#just please respect pronouns

[bellaxgiornata]

I'm just making a general statement that isn't meant to come across as rude, aggressive, or to make anyone feel singled out/attacked, but please heed the pronouns someone may have listed on their blog. They're there for a reason.

I know earlier today @souliebird made a brief post announcing their pronouns which have always been listed on their blog. It was never a secret. They were not trying to call anyone out, hurt anyone's feelings, or asking for apologies. It was just a polite request to be referred to properly and a clarification for those who may not have looked at their blog and saw that. It was getting upsetting for them to be misgendered and instead of needing to correct multiple people, they figured they'd make a single post to make it more widely known. It wasn't meant for anything other than that, so please do not feel the need to make apologies or make it anything other than what it was. Some of the attention from a simple ask to have pronouns respected has been overwhelming and not necessarily friendly.

I know this community is full of wonderful people so I'm hoping y'all will be respectful and not rude. We're all here to connect over the same fandom and to have an escape from reality, so please be kind and think before you speak. If you've misgendered someone, just please correct yourself in the future, that's all that is being asked.

Just spread the love instead of the hate, y'all ❤️ And please don't create drama where there isn't any. That's it.

[sainamoonshine]

My unpopular opinion is that in languages with grammatical gender like french, it does make sense for Murderbot to be referred to by whatever pronoun is usually used for robots or constructs. (In french, therefore, grammatical masculine.) Because there are no traditional « it » pronouns in these languages for objects, and while there are neo-pronouns, they are things one must choose for themselves. Do you honestly think MB actually spent time thinking about its pronouns?! No it didn’t. On forms it picks « non-applicable ». When people ask it what pronouns they should use, its honest opinion is « why do you even need to talk about me. Just don’t fucking do that. Don’t think about me either. Just fucking stop perceiving me altogether! »

Thinking about what pronouns to use probably makes it way more uncomfortable than letting people call it what they’ve already been calling it. Making a conscious choice about its identity? And telling other people about it??? No thanks bye, it’s just gonna walk into the ocean now, see you never.

Lbr it probably thinks the only bots that get fancy pronouns are comfort units, and the pronouns are probably shoved into them by humans same as everything else. MB would meet a bot using a neopronoun and it would wish it could barf. Because in a language like french, he/him and she/her, when applied to objects, ARE fulfilling the function of the english « it ». Nobody is saying the table is a woman or related to feminity in any way outside of stand-up comedy; when it comes to objects grammatical gender really has fuckall to do with human gender even if we use the same words. Even animal species names have grammatical gender and everyone gets that there are male and female turtles even if the word « turtle » is a female word, it’s not that confusing.

(I know this is strange when your language has different pronouns for people and for objects, but understand that english uses the same word to indicate if I’m addressing one or many people, and that is confusing to me.)

TL;DR; stop harassing international fans for not getting the correct MB pronoun in english right off the bat. Yes in english calling it « he » or « her » or « them » is upsetting because it’s projecting an identity unto it. But same goes for trying to get a foreign language translation to use a pronoun intended to express or showcase an identity (or even a lack of one!). Murderbot has not thought about it this hard, refuses to think about it this hard -> and that is its only canon accurate gender identity.

[werewolfclaws]

And while you're at it / Keep the nightlight on inside the birdhouse in your soul 🍀

A little postcard for @laikascomet ! It's so utterly amazing watching Laika's Comet grow from sketches to a full blown comic that's already completed chapter 1!

[wellthatschaotic]

whenever i see someone who is like "yes but [x] isnt as oppressed as [y]!!" or "[x] is widely accepted now!!" as a way to like. disregard queer people's experiences. i'm just like. have you been outside? have you been in the real world?

[ask-indigo-park-swapped]

==> MOLLIE: Talk to your friends!

[Rambley]

MOLLIE: RAMBLEY! HI!!! RAMBLEY: OH! HI MOLLIE!!! MOLLIE: Helpin' with supplies, Rambley? RAMBLEY: Of course!!! You know me, always doing something to help! MOLLIE: Of course, of course! MOLLIE: What'dya think of the Isles so far? RAMBLEY: Ah... I'd say it's just below the Swamplands for worst safety violation ever. MOLLIE: Hah! Not liking the heights, huh~? RAMBLEY: Nope! But, at least this place has a distinct lack of corrosive acid. That's more than I can say for the Swamplands. MOLLIE: Fair enough. MOLLIE: Say, have you seen Salem around? RAMBLEY: Huh? No, I think they decided to stay behind at Aviary Station. Something about making more potions. MOLLIE: Ah, that's a shame. I'd have liked to explore with someone from Aviary.

RAMBLEY: Here we go! RAMBLEY: Sorry, Mollie! I gotta run supplies now! See you later! MOLLIE: Bye, Rambley!

=> Ask about how the Isles float MOLLIE: Rambley, do you know what makes the isles float? RAMBLEY: Hmm... RAMBLEY: Well, the Isles are still mostly unexplored, so I don't have a lot of information yet - but I have a theory! MOLLIE: Oh? RAMBLEY: Yep! I bet that the reason the Isles float is... gems! MOLLIE: Gems? RAMBLEY: Yep! The scouts kept finding these dark, iridescent gems on a bunch of items and even in some walls in the Isle ruins. They don't match any other gems, so I bet they're magic or something! MOLLIE: Hmm... RAMBLEY: I bet they got some... anti-gravity enchantment or something, or maybe it's just something about the gems in particular that lets them float! Negative mass! En-cloud-er! MOLLIE: But what about the smaller islands? I don't think those have gems. RAMBLEY: Yeah, that's why I only have theories. The smaller islands float just as easily as the main island, but there doesn't seem to be a consistent reason why RAMBLEY: Maybe there's some artifact inside that causes the floating, but I have never heard of an enchantment that strong. So for now, my best theory is gems.

[Trader]

MOLLIE: G'mornin', Trader! Suprised to see you out of the Snow Line. TRADER: Ah, good greetings reckless one. You wish to trade? MOLLIE: No ma'am, I just wanted to say hello. Maybe hear any rumours about the Isles? TRADER: Hmm, we do trade for knowledge... TRADER: ... an explorer returned during early dawn. Having come from deeper within, the explorer had been telling stories about what ey've seen during eir expedition. TRADER: These ruins may have once been cult grounds. MOLLIE: Aw feathers, another dead cult? At least it's in a cool place this time, and not just some spot in the woods. TRADER: If that is all, we would ask you to leave. MOLLIE: Ah right, I'm holding the line. See you around, Trader! TRADER: Likewise.

[Ruta]

MOLLIE: Hey, Ruta! Excited to adventure in a new place? RUTA: Good morning, Mollie. I am very excited to explore the Isles. It was prohibited for exploration for so long I am required to be excited to explore. MOLLIE: We're like birds of a feather, you and me! You, me, and a whole flock'a folks. RUTA: Yes! This Outpost is very crowded with explorers! Even the scouts that explored this area are going back in. MOLLIE: Whoa, really? RUTA: Yes. These ruins are quite unique after all. MOLLIE: I heard that not a lotta scouts were let in though, only flyers like avians. Wouldn't they have explored this place top to bottom already? RUTA: No. Remember that scouts only do a quick sweep over areas. More in-depth explorations like what we do are very different, and with such a new area there are bigger risks of harmful traps that were missed. MOLLIE: It sounds like you got some advice to give, Ruta. RUTA: Correct. RUTA: Be more watchful of traps, Mollie, there is no guarantee that they are safe. In addition, do not count only on your wings for escape. MOLLIE: ... MOLLIE: ... is that it? RUTA: Hm? MOLLIE: I mean, your advice is usually more ominous than that. I already know to be careful of traps, and it's not like I only got my wings. I brought by grappling gun, and emergency rope, and a buncha other stuff. RUTA: My apologies that my advice is disappointing. Nevertheless, I must continue my preparations. Take care on your journey, Mollie, and good luck! MOLLIE: Good luck on your own adventure, Ruta! I'll keep your advice in mind!

Mollie decides she idled around enough - she is itching for some adventure!

Mollie enters the TETHERED ISLES. ==>

[impossible-rat-babies]

being nb/trans in bg3 is kinda funny to me in that there are really nasty evil people, but at least they will call you the correct pronouns while trying to murder you

[lesbianwyllravengard]

I hope I can explain this well. You can "misgender" me (in quotes bc I don't have a gender) if it's funny. Use whatever pronouns whatever adjectives whatever label whatever is funniest in the moment. Tell me to go piss girl or slay queen. Tell me I'm just some guy. Call me a gender vacuum or whatever the fuck just make it funny. I don't want people holding back on a killer joke because the pronouns aren't in my bio, I promise you won't upset me

[dont-offend-the-bees]

Not to continue my recent trend of oversharing on tumblr dot com, but I am very much struggling not to feel like I'm doing everything in my entire life wrong at present

[toastysol]

I don't get why everyone's surprised that the brotherhood use the correct pronouns with Dane. I think people have forgotten a major aspect of the fallout environment. The bombs falling destroyed conventional societal norms. This includes any political agenda to erase trans people from history and the future. Also this is fiction. The brotherhood of steel are not a conservative christian political party. They care about what they dub "abuse of technology", this includes the biproducts thereof. The only people who fit that category are synths and mutants who they view as abominations that need to be exterminated. If trans people even counted as abuse of technology (which they don't and shouldn't, as the technology used for transition is helpful and not hurtful), they would be so far down the list the brotherhood wouldn't care. Why would they care. It's really not a big deal imo. It's a big deal in OUR world, but not theirs. Not by a long shot.

[chaos-potat]

I know I said I don't care what pronouns are used for me, but I think I might care a little bit

It would be nice if people would use mine for me every once in a while, I use he/him/his, I don't use they/them/theirs :[

[femgoddess-hecate]

"If you misgender a bad person then your friends will see that and see that you won't respect them!!"

I've heard this a few times before and it always irks me. No actually these things are wholly different. I'm not required to respect someone who has chosen to be a stain on society. If you are a rapist, murderer, pedophile etc you do not deserve respect at all. I literally don't care what you want from me at that point.

If you have willingly chosen to abandon your humanity it is not up to me to give it to you. At that point I don't have to respect you anymore.

What it tells me though is that you will defend someone's gender identity above advocating for the victim. What it tells me is that if I were to have something bad happen to me, you'd be on my abuser's side over mine.

If you as a friend of mine see that and somehow conflate yourself with that, I have to wonder why you think you'll be lumped into that group. Like obviously you'll never rape/ murder/ abuse children right? Right?

[nanowired-lover]

im pretty sure some transmasc ppl can relate and said already but i want my gender to be ''male crossdressing presenting''. I want ppl to look at me and be lile ''this is a GUY, a MAN, a DUDE and he wears things like a woman but when he tells you he's a guy you know he is." I want to look hyper fem and hyper masc. I want to change between a bubbly emotional lil angry dude and your sweet tranvestite.

[capetowncapers]

If you “care about trans ppl” but will conveniently not respect the pronouns of (or worse, will deadname) people you don’t like or agree with, I don’t believe you and I think you’re gross.

[shentheauthor]

Kind reminder that ALL aeons in honkai star rail use they/them pronouns, INCLUDING nanook

[anti-transphobia]

If anyone wanted to know what it's like to be a trans person not aligned with masculinity online, I've had such a huge issue with both cis and transmasc people calling me dude and then arguing about it when I asked them not to that I had to set my nickname in discord servers as "don't call me dude/man/bro". That wasn't enough so I changed it to be in all caps and set my overall discord display name as "DONT CALL ME DUDE/MAN/BRO". Within a few hours I was @ed on a server I never talk in, a server where most of its members never talk because it's a mod development/compilation server so people are there for information and that's it, by an any pronouns trans person who hasn't spoken in that server in a YEAR and talked again specifically to misgender me

[silverislander]

email from school abt a seminar for "women and people who identify as women" i am so fucking tired