to connect. And even though I know my partner is patient and understanding, it doesn’t stop the guilt from creeping in.

It’s not easy to talk about these struggles, and even harder to live with them. Intimacy should feel like a safe haven, but for someone with ADHD, it often feels like a battlefield.

For those reading this who share these struggles: you’re not alone. And for the partners trying to understand, know that it’s not about you—it’s about how ADHD shapes the way we experience the world, even in the most vulnerable moments.

[ivangkr]

I am not tired😈

[jumpingjoolie]

Over time i have collected these sonic x pride flag pictures and they’re just so silly to see. I don’t hc most of the characters sexualities I just have these cause they’re so goofy lmfao. Like you got half of them in raging shock burning in fire 😭‼️💀

[shortpersontm]

somebody wanna tell me why i can’t find a #lesbian tag on tumblr? 🤨 on TUMBLR?

[d4nnyartss]

Jolene I hope this finds you well, now that I've scrolled through your Tumblr a bit and seen that you are nothing but an imbecile I've decided to take my friends advice and publicly humiliate you (and have some insults, of course)

You are genuinely and shockingly one of the most stupid fucking people I've ever had the displeasure of meeting. All your posts are about nothing but negativity and murder and Idiocracy. Please for the love of God do some fucking research or open a book or literally fucking anything that might hopefully fill your head with enough brain cells to craft a response that doesn't have a typo in it. The "libturds" (as you affectionately call us) do not want to take away your rights, nor do we want to force you to take hormones and become transgender, nor do we want you to do anything against your will. In fact, all we want you to do is not be a dick! It's hard for you, I understand, since the only thing you've ever known is sucking on the old, white, rich men's dicks! Does it taste good? Being fed propaganda and swallowing it down without a care in the world? Is it fun posting about murdering other people simply for wanting to live their lives free of fear or execution for their existence? Actually, I should simplify those questions, since clearly that requires too high of critical thinking skills for you to comprehend.

You are an asshole. Period. Fuck Donald Trump, fuck Elon musk, fuck you, and fuck all the other Republicans. You have NO place on my blog and NO right to tell anyone else what to fucking do with THEIR BODIES and THEIR LIFE. Get one of your own for fucks sake.

Kisses from the LGBTQIA+ community that's not going anywhere 💚

[cannibalisticyume]

CeraphiliacXeno

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A xenogender for those who's gender relates to and or is connected to Candle wax, Candles, Dripping wax, Flames or one's Ceraphiliac attraction.

Coined by me, Requested by @sadimasochist Exclusive term for Ceraphiliac's.

[caitlyn--k]

Intro Post :

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My name is Caitlyn, I use She/Her, He/Him, and They/Them pronouns (in short, I have no solid preference). I am a lesbian.

I am a Dissociative Identity Disorder Alter, not a roleplay account. If you wish to roleplay with someone, please do not contact me for it.

Endogenics and Pro-endo, please do not interact with my blog. I do not partake in syscourse; I believe in what I believe, and I take responsibility for my own emotional safety online. I will block freely if I find myself uncomfortable.

My asks and messages are open — I enjoy interacting with people, so interactions are encouraged. But, considering the fact I'm not fronting all of the time and we have work and classes, remember I may not always respond immediately.

Thank you for reading. ♡

Ignore my awkward tagging, I likely will never get used to it lol

[riddimtwink]

[sarahm2fcd]

Good day my fellow dressers/trans I’m only new here hoping to connect to a wider community of people like me and others who support the people we are. First question anyone got tips for makeup etc I’ve tried before but can never get a finish im happy with

[therealmistressmidnight]

Polyamory and Practicalities: How Scheduling, Communication, and Boundaries Play a Rolel

Polyamory is often romanticized as a whirlwind of love and connection, but behind the scenes, successful polyamorous relationships require significant effort, especially when balancing multiple partners. It’s not just about the love—it’s about the logistics. For those new to the concept or exploring the idea, here’s a glimpse into the practicalities of polyamory and why scheduling, communication, and boundaries are essential.

Scheduling: The Jigsaw Puzzle of Love

We are finite in time, and in polyamory, dividing it fairly among partners can feel like piecing together an intricate puzzle. Without careful planning, it’s easy to fall into the trap of prioritizing one partner over another or neglecting personal downtime altogether.

Here are a few tips for navigating the time-management aspect of polyamory:

1. Use a Shared Calendar: Apps like Google Calendar are lifesavers for polycules. Everyone involved can see availability and plan dates or events accordingly.

2. Prioritize Quality Time: It's not about how much time you spend but the quality of the time together. Whether it’s a romantic dinner or a Netflix binge, focus on creating meaningful moments.

3. Balance Personal Needs: Don’t forget to carve out solo time for self-care and reflection. Constant socializing can lead to burnout, even in the most fulfilling relationships.

Communication: The Heartbeat of Polyamory

Communication is already vital in monogamous relationships, but in polyamory, it’s the cornerstone that holds everything together. Miscommunication or lack of clarity can create tension, jealousy, or misunderstandings.

Here’s how to keep communication strong:

1. Be Transparent: Share your feelings, needs, and concerns openly. This includes discussing your availability, emotional state, and any changes in circumstances.

2. Active Listening: It’s not just about talking; it’s about truly hearing and understanding your partner’s perspective.

3. Regular Check-Ins: Set aside time to discuss how everyone is feeling about the dynamic. Use this space to address any concerns, celebrate the positives, and adjust boundaries if needed.

Boundaries: The Safety Net

Boundaries are not about restrictions; they’re about creating a framework that allows everyone to feel safe and respected. Each person in the relationship should feel empowered to set their own boundaries and have them honored.

Important aspects of boundary-setting include:

1. Defining Relationship Types: Are certain activities exclusive to specific partners? For example, some people reserve sexual intimacy or certain rituals for a primary partner.

2. Emotional Boundaries: Be clear about how much emotional labor you can offer and what support you need in return.

3. Respecting Autonomy: Recognize that each partner has their own life, needs, and desires. Avoid micromanaging or imposing restrictions without mutual agreement.

The Challenges and Rewards

Balancing scheduling, communication, and boundaries isn’t always easy. There will be moments of conflict, missteps, and learning curves. However, when these elements are handled thoughtfully, the rewards are immense: deeper connections, personal growth, and the joy of loving freely and authentically.

Polyamory, at its core, is about celebrating love in all its forms. The logistics may take effort, but they’re a small price to pay for the richness and fulfillment that a polyamorous life can bring.

Whether you’re a curious newcomer or already exploring polyamory, remember that it’s a journey, not a destination. Patience, empathy, and a willingness to adapt will always be your greatest tools.

What are your thoughts on navigating the practicalities of polyamory? I’d love to hear your experiences or insights in the comments!

[greekmanhades]

so I was in the car with my mom then she mentioned dating and next things she mentioned was have a boyfriend or girlfriend does she know

[babyamelia]

Me on black 🖤🤭

[veilfemme]

How you treat children matters to me, whether you want them or not.

[ammitashton666]

Okay so I actually put all the photos in a slide show.