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there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)
i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.
i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.
and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.
HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.
now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.
my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.
i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.
by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!
keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"
similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."
the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"
if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.
the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.
godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.
the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.
#this is objectively bad advice#don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this#but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries#.... it IS fun#i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him.#bc i used to get SO fucking upset#i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it#and now i just LITERALLY do not engage#instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation#i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection#they like the rush they get from arguing#but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me#so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru#NORMAL CONVERSATION#he doesn't get it yet#i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?''#'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''
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#he doesn't want to fight with you ai di, he wants to Kiss🙄💘🥺
Nat Chen as CHEN YI KISEKI: DEAR TO ME (2023)
#kiseki: dear to me#kisekiedit#kdtm#kiseki dear to me#chen yi x ai di#ai di x chen yi#nat chen#chen bowen#louis chiang#chiang tien#jiang dian#userspring#uservid#userrain#userspicy#userjjessi#*cajedit#*gif#okay i made this specifically for the 3rd gif bc chen yi's expressions are making me giggle nonstop i was doubled over in tears last night#HE JUST WANTS TO KISS!! AI DI HE LOVES YOU LET HIM HIT IJDKSKG#okay real talk though the fact that he actually gives ai di space 90% of the time. lets him hang out at the bar#like he isnt following him around or constantly dogging him about giving him an answer not does he ever rly ACCUSE ai di of anything#he uses the zhang teng excuse to keep ai di from avoiding him but he doesnt try to keep him where he can see him constantly.#he lets ai di do his own thing and just spends time connecting the dots during the moments ai di comes back of his OWN VOLITION#& he slowly puts together what ai di is refusing to admit and makes his own intentions known without putting them in words either#besides stating his observations (& watching ai di react). Every interaction between them when ai di gets out of prison is like that#gifs 1&2 vs 4&5... letting ai di pull away because he doesnt know whats going on vs pulling him back both to say hey we arent done-#& say im still here FOR YOU - to see how ai di reacts being so close to chen yi after finding him hugging his jacket in his sleep#and then once hes Figured It Out he still keeps the space!! sends gifts... he only Acts when ai di comes back to him himself!!!!#and this time he's READY. and a simp. like. PLS the last 2 gifs..........dude. he wants to kiss so bad
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Tazercraft mental link but make it a lil bit weird, they’ll have a conversation mostly in their heads but partially out loud which from an outside perspective is just fragments of words and half sentences, they go dead silent for hours at a time only for them to suddenly start shouting out loud, very clearly mid-argument, Pac says something but it comes out of Mike’s mouth, Mike starts speaking with his mouth and finishes speaking with Pac’s, sometimes their thoughts become so tangled that they’re unsure who a thought belongs to so they both express it at the same time like horror movie twins, do you see my vision
#fae.txt#qsmp#qsmp tazercraft#tazercraft#there was gonna be fitpac (fitpacmike??) in this post originally but I chose to cut it out bc I’m not sure if it fit lol#(pun not intended)#but anyway#I just think that if you shared a mental connection with someone like that it wouldn’t be as easy to control as some fics make it out to be#not without like#an absurd amount of meditation and mental work#which let’s be real neither of them have the patience to sit down and do for several hours a day#and it’s extremely hard to control your own thoughts as is WITHOUT being connected to someone mentally#so I think if you had a bond like this it would be a little weird but they’d definitely be used to it#thank you for coming to my ted talk#maybe I’ll write a fic about this idk yet
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I love how we go from episode 3 “no one ever figured out what Dazai’s former occupation was” to episode 5 “Dazai corrects someone in detail on the mafia’s revenge mo”
#when I rewatched bsd s1 and s2 like 2 years ago I was so shocked how early it was revealed Dazai used to be in the pm#it’s really funny how he just says that in front of Ranpo but let’s be real Ranpo probably knew as soon as he met Dazai#that reminds me I would love some early ADA Dazai and Yosano lore#like when Dazai gets a bit demon prodigy once in a while and I need to know if Yosano made the connection to Mori#in general I wish we knew more about how those two interact with each other#bsd#bsdrewatch2023#bungou stray dogs#dazai osamu#bsd dazai
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I know The Founders Cut, generally, is the edited scrubbed over version of genloss from Showfall in-universe (as well as a not-8-hour-long-three-stream-binge-night whenever we want to watch it again) but something that struck me as odd and I haven’t seen anyone mention yet, is this warning
It shows up right at the junction where the third act starts, where it appears the Hero is breaking free of Showfall thanks to Hetch. But here’s the thing, while a LOT less than the previous acts the audience still played a significant role in this act, even when really only given two audience interaction choices. Which makes me wonder, how real is this warning, and who is it for? Obviously the audience involved knows what happens past this point, but the audience is also implied to be an integral part of the Social Experiments, which is part of why things start to tweak out when the Founder removes them in the Founder Cut as the Generation Loss generation loses.
My first thought, was that obviously this is another bait and switch, a way to draw the audiences attention, seeing something that’s secret, something that’s not “meant for them”, which is a tactic I could see Showfall using in universe to keep people’s attention and add an air of mystery to their shows.
But
Showfall is doing all their experiments and these shows with a LOT of help from their censors to show it off, displaying a fun silly show that is definitely not uber fucked up and that is 100% just slime don’t worry about it, it’s kid friendly if it’s green! And I don’t think they’d want to bet all their cards on this one experiment doing well enough to their audience to not question the sudden shift in tone that follows this warning. Which makes me wonder.
They did their test, they did their experiment, and the evidence of this last act? I think it was a one time run, they don’t want anyone seeing this, it isn’t for the audience. Act three is specifically to both test and play with their Hero, Hetch’s new lines add a level to this, never once does he call the Hero by their name, just refers to Ranboo as their Role, and he’s not exactly. Nice? About literally any of Ranboos concerns, which wouldn’t really seem conductive to making an audience trust him, especially with his monologue at the end. Ranboo has escaped before, possibly right before act 1 started, they tightened the security on his mask to be unremovably part of them, Hetch doesn’t like the Hero but they’re a fan favorite so he can’t just get rid of them.
Act three is the cumulation of Ranboo being punished for things they don’t remember, for daring to break free from Showfalls control, this is Hetch taking the Hero and essentially majorly fucking and manipulating them to take his frustration out on a fan favorite they can’t otherwise get rid of or give a smaller role like Slimecicle. which is exemplified by the fact that we now know Charlie most likely was never able to actually able to fully snap out of the control, that even in act three in panic and confusion there was at least still a part of him being influenced by Showfall.
So the first two acts are the usual show, they have their posters, they have Squiggles to introduce them, they have goofs and silliness and only a couple slip ups that’re quickly dealt with, the usual rose tinted curtains. Act three?
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#or Showfalls just bein silly goofy and pretending they’re letting us in on a secret that isn’t one and playing off the reveal of#what they’re up to as just another plot of a show and hey that isn’t real don’t worry it#but I also think Hetch is really truly throwing Ranboo around like a ragdoll for more than just audience entertainment during act three#I think it could tie in to Chronicle Zero though. if Zeros dreams are connected to what happened to Ranboo then she knows something#Showfall would have a vested interest in her. not in fact. knowing that#and maybe trying to make her not know about any it anymore in a very Showfall kinda way#I’m less versed in what’s going on with Chronicle Zero tbh but I’m tryin. I fuckin love Gen loss#robot rambles#generation loss#genloss#Ranboo#I’m doin the thing where I ramble but it’s my blog I do what I want here#and I’m having hard life stuff happen irl rn so I’m clinging to genloss because it brings me joy and the timing of the FC was super helpful#also if anyone was curious I think Hetch is a bitch but I do acknowledge the possibility of him also being controlled#and I don’t think we’ve seen the last of him#but that’s stuff for not-in-this-post lmao#I had a theory tag at some point but imma be so fr I Do Not Remember what it was
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dead boy detectives was written for neurodivergent queer fandom people because the first time edwin went outside he immediately met his best friend and soulmate. truly the ultimate fantasy for those of us who never leave the house
#and by those of us i mean me#it's so hard to meet new people in real life. let alone people you connect with more deeply#dead boy detectives#charles rowland#edwin payne#payneland / chedwin
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lines that could’ve been said by anyone who has ever met Alan
#alan wake#alan wake 2#control#jesse faden#remedy connected universe#she was so real for this#every alan adjacent remedyverse character to alan: let’s play hide and seek I’ll hide and you seek psychological help#talking
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Anti-SydCarmies be like I want Sydney and Carmy to be together in every way under the sun just not THAT way…. Hmmm🤔
#sydcarmy#like just say what it is#soulmate twin flame match vibe perfect partner energetic soul connection but PLATONIC#like I’m sorry to tell you but usually when this happens the next step should be marriage#I don’t make the rules#even we don’t see them together in the show the real knows what it is#ok I’ll let yall be now
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how i feel when we get new just dance content but it isn’t lore (it’s nice but i was thrown off by the water):
#just dance#let’s be real tho#there could’ve been a jack event#or something#like a belacus event#or an explanation on how human is connected to provenza#i hope there’s an explanation#please
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semi 🤝 suga
their coworkers not believing they have famous (?) boyfriends in another country
#semi eita#semiten#sugawara koushi#oisuga#haikyuu#haikyuu!!#haikyuu hcs#sou says stuff#SEMITENS COME GET IT#i put a question mark bc i'm not really sure if tendou is famous#but he appeared on tv which means something#i'm just saying i think it'd be really funny for semi and suga#two of the characters who ended up with the most general everyday jobs#that would presumably have no connections to anyone famous#especially not in their small silly little corner of miyagi#and work with other prefectly normal boring everyday people#to have famous bfs in other countries bc that would just be ASTOUNDING to their coworkers#suga's coworkers think it's a lie so he can worm out of the blind dates they try to set up with him#semi's coworkers think he's just messing around bc let's be real#a chocolatier is a pretty randomn choice of a partner
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OTOMES SOLO IS CALLED MIC REWRITES THE ENDING
ICHIJIKUS SOLO IS CALLED GET FREEDOM
NEMUS SOLO IS CALLED DO THE RIGHT THING
AND THE DRAMA TRACK IS CALLED STAY GOLD
#this is vee speaking#WOMENAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH#THE WOMEN HYPE CYCLE IS SOOOOOOOOON BUT IT LOWKEY STARTS NOWWWWWWWWWWWW#THE COVER HAS THE FLYERS OF TGEM TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEYVE GOT INFO FLYERS TOO!!!!!!!!!!#AND!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE WAY THE DRAMA TRACK IS CALLED STAY GOLD!!!!!! AND ITS FOLLOWING BATS DRAMA CALLED FOOLS GOLD OH THIS MEANS EVERYTHING#FINALLY A REAL BAT CHUUOKU CONNECTION EVEN IF ITS JUST A CRUMB#THEY LOOK SO GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOODDD AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH#LOOK AT OTOME STANDING PROUD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO MORE WAVERING RIGHT MADAM??????????#ICHIJIKU LOOKS SO FIERCE AND THEN WITH THAT SOLO GET FREEDOM I WONDER WHICH ANGLE THATS FOR???? HERSELF??? THE MEN????????#NEMU I LOVE IT WHEN SHE TAKES OFF THE HAT TO LET HER AOHITSUGI AHOGES FLYYYYY#WOMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNN
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these are only tangentially related to all my little transmasc adrien doodles but i think it's funnier if i add the context that this version of him has innie equipment anyways
#let's be real for a moment guys. would the average 14 year old react *positively* to being called a “sunshine boy”?#fandom treatment of him and softboyification of trans men is like. i made that connection 3 years ago and it's never left my mind since#wissym doodles#adrien agreste#mlb adrien#miraculous adrien#HES SO FUCKING TRANSMASC TO ME#emilie let him transition young because she always knew she wanted to be a boy mom. that's my explanation for it
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as yr favorite local jason todd fan sometimes i get so fed up with the apparent inability of most dc comic writers to write a class conscious narrative about him.
and yes, i know that comics are a very ephemeral and constantly evolving and self-conflicting medium.
and yes, i know they’re a profit-driven art medium created in a capitalistic society, so there are very few times where comics are going to be created solely out of the desire to authentically and carefully and deliberately represent a character and take them from one emotional narrative place to another, because dc cares about profit and sometimes playing it safe is what sells.
and yes, i know comics and other forms of art reflect and recreate the society within which they were conceived as ideas, and so the dominant societal ideas about gender and race and class and so on are going to be recreated within comics (and/or will be responded to, if the writer is particularly societally conscious).
but jesus christ. you (the writer/writers) have a working class character who has been homeless, who has lost multiple parents, who has been in close proximity to someone struggling with addiction, who has had to steal to survive, who may have (depending on your reading of several different moments across different comics created by different people) been a victim of csa, who has clearly (subtextually) struggled with his mental health, who was a victim of a violent murder, and who has an entirely distinct and unique perspective on justice that has evolved based on his lived experiences.
and instead of delving into any of that, or examining the myriad of ways that classism in the writers’ room and the editors’ room and the readers’ heads affected jason’s character to make sure you’re writing him responsibly, or giving him a plotline where his views on what justice looks like are challenged by another working class character, or allowing him to demonstrate actual autonomy and agency in deciding what relationships he wants to have with people who he loves but sees as having failed him in different ways, or thinking carefully about what his having chosen an alias that once belonged to his murderer says about his decision-making and motivations, you keep him stuck in a loop of going by the red hood, addressing crime by occupying a position of relative power that perpetuates crime & harm rather than ever getting at the root causes, and seesawing between a) agreeing with his adoptive family entirely about fighting nonlethally in ways that are often inconsistent with his apparent motivations or b) disagreeing and experiencing unnecessarily brutal and violent reactions from his adoptive father as if that kind of violence isn’t the kind of thing he experienced as a child and something bruce himself is trying to prevent jason from perpetuating. because a comic with red hood, quips, high stakes, and familial drama sells.
it doesn’t matter if it keeps jason trapped, torn between an unanswered moral and philosophical question, a collection of identities that no longer fit him, and a family that accepts him circumstantially. it doesn’t matter if jason’s characterization is so utterly inconsistent that the only way to mesh it together is to piece different aspects of different titles and plotlines together like a jigsaw. it doesn’t matter if you do a disservice to his character, because in the end you don’t want to transform him or even understand him deeply enough to identify what makes him compelling and focus on that.
and i love jason!!!!! i love him. and i think about the stories we could have, if quality and art and doing justice to the character were prioritized as much as selling a title and having a dark and brooding batfam member besides bruce just to be the black sheep character are prioritized. and i just get a little sad.
#jason todd#jason todd meta#red hood#batfam#batman#dc comics#comic analysis#classism#tw: csa mention#maybe someday half of the most intriguing and nuanced aspects of his character will be touched upon#red hood outlaw 51-52 had some cool moments wrt jason + class + hometown friends + systems of power but. that was a two issue arc#and even then it was admittedly messy#GOD i want him to be three dimensional and well rounded and well used#even if a writer wrote a fucking. filler comic for an annual or smthn exploring what jason does outside of being red hood#keep the name if u want. have him have deliberately taken the name of his killer and twisted it until ppl from his city know rh#as a protector of kids and the poor and sex workers and so on. that WORKS. but show him connecting w his community#have him get involved in mutual aid. have him do something when he’s not out as red hood at night. let us see jason & barbara interact more#or jason and steph !!!!!!!! or another positive but complicated dynamic (he has a lot of those)#i just. i think that his stagnancy makes me fucking sad. i liked some aspects of task force z. felt like it ended too soon tho#FUCK the joker lets unpack his self concept & have him be a real person outside of vigilanteism (?) and vengeance#i liked some aspects of the cheer arc in batman urban legends mostly bc he had SOME agency and bc he wasn’t completely flat#even tho i hate the retconning of robin jason being angry and moody and so on#part of the problem is we don’t see him too too often for more than semi brief appearances so im so happy to see him i’ll just accept it#love the idea of a nightwing & red hood team up comic. hate that tom taylor a) wrote it and b) gave jason that stupid ass line abt justice#u think this man trusts cops ????? or the legal system !????????? BITCH.#get jason todd into like a sociology / gender and intersectionality / feminist studies class NOWWWWW#ok im done im sleepy and going to watch nimona. thx for reading to anyone who did#PLS anyone who reads this let me know what u think im frothing at the mouth rn#wes.txt#mine
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when tommyinnit streamed for the first time since killing his child soldier oc and opened the stream of almost entirely blank screen talking to his brother figure in the afterlife by playing the entirety of the title track of undertale straight through saying nothing (because there's nothing you can say that would hit harder than the inherent absence of silence). I don't think I've been quite the same since that day.
#it's about the heartbreak it's about the real guitar in that track it's about hitting us utale fans with the double whammy of the moment#and also the weight of what that track means in the game. the sacrifice...#hold on has anyone made that connection before hold on let me think about this. the siblings..........#dream smp#crim speaks#tommyinnit#wilbur soot
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king shit.
#arcane#ekko#ekko arcane#okay i have said it before#but one thing i love about ekko is the connection to real-world black revolutionaries#not an area where i can call myself an expert#but would say i'm more well-read than your average tumblr user lol#and it sure stood out to me#anyway they better let him do all the revolutionary shit he wants in season 2#he's been having a hell of a time of it#and ekko coming out on top would be a win for black people don't @ me#arcane lol#arcane league of legends
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i was thinking up an expanded chart for the manga gagverse and i was gonna exclude kyuushi (u know cuz of all the vampires running around shin yokohama) but then i remembered that kyuushi is actually the only manga here where iruma is canon it in
#Because of a gag#Iruma ranked 11th on the kyuushi character poll#Suprisingly high for a guy from a different manga#I think thats canon just like how gintama exists in saiki k inexplicably#Which technically means it fits in the universe but i dont know enough about gintama to make a real argument#Other than the saiki k connection#If you have any suggestions for mangas to add#Lets reinvent fan crossover media#So far we got mairuma yohaji saiki k kyuushi khr yozafam#The last 2 are more shounen but i include them for the same reason cuz i think a khr x mairuma crossover could be seamless#And if you told me yozafam and hitman reborn existed in the same world right now i would believe you#This has made me realize i read/watch a lot of gag series#Kyuushi#kyuuketsuki sugu shinu#mairuma#mairimashita! iruma kun#yozafam#mission yozakura family#khr#hitman reborn#yohaji#youkai gakkou no sensei hajimemashita#Saiki k#saiki no psi nan
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