#less for myself but for my parents
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im sliding right into that kind of art slump where you cant get past drawing a few blocks of color without getting bored and frustrated already, your head is empty, theres nothing that makes your brain go OOOH! DRAW!
like everything is uninteresting and nothing matters- i know very well this feeling passes but i hate that it is now, again, when i have a little more time than usual AND want to do nothing but draw
i also feel like i have asked too many times too frequently for encouragement, i dont really want to do that again
#ganondoodles talks#personal#i know take a break and do soemthing else#but theres nothing of interest to do#i got no games that interest me as i played through the pokemon dlc recently#no new movies i am interested in#idk#all the while time ticks by#my birthday was pretty good even if i got next to nothing#the fun i had that day spending time with my dad was worth much more#maybe it is too bc i am older now ... i truly feel like im running out of time#less for myself but for my parents#i want to spend time with them but also want to get more work done so they will get to see it#and of course the world is at war too- which isnt helping lol
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i have finally landed a job interview and i have Such mixed feelings about it
#on one hand: fucking finally i will be making my own money#on the other hand. sigh.#cant wait to do something i dont enjoy for at least eight hours per day five days a week#clenching my fist and thinking about the things i can buy to convince myself this is worth it#crafts. i can contribute to kofis. art. tasty beverage without feeling monumentally guilty. saving up to move somewhere i want to be#absolutely unprompted#i would add on the pro that id be less of a family disappointment#But that ship has long since sailed. any pride my parents express will just make me uncomfortable/mad so technically its a con!#'finally youre contributing to society' i dont WANT to contribute to society#society is a capitalistic hellscape. society needs a fucking reform#fuckign... biting people...#i belong in the paleolithic area. i would kill it at hunter-gathering. everyone would want me in their hunting/foraging group#id live so bright and fast and then die of eating the wrong mushroom... as nature intended...
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Read one of your asks which is how I found out that Cherik have a COMIC CANON LOVECHILD WHAAAAAAAAAT
you will address onslaught correctly alright that is their canonical love/hate mpreg brain baby child
#snap chats#sometimes they co-parent outside of onslaught tho ... xavier co-parents pietro and wanda a bit in the ultimate universe i think#i know we dont talk about The Ultimate Universe but we can take the good from it sometimes ....#also david- in krakoa- really looked up to erik and was. Really Moved by the fact erik trusted him#and THAT always makes me scream and cry and throw up remembering oouuugh david ... my son .. vegeta domed son of mine...#this is the daily reminder i have to get legion of x I SHOULD JUST GO GET IT. IVE BEEN SAYING ILL GET IT FOREVER#I DONT KNOW IF BOTH PARTS ARE IN THE COMIC SHOP ONLY THE SECOND PART WAS THERE I THINK LAST I CHECKED#guys should i go to the shop and pick it up today todays one of my less-busy days <- its still pretty busy#i thought of getting lunch too.... i have money to spend for once but also i dont really like eating#like i like eating but. idk . no i lied i dont like eating HLEKVEAKLJ BUT I DONT HATE IT#its just not somethign i think about its just a think i have to do yk. moving on from my Questionable dietary habits#NOOOOOO WAIT there was this one matcha place i really like... is it because of the matcha or the gal that works there dont ask me#the matcha is really good tho .... do i treat myself for. my insane morning... many questions i ask myself...#anyway yeah they got a baby or whatever //party popper noise// congratulations its an abomination. and davids half brother
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This is for anyone and everyone who sews, but most especially quilters.
PLEASE REBLOG!!!
#quiltblr#sewblr#textile art#fiber art#my answer is yes and the print is USA patriotic prints. They trigger anxiety that borders on panic. making anything with those prints#makes sewing difficult. What about them triggers anxiety? Look at who typically wears that kind of print/pattern. They're MAGAts/#conservatives/hate groups. It used to mean something positive but now when I see these prints I want to run far away.#it's hard enough using red/white/blue color combination because of the association. I made placemats for my parents using those#prints because my mom sent them to me. All US flags and bald eagles. She called me when they arrived with all the scraps.#asked me why I didn't want to keep the scraps. When I told her simply hate looking at those prints she was baffled. I grew up in the#military and apparently should be comforted by the prints. NOPE!#the last time someone tried commissioning me for a quilt using those kinds of prints I offered them a refund because I straight up#will not do it. they were perfectly happy with the color combination instead after I explained why. I used floral and water prints#which made it less difficult but I had to constantly remind myself it's all pretty things.
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The man truly can’t take a genuine compliment 🙄
#my art stuff#digital art#baldur's gate 3#bg3#astarion#astarion ancunin#this is part of a series I like to call “I’m never settling on a singular detailed artstyle”#I have no consistency in drawing realistic people/characters other than my shapy cartoon style#but I truly don’t get enough opportunity to properly shade anything with art in that style-!!! it always looks weird to me-!!!!!#I think some rude lil worm in my brain is wriggling around telling me it’s a futile attempt at still doing realism#cus I’m one of those “gifted” artists that grew up promising his parents he’ll end up among the big names or whatever#constantly training to become better at art but with realism oil paintings as the goal#you know how it is 😔#I wanna shade my lil funky designs but they never feel good enough to really put energy into or whatever so I compromise with stuff -#- like this where I try to draw characters more accurately while still stylizing them and shading them however I feel like it#which is great and all but I should really learn to give my more relaxed and less perfectionist art a chance#I deserve to enjoy the process and the result without working myself dead#it’s so much easier and rewarding to copy cartoon styles - stylizing realism makes me too anxious of doing it “wrong”#at least cartoon styles give me a goal to reach or a reference to strive towards#man I really should just cut myself some slack altogether#either way - this man is a flustered mess and he’s embarrassed about being called adorable in public or something#being teased in an affectionate way about his sweeter side and stuff#don’t ask why he’s shirtless - anatomy is just a lot more fun for me to draw sometimes#tasteful nudity and all that is extremely gorgeous to me#i need to practice anatomy more cus I just kinda did some shit and went with it this time with a BIT of consideration for muscle structure
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Finished the whole broken little family! I hadn't finalized their designs up until now, but heres Sly's parents Dodger and Jade, eventually I should draw his two other older siblings!
#cautiously optimistic as my hands are slowly getting better from rest!#so testing it out a bit#putting this on queue#Ascended#Sly Bastion#Dodger Bastion#Jade Bastion#its just boring 3/4 because i was really trying to focus on the reference aspect of it for myself#so I dont have to guess when i draw them again#wanted to focus on how sly inherited both parts of his parents facial features like jade's high cheekbones and dodgers eyes etc#if they look young for having a 30+ year old thats because they are despite being in their late 50s close to 60s their race lives up to be#around 120 average#a lil more a lil less depending#so yeah Sly's great grandparents are still alive as well
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they should've made my brother the older of the two of us. i mean he's smarter, he's cooler, he's bigger, he looks better than me, he's more determined than me, more analytical, more disciplined. of course, that'd mean I'd shrink into the background of my life like a rather pitiful peanut but hey, at least I'd have an excuse for it this time around
#i was... not okay. for a lot of my teen years. my parents had to keep so much attention on me#which. frankly didn't even work either. i don't think they were the right parents to grow a trans kid. for all they clearly love me & i too#they just didn't have the resources. but just bc their efforts didn't work that didn't mean my bro got any less the short end of the stick#and that's not fair. he deserved all the time and attention i got. hell he deserved twice as much. the kid's a legend. it wasn't fair#he's younger than me and probably already twice the person I'll ever be#it's incredible what a good man he turned out despite it all. i wish#. I don't know. I don't know what i wish. I don't feel very good about myself today#i wish i got to know him more. back then. instead of being all fucked up in the head. i look at other siblings we know and i just#i feel like that door closed up on us. and i hate it. i hate it so much
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if everyone i know keeps insisting I'm autistic I'm gonna snap and transautistic myself. just you fucking wait.
#/silly#(several people are convinced I'm autistic)#(AND LIKE I DID MY RESEARCH I DON'T THINK I AM)#(like i have some traits bc adhd and being raised in a certain environment* BUT I DON'T THINK I PASS THE CLINICAL THRESHOLD)#(however now i am doubting myself pwp)#* very neurodivergent family + less socialising as a child due to 2nd generation immigrant shit like not knowing english for a while#and parents not having friends with kids in the area to socialise me with + idk just being a weirdo#transautistic#transid#transx#pro transid#radqueer#rq 🌈🍓#rqc🌈🍓#radqueer 🌈🍓#🌈🍓
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School is starting soon!! I can't believe I'm excited for the stressors of classes OURGH...
#ill be moving out of my parents house on the 13th. and be starting on the 19th! oh god. that's 9 days#i think im excited because it means i can finally LEAVE THE HOUSE#i hate being stuck in the house with very little to do and simply doom scroll. caged bird energy fr#(family restrictions. i loooovee those)#pros: freedom. cons: a lot less free time + stress + no birds#however. the pros genuinely outweigh the cons...i treasure my independence wayy too much! (except i will miss the feathered balls...)#but on another note. im excited for so many things! See my roommate. cook meals for myself. have actual privacy...yknow basic autonomy :D!#oh i can finally wear the clothes i like judgement free! and i can go places without curfews! and i can play my music outloud!#OH i can finally kick up my social activities again!!#this bird speaks#GAH!! so excited!!#this summer “vacation” was genuinely the worst overall#saving grace was Art Fight and the DD friends i've made ngl. so thanks yall huge hugs to yall!
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I'm so proud of myself about finances in the past couple months. I still struggle with money but I did enough meditation and journaling and practicing about it to make myself able to actually face my loans and credit cards and savings and bills and start really truly organizing and addressing them for the first time in years instead of just flying by the seat of my pants.
Like. This is a huge deal for me. I've felt like I'm in deadly danger every time I've tried to think about money for years and years. I'm finally able to look it in the face and stare it down and start to organize and plan on purpose instead of just keeping up with the minimum to stay afloat. I'm so proud of myself.
It's still a refrain of "GUILT (funny link)" every time I think about money but I'm able to actually make spreadsheets and face the numbers and monthly tracking again, and even make a new full budget which I haven't been able to do in ages.
still feel guilt, overwhelm, and helplessness, but no longer feel as much deep elemental shame and terror. that's progress baby
#we don't need to talk about how many months and months of therapy visits and doctor appointments I put on credit cards#among other things#but I had to put my foot down about it a couple months ago and shout at myself a little saying HEY#I AM SHAKING YOU BY THE SHOULDERS I AM SHOUTING FOR YOU TO HEAR#OF COURSE IT WAS A TERRIBLE FINANCIAL DECISION BUT YOU WEREN'T EVEN EXPECTING TO BE ALIVE#THE CREDIT CARD DEBT WAS NECESSARY TO KEEP YOU ALIVE AND IT DID AND EVERYTHING ELSE IS WAY LESS IMPORTANT THAN THAT#why the FUCK are you feeling SO ASHAMED for making the best decision you knew how to make at the time???#just because you know NOW that you could have tried some other options doesn't mean you did THEN#you may have known enough to feel shame and guilt yes but you would never in a million years have gotten the help you needed fast enough#by attempting to go another route#you didn't trust anyone besides a very few handfuls of people and even them it wasn't fully#and the stress of running it through parental insurance was so terrifying to you bc you didn't know what that would do#and you never had cosigners for anything your whole adult life. it's OKAY#you fucking DID YOUR BEST#YOU HAVE LEARNED. YOU HAVE MADE CHANGES. YOU HAVE ALREADY DONE BETTER#YOU WILL CONTINUE TO LEARN AND IMPROVE OVER TIME#it is not the end of the world. even the utilities sending you to debt collections etc etc#YOU ARE FIGURING IT OUT ONE PIECE AT A TIME#MORE PEOPLE ARE ASHAMED AND AFRAID OF THEIR OWN FINANCES THAN YOU THINK#if the people who fought and argued with and shamed you for considering student loans much less taking them out#had wanted you to actually be financially safer and healthier#they could have just fucking helped out or cosigned your loans or actively helped you find other solutions#instead of spending months and months telling you it was the worst decision ever and would ruin you financially for decades and such#you made the best decisions you could with the level of terror and knowledge that you had. it was enough to keep you alive.#isn't that enough?#isn't it a victory to survive?? isn't that enough??????#god i'm cringing at sharing this but if it's been this hard for me surely at LEAST one of you has also made financial mistakes or regrets#and seeing me be honest that I fucked it all up too and it's a mess and I'm just climbing back through it as best as I can as I go#will hopefully make at least one of you feel a tiny bit less alone
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welcome to night vale episode 171 "go to the mirror?" // rm "forever rain" music video
#moving back into my parents house where my bedroom closet doors are mirrors at the same time im recently graduated and unemployed is so good#:) a great thing for me. having to find a new sense of self without school and without my work#trying to put less weight on my physical appearance while also trying to soak in how my body is changing and has changed#i lose any idea of myself when im depressed and when im manic and the in betweens are so short sometimes#welcome to night vale#rm
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when you become grateful for your parents>>>>>>
#so like#tea? i guess?#theres this girl from Tumblr i once knew who apparently has a not so nice dad#and honestly#listening to her stories made me realise how much of an amazing dad i have#ive become so grateful to have the parents i do have because honestly#theyre probably one of the best ones out there#alhumdulillah#like literally i cut myself this morning and my father was so stressed like#'do we have bandaids??'#and when i got the bandaid he was like#'come here. lemme put that on for u'#and i was just sitting there waiting for him to put it on my barely visible less than 1 mm cut#🥺🥺🥺#appreciate and love your parents my loves#<3#ann rambles#ann loves her parents and u should too
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Interesting. Don’t necessarily think I’m autistic but I have more going on than just ADHD and I’m not sure what that is.
#I’m not even sure if the ADHD is actually ADHD either or if it’s just technology addiction#Gonna get a REAL neuropsych evaluation at some point out of sheer curiosity as to what the fuck is wrong with me#I relate to a lot of autistic things and I relate to a lot of ADHD things; but I don’t entirely relate to the majority of either population#and I don’t relate to people with both enough to think I have both#I’ve begun treating myself as if I am autistic just for Kicks and using things that help them and it’s helping in some ways#but I know it’s probably not autism because even though I struggle socially; it’s not because of the same reasons#I understand social cues; I was only accidentally perceived as rude as a kid (and most kids are kind of blunt)#(Mostly a moderate amount of “Stop correcting me! It’s disrespectful!” from my parents)#And nowadays because of how much psychology and acting I study; I can perceive shrimp social cues#And I’m purposefully doing all the right things but it still feels like I fail social interactions because of my lack of assertiveness#which I KNOW come from being raised in a cult#so perhaps my odd social behavior is from CPTSD from being raised in a puritan doomsday cult as an only child#Because I was NOT introverted or sensitive to others as a child#I did not have routines as a child and the ones I did have were for fun and did not distress me if I strayed from them#But now I need structure as an adult because I don’t know what else to do with myself if I have nowhere to be#But at the same time everyone feels worse when they have no routine or expectations#And is it actually inattentive ADHD or severe derealization and an itch to do as many things as possible#because I spent my childhood being raised in a boring doomsday cult by disabled older parents who couldn’t physically do much?#(And I don’t fault my parents for being disabled but I do fault them for the whole doomsday cult thing)#So I spent my whole childhood doing mentally tedious things when really I’m more wired for physically spontaneous things#Because I was not allowed to walk around the neighborhood alone until I was sixteen#And I couldn’t hang out with friends I wanted to hang out with because they were bad association#So of course I got really good at drawing even though I don’t even like drawing that much#Of course I got really good at writing even though I don’t like writing that much#Now that I don’t need to escape from anything I find I actually hate drawing and writing because it’s such a chore#they make my heart rate accelerate in a way I don’t like to feel#(I hate writing less than drawing)
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accidentally thought about the perception of IBS in our current culture and got so angry. like idk maybe it's better than the zero i heard about the condition growing up (despite suffering with it since before I can remember) but the whole ibs as a meme Thing where its like this thing hot people have that makes u shit urself a bit after coffee on an empty stomach is not iitttt. This stuff was disabling to me my whole childhood + into adulthood. I was in pain and discomfort everyday. I avoided social events because of it. especially anything overnight. The condition itself combined w how my parents tried to treat it are some of the biggest reasons I have a fucked uo relationship to food. I literally NEVER told any of my friends about it until it was already (relatively) under control. And it was never diagnosed even tho I was taken to the doctor about it multiple times including as a really little kid. what the fuck. I genuinely think back on the physical symptoms I used to experience daily and the mental toll it took on me, and the way I associated my body with like. dirt and poor hygeine. and idk how I managed. it was (and still is) so damaging and it was relentless. and if i talk now about like my dietary restrictions or whatever so many people will just be like 'oh lol all the lactose intolerant people I know still drink milk'
#focring myself 2 be nuanced: i am sure many people making haha gay people iced coffee jokes ALSO#experience horrible symptoms they dont talk about#but christ#i hate society#i hate how like. the effort i put in every dayyyy not to develop an eating disorder#could be used on smth else.#like in some counterfactual where i didn't have the disease or where it was caught early or smth#i mean ok to be fair id probably still be fucked up bc of autism and parents. like my sister was raised the same and [thats her business]#my food issues cld have been Less Bad tho#ibs#misc
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does anyone know when the sheer terror and gripping panic and endless worry about the state of the world and people u love goes away? thanks
#i feel like.......... i need to like be less of a worry wart of the people around me#cause its not only hurting them its hurting me too as well#like i worry when my family goes out of the house#im worried abt my sister when she graduates and how she'll find a job#im worried for my brother in school#im worried for my parents and their stress and health worries etc#like.......... its just not great#and i never know what to do abt it and ik im not the only one who feels this type of way#but i feel like everyone else around me has a better handle on things than i do (avg being in ur 20s momence)#im worried for myself and if ill ever find a job and will i be okay if i were to move out will things work out for me etc#its like........... whats that one tumblr tiktok post going around#just constantly borrowing grief from the future#gotta NOT do that#luna.txt#venting#apologies everyone for these long ass tags
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HAPPY JULANCE EVERYBODY
#i’m so fucking excited i have plans#there is one plan.#in particular.#and i make no promises bc i’m not excellent at forcing myself to finish things but there is one fic in rly rly hoping to finish this weekend#bc my parents aren’t home so i’m less stressed by default and hopefully i can just write and write and write!!!!#lance#julance#also i will make a special birthday post for the blorbo obviously
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