#let alone share

[shingekinomyfeelings]

tw for body issues, body dysmorphic disorder, and mental health struggles. no I will not tag it.

A recent conversation on Reddit has me thinking a lot about my struggles with body dysmorphic disorder over the bulk of my life, and if (or how) it ever really goes away.

Of course society's beauty standards are unfair and unhealthy and frankly impossible for most people. We all know that. Of course no one needs to strive to meet those bonkers standards, and it's stupid to pretend that beauty = super model and that anything less than super model = ugly. Of course even people who aren't aesthetically pleasant to look at still have human value and worth.

And yes, reframing the way you see yourself and others can change your feelings about yourself over time, in good ways and bad.

Yeah. I know that.

But I've also come to realize that the trend in recent years of 'positivity culture' saying that you have to pretend you think you're beautiful even if you don't, or else you're failing in some way, is incredibly unfair and unhelpful, too.

"Don't talk about the body dysmorphia or you're just letting it win" isn't realistic or helpful, any more than similar sentiments are for any mental health struggle.

If you've felt the waves of anxiety and nausea when you see yourself in photos, it's not a moral failing or a sign of your weakness or lack of resilience, and neither is making progress in your struggle but not fully 'overcoming' it. It's a shitty battle I wish no one had to go through, but I'd like to see it be more acceptable to talk frankly about without it being made into a matter of shallowness or vanity or that infuriating, condescending accusation of 'wallowing in self pity.'

Putting someone down for struggling with BDD just compounds the problem, and keeping your struggles a secret in the name of 'positivity' is painful in ways it's hard to put into words.

There's also a massive difference between 'I wish I looked perfect!' and 'I wish I didn't feel so deeply ugly.'

Is it okay for me to admit that I'm not fully past it, and that sometimes it still makes my stomach twist up, and that I might never be fully past it, without being seen as a negative person? Can I admit that I've seriously considered cosmetic surgery without being seen as letting the pain 'win?' Can I say I wish I could look at myself and genuinely think 'beautiful' or 'sexy' without being seen as self absorbed, shallow, or vain? What good am I doing myself by pretending those things aren't true when they are? Can I just admit it it still really fucking hurts now and then?

We're so pro mental health, as long as we don't have to hear about it in ways we can't personally relate to, or ways that make us uncomfortable.

[the-barefoot-hatter]

pediatricians are hard to find.

you aren't broken and other important things a triangle needs to hear

[canisalbus]

I love your art so much. There is something so distinctive about how tender and warm you draw Vasco and Machete and I love it all it just makes my heart melt. I love the dynamic of the catholic queer identity you have for them it's so distinctive and you do it so well. Keep up the amazing work, you are honestly one of my favorite if not my favorite artist you bring me so much comfort with your work.

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[ivysos2001]

I still can’t believe marvel had Steve tell Natasha he could only really see himself with someone with ‘shared life experience’ (5 seconds after they literally kissed) and then had the two of them practically glued together for literal years (in this movie and in every other movie after it), only to not even seem to consider them as a potential couple/love story

[asvidema]

got to the maleshov rescue in my second playthrough. here's some moments

[mirensiart]

The newest pain sharing update is literally just the post about that 6 week old kitten trying his best to take care of a couple 2 week old kittens

Its them

YEEEES, THAT'S THEM !!!!!! OMG

I personally headcanon hyrule to be 16 almost 17, four to be 15 and wind 13 almost 14, so they're all babies lmao

A kitten looking after two kittens being chased by a mountain lion lol

[aueua]

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[roboyomo]

i can't even remember the last time i've held you in my arms like this.

[randomalistic]

Not my dad passively commenting on how some media “looks stupid” or “this was super lame” as I was growing up and how it had unintentionally made me exceedingly self conscious to explore things I was interested in out of fear they were “bad” 😏 being a queer neurogidervent child was so cool and definitely not agonizing in 1 million microscopic ways

[starryc]

hair the color of dead leaves

(progress pics under cut)

this was inspired by a line from a jpn fic i read that described gentaro's hair as "the color of dead leaves." unfortunately i can't find the fic anymore so it might've been taken down ToT but it's stuck with me ever since i first read it because gentaro is "phantom," so i love to describe him as such in my writing… pale as a phantom, cold as a corpse, hair the color of dead leaves. he's more dead than he is alive

so yeah i waited the whole year for the leaves outside to start turning brown 😭 but i also used some leaves from the plants at home >w<

i'm very happy to have finally finished this, especially since i've had it on my mind for a long time now!! 😊

[spow-ed]

*Coughing that only gets more aggressive over time*

[s1lv3rp4w3dc4t]

shout out object shows with canon queer ships. I'm talking on screen kiss or even just verbal confirmation. all things considered it's a bit strange you don't really see them that much when you think about how gay everyone here is. I love you ii but c2bc did what you didn't and I think that's actually really nice.

[thesparkinthefire]

The thing I did not like about Ep 3 is the Gurathin scene. It was incredibly weird. Maybe it's just the "oh god hes a creep mensa isnt save" kicking in immediately (because men in real life are creeps and women are never save).

But I want to give them the benefit of the doubt because the cameras did cut out and I think there is a chance Gurathin went into Mensas room for comfort. I can totally see Murderbot misreading the situation and Gurathin being in there having a breakdown and hugging Mensas pillow. After all he is also a very weird person and not great at offering emotional support (directly from himself, not therapy modules), nor is he great at accepting emotional support let alone ask for it. Reminds me a bit of a child sneaking into their parents bed after a nightmare.

[basically-neroland]

blue roses (oneshot)

dmc4 nero x flower seller!male!reader

sorry it's not my bestest work, prolly a little awkward and it's super short but i've had this in my notes app for a while so i decided to finish it and post it lol. hope it's not too bad 🥀 i'm kinda testing the waters ig. constructive criticism would be nice!! i haven't actually written something in a WHILE.

267 words

Nero was used to giving YOU little gifts, so he was surprised when you walked up to him with a blue rose made just for him. He knew they were unnatural and had to be created, and your family's flower shop didn't sell unnatural flowers. That meant you dyed it just for him. The thought made his cheeks red his and his chest warm, and it made his brain go dumb. So dumb.

He stammered out an awkward 'thank you' and he honestly didn't know what to do with it. You couldn't help but let out a soft laugh at his flushed cheeks, he was just so adorable.

"Wait here." You told him, rushing back into the shop and coming back out with a pair of scissors. You cut most of the stem off the rose and stuck it in the breast pocket of his jacket. "There! That's better, right?"

"Y-Yeah. Thanks." He managed, his heart pounding against his ribcage as he rubbed his nose. He ignored the strange, somewhat disgusted looks passersby were giving the two of you. He was used to them, and you just didn't seem to care. He liked that about you.

"Of course! It looks good on you." The way you smiled at him was gonna kill him someday. It was so sweet and caring beyond belief. "I have to get back to work now, but I'll see you later?"

"Yeah, see you later." He answered. He watched as you rushed back into the flower shop, stopping at the door to give him one last wave.

He was so fucking beyond doomed.

[inquisimail]

harding's path of kinship armor embroidery

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 240

You know what I think could be a really interesting premise?

Liminal-as-fuck Batfamily (and maybe all of Gotham itself) who aren't part of the Justice League. Like I am saying full on cryptid batfam who terrorize the criminals of Gotham and aren't well known outside of the city besides rumours.

And now throw in the Phantom team, either via Sam or Ellie or otherwise bringing the anti-ecto acts to their attention. I'm saying feral ghostly children barely being held back by Alfred from destroying the GIW buildings with their bare hands. Yes, that includes Bruce and Kate.