#legal health stuff

[contentment-of-cats]

Just give me the coffee, I will do the rest.

Loki is settling in. Mostly, he wants to eat and sleep. The few times I have let him out of the Borg Cube, he's been out for 10 minutes, gets overstimulated, and runs back to his Safe Place. Right now he is learning how to play with toys, and loves his scratching posts and pads. He's been through so much. I have asked that the ex get a visit from his karma.

Unpleasant Subject Ahead

Another thing that this whole thing has driven home is how important it is to get your affairs in order - even if you don't have cancer. Loki's mom was getting a divorce and fell so ill so fast that she was unable to make her own medical decisions within days of admission. Even if you are getting a divorce, even with an actual protective order, your spouse is still the legal default person to make decisions for you. They are your legal heir. If you don't have a legal spouse (marriage certificate), it's your adult children, if you have no kids then your parents make those decisions even if you're a legal adult. If you have no immediate family, then your extended family gets called in.

Power of attorney legal and medical

Will for personal property

Living trust for investments and real estate

Medical orders (supersede those of the POA) such as Do Not Resuscitate

A health care directive like this one.

It's hard to think about, but when your surviving extended family is a mess (like mine) you want these things in order. Hell, have them notarized so that a judge can look at the plaintiff and say, "What the hell is the matter with you?"

Golden Treadmill

I'm strapping myself in with another 'write to spec' contract. Yep, it's more porn. I negotiated for one every six weeks from February to November. I need to visit Amazon and stock up on barf bags and brain bleach. I did say that I won't write noncon or (yes, this is a thing) racist tropes. It's hard for me to write hardcore body horror. I might be writing horrible porn in order to pay off my medical bills that makes my pussy slam shut like an angry clam, but I have standards. That being said, the editor delivered the advance to my freelance bank account and the outline to my inbox.

Whoo boy.

In my defense, I did not know that 'monster fucking' was commercially viable.

Cat in the Kitchen

Rediscovering food has been a wonder. As promised, my rearranged innards make it trial and error, but the errors seem to be self-correcting. Gut flora does come back, but I have not been brave enough to venture into my spicy Indian, Chinese, and Mexican foods.

I've been making casseroles/hotdish because they freeze well and sometimes the fatigue renders me incapable of anything other than pushing a button.

For casseroles/hotdish you need:

Vegetables: Frozen works fine. Canned is saltier, so if you go canned use 'less salt' brands. If you are using mushrooms, frozen, fresh or dried is best. I find canned mushrooms have a very weird metallic taste.

Starch: Potatoes, rice, pasta/noodles, bread. Yes, tater tots count.

Protein: Can be vegetable protein, beans, canned tuna or salmon, or meat. Smoked salmon is delicious in casseroles and soup, so I go to my local deli on Friday to get lox ends and trimmings.

Sauce: Canned soups (cream of ____), jarred or canned pasta sauce, or packaged cooking sauces and gravies.

Topping: Cornflakes, tater tots, cheese, potato chips, stuffing, etc.

Flavor: Dried herbs, onion and celery, garlic, spices.

Slowcooker meals are great, too, and follow the same rules as casseroles/hotdish. But my favorite caserole dish is my Gran's Lancashire hotpot - lamb neck chops, potatoes, onions, and more sliced potatoes on top for a crispy lid.

Back to work.

[lickthatbattery]

miraculously managed to snag a intake doctor's appt that is Next Friday instead of what originally looked like having to wait until OCTOBER so i'm feeling pretty good about that

[anarcho-masochist]

My alters: please use the symptom tracker

Me, who is very paranoid about mental health data being used against me and also cynical about the value of reducing one's mental state to numbers as one's primary mode of analysis, for Obvious Fucking Reasons: I think we should drop our phone off a building

[transgender-catboy]

oh yeah. this whole death thing is like. wild.

apparently one of my aunts died recently

[nexus-nebulae]

another childhood bucket list item obtained: i finally have a snuggie

[guest-1-2-3]

See there’s “processing your emotions properly and taking time to ensure you’re mentally healthy” and there’s also “locking yourself in one room and drowning your emotions out with the loudest music possible until you can’t hear yourself think” and idk i really like one of these and the other one makes me want to throw up :/

[agayconcept]

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[deepwoundsandfadedscars]

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[chipjrwibignaturals]

I have to pick a topic for my health communication class— we’ll do at least one Essay on, and I think (?) generally use this topic for a few more Big Projects throughout the semester

[of-galaxies-and-black-holes]

recalling life events got me fucked enough to be writing song lyrics again.

[shoveitshovel]

one week left

[we-will-all-be-stories]

i haven't really dedicated myself to singing since high school when i dropped out of state chorus but i am *this* close to getting back into it

[sl33py-g4m3r]

idk where the other post is; but I suppose I'll make a new one for whatever this personal post is.

Been batting around the idea of "maybe I'm trans" quite a while; so much so that it's driving me nuts.....

Apparently I may not actually be trans; but instead just disillusioned and upset with the way women are still treated in society so to speak.

I thought that maybe it would be safer if i were male; that I'd be safer if I were male, that people would take me more seriously (especially if i got into fields of tech and the like) if I were male, that people would judge me less for what I wore, that men have more freedom than women do in society.l

My therapist helped me to come to the conclusion that I was just a girl who has been through a lot of stuff and doesn't see the world as safe.

especially since it still seems that it's a mans world anyway for the most part. male seems to still be default.

please take women more seriously, please make walking at night safer for women, please don't judge women for what they wear or think "they're asking for it wearing stuff like that" referring to revealing clothing..... Please don't be creepy...... Please don't assume that someone automatically wants you in "that" way just for being nice to you, or demand it of them when their answer was no....

I'm just a girl who's been through quite a bit; and I hoped that if i were thought of as a man that maybe I'd be safer and taken more seriously. but alas, no. It's obvious I'm female anyway...

I don't like being vulnerable but I am... I'm emotional, I'm small at a whopping 150 cm.... I'm blind legally speaking, and I hate it...... I feel it makes me more vulnerable than I need to be..... or want to be....

Hopefully I'll get to a point where I'm content and happy being female... Some day.....

I'm not a misandrist or someone who hate men.... I just don't like what men can do to women and get away with scot free for the most part. cause in some cases if there isn't any evidence for something like SA, it's the mans word over hers and the man is more than likely going to be the one that's believed. Or in cases of the hard R word; if those kits take a year or more to go over, and he knows there's a case open about the hard R word, he can harass and stalk the victim until she drops the case out of fear, leaving no repercussions to his actions.

So, no I don't hate men, I'm just upset that they can do more to women, and do actually do more to women that's negative than the other way around. Not saying that it doesn't happen in reverse; because it probably does. But more often than not, it's the man doing the things to the woman and (usually) getting away with it...

I wanted to be seen as male to hopefully get a piece of that power that I thought men had/have in society, that women don't. To be taken more seriously, to feel safer and less vulnerable.....

Maybe there isn't disparity between men and women still, but then maybe there is... I believe it's still there however.... despite how far society has come...

although I might be totally wrong; that's how i feel about things and about my "trans" journey so far. Maybe I'm not actually transgender, but just don't want to be female because I feel it's not safe and people won't take me seriously if I were...

Lest the small disabled woman know more than a man..... >_<

[thestarscollective]

Cw for military and government stuff, raising voice and yelling. ⛓️

Im so tired of the same people hurting me and mine again and again. I dont care about your opinions on war. The country made a promise and we deserve care

[sodathedonut]

Guess who’s back after being self-grounded from the internet to focus on other things!

[rigginsstreet]

Random Question for you, but do you ever want to get married and have kids someday? Also, how good are you with children?

Kids absolutely not. I don’t think I’m good with kids at all lmfao they make me uncomfortable but one time I was playing with my aunt in laws grandson in the pool and my mom was like “wow you’re really good with him”. I attribute that to being in water. Don’t put me around kids on dry land it’s not gonna go well 😂 especially if they start crying or shitting or puking I want no part of it

As for marriage… I don’t know. The idea sounds nice but I cannot lie the idea of being legally bound to someone triggers my claustrophobia lmao like I need an escape route at all times for all things and being married to someone??? That is not an easy out. I just envision myself having a panic attack on my wedding day. I could commit to someone without getting the law involved ya know? And if we make it to old age or one us is is on the verge of dying I’d get married then just to make shit less complicated you know how that goes