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I feel like the aftg fandom has just swung hard from one mischaracterization of Neil to another.
Yes, Neil is not an innocent little soft-boy like a lot of fans made him out to be pre-TSC, but he isn't some cold, calculated badass either.
He took out a hit on Grayson over Thai food. He doodles fox paws in his notebooks and hates vegetables. He insults FBI agents' parking jobs and he spent a bus ride staring over the back of his seat making heart eyes at his boyfriend. He manipulated the agents while eating takeout in the interrogation room. He canonically internally panics and overthinks the entire time he's attempting to manipulate anyone. He uses people's family trauma to manipulate them. He misses his mom.
Neil Abram Josten is a multifaceted character
#he literally offers to delay meeting the FBI because he sees that Jean is having a breakdown#he only took out the hit on Grayson because he saw how scared Jean was!#he is not just some cruel asshole of a guy just because Jean's perspective of him is skewed#thanks for coming to my ted talk#aftg#all for the game#neil josten
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you were raised in comparison.
it wasn't always obvious (well. except for the times that it was), but you internalized it young. you had to eat what you didn't like, other people are going hungry, and you should be grateful. you had to suck it up and walk on the twisted ankle, it wasn't broken, you were just being a baby. you were never actually suffering, people obviously had it worse than you did.
you had a roof over your head - imagine! with the way you behaved, with how you talked back to your parents? you're lucky they didn't kick you out on your ass. they had friends who had to deal with that. hell, you have friends who had to deal with that. and how dare you imply your father isn't there for you - just because he doesn't ever actually talk to you and just because he's completely emotionally checked out of your life doesn't mean you're not fucking lucky. think about your cousins, who don't even get to speak to their dad. so what if yours has a mean streak; is aggressive and rude. at least you have a father to be rude to you.
you really think you're hurting? you were raised in a home! you had access to clean water! you never so much as came close to experiencing a real problem. sure, okay. you have this "mental illness" thing, but teenagers are always depressed, right. it's a phase, you'll move on with your life.
what do you mean you feel burnt out at work. what do you mean you mean you never "formed healthy coping mechanisms?" we raised you better than that. you were supposed to just shoulder through things. to hold yourself to high expectations. "burning out" is for people with real jobs and real stress. burnout is for people who have sick kids and people who have high-paying jobs and people who are actually experiencing something difficult. recently you almost cried because you couldn't find your fucking car keys. you just have lost your sense of gratitude, and honestly, we're kind of hurt. we tell you we love you, isn't that enough? if you want us to stick around, you need to be better about proving it. you need to shut up about how your mental health is ruined.
it could be worse! what if you were actually experiencing executive dysfunction. if you were really actually sick, would you even be able to look at things on the internet about it? you just spend too much time on webMD. you just like to freak yourself out and feel like you belong to something. you just like playing the victim. this is always how you have been - you've always been so fucking dramatic. you have no idea how good you have it - you're too fucking sensitive.
you were like, maybe too good of a kid. unwilling to make a real fuss. and the whole time - the little points, the little validations - they went unnoticed. it isn't that you were looking for love, specifically - more like you'd just wanted any one person to actually listen. that was all you'd really need. you just needed to be witnessed. it wasn't that you couldn't withstand the burden, but you did want to know that anyone was watching. these days, you are so accustomed to the idea of comparison - you don't even think you belong in your own communities. someone always fits better than you do. you're always the outlier. they made these places safe, and then you go in, and you are just not... quite the same way that would actually-fit.
you watch the little white ocean of your numbness lap at your ankles. the tide has been coming in for a while, you need to do something about it. what you want to do is take a nap. what you want to do is develop some kind of time machine - it's not like you want your life to stop, not completely, but it would really nice if you could just get everything to freeze, just for a little while, just until you're finished resting. but at least you're not the worst you've been. at least you have anything. you're so fucking lucky. do you have any concept of the amount of global suffering?
a little ant dies at the side of your kitchen sink. you look at its strange chitinous body and think - if you could just somehow convince yourself it is enough, it will finally be enough and you can be happy. no changes will have to be made. you just need to remember what you could lose. what is still precious to you.
you can't stop staring at the ant. you could be an ant instead of a person, that is how lucky you are. it's just - you didn't know the name of the ant, did you. it's just - ants spend their whole life working, and never complain. never pull the car over to weep.
it's just - when it died, it curled up into a tight little ball.
something kind of uncomfortable: you do that when you sleep.
#writeblr#warm up#my dad was actively doing bad shit to us and we STILL were told we were lucky . and to a point i do think im lucky#i just think also there's somethin to be said about like. how about we stop using comparison to dismiss ppls individual struggles#yes there are people who have no perspective. for the reference tho having perspective actually made me really unwilling to get help#for what was a serious and debilitating mental health issue. bc i thought i didnt DESERVE IT#and i would rather have 600 ppl who aren't THAT bad get help and get heard and get seen#than make any 1 kid. do the math that i did: look at the world that is dying and the people who are hurting and say#''oh. okay. others have it worse. they are probably better people than i am. i am being unreasonable. i cannot ask for help#i am not good. i am taking too much space. i am not worth saving.''#bc our WHOLE lives we are taught a scarcity mindset - that you can 'steal' from someone. so that instead of changing a system that doesn't#actually offer fair support to everyone#we put the impetus on the individual to just... demand less.#and here's something - there are probably ppl who think i DIDNT deserve to get help#bc i DID have it better than other people#and something about that is ... so sickening. bc i think all of us in some way at some point WILL need help.#we were supposed to make communities. we were supposed to offer our hands. we were supposed to raise the barn#instead we said: it could be worse. now handle it yourself
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I certainly don't think it's the only thing and obviously blackpill culture exists for a multitude of other reasons, I just think there can be a nugget of truth within incel rhetoric (being unattractive under colonial desirability standards is it's own oppression with its own consequences) or within /tttt/ anti-hugbox culture (toxic positivity is often pervasive within progressive spaces to the point of silencing ugly people having frank conversations). Those nuggets of truth and the anxieties, hurt and alienation they represent are then used as the hook to onboard people into alt-right spaces; it's just one onboarding process but there are many others.
I just think it's a place where progressive spaces are weak to offering any counterpoint to prevent that onboarding; if your options are "you are undesirable, and here's why that's a bad thing you should feel ashamed of (and then blame minorities for)" or "you're beautiful, stop talking about being ugly" a lot of people would rather the social context in which their lived reality is being acknowledged, and then get swallowed into the other ideological trappings of those contexts. i think to avoid this would require progressive spaces (and specifically desirable people within them) to be willing to engage with desirability, which they currently aren't.
You guys arent gonna like this but youre wrong, passing privilege most definitely exists and to deny that denies the lived experience of trans women who are punished for being "ugly" even by other trans women, the most famous trans woman in the so called us is contrapoints, someone who has frequently made it clear that she believes that trans women who dont pass are bad for "the movement"
#see: innuendo studios how to radicalize a normie#i like that video a lot right up into the end where he says “the left has hope” or whatever#I think it offers too much praise to leftism and leftist/progressive discourse#that ultimately we're lacking in some key areas#desirability being one of them#looking at you contrapoints#anyway also not wanting to start shit#just offering my perspectives#this is just something i've thought a lot about as a fat trans woman#more trying to “yes and” your point
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Imagine if you were a gay or bi man who tried a certain firefighter show because of all the attention it was getting for one of its mains having a later in life bi awakening.....and between seasons you ventured into its fandom in search of material to tide you over til the next one. And you're greeted by a deluge of posts and fics that are just cheerfully homophobic towards one half of the newly out bi character's canon relationship on the basis of 'well he's not the RIGHT gay guy' and pushing the idea that actually its fine to cheat on him because Reasons and he's sexually predacious based on......behind the scenes implications people have divined like they're reading fucking tea leaves.
But don't get it twisted....this fandom, like all fandoms, really cares about representation!
Sorry not sorry, but we really need to kill this idea that fandoms are welcoming and inviting and inherently progressive when they're frequently insular and reductive as fuck. Every single fandom I've been in has had major trends of people doubling down on their own headcanons and fanon interpretations of the characters and willfully enacting trends aimed at running off people who like the 'wrong' characters (usually characters marginalized along one or multiple axes), like the characters in the 'wrong ways' or other bullshit.
Scott is a Bad Friend fics overtaking Teen Wolf fandom was not incidental, it was a FEATURE of the fandom, because the vast majority of that fandom did not want to share its space with anyone who had the nerve to like its main character. Survivors complaining about or criticizing the prevalance of rape fics in a certain fandom has in my experience always led to a reactionary UPTICK in those fics, with gems like 'this character can, will, must be raped' in the tags making it crystal clear that some of these fics exist because how fucking DARE anyone try and push forth a narrative not agreed upon by Fandom Main.
I could cite examples for so many other fandoms, with the commonalities always being that vast majorities in these fandoms are explicitly reacting defensively to being asked to be more mindful of fandom trends revolving around or exacerbating racism, homophobia, transphobia, rape or abuse apologia, ableism, etc....
With the most prolific fucking rallying cry across countless fandoms being "No the fuck we will NOT be doing that," because lolololol.....
Fandom is an inherently progressive space, didn't you hear?
#anyway this has been on my mind in general for a few weeks now#and its more about fandoms just being fandoms#and like....what if they werent though#these patterns migrate from one to another as fans migrate from fandom to fandom bringing their bullshit with them#like do people never get tired of just trying to call DIBS and claim fandoms for themselves while shutting out anyone else#who might have a lot to fucking offer if you werent being so gd intent on staking a claim instead of sharing perspectives#and exploring new possibilities?#and I know not everyone links certain problems with racist homophobic and other behaviors to my own issues with dark fic and rape and#abuse apologia but I do inherently see it as sharing large portions of venn diagrams even though I do not consider being a survivor to be#something that demarcates privilege in the way that axes of identity do#as its situationally based rather than inherently identity based#but the way it can affect and shape large parts of peoples' identities begets commonalities#but my point is just.....a big part of why I so often lump it in is specifically because of how people react to these things or#defend against criticism across the board#like most people know my stance on censorship and how my blood boils when its people who are throwing accusations of#censorship at those raising criticisms....#but the point is just.....think about what censorship actually IS in all practical senses of the word#its about shutting down conversations. limiting the flow of information the sharing of perspectives and experiences#THATS WHAT MAKES IT BAD#now......what about criticism inherently lends itself to any of those things if you DONT accept as a foregone conclusion that criticism#is only ever offered up in bad faith and meant as a silencing tactic#instead of just a request or offered avenue of ways for things to be done better rather than not at all?#who is ACTUALLY out here trying to shut down convos and limit possibilities?#is it really the people being critical of fandom behaviors and trends?#or the ones doubling down at the first hint of any criticism and aggressively ramping up how frequently and visibly they engage in#the criticized behaviors in efforts to drive people away or as a silencing tactic of their own?#just saying
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how have we regressed so much as a society where gawain and the green knight is way more queer in the 14th century poem than the 2021 film. where is the lord and lady bertilak bisexual polycule? the milf morgan le fay/guinevere toxic yuri?
#no because the ending of the film would work SO WELL through a queer perspective#gawain freeing himself from the conservative christianity of camelot and embracing the freedom offered by the green knight/lord bertilak#and yet. nothing#I don't expect any of you to care about this. i just sometimes need to post cringe gay nerd shit lest my followers start thinking I'm cool#like that guy who fires shots in his neighborhood to keep the rent low#gawain and the green knight#the green knight#sir gawain#arthurian legend
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i love seeing all those posts about ableism in the hunger games! it makes me so happy to see how educated younger people are towards mental health/physical disabilities.
i think everyone is bringing up such wonderful points about a lot of things.
the only thing i will say that i kind of disagree on is the criticism of katniss. not that people are wrong to point out that her thoughts are ableist, they are! but it’s also important to remember that this is a teenager in a district that hardly teaches more than coal mining.
katniss does not have the same access to the education that we have! she has never been given the chance to learn the things that we all know about alcoholism and mental health. she’s a child who grew up with a mother suffering from mental health issues and had to the pressure of taking care of her entire family from a young age.
#no shade toward my beloved mutuals you are all so smart and wonderful and i’ve loved reading every post!#i just wanted to offer a different perspective!#100% valid of you all to disagree!#i actually could make a much longer post on this but ill shut up for now#this is actually a take based off something my therapist told me#when i was unpacking my trauma#my parents didn’t have the knowledge i know
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Putting wips of your characters from different campaigns on the same page is a mistake I was just trying to compare them for height reference and I accidentally created a fairy gf/goth gf dynamic! Now I’m SAD and MAD because these two are my own characters and the only way I’ll ever get to see them together is if I go off the rails and actually draw AU content for them!
…which I might. I have no idea what I’d draw but literally them just standing on the same page is cute and I want to see what my 5’5 space paladin and my 6’3 pf magus would do if they ever existed in the same room
#art#pathfinder#dnd#dnd art#dungeons and dragons#paladin#magus#character art#character design#character#oc#original character#wip#wip art#luz#andromeda#andromeda might actually be a paladin/warlock idk I’m still working on her story#but I think they’d actually be a good couple for each other which is not something I normally say about my characters lol#luz needs to follow someone to find direction in life and Andromeda just so happens to know what she wants and what she plans to devote her#life to#luz is so ride or die which is exactly the kind of spirit andromeda would need#I haven’t had the chance to play andromeda yet but I think she’d appreciate someone who’s resilient and capable in their own right#and offers a different perspective to things#alrighty I’m done smacking my ocs against each other now you may all carry on#I just figure these are the kind of thoughts tumblr would appreciate lmao
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#garashir#inspired by some garashir fanfic tropes that are BELOVED by me <3#obviously this argument is just for funsies like two kittens playfighting#they would turn into goop and merge with each other like changelings if they could#Star Trek: Deep Space 9#today I offer you: little joke posts that only I find funny. tomorrow? statistically speaking probably the same thing.#a/b/o gave us the concept of ''can't pull out cause of the knot'' but I want a version of that from the pussy perspective#tired of the top always getting to decide these things. my idea is we're done when the ajan says we're done.#actually it's garashir so more likely it would simply be garak lying#''Sorry doctor you can't pull out because of Cardassian xenobiology reasons :( no I will not explain anything further about this btw#but it's DEFINITELY a medical necessity and not me being a freak I prommy <3''#Starky's Original Posts#text post photosets#hm. not seeing heaven for these tags I think.
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It could be(it is) from TVDU’s racism but you would think that after Davina’s death and Kol’s rants on being ignored in the family he would’ve sided with Marcel and not against him..
#sat in my drafts forever lol#let’s hope i don’t regret tagging this#stopped caring to tag my thoughts for awhile#marcel gerard#the originals#kol mikaelson#this wasn’t a anti post for either btw lol. I’m just offering some perspective.
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and with that, evolution is complete.
i do think the scoundrel made the right choice, in the end. maybe- potentially- they think so too.
#yin-thoughts#fallen london#i'll elaborate on which ending i ultimately picked later#this post is spoiler-free. just wanted to say i finished it#overall i really really enjoyed evolution!! one of the best things FL has had to offer so far tbh#i see how some people wouldn't like it though. if you dont sign up for the 'side-character in another ambition' experience#plus the Ocean And Body Horrors™#it can be super disorienting and off-putting. im not surprised it left a bad taste in some mouths#from the perspective of me and my horrible little bat oc headcanons though i had a thoroughly delightful time.#the scoundrel finally gets to go home and sleep now. no more ocean horrors. at least until i get a hankering for echo stonks again#im looking forward to going through with the scientist and taking the opportunity to go an entirely different route#yknow. in the 2 million years it'll take to actually get this far with caeru#scoundrelventures
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My madoka magica hot take is I like sayaka/kyoko as a ship more than madoka/homura
#madoka magica#both ships are very very good and make me feral but god kyoko/sayaka really caters to me#i am biased cuz sayaka is my favorite character lol and i just want good things for her#but i mean we get them as enemies fighting to the death obsessively like sayaka gets so focused on proving herself to kyoko she cant think#of anything else and she wastes her energy fighting her instead of witches and just the foil like#both used their wish to grant something for someone else and kyoko lost everything as a result and decided that nothing good will ever come#of helping others so she should only look after number one and of course shed think that cuz shes all she has left#meanwhile sayaka refuses to take care of herself because she never wants others to suffer so she only exists for others#and both of them change their perspectives in pursuit of each other theyre literally red and blue#and i love seeing the development of their relationship and kyokos feelings i love her offering to kill ryosuke for sayaka#and how terrified she is in that moment when she sees sayakas lifeless body separated from the soul gem#or how she shares her story and remembers why she started fighting because of sayaka and fucking#THE WAY SHE ACTS SELFLESSLY AND STUPIDLY OPTIMISTIC TO SAVE SAYAKA FROM HER WITCH FOR#THE WAY SHE SACRIFICES HERSELF TO CONNECT WITH HER THE LOVE SONG#THEM HOLDING HANDS WHILE SAYAKA CRIES AND KYOKO IS THERE FOR HER AND THEY UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER SO WELL#god fucking dammit these fucking gay people are ruining my sleep#yeah idk if its obvious but i have a specific type when it comes to ships i love when characters beat each other up and are the center of#each others motivations and go through the horrors together and come out the other side and love each other deeply#love each others flaws and theres understanding and tenderness#i haaaave to draw them but i also have to draw a lot of blorbos rn alkksk
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Sketch I accidentally put too close between other doodles
#i gotta get better at figuring out where battle scars would go... esp bc i'm so detailed about moe all the time LMFAO#one thing about the moefonse dynamic. is i think each envies the other to a degree.#in my notes i once described alfonse's feelings about moe as seeing an angel.#a beacon of the beauty life has to offer and hope. the magic and awe of seeing someone who is overtly and unapologetically queer#the beauty of seeing someone just fagging it up. with attitude. outspoken and crude.#writing that note was extremely funny though like. moe? we're talking about the same guy?#my shitass fuckhead homunculus who has every disease? guy who failed in every facet of life EXCEPT for the Bad things?#bc that's all it is and all it ever will be? a bad fucking thing. that guy????#well. it's a matter of perspective... perhaps.....#another focal part is how each have made all-or-nothing sacrifices to live the way they live.#alfonse will never be his own person so long as he's a prince and eventually king. he will always be whatever he Needs to be.#but he's also someone who's wired in such a way that. this makes sense for him. this IS what he wants and embraces it#esp for the good of all. 'those w power should use it to protect those who don't' (ashnard interaction)#that's his mentality. that's what he believes in. that's what he's going to embody no matter the cost.#meanwhile... moe. well. you know about moe. it's a tale as old as time for queer people unfortunately.#endlessly complicated on moe's end as well. the way it both resents and envies what alfonse is able to do.#idk i can talk about it forever. but i gotta organize my tags here i CAN'T HIT LIMIT 😭😭😭#moe tag#fe alfonse#moe lore#summoner oc#my art
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i love my sister and for the most part, we are very close and genuinely like each other a lot but the one place where i'd just really, really, really like to see inside her brain is the part where she is still incredibly comfortable and cheerful—and even thinks it's really funny—talking about how much she didn't like me as a child while I'm like. yes. I am and was aware. and it sucked so so so much
#we had a really wild moment over dinner last week where she actually acknowledged#EXPLICITLY with her OWN WORDS#that things like our brother dying right when i was going into my senior yr of high school#and covid lockdown starting right when i'd graduated college + moved to a new city where i knew no one except her + was applying/auditionin#for jobs#were harder on me than one her in some unique ways#and i was literally like . is. is this a test? am i supposed to deny it?#bc like when our brother died she told me i was a selfish brat (for not grieving the way she did)#and during covid she told me (right after i got laid off) that she had ''way more reasons to be depressed'' than i did#personal#anyway she was laughing so much as she said this (abt not liking me) and i was just staring at her nodding slightly like#yeah. i know. i know you didn't like me#do YOU know how much it sucks to know that your older sister--whom you idolize--who you *desperately* want to like you--#not only doesn't like you at all#but even up into high school/college#would talk about how she couldn't wait till our LITTLE (five year old) cousins were old enough to hang because they'd be so much fun#and know that she had absolutely never thought or said that about you#do you perhaps! think that might still have ramifications on our relationship to this day#if your little sister spent 20+ years knowing that your love was conditional on them being the person you wanted her to be#like. do u???#(the answer is no of course but#i remain boggled by the fact that this eludes her considering she is! in fact! a really smart person!)#it's also like when i was first offered my current job#and our now bosses asked both of us like ''are you worried at all about working with your sister?''#and she laughed like lol no of course not?#while i was like ''honestly yes.'' adskjfglkjasds#very different perspectives sometimes
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Sometimes people respond in good faith or at least politeness to a controversial comment you make on a post, and I appreciate those people. But sometimes it reaches a point where mostly bad faith nasty comments are made in reply and its better to delete the comment so as to have peace of mind about checking my notifications.
Ive also learned to avoid making the FIRST comment on a sensitive post, because tumblr defaults to Oldest First and so everyone who looks there sees your comment first. At least when you comment somewhere in the middle people have to read a bit before they get the chance to be offended at you 😅
#surprisingly mosy of those who replied to me last night were polite and offered reasons#it was overnight that some og the nastier element came out#insulting me and my faith instead of actually offering their perspective#I'll be fine in a bit I just feel bleh after that#but the sun is shining and one controversial post isnt a big deal in the grand scheme kf things :)
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not gonna izzy's death made me not wanna interact with the fandom anymore cause it's a bit depressing, but i still really appreciate your blog and gifs so thank u
oof same, but i'm trying to get over it. most of the season for sure had flaws but wasn't too bad, and most importantly (to me) i had fun with it so i'm trying not to let one truly bad episode sour that (even if that episode is just. near unforgivably terrible)
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You know. I think it kind of flattens Makima's character to presume the limits of her manipulation begin and end with sex appeal. Like even if it's not through the lens of Denji's impressionable teen sexuality, there is in some expectation that those she preys upon are in some manner attracted to her. Within the limits of the narrative that's fine enough since the themes largely involve sex and intimacy in some way. I think the nature of Makima as the Devil of Conquest/Control actually broadens her toolkit when it comes to relationships.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think so long as some form of positive relationship with her is initiated--be it sexual, romantic, familial, platonic or whatever--she has a foothold in a person's psyche enough to influence and subjugate them given enough time. Because the thing is, to her all relationships is a power dynamic in some way, and she's always trying to put herself on top. While a lot of her characterization is indicative of succubi, her nature encompasses all forms of control.
She's the manager who impairs working conditions, pinning it all on corporate and painting herself as just another worker standing her ground. She's the best friend fighting the whole world for you, while always subtly pitting you against it. She's the parental figure, just trying her damnedest to keep you afloat, but you keep wasting it.
Ultimately, I think the only true consistency with Makima's relationships is the end goal. Fostering total dependency.
#chainsaw man#csm#makima#チェンソーマン#csm spoilers#chainsaw man spoilers#you've probably seen the ''makima wouldn't call you slurs'' post that offers another perspective of her character#namely through the lens of a wlw#it's a very good post far more concise and well written than this thing#but i think her nature can be further extrapolated to all relationships#afterall kishibe has outright said that *all* of her relationships were built on this facet#in fact it's been implied that the japanese government groomed her--which i discussed in another post#so i just wanted to share my thoughts that i think even if who she is lies far outside of your sexuality her influence doesn't just fizzle#but that she will still try to find away to place herself above you#makes her more interesting as a character and the abuse that is possible in all kinds of relationships
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